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Dear Dr. Romance: I can now free myself and enjoy helping people

Written by Tina Tessina - Dr. Romance

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Dear Dr. Romance:

I came across your web site when I was desperately looking for motivation. I'm a salesman selling first class products but I couldn't get motivated and it's been a problem for months. It's been getting worse.

I read "Motivation and How to Create It (Good Boss/Bad Boss)" and now I'm sorted out.

I realised I'd been applying the same rules to me that my boss applies to everyone. We both see the world of business the same way but you helped me see that way was wrong. Another difference is I've always know I make a lousy boss. He doesn't.

The list of bad boss features is 100% him. Every detail is spot on.

I can now free myself of this constant feeling of not getting it right and can relax back into the good salesma I've always been. And enjoy helping people.

Thanks again for writing and posting the article. Hope you have as good a day as you've given me.

Dear Reader:

Thanks for letting me know the article was helpful. I'm happy to be of help anytime. "Attitude: From Negative to Positive" might also be useful for you, and it Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction will help you understand how to motivate yourself on a deeper level.

IEWY new

For low-cost counseling, find me at LoveForever.com

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About the Author

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. Califo
ia since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.
Dr. Tessina, is CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for LoveForever.com, a website designed to strengthen relationships and guide couples through the various stages of their relationship with personalized tips, courses, and online couples counseling. Online, she’s known as “Dr. Romance” Dr. Tessina appears frequently on radio, and such TV shows as “Oprah”, “Larry King Live” and ABC News.

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