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Dear Dr. Romance: It really makes sense to me

Written by Tina B. Tessina

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Dear Dr. Romance:

I have been reading your advice at your website. I like what you have to say, and it really makes sense to me. I would like to tell you that you have helped me without even meeting. I have been thinking about meeting with a therapist for a while, and have tried in the past, once, but have just not connected. I am wondering if you know, or could refer me to, anyone near where I am? I'm sure you are very busy and appreciate any help you can give me. Thanks again!

Dear Reader:

Thank you for such kind words; I'm so glad my website has been helpful. I wish I had someone in your area I could refer you to, but I don't know anyone. "Guidelines for Finding and Using Therapy Wisely" will give you all the information you need to find an effective therapist for what you want to work on. If you want some insight into how counseling works with me, It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction contains all the major information and exercise I use to help my clients move on from their past problems.

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For low-cost counseling, email me at tina@tinatessina.com

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About the Author

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. Califo
ia since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.

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