Do You Have the Personal Quality Which Enables You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship?

What are the “best” personal qualities which enable you to develop a successful intimate relationship? Different personal coaches and therapists might give you different answers. There are those who believe that communication skills are the key for a satisfying bond; others believe that mutual give & take is the answer; others say that empathy is the most important skill; yet others believe that most important is the ability to compromise. While all might be true, developing your Self-Awareness is a key quality which will enable you to become aware of what has led you to sabotage your attempts at relationships until now. The question is not how do you learn to communicate? How do you learn to compromise? To be emphatic? Or to engage in a mutual give & take? These are all a matter of learning “techniques”. But the most important question is: How do you get to know yourself: to understand what makes you the person you are; what makes you react and behave in relationships the way you do; what makes you believe or not believe in the value of communication, give & take, empathy and compromise. Developing Self-Awareness and getting to know yourself better is a matter of reflecting upon and realizing your patterns of thought, reactions and behaviors which repeat themselves throughout all your relationships. Such reflection is a process of awareness: You become aware of: * Messages you might have internalized at a young age which control your reactions and behaviors and drive you to sabotage your relationships without you even knowing (such as: “I need to always be in control”; “I always need to be on my guard”; “Never trust anybody!”; “Work or education come before intimacy” and other such messages). * Fears which might control you without you being aware of them (such as: fear of being alone which drives you to always jump with whoever asks you out; fear of commitment which drives you to leave one relationship after another, and so on). * Needs you might exert power over you which drive you to behave in unhealthy and unproductive ways – causing others to abandon you time and again (such as: an uncontrolled need for love which makes you too submissive and therefore your partners lose respect for you; neediness which make you behave in ways which suffocate your partners, and so on). * Expectations you are unaware of (such as: expecting your partner to be there 100% for you at all times; expecting the other to stop seeing old friends – which is part of jealousy; expecting the other to behave according to your rules and demands, all of which are unrealistic and harm the relationship. * Many other factors you are unaware of which make you react and behave in self-sabotaging ways with your partners – or cause you to stay single. Self-Awareness, therefore, is a personal quality that not many master. Yet it is a key quality which will enable you to become aware of what has driven you to sabotage your attempts at relationships until now, de-activate the power this has exerted over you, make the necessary changes and become empowered to develop the relationship you desire.