Dear Dr. Romance: Why does he want a relationship?
Written by Tina B. Tessina
Dear Dr. Romance:
I met this guy through a phone call, but he contacted or got my profile through a friend of mine and he is satisfied through that, and he is convinced that he could have a relationship with me, he needs my affection, fear of God, caring, true feeling of sharing, happiness, my ideology, and philosophy, what he desires most is true love, sincerity and serious relationship. he doesn't want a long courtship because he ready to get married to me, but am confused with the little information he has about, have not seen me face to face except the mail picture, but he promise to see me before the month runs out.
Dear Reader:
A phone call, profile and picture is not enough for him or you to decide a relationship is real. Anyone who says he wants to get married, sight unseen, could be dangerous. It's one thing if your culture supports an arranged marriage, and your intended is carefully vetted by your family; but you can't do that on your own. There is nothing in here about what you think of him. Be really careful about this man, and make sure if you do meet him that there are other people around you. This could be anything from a needy guy, someone who wants to take advantage of you, to a possible kidnapping. Please be very cautious and take good care of yourself. If you really want to meet someone suitable, "The Fine Art of Squirrel Hunting" will show you where and how to look; and for more in-depth dating information, read Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today
For low-cost counseling, email me at tina@tinatessina.com
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About the Author
Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. Califo
ia since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.
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