Dear Dr. Romance: Is He Cheating On Me?
Written by Tina B. Tessina
Dear Dr. Romance:
Is he cheating on me? Or am I just being paranoid? Me and my bf have been together for 15 months now. A couple of weeks ago we broke up and then got back together after a week. When we broke up he kept texting me, asking “Are u happy?” and stuff.
We broke up because he lied to me: he told me he was not going out on that Saturday night; but he did, and didn’t come home for the whole night. I got mad and called one of his friends. As a result we broke up cause he said I don’t TRUST him.
After talking, we decided give it one last chance, so we got back together. Yesterday he was gone a long time. I don’t know, but i feel like he is seeing someone else. The thing is I don’t have any evidence and he keeps telling me I am his only one! What should I do? Should I just trust him? Please help!!!!!!
Dear Reader:
Whether or not he has someone else, something is definitely going on. Maybe he has a drug or gambling problem, instead of another woman. No, don't just trust him. Tell him his behavior is unacceptable, and you can't be in a relationship with him until he grows up. Then break up, and mean it. If he wants to get back together, set some rules for behavior, and if he breaks them, forget him. Don't waste your time hanging on to a guy who won't be honest or commit. That will never work, and you're asking for a lifetime of heartbreak. "Stupid Cupid" explains what you and your boyfriend should be able to discuss in order to build a working relationship. Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Todayshows you how to develop a relationship from dating to making a commitment.
For low-cost counseling, email me at tina@tinatessina.com
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About the Author
Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. Califo
ia since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.
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