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Dear Dr. Romance: Is This Unhealthy? What Should I Do?

Written by Tina Tessina - Dr. Romance

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Dear Dr. Romance:

Do I have an unhealthy celebrity obsession? I really need answers and help! I feel this is still unresolved? Does anyone else have an obsession with a particular celebrity to the degree that you wanna look, act, talk, dress and live like them. I do, I wanna look like her in photos if I dont I'm upset, I live like her as in if she does something then I do it, if she does her hair in a certain way I copy it that's how obsessed I am with looking like her. I'm asking if anyone else does this and I'm asking if this is uhhealthy and what should I do about it??

Dear Reader:

This is a self-esteem issue. You don't feel good enough about yourself, so you're trying to feel better by copying someone else. You need to repair your relationship with yourself. "True Beauty: Honor the God/Goddess Within You" will help you begin to reevaluate what attractiveness and self-worth are. It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunctionhelps you go through an in-depth process to heal your inner relationship and overcome the pain of the past.

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Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., "Dr. Romance," is a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in Long Beach, Calif. since 1978 and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again and Lovestyles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She publishes the Happiness Tips from Tina email newsletter, and the Dr. Romance Blog. She has written for and been interviewed in many national publications, and she has appeared on Oprah, Larry King Live and many other TV and radio shows.

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