Formula For Failure

While reflecting on the early part of my life, seeing and understanding what happened, and looking at how things played out, it is apparent the people pleasing, the need to make others happy, has played a large role in my life.
I see the remnants of this behaviour, learned at a young age, still playing out in my life today.
It has done us no good to set standards we could not reach. On many occasions, we adopted goals that couldn't be reached from the beginning. We allowed our identities to become tied in with pleasing people. If we suffered rejection, we collapsed into a quivering heap. Each time we wrapped ourselves up in a package for someone to pass judgment on, we set ourselves up for failure.
We know we are not God. We must realize no other human being is God, either. We can't ask any person to judge us. We can't judge anyone else. Early on in my journey, I made a decision to turn my will and my life over to a power greater than me, and this was a pure leap of faith. I must remember on a daily basis that pleasing my Higher Power is what it’s all about; not pleasing other people.
I can't build my life and recovery on always trying to please others. My road to success is pleasing my Higher Power.