Dear Dr. Romance: I rescued my mother from the big bad wolf, my father

Dear Dr. Romance:

I read your article about RESCUING: "Avoiding the Drama Triangle".

I have been rescuing my mother from the big bad wolf my father. He would beat my mother, beat me, and beat my sister. I decided to rescue her. She decided for me to rescue her from her second husband, when she needed money, favors, grocery shopping, and now health problems.

As I realized this from reading your article, I vomited and began to get rid of the dynamics of being a rescuer. It is so ingrained that It is a challenge to step away from it.

The story books for kids, Cinderella and so forth, talk about how the prince resues the damsel in trouble. All of it is psycho-addictive and unreal

Dear Reader:

Thank you for writing! I'm so glad the article was helpful (sorry about the vomiting, but it's not unusual to have a big reaction to this discovery.) You're right about the fairy tales. Your mom probably thinks she needs rescuing, like Cinderella. It's not wrong to be a good son, but it's important for you to have a life, too. "Drama, Trauma and Time Travel" takes you through an exercise to help resolve some of the old issues that taught you these dynamics, and It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction will help you find healthier ways to relate to your mom, to understand how dysfunctional relationships work, and how to change your responses.

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