Fact or Fiction? 3 Sex Myths Debunked
Written by Dr. Patty A Tublin
Sex. It’s everywhere! On television, in magazines, on billboards. How can a topic that is written and talked about so often have so much misinformation attached to it?
It is fairly safe to say the subject of sex practically consumes us as a society. I don’t think there is one issue of any women’s magazine that doesn’t contain at least one article about sex! Television, Internet and radio shows offer countless shows and programs offering a ton of sexual information.
Despite our obsession with the topic and the deluge of information, there is so much false information floating around out there I thought it might be a little helpful to separate fact from fiction when it comes to a few issues about sex.
Myth #1: If you have to schedule sex with your partner it can’t possible be good!! What?? If you have to wait for a spontaneous moment or the “right” time to have sex while holding down a job, raising your children, cooking dinner, cleaning your house, etc, etc, etc, chances are pretty good that the “right time” is never going to happen! So the question really becomes: “Is it better to have scheduled sex or no sex at all?” I don’t think anyone needs a relationship expert to answer that one!
Myth #2: Great sex is defined only by having an orgasm!
There is this whole myth out there that reaching orgasm defines great sex! Not true. The goal of great sex is to create a special intimate moment between you and your partner – emotionally, physically and spiritually! Sure, orgasm can be a natural extension and expression of intimate moments – but it does not define it! Therefore, the best way for any couple to define great sex is to communicate what intimacy means for you – both physically and emotionally and have your specific needs and desires determine what great sex means for you!
Myth #3: The longer sex lasts the better it is.
Sex isn’t meant to be an act of endurance – it is meant to be a moment and expression of intimacy! I hate to break it to you (especially to you guys) but current research suggests the average length of sex lasts anywhere from 3 to 10 minutes – anything longer than that is, by definition, not average. Hopefully this little bit of information takes some pressure off of you couples who are not having marathon sexual interludes! (psst – nobody else is, on a regular basis either)!
Remember, sexual intercourse is not the only act a couple can engage in to feel close and loved by each other. Foreplay, which can include tender moments of kissing, massaging each other and even pillow talk, is a great way to express love, intimacy and passion between you and your partner.
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During the past 25 years, renowned relationship expert Dr. Patty A
Tublin has helped hundreds of people rekindle romance and reignite passion in their relationships. The solutions in her Relationship Toolbox™ help couples re-build romance so intimacy inside and outside the bedroom can flourish. Through her successful 25-year marriage and her experience of raising 4 children, Dr. Patty Ann has earned an international reputation for saving relationships. To reignite your flames of passion, visit her site at www.drpattyann.com.
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