Dear Dr. Romance: at funerals, how do you comfort families in mou ing?
Written by Tina Tessina - Dr. Romance
Dear Dr. Romance:
What suggestions can you offer for guests at funerals in regards to comforting families in morning? Thanks!
Dear Reader:
Your presence at the memorial or funeral, honoring their loved one who passed, is the most comfort, so go if you can.
When you are greeting the family at the funeral, simply say "I'm so sorry for your loss" and then mention (very briefly) something positive you know about the person who passed (if you do) "Your mother was always very kind to me" Don't go on and on, they have a lot of people to talk to on that day.
It is more memorable write your remembrances of the deceased person in a sympathy note and send it. You can add a casserole or flowers if you wish.
Families who are grieving have the hardest time in the months following the funeral -- so that's the time to offer kindness, support and encouragement. If you're close to someone in the family, invite them out to do simple things or over for a meal.
Read "Surviving Loss and Thriving Again" at for more details and specific understanding of how grieving works.
It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction can help you handle your grief and learn how to better support your friends.
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About the Author
Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., "Dr. Romance," http://www.tinatessina.com, is a licensed psychotherapist in S. Califo
ia, with 35+ years experience in counseling individuals and couples and CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for Love Filter - the Relationships Website. She's the author of 13 books in 17 languages, including Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage; Lovestyles: How to Celebrate Your Differences; and The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. She publishes the Happiness Tips from Tina email newsletter, and the Dr. Romance Blog. She has written for and been interviewed in many national publications, and she has appeared on Oprah, Larry King Live and many other TV and radio shows.
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