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How do your relationships look like? Are they harmonious? Do you have many friends you can count on? How trusting and supportive is your relationship with your partner? How do you get on with your colleagues? Do you feel understood? Do you feel challenged?

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There are 15,000 coaches in the United States alone. If you're looking to find the right life coach for you, where do you start? There are over a dozen coaching directories to choose from. You can go through these directories to try to find the right life coach for you (though there may be hundreds to choose from). You might start talking to some life coaches and getting to know them better. Certainly, they will want to know all about you as well.

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Do you find yourself needing a vacation after Christmas vacation? Are you exhausted from all the shopping, running around, buying, wrapping, buying, wrapping, buying, wrapping? Let’s take a look at some simple ways to make this time of year one filled with joy and meaning. At this time of year we all feel the tug (perhaps bombardment is a better word) from our culture to spend as much as possible. It’s as if we’re not OK if we aren’t practically killing ourselves, running up the national debt, giving to everyone we know.

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Why would I need a coach for my life? If you’re feeling stuck, or you have big dreams, or you feel dissatisfied with your current life, you might want a partner to help you move forward. Maybe you’re ready to start the next chapter in your life, but you’re not quite sure how to get there. Life coaching might be for you.

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As I began making some changes in my life, I became increasingly drawn to butterflies. It was as if somewhere deep in my soul I knew that they had much to teach me. I had always appreciated the beauty of butterflies, and seen them as symbols of the new life that God makes possible, but suddenly I was seeing butterflies everywhere and even dreaming about them. One of the things I learned about butterflies is that the transition from caterpillar to butterfly is not quick and easy.

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Retraining one's brain to respond to the right hunger cue requires an individual to experience pangs of hunger. In other words, one must learn to go hungry. Why? People that have overeating issues often can't distinguish between real hunger and the desire for food. Over the course of time if one has learned to eat for other reasons than being hungry then behaviors are typified through repeated patterns of response to any number of variables. One may eat because it is time to eat. Another may eat because they are reacting to an event and it is a nurturing response.

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You may be wondering why would I need to invest in hiring a personal Life Coach? I bet that if you are pondering about this, then you probably could use some support or motivation. In fact, we all could use a helping hand. There are unlimited benefits and advantages in partnering with a Life Coach. Coaching helps you to identity the roadblocks that may be holding you back from becoming who you want to be and living your dreams. A coach will work with you in many different areas of your life and EMPOWER you to become a better person as well as help develop balance in your life.

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The best way for people to get to know you, and find out how your business can help them, is to offer a complimentary sample of valuable information. This can be something written, like a special report, or valuable audio tips. If you don’t already have a valuable give away, then please read ...

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Every person with any level of drive and success run the same danger - tying who they are to what they do; tricked by titles that cloud true identity. Corporate was a set up if you were trained to believe that if you just follow the "rules of success"; get an education, get a good job, climb ...

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It’s no secret that effective headlines are a crucial part of successful marketing. The big question is, how do you create effective headlines that command attention. Today, more than ever, attracting the interest of prospective clients is extremely difficult. Imagine you’ve written a great ...

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As a business owner you know a lot of people, and you continue to meet new people. This is your network. But what are you doing with it? How often do you connect with people in your network? Do you have a plan to stay in touch consistently and develop your relationships? If you’ve ...

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The question isn’t whether or not your business has a website, it’s a given it does. The real question is this: Does your website allow you to connect and interact with visitors? If it doesn’t, you are missing out on an enormous opportunity to grow your business. A website that is nothing ...

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It’s a big shock to realize that no one really cares about your business, at least in the beginning of the process. What people do care about, and want to know, is what your business can do for them. You can imagine that information about how long you have been in business or why you started ...

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Fight the Fear of Fitness: 5 tips to overcome your Fitness Obstacles

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If you're like most people, you probably think the stress in your life is something you continually have to monitor or manage. Think for a moment about the word "management". For me it conjures up control, systems, strategy or supervision. An underlying assumption within each of these words implies that by "managing" my stress I will develop a better way to deal with the inevitable. But what about the possibility that stress is optional? What if stress isn't something you want to keep around like a mean pit bull on a long leash?

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What’s stopping you from doing the things you know you want to do in your business? Not enough time and a lack of focus can be obstacles to taking action. But take a closer look and see if these are the real issues. Is it possible that you really do know what you need to do but that fear is ...

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The 5 W’s and an H of Life

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Attachment to anyone or anything betrays an underlying belief that there is not enough of the "good stuff" in the world. Being overly attached is a signpost of our fear that we might lose whatever good we tenuously have. But it rarely serves you well to hang on tight, attempting to keep whatever fragment of good is left in a life based on lack. Hanging on too tight constricts the flow of creativity, joy, appreciation, and most especially, peace.

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You may not realize it, but you already have a gold mine ofnendorsements waiting to be created. Everyone who is seriousnabout building a business and creating credibility uses thisnidea. What is it? Testimonials from your satisfied clients. Whether you are just starting out or have been in ...

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If you hear or are told outright by your employer that some jobs have to go and yours “might” be one of them, what can you do about it? It’s a worrying prospect for many who rely on their regular income to cover mortgages, car loans, school fees, food bills, and all the other expenses of ...

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It's easy to find parenting advice when it comes to changing your child's outer behavior. But wouldn't you also like to get parenting advice that helps your child grow from the inside - and make changes on the outside happen almost automatically? The positive parenting principles outlined in this parenting article will help your child to:

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If you were requested to list ten things that you are most grateful for in your life, what would be included in it? Do have to think for a while, or do you know exactly how blessed you are? When you ask someone how they are doing, the answer would depend on the level of comfort between the two of you. It could either be an indifferent “fine” or you might get a list of complaints about what is wrong with their life and how they unable to get out of the rut they're in.

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We all have to deal with stress. Some of us can handle stress better than others. But the more tools, knowledge, and skills that you have, the better off you'll be able at handling it. This guide will help you to improve your quality of life and your overall well-being, with some coping strategies. Stress can be either chronic (long term) or acute (short term). Let's discuss both.

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"What I am is how I came out. No one's perfect and you just have to accept your flaws and learn to love yourself."rn-Kelly Brook I'm going to be honest with you. I didn't always love and accept myself. In fact, even to this day there are still times when I don't love and accept myself. My self-esteem and confidence will quickly drop whenever this happens. And that's okay. I already forgive myself for it. Self-Acceptance

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"Getting Real is a very real thing and a very vital part of being successful and happy in our life and in our work." The above quote is from my article "7 Steps to Creating a Happy & Authentic Life," where we talked about what it means to Get Real and introduced the 7 Simple Truths for Getting Real & Staying Real as the foundation for creating a happy and authentic life. In this follow-up series, we will unwrap each of the 7 Simple Truths for Getting Real & Staying Real and share ideas about how to implement the truths to create a happy and authentic life. Simple Truth #1: Get Clear

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Be positive, repeat affirmations or even learn to love yourself are the automated responses most people and most websites on the internet give you. Only problem is these ideas and suggestions are way too simple. Being confident is a way to complexes idea to cover in a few sayings or actually even in one article. To thoroughly, explain building confidence would take years and years of research and thousands of articles.

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“Writing is an exploration. You start from nothing and learn as you go.” - E. L. Doctorow I have written and spoken many times about strategies for creating authentic happiness, and the recurring theme has always been “Happiness is not something you can pursue; it is who you are”.

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In one of my personal development workshops I get my students to close their eyes and imagine, in vivid detail, one of their happiest memories, and to fully re-living it in that moment. It is amazing to witness the instant transformation in their facial expressions and body language as their nervous systems kick back into happy mode. I then ask them what actually changed in the outside world while they were doing that.

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What lights you up inside? What can you spend hours doing that doesn’t feel like work? Now, how do you feel about your current job? If its easier for you, use a satisfaction scale of 1 (least satisfied) - 10 (most satisfied). Really think about it and decide if that number is how you want to rate your life. Career coaching can help you pick a career, increase your productivity, and get promoted. Reaching your full potential influences everything from your bank account to your level of happiness.

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Recent surveys show that 70% of people hate their jobs and most are actively looking for another one! Putting aside all of the specific reasons and circumstances, that’s a whole lot of unhappy people. It’s natural for professionals to feel that way because many people are wrapped up in their job, since it provides income to support their family and a sense of identity. If you’re working full-time, odds are you spend at least a quarter of all of your time at work! Life is too short to be unfulfilled, especially in your career.

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Congratulations! You are interested in making changes in your life and serious about getting results. This involved deciding that you are ready to invest in yourself, your dreams, and goals. Or perhaps you’ve heard a little bit about life coaching and think it could be a good fit for you. Acknowledging that coaching can be transformative and take you to the next level is great! Now for the important question, are you coachable?

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A lot of personal development teachers and motivational guru’s like to drill home that the key to success is ‘State Management’, i.e. your ability to manipulate your physical and emotional being so that you are constantly aligned with success producing thoughts and actions.

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How has your career affected the rest of your life? Are you happy when you go home and ready to connect with your family? The answers to those questions usually lie in your personal, work-life balance. The ability to manage your job duties with other aspects of your life such as health, hobbies, and family can have a large impact on your success and overall sense of fulfillment. People tend to feel discontent or stress when even one area of their work-life balance is off.

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Before your Creator introduced you into this world and the generation that you are part of now, an event took place that you were not conscious of. It occurred in your nonexistence. Beloved, if you will agree with me, the spirit that gave birth to your being was without nomenclature. This means that, the spirit had no bearing to you at that point in question. Simply put, that spirit was undefined.

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What comes to your mind when you picture a graceful surfer on the crest of a huge wave.....exhilaration, harmony, connectedness, balance, beauty? What if you could approach your life with the same qualities, poised and ready to catch your next wave and seize all the extraordinary opportunities in front of you? The great news is that you can and let's explore how... Hawaiian surf instructor, Kahuna Bob, explains the importance of understanding the waves and how to catch them, while simultaneously learning the technique, maintaining balance, coordination, and confidence.

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Building confidence to network.

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I recently read an article online that stated the average person will hold between 7 to 10 jobs in a lifetime. Clearly, most people make many career changes during their working lives. This is pretty significant. Yet my coaching clients will often lament that they feel stuck in careers that no longer satisfy them, believing that they have no choice but to remain in roles that physically and emotionally drain them because they must “lie in their own beds”. After all, they’ve got bills to pay and need a steady paycheck.

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Low self esteem is a widespread mental affliction; it has reached epidemic proportions. Almost all people carry this “virus.” Few are symptom-free. Typical indications of infection include anxiety, helplessness, depression and addictions to work, food, alcohol, drugs, and dysfunctional relationships (to name a few). In my work as The Thought Dr., I am privileged to get a peek into the minds of people worldwide. Thoughts of worthlessness are more common than we realize. We view our thoughts as our secrets. Few of us disclose to others our anguished beliefs about ourselves.

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Hello to you! Have you been setting and achieving your goals? You have? Great. That is a super way to have a great day. Tell me about your achievements via email to: serena (at) serenapyke.com I would love to share them in my next blog! So, let me begin: How to have a great day! How about I give you some top tips on how to have a great day, every day? You'd like that? Thought you'd be up for it. Give them a go over the next week. Top 10 tips:

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I’ve just arrived back from America where I was attending the wedding of a very good friend, and because I was the Best Man I had to give a speech. Now, I’m used to public speaking and facilitating large groups of people in my personal development workshops, so you might be thinking this was a doddle for me.

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There’s a fairly simple explanation for all social anxiety. It is caused by the unfortunate mental habit of “mind reading.” That is, we imagine what other people are thinking about us. “Do I look good?” “Do I sound intelligent?” Our unstated mission is “I must make them feel good about me!” When I point this out to clients, they always agree. Social events have become agonizing attempts to control what others are thinking of them. It is not just that they want to look good; they are terrified of looking bad.

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As you would probably expect, working in the field of personal development I get to spend a lot of my time with people talking to them about goal setting and visualisation. I cannot over emphasise the power of positive intention when it comes to manifesting an amazing life, but there is a common trap that too many people fall into while “dreaming their way to success”. One of the most significant developments in my realisation of what true success requires is the notion of being non-attached to the object or outcome of desire.

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Rapport building is the key to a successful business This blog details the art of relationship management, rapport building and empathy in 8 simple steps. Having worked in a client facing role for over 12 years I have learned a lot about what encourages people to place their trust in you and what keeps them coming back to invest more of their time and money in you (your business). It is your rapport building ability.

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Did I get your attention? You might be sitting there thinking, “Patricia, you are really pushing it! You are just plain crazy with your positivity by calling rejection a gift. Rejection hurts too much to be good for me in any way.” I can relate to your viewpoint because I used to feel that way too. All I ask of you this week is that you contemplate the ideas I share. You just never know how your perspective might expand if you do.

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Studies say over 70% of all workers in their jobs are on the wrong jobs, leading to frustration, poverty and early death. In addition, 8 out of every 10-bank worker in across the world, when interviewed, said they are on the wrong job. They want to quit and do something else. They said God did not create them to live a caged life, confinement to cubicles. Many employees, company executives, and leaders of reputable organizations are consumed by restlessness, fatigue and confusion caused by not knowing the right business to invest in.

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Listen for your Call to Adventure In a story, it's the moment when the hero or heroine is invited on a quest or journey, when the day-to-day routine of their ordinary life is interrupted by something disruptive, exciting, unsettling, different...

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"You are the average of the 5 people you spend most time with." - Jim Rohn Ever find yourself sitting at a table with a group of friends having a chat about how you’d love to be rich, or just have enough money to pay the bills? Most often the rest of the people at the table are in the same situation. Your group here are really like a council. A council made up of people who all have the same outlook on life. If it is one of constant struggle then the group will subconsci ously vote on all matters with the conclusion that everything will be too hard over come so why bother?

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This started as an article to address women and feelings of isolation, but as I spent time with the topic, I kept coming back to the words “connect” and “connection.” Connecting, I thought, is the opposite of isolation, and if it’s the opposite, then surely it’s also the solution. One study I ...

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As I'm writing this afte oon, I'm half-reading Tennyson's "Ulysses," half-watching the New Orleans Saints play the San Diego Chargers at Wembley (on tv!) , and wholly reflecting on what to write to my lovely past, present, and future coaching clients that will inspire them amidst the daily gloom and barrage of economic news and headlines.

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What do you think of people who are detached from reality? People that are seemingly living in a world of their own making? It’s unnerving to say the least as well as truly sad. Yet for those of us attempting to recover from a divorce, our inability to fully accept our new reality is not too far removed from living in a fantasy world. Non-acceptance of what our life is right here and now is the biggest obstacle to letting go and moving on after divorce. Initially I believe this is due to denial, which is part of the grieving phase that follows any major loss in life.

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Everyone deals with struggles in life, things that happen which are out of our control. What is most important is how you confront these life struggles. Do you continue to live your life being miserable or do you take control, find your voice, and persevere? I, like all people in life, had my share of struggles. My biggest one was my battle with infertility. I call this a battle because the process was both physically exhausting and emotionally debilitating.My body had failed me. I felt like a failure to my husband, my family, and most importantly to myself.

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I didn’t start drinking until I was separated from my husband. I got the house, but selling it was the only way I could survive, so that is what I had to do. I had the summer to get the house ready and for the first time in my life, I was alone. I was suffering from depression, losing my world as I knew it, my family, my security, my collective identity. I just knew that I wasn’t equipped to make it in the world on my own. Marrying young, way to young, I never was able to define myself as an individual. I was a small part of a collective, part and parcel of a pair.

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When work, commitment, and pleasure all become one and you reach that deep well where passion lives, nothing is impossible. ~ Author Unknown Passion is defined as “powerful emotion” and “boundless enthusiasm”. When you bring emotion and enthusiasm to your lifework, negatives don’t matter. All things become possible. Your commitment to your passion will lead you to Wisdom in pursuing your dream. Have you ever heard of “the passion of Christ”? Do you really understand why they describe his persecution and death as His Passion?

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I don’t know why I didn’t know this. Looking back, I can see that it’s one of the most important things I coulda-shoulda-woulda done … if I’d known. Unfortunately, I didn’t really comprehend it for about two decades. We seem to think that a college (or high school) diploma represents the end of learning. After we get that all-important piece of paper, we pack up the books, get a J-O-B, and get on with living our lives. There’s nothing more to learn, after all. Yeah, there might be some specific job-related skills we need to know.

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The other day I noticed a large growth of weeds in one of my gardens. I hadn’t noticed them in previous years but now they spoil the look of the garden and they are in the way of the new plants. As I was weeding, it occurred to me that the weeds are similar to limiting beliefs. They may have been around for many years and perhaps they didn’t interfere with us, but when we are ready for a different goal the belief is in the way of success and has to be removed. Some of the weeds came out easily with the bulb sitting near the surface of the ground.

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I am sure you think as overrated the cliche that 'love is blind' - but neuroscience, this prodigy child of science, unveils with an almost cruel satisfaction that some areas of our brains shut down when love comes upon us, blinding the ration from the smart choices we should make. Brain scans ...

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What are you afraid of? Are your worries preventing you from getting things accomplished in your life? Everyone has fears and many people let those fears stop them from doing things that may prove to be worthwhile or even lucrative. How can you turn your fear into a positive force in your life? The first thing you need to understand is the fear itself. Why are you afraid? Is it a rational fear? A fear of snakes can be rational, while a fear of spoons isn't. Figure out if your fear is rational; if it isn't, try to understand why you have such an irrational fear.

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"The Buried Life," by Matthew A old This poem articulates the profound truths of our heart and soul, that often, sadly, bear so little relation to the superficial happenings and conversations of our days. It invites us to be true to who we really are, to share our genuine self with those we ...

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First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do. ~ Epictetus We all have dreams: visions of the possible, probable and seemingly impossible. Setting goals is the key to turning your dreams into reality. Goals help you recognize your progress and allow you to celebrate the process. Setting goals is one of the master keys to a successful life. Goal-setting creates results, yet less than 3% of the population will actually adopt the process. Every person is gifted with the ability to dream and to plan, to envision and create the life you desire.

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One of Alan Cohen’s daily messages was this: Take time this week to look within. When you find what you want inside you, you will find what you want outside. - Alan Cohen What a great way to look at reviewing where you are right now and where you’d like to be by the end of the year. What do you desire for yourself? Write down your intentions. Take each one and determine what you would need to find inside yourself for that to manifest. What beliefs and behaviours will create your desired results?

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I was on the plane , on my way back from London and during the safety video demonstration; there is this scene where a young mother is shown putting on an oxygen mask and then reaching out for another oxygen mask to attend to her child. The scene is accompanied by a voice over saying “in case ...

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Do you have a To-Do list that is longer than your arm? Do you look at the list and think, “Wow I have so much to do! Why did I say I’d take on that project for the school?” A lot of people carry around with them a lot of “baggage” or “clutter” in their minds, on lists, in their purses, in their cars, and at home. Many people in today’s hectic world hold onto things that they say they should do but don’t. Whether it’s something that you need to take care of, or a phone call to that friend you had a fight with and want to apologize to.

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Divorce turns our lives upside down. It throws us into a major life transition that is colored by intense feelings and emotions that can be debilitating. I believe that fear is the main culprit that holds us back from not only healing and letting go of our pain, but also from moving forward into a new life. So it is fear we need to identify and then overcome. Fear debilitates. It acts as a paralytic agent that keeps us stuck. It inhibits any real forward motion.

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Nigel Lewis is a Life Coach(www.coptionscoaching.com) who believes that many of us have the potential to be much more than we ever achieve if only we understood the importance of allowing someone to reflect back to us what we already know but somehow fail to realise. So where are you at this ...

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I was visiting my home country( India) and having arrived at the godly hour of 4 am was just about drifting into slumber land when suddenly I hear the shrill ear piercing shout, “ kabari walla- kabari walla, raddi paper, plastic, bottle …..kabari walla” ( Kabari wala’s are scrap dealers who buy ...

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Do you remember the old adage that states there’s your side, there’s my side and then there’s the truth? If we were totally honest with ourselves, we too could see the truth of any situation. Once we accept that truth, we have the newfound freedom to gain clarity, discover our options and make real choices that are based in reality and not a subjective interpretation of what is. The past no longer runs the show. A world of possibilities opens that we might otherwise have missed.

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In our world of bigger, faster, stronger, better, we often overlook what it takes to get that way. We act on impulse and will sacrifice our future for the day at hand. Have you thought about how your current actions affect the world around you or your future? It was the act of a small child ...

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Your divorce decree is only step one in moving into a new life after divorce. The real divorce is the cutting of the emotional, mental and physical ties that still bind you to your ex-husband.

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This is the story of Tom, a CFO for a very large insurance company. He has bee CFO for almost 30 years. He has a lovely wife named Mary and two daughters who are still nin high school. Tom’s life is going well except that he is not happy. He has been working 60-hour weeks for 25 years and ...

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"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." - Anonymous Quite a statement, isn’t it? However, I have to say that I don’t totally agree with it. I don’t think we have to completely get rid of the life we have planned. I believe ...

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I highly recommend using inspirational passages for your meditation and/or focused attention. First, it is training in concentration. Most of our mental powers are so widely dispersed that they are relatively ineffective. In focused attention, we gradually focus the mind so that when we meet a ...

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Depending upon one’s dexterity, there are many yoga postures which are considered to be beyond our current physical capacity like the sitting position of Full Lotus or the flexibility and strength required in the yogic posture of Pincha Mayurasana - Forearm Stand. Aside from yoga, if I asked ...

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Those of us who have gone through a divorce understand all too well the pain and grief we experience. We have lost our spouse, what we thought was our life partner, a loss similar to the death of a loved one. What is worse though, is losing all the many aspects of a life lived together as a couple and family. The fact is that many of our married friends cannot really understand that loss, which only serves to make us feel more isolated.

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Marie* is a bright, innovative, creative woman who recently started her own consulting business after working for many years in the corporate world. She is proud of herself for taking the leap from employee to self-employed and has high hopes for her new business. One day while having lunch ...

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Don’t Settle for Less in Life by Shelley Stile/Life Coach What happens when a sense of dissonance is ignored? More likely than not, it will result in a life filled with regret and bitte ess. A good friend of mine, Pat, has been married for about twenty-three years. She and her husband have three kids, plenty of money and a beautiful home. There is abundance in their lives in terms of material items. They hardly talk with the exception of check-ins on the children’s schedules.

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Excellence – the path of constant and never ending improvement. Excellence is about being outstanding and about enjoying superior results. Excellence is about traveling the extra mile, leaving no stone untu ed, and never settling for what you currently have. Regardless of how amazing your life ...

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Have you ever postponed some thing you really wanted or needed to do until you had a long Wanna-Do List later that never got fulfilled? Have you ever wished for extra time to sleep a bit more, read longer, or do something different? After you’ve finally found the time, have you found yourself doing something else, like flicking through TV channels, spending most of the day in bed or on the couch feeling drained of energy?

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I admit that a gourmet chef I am not, but I do enjoy the satisfaction of a home-cooked meal when accomplished without mistakes. Recently I decided to tackle the task of the creation of banana- nut bread, something that my loved ones enjoy in both aroma and taste. Although I had ...

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As a home business owner, I find great value in the informatio I read online in emails, ebooks, newsletters, ezines, articles and website content. However, being an online entrepreneur, I am sometimes bombarded with information (not all content driven) that can become an overwhelming ...

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Thanksgiving is right around the corner, the holiday that has its origin in the Puritan’s tradition of giving thanks for a good harvest. The Puritans weren’t the first in this regard. Many religious and societal traditions are based in the concept of gratitude. What all these traditions may or may not have known is that recent scientific studies point to a direct link between gratitude and a deep satisfaction with life.

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Kabari walla I was visiting my home country( India) and having arrived at the godly hour of 4 am was just about drifting into slumber land when suddenly I hear the shrill ear piercing shout, “ kabari walla- kabari walla, raddi paper, plastic, bottle …..kabari walla” ( Kabari wala’s are scrap ...

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Emotional Intelligence (EI), Narcissism and Private versus Secret As is often the case, what comes up for one of my clients tends to be a recurring theme for just about everyone I coach during certain periods of time and, as luck would have it, I lived with and was engaged to a ...

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My intention for the week was to feel replenished and to fill up my depleted reserves with the juice of the universe so that when I coached and as I lived, I would be of service rather than just going through motions, half asleep. Invitations to do other things tempted; a trip here, a party ...

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Melting in Chocolate By Stacy Kamala Waltma A group of us were bathed in chocolate aroma last week as we toured the Scharffen-Berger Chocolate Factory in San Francisco. Our tour guide was an interesting man who had been with the Scharffen-Berger company for many years and had a lot of ...

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We worry about our kids: their well-being and happy future are our main conce s in life. We long for them to be content and successful at whatever they choose to do. We hope that we’ll be able to provide them with the same kind of help that many of us have received from our own parents. But how can we ensure that we’re doing everything in our power to make all of this come to pass? We can, but there’s a process. First, take a few steps back and consider what we truly want for our kids.

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In my previous article called, Living with a Narcissist, I wrote about my desire to provide people with solutions to pathological behavior like narcissism, sociopathic behavior and co-dependency issues. In my research on this subject, I ran across this helpful article from Snow Lions ...

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I was recently asked how I define greatness and for me it has always been a feeling or a sense of empowerment and peace. But to put it into words, to me greatness is being who you need to be for you, getting clear on what you want and being willing to take action in order to bring the things you ...

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The Cost of Being Right One of the highest prices we pay in life is the cost of being right. Some of us will sacrifice almost anything just in order to be the last one standing. A person who had been surrounded by their peers now sits alone, safe in the knowledge that he or she is right in their viewpoint even though they have alienated everyone around them. The ego is a mighty powerful entity left unchecked. Have you ever attempted to reason with a child who knows everything? It’s their way or no way at all.

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There is a little known fact that what goes up must come down (eventually). It’s easy to get caught up in the highs of our passion and just as equally easy to get caught up in the lows of our passions. When faced with the highs we need to embrace them, and ride the wave as long and hard ...

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Knowing when and how to say "no" is a constant battle for many people. This becomes especially difficult for business professionals who are looking to please and impress higher-ups. Almost from birth, the world has conditioned us to do what others ask without question for any number of reasons. ...

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The Second Half of Life I’m 55 years old. Really. It seems like yesterday I was bopping down the streets of Manhattan with my buddies and today I’m in bed by 10 pm. And whose body is this?

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The air is getting crisper and the leaves have almost finished falling. Winter is almost upon us. The changing of the seasons are timely reminders of the cycle of life and the need for change. What exactly is the message of winter? The message is that some times we need to let go. Some times ...

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Imagine having more energy or more time to focus on the things you really want. Imagine being able to move forward in your life without some of your current stress. Doesn’t that sound good? We all have things in our life that we just put up with or tolerate, for example, a cluttered desk, a ...

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Have you ever postponed some thing you really wanted or needed to do until you had a long Wanna-Do List later that never got fulfilled? Have you ever wished for extra time to sleep a bit more, read longer, or do something different? After you’ve finally found the time, have you found yourself doing something else, like flicking through TV channels, spending most of the day in bed or on the couch feeling drained of energy?

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The Four Seasons of Life, The Four Seasons of Love Often times in conversations with friends or clients, I have used the analogy of the four seasons to assimilate the happenings of daily life and relationship challenges that happened in my as well as their lives. It is a positive thinking exercise and a very effective tool that can help one handle upsetting situations cleverly and realistically.

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More than any other life skill time management is a weakness for most. A lot of my life coaching clients have goals to get better in this area. With social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn some users spend hours on these sites. What starts as minutes then turns into hours. With smartphones and tablets the mobile accessibility only adds to the fire. The average Facebook user alone spends 11 hours per month on the site. One out of every eight minutes on the internet is spent on Facebook. It is the biggest time dump known to man.

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Every day is a new opportunity for change. For many years after graduating with my bachelor’s degree I really struggled with my time. Always just making deadlines and procrastinating like no other. My social calendar was truly the best scheduled thing in my life. Everything else was done when I remembered it lol. But as I grew older I realized it was really no laughing matter. After achieving your childhood goals often we lose that focus. Got a degree and a good job so now it’s time to enjoy life & coast. Not saying don’t enjoy yourself, but lives are best fulfilled with intention & purpose.r

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We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey. ~Kenji Miyazawa It is a common tale. My client was upset by the tension at her job. Management changes had everyone nervous – clients and employees. “How can this happen?” “What happens next?” “Why can’t everything just be like it was?” Now here’s the interesting part. She is on the far side of a messy divorce. After more than 30 years of marriage, her husband came home one day and told her he was done, didn’t love her anymore, wanted ‘out’. “How could this happen?” “What happens to me now?”r

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"Happiness is a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but which, if you sit down quietly, may alight upon you." - Nathaniel Hawthorne, 1804-1864 A concept I often hear from people who are struggling to connect to a greater sense of happiness in their lives, is that they believe they would be much happier if it weren’t for the actions and attitudes of other people.

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The middle finger is named after Saturn, the mythical god and planet that rules responsibility, structure and integrity. This purpose centres on commitments, both to yourself and with others. You will need to ensure you evaluate contracts carefully before you commit in order to ensure you can fulfill your part. It’s also important to hold others accountable for their commitments to you.

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As winter continues (which is ok for us ski buffs but not for anyone else) the world, weather, and economy are all in upheaval. So it’s understandable if people are feeling a bit more anxiety than usual. It’s showing up in people’s outlooks in planning initiatives, in meetings, family interactions, at the supermarket. People view anxiety as bad – that it is something wrong added to the usual pile of life issues. But if you know how to read it, and what it’s for, you can improve your effectiveness in life and business. So, pre-Spring, here’s a transformative look at feeling worked-up:

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For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: ~ I Peter 3:10 People ask me why I write so often about the power of thoughts and words. I have to tell you, it’s because they are truly the key to an abundant, joy-filled life. The Bible tells us that if you can control your tongue, you can control everything! (James 3)

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The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor. - Vince Lombardi OK, so you’ve taken time to dream. You’ve started exploring your passion. You’ve even begun to set goals for yourself. Now it’s time to take seriously your efforts to succeed.

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Let me tell you the secret that has led me to my goal: my strength lies solely in my tenacity. ~ Louis Pasteur There’s an old adage that says, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”. It’s a good thought, but it doesn’t include the whole truth. You see, the word ‘try’, in this case, means to attempt something. It does not necessarily mean a commitment to succeed. Do you remember your mom asking you to do something you really didn’t want to do? You responded, “I’ll try, Mom.” Did you do it? Probably not. ‘Try’ just isn’t strong enough to inspire effort.

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February 14th is known as the day to celebrate love. Countless couples exchange gifts such as flowers, cards, candy, jewelry and dinners with feelings of affection and love for each other. For many singles; however, being alone on Valentine’s Day can evoke feelings of loneliness, self-doubt, unworthiness and even depression.

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Society projects an idealized image of a fulfilled life as being straight and married with children. This is viewed as the pinnacle of success in the hierarchy of love. At the very least we should all have a significant other in our lives. With the advent of gay marriage, many gay men are feeling even more pressure to be coupled. It’s true that gays have become increasingly more accepted into mainstream society; however, the expectation of being partnered has also increased as a result. It’s okay to be gay nowadays but it’s not too cool to be gay and single anymore.

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“Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” is one of the most heartwarming Christmas songs. The haunting music and depth of the lyrics speak volumes. As gay guys we often laugh at the pun – but can we really make the yuletide “gay”?

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The current economic climate has caused much alarm. Many of us are being faced with job losses, foreclosures, shrinking retirement accounts, credit crunches and an overall increase in costs for food, fuel, healthcare and housing. While it is easy to get discouraged and feel a sense of despair, it is important to remember that you are never powerless. You always have the power of choice. You can choose how to think and respond to the circumstances and events going on around you.

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Knowing your 'why' is the key to fulfillment. When you are clear about it, your intention will then be a magnet for miracles.” - Colette Baron-Reed I recall a time in the not too distant past when I was unsettled, unfulfilled, unhappy, and just plain tired. Tired of my life the way it was. I was chasing my tail, eating my feelings (literally and metaphorically). I was living off of credit cards to make ends meet, doing odd jobs that were just that, odd and not fulfilling. I was not only miserable, but I was desperate.

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Excuses, we’ve all made them. I’d be a liar if I said that I never made an excuse to try and get out of doing something. Oh, not to mention the endless excuses I’ve made for my food choices over the years or some of my less than desirable decisions, particularly when it came to relationships. And yes, I’ve even made excuses for a loved one's behavior. Excuses are often fear-based barriers. They're used to defend or justify a behavior or even a non-action.

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Do you know it’s time for a change? Maybe you know its time to start making more money, but you don’t know how. Or you are at a job you know is draining your energy and sucking the life out of you. It’s even possible that there are two great opportunities in front of you, and you just don’t know which one to choose. Many people have a hard time making decisions, and it’s one of the most common topics I work with my clients on. It’s important to know that all of your thoughts and actions have lead you to the place where you are today.

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How do you feel after chatting with your co-workers on the job? Are you upbeat, motivated, and inspired? Or are you tired, drained, and feeling unbalanced? Most people are not aware of how the interactions they have with others affects their energy, mood, and job performance. They wonder why they feel aggressive or dejected after speaking with certain people. How you chose to handle relationships with your colleagues has a large effect on your personal thoughts, feelings, and actions, which ultimately determine your professional growth at a company.

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I wrote this note yesterday not realizing it was Ghandi’s birthday. It was in response to the death of 18 year old Tyler Clementi who killed himself after being “outted” on the internet. We have an opportunity to transmute this tragedy into one of leadership. Perhaps Tyler’s spirit agreed to perform this tragic role to elicit such a collective shift toward true leadership. ~ Here’s the note… When we see atrocities, our ability to teach a different way is being called forth that embraces and includes all with love and respect.

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Are you feeling stuck? Maybe you’re in a job you hate, in relationships that aren’t serving you, or in a cycle of unhealthy behavior. If this sounds like what you’re experiencing, know that you are not alone! Many people have reached out to me looking for a career coach, because they feel stagnant and are not achieving the results they want in their life. Deciding to get support is one of the most beneficial things you can do for yourself. There is no shame in asking for help. In fact, this often saves time and money, while reducing the chance that you quit on your goals.

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Has your 2016 started exactly the way you wanted? If yes then this post is not for you. Has your year begun completely the opposite of the way you pictured? If yes then read on. There is a choice here – BOUNCE back stronger this month or simply sulk and let the remaining months go down the drain. I will not explain the second option much as it more or less involves complaining all day about how nothing is going your way. For the first option you may choose to do the following – B – Be OK about what has happened

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I asked around “What comes to your mind when I say consistency?” Here are the responses : State of Data, Jugge aut, Roger Federer, Sachin Tendulkar, Apple i-phone sales, Day and Night, Rahul Dravid, Regularity, Cake dough consistency, Fibonacci series, Government Failure, Water shortage, Traffic problems, Balance, Good health, Uniform growth, Discipline, Reliability, Volatility of stock markets

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“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” – Joyce Meyerouble In an era where things are digitized and everything seems to be happening at a click or swipe – let’s accept that patience as a quality seems to be dying. Here is an interesting study – Google engineers have discovered that if we are made to wait for 400 milliseconds –the blink of an eye; we respond by searching less or going to a faster website!

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“No man needs a vacation so much as the man who has just had one.” — Elbert Hubbard I am sure 99% of the readers associate with the above line. Lucky are the 1% who actually have a relaxing vacation and get recharged. Idea of relaxation and relaxation techniques are different for everyone. All of us however, do agree that all of us need to relax. In this age of super activity we have lost the meaning of relaxation and quite often associate it with sleeping and watching television.

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Everyone has experienced a day – where you simply wait for it to end. You can’t deal with it anymore. It’s like – all that can go wrong went wrong. All things that could add to misery kept on happening. The best way to deal with a bad day – Get OVER it! O: Obsessing over it will not make it better

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In conversations with clients – I hear some of the most amazing one liners that help my personal growth. Today’s blog is a reflection on one such sentence. “Me: What has stood out for you in the past three weeks? Client: I now distinguish between reasons and excuses – that helps me in getting things done!”

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Focus is about saying no – Steve Jobs Something struck me very deep when I stumbled on this quote. All this while I thought focus only meant fiercely concentrating on what you want to get done, but now I have come to understand that – Focus is more about saying no to distractions! I finished reading Peter Bregman’s book 18 Minutes: Find Your Focus, Master Distraction, and Get the Right Things Done…what an amazing read! It has left me with completely fresh perspective on focus and time management. If you have been struggling with getting things done on timer

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Do you remember your kindergarten teacher? I don’t remember much about her, except her name and the stories she told. Since then I’ve had many more teachers and mentors who have all contributed to who I am today. We learn from all of our experiences and from everyone we meet, some more significant than others. Although we don’t always remember their name, we usually remember the story they told us. When you are a writer, you’re always looking for that story or insight to share. It’s a gift when you hear such a story.

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The #1 reason most people fail to get what they want in their life is that they don’t know what they REALLY want to achieve in their life. You must first find out what you really want to accomplish before you can start your journey to success. Once you know what you want (more on that below), all you need to do is follow these 4 simple steps to get there: 1. First things first: set a clear decisive goal. This is important so you can focus in the direction of where you’re heading in life.

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Just thinking about shaping up, losing weight, or eating healthier makes many women exhausted. Changing habits is hard work, but sometimes we approach healthy lifestyle changes in the most difficult way possible. Instead of picking your biggest challenge, consider starting where you know you can be effective, where you can get some lasting bang for your buck, and where you can start growing motivation and momentum. Here are five relatively painless and struggle-free tips to help you create lasting healthy habits: 1. Get some zzzzzs.

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This week I'm writing to you from my childhood home in Charleston, West Virginia where I'm caring for my aging parents who are health challenged at the moment. Today, I'm going to share my best tips for running a business when traveling. With all the new gadgets and apps available to entrepreneurs today, business on the go is a snap.

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PART I - “Pre-Flight Check” What does “taking charge of your life” look like for you? Each of us has different ideas about what that is for us individually. One of the pictures (or visions) we may have when we’ve taken the reigns of our life is success in our relationships, family, business, career, finances, and so on.

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Two months ago I published 10 ways you let fear get a hold of you. I continue this exploration with 9 Conditions of Fear. As a Life Coach, my intention is to demonstrate the conditions that make fear more favorable. In phase III of the Inspired Action Coaching process my coaches and I work with people to shift the conditions of life to support happiness and success. Consider this idea, “Your environment dictates who you are!” Most people have allowed the conditions of their life to set themselves up. Rather than being deliberate, they are accidental.

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At the end of each year, I take an inventory of my life and business to shine a light on what proved to be most effective for me. Here are my top nine timely tips for women entrepreneurs who are ready to make a Big Leap in 2014: 1. Exercise Empathy - If you have a dream of making a difference in the world or desire a leadership role, empathy is a valuable tool you'll need along the way. As the great leader Stephan Covey said, "Seek first to understand." Understanding and acknowledging someone else's situation is the foundation to change.

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As I write this, I'm 690 miles from my office in Los Angeles. Actually, I'm in Park City, Utah enjoying a glass of Pinot and writing to you. I'm here on a family vacation getting some much needed rest and a modified digital detox.

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I read the introverts forums, I watch the comments, and I feel a little dismayed. “Why won’t people leave me alone?” “I don’t like small talk, so I avoid people.” “Being around people is just so exhausting that I spend all my free time alone.” “I hate even the thought of networking.” One gets the impression that all introverts are grumpy, asocial and even hostile to people who desire more stimulation and activity in their lives (OK, extroverts). Unfortunately, good health and success are tied to the high quality of the relationships we form. Isolation is not.

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As an Inspired Action life coach, my job is to help my clients successfully transition from the life that they currently have to the life they want. This means confronting and conquering the fear of change. Think about it like this. Even though your goals and dreams are exciting to think and talk about, your dreams are usually much less exciting to implement. Dreams are new. New is hard. New is different. New means potential failure.

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Everyone has some regrets in life. What differs is how people deal with them. When you regret something you did – or didn’t do – in the past, do you engage in wistful Coulda Woulda Shoulda thinking? Do you fret about how things might have turned out differently ‘if only’ you would have taken a different course of action? If so, you’re hurting yourself.

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Regrets often take the form of Coulda Woulda Shoulda thinking. Part One of this article described the costs of 'Coulda Woulda Shoulda'. Today, we’ll continue by discussing proven ways to overcome this pattern. 1. Recognize that everyone has some regrets in life – and see how they handle them.

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“The man, who is born with a talent which he is meant to use, finds his greatest happiness in using it.” - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe I’m sure you’d agree that most people spend a lot of their time doing things they’re not passionate about. As you read through the following four categories think about how much time you spend in each area. Incompetence: these are the activities that you don't do well and that you have no interest in doing. When you spend time in the area of “incompetence” there’s no potential for your growth, advancement, or fulfillment.

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Remember Lucy Van Pelt in the comic strip Charlie Brown? I woke this morning thinking about one of her famous lines, “I told you so, you blockhead!” Lucy was known for setting up a psychiatric booth in the neighborhood offering advice to her friends for five cents per person. Clearly she caught the entrepreneurial bug early but I’m not sure I’d want to get my business direction from her. : -) This got me thinking about how women entrepreneurs need to be cautious when seeking advice, coaching and mentoring on their road to success.

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Fear. Anxiety. Butterflies. Worry. Despite all our talents, creative people are susceptible to a smorgasbord of fears. Even Oscar and Grammy winners deal with stage fright. Pulitzer prizewinners sometimes go underground, ceasing to write another word for fear of not repeating their earlier success. Oddly enough, sometimes even good news (like having a big muckety muck read your screenplay) can strike alarm in the heart of an otherwise unflappable DaVinci. ("Omigod!

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Fears are a natural part of the creative process. All multi-talented people experience fear, anxiety, worry and resistance at some point. Today we continue our strategies for fighting fear. After you’ve identified the true nature of your fears and resistance (see Part One of this series), you can then use proven techniques to manage and reduce them. Part 2 of this series presented three ways to overcome fear and how to manage creative fears. Here are seven more proven techniques to reduce anxiety and overcome fear in the creative process: Approach #4: Baby Steps

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Fears are a natural part of the creative process. All multi-talented people experience fear, anxiety, worry and resistance at some point. After you’ve identified the true nature of your fears and resistance (see Part One of this series), you can then use proven techniques to manage and reduce them. Parts 2 & 3 of this series will cover how to overcome fear and how to manage creative fears. Approach # 1: Feel the Fear & Do it Anyway

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What are some of the common thoughts that flash across your mind? Are they positive and uplifting, or do they focus on what is wrong and bring up visions of worst case scenarios? For many of us, our thoughts are a mixture of both. But, the real question is which ones do we focus on and believe.

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Habits often have a bad reputation...but some habits can be helpful and healthy. Stop and think about your talents for a moment. What are you not doing that would help you enjoy your talents more, get more done or be more effective? It might be a practice that worked well for you in the past but that you stopped doing for some reason…or it could be a new activity that you’d like to try. (“Gosh, I just read an article about that guy who writes a song a day. I’d love to do something like that!”). It's possible to turn helpful or healthy practices into new habits.

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I have a short story for you today. Once upon a time a lovely lady named Judith, sat gazing out her bay window at the fields, streams and mountains in the distance. She sighed at their beauty and lamented the fact that she just wasn’t happy even with her wonderful surroundings. She needed something more in her life, but she didn’t know how to go about getting it, didn’t know how to start. In fact, she didn’t even know what it was!

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As an Inspired Action life coach, I support people with the process of transmuting their anger and moving back towards being happy, positive, fulfilled, and satisfied. This is not always easy to do, but many successfully happy people have created strategies that assist them in moving out of the anger and back to happiness again. Here are three of those strategies.

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As an Inspired Action life coach, my job is to support my clients in living a life of happiness, joy, peace, and most importantly, bliss. The dictionary defines bliss as supreme happiness. Most people don't have an experience with bliss. Most people don't know what bliss even is. It is that state of loving life so deeply, so turned on, so much amazement about life, that you can hardly stand it. You are nearly brought to tears of joy in the moment, as you recognize how amazing your experience of life is. Bliss is what happens when you follow the inspired action life coaching process.

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I'm sure you're aware of the old term, "spring cleaning"? Mother nature reminds us that before you add more to your life, it's always a good idea to let go of what no longer serves you. Like the leaves that fall from trees in autumn, room is made for the new growth that occurs every spring. I'm finding many women entrepreneurs feeling this way right now (including yours truly : -)). Evaluating your business is a smart move, as long as you're willing to ask yourself the right questions and give yourself honest answers:

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The Drunk Monkey (your mind) is a survival machine. It’s job is to protect you from possible destruction. Therefore, it is totally addicted to the news. The news organizations have realized that sensationalized news hooks their viewers Drunk Monkeys. The news has no commitment to truth. It has a commitment to making money which means “selling advertising”. The more viewers the news organizations have, the more money these companies make. Clearly, there is a natural pull towards the sensational verses the truth.

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I answered this on Yahoo Answers and I thought you might enjoy my thoughts. “A friend recently introduced me to The Secret: Law of attraction, a concept I found extremely interesting. Upon further research, I found that it is strongly linked with the new thought movement. Both of these concepts believe that everything in our lives is attracted to us via our thoughts, so illness comes from negative thoughts.

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I answered this on Yahoo Answers and I thought you might enjoy my thoughts.

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Balancing different aspects of life -- work, play, family, friends and more -- is difficult for many people. It's significantly more challenging for "DaVincis" -- creative people who are also juggling their many talents, projects and ideas. As I see in the vast majority of my coaching clients, Balance is a Top DaVinci Challenge for multi-talented people. This article is the first in a new series of articles devoted to helping DaVincis create, develop and maintain life balance. Let's begin by taking stock of your current situation. Self-Assessment: How Balanced is your Life?

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Last night I had one of those nights where my mind worried. Using my techniques I didn’t pay much attention. But I use to get gripped by the madness. Laying there not able to do anything about any conce because it’s midnight, I’m in my PJ’s and I’m trying to go to sleep for god sake!.

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As a life coach, my job is to support my clients in getting inspired and empowered to take action on their most cherished dreams. Fear gets in the way.

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My clients are generally the biggest of the big in their respective industries. Each of them has created massive success. Yet the process they used to get there often seems inapplicable to the other aspects of life like happiness or peace. The process is the same. You must create structures, systems, disciplines and processes that make your happiness automatic. Here are three tips that will start you on this process. 1. Gratitude. The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) is designed to look for what is wrong and try to fix it, kill it or avoid it.

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People who are inspired seem to take action effortlessly while those who are not have to figure out a way motivate themselves into action. If things come easy you are inspired. If things are difficult you are not. If things are not coming easily, it’s probably because you are not inspired by what you are doing. Consider, if you are not inspired to do something it’s because you are not really interested in it. I often discover in the coaching process that people who have to force something to happen are trying to prove something to other people by taking the action.

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The first week on a major projects is like love -- exciting and new. Your motivation is sky high. Maybe the second week too. But if you’re working on a major project over a long period of time, you are likely to find your motivation flagging at some point. It can be difficult to chip away at a major opus for an extended period of time. Especially when it's hard to see much progress. “What’s the point?” we may wail. “I’ve been working diligently on my novel all year but it’ll be years before it's published.” Here's are some proven ways to stay motivated on long-term major projects:r

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Have a million things going on? Want to be more creative and also be more efficient? Do yourself a favor: declutter and organize your space. You’ll get more done and you’ll be more creative – while avoiding distractions, procrastination and stress. Here’s an overview of the steps to take to organize your space for maximum creativity and efficiency: 1. Declutter. Get rid of what you don’t need. Give it away, throw it away, sell it – do what makes sense to get it out of your space. If in doubt, you don’t need it. 2. Organize what remains.

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Do you know the angst of greatness, that sick feeling when you see your dreams sailing downstream towards a ravine that dares you to enter and retrieve them? Despite our obsession with success, we say little about the angst that eats when failure chastens and cheats. The Silent Treatment

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Perfectionists are, by definition, painfully hard on themselves. Perfectionism is a state of chronic dissatisfaction that takes a hefty toll -- and the sad fact is that few perfectionists realize what's going on. They see themselves as having 'high standards' and are blind to just how unhappy their 'standards' are making them -- and everyone around them. They can't understand how they can work so diligently and passionately -- and yet rarely feel truly pleased or proud with anything they do. Instead, very few things ever seem 'good enough'...and fewer feel 'good enough' for very long.

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As a parent, there are many challenges that you must face and some of them may be particularly tough because you just aren’t sure how to deal with them. No parent knows how to deal with every situation because every situation is unique to a particular family.

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As an executive coach, I notice one shift in mindset can translate to amazing results. As a life coach, I see people experiencing so much joy, love, peace and happiness in all areas of their lives – business, home, relationships with others, health. Setting the Law of Attraction into motion to achieve what you want can be a powerful force along this path. And I know this, and still I myself make mistakes. sr I made some big mistakes last year and I want to share the results with you.

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There’s one slight shift you can make in your daily habits that could reap BIG rewards. In fact, this habit has been linked to better decision-making, creativity, health and even weight-loss. Do you know what it is? Sleep.

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Over the last few days, I’ve spent some time with women entrepreneurs who are all having the same challenge—the race against time or “time management.” Whether you are an atto ey, a fitness professional or a business coach, time is the like the elusive lover—you can never get enough! Here are a few comments I heard over the last few days: -- “I’m never able to get it all done.”rn-- “I can’t figure out which “to-do” should be done first.”rn-- “It only takes 10 minutes.” One woman entrepreneur is multi-tasking all day long.

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Recently my children’s little league baseball team was defeated---badly. At one point, I looked at another mom and said, “Please let the bloodshed end!” After the game, the coach brought the team into the dugout to review what worked and what didn’t work. He began with a review of the other team’s performance.

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Want to get more done? Most multi-talented people have so much to do, we throw ourselves at tasks without taking breaks. We find ourselves, hours later, in a sorry state: our pulses are racing, our minds are fried and our ‘to do’ list seems longer than when we began. (“But how can this be,” we wail. “I’ve been playing sousaphone non-stop for four hours! Surely I should be disce ibly closer to Carnegie Hall by now.”) It may seem counter-intuitive but one of the best ways you can get more done is by taking breaks in whatever you’re doing.

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In the month of February the focus was love. It feels so right to begi March – Spiritual Wellness Month by sharing how taking time out for self-care allows you share the best of yourself with your family and through your business. When you love yourself so much that you like yourself, you are better able to share the best of you with other people. Loving yourself often requires that you evolve even when you don’t feel like it. Your heart knows exactly what you require.

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Time management is tricky for multi-talented, creative people. We have a lot of activities and tasks on our plates. And those plates are spinning. No sooner do we start project A when we suddenly get a great idea for project B and a key contact for project C calls out of the blue and…before we know it, the week is gone and there’s no disce ible progress on anything. How’s a DaVinci to give time and attention to everything? Which time management strategies allows you to get more done and make more progress in all your talents?

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I am reminded by fellow coach Phil Evans of the following truth. The most common 'theme' that I introduce to new clients when working in the Life Coaching realm, is the critical importance of being true to oneself! It's just so darned easy to get into doing everything for everybody else, but sadly neglecting that important person in the mirror. Yep, too darned easy to put everybody else first; and eventually something will kick our butts as it tries to alert us of the need to look after that person also known as ME!

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I’m sitting in row 20 seat E. That’s the middle seat at the back of the plane. This morning, not knowing what seat my assistant had booked me for this trip I wrote in my intentions, rather spontaneously, “I am so thankful to the universe for providing me with first class seats on the way up and back to Seattle this week… or something better!” This isn’t normally something I spend too much time manifesting as I practice being in a state of Ridiculous Bliss where ever I am, regardless of the circumstances. But I know what my clients would say, “Where is your manifesting now Mr.

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I’m sitting in row 20 seat E. That’s the middle seat at the back of the plane. This morning, not knowing what seat my assistant had booked me for this trip I wrote in my intentions, rather spontaneously, “I am so thankful to the universe for providing me with first class seats on the way up and back to Seattle this week… or something better!”

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What exactly does “me time” mean? To each mom it has a different meaning. To some it means going out with the girls, to others it may mean being able to just read a book for a half hour. You might be thinking “sometimes being a mom doesn’t allow a lot of time for me”. Moms usually can find any number of reasons why “me time” just doesn’t happen very often for them. Some moms may use the excuses I’m too tired or I’m behind on things as it is. If I take “me time” I will never get caught up.

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Remember the Alice Cooper song, "School's Out"? The lyrics are running through my mind as I write this article. The last bell rang, the kids are running through the house at all hours of the day and their summer camps are spread all across town. My schedule has become a mere shadow of the nice, tidy, organized days I experience September through May. Sound familiar? I'm finding this is true for many women entrepreneurs so today's article offers a few coping strategies when summer arrives and suddenly it feels like your schedule has been hijacked.

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As an Inspired Action life coach, my job is to assist my clients in action on their goals and dreams. This is not easy to do because most people have been trained to motivate themselves to take action. The problem is that motivation doesn't last. Motivation is like utilizing sugar in your body. It’s good for a short burst but it’s not sustainable energy.

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You might have your own definition of success. Success is more than making money. Success is more than being recognized in a career. It's about being happy. It's about liking who you are. It's about having loving relationships. But if you are successful in a career and don't have time to share your success with loved ones, you are missing out on one of the joys of life. With your busy lifestyle, you wonder how you can find that balance.

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The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated. William James We look to relationships to satisfy this craving. It's our natural state to be loving. Unfortunately with the busyness of our lives we forget what that natural state is. There is nothing better than a great relationship. You feel that you belong. You feel empowered. You feel an incredible aliveness. But ultimately we have to learn to have a great relationship with ourselves. When we do, it enriches everyone with whom we meet.

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Most of us have fond memories of playing at the playground when we were kids. There was the swing, the slide, the seesaw and playing in the sand. And most important the other kids. Once you felt safe, you let go. Before you knew it, it was time to go home. Some days you didn't want to leave.

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There are two simple, but extremely important things that I've noticed most people do NOT do very often. The first one is acknowledge what they've accomplished. The second one is clarify what they really want. Most people have a tendency to focus too much on what they haven't yet achieved.

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The 2009 holiday season has finished and the world is beginning a new year full of amazing possibilities including a list of resolutions millions of people plan on accomplishing during 2010. According to the USA.gov website the following items are the most common resolutions people make year after year: Lose Weight, Manage Debt, Save Money, Get a Better Job, Get Fit, Get a Better Education, Drink Less Alcohol, Quit Smoking Now, Reduce Overall Stress, Reduce Stress at Work, Take a Trip, and Volunteer to Help Others.

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One of the best action steps you can take in your business is to create a biography that showcases your expertise and gives you the credibility you need to stand out from the crowd. It will boost your business in so many ways. You want to have your biography on your website and all of your marketing materials. If you desire to do more speaking to grow your business, you'll want a killer biography for the event host to read before you step onto the stage.

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Do you dream of having your own private practice, so you can enjoy your family and friends, take more time off work, and do your life’s purpose? I would imagine your answer is yes! Quite often, though, something gets in the way of the initial vision of a thriving business. What I hear most often is that women (in particular) do things to hold themselves back, because they feel that if they get too busy, they won’t be able to enjoy their family and friends or take more time off from the business.

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As much as I love the holidays, there is something special and peaceful about the few days before they arrive. The quiet you feel just before all of the preparation begins and the visitors arrive. Before the anticipation of a meal well cooked and the welcomed sounds and smells of the holidays.

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I hear it often – in person, from clients, on the internet – “I’m told I’m too quiet, and need to speak out more.” I’ve had more than one client whose job review included that feedback. And the client says to me, “But I only speak when I really have something to say – and then it’s overlooked or discounted. So why bother?” Why indeed do introverts so often feel their ideas and offerings are swept aside by other, louder people? Is the ability to influence other people really based on the ability to speak louder than other people?

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Many people do; some of them are introverts, the others are extroverts. The basic definition of an introvert is of someone who is very sensitive to exte al stimulation and needs to withdraw periodically because our energy is depleted by too much stimulation, whereas an extrovert is someone who goes out and seeks stimulation, often social stimulation, in order to be energized. That being said, there are a lot of assumptions that go along with introversion, some of which I call “introvert baggage.” Not all of the people who carry this baggage are introverts.

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Self- care and me-time are simply not indispensable. In fact, making time for yourself is actually an essential ingredient if you want to thrive in your life and your business. Here are four steps to creating time for yourself and the benefits they can lead to in your business and your life: 1.Examine your mindset about me-time. Are you still struggling with an inner critic who tells you that self care is a pie-in-the-sky luxury?

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Can you go back and change the past, or are you stuck with what you remember? That’s the key: what you remember. The fact is, our brains are stuffed with memories, only some of which we retrieve, convincing ourselves we have a true and complete picture of the past when in fact we have a partial, often negative, picture of our history.

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I'd like to share a Yiddish Folktale that illustrates the power of changing your perspective... There once was a farmer who became very disenchanted with his life. He decided to go see his Rabbi for advice. The Rabbi asked him what was making him feel so bad and the man replied, "I just can't take it anymore! I have a wife and two children living at home in one small room.

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Overwhelm is something that we can’t always avoid, and it can be a major trigger for emotional eating, overeating, or bingeing. While it’s great to have strategies for staying out of overwhelm, sometimes–no matter how skilled or proactive or positive we are–overwhelm just plain happens. A colleague sent me a gift recently. She sent me a timer. She didn’t have to explain what it was for, because I know her strategy. She’s about getting big things done by making them do-able. That is such an important key.

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Have you ever had someone explain to you, coldly and logically, why your dream or vision is impossible, and can never come true? Well, I have. Most recently last week. As it happens, I had stopped focusing on my stress management programs during the last year, while I finished my book, The Confident Introvert, and developed programs based on it. But I went back to that topic and am now developing what I think will be a new, exciting, and very complete program, combining elements of stress and habit management that I don’t think have ever been combined in quite this way before.

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I read some advice from a business coach that really ticked me off: it advised coaches to “stop hiding behind your telephone and computer...” OK, so perhaps I am being oversensitive, because I do spend a lot of time in front of my computer and I prefer coaching by phone. The thing is, I am not hiding! I spend the bulk of my business time on the computer because: 1) I like it. 2) I am not limited by geography – I can connect to someone on any continent.

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It’s official (in case you hadn’t already noticed): technology is raising our stress level precipitously. In fact, Mike Kushner, co-owner of a computer solutions company in Palo Alto, Califo ia, has paramedics ready to respond to calls from what he calls the “digitally desperate.” Some of that desperation is created because the hardware malfunctions.

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A big part of releasing clutter this month in your business is keeping only what you absolutely love, use and need. The only way to do that is to take inventory of every area of your business including your team and how you work together. Your team can be either formal, informal, or a combination of both. It may include your lawyer, financial advisor, business coach, virtual assistant, as well as family members and colleagues that you can share an idea with and get immediate feedback. Whether formal or informal it is important that your team includes YOU.

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Are you one of those people who feels a bit anxious when things get really, reaaaaaallly good? Do you habitually cover your proverbial head, waiting for the other shoe to drop? Ugh. Don't you just hate that? It's one thing to be awake and aware that the unexpected does and will occur, but to go through life braced for it, afraid to risk and truly LIVE? That's debilitating.

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I love what I'm witnessing on this planet! In this wake of immense tragedy and wounding, more and more, we are "keeping our face in the light"! There is an unshakable, determined, collective choice to NOT be drawn into the fear and desperation, but to stand up taller and hold the lante high. I see heroes all around, on every corner, in every marathon, on every airplane, in every person who continues to live IN the world, rather than huddled behind closed doors.

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"If our emotional stability is based on what other people do or do not do, then we have no stability. If our emotional stability is based on love that is changeless and unalterable, then we attain the stability of God." ~ Marianne Williamson Everything is energy, including our thoughts and emotions. Emotions are contagious. When you around someone and they are stressed, our natural reaction may be to feel upset too. Sometimes when you walk into a room, you can feel that the other person is stressed.

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Visualizing has been taken out of context. The many great men and women who told us about visualizing produced spectacular results. Taken out of context people began to assume that if you visualize, then you will get those results too. Not true. Visualizing is the beginning of the creation process but it is not a magic answer. When mega producers, elite athletes, and genius’ of the past have espoused the power of visualizing, they included it as a part of their process. Not the whole process. It’s the beginning of something you are going to create. Everything begins in the mind.

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What makes you nervous? Usually its some future The Drunk Monkey in your head is obsessing over. The way to get relaxed is to see it for what it is. The Drunk Monkey in your head, all that talking is just trying to keep you alive longer by avoiding potentially negative experiences. This is great! Good Job Monkey! The problem happens when it fantasizes about negative futures that don’t even exist. Or when it compares you to some elisive set of standards that don’t exist.

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As a life coach I focus on a process I call, “Radical Responsibility”. It’s a term I borrowed from my mentor, Dr. David Hawkins author of Power vs. Force. It is the antithesis of being a Victim. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” you ask, “How am I causing this?” In truth neither question is better or worse, they just give you a different experience of your life. When you ask, “Why is this happening to me?” you are basically saying that there is a world out there that I have to deal with and I don’t like it.

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Your Internet Dating Profile Marketing yourself in an online dating format can prove to be quite challenging. We are all very complex individuals and it is difficult to effectively state the intricacies of our total being in a few short paragraphs. Since your profile is essentially your first meeting, it is important to give serious attention to this aspect of your online dating experience. Taking care to choose the appropriate words and setting the right tone can offer a solution.

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My Background From the time I was a young boy, probably from about the age of 5, I was exposed to meditation through my grandfather mainly. I remember being really young, waking up before dawn to the sounds of “Ohms”, other chants and Hindu prayers. I remember waking up, walking half asleep towards where the sounds were coming from, and sitting behind him, watching him as he went through his normal morning ritual.

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With the holiday season fast approaching, time spent with family increases. Add this increased time with the addition of aunts, uncles, grandmas, grandpas and cousins, and you can have quite an interesting family dynamic. The more people you have involved in any one situation, the more effort it takes to manage the different personalities. Last year in our home was Christmas as usual. My mom, brother and his fiancé were in town and staying with us, so our normal family of four became a family of seven.

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What is “Second Chance Living”? It is having another opportunity to start your life, love, happiness and success stories all over again. When I teach on second chance living, many people come and make the claim that their second chance has already come and gone. Not so, second chance living is a daily walk. 2010 is the year of obedience, sacrifice and restoration. All three have everything to do with how your year will look. Obedience to what we know is right for our lives. Sacrificing our leisure time, taking time to give for the cause.

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SIMPLE SHARE on WHY Why did I feel it necessary to get "help" and get a coach? My simple story. In 1994 I hit a wall. I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired" emotionally. While my self-employment was earning me a good living, many things around me were going unglued and I was turning far more frequently to mood altering substances and behaviours to "escape". I did not really like who I saw in the mirror and felt a soul pain inside.

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If you have been following the articles of the past several weeks, you have probably been making some big changes in decluttering your life and preparing for the New Year. So let’s take a moment to breathe… relax… and look at some small shifts that can make big differences. Just like any other change that we make in our lives, we receive the biggest impact when the change is aligned with our intentions. One of my intentions is to live with freedom and ease. I had the wonderful opportunity this week of experiencing one of these small shifts.

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Recently my son Jack, who’s in 3rd grade, had to do a book report and I spent some time guiding him through the process. His teacher had asked the report to consist of 6 elements: Title, Setting, Main Characters, Plot, Problem, and Solution. This got me thinking about how Smart Women could use this exercise to create a clear and focused plan for their business and entrepreneurial dreams. Having a firm foundation is essential for any business to have sustainable growth and long-term success. What do you need in order to create a firm foundation for your Big Idea, Dream, or Goal?

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Yesterday, as I was on my way to pick up my kids from school, it occurred to me that I was feeling exhausted—I mean really tired. As I made a mental scan of my day, I realized that I had been in a “reactive” mode most of the day rather than a “proactive” mode. We do need to react to situations that occur in our lives as best we can at that moment, however, Smart Women know that living a “proactive” life where you plan, prepare, and practice conscious living is clearly more rewarding.

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Over Memorial Day weekend, I unplugged completely from the online world and left the office behind. Even though I work out of my home, I made a conscious decision not to enter the office or think about anything having to do with business. I do this periodically because I know the dangers of staying "on" all the time can cause burnout, loss of motivation and derail creative thinking.

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True freedom is having the courage to look yourself in the eyes and ask the important questions, to touch your own heart and the ability to touch your own heart and be the recipient of self love. It takes courage to realize that you are only on the edge of your comfort zone and are now ready to step outside of it and into a new you. This is “knowing” that you are ready for More! Like most of you, my last few weeks of the year were wrapped in gifts called release, love, growth and peace.

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In my work with women, one bad habit that I see creeping into their daily lives is Procrastination. This one bad habit can create a struggle in your business and wreak havoc on your personal life too. I have a bad habit of procrastinating on making timely doctor appointments. The result? My "aches and pains" increase and treatment time takes a lot longer - not fun and not smart.

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If you are one of those people who feels uncomfortable about speaking up in group settings, take heart. It is possible to learn to be a relaxed contributor. One of my early clients said, “Oh, I know what you’re going to say – just take a deep breath and force yourself.” Well, no, actually. That’s a little like telling someone the best way to learn to swim is to jump off the dock and hope some life-saving instincts kick in.

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"Be like water, you pour water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You pour water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Be like water."rn- Bruce Lee <u>Reflections</u> I remember vividly being 14 years old in my high school swim team. What stood out the most about those days were the morning training sessions held at 6am every day. I remember arriving at the pool and staring at the surface of the water, amazed at its stillness – without a single ripple of movement. There was something that just intrigued me about seeing that still, ripple-free and calm body of water.

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In designing our lives, most of the time we start with listing things that we want to accomplish, places we wish to go or things we wish to accumulate instead of how we want to be in our life. When we align ourselves with the essence, beauty, and truth of who we already are it is easier to recognize and select what we want in our life. To illustrate how easy it is to align ourselves to who we already are; just imagine that you planned a weekend get-a-way far away from your to-do list, technology and distractions.

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In my last article, “Watch who you share your pain with,” I described several kinds of people who only make your pain worse by saying the wrong things. I call them, collectively, Dementors, familiar to Harry Potter fans as creatures who suck all hope out of you. They may magnify your tiny symptom into sure death, or seemingly provide incontrovertible evidence that your dreams can never succeed.

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I heard a wonderful story last night, from a woman who has had a varied, interesting andfrom any standpoint, successful, life. Her secret? She didn’t know there was a glass ceiling! In fact, she wasn’t aware of most barriers that frustrate the rest of us.r

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If you are like many women who’ve spent a lifetime (or what feels like one) struggling with weight and overeating, words like “breakthrough” may sound like unrealistic hype. For many women who are worn out with food and weight struggles, a breakthrough may feel impossible. Why? Their current mindset is one of “struggle.” This question came up recently as I was talking with a new client. Breakthroughs with food and weight aren’t hype and I’ll tell you why.

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If life was a multiple choice test, would you always pick the same answer? “Let’s see, it’s choice B. Guess I’ll go with that all the way.” At least in a real multiple choice test, you can see all choices – usually four – laid out and you may even ponder them before you mark your choice. In real life, we frequently act as if we see only one choice, even if we’re surrounded with more than four choices. Habit and stress conspire to make us believe there’s only once choice open to us – and we’d better take it right away, without pausing too much to think.

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A life coaching client wrote in, “I have a question, When ever we are asked what our dreams and goals are, I like freeze, I can never really come up with what my dreams are and can’t find goals that excite me., its like they have been suppressed for so long I don’t even know. Its like when ever that question comes Its like a kid taking a test and just freezes.” The Drunk Monkey Reins Supremer Several aspects of ourselves stop us from setting new goals. The biggest one is fear. The Drunk Monkey is trying to protect you from getting hurt.

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At the end of each year, I take an inventory of my life and business to shine a light on what proved to be most effective. Here are my top nine timely tips for women entrepreneurs who are ready to make a big leap in 2013: 1. Trust Your Instincts - It's essential that you hone your intuition and become comfortable making decisions about your life and business. Set a goal to practice being present more often and listen closely to your internal voice.

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A Spiritual (not religious) Lifestyle Thought to Ponder . . .True religion is the life we lead, not the creed we profess. As I made a decision to do something about my life as it was back in 1994, early on I had the GOD thing thrown at me. Like most, I had attended Sunday school as a kid and ...

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Your work or life may require speaking in public. Some people think of public speaking as delivering a talk to a large audience; others think that two or more people constitute a large enough audience to be intimidating. Are you one of the rare people who is frightened of public speaking? Note the use of sarcasm here: actually public speaking has long been the #1 fear in the United States, just ahead of nuclear warfare. You are most emphatically not alone.

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We live in a youth-oriented society, where the fastest growing group, the Baby Boomers, learned, “Never trust anyone over thirty.” They’ve probably extended that limit by now; I haven’t checked recently to see what it is. 60? 70? We see ads everywhere for products and services to erase wrinkles, get rid of flab (painlessly and quickly), and make your teeth whiter than nature intended (without giving up coffee or red wine). So let’s look at a few facts:

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Last week, I had the good fortune to speak to an amazing group of smart women at the Success Summit and Expo here in Los Angeles. As a speaker, you hope to present an idea or concept that will provide value to a group, although you never really know until you actually see how the audience reacts if you've chosen something worthwhile. Well, I'll share with you that one of my points hit home with many of the women in the room. I could see eyes wide open and heads nodding. Are you curious about what it might be? It's called Imposter Syndrome.

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I love summertime because of all the simple pleasures and fun you get to have with family and friends. It is a time during the year when you can create wonderful memories and experiences for yourself and your loved ones. Some activities I always look forward to are picnics and barbeques, bike rides in the mountains, parties with friends, time at the pool, evening brisk walks, and last minute get together's.

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Counting your blessings each day is essential for positive growth. God/Source/Universe is happy to provide for you as long as you are happy about what you already have. If you are dissatisfied with your current situation, that energy muddles up your intentions. The more dissatisfied you are, the more you get what dissatisfies you. Remember, this is an attraction-based universe.

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EGO RUNNING WILD! Thought to Ponder . . .The ego seeks the destination; the soul seeks the jou eyr What a deadly conflict I had going on for so many years, my ego searching for the destination and my forgotten soul seeking a journey! It made it hard to live in this skin of mine; seeking and achieving things that were never enough, yet a constant feeling of dis-ease inside. I remember well the day that a marriage counsellor suggested that alcohol and other mood altering activities may have a role in the breakdown of my marriage; the most important relationship in my life.

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How many of us have been negatively effected by bad family relationships- past or current? There is no required school for parenting, and we don't choose our families. In my own case, family relationships had a huge impact on the negative feelings I had toward myself; and these started way back. I came from a family that was not healthy for me. My parents had lots of love, but were not able to show it. They argued and my father, on binges, drank too muck. My mother has never taken a drink, so who will ever know if she had a problem? By today’s norms, I was an abused child.

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“There is in every true woman's heart, a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity, but which kindles up and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.” ~ Washington Irving When you hold on to a grudge, or regret, you are holding on to negative emotions that can block you from manifesting good things in your life. To remove this block, You need to forgive and let go.r

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Remember when you suddenly had a great idea? Think back. What was it? Do you remember what you did with that great idea (a 'great idea' is a goal in its infancy)? If you grabbed hold of it with both hands and feet and parlayed it into something fulfilling and wondrous, then you probably don't need to read further. But if you didn't, and possibly regret it, the following could shed some light. Depending on your personality you may have done one or more of the following: • Processed it and processed it and may still be thinking about it months later.

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What is The Contribution Game? How will it manifest my desires? Who Will You Meet Today?

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Have you ever thought of killing yourself? Seriously. I have. A number of times over the course of my life in fact. If you've never had that thought before you'll probably think it's crazy, but if you have, you'll know exactly how sad, lonely, and hopeless it can feel. Whether you can relate or not, here's something really interesting I've noticed... It's just a thought! Really. That's all it is.

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It is true for all of us, there are times when S..T happens. It is how we respond to it that counts. I love to play golf. The golf course is such a window on life and an insight into the people who play the game. Spend four hours plus with a seemingly intelligent and balanced human being, let them put on a "Tiger Woods Casual" outfit (Tiger wears shorts when not playing tour events), put them in a beautiful setting and arm them with a club(s), little stationary ball and an objective to get the club(s) to direct the ball into a 4 inch hole with the least swings possible! WOW!

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I have a not-so-surprising confession to make: I’m a perfectionist. If my correspondence is any indication, many introverts share this trait (and I suspect many extroverts as well). Perfectionism serves us in many ways: it motivates us to make our best effort; it results in high-quality, accurate work; it fuels our self-esteem (who wants to think of herself as mediocre?).

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Do you overeat when you are stressed or tired or overwhelmed? Do you flop down exhausted at the end of the day feeling like there is never enough time for you? Despite your best intentions, do you never seem to get to that exercise plan, that journal that you want to write in, or that fun project you really want to start? Do you ever feel like no one really understands how much is expected of you? Are you feeling resentful that there is never enough time to get to you? If you find yourself answering yes to any of these questions, it’s time to consider whether martyrdom is havi

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Have you ever noticed just how easy it can be to find yourself focusing on what you haven't yet accomplished? Do you know what I mean? You're lying in bed at night thinking about your to-do list and saying to yourself, "OH, I didn't get this done, and I didn't get that done either." Then to make matters worse, you pile on the pessimism and self-criticism with thoughts like, "Who am I kidding? I'm never going to catch up on this stuff.

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My youngest sister once told me (very insightfully)” “Face it, Jo; you’re not happy unless you have something to worry about. Once one worry is resolved, you just find something else to worry about.” She was absolutely right; I had to laugh at her observation. However it took someone else to point this out to me before I realized how much I let worry consume me. It was my habitual response to the unknown. I also realized that I did not want to maintain this habit anymore.

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As 2013 approached, I felt, as many do, that I was being given a clean slate, a chance to order my life better – if only I could stick to that plan. It has long been my dream to not only run my own business, meditate, and exercise daily, but also to resume practicing singing several times a week and to renew my study of French. On paper, it seemed doable. In real life, it never worked more than a day or so. Schedules slipped and slid; everything from small emergencies to illness got in the way.

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MASSIVE INSECURITY I just read an article by a writer named Lisa Kogan on this topic. It was a great reminder that massive insecurity is an affliction suffered by a huge cross section of the entire population. We with addictions think it is unique to us. I have believed for years that while many with addictions have MI, it is shared by millions of others. There is that word I hear in oh so many places. NORMAL. I don't think there is any such thing. There are many who have chosen a path of life recovery; a path that addresses Massive Insecurity.

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Dick Cavett was quoted as saying "It is a rare person who wants to hear what he doesn't want to hear" and Oscar Wilde said "To love ones self is the beginning of a lifelong romance”. Emerson said "Where there is no vision, people perish". I hit a point in my life where balance became a real issue. In working with clients and others I know I'm not alone. There was a balance in daily routine which made allot of sense. I certainly lived erratically. This area was addressed thoroughly at the treatment centre I attended many years ago.

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How are your relationships working for you? When it comes to relationship goals, here we find some of the most intricate challenges. Unlike most of your goals which involve yourself and inanimate objects or subjects such as your living quarters, your career, your money, your material items such as cars, clothes, your education, etc., relationship goals involve (shhhhh) other people. We can't control other people and we can't set goals for other people.

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Did you have a green smoothie today? Did you workout today? Did you meditate today? no… I thought not… you were too busy? The holidays can be a very challenging time. You may have conce s about weight gain, family members, work, money, and all kinds of other things. The good news is that, even with all these conce s, you can keep your Self Care routine strong and vibrant during the holidays.

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A few days ago, my husband Greg and I had dinner with my good friend and smart woman, Diane Elander and her family. (http://www.dianeelander.com) Diane is a "food stylist." She is an artist who creates that appetizing, desirous emotion that you feel when you see her creations in cookbooks, magazines, and product packaging. When she pulled up her web site and we took a "tour" of her food creations, each photo made your mouth water and "crave" each dish.

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A few days each week I exercise with a few Smart Women in a park near my home that overlooks the Pacific Ocean. It's a beautiful setting that lends itself to taking your mind off the muscle pain and exhaustion from the workout! We are surrounded by magnificent sycamore and oak trees that stand strong and tall. The trees were planted and spaced apart in a very methodical way; however over time, they grew into their own independent and unique natural form with branches and limbs flowing in many different directions.

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Last week, the Women’s Club in my community celebrated men and women over the age of 90 by hosting a dinner and entertainment event in their honor. I read about this event in the local paper and was struck by one interview with a woman who was born in 1912 (she’s 96!). Her photo depicted a woman ...

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I am fortunate to spend time with a lot of Smart Women. A topic that comes up on a regular basis is this idea of a job vs. a "calling." What's the difference? How do you know what a "calling" is? Jobs are something that we do in our lives to keep ourselves and our families together. A "calling" ...

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On last month, we looked at Daily Goal Setting and how this technique has changed my life and business. As promised, I would like to offer keys to your success with daily goal setting. One very important one is Accountability. In so many areas of our lives accountability has been and will always be a very important factor in living. Our parents or guardians held us accountable for daily living and chores. Our teachers have made us accountable for academic and extra curricula success and even our employers and managers, for professional success.

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WE ARE “CREATED SELVES” Shakespeare said it, “This above all; to thine own self be true”. In a journey of life recovery, a transformation to a new and more abundant life, had not one of our real problems been true to our selves and selfishly so? For me the answer to this was yes; but I know today that the self-centered person I was true to was not who deep inside I was. I was being true to a “me” that had been created due to poor thinking and actions over an extended period of time.

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Attempting to set and achieve goals under stress and worry doesn't work. If the words in your head are saying something like, "I really have to have $5,000 before the end of July or I won't have the tuition to send Mary to College! What on earth is going to happen if I don't get it?

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Struggling to get the law of attraction to work for you? Here are 10 reasons why it isn't and how you can make it work. 1 Your request wasn't clear and specific.

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• Does your work and life feel unbalanced? • Are you sick and tired most of the time? • Do you feel like work overwhelms you? You may be experiencing job burnout.

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No matter how big our dreams, our time and resources are limited. Moving forward effectively is key. Once you've committed to accomplishing something and putting in the effort, you'll want to get the biggest return on your investment that you can, in the most efficient way. Here are ten of my best tips for increasing your effectiveness and achieving your goals–whatever they may be. 1.Be clear on your final outcome This may sound obvious, but it's surprisingly easy to skip this step. Be as clear as you can about what it is that you are working to accomplish.

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Moms have an almost Universal need to be and stay organized. With all the hats we wear, it is increasingly more important to stay on top of everything and maximize our efficiency. Without organization, we drop balls, forget about important activities, increase our tendency to feel stressed, ...

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With the growing awareness of Life Coaching, more and more people are interested in finding out more. They get bits and pieces here and there but are still left wondering exactly what happens, how it works and how much it costs. As these things can vary quite a bit, one thing that is constant is ...

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Which of the following situations send you over the edge? You ask your child to do something three times and he is still not listening. Your four year old is having a complete melt down over something you see as insignificant. You've had a long day and your teenager won't stop arguing with ...

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Change is a word we hear oh so often. Whether we like it or not, things are going to change; we can influence how they change, and whether the change has positive direction for our life. There is much that directly affects our own well being that is within our control. When the journey to a new ...

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Are you afraid to be different? After doing a coaching session this morning, and spending a weekend in what will eventually be our new home town, I thought the question asked and information shown below (Received from Express Coaching-Dr. Randin Brons) was right on the money! Unfortunately, ...

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There’s an old story about a city slicker watching a farmer begin to train a mule. First, the farmer picked up a two-by-four and hit the mule over the head. Then he did it again … and again. The city slicker finally said, “I don’t get it. What are you trying to teach him?” The farmer replied, “I’m not trying to teach him anything yet; I’m just trying to get his attention.” Every day, your body and mind may be trying to get your attention before you have a big stress breakdown, resulting in anything from minor illness to a heart attack. Are you paying attention?

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Attitude. A great word and it reflects in every aspect of our lives! "And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone -- even alcohol (or other addictions or destructive behaviour). For by this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be interested in liquor (Or old behaviours).If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward liquor (an others negative living habits) has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes!

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Bankrupt of Faith? Ok Mr. Webster, your on! In this period we live in we all understand bankrupt, but what can you tell us about FAITH? On page 338 of this very thick editio I have, you state about FAITH:""trust, confidence; complete acceptance of a truth which cannot be demonstrated or ...

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The last couple of weeks, being knocked flat by an infection bug, have certainly given me time to reflect on some real core issues. One great reminder has been the importance of the moment and keeping my mind open to the “potential” of NOW. Within now are answers. "Why not concentrate on the ...

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BEDEVILMENTS (interesting word) Got this reading this morning, and the word bedevilment is one I have not seen in ages. So over to Mr. Webster. He says, "exasperating interference and trouble; a besetting with devils". The way he puts it, I know I have experienced it. Have you? The message: ...

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We are all blessed with two minds; one conscious that we react to and are aware of, the other, subconscious; a place where dreams dwell. A place of untapped possibilities. Just like high performing athletes, entertainers and business leaders, all of us can use coaching to take us to the ...

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A client just asked: “I know I use food for comfort and to soothe myself. What can I do instead?” That is such a common question—and one that can be so difficult to answer--especially in the moment. When we want comfort, food can seem like such a quick, easy, accessible fix. I recommend that you spend some time generating a list of possible comfort strategies. They won’t all fit in every situation, but options are always helpful.

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Differences:Sponsor / Coach Twelve Differences between your Sponsor and your Coach: As I chose coaching as my profession, and shared with others that I’d look at working with addicted people and those affected by addiction as a niche within my practise, some who have the honesty to be up ...

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How can disappointments be opportunities to grow? When we feel thwarted, frustrated or empty it is difficult - but not impossible - to see the positive side of our pain. It is from this type of situation we are trained to coach people to success- however they define success. Most ...

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Do you overeat when you feel like your life is out of control, when you feel overwhelmed, or when you feel stressed out? Examining the way you approach the issue of control in your life can have a tremendous impact on how you feel—and on your eating. One of my biggest rules for stress management is that when things feel out of control, it’s crucial to identify the parts of your life that you can control and take charge of these with purpose.

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No one disputes it-- we are in a global economic slowdown, creating tough competitive challenges for personal and Feature Article: Are you Living in Fear of Losing Your Job; Tips on How to Transform Your Job in times of Recession.©nnprofessional growth. Organizations are getting flatter or ...

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With schedules and to-do lists jammed with a thousand things, it’s easy to begin lowering the bar for yourself. You convince yourself that just getting it done is more important than how well you are actually doing it. You start to trade performance or quality for completion. Sometimes you are ...

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Always good to read something from Norman Vincent Peale, the king of positive thinkers! I know a ton of people in my life who can find a negative in almost anything, they are the "king" of BUTS. Yes, But. Heard the phrase? I've been in that space also. Normal (what's "normie"-seperate ...

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There are six billion people on this planet. Every single person has a completely different perspective. You know that every single person has had billions of experiences. Experience shapes our opinions, judgments, ideals, preferences, and ultimately our view of life. Every one of these ...

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It's no secret that it takes two to create and maintain a healthy relationship. Although I would agree with this statement, I also know there is a lot one person can do to change the dynamics of any relationship. And since none of us have the power to change another person, it only makes sense ...

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The importance of what we believe.... n n“Beliefs have the power to create and power to destroy”- a quote by Anthony Robins that I truly appreciate. Think of a time where you believed with utter certainty that you would achieve a goal? What were the things that you did to achieve that goal? How ...

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When you first break up, you'll find yourself having all sorts of thoughts and emotions. This is a dangerous time for you! And... it's a time you shouldn't be making decisions about your relationship and how to get back your ex! It might seem strange that I'm telling you now isn't the time to ...

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This week, I think I’ve gone through the most impactful and emotional occurrence of my recovery journey. I have watched death several times as people start, and then leave the journey to a better life. Addictions are a terrible disease. They kill. So does the impact of poor mental ...

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In my latest book “Life” and seminar series, “ The L.I.F.E. Experience,” we bring home the point that Life is an inside job. We often spend our energy, time and money looking outside of ours selves for the answers, when everything we need is within us. Growing up my ...

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Many professionals have a lot of questions about protecting their materials and name. What they are conce ed with is what we call 'intellectual property'. Intellectual property can represent 70% of a company's value, so it is important to not only understand it, but to also understand how best ...

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I spend a lot of time making decisions. I suspect you do too. You know how it goes: you analyze the pros and cons (and you're so good at seeing both sides of every argument, your pros and cons come out dead even). You ask yourself whether each choice is aligned with your values (you ARE aware of ...

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When you spot something synchronistic acknowledge it. Get yourself in high alert today. Be alert to the miracles that are happening. Notice how you think of people and they call. You think about something and it happens. You have this power. You have the power to influence reality. When ...

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There are a lot of unknowns right now in society and it is difficult not to feel the fear and uncertainty. No matter what your situation is, you are likely to feel a sense of camaraderie with others. The universe will sometimes provide circumstances to push you to take a step back from your life ...

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When I was working at the hospital, in the '90's, we accepted dietetic interns and one of those interns was a student from Singapore, whose husband was in medical school at the same time. Their plan was to return to Singapore to open their own wellness center. I share this because it was from ...

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When I got up Wednesday morning, I had a choice to make. I choose to make it a good day. There is enough craziness going on in this world, the talk of economic collapse, and gosh help us, elections on both sides of the border. Here in Canada, as far as leadership goes, I don’t find any ...

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A weekend just past and the first client of day completed, and my head turns to a technique known as mirroring. Funny, as I work with clients to bring out the talent within them, I find myself asking questions that I am, in part, asking of myself. It is true that we see ourselves in others. In ...

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As mentioned in my last article, “obstacles cause us to lose momentum as we are trying to achieve our visions and goals. They often make us feel stuck. And sadly, the longer we feel stuck, the more likely we are to give up on whatever it is we were striving towards.” There are two kinds of ...

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If you haven't heard yet, you will soon--it's everywhere in the media. Oprah has disclosed that she has regained weight she worked so hard to lose and that she now weighs 200lbs. My heart goes out to Oprah,as well as to the millions of women who struggle just like her. Today, on a morning news show, I watched two reporters banter back and forth about what they believe she should be doing to reach and maintain a lower weight. They discussed their certainty that slower weight loss, smaller meals, and more frequent exercise are just what Oprah needs.

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"You've got to be tough to do the big things in life like taking risks, admitting mistakes, and changing bad habits. You've got to be tough to do the little things like biting your tongue, waiting your turn and putting up with fools. Self-reliance and self-confidence will demand your ...

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Many moms today are running on empty. In the morning, we fill up on a quarter tank of coffee (or our equivalent gasoline), and then try and engage in activities that require a full tank. What happens when our fuel runs out? We get tired, irritable and just plain unproductive, due to our lack ...

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Redefining Work More support for “The Creative Theory of Recovery” I’ve been privileged to walk this earth for a while, do some great things, travel and work with interesting and progressive people. I’ve also seen far too many talented people what I would call ...

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When your job is made redundant, it’s all to easy to see it as a disaster - as though you’re unwanted, unloved and you’ve been assigned to the scrap heap. Even if you’re quite happy to leave the job you’re in, and move on, you may go through a period of ‘mou ing’, of feeling rejected and ...

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With “Mother’s Day” just past, what a better a topic to think about than relationships? They have such a huge impact on every facet of life. My relationship (like many men) with my mother was a troubled one. I was the victim of abuse, and did not feel safe or like I belonged as a child. My ...

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Remembrance DaynI awoke this morning well before first light. November 11 is a special day in my heart. A day to remember times and people past, and remember with gratitude. I have been fortunate to live in a time in history were I have not been needed to serve in active military service. My ...

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There is an old expression that rings true so often. “I could complicate the Lord’s Prayer”. Not withstanding that the Lord’s Prayer is a complicated document, I think we all know the intended thought behind complicating it. Often wonder how nice it would be to walk the ...

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You may have read or heard the expression that "introverts are wired differently." That means, among other things, we process information differently than extroverts. According to Marti Olsen Laney in her book, The Introvert Advantage, the introvert's brain is "dominated by the long, slow ...

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Extreme busyness is a chronic disease that afflicts many moms today. As a matter of fact, I was just listening to the One Month to Live DVD by Kerry and Chris Shook. They identified three passion busters. I'm not talking about sexual passion, although I'm sure your husband would love that. ...

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Like millions of people all over the world, my family watched the Academy Awards on Sunday night. People watch “the Oscars” for different reasons. Some people watch because they enjoy the fashion show and like to see the costume choices. Some people watch because they can’t wait to see who won ...

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Recently, as I was leaving my bank in Los Angeles, I saw a stack of magazines near the door, entitled “Life After 50.” And if you have followed the media trail this past week, it’s all about Madonna turning 50. This is a big deal in our society where youth typically rules. Here’s a woman who has ...

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Recently, my son Jack and I went to the local bookstore in search of the book Harry Potter 4. We have an agreement that we will read each Harry Potter book in the series together and then watch the movie. This has two wonderful benefits: One, I get to spend quality time reading a great series ...

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Last week, I was having a conversation with another smart woman and we found ourselves on a familiar topic to many people with children: schools and education. This woman has children in middle school and high school and she was sharing with me that the schools have two tracks in which to ...

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This past weekend, our family went out to Palm Desert to visit my in-laws for Mothers Day. I had the opportunity to spend some quality time with Greg’s father, Lowell. I enjoy my “chats” with him. He loves business and marketing and always has great ideas. One of the topics we landed on was ...

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The other day as we were driving to school, my daughter Jenna boldly stated, “Mom, for my birthday, I want a Pogo Stick.” This statement made me curious so I asked her, “Jenna, why do you want a Pogo Stick?” Jenna’s reply was “Mom, it’s easy. You just get on, fall off, get back up, and get on ...

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While driving along Sunset Blvd. a few days ago, I thought about a conversatio I had earlier that morning with a friend about how difficult it is for some people to make a decision. This process can be a challenge and create a lot of anxiety. I'm not sure if people are aware that "sitting on ...

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Recently, I was having a conversation with a woman when she asked me a crucial question: “What are the steps I need to take in order to live a life filled with passion and purpose?” It’s really a 3 part process. When a woman is ready to create her own extraordinary life, she needs to first ...

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As I was getting ready for a day of skiing on a recent family ski trip, I had one goal in mind: Stay warm! I knew it was going to be cold and windy that day, and I wanted to make sure that I kept my body heat inside. This got me thinking about how Smart Women who are living a life filled with ...

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Last week, I was at my Mastermind Meeting and my good friend and Smart Woman, Chellie Campbell, mentioned that she had read an article on how expressing gratitude may be one of the keys to being a happier, healthier person. The very next day, I picked up a magazine which actually cited ...

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Conference season for women entrepreneurs is in full swing! Over the next few weeks, I’m attending multiple events as a keynote speaker, as well as an attendee. This time of year is perfect to get out of the office and connect with potential business resources and new clients. The key is to be prepared for success. “Showing up” won’t get you the results you’re hoping for. The key is to show up with a strategy that works. Here are six strategies that are guaranteed to get you winning results when you attend conferences and events:

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Recently, my family attended a western-themed fundraiser to benefit our children’s elementary school. It was a fun-filled afte oon with various booths for the children and adults to participate in. Each booth had a different activity where you could try your skills. Walking around the event, I ...

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Recently, our family took a trip to the "happiest place on earth"---Disneyland! As we made our way to the Magic Kingdom, I noticed a large sign hanging over the entrance that read, "Where old friends meet for the very first time." I began to smile. This got me thinking about how Smart Women take ...

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STEP 1/Twelve Steps Each year I like to run through the 12 steps as written in the book Alcoholics Anonymous. These steps were an adaptation of many works before them, and are a universal truth for all people who want to enjoy good mental Hygiene and an abundant life. They have been adopted by ...

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Here in Canada, we are starting our Thanksgiving weekend. While timing is great to get a long weekend, the name thanksgiving means so much more to me than three days were the work world shuts down; it brings gratitude to the forefront! Around me the trees are changing color. The reds in some of ...

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As I reflect on the week that was, I can’t help but remember how many times a fear of god and not understanding spirituality came up. My own belief is that to have any real contented success in life, you need a “spiritual”, not necessarily a religious, foundation. Why do many ...

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According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary alchemy means the following 1 : a medieval chemical science and speculative philosophy aiming to achieve the transmutation of the base metals into gold, the discovery of a universal cure for disease, and the discovery of a means of indefinitely ...

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"The Doctor's Opinion"nn-It Defies Psychologists Why Co-Creative Life Recovery may be the best option to those with addictions; it works for everybody! A spiritual awakening plays a key role in the recovery of a life ANY person wants. While it works for those with addictions, it works for ALL. ...

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When I started on the journey to recover a life that was happy, joyous and free, and life filled with hope and serenity, I quickly learned the power of “WE”. While addictions were active in my life at the time, they were not the problem that stopped me from achieving the life I ...

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Are you among those who are Henny Pennying? Remember? Henny Penny, the ditsychicken who ran around the farmyard hollering, “The sky is falling, the sky is falling!” in the story we heard as little kids. To many of you, especially during the last few weeks of record setting market trends, ...

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I’m very fortunate, the things I’m involved in and the new life I’ve been given allow me to be positive about life most of the time. I also have a sense of realism. I have had the good fortune to see tremendous growth in the lives of others on a frequent basis and in nearly ...

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On January 31st, I had the honor and privilege of presenting the first of four half-day workshops, titled, “The Transformation Series.” It was held in Olympia, Washington, at Abundant Fitness Center (www.AbundantFitnessCenter.com). The work centered on the first two chapters of my book, “WHO ...

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Greatness is simply rising to the occasion to meet the needs of the moment -- whatever they are. Ideally it is executing with accurate perception what is needed in the moment. Thus accurate perception and not heroic action is what makes the great great and the moment memorable. To the frantic ...

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I am shocked at the number of self help and motivalional experts experts who tell people to let go of limiting beliefs and create new ones! I see it in books, on blogs and promotions of all sorts. Almost everything out there about limiting beliefs is filled with this nonsense. Why am I so ...

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How are you doing? Do you feel stressed or overwhelmed? Maybe on the edge, but not sure the edge of what? It's hard to avoid listening and reading all the doomsday press and not let it get to you at times. According to the International Council of Shopping Centers, 73,000 stores will shut their ...

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You are a practicing Being Unstoppable! You are someone committed to having it all…right? You want the money, you want the freedom, and you want the joy of existence…you want to be inspired and in action on your dreams…feeling the exhilaration of being a fully engaged adult on ...

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Using a Life Coach for Addiction Recovery A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and deadline behind it. As I went through a major process to determine what I wanted to focus on for the rest of my life, the answer finally came to me: Helping others. Specifically, coaching ...

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There has been a time in my life when relationships were a source of great discontentment in my life. I worked around negative people. I didn't have a lot of the kinds of friends I wanted. I was in a marriage that was lonely and filled with conflict. Although today all my relationships are ...

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So many people have wonderful dreams that are buried just beneath the surface--a book they'd love to write, a business venture they'd like to pursue, a race they'd like to sign up for, or a trip they want to take. If only. If only they had: more time, more motivation, more get-up-and-go. If only they weren't so busy, or if only they had--more money, more connections, more support. If only they could get organized, or if only they could get some time to think. If only they could figure out the first steps. Here's what I know: 1.

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Technology Addiction? Tomorrows Pot? There is no doubt that during the later part of my life, technology in communications has exploded. Is it good or bad, and how many are becoming addicted? I’ve certainly had some comments about this on the Big Life web site in my Free From Addictions ...

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“The reality is that changes are coming . . .They must come. You must share in bringing them. --John Hersey Change. It's scary. It's hard. It's needed. Sometimes it feels good; other times it feels bad. But one thing is for sure: it keeps on happening. Just when our life seems settled, ...

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I read something over the course of the weekend that was a good reminder and provoked some thought in me. A numbers of years ago, I was not happy with the life I was living, and addictions were playing too big a role in my daily living. I had frequent moments where there was obvious insanity in ...

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We can be selfish people can’t we? We can get so focused and consumed with “me” that we do not pay any attention to the people around us. I think of a husband who is so wrapped up in his job or business. He works 60 plus hours trying to climb to the top or works hard to make his business ...

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Being stressed, overwhelmed and over-tired is one of the primary causes of over eating. When we are worn out, we are much less able to resist temptation and much more likely to try to sooth or revive ourselves by over eating. My tip for minimizing stress-related emotional over eating: learn to say "no" so that you can say "yes." We can only do what we can do. Really. And, if we want to do it well, we should usually only try to do one thing at a time.

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Can You Confess? And Why? One day this week, I had a response to a blog about being honest with yourself in taking a personal inventory. It was great to get a response; it’s nice to know someone actually reads what I write. The response was about being a former Catholic and the real ...

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Okay, sing along with me now….. “Climb every mountain, ford every stream, follow every moonbeam, ‘till you find your dream” Is there anyone, anywhere who has not sung or hummed (in or out of tune) those famous words from “The Sound of Music”? I can still hear the spine tingling tones of the ...

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January is usually the month when people make resolutions for the new year they are about to embark on. We review and take account of what was done the previous year and what was not done; what we did accomplish or not accomplish. I believe it is absolutely a good thing to examine and take ...

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How many of you feel that you have so many different responsibilities in your life, that you cannot possibly make it all work. You may be focusing on work obligations while trying to keep your household up and running. All of this running around creates a feeling of hopelessness. I have seen it ...

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Do It Because You Like The EFFECT?? I get some great stuff from friends who are in recovery from one thing or another, or just recovering from people and the past. The Following hit me right between the eyes. Can you relate? "Men and women drink (drug, overeat, cut, use sex, gamble, ...

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Experiential Training Activities have been proven to speed up the process of learning and change for both groups and individuals. Physical, emotional, and intellectual involvement in change is the core of experiential education. The learn-by-doing model, used more and more frequently ...

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My parents and family have told me about my first steps. I certainly don’t remember them, but I am told I was an “early” walker. Seems I was early at trying a lot of things-booze, girls, dope, motorcycles, lying, stealing, cheating! I was not early getting into a journey of ...

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While reflecting on the early part of my life, seeing and understanding what happened, and looking at how things played out, it is apparent the people pleasing, the need to make others happy, has played a large role in my life. I see the remnants of this behaviour, learned at a young age, still ...

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GRATITUDE-HOW QUICK I CAN FORGET The last few days I have a wonderful opportunity to spend time at a golf club I belong to. Late yesterday we played a “fun” competition where the winners enjoyed a great steak dinner and those who finished second had beans. Nice beans, with franks, ...

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I was sitting in a park recently watching my children play with their grandparents and all at once I heard this deep, booming voice from a distance say, “You must make contact if you want to stay in the game.” I turned to my left and saw a coach working with a girl’s softball team – instructing them on their swing and explaining the importance of making contact between the bat and ball at just the right moment. This made me think about the idea of contact. For me, contact is about making connections in the relationships I care about – both personally and professionally.

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Sometimes you may be tempted to ‘give up’ on living your dreams, desires, and passions. Romantic relationships seem relegated to fairy tales. Familial relationships become a game of ‘trying not to offend’ or ‘let’s just get through this’. Relationship to self becomes a mantra stating, “That’s ...

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Another weekend over, and some very good reminders and perspectives. I was very fortunate to get three golf games in on three days, and to have a chance to do something nice for my dear old mother. Friday we had a good buddy down from Peterborough. He is a great athlete, about my age, and has ...

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I've started to realize that waiting is an art, that waiting achieves things. Waiting can be very, very powerful. Time is a valuable thing. If you can wait two years, you can sometimes achieve something that you could not achieve today, however hard you worked, however much money you threw up in ...

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Each and every one of us is capable of living a life of joy. No matter what our current beliefs or situations are, we are always capable of tapping into a strength that will bring about more peace and joy. Some of us become so preoccupied with our past, that we are literally unable to find the ...

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I awoke this morning to a brilliant blue sky, and an awareness that something subtle had changed. I have a funeral to attend today. I attend meetings on a fairly regular basis. I am a creature of habit, and have been sitting in the same area of the meeting for years. I look around the room and ...

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When we hear the word makeover, most of us think about transforming our physical appearance in some way. Just recently, for instance, I have toyed with the idea of growing my hair out. Perusing through the big hairstyle book at my local salon, I tried to imagine which hairstyles would look ...

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Who do you think of when you picture someone talking in monotone? I personally think of Ben Stein who did the Clear Eyes commercials a few years back. His voice remained at the same tone throughout the commercial. He did not show any excitement whatsoever in the product he was selling. He was ...

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What a great reminder I had today. This is something, without thinking about, I know I periodically do! How about you? They say you can’t judge a book by its cover, yet publishers spend a fortune to create great covers. As a person, for years, I did all I could to create a great exterior, ...

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I was really taken by the Oprah web casts of A New Earth and Eckhart Tolle.It certainly added a lot to my spiritual journey, and gave me some great perspectives that I am using with others while coaching them through a process to help them awaken spiritually. I have continued to watch Oprah and ...

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Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Lida Clarkso We all want life to unfold according to our plan. After all, we are certain we know what's best for us. But hindsight quickly reminds us that few, if any, of us had included recovery in a Twelve Step program as part of our life's plan. ...

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POWERLESS. WHO ME? I’ve got a friend going for wedding #3 tomorrow, I’m best(questionable) man, and pre-wedding golf game. Thus an early post! It’s been a day to really think about powerlessness. Years ago, I came to realize that I was powerless over my addictions, and my ...

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Prayer and Meditation. MEDITATION? --not just something bearded guys do on Asian mountains As I went through the steps, this meditation thing might have been the item I misunderstood most. I had been exposed to prayer since I was a little guy. I am surprised in my coaching, when clients and I ...

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-we all need it So far, it’s been a really interesting day. Things are now quiet, and I am reflecting on a few things that have happened lately. In response to one of my jou als, I got some very constructive feed back on content and approach, and some constructive feedback on my web site ...

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What a great reminder tonight, and it tied in to closing off my personal inventory. I, like many others, had secrets buried deep inside of me that I honestly thought I die with. No one ever had to know. Today I am aware that these secrets caused guilt and shame daily, and some I had buried so ...

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Last week, on two separate occasions, I had the topic of what I refer to as “nutritious” people come up. I was speaking at a women’s convention and I asked them to write down at least 3 “nutritious” people” they have in their life right now. I also had a conversation with a woman in my Success ...

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Last week, on two separate occasions, I had the topic of what I refer to as “nutritious” people come up. I was speaking at a women’s convention and I asked them to write down at least 3 “nutritious” people” they have in their life right now. I also had a conversation with a woman in my Success Circle about the difference between “nutritious” people versus those that can drain you and zap your energy level. You know the relationships I’m talking about-- right?

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Our family went to the Santa Barbara Zoo this past weekend. I love this zoo because it’s not overwhelming (you can see everything in about 2 hours) and Santa Barbara is a favorite spot of mine to relax. When we entered the exotic birds area, a sign on the door read, “For the safety of our birds, please close the inner door before opening the outer door.” That really made me chuckle. I thought, “Well, I don’t think the women will have too much trouble remembering this!”

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While on our way to school listening to a solo piano CD this morning, (it's a great tool that I use to calm everyone down after a hectic morning rushing to get out the door!) my 5 year old daughter Jenna asked me, "Mom, how do you make music?" It reminded me of when I was a little girl and my ...

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Every day as I leave my house, I am drawn to a large tree across the street, with beautiful branches and leaves. For awhile now, it has been shedding its leaves. Yesterday I noticed for the first time that all of the leaves have fallen off, leaving the tree bare. Nature has a way of making room ...

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The month of March is a very important month if you are a basketball fan. It’s “March Madness” and there are games from every team around the country participating in playoffs and finals all month. We are big basketball fans at our house. I was watching a game this week with my ...

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I remember growing up we use to play a game called "tag". I am sure you remember playing this game with the neighborhood kids. One or more kids would count to 10 and then chase other kids to tag them and they would be what we called "it". The kids who were tagged were the next ones to count, ...

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I have gotten pretty good at noticing when my body is in need of some down time. Especially this time of year, with all of the parties, shopping, and family get togethers, it's crucial to stop every now and then and just let your body relax. We all get so consumed with work, family and ...

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Superior athletes receive the MVP award. Oscars are given to the best actors and actresses. Business owners can earn a designation of "Entrepreneur of the Year". How often have you received the "Best Mom of the Year" award? I've never received that award, and I'm a good mom. We have one of ...

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A lot of times we get wrapped up in our products. And why not? We've worked for months putting our business together and our products are what people want to buy. When it comes to putting together a sales letter we want to explain every little detail so our prospect can see exactly what they're getting when they make their purchase. Isn't this the way it should be? NO! The customer doesn't care about the late nights you spent meticulously researching your product. The customer wants to know just ONE thing: What's In It For Me?

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A few months ago I was contacted to speak to a local women's association group. In the context of our communications, I was asked if I had a book, and if so, would I offer a discount? I assumed the client wanted a discount off my speaking services if some of their audience members purchased my ...

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Things do not change; we change. --Henry David Thoreau For a man who is in the coaching business, and is on the life journey I’m on, I find the title statement PROFOUND. Think on it and see if you can see the depth of the thought. I spent a good portion of my life thinking I could change ...

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Who am I? What is my purpose in life? How can I find happiness? At some point in our lives we all find ourselves asking these questions. The answers come from a deeper level I call “spiritual.” To me, spiritual unfoldment means recognizing and expressing the divine nature in each of us. ...

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Think of a time you were conversing with someone. As you talked with them you noticed the lights were on, but nobody was home. You may say they were in la la land or daydreaming. When was the last time you got the blank stare from someone? We have all probably experienced chatting with a friend ...

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There is a daily blog that I love done by a fellow named Patrick who resides in Michigan. It can be found under “Spiritual River” and is one of the best feeds I’ve been exposed to on the net! I am hoping Patrick and I find a way to work together, I love a lot of his ...

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At this juncture of creating new footprints in the journey of life, I was well aware, more so tha I’d ever been, of my defects of character. Awareness is wonderful, but I wanted change that would give me a much better life. I wanted my defects gone! By this time, many things had changed ...

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The most consistently neglected part of the weight loss process is the phase of “maintenance.” Without solidifying our ability to maintain, our chances of creating lasting change in our relationship with food or enduring weight loss are slim.

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Quite frequently now, I'm having times when I am in complete awe of the power of the Universe. And I just keep saying "Wowww!" When I stay in sync with the big "U", which is more and more often now, and things happen to reinforce all that we are taught, I am reminded of just how simple and ...

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What are you thoroughly sick of? You feel that if it continues on in your life you are going to explode! You feel powerless in the grip of this, you don’t know where to turn and it’s all you can think of most of the time. You feel like you are going in circles and can’t break out into a ...

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So You Want the Big Life???? Getting it through coaching Written by Gary Glasscock and Keith Bray Whether it is in life, sports, fitness, career, relationships, health, or executive performance, more and more people are turning to personal coaches to help them achieve goals they set for ...

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"Go ahead and make the first move" So, my son is starting Kindergarten next week, a big step in his little life. Of coursehe is anxious, I am anxious, and my husband is anxious. Like any mom, I want to dowhatever I can to create a smooth and comforting transition. I thought it would ...

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Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a person's life. It is hard to adjust to being single again, as well as living "out of the habit" of being married, especially if you have been married for many, many years. Eventually, you begin to think about dating, but it is suggested ...

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How do you define success? Would you consider yourself successful? Most people define success as achieving some preconceived, future condition in their lives. If I can raise my children to be happy and confident adults, then I will be successful. Or when I make $100,000 a year, I will be a ...

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Going through a divorce is a very challenging time in a person’s life. It is hard to adjust to being single again, as well as living “out of the habit” of being married, especially if you have been married for many, many years. Eventually, you begin to think about dating, but it is suggested ...

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We all enjoy and need a vacation from time to time. How does one know what’s the best location and amenities to fit our needs? Knowing your sun sign may provide you with just the right insight you are seeking. Normally when we vacation we are with family and/or friends. The sun signs may reflect ...

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Boost your Confidencen Are you fairly confident in your own shoes? When do you feel your best? When do you feel the most insecure? Even the most confident individuals go through periods of self doubt. I am pretty secure in who I am and what I believe, but there are plenty of days where ...

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Ahhh.... the ubiquitous New Year's resolution. How many times have you developed a list of New Year's resolutions, which at the time sounded great, only to find yourself feeling less than enthused about it six months later? Have you ever felt guilty or depressed because you didn't achieve a New ...

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Build relationships and teams by giving value to your interactio This is the last of a series of articles on handling criticism constructively and without stress. Evaluating other people is something you will do all of your life, both formally, as a teacher, parent, or manager, and informally, as in personal relationships with your peers. Giving feedback to others is a skill that is really worth learning. It will make you more effective and powerful in all your relationships, particularly if you recognize that feedback isn’t always negative.

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"Experiences we can't understand" Has something ever happened to you, that you didn't understand at the time, but as time went on a reason for the experience revealed itself to you? Everything in your life leads to something else in your life. All of your experiences have led you to exactly ...

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Fear can be broken down into three categories: real (healthy), imagined (thought-based) and worry. Although fear can get in your way by interfering with your hopes, dreams and desires; fear is not always a bad thing. Admitting you’re afraid of something can be quite enlightening. It gives you a ...

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So, how stressed are you in your life? Are you on edge more than normal? Are you less capable of handling life's stressors? Do you feel your heart race when someone confronts you or when you feel personally attacked? Your body's response to stress can have serious consequences both on a ...

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"Happy New Year!" I am sitting here in beautiful Colorado, as our second storm of the season has arrived. I have had plenty of time to think about what I want to achieve in 2007. Aside from planning for the future, it is just as important to review the past. You need to re-examine 2006, the ...

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In the movies, we have often seen a character receive a shock, clutch his heart, and fall to the ground in a heart attack. No one thinks life’s daily hassles are dramatic, but in fact they can be just as deadly as a major shock. Real crises, such as having your house burn down, activate the stress response. So do hassles, those little everyday life events that temporarily frustrate. They also narrow our thinking so that we believe we are in a crisis when, in fact, we are not. They are much more frequent than real crises, and their effects seem to snowball.

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"Live with no regrets" n A wish I have for all my clients, colleagues and friends is that they live a life of no regrets. Today however, I am specifically referring to the relationships in your life, including all the relationships in the past that you have unfinished business with. Are ...

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Mindful eating, intuitive eating, and conscious eating are all terms used to describe a way of eating that uses internal cues about hunger, appetite and fullness to guide our relationship with food. Being atuned to and able to listen to our body allows us to know what and when we need to eat. The focus is on learning to eat in a conscious way that helps our body to feel and function well. Dieting, restricting, counting calories or fat grams and focusing on weight are NOT components of mindful eating.

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It’s now official: MOVEMENT IS GOOD FOR YOU. Oh, wait, you knew that already. And you’re doing it, right? Well, not right now, but as soon as you have time. Of course that time never seems to come. But what if regular sessions of movement actually helped create time in your life by helping you learn faster, and by making you feel more refreshed and vital so that you tackle tasks with zest and get them done quickly? Would that be a more powerful motivator for you? Or at least make you curious enough to try some of the suggestions coming from newer research on movement, such as:r

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Why is it typically easier to focus on our insecurities and flaws than to highlight our strengths and positive attributes? Do you feel uncomfortable tooting your horn every now and then? Why? It is far easier to compliment others than to turn the table on yourself. We all have natural abilities ...

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Recently, I had the opportunity to spend the day strategizing with a group of smart women entrepreneurs from different parts of the world. It was an energizing day focused on topics such as effective marketing, clear messaging to attract your ideal client, time management and money. At one point, women were expressing the challenges they face in getting everything accomplished each day including running a business, managing a family, and hopefully time to squeeze in a little self-care.

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One morning last week, I was helping my 11 year-old son, Jack, get ready for a day of skiing during our family vacation. It was sunny, 55 degrees and gorgeous outside. I handed my son his face mask and he looked at me puzzled and said,<cite> "Mom, there is no way I'm going to need this today--have you looked outside?"</cite>

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It’s time for a reminder about the basics of good stress management, and especially about the skills you can easily master that will make you more stress-resistant – i.e., less likely to develop a stress response that you have to “handle.” Life should be about more than just “handling” negative events; it should be about freeing you to make exhilarating choices. Over the past few decades, information on stress management has mushroomed into a huge field. Yet, with all this attention, stress hasn’t gone away; it is now estimated that 85% of sickness is due to stress.

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Stress Relief Tips for the Holidays and Everyday From the Happy Wednesday Lady, Joanie Winberg The American Institute of Stress reports that stress among Americans is significantly rising with approximately $300 billion a year lost due to stress-related illnesses. It has reduced productivity, ...

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The Law Of Attraction explained The law of attraction is a theory with overwhelming scientific evidence. It is said to be a law of nature (like the law of gravity). It affects our lives in a big way. With advances in quantum physics more and more people are now paying attention to it. If you've never heard of it, or want to learn more, read on. I love science, especially quantum physics and could go on and on about it, but I will try to keep it brief and simple as I can here :)

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When my older son was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, my first reaction was relief – I finally knew the reason for his behavior. However, I was also overwhelmed with sadness, fear and anger. I felt sorry for my son and for myself. Like many others in similar ...

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Everywhere I turn, women are in transition. Of course, the most obvious transition many of us are facing right now is back to school. But transitions are all around us, some of which are more recognizable than others. These are some of the transitions that have touched my life, directly or ...

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Anger is a normal emotion like any other emotion. Human beings are hard wired to experience anger as a means to preserve ourselves. Instinctively anger inspires one to fight, to defend or to take cover as it alerts one to a perceived threat. In this view, we can see how important anger can be in terms of our physical safety and overall security. Anger outside the realm of its primary purpose, increases the likeliness of one to lose control and jeopardizes the safety and security that it is intended to protect.

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As human beings, we all have an innate need to be close to someone. But sometimes the very thing we desire is the opposite of what we have. Some of us subconsciously sabotage the relationships we want because of our fear of intimacy. Sometimes we unknowingly and unwillingly drift apart ...

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I have so many clients that from outside appearances seem to have it all. They may have successful careers, good friends, a good marriage, healthy and happy children, things that many others strive for. But the "happy" piece of the puzzle is missing. They don't experience joy, and they have ...

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Recently my client shared with me a scary incident she experienced with her body. As she was driving, her teeth and arms began to tingle, her vision tunneled, and her heart was pounding very fast. Fortunately for her, she was close to a medical clinic. Upon arriving at the clinic, she was ...

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Passionate Self Care One of the surest methods to stay on a focused, purposeful course in your business, relationships … in all of your life, is to take extra special care of yourself. Oftentimes what happens is exactly the opposite: everyone and everything else in our lives takes precedence over our personal needs. What happens then? Everything crumbles. Nothing works. The entire system shuts down. What is your idea of self care?

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The other morning I was having coffee with a friend, and we were sharing stories about our own sometimes intolerant parents. My friend has a grumpy and hard to please father that pushed one too many buttons this past Thanksgiving. “What did you bring those dishes for? What is that you made? It stinks!” My friend snapped and replied “That’s it. I am not bringing anything for Christmas.” Her father replied “Why, I like your cookies.” To which she replied “I am not bringing cookies either because last year you complained that my sugar crystals were too big!”

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How do you find time to create a little piece of calmness in your world? For me it is mornings. I purposefully wake up an hour before I need to be a wake. This allows me to take the time to getting up, I am not rushed, I get my 15-20 minute shower. I mean how often does that happen ever when you have teenagers in the house. I get to eat breakfast, which we all know is the most important meal of the day, you know. I can make lunch, saving my budget. But most importantly I able able to spend 30 minutes in just being quiet.

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When was the last time you felt sad or upset because someone did something that hurt you or disappointed you? I surely remember my last time. I was trying to prepare a delicious meal for a group of friends and when I was in the middle of it, one of my friends said these exact words… “Since when do you cook?” At that moment, my first reaction was to stop cooking and to send him packing, but I decided to ignore that little comment and continued cooking. Long story short; at the end, the dinner was delicious and the guy had to apologize to me for his tactless comment.

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‘Our shadow is waiting patiently for us to come retrieve our power from the dark recesses of our unconscious mind.’ Debbie Ford Self Sabotaging behaviours are in place, One: to confirm our Limiting Beliefs, to keep them in place, to keep proving them to be the truth. Two: to be loyal to ALL our Values. Ultimately to make sure we are SAFE. Resulting in,r

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Stress can make even intelligent people screw up, look slightly crazy, and even undermine their health and well-being. It’s true: even highly-educated, highly-intelligent people can do incredibly stupid things under stress. Take the woman, who upon finding that her house was on fire, grabbed what she believed to be two important objects before she rushed out- of- doors. They were an old issue of Time magazine and one slipper.

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The holidays are a particular challenge for those of us who know we must be vigilant every day to maintain our health through good eating. (Actually, that’s pretty much everybody.) Here are some of the challenges, and how to meet them. The holiday party, with its buffet of delectable treats, many of them high-fat – cheese plates, crackers, cookies made with real butter, rich drinks such as egg nog – can be faced and handled by using some of the following tricks:

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Pause, breathe, choose: I remind my clients (and myself) of this sequence frequently, adding that the response we make to a stressful event is our choice, not a given. To reach the point where we recognize other choices, it is important to be able to distance ourselves from the world and center on our own bodies and minds. Correct breathing is the key here. If you have ever studied voice or a wind instrument, you probably know how to do this already.

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November can bring gloomy days, rain, and even snow. Some people love this autumn weather; others are less enchanted by it. Add in a few ordinary life mishaps and you can create deep gloom. Here’s how to lift the gloom when you’re suffering from the “grumpies”, a discontented feeling that arises from a series of a series of small, unpleasant episodes that you are in danger of inflating into a really bad mood: Sit or lie down; take several of those deep belly breaths.

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I am a mother and I know the tremendous amount of pressure we can put on ourselves to get X amount of things done in X amount of time all while managing to keep the house clean and getting the vitamins and vegetables down the throats of our little ones. At times it can become overwhelming and if you aren’t careful you begin to view your role as mother more as a destination rather than the journey that it truly is.

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85% of major illness is now attributed to stress. The figure is alarming because it implies that the responsibility for our well-being lies directly in our own hands, as in a way it does. People who already have a major illness feel dismayed, and even angry, about the new emphasis on “positive psychology,” and the idea that our beliefs and moods can affect our physical health dramatically. They feel “blamed.”

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If you suspect that you have a prescription drug problem, don’t stop taking the medication cold turkey. You may end up feeling sick and either going right back to taking it, or wind up in the hospital. Instead, there is a process in quitting prescription drugs. Before you start the process though, make sure you really do have a prescription drug problem. Do you have the signs of prescription drug abuse? • Taking prescription drugs belonging to someone else • Stealing or forging prescriptions for drugs • Taking higher doses of drugs than prescribedr

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When you start a new business or take action on a big idea that you've had brewing for a while, it can be a very exciting time. You begin to get a taste of what entrepreneurship can feel like; you’re in control of your own schedule, maybe you worked for someone else and you've escaped the rigid 9-5 routine and you've become your own boss - life feels good.

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I'm finding that many women entrepreneurs are reflecting on their year and a question that seems to be on the minds of many is: "What are tools and strategies I need for my business to take a big leap in the New Year?" As I reflect on this question, I realize the answer is two-fold. If you are serious about making 2012 the year that you soar in business and make big leaps in income, you must first ask yourself a few questions (and get honest with yourself about the answers):

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I was watching the holiday classic, "The Polar Express" with my children recently and in the movie, Tom Hanks, who plays the role of conductor, said to Billy as he exited the train, "It's not as important to know where the train is going as it is to make a decision to get on the train." Very wise words indeed. Getting in the habit of making decisions will be one of the best decisions you can make in 2012!

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No matter how determined we are at planning, resourcing and achieving all those wondering things we want for ourselves, or even others, sometimes we need a little nudge in the right direction. Or maybe its a framework to guide our thought process. Just something to help you get from A to B. You may be super organised and have your life planned out for you but just not reaching your goals, perhaps your life is flying past you and youre wondering why youre still doing what youve always been doing, despite your well thought-out plan.

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The wellness expert I was speaking to after her talk commented that she had almost been late for the conference. “I was stuck in traffic,” she lamented, “and I was really stressed.” I asked her what she was worried about, given that the audience was a group of very supportive women who already knew and liked her. What would they have done had she been late? She didn’t know, but insisted it was a stressful experience. Why? There would have been no dire consequences; someone else might have spoken first, or everyone would have continued to network and socialize until she appeared.

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A week ago, I was awakened just before midnight by an alarming phone call. The security company was calling to tell me there was an alarm going off at the historic house I manage (on a purely volunteer basis), and asked if they should send a fire engine. “Yes, of course,” I gasped, surprised they would even stop to call me first. “What’s happening?” “I’ll call you back,” the voice said, and hung up. Groggy with sleep, facing a difficult day for which I was trying to be well-rested, I weighed my options.

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An early step I take with my Platinum clients is to walk them through having a marketing conversation with potential clients so they quickly start to grow their business. One of the effective strategies to set up that conversation is to send out a promotional email. You don’t need to feel you have to wait to get your website set up or start up an electronic newsletter; all of us have a list of people we can contact. And, if you don’t have clients, it’s one of the easiest ways to GET clients!

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Starting out 2011, many of us would like this year to be different. We would like to eat better, exercise more, spend more time with our families, have better relationships, or whatever else might be important. In the beginning, our hopes and dreams are strong and might bring about short-lived successes but the problem is that these successes often do not last long. Many individuals find it easier to slip back into old routines because that is what we are used to and it alleviates the stress of trying a new behaviour.r

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Starting out 2011, many of us would like this year to be different. We would like to eat better, exercise more, spend more time with our families, have better relationships, or whatever else might be important. In the beginning, our hopes and dreams are strong and might bring about short-lived successes but the problem is that these successes often do not last long. Many individuals find it easier to slip back into old routines because that is what we are used to and it alleviates the stress of trying a new behaviour.

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A moderate amount of stress can be a good thing. It can motivate us to stop procrastinating and to get things done. It can energize a project and, let's be honest, make life more exciting. Excess stress, however, can be damaging indeed. It can paralyze us, derail our progress and wreck havoc with our health and minds. When we''re over-stressed, we can make life miserable for ourselves and everyone around us.

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What immediately comes to mind when you think of rewarding or pampering yourself? Let’s say you’ve been under a lot of pressure and you realize you must find a release. I asked a client recently what she would do if she took time to pamper herself, and she didn’t know. She hadn’t thought about it in a long time. She was too busy taking care of everyone and everything around her. In talking to overly-stressed clients over the years, I have found that, when they finally realize they can, or should, relax, the first things that come to mind are often:

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Recently, I attended a surprise 50th birthday party for a good friend from college. I had a fantastic time reconnecting with old friends and discovering new ones as well. One of the biggest Aha’s for me during the weekend festivities was the realization that most of my time is spent with entrepreneurs---people who have made the jump to self-employment and choosing to do it their way. Many of the people I spent time with at this weekend event were employed by someone else.

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With everything that's going on in the world right now, I hesitated to write this article. However, I felt called to share my reflections with you. There has been so much despair and devastation in the world lately that when something happens to us personally, we can try to shrug it off because "compared to what's going on in the world, this is minor." (This has been my "mantra" over the past week.) Although I believe this to be true, when something happens to you personally, it feels real and challenging. It can paralyze you and keep you from moving forward.

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I struggled a bit this week on what I wanted to share with you. I place a high value on making sure I give you timely information that you can use right away to take your life and your business to the next level of fulfillment, happiness and success. On the one hand, I wanted to write about June being the halfway mark in your business and now is the perfect time to take a mid-year inventory of what’s working and what’s not working so you can make the shifts necessary to meet your goals by the end of the year.

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SPIRITUALITY-SOME THOUGHTS I work with people who simply put, want to make major change in their life. The reasons vary and may include addiction, abuse, stress, and depression. The common denominator is that the zest for life is not what they want and personal relationships are stressed or gone. Most of my clients do not love themselves. Life transformation and the recovery of the life you want is a process. My experience and learning tells me it is a holistic process and one that requires “outside expertise” to guide the journey.r

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THE COURAGE TO CHANGE Courage: The power to let go of the familiar.rn--Raymond Lindquistr Letting go of the familiar really does require courage. Why? Very simply, the thought of change evokes fear. Fear of what? Only YOU can answer for you. Let me pose three very simple questions to you. If they really get you thinking, let’s talk about them. What self esteem issues or addiction related issues are your biggest challenges? What will happen to you and what will it cost you if you don’t deal with them? What do you want instead?r

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Accountability: Whether you love that word or hate it, it is invariably one of the active ingredients for personal and professional success. The importance of accountability is proven in corporate situations where the C.E.O.s are held accountable by a Board of Directors. They have to report to that board on a quarterly or annual basis, and if benchmarks previously set are not achieved – those C.E.O.s must answer for themselves and their actions. Accountability in Business and in Life

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To Eat or Not to Eat! We’re constantly surprised at how many people seem oblivious to smart food hygiene practices, simply out of ignorance- unless you’ve been taught these things or learnt through painful food poisoning experiences… most people simply guess what to do with food! Here are some basic tips you can start implementing in your kitchen, to get the best out of food quality, taste, and food safety. Is it safe to eat fruit and veggies with bruises?

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I understand. You're not a perfectionist. You're just picky. Or 'hard on yourself'. Or you 'have high standards'. Or you like things to be done properly. Guess what? * If you're emails, tweets & Facebook posts are free of spelling mistakes, you just might be a perfectionist. * If you noticed the typo in the previous sentence, you might just be a perfectionist. * If you get frustrated fast when you are learning a new skill and haven't quite got the hang of it yet, you just might be a perfectionist.

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2011-POSITIVE CHANGES? May you LIVE all the days of your life-Johnathan Swiftr Another new year. Another year entered into with the best of intentions. Ever look back and really measure the changes you planned to make in 2010 and where you sit today? For most, their resolutions are but a fading dream about 2 weeks into a new year. My grandmother drilled it into my head- the road to hell is paved with good intentions.r

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WANT A SHOT OF HOPE? (How’s Your Spiritual Life?) Someone sees that word “spiritual” and the mind says “oh no, more religious crap”. That someone, back then, was me. For those who are familiar with my blogs, you’ll know I like simplicity and often turn to the good book written by Mr. Webster to get definitions I can understand. It puts us all on a level playing field. Today’s word is HOPE. I talk to so many people who tell me their life is lacking in “HOPE” and they want more.r

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AM I INSANE? I had not thought this question out very well back in the 90’s. While I did crazy things, the life I was living would have indicated that at times I was nuts, but no one would have considered me insane. I had a responsible job, a family, a home, two or more cars, no debt, volunteered time to causes, etc. Yet a voice inside kept saying “Keith your nuts” and I fought it. Sure I drank too much at times and drugged some, sure I used other people to make me feel good; but then, wasn’t this “normal” for people in my position? The voice inside said “NOT”.r

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AT THE END OF YOUR ARM The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm. --Swedish proverbr Every now and again a quote comes to you that is just so obvious but true! There are so many looking for help, looking to others to “fix” them and take responsibility for themr Getting help does start at the end of your arm; it sure did for me. We are entering into a period of time which for many of us is supposed to be “Joyous” and fun no matter what your religion. For many this time of the year has a strong religious component.r

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ATTITUDE ADJUSTMENT After a number of recent conversations and happenings, coupled with self reflection, I think the biggest change in my life over the past number of years has been an attitude adjustment. Years ago, it was far too easy to fall into the negative. One of my symptoms was frequently knocking others, finding the bad in them. Another was a sense of gloom that could take over the sunniest day. The gloom through me frequently into procrastination, I just couldn’t get things done unless my back was against a wall, and even then I was often late with “stuff”.r

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Do you own your life? "The meaning of life is to give life meaning." -- Ken Hudgins When we own our lives, we accept what we've inherited and the experiences we hold in our memories. We also claim our right to create new conditions if we're not happy with what's come before. We assume responsibility for changing what does not suit us. We acknowledge our own special talents and skills, and truly comprehend our right to enjoy the journey. In short, we embrace the meaning and purpose, the mystery and the beauty of our lives. Do you feel that you own your life at the moment?

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So many times my clients say to me, “Well, Matthew, you know, this is just a means to an end. I’m doing this business. I’m doing this project because where it’s going to get me is where I want to go.” You know what I say to that? Means to an end equals suffering. It means suffering today. And you don’t have to do that. You don’t have to get involved in a project or do an activity today because hopefully, someday, it will turn out better so that you can be happy.

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Starting out 2011, many of us would like this year to be different. We would like to eat better, exercise more, spend more time with our families, have better relationships, or whatever else might be important. In the beginning, our hopes and dreams are strong and might bring about short-lived successes but the problem is that these successes often do not last long. Many individuals find it easier to slip back into old routines because that is what we are used to and it alleviates the stress of trying a new behaviour.

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TRUST ISSUES? It’s amazing how many people I run across that have major trust issues. The causes vary. In the information below, you will find some thoughts on dealing with trust issues, and issues of trust that come up in relationships. If you conclude that self-esteem or “the past” are the primary contributors to your “trust issues”, we should (www.hopeserenity.ca) talk! We can offer some suggestions that will help you deal with these issues. Enjoy the information and I hope you find it helpful! How to Solve Trust Issues in a Relationship

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Getting a job will not make you happy. I know many of you think that it will, but it won’t. In fact, I was reading a survey done by Deliotte Shift. It was a index survey, and they discovered that eight percent of the people who are employed today are dissatisfied with their job. Why? Because happiness is not a set of circumstances, happiness is a skill set that you take on. It’s a set of disciplines. It’s a discipline of being optimistic. That’s a discipline.

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A little stress goes a long way, because it leads to more stress, until you don’t know how to stop the whole process. But there is some good news. An estimated 10% of stress is due to what happens to us such as job loss, accidents, major damage to our home, to ourselves or to a loved one. Here’s the good news, though: 90% of stress is created by our reaction to that 10%! And those reactions can be under your control. Here are some of the ways stress leads to more stress:

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The final weeks are upon us for 2010, and many people are left wondering how much of a shift for improvement they made over 2009. Here are just a few questions you can ask yourself in order to gauge your response… * Was 2010 the year you broke through major barriers that previously held you back? * Was this the year you focused on major self-improvement? * Did your business do better this year (performance, revenue, growth, etc) over last year? For some people, 2010 has been a struggle and trying time. For others, this has been the year of their life! So how about you?

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Do you find yourself always saying 'yes' to other people's requests? Are you up to your eyes doing errands for others because you just cannot turn them down and say 'no'? Looking back on your life and the decisions you made in the past, Have you pursued a path – career or personal – that was different from what you wanted simply because that's what was expected of you? If you answered yes to the above then you, and several hundreds of thousands of people in this world, have a stronger than normal desire to please others over yourself.

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IS ADDICTION A DISEASE? I certainly have my own thoughts on this question. Understanding the “disease” nature of addiction, because it gave me peace of mind, saved my life. Trust me; I’m not trying to be dramatic. From being free of active addiction for over 16 years, I know that the disease can be kept in remission. It took action on my part to get to the place where things are in remission. I belong to several professional “discussion groups” and offer you the following from one of them:r

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KNOW YOUR DREAM You've got to create a dream. You've got to uphold the dream. If you can't, go back to the factory or go back to the desk.rn--Eric Burdonr Way back when, back when I made a decision to go into the “people helping” business as a profession, I had a dream. I formulated the dream through guided study and guided reflection. The first ad I put together for my new business revolved around the “Create a dream” theory and then making it happen.r

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"Practice what you preach" "Be your authentic self" "Living in integrity" "Actions speak louder than words" What the heck does that actually mean? In this advanced technical world where most communication is electronic, where you may never even meet your best friend in real life and have a face to face conversation... how do you create a REAL version of yourself. How do you not get caught up in the illusions and exaggeration, how do you live passionately and fully self-expressed?

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PEOPLE PLEASIN’ TIME OF THE YEAR I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.--Bill Cosby I am so blessed to have the space I do to work in. Today my view through my windows is of crisp white snow and snow clinging to mature cedars at the back of our property. The view reflects the positive state I’m in a majority of the time, and I am ete ally grateful for the changes in my life that allow me to see the beauty all around me.r

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If your head is spinning with all you have to do and the feeling of too much on your plate, here’s one of my favorite quick stress relief tips. Download your brain and get grounded. Holiday stress, worries about money, the pressures of work or running your own business, managing schedules, and trying to figure out how to fit in time for exercise—all those thoughts and conce s require a tremendous amount of energy. When you get busy, or your stress level gets high, it’s too easy to fall into a pattern of chasing your to-do list and reacting to your life.

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When you are in a vicious cycle of too much stress, too many demands, and too much on your plate, the most effective stress busting tips are the ones that you’ll actually be able to implement and that can create a shift in how you feel—quickly. This strategy is one of my favorites. It’s simple, and it won’t bog down your to-do list.r

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Busy, high achieving women tend to be hard workers who expect a lot of themselves. Stress, a crowded schedule, and a never-ending to-do list, are common side effects. Overload, worry, and too much to do can lead to stress eating and emotional overeating, weight gain, insomnia and sleep difficulties, and neglecting the healthy habits and routines that help you fight stress in the first place. This is obviously not a recipe for success.

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DO YOU THINK THINGS OUT? So, you want to transform your life from where it is today to something much different, something you know inside that life should be for you. If that be the case, do you truly think things out? I am not a follower of any religion but have read many “great” books including the Bible. There is an interesting passage in Romans 12:2 where St. Paul says “They are transformed by the renewing of their minds”. It is the concept of renewal and transformation that really interests me. Want a better life then there are some things that must happen.r

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Self respect = Self esteemr Last week I had the opportunity to talk with you a little bit about the meaning of RESPECT. Ultimately, in the addiction world, we have to add SELF into the equation. How important is self respect/self esteem and have I got it?I have had the opportunity to interface with multiple thousands of people who have addiction issues or have been directly impacted by addiction. I have worked individually with hundreds. Let me make a bold statement: “I have never met an active addicted person who has good self esteem (or self respect)”. Chew on that one.

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Selfishnessr Every now and again I reflect back on my life to a time before I started what I know call a “co-creative process of life recovery”. There were many negative qualities that were at work most of the time. One that I really regret is selfishness. I wanted the world to see me as a caring unselfish person. Many of my actions were just that-they looked caring and unselfish. The truth was, all too often, I did things with a motive-what was in it for me? I know this in retrospect.r

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To what extent are you enjoying your life? If you’re feeling more burdened or stressed than delighted these days, ask yourself: what simple pleasures can you give yourself? And when was the last time you did so? We humans have a curious tendency to find creative ways to deny ourselves simple pleasures. You should hear the convoluted excuses my uber-talented coaching clients devise as to why they couldn't possibly, say, sit outside watching clouds for half an hour. It'd be funny if it weren't so sad that they are denying themselves such basic human treats.

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As a child, whenever you were given something tangible (gifts) or intangible (compliments), you were taught to always acknowledge it by saying 'thanks' or 'thank you' because it was the right thing to do. You were being polite. But did you know that being thankful or grateful has other effects on the body as well? Research has shown that gratefulness is good for your health and mental well-being.

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TIGER GETS HONEST “At first I didn’t want to look inward. Frankly, I was scared of what I would find—what I had become. But I am grateful I did examine my life because it made me more grounded tha I’ve ever been; I hope that with reflection will come wisdom.” –Tiger Woodsr This is the first indication that I’ve had that Tiger Woods is starting to “get it”. He must have been working with more than a swing coach!r

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As an intuitive guide, healer, counselor and spiritual life coach, Kate has facilitated personal growth, transformation and soul awakening throughout Texas and the U.S. since 1992. Through her own life journey, as well as her experience as a spiritual "midwife" to others in their healing, she has developed a very REAL and powerful approach to life as a CHOICE.

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Are you an information addict? A news junkie? A Facebook frequenter, a Twitterer or devotee of other social media? A slave to your PDA or fancy phone? The costs of this information addiction is well documented. No wonder it's becoming chic these days to 'go off the grid' for a period of time. There are many good reasons to take breaks from the electronic aspects of our lives. This is especially true for creative and multi-talented people (a.k.a. DaVincis).

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You have probably heard over and over that you need to set goals, I talk about it, and so does everyone else in the coaching and wellness bubble. We also talk about mindset, and some may even tell you to rely on willpower. Proper goal setting is only one part of achieving your health goals. And just changing your mindset and setting goals is made to sound easy. Well, that part is, but what isn't easy is actually following through.

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You know what you should do, but there is something else that holds you back. You “should” eat better, you “should” lose weight, you “should” exercise, you “should” start a budget and make more money, and...and...and...think about all the things that run through your head on a daily basis, there is always something that “should” be done, it’s a never ending to do list. Whether it’s to make yourself or your surroundings better, sometimes to even try and make someone else better. Often times the ideas of what you “should” be doing are coming from exte al influences.

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Here is a simple, effective, easy to follow 6-step process so that you can design your life with greater trust and accuracy. After a thorough research process, I’ve uncovered 6 key steps that unfold during the process of creating your dream life. The research came from a compilation of data from thousands of clients and students over the past 15 years. Specifically, I focused in on those who were successful in breaking through their glass ceiling through spiritual healing.

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Over 40% of employees in the workplace have experienced bullying, a persistent pattern of behavior that intimidates, degrades or otherwise undermines the wellbeing of the target. Bullying is four times more prevalent than sexual abuse, and, according to a study at the University of Manitoba, the outcomes for victims of bullying are worse than are those for sexual abuse victims. So who are the bullies? And who are the targets? It’s easy to envision a quiet, introverted person as the victim of an outgoing, brash person. But it’s not that simple.

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One of the most effective ways to overcome regrets or to overcome events your past is to forgive yourself and others for whatever happened. Forgiveness and self-forgiveness aren't always easy, but the benefits of doing so are many and profound. This article highlights the benefits of forgiving yourself and others as well as providing some detailed tips for doing so. (Please note that this material is excerpted and adapted from my co-authored book, 'Happiness Awaits You').

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How do you love the work that you do? So often the work that you are doing doesn’t feel like it is necessarily your life’s purpose. And yet, you were drawn to this work. If you’re interested in finding work that is your life purpose, and you don’t feel like you are there yet, there is a way to get there. You need to actually begin to accept, appreciate, and honor the work that you do.

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Are you are an information-maniac, a news junkie, a social-media butterfly? If so, you might be hurting yourself more than you think. The costs of information addiction are many and profound. Alas, I know this not only from personal experience ("Hello, my name is Liisa and I'm an info-holic.") but also from many of my coaching clients who share this malady. Let's face it: multi-talented, creative people are, by definition, interested in many, many things. We appreciate ideas. It's natural to want more. And more. But there's a point after which, the pain outweighs the gain.

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So what actions can you take today to immediately take advantage of the power of gratitude? The first thing that I’d recommend is something that I recommend to all of my coaching students when they come to me. That is the 10/10 visualization process. I’ve coached 8,000 people over the years, and most of them have come to me in some sort of stuck state. That’s generally where people come to me. They’re stuck in some way, and one of the quickest ways to get unstuck is through a process of gratitude and visioning, and that’s what the 10/10 visualization is.

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"Productivity" has kind of a bad rep -- it smacks of automation and soullessness. But honestly, do you know of any successful creative person who isn't productive? By definition, successful talented people produce works in their chosen media. The cousin of productivity is efficiency -- which basically means making good use of your time. I'm not talking about scheduling every moment of your week. I don't mean turning yourself into some kind of 'Type A' whirlwind. What I mean by productivity and efficiency is doing more of what's really important to you -- and less of what isn't.

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A few weeks ago, while vacationing with my family in Park City, I injured my low back ice-skating with my daughter Jenna. It was quite painful and required me to lay low for a couple of days. I watched a few movies, did some reading and caught up on emails. Some of the email promotions really “pulled me in” and got my full attention, while I found others far less interesting, causing me to leave the promotion quickly. What was the difference? What caused me to “linger” or “leave”? This got me thinking about how Smart Women have a clear marketing message.

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A few weeks ago, I took some time to evaluate where most of my clients come from and the two areas where I consistently receive highly qualified clients are referrals from happy clients and public speaking. It’s essential that you spend your valuable time doing the things that consistently bring you the clients that you love to work with. This week, I’m going to focus on public speaking as I get many questions from Smart Women on this topic.

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TOP TEN REASONS I USE From my friend Patrick Meninga at “Spiritual River”, I want to share this article with you. If you see yourself in it, you need to talk with someone before you become a statistic! The Top 10 Excuses that Addicts and Alcoholics Use to Justify Their Addiction – and Why it is All BS Excuse #1: “I have to drink/use drugs in order to work or continue to be successful.” Oh really? Is that why you…. Perhaps the real truth of the matter is….rn…your career actually suffers due to your addiction, rather than being empowered by your drinking or drug use.r

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As a multi-talented person, you've got a lot going on. It's very easy to be pulled in multiple directions, pretty much every day. Sure, you intend to write that novel/update that reel/submit that painting to the juried competition...but then the car battery dies and your sister gets sick and your buddy needs a favor and suddenly it's Friday and you haven't spent five minutes on your most important creative project. To keep yourself on track, establish the habit of using regularly scheduled weekly reminders of your talents and creative projects. WHY BOTHER?

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seven months old, that all changed. He went to bed later and woke up two hours earlier. I was NOT a fan!

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Henry Ford once asked one of his young automotive engineers, "What is your life ambition?" The young man said, "I want to become very rich." A couple of days later, Ford approached the engineer and instructed him to put on a pair of glasses, which instead of having glass lenses had silver dollars in the frame. Then he asked the engineer, "What do you see?" "Nothing," the guy replied. Having made his point, the auto giant said, "Then maybe you should rethink that ambition of yours." The man had money right in front of his eyes, but he couldn't see it.

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Growing up I truly did not believe I had an athletic bone in my body. Participation in sports was not praised in my household, particularly by my father, who seemed to have a personal vendetta against any and all jocks, particularly those of the football-playing variety. The very unkind words coming from a fellow third grader (who shall remain nameless) during a game of gym class volleyball didn’t help either.

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The more interesting and enlightening you are, the more people will welcome you into their lives and the more opportunity will abound. Learning is not limited to going to school or getting a degree. It's surprising that many people stop feeding their minds after a certain point. For some, that point is high school graduation; for others, it's graduating from college. A large university once took a survey of its recent graduates and found that 90 percent hadn't read a single book since they'd left the university.

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I spent the night at my dad's house, because my sister lives there and is going to watch B as I attend an all day conference in Austin. I get up about 5 am and lucky me, B gets up at that same time once he hears me stir. He has never woken up at this time, but he refuses to go back to sleep, so I prepare a bottle. I'm in a hurry, because I'm supposed to leave at 545 am (or that's my goal) not anticipating B to wake up (isn't that always the case though?).

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On certain days, you know what today holds…school, work, pick your kids from school, making dinner, doing homework, and then getting to sleep later than you expected. As a single mom on other days you wake up and you pull yourself out of bed, knowing it's going to be that kind of day…a crazy, chaotic day. You wake up in plenty of time to get ready, yet you find yourself leaving late…again. You're stressed driving your kids to school. You're moody and cranky. It's going to be a day alright.

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Core Desires are those things you have your heart set on- what you want to be, have, or do most. One might think that identifying these Core Desires would be easy, but people often tell me, "I don't know what I want, please help me." This dilemma affects people of all age groups and crosses all political, social, and economic lines. People tell me that they don't know what they want to be, have, or do when they "grow up." They are still searching. NO SENSE OF OBLIGATION

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The other day, I was at another birthday party for a one-year old. (I didn't realize so many people I know had babies around the time I did.) I start talking with a couple about babies, as the wife is holding my son. I ask if they are ready for one. As the lady says yes, her husband shakes his head no. I ask, "NO?" He replies, "I'm scared."

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"I win!!!"

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Many years ago, when I was teaching karate, I could usually tell how well my students would perform from their motivation to learn in the first place. Often it was just a passing fancy, an ego trip, or a belt. But for others it was a burning desire.

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Family life is always in flux, and sometimes these changes can be subtle, or take place over time. It is easy to say that we all need to achieve balance in our lives, but it can be hard to do-especially when we think balance means spending equal time in each area of life. Mothers can't comprehend how to achieve balance with just one child, let alone three or four. Likewise, career people often feel that they are too busy to achieve balance-that their job controls too much of their time.

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I love sleep. Before having my son, I would sleep ten hours a night... and even sometimes take a nap. I love sleep.

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Do you ever have those days or even though moments where you find yourself saying, "Only another single mom would understand?" Whether it's your baby rolling over for the first time, your child going off to kindergarten, or your teenager dating, there are just some things that only another mom will understand. When I was single and childless, I thought I understood. I thought I got it. When my friends with kids would say they were busy, I always thought, Really? Aren't we all busy? When they would say they were tired, I thought, Yeah, so am I.

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Passion is such a buzzword right now, so many times I have people come and say to me, if I only knew what my passion was I could change my life and be happy. It is like they are some big secret, something that is hidden from them that if they could only see everything would be great. Having specifically worked with passions for a while now I have to reveal a secret – your passions are not something that are hidden away from you, something to be discovered that you haven’t previously allowed yourself to see.

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As another year winded down and a new one begins, I feel a sense of pressure. Don't get me wrong I'm excited to see where this next year leads, but there's this thing creeping up. I have successfully pushed it away before, but I feel it coming again. I used to work in a restaurant, so every New Year's Eve I would always be working. This year so much has changed. One of those things was that I committed full time to my business, and that's made all the difference in my life and success. Since I didn't work New Year's, it's my first one where I could actually make plans. But I didn't have any.

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B and I go on our second play group to a music sensory, and I'm not sure how it's going to go. The first play group with other moms and kids we went on two weeks ago could have gone better. There were about 25 moms everywhere and even more kids. I was overwhelmed, and he was over-stimulated.

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I left the house yesterday in time for a meeting. I was so proud of myself that I had managed to leave in time, with my son in tow. I reversed out of the driveway and made it as far as the mailbox, when I realized I had a flat tire. Not just a flattening tire. I'm talking a completely flat-don't-bother-trying-to-go-anywhere flat tire. Lucky for me, my mom lets me borrow her car. The problem is I don't have the phone number of the lady I am meeting. So I have no way to tell her I will be late. All I can do is hope she is still going to be there when I finally arrive (which she is).

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When things first happen, they don't always appear how they should be. They may seem daunting or scary. They may not be what you want or how you planned. Life may not be working the way you envisioned it would. I had a plan for my life. I have always been career driven. Even before I graduated from college, I knew I wanted to be someone... to do something spectacular. Who and what that was, I didn't know. I just knew I wanted it... almost desperately.

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Being a first time mom changes you. You can't help but have it change you yet you are still the same person. I'm still the same goofy, adventurous, sarcastic, Type A personality person I was before. I still like the same things and talk to the same people. I'm still driven by passion and the desire to help others in their quests. I still long to find the man of my dreams (wherever he is) and experience that everything-I-do-I-do-it-for-you kind of love.

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How important is your time? I know, I know, it's important. You likely don't have enough time in your day, but how are you using the time you have? Are you doing the dishes by hand when you could be running the dishwasher. It may cost you a few more dollars a month, but are those few dollars worth the time you spend on doing dishes by hand? Or is doing the dishes manually your downtime? Is it relaxing? Does it allow you to be calm and peaceful?

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What would $1,000 mean to you? Could it change your life? As a single mom, the decision to attend college may not be easy. You make a list of the pros and cons for going back to school. You really want to go. You know in the long run it will benefit you and your family, but you feel a financial burden. You're doing okay now with the money you have, but when you go back to school, you won't be able to work as much or you'll have to take out student loans.

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When I read a recent article citing single mothers for the recent decline in newspaper sales I was appalled. I couldn't believe Chris Powell, the Managing Editor of the journal Inquirer, actually blamed single moms for his not being able to sell more newspapers. What shocked me even more than his blame is his description of single moms...

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When a person persists at a task, we say that person has determination or motivation. But where does that determination come from? Some would say it comes from dedication, commitment, or sense of duty. But I believe that Core Desires are the sole source of both the determination and the motivation that are critical for success. If you are not pursuing a Core Desire, you won't be very motivated or dedicated. You won't pursue something relentlessly unless it is a Core Desire.

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Having a mentor I an integral part of getting where you want to go and achieving what you want to achieve, as fast as possible, with the fewest mistakes. I consider mentors to be key components of maximizing your Conquering Force.

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Everyone wants, and needs, friends-especially close friends. You can never say that you truly just want to be left alone, that you don't want or need to have any close friends. It's a Core Desire for human beings to interact with others-to like and be liked, to love and be loved. Close friends permit you to open up and have fun. They like and accept all the things that make you you-the good, the bad, and the ugly. True friendship allows you to feel safe with another person, to be accepted by others-in spite of the things you do wrong and in spite of your idiosyncrasies.

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My heart is sad. You send your kids... your babies off to school. You entrust others to watch over, care for, and feed them. It would never occur to me that food my child may eat would be tainted. How does this happen? How are people that irresponsible and careless? That something so preventable would kill 22 children and leave several others seriously sick?

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Success is not found somewhere out there-success resides inside, for each of us. You already have what it takes to succeed in life. You were born with all you need. Your birth certificate doesn't come with any guarantees of success, but when you were born you came fully equipped with talents, abilities, desires, and choices. As you grow and progress through every stage of life, you discover that there are things you really want-things you now have your heart set on. As you identify those things and make wise choices, your success is assured.

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Humanity is born with an inquisitive nature. Why in some cases is this delightful nature mysteriously concealed in discouragement? Discouragement is a negative habit some people develop through repetitious pessimism. So why does pessimism exist. Why is there such diversity in the perception of life if we are truly one people? Can we qualify, quantify and clarify the human dis-ease? I believe the answer to this question along with the answer to a great life is a simple, "YES!" My wife uses the term, "If, Dog, Rabbit," to describe the profound questions of life.

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I love to watch my daughter learn to walk - her tentative steps grow more confident each day. About half of the time she makes it across the room to whatever piece of furniture she can grab and about half of the time she falls on her bottom. There are times when she cries out for me when she lands or gives up and crawls to her destination while other times when she looks slightly startled and then stands back up again and continues walking. Each day she’s more likely to do the latter.r

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When trying to disce your Core Desires, pay close attention to the responses and emotions elicited by the Search Question. You could overlook a key phrase, comment, or feeling if you are not careful. Emotions are not always easy to sense or detect.

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Have you ever marveled at how a couple dancing can flow with grace and energy and then your eyes shift from seeing them as singular entity and you distinguish the distinct movements of each person? While as a couple the dancers display harmony, each dancer also expresses his or her character and gestures that are their own. Each person has their own essential way of moving, yet the two dancers move in union, their steps inform one another and there’s creativity and play in their interactions.

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During our daily lives or in the midst of extraordinary circumstances, we often come upon worthy causes to donate to. However, because of one of any number of reasons we fail to make the donation. When you give even a little bit to an organization that helps others, you are making a positive impact. Just as multiple rain drops can cause a flash flood, your few dollars combined with the few dollars that thousands and millions also donate can change lives. So, why do good people hold back from donating when they really want to?

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In 2009, we’ve seen some extraordinary events and were dealt some harsh pills to swallow. We’ve experienced great hope and happiness as well as great pain and suffering. We’ve felt the highs of hope and the results of recession. There are many lessons to learn.

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We human beings are social beings. Oftentimes, we forget that we are social beings. It is important to remember this, not just when there is a loss of some sort in our lives but all the time. When you are too busy pursuing your career and financial goals, you loose your ability to connect with other human beings. How are your social connections? If you work for a large company, are you aware that company is a social system? Your community is a social system and if you have a large enough family, that is a social system. Are you aware of the social system that you belong to?

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It’s so easy to get caught up in daily life that we often go through it without thinking. I find this rather funny. So much of life can just run on auto-pilot. When our lives are running on auto-pilot, where’s our mind? When I began to pay attention to what was going through my mind, I was fascinated... and a little freaked out. I noticed that when I felt anxious, I was thinking some terrible, nasty thoughts.

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Have you ever had a moment that you needed to be forgiven? I have had many along the way. There is something healing within that process, when it is genuinely given or received. Forgiveness is not forgiveness if we seek it or gives it from a negative place, or to show we are better than, or to be socially/politically correct. Regardless if you are the giver or receiver of forgiveness, if you are still mad, pissed off, or have negative feeling toward the other person; you most likely did not have a real encounter with forgiveness in that particular moment.

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In addition to spending Thanksgiving with your family this year, why not start a new tradition and have a “Friends Thanksgiving”? This is a great way to spend time with and honor your friendships, and the families of your friends. As an annual event, your friends and their children will be excited year after year as the event approaches and everyone can spend the day together once again. My friends have been gathering for Friends Thanksgiving for 7 years in a row. Here’s how we do it. There is normally a core set of friends that host the event.

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The current recession has proven that just having a job is not enough anymore. Millions of people around the world have lost their jobs and now have no income stream. Multiple streams of income is the safest way to ensure you and your family’s financial health. In good times, you’ll have income from your job and from your business. If you are the victim of a layoff, you can use your business as backup income.

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If I told you to go out and try something new and mess it up, could you? When I first heard that suggestion, I cringed. I grew up as a perfectionist, and messing something up did not fit into my view of the world. When we want to make changes in our lives, we need to try new things. Trying new things means that we might mess it up as we figure it out. Going into business for myself, I have been slowly learning how to do something and mess it up. I will be honest with you: some days it's hard to stomach.

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Usually in midlife there are some major events that occur that trigger the need for you to reinvent your life. Here are some guiding principles that will be your constant companions in this life reinvention project that you are going through. You are an amazing person of resource, power and strength: Repeat that statement and make it your mantra. You may feel a little beat up and you may not know it, but I am here to tell you that I know that you are an amazing person. How do I know? I know because I know that you have an Inner Genius within you that you may not have fully explored.

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A new year means new beginnings, an opportunity to renew the self. A time to start fresh, we enjoy creating resolutions and setting new goals. The energy of a new year brings a renewed sense of hope as many people look forward to making personal changes in their life. The pure positive vibration of hope for new adventures, new opportunities and new life experiences is nature’s most transforming medicine. Hope energizes the body at a cellular level.

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Do you have a resolution for 2010? Now that we’re half-way through February, how’s your resolution going? My two 2010 resolutions are “listen” and “allow.” For me, resolutions are not about a hard, fast, painful commitment to change. Rather, they are like a light that shines on my life to help me find a new way. I’ve noticed a few slip-ups on my resolution, yet I believe it’s perfect.

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If you have a mission in life, I bet you have days where you’re thrilled to be serving the greater good and days when you’re not sure you’re going to accomplish what you’ve set out to do. We’re bound to encounter obstacles that slow us down or make us feel like we can’t get where we want to go. Every new challenge is a chance to learn something new about why we’re here and how we can serve the world. Growing through challenges Hard work, negativity from others, and waves of doubt are things we will encounter on our journey.

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Everyone who has met a little child has seen it; the amazement of a little child. The child sees a bus, and gets all excited about it, it sees a dog, and can’t sit still in its pram. It sees things that we grown-ups are all too blind to notice; it expresses its enthusiasm with the whole body and is deeply disappointed when we cannot share its experience. We have long ago got used to dogs and buses and we weed out all the irrelevant details we pass by every day. We have forgotten how thrilled and amazed we once were about these things.

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As you discover and understand the body’s chakra system, you will discover values principles and tools that will enable to you to create the life and business of your dreams. Your Chakra system refers to a system of energy flow in your body. Your body is intuitive and it speaks to you. You experience many feelings in your body but you may not be aware of them. The Chakra system is an Ancient Sanskrit tradition that addresses the flow of energy in the body. Each of the seven chakras speak to where emotions can lodge in your body energetically.

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I had a great realization the other day, thanks to one of my friends. There will always be too much to do. This may sound like a funny realization, but it completely changed my perspective. I was fretting about my to-do list, which was growing faster tha I was tackling it. I also had plenty of things I wanted to do that I was too afraid to write down, fearful of making my list even longer. I was feeling quite overwhelmed! For some reason, I thought that when I left my corporate job to coach full-time, I would have excess time on my hands.

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It seems like everyone is far too busy. Too many things going on, places to be, details to remember, things to do. When we are busy to the point of exhaustion, we lose touch with who we are and what is important to us. We are on automatic pilot and don’t have time to think about what we want or what would make us happy. We just go-go-go onto the next thing without another thought. Are you wondering if this busyness is “normal,” or if things are too complicated in your life?

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Life offers few guarantees. Some days I wish I had a sure-fire plan to make my life turn out exactly as I want. I bet you have those days, too. Wouldn’t a guarantee on everything be great? Perfect boss. Dream house. Well-behaved children. Steady income. Luxurious vacations. It would be so easy if they were just guaranteed, wouldn’t it? Think about it for a moment. If you were six years old and learning addition and you were guaranteed a perfect score on your test, would you keep studying? Some of you may, but not everyone would.

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It is important to incorporate jou aling into your daily life. The purpose of a journal is to draw out what is within you. Jou aling is a wonderful process because it combines both left brain and right brain activities and synthesizes both experiences. Writing tends to be logical and sequential. Yet, when you get lost in it, your right brain creativity kicks in. You may want to keep several types of jou als. You may want to keep an unlined journal and a lined journal. This is where you get to be creative in your life.

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What brings us to a point of change? The answer to that question can be extremely complex when we explore all the events that occur in our personal lives and the impact of society and the environment and a hundred other variables outside of our control. It is human nature to ask the question, “Why?” And it is human nature to want to make sense out of our experiences especially when those experiences are negative.

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We’ve been misled. Seriously misinformed where love is conce ed. Most of us have been taught that in order to love we need to share our hearts – give our heart to someone else. In other words, someone comes along and we “fall” for that person. Our heart opens, we yearn, we court and then, if everything works out, we share. At this point we have to let the person into our heart and we go into their heart. Now we each have a part of our heart sort of disconnected, and we’re housing a piece of another’s. This is how we often view love. Does this sound right?

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Have you ever had a moment that you needed to be forgiven? I have had many along the way. There is something healing within that process, when it is genuinely given or received. Forgiveness is not forgiveness if we seek it or gives it from a negative place, or to show we are better than, or to be socially/politically correct. Regardless if you are the giver or receiver of forgiveness, if you are still mad, pissed off, or have negative feeling toward the other person; you most likely did not have a real encounter with forgiveness in that particular moment.

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Distractions are a part of life, and struggling is totally human. When we’re struggling with something, we often seek distraction to avoid sitting amidst the frustration. In moderation, distractions can keep us from burning out. However, allowing distractions in for too long stops us from reaching our goals. I was recently working with a client I’ll call Janet. She’s a business owner.

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What is the definition of success? Is it breaking even or making a sizable profit after twelve months? Do we put so much into the end result that what gets us there ceases to matter? Success starts in allowing yourself to dig deep to identify what you need to do to get you where you want to go. It is having the courage to be honest enough to yourself to know that there are no limitations as to how successful you can be.

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“You must be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi “Being first” - now there is a provocative phrase. It can mean varied and different things, depending on your perspective. Being first can mean winning a contest of some kind, being victorious. It can mean putting yourself at the top of the list and ensuring that you look after your own needs first. Being first can mean getting away from the “to do” lists and activities and taking reflective, quiet time to nurture your spirit. After all, we are human beings, not human doings.

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One of the words that is used a lot in everyday conversation is the word “but.” Usually, it’s considered to be a pretty benign word, or at least that’s my impression given the way in which it’s carelessly bandied about. I mean it’s a fairly small word, seemingly innocuous enough. I think, grammatically-speaking, it would be a conjunction, although I’m not really sure of that, so don’t quote me. All this being said, what I want you to think about for a moment is the inherent meaning of the word “but”. When you use this word.

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Today I was coaching someone who wants to make a career change. Besides the advice of asking her to recall what she loved to do as a kid that made time fly, I told her to go to a place where she could imagine what having her dream career would feel like. Not what she'd be doing, specifically, just how good it would feel.

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You hear how important it is to be 'motivated'. Have you ever wondered why many people set goals and do not reach them, and why so many New Year's resolutions go unfulfilled? The key is what lies behind the goals, the resolutions and the motivations. Motivation is about willpower and specific achievement. Motivation is mental and logical, and is usually exte ally driven, either by the expectations of others, by fears or by problems. For example, you may have sales quotas, or a bonus structure at work intended to motivate you to produce results.

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Henry David Thoreau said, "If one advances confidently in the direction of one's dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours" and I have found this to be true. There is power in action. Not undirected action or staying busy to avoid your feelings, but action toward your dreams. We all have dreams. Some so buried or latent that we may not even remember what they are, but we all have dreams. Now is the time to take them out, dust them off and begin taking steps toward bringing them into reality.

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They say that knowledge is power, so here is some knowledge about food, dieting, and health to empower you for life. Although this information is good for everyone, I’m particularly directing it to all you Baby Boomers, people who are roughly ages 45 – 65. If you are a Baby Boomer, you are well into midlife, you are most likely 20 – 70 lbs overweight, and you are probably experiencing some sort of chronic illness or pain, as well as some physical and mental deterioration.

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In today's fast-paced world of business and personal life we have a number of ways in which we can get and stay connected with each other. Through the wonders of technology we can connect across the globe instantaneously through satellite, e-mail, telephone and cell phones. We can precisely know the location of a person or vehicle anywhere in the world with the aid of a GPS system. We have PC's, laptops, Blackberries, palm pilots and other electronic devices that allow us to connect, schedule, read e-mail remotely and be as up-to-date as possible.

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“The reality is…” Years ago, when I was first engaged in my training to be a professional life coach, I learned in a pretty dramatic way how the use of this simple and fairly pervasive statement was a sure-fire way to keep me from creating life as I actually want it. The phrase itself is brilliantly seductive; I mean, who wants to argue with reality? Well, in the interest of serving what I believe to be my purpose, I’m going to give it a valiant effort. How often do you find yourself using the phrase, “The reality is…”? And what’s it generally in reference to?

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In the present day business world, business leaders face more pressures than ever. And the dynamics of today’s business world requires that multinational CEOs remain on top of their game in every stratum of their jobs so as to stay ahead of contemporaries and competitors. Ideally, modern business leaders have had to contend with rapidly changing markets, technologies and workforces, increased financial and legal scrutiny . . . and more.

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Love, money, laughter, accomplishment, & fame are what we typically think of when we want something pleasurable in our lives. But do they really bring us pleasure? Within all of them lies a way to find temporary or permanent pleasure.

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Healthcare Reform in the United States has been getting a lot of press lately, and one thing seems certain; we continue to place a monetary value on life. Something that should be a right is being used for extreme profit and individuals all across the world pay the price. No matter where you are in the world, you cannot count on a government or privatized healthcare system.

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In all of our lives, there have been circumstances where things turned out differently than we thought they should have when looking back. Regret is when we feel sorrowful for those results and wish that something different resulted. Regret is born from our non-acceptance of what has happened. Though we cannot change what has happened, we hold the wish for something different in our minds. We may think that we should have done something differently to avoid the situation all together or to change the results. However, our suffering over what has happened is what we create right now.

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The first book I read by Erma Bombeck was "If Life is a Bowl of Cherries, What Am I Doing in the Pits". I was hooked after that. And when her poem, If I Had My Life to Live Over came along, I was even more inspired by a woman who could write such a profound poem after being diagnosed with cancer. Ms. Bombeck's poem encourages us to live each day in the moment, take nothing for granted and enjoy the abundance we have been given. Ms.

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The following is a list of things I'd like to get done, preferably in the next 16 to 22 minutes: * Read the growing pile of extremely interesting-looking books that is currently residing on the floor next to my couch (including The Power of Now, A New Earth, The Conscious Heart, The Lightworker's Way, The Artist's Way, The Vein of Gold, and My Stroke of Insight) * Redesign my website to reflect new testimonials I've received, updated packages I'm offering, and lots of other things I can't think of right now * Come up with a new format for my blog that includes ALL of the thing

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I recently returned from an 11-day vacation in Costa Rica with my husband. This was a real vacation. No computers. No cell phones. No plans for spiritual or work retreats. There was no one to meet and nothing to do but play for 11 days. I was so looking forward to it that I wasn’t expecting what ...

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Are you currently doing things that may be negatively affecting your love relationship? We don’t always understand the impact of the things we do or say until it’s too late. It’s important to avoid the things that inadvertently hurt or push our partner away. Here are 10 things you should never do in a love relationship…ever! 1. Don’t stop falling in love over and over again

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You have done a lot of visioning work and inward searching to find your life's true calling and purpose. You are excited about your newfound clarity. You are willing to move out of your comfort zone and take the necessary action to make it happen. But, you are unclear about what your next action ...

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Having been a self-development trainer for many years I have come to the conclusion that when looking at the many life skills that humans need to master in order to mould for themselves a joyous, fulfilling and creative life, accelerated learning skills are probably the most important of all. ...

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I have a good friend that recently decided to move her family back to her home state. To save money, she and her husband decided to live with her mom and dad temporarily. They both found jobs, and everything was looking good for them. She then began putting a lot of unnecessary pressure on ...

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Are you ready to change your life for the better? Then let’s get started! Regardless what it is that you want to create or experience, you need to start at the beginning. As all of the best wisdom of our day suggests, a clear dream and focus are necessary to start your journey. Buy a small ...

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Your reality, ultimately, is a reflection of your thinking; particularly, when your thoughts are expressed through speech and writing. From birth you are programmed like a computer. Data and programs go in and stay there unless you make a decision to purge them. Sometimes you are unaware that ...

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It can be a challenging time when our world as we know it shifts beneath out feet. One of my favourite quotes is: Don't worry about having the carpet pulled from under your feet; learn to dance on a shifting carpet. That's the key right now, and it all depends on where your focus is and what ...

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Coaching proves to be one of the most essential components of our lives right from the day that we become aware of the environment surrounding us. Coaching is very essential for the normal growth of the child. Coaching for growth will also apply to an individual who wants to grow in his career ...

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There are a lot of frightened people out there. We tend to allow our minds to go to the worse case scenario, and then come up with new ways things could get worse. This state of mind only makes our fears appear more real and present. These fear-based images and self talk can be so powerful ...

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Joblessness, loss of investments, and lack of available credit with no end in sight are all ingredients in creating recession depression. Top economists predict that the recession will deepen in 2009 and will begin recovery mid 2010. So, what can we do to keep ourselves optimistic during this ...

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A member of a group that I manage said: "When we step back and view what is occurring from the bigger picture, we see very positive changes unfolding in many, many areas around the world." My response - “I agree!!!" Upon reading this, I’d like to hear your thoughts … Our ...

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This article is all about personal responsibility. When it comes to living your life in alignment with who you are and what's important to you, it is imperative that you take responsibility for all aspects of your life. Feelings, responses, actions, reactions, choices -- these all fall under ...

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Feelings are very underrated. In my book, Unlimited Life: Limiting Beliefs and Belief Busting Power Truths, I discuss how our beliefs define us. I discuss in the book, and in past articles how limiting beliefs prevent us from creating the life that we desire. A question that comes up often is, ...

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Lately I’ve noticed a behavioral trend occurring among clients, my friends and myself. We are recognizing the importance that joy plays life. The problem for many of us is that after being workaholics and Super moms for years, we don’t know what real joy is – or how to find it. I have always ...

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When it comes to spirituality and our personal relationships, common themes will emerge. Whether we are discussing a marriage, a work relationship, or the relationship between a stranger and ourselves, the themes of acceptance, control, respect, and “it takes two” will emerge over and over ...

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As the #1 Online Life Coach, the biggest questio I'm asked by the successful entrepreneurs I work with is "How do I get to the next level?" My answer is simple: say, "No" to 80% of your deals. We have all heard of the "80/20 Rule", but 98% of all entrepreneurs do not follow it. They are deathly ...

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This morning I had a bit of a hiccup with my first grader. As she inspected the lunch that I had made for her, she announced that she no longer likes the vegetarian chicken nuggets that have been the main staple of her diet, for the last 4 years. I calmly told her that, after all, she has ...

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What is Leadership? Leadership covers many skills including, the vision, influencing, change, confidence, motivation, strategy, integrity, personality indicators and more... General Many believe that 'leaders are born and not made'. It may be useful to be born with certain qualities that ...

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An anonymous member writes: “I am going to give (name deleted) your phone number - it's her turn to take care of herself.”nn… when we have done everything we know (and God knows we give it everything) … except permission … permission to believe it’s okay to ...

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At the rate in which people are constantly and quickly moving from one project, social event, relationship, freeway, party, job, etc. to another I feel like we are really a race of Humans Racing rather tha Humans Being. Also, in the age of information, whether we are at home, the office, the ...

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That's usually the response, along with a puzzled look on their face. How could a life coach possibly help me, I don't have any problems with my life? Life Coaching isn't just about solving problems. It's about making your whole life better. It's a way for you to hone in on the things that are ...

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The financial markets are extremely uncertain. Last week we had the worst week in DOW’s history and Monday we saw the greatest gains ever. People are losing their homes due to foreclosure or the value of their house is now less than what is owed on it. Layoffs are on the rise. Business ...

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We're 4 weeks into a new year, and many of you have likely given up on whatever new year's resolutions you set. Don't beat yourself up; new year's resolutions are inherently fraught with barriers to success -- but that's not what this article is about. Instead, this is the first in a series ...

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You may be pushing your partner out of your life. Your fears, guilt, doubt, past experiences and feelings of unworthiness may drive you to doing and saying terrible things to the one you like or love. Whether you are doing this consciously or unconsciously, you could be pushing away the ...

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Investing in your retirement we usually talk about money, but well in advance and more importantly we need to invest some time to plan ahead, to give yourself a second chance to figure out what you should really be doing with your life. Pre-retirement is a good time to invest in useful guidance, ...

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Some tips and insights to overcome fearful thoughts and emotional states that cause you to contract from others and from your own sense of resourcefulness and joy: 1) Leap! Liberation and empowerment always come dressed in paradox. If you find yourself contracting and holding back and holding ...

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Best selling author Robert Greene wrote the wildly popular book, “The 48 Laws of Power”. The book teaches you step by step how to attain power (by the author’s definition) through intimidation, fear, scape-goating and deception. It provides historical references to how each law was effectively ...

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Most of us have gone about weight loss the wrong way. We view it as a "problem" that we must fight to resolve or cure. In actuality, weight gain is the result of our short term thinking and our life style choices. If you are serious about losing weight and keeping it off, it's time to make the ...

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Being a lifetime perfectionist, it’s taken a lot of bumps and turns in the road to accept the perceived imperfections within myself and in life. I’ve learned that it’s the imperfect qualities that often set us apart from the pack, define who we are and teach us. Laughing at my mistakes is a ...

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Being present and staying in the moment is a key for success. I’ve done my best to stay present, but was humbled by someone during a coaching session the other day – a dog I’ll call Sparky. My client asked for information about Sparky who was ill. During the sessio I was able to connect with ...

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If IFAs and Life Assurance Companies are to compete effectively with the direct sales channels that are trading today and with the many more about to appear in the next 24 months then they must first realise exactly what they have to do. If they want to keep, never mind increase, their market share they must grow, and grow effectively. In fact to stand still is to slowly die because their market share will slowly be eroded. If their aim is to increase their market share they have to come to the realisation that this can only be achieved by recruiting new people.

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For many people, much of life consists of trying to keep a balance, as though they are fighting to keep on their feet amidst a vast crowd of people who are pushing and shoving them around. It seems that life demands we become professional jugglers. We want to do our jobs well, to bring up our children well. To romance our loved ones, to spend time with friends, time with our family and time with ourselves. In this complicated world that we have created, we also want to take care of our homes, our cars, our bodies, our heads, our hearts, our souls.

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We are in a world wide economic downturn. This Valentine’s Day won’t be about the size or the price of the gift one receives. Materialism in this economy would be irresponsible. More of an emphasis must be placed on truthful expressions of love this Valentine’s Day. So, how can we express our ...

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The question that is the gateway to spiritual enlightenment Having been a coach for many years, in addition to having been involved in the training of at least 1400 coaches worldwide, I have come to the conclusion that one of the greatest skills that we, as coaches, possess and need to perfect is the ‘art of the question’. In fact, one could say that another definition of a coach is Master Questioner. It is important to remember that the quality of our life is determined by the quality of questions we ask ourselves. Some people ask themselves very mediocre questions indeed.

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The news that R&B singer Chris Brown physically abused songstress Rihanna placed domestic violence in the spotlight once again. The drama that is playing out in front of millions of people between these two young celebrities is lived by millions of people around the world. This is not just a ...

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Depending on your economic status, you are either having the time of your life, struggling to survive, or frustrated by stagnation and an inability to do anything. Right now, the rich are like children in a free candy store. The poor are fighting to keep their children fed and fear becoming ...

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How often have we lost our focus, allowed others and circumstances to erode our confidence, lost our authentic voice in the midst of pleasing others, delayed pursuing our passion, and feel stuck in less that joyful lives? As women, we tend to push our dreams aside risking frustration, anger and ...

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You may already know that cancer cells become dormant in a body that has an internal pH level of slightly above 7.4. You may also know that cancer cells die in a body that has an internal pH level of 8.5. But what many people don’t look into is how we can create this type of internal ...

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You can learn to enjoy yourself pursuing relationships if you know the secrets to relating and practice them. Beyond a common sense clean physical presentation (you should know most women like this), the essential secret is to be yourself. When you hear this, do you usually start imaging how you would act and speak if you were being yourself? If so, it is probably very frustrating because imagining acting like yourself is an artificial activity. The first step is to relax into yourself and appreciate yourself. You will notice lots of thoughts, lots of thinking about yourself.

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These articles are derived from excerpts from the book How To Find Your Way Back Home All rights reserved Copyright © 1984 by Bess S. Permut © TXu 171-962 First Published in the Arizona newspaper : THE FOOTHILLS FOCUS July 23, 2003 Do Not Accuse People nof Negativityn"Judge Not Lest Ye Be ...

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It is Friday afte oon (UK time) and I am writing to you because I have something that I need to get off my chest. People come to me for answers. They come to me to make a certain part of their lives perform in a way that makes them - Happy. That is what I love to do; it is what makes me - ...

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These articles are derived from excerpts from the book How To Find Your Way Back Home All rights reserved Copyright © 1984 by Bess S. Permut © TXu 171-962 First Published in the Arizona newspaper : THE FOOTHILLS FOCUS July 30, 2003 How To Think When Things Disturb You Dr. Bess S. ...

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Stress. We hear about it everyday. We know it happens to the best of us. We may not be able to define it but we know it when we see it. Usually, when we think about it, thoughts of hectic schedules, frantic days, unpaid bills, and unretu ed phone calls come flooding our minds and start ...

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These articles are derived from excerpts from the book How To Find Your Way Back Home All rights reserved Copyright © 1984 by Bess S. Permut © TXu 171-962 First Published in the Arizona newspaper : FOOTHILLS CHRONICLE (no date shown) Karma Dr. Bess S. Permut Focus columnist We cannot live ...

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Maximized Human Potential and The Law of Love By Dr. Jeaninenwww.SimplyDivineSolutions.comncopyright 2007 11-10-07 I’ve noticed that some of my clients and friends have humorously begun to call me “Dr. Love”. It is a nickname that I thoroughly embrace. What could be a more complimentary ...

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MY COACHING SHOPPING CART – Finding the right goods –Part In© 2008 Hyacinth E. Gooden-Bailey, M.A. Let us start off by making certain stakes very clear. Coaching is a conversation. It is a conversation between and among equals. The coachee is a fully capable and resourceful person, just ...

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Some of us take those road signs for granted - maybe a bit presumptuous at times - such as a sign stating the speed limit. I ignore it and speed on by - - or how about not paying attention and missing the exit which perpetuates me backtracking. Such is life - or is it? With me being ...

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Seeing Beyond Exte als copyright 2007nby Dr. Jeanine When I was a child, I enjoyed watching the 1960s comedy television program The Munsters. For those of you who did not see the original show or the re-runs, the show featured a family of monsters who encounter the same problems as other ...

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Self help is about individual improvement and about the manner in which you can improve yourself, your state of existence and your life. It is connected to many different categories such as health, wealth, happiness, relationships, self esteem, abundance, and the list goes on. It is a concept ...

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How do you verbally express or demonstrate by your actions how you feel about yourself? Is your speech peppered with negative talk, self doubt and your behaviors sabotaging? If so, you will remain stuck and in a constant state of “overwhelm”, confusion, stress. When you use words ...

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To efficiently achieve goals which you want to set, and enjoy the process, let's look at some smart steps to be taken. 1. FOCUS your innate creativity on one, two or three well-defined goals. If they are clearly in view, keep revising as necessary until you get there. 2. IDENTIFY your purpose, ...

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Do you have an old bookcase in your house? Perhaps it’s stuffed with books, papers & magazines. Perhaps it’s empty, or maybe it’s so full of “shtuff” that you’ve forgotten that it’s even a bookcase! A bookcase can be a handy and creative piece of furniture … if you let it. Sure, you can ...

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When I decided to leave the Midwest and return to my home state of Oregon I was heart broke and expecting my oldest daughter. My mother insisted that I come home. Even at twenty one I let her make many decisions for me, especially regarding the relationship between my daughter and her father. ...

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We listen to our thoughts all of the time. Notice your thoughts – if your thoughts – go ahead and quickly close your eyes and notice your inner dialogue. Are your thoughts supportive and in alignment with your idea of happiness and in pursuit of your goals? Or are they more ...

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The following tips are only valid if reviewed repeatedly because they are easily forgotten as we get busy ‘living’. They are clustered here mainly so that you can get a handle on them one at a time rather than try to decipher a whole book of philosophy or theories which leaves you lost and ...

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A hot topic in the media currently is work/life balance, as if we all understand exactly what that means. And we think we do, as we knowingly nod agreement at the latest pundit's advice on gaining a balanced life. What is a balanced life? It may be easier to tell you what it isn't. A ...

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Have you ever been asked the question, “What’s your aim in life?” Have you ever understood what the person asking the question meant? It’s quite a powerful question because it is a pretty direct and incisive way to ascertain what your purpose in life is and what you aim to achieve as a goal. ...

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The Law of Attraction has become a widely used phrase in the metaphysical, spiritual and holistic communities for some time now. Although this rock-solid law of the universe has been around since the beginning of mankind, it is just recently that mainstream America has begun to take notice and ...

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At last, the closely-guarded, little-known habits of the highly mediocre are exposed! After years of unscientific research and observation, we reveal the powerful daily habits in this article. No longer will the highly mediocre have the corner on status quo. By developing these habits, we ...

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Choose a stressless lifestyle? That's very easy to say. Yet it is so important. Our health should be our # 1 priority. We all know that, and still we keep hearing about yet another work mate who is now on the sick-list for several weeks to come. The book stores are filled with books on stress ...

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Someone did you wrong and you’re angry; you’re not justnangry, you’re plotting a way to get even.You can’t wait tonsee that so-and-so, and turn the tables on him. Nations do that, too, on a larger scale; Israelis attack Palestinians in retaliation for a Palestinian ...

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THE FOOTHILLS FOCUS August 13, 2003 Forgiveness ¡V Burdens of Life DR. BESS S. PERMUT Focus Columnistnn The Creator lives close to each of us, within us. Do not allow anyone to erase that thought from your mind. Do not accept any teaching that says the Creator does not exist. The truth ...

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We all have a need for validation -- being told a job was well done or being told that we are valued, wanted or attractive. n Some people have a greater need to be validated than others. n Do you find yourself being drawn to situations or experiences in life where you feel needed? n Check the ...

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So much has been in the news recently about boards of directors, seemingly to be asleep at the wheel while major corporations crumbled. Most boards are designed to provide oversight and guidance to the direction of a business. Good or bad, boards of directors effect the direction of a ...

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THE FOOTHILLS FOCUS October 8, 2003 Love Mercy DR. BESS S. PERMUT Focus Columnistnn On taking office, former President Carter used the words from Micah in his acceptance speech: "What doth the Lord require of me but to do justly and to love mercy and kindness, and to walk humbly with my ...

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Have you ever had one of those weekends where you were just having too much fun? You attended three 8-year-old birthday parties, went to dinner with friends, cheered the Dodgers at a game and hosted a brunch with the extended family – only to wake up Monday morning thrilled at the thought of dragging yourself into the office, to REST. Sometimes we group our “fun activities” in such a way that we are having so much fun, we are too exhausted to enjoy any of it.r

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It's common sense that we all need to manage our stress. But, did you know that managing stress effectively is a matter of life and of health? The Stress Response is a series of biochemical events in the human body designed to help a person respond to some sense of danger in the environment. ...

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Nothing is working, what should I do? Have you ever had that unsettling thought? What happens when you wake up and nothing seems to be working in your life? There is no immediate crisis, but you feel “out-of-step.” Now, because you are a “doer”, you will begin to take a mental inventory of ...

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Does this sound familiar? In addition to showing up at work, doing a fantastic job, keeping hearth and home moving along with enthusiasm and brilliance (and looking great all the while,) you maintain a second career as social secretary to your children. This is the reality of many working moms and for the most part, all is well. We handle it with grace and flexibility. And then, there are times when our child throws another ball into the collection that we are juggling, and we must say no in order to maintain our sanity and the equilibrium of the family.r

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'Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.' Abraham Lincol I'm happy. My Email software has developed a frustrating problem, it's been raining for days, the car has sprung a leak which will be very expensive to fix - and I'm still happy. How can I tell? How can anyone ...

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The word ‘coach’ can either signify a means of transport or a tutor or person who provides guidance and instruction.(Although we know that real Coaches do not advise or dictate). While different meanings entirely, they still have something in common and that is to help and encourage people to move forward. And that is exactly the role that coaches have in the lives of leaders, they facilitate growth and help to build up individuals to become the leaders of tomorrow.

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What is the cost of efficiency? I recently started to realize that although I value efficiency and organization, I have lost some experiences along the way due to my commitment to my LIST. We are constantly making choices in life, and when we choose one option, we eliminate many others. That is to be expected. However, it is useful to know what we are choosing so we can continue to make new choices if our commitments or goals change.r

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Abstract: Answering the question of who am I is the key to personal growth and reaching full potential. Observing what I do is what counts in my personal growth. I am what I do. Coming out of the library the other day, I saw a man in front of me with a tee-shirt emblazoned with the words, "You ...

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If you want to make life improvements, what you believe about life may be your biggest stumbling block. As a self empowered person working to build a better life you may need to adopt the saying that believing is seeing. If you're a person who believes that seeing is believing, you may be ...

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“A battlefield is a battlefield. I don’t care where you are fighting it. Unless you have lived through fearing for your life on a nightly basis, you cannot imagine what war is like." - Dr. Gayle J. Hall. A victim of domestic violence fights for her life on a daily basis, just like a soldier on the front line of combat fights for his. Now, this may be difficult for soldiers to understand and may even make some angry. They may say, “I sure did not see any women out there on the front line with me when I was at war. What the hell! How can you possibly compare the two?”

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For the last 20 years I have read many times that it is very important to have a vision for whatever you want in your life. Perhaps you’ve heard the same – without vision there is no way you can work out your pathway to your destination. Over the years I have worked with my clients on creating a personal vision – what they would like to have their life look and feel like when they have brought everything into balance. It is always much easier to work out the steps you need to take, when you know where you are going.

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I wrote on Facebook recently that when one door closes and another opens. One of the comments was that not only was this true but many times the door that opens is, more often than not, a better door.

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Often, people look back on their day and wonder where the time has gone and why they were not able to accomplish the things that they needed and really wanted to. While it’s certainly true that there are only a limited number of hours within a day that people can use to accomplish the things that they need to do, it’s often not a question of managing your time but more of an act of managing yourself.

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How can you stay on top of things in such a fast changing and progressing environment? How will you manage to attain both personal and organisational goals? How will you maintain your levels of performance in the fast paced fast moving and ever-changing world of work and how will you ever be able to take on new and ever changing challenges and targets ? The answer to these entire questions is- HIRE an executive coach for yourself!

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"PTSD is the fear controlling you. Exposing your fear is controlling your PTSD!" – Anthony Parsons. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, otherwise known as PTSD, is defined as a condition in which a person experiences enduring physical or psychological symptoms after an extremely stressful event or series of events. In World War I, this problem was known as Shell Shock. During World War II, this was called Combat Fatigue. Now, it is known as PTSD.

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Are You in Control of Your Own Life or a Victim of Circumstances? You Can Change All That. Many of us have “Good Days” and “Bad Days” and most of it is out of our control. Or is it? Sometimes we get out of bed and something bad happens right away and we might say, “It’s gonna be a bad day.” The day has barely started and we have already written it off as hopeless. On the other hand, after many days of rain, the sun is finally shining and we feel re-energized and ready to tackle anything.r

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Forgiveness – freeing and comforting I’ve heard a lot about the importance of forgiveness. You probably have too. But what I heard this past week about a benefit of forgiveness, I had never heard before. And it might change - well - everything. Story: The effect of forgiving your bullies

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Do you realize how hard we work at most everything we have in our lives? We carefully choose everything we eat, whether it is choosing from a menu, from the aisles at the grocery store, growing our food, or preparing a meal. We carefully choose so that each meal is just to our liking. Some of us know our bodies well enough that we choose foods that will help us feel the best nutritionally and have the best energy throughout our day.

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Perception is far more important than reality. My seventeen year-old son James and I were talking about playing tennis this weekend and our focus went to how it feels to hit a tennis ball with the racquet. I described it as similar to swinging a badminton racquet with the strings and the sweet spot removed from the grip by a stem. He described the feeling as similar to swinging a ping pong paddle with the strings and the sweet spot connected and adjacent to the grip.

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Is it possible to see the world from outside of our single physically-focused perspective? Isn’t it amazing that we spend our whole lives inside one single body? We always look out through just one set of eyes, hear through one set of ears, taste with one tongue, and touch with one set of hands. We feel with one set of emotions, move with one pair of legs, and always, always exist in only one single location on this amazing planet.

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There is nothing that has ever been done that hasn’t also been done with nothing. That is the nature of our Universe. We have an infinite number of tools to help us accomplish any task. We have an infinite number of nutritionals and pharmaceuticals to aid in any illness. We have an infinite number of doctors, coaches, counselors, and therapists to help us feel better.

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If you are reading this, you are open to learning. If you are open to learning, you most likely have desire to teach others as well. As coaches and teachers, we so much want to help people. We hear them mention something and suddenly we really want to share with them all of the wisdom we have gained with regards to that subject. We share all we know, and try to get them to commit to following our recommended plan of action for them. Funny, many times they are really not interested in doing that.

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'Letting Go' The biggest lesso I have had to learn was to 'Let go'. To trust in all that I had done so far. Trust in the process of creating and then 'Let go'. Believe that I had done enough so that I could allow my mind to wander onto other things. So that I wasn't constantly thinking of all the ways my ideas could/should/would work. I still haven't fully learned to because there is the issue of trust, but I am learning to. Do I trust the Universe to do a better job than me at creating my life's desire?

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Relationship 202 There are a million books out there on relationships – every conceivable kind of relationship. Many were probably written by authors about what they think should work. Some books are written by professionals based on the stories from their clients. Fewer still, like Dr John Gottman’s Love Lab, are based on scientific research. On top of that, everyone has an opinion on what you should do to fix your relationship problems. So what do you do and where do you turn?r

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There are two ways to live your life - one as though nothing is a miracle, the other as though everything is a miracle. -- Albert Einstein Is it just a random event that the Earth rotates perfectly on it’s axis and orbits perfectly around the sun? Is it just a coincidence that the planet maintains it’s atmosphere and temperature perfectly to sustain human life? Is it really out of your control that you couldn’t find a parking spot close to the mall?

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Be careful what you say, because once it’s out there you can’t get it back. Be careful also what you don’t say, because there are effects from holding it in. A client of mine, I will use the name Tom, called for a health consultation and reported he was having his fourth sinus infection within the year. He had no history of sinus disease prior to that, and otherwise was quite healthy. He had been trying to avoid antibiotics this time and wondered if I had any ideas.

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“…but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it.” Voltaire May Rep. Gabrielle Giffords recover. May the families of the injured and dead in Pima County, Arizona find peace and renewal. May we all resolve to promote non-violence and mutual respect. As a hypnotherapist, I find my contention that language is inherently hypnotic to be confirmed in sad and tragic ways in the news on a daily basis. This most recent tragedy is forcing us to look at the level of violence we have cultivated in our political dialogue and at our growing tendency to demonize those we disagree with.r

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Understanding how and why seasonal color analysis can enhance your life through helping you to make the best color choices is worth finding out about! Without it, even the simplest task of choosing what clothes to wear can sometimes take you forever, and even then you are not sure that they are right for you. Color analysis plays a large part in every area of our lives: From waking up in the morning and looking at the sky, to see if it will be a good day for you, to looking at yourself to see if you look vibrant and healthy or weak and pale.

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Women Empowerment does not only come from working in large companies, wearing fancy clothes, managing a team, having your name plate on a desk with your position carved on it. Right now, it is also manifested by women who wish to get more out of life, the work life balance and who work from the comfort of their homes. As Technology evolves it brings along more and more opportunities particularly in home business for women.

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When you have the perfect career, work can become more fun than even having fun. This morning my entire world has turned into a winter wonderland. It is a complete miracle of nature. The foot of snow and the brisk winds have created an artistic swirling re-design of the physical world around me. Smooth white curves and peaks and valleys replace the usual stiff lines of roads, homes, and sidewalks. It looks like a still picture of waves on the ocean. It is truly breathtakingly beautiful.

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In the midst of a faulty economic recovery, high unemployment, continuing foreclosures, and the prospects of inflation or hyperinflation, people around the world continue to focus more attention on things and people that cannot and will not help them in their daily lives than on the work that needs to be done to get their lives back on track. So, what do Prince William, Sarah Palin’s Alaska & Cat vs Gator have in common? Distraction!

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Have you ever wondered what is meant by the statement, “You create your own reality”? Some people feel empowered when they hear this statement. Others think it is ridiculous BS. Those who feel empowered by it sometimes lose their empathy and compassion. They may go around challenging people: “Why do you think you manifested this cancer you have?” making people who buy into that idea feel horrible about themselves. But there is a sane middle ground here. Let’s take a deeper look:

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Are we born with the gift of joy or is it something we learn throughout our lives? If we are born with joy as children, do we start to lose it over time if it’s not practiced?

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If you are like most people, you may often feel as if your mind is tormenting you and there is no escape. Ironically, when the torment is very vivid, our mind is actually dull, lacking in clarity and creativity. Of course we can’t enjoy our mind in such a state and we feel trapped because we lack the clarity and creativity to get out of it. Actually, it can be quite easy to “escape” if you follow these tips:

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Can the COVID-19 Pandemic Get Worse? Almost everywhere we go and everything we do has been altered by conce s about the Coronavirus. It is downright shocking, upsetting, and frustrating. Many people are bored and feel trapped at home and are getting stir crazy. How can we cope with the shock, the stress, the upset of these times? 1. Observe how you feel

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What do you do when you feel stressed?

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By exploring the following points and answering the questions, you will gain clarity on who you are and what type of career would suit you the most. 1) Your True Naturer Who are you at your core? Uncover the natural talents that you were born with. What comes easy for you? What can you naturally do well? This is something we overlook very easily but if you were to ask a friend or family member, they would be able to tell you with no hesitation. There are also online sites where you can learn about personality types that can reaffirm your unique nature. 2) Skills-Past Experiencesr

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Bringing out the best Ponderings... by Glenda Gibbs Several years ago I was working with a couple who were deciding whether they wanted to continue their marriage or bring it to an end; they chose the latter. Both were conce ed about the family gossip. They didn’t want to feed it so what were they to say? I suggested for them to share they were ending their marriage because they were no longer bringing out the best in each other. I also suggested they didn’t need to say any more or less.

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I have come to see over the years of supporting people create the life they want that one of the biggest obstacles to changing your life can be your thoughts. As soon as you decide on a change up surge all the limiting thoughts beliefs and decisions you have made about yourself, the world, the employment market, anything to do with your career, your relationships, what you can and can’t do, any limitation you can come up with. A while ago one client I had said the most powerful thing she had learnt through coaching was not to believe her thoughts!

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Are you tired of continuously trying but never succeeding? Do you sometimes feel that the harder you try the further you get from your perceived destination? It's not because you don't have enough willpower or because you are lacking something. It's because your subconscious beliefs, thought patterns, and emotions don't support your conscious wishes and desires. The beliefs that you hold are the foundation of the perception that you have of yourself and the world around you.

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Have you ever wondered why some people get great results, while others don't? Why is it that for some, achieving goals is easy, while for others, it's a struggle? It all has to do with your subconscious beliefs. Your beliefs are the foundation on which your thoughts, behaviours and actions are built. Some of your beliefs are conscious, and you are aware of them, while others are hidden, nonetheless controlling your decisions and the choices you make every day. So how do you find your subconscious beliefs if you are not even aware of them?

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Getting married is the most enjoyable feeling ever and now that I have a son, I feel so fulfilled. But changes will always happen, some will make you happy and others will haunt you… And there is one change that is starting to haunt me now!

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Finding a new job in the summer seems intimidating to many people. The prospect of job hunting, only to be rejected, keeps potential workers from realizing some of the best opportunities available. Summer is often the best time to make a career change. What you Need to Know If you want to find a new job this summer, think positive. Many career resources are available. With effective job search techniques, the occupation of your dreams may be just around the corner. You need to know that: * Summer is a good time to revive your search strategies * There is less competitionr

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In the last article in this series, I talked about some yoga asanas, or poses, that can help us restore our focus and motivation as we work — without even getting up from our desks. In this article, I’ll speak more generally about how yoga helps us develop what I call Awareness and Allowing — two capacities that are key to giving us the efficiency and enjoyment we want in what we do.

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In the last part of this series, I suggested that we can actually enjoy marketing when we’re able to tap into our natural compassion and conce for others. As I said, I think this often requires us to let go of the ways we protect ourselves from getting hurt when we interact with another person. For example, if we’re at a networking event, and we’re worried that others won’t take seriously what we have to offer, maybe we’ll loudly brag about our products and services, not letting anyone get a word in edgewise.

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In the last issue of Core Connections we talked about the vital importance of making the connection between you and your Inner Wisdom. To clarify what your Inner Wisdom of Success is, consider this. Before you started this journey called Life, your Spirit created a “blueprint” that among other things, contained all the questions about all the challenges and obstacles you would encounter during this lifetime, as well as all the answers and solutions. Then you tucked this blueprint away somewhere deep inside your soul, in a place only you could access.

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I admit it — I have moments when I doubt the value of everything I do in my life. I doubt whether I’m really interested in my work. I question whether the relationships in my life are worthwhile. I seriously consider whether I’d prefer a life of solitary, cave-dwelling meditation. I think doubt is wonderful.

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Lack of self confidence affects women more than men because of the way we’re wired. Women have been wired to be more intuitive and nurturing than men, and therefore the hormones and other factors in a woman’s brain affect the way she sees herself. Her intuitions and sense of nurturing also cause her to worry and care more about how other people see her. But, there are ways you can gain more self confidence despite your hormones and wiring. 1. Recognize that you lack self confidence. Before you can overcome lack of self confidence, you must recognize what it is.

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I was working with a client recently who was terribly challenged by a very old block that forced her to hold back from expressing herself freely and authentically.

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Perhaps the easiest thing to do in the world is to procrastinate…but only if there were no deadlines that exist. With tons of work waiting for your attention and action, there’s just no way you should waste time. Below are some useful tips that will help you stay focused throughout the day: #1: Evaluate How You Use Your Time

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I shudder a little when I think about some of my old working habits. One of these habits was to do what I now call “pushing the moment.” When I’d be under time pressure, or I just wanted a task off my plate quickly, I’d tighten up my shoulders as I worked — as if I were physically trying to push the project to completion. Not surprisingly, my shoulders used to get sore pretty often. Today, when I work with someone who’s looking for focus and motivation in what they do, we often discover they’re doing the same thing.

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Making a decision is regarded as one of the most difficult things all of us have to do every single day of our lives. It is also one act that defines an individual who has a role of a leader. Although it is given that managers and company leaders are the ones who should make huge decisions, not all of them are open to this idea. In fact, many leaders of organizations don’t seem to have the guts to decide on very important matters. If you feel that you need to work with a personal coach to learn how to make important decisions, then by all means you should do it.

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Being able to live your life to the fullest seems just too good to be true. For many of us, it is a big struggle to reach their full potential, be it personally or professionally. What makes things even more complicated is that failing in one aspect of our live can have a significant effect on our success in the other aspects of our lives. If you want to make the most out of life, you must go back to the basics and address certain issues that you think were trivial. Here are some tips on how you may start living a happier and fuller life:

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For those who have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or ADHD, keeping themselves focused and efficient in their jobs can be very difficult. The distractibility, restlessness, and limited attention span can have severe effects on how a person performs at work. If you have this condition, you may of course rely on medication. But there are certain things you could also do to boost your concentration at work so you may be more productive. Having life coaching sessions with an expert could truly help as well. Here are some tips on how you can stay focused at work:

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The other day I met up with a friend of mine for breakfast. As we were chatting and catching up, the conversation of teenage girls came up and she mentioned that her high school aged daughters were experiencing some difficult times in school. It seems that one of her daughter’s friends has taken up a practice that is becoming more and more prevalent in our teens these days.

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From the time we're small children, we are not taught a lot about how we work: how our mind works, our thoughts, our bodies, our brains, etc. The reason we're not taught this is because the loving, well meaning parents who gave birth to us didn't know either, not to mention the rest of society. In classrooms we're taught that being able to memorize information and repeat it back is revered, and that if we make an "F" we are in fact, a failure. And so the story goes, throughout our lives.

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I've been a coach for several years now, and I have had plenty of times that I've felt like a big phony. I have had my moments where I'm preaching one thing and practicing another. There are times I've experienced intense fear about being "found out": such as being caught eating burger king after talking about the importance of good health all day. Oh yes, I sure have done it.

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Happiness… this is what you want, what I want, and what everyone else wants. Interestingly, while we all want to attain happiness in our lives, so many of us are clueless as to how they could be happy in their lives. Perhaps this is because it is too easy to take for granted what we have right now, and we, instead, keep looking for the things we think could give us fulfillment. If being fulfilled for you is a difficult thing to do, consider making some changes in your life. What you will read below are some tips that have helped many people become happier and more likeable.

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Willpower will be one of your most trusted companions and counted on to help you during your life optimization journey. To be successful it is important that you train and nurture your willpower. Willpower is the muscle that allows you to look beyond short term pleasures that will ultimately hurt your life optimization journey.

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Sometimes in life, we think we are being our authentic self. We get up in the morning, go to work, do what is expected of us and come home and then do what needs to be done and finally relax and go to bed. So many of us, day in and day out play this role 5 days a week and then the weekend comes and we finally get to be who we really are and enjoy.

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What if you were given the chance to hold a higher position in your company but you have to choose between two of them? This is indeed a rare scenario and you should feel really fortunate if it happens to you. Having multiple good options is a great boost to your confidence, but of course, you will still feel the pressure of having to make a decision as to which of those choices you should grab and which one you ought to let go.

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It is definitely very easy for student entrepreneurs to get caught up with their startup during summer because they feel this is the perfect time for them to attend to the many aspects of their new businesses. And so, having a day job is not a very popular option for them. While it may seem that joining an internship is a waste of time, there are many useful things a starting entrepreneur could pick up from this endeavor. Follow these tips so you could take full advantage of your internship:

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As a manager or a business owner, you have the burden of making sure that there is effective communication within your business or company. But this is no easy task at all. Can you actually sleep at night feeling so sure that your staff understood the critical information you shared with them? Do you feel assured that they will produce results according to what you are expecting them to? While it may seem impossible to have a perfect flow of information within your organization, there are things you could do to make sure you could communicate with your people effectively.

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Do you think you are being effective at work? While it is common for most of us to believe that we are perfectly effective, this isn’t always the case. In fact, we all have certain strengths and weaknesses that have a direct impact on how we perform at work. If you could tweak some of your skills, you will find that you can be even more effective.

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It is an undeniable fact that millions of people are experiencing stress in life, be it a short-term or a long-term one. Being stressed out is an unpleasant feeling, of course, but what many of us don’t know is that stress can also have a serious effect in our health and how we perform at work. The good news is that stress is very much manageable as long as you know what techniques to use. In this article, you will get to know more about stress, how it affects you, and how you can manage it. What is Stress?

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Your boss is the one to manage all the things that you do on a daily basis. He or she has complete control over many aspects of your work, such as the amount of work assignments you have, the possibility of you being promoted, your salary raise, and so on. But apart from these things, your boss can also affect how satisfied you will be with your job.

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Patience is something that many of us find very hard to acquire or develop, perhaps because it is way too easy to just be impatient. But do you know that when you lose control of your patience, you hurt not only the people around you, but yourself as well? Impatience can cause your stress levels to increase, which we all know can be very unpleasant and harmful to us. What’s worse, not having patience can ruin your relationships with other people. What we are going to discuss here are some strategies that will help you become more patient.

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“That’s too difficult, I can’t do that!”, “There’s no point in trying because I will fail anyway.” If you find yourself saying these things quite often, then you are someone whose personal mission is to destroy your own confidence in yourself. This isn’t unusual, though, because there are many of us who are just too cruel to themselves.

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More and more businesses are becoming reliant on the internet to remain competitive on the international market. What the web does is make them available and operational 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. This has clearly made technology an essential aspect not only of the sales process, but also in offering quality customer service. However, it is important that businesses, regardless of their size, realize that technology alone will not enable them to give their customers top quality customer service.

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It is very common to hear from career experts that you should define your values first before you could set your career path. This may sound easy, but you actually cannot define your values without knowing what they are actually. Well, your values are comprised of the things you think and believe are essential in the way you work and live your life. Your values are what should help you identify your priorities both at work and in life. It is also your values that you can use to determine whether the things that are going on in your life are part of your plans or intentions.

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Did you ever have to manage people who just can’t seem to put their trust on one another? If yes, then you have an idea of how draining and difficult it is to build trust among your team members. And while there isn’t any way you could do this easier, you really have to try to achieve this goal.

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Having a job or career that requires you to do something you are passionate about will certainly encourage you to work harder. However, this alone doesn’t offer any guarantee that you will be successful, especially if your plan is to turn your passion into a business. At the end of the day, it is imperative that your courage meet with good business opportunities. When this happens, you may witness how passion integrates with business sense. While it won’t be that simple to succeed in a business founded on your heart’s desires, it is definitely not impossible to achieve.

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For most businesses, especially the startups, acquiring customers is one big concern. But while entrepreneurs must know how to gain new customers, they shouldn’t forget the importance of retaining the loyalty of their existing customers. This is definitely a bigger challenge, basically because it can be very costly on the side of business owners. Our goal here is to teach you some very inexpensive customer retention strategies. How to Improve Customer Loyalty

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Even if your job is not to sell, there will come a time when you will have to persuade someone. Persuasion happens not only between salespeople and their potential customers. As a manager, for instance, you may need to persuade your subordinates to perform at a higher level. And if you think you have a brilliant project in mind, you should learn how to persuade your boss to take on it. Needless to say, the ability to persuade somebody is a desirable one, and something that you can actually learn and develop.

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How would you describe yourself in 51 words? How would your friends describe you in 51 words? How would you describe your job or business in 51 words? How would you describe your relationship in 51 words? What are your key 51 self-improvement words? While this takes a little soul searching, it is not as difficult as it sounds!

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Have you ever felt like you just don’t have the energy to make it through the day at work? There are days when it seems too difficult to keep your eyes open and stay focused, and all you would want to do is sleep or take a nap. While it is natural for any human being to feel tired or exhausted, this condition is not what you want to be at when you’re at work. When you lack energy, you are likely to be irritable and make bad decisions. You will also find it challenging to meet deadlines and finish urgent tasks.

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When talking about a ‘perfect leader’, we easily think of someone who seems to be always in control. This person never allows his temper to overcome him no matter how difficult the situation is. You may also imagine a perfect leader in a person who is trusted by his staff because she is someone who knows how to listen to her subordinates and has the ability to make informed decisions. If you try to analyze such traits of a good leader, you will realize that it takes a high level of emotional intelligence to become a perfect leader.

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If you are serious about becoming a better and happier person, what’s important is that you keep your focus on your main goal, which is to be happy. Once you find your own happiness, you will instantly be a better person in every aspect of the word.

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Despite the fact that hourly employees make up the majority of the workforce in most developed countries, employers are still unable to find enough candidates who are qualified for the job. Not only that, companies, big and small, often fail to retain their best workers long enough to capitalize on their investment.

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As an entrepreneur, you must be willing to spend your time and money on improving your business, but do you really know which of your investments are actually worth your resources? By first opening your mind to what can boost your revenue will help you come up with the smartest decisions for your enterprise. Below are the most recommended business investments entrepreneurs should make:

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For any small business, one of the toughest things to do is to expand overseas and find reliable global suppliers. A smart entrepreneur makes safe choices and smart decisions, especially when it comes to finding a supplier for your business. This is easier said than done, though, but by following these steps below, you can rest assured that you can choose a supplier that will give you the best service. Through this guide also, you will find help in ensuring that your business will move on to the path towards success. #1 Study your options well before closing a deal.

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Every year, an average employee is expected to receive an average pay raise of 3 percent. For top performers, another 1 percent of salary raise is given. While this would clearly not make a huge difference, a lot of companies are still struggling to offer their workers such a raise. This is not surprising, though, considering how terribly the economy is still struggling. Therefore, you must appreciate every bit of raise you are to receive. Nevertheless, there are things you can do to make sure you are in a position to ask for a raise that is significantly higher than average.

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Dreams are like the Candy above, they make you feel good. So are you a dream promoter or crusher? Do you support your dreams and dreams of others or do you crush them like stepping on a grape on the floor? I really work on not being judgemental of others dreams. I do hear everyday from people knocking other people down or talking behind their back about the others dreams.

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Only a few months ago, he was a successful executive. Now he’s a desperate man. But a divine adventure is about to unfold. Join David Ponder on an incredible journey that will help you discover the Seven Decisions for Success.

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Why not Choose to be Happy today instead of mad. We all can choose the minute we wake up if we want to have a great day or a bad day. Once you get out of bed why not tell yourself that today is going to be a great day. Talk about some things that you are going to accomplish today. It is so much better to choose to have a great day. Something good to read when your wake up could be the Optimist Creed.

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Change management is a well-defined approach that aims to ensure that whatever changes are implemented in an organization will be thoroughly planned and smoothly applied. Most importantly, this approach should guarantee that the benefits of the change will be lasting and will be achieved.r

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As you probably can tell that I am passionate about golf. Anyone who plays golf or bowls knows that there are times when your mind can get you down. There are times that you wonder if you ever golfed or bowled before because nothing is working or you may have a good round or game going and want to keep it going. Another situation may be you need to hit a risky shot or have a tough spare to pick up and your mind sometimes gets in the way.

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Wouldn’t it be nice to have a guide or map to a relationship like a golf course has for a golf hole? The below info or guide I got from a friend on Facebook and wanted to pass it on. Many of my friends really liked it and said that it helped explain why things their past relationships have ended. I hope if you are in the dating world that it can help you make a better decision on a life partner.

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Before entering the workforce, it is common for young people to study calculus and other higher academic subjects. While there is no doubt that training in such fields is valuable, it is also very important that young workers learn the idea of optimism. It can definitely be very beneficial for an individual to know what it is that actually motivates people to give their best in whatever they do. When you start to figure it out, it will be easier for you to apply it in your own life by finding your ultimate motivation.

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Even the job that you have long wanted can turn into a nightmare if you find yourself having more tasks and responsibilities than you expected. And when you start missing deadlines and getting assigned additional projects, things can get so much worse. These could even result in you having a negative score in the employee performance evaluation or even getting fired from your job. It is the common instinct of employees to keep their struggles to themselves because they don’t want to look or sound like a big failure if they speak about their difficulty keeping up with all their work.

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Mixing business with pleasure is a very bad idea, according to many. However, staying in the office and working long hours have become so common that the workplace has eventually turned into a place where potential lovers meet. Career experts explain that while it is true that you can't choose with whom you may fall in love, you should be extra careful in dealing with office romance. If you are not able to handle the relationship properly, things can end up really awkward between the two of you as well as for the people around you.

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The idea of Personal Growth and Development, in my opinion, is about building and strengthening your relationship with your SELF. It’s about understanding your SELF better, and improving your SELF-awareness. The better you understand how you tick, what your unique needs are, and what works for you (and what doesn’t), the happier and more fulfilled you will be — and the easier life will flow for you. An integral part of building this relationship with yourself is to make the connection with your Inner Wisdom.

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Money is not a bad thing at all, of course. It only becomes evil when you start to make earning and accumulating a lot of money your purpose and goal in life. So is making money the main reason you are alive? You would initially say “Of course not!” This seems like a really easy question to answer, but if you try to take a closer look at your own goals and dreams, you may be surprised to find out that money is indeed what’s driving you to do whatever it is that you do.

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FOR MORE THOUGHTS FROM THE SUCCESS ARCHITECT FOLLOW BILL ON TWITTER! visit www.twitter.com/coachbillnelson I have always believed that the strength of a team is the team itself. The people within the team, between them pretty much determine the success or otherwise of the team. Each individual brings a particular strength to the team and for that matter no doubt a particular weakness.

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No job search is easy. It takes quite a lot of time, patience, effort and commitment in order for you to succeed in finding a job that will make you more satisfied than your current job. If you have just started your search for a new job, you may be tempted to grab just any opportunity that comes your way. By not taking into consideration the career you want as well as the methods to use to achieve your goals, you may find yourself taking the wrong career path.

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If you are currently searching for a job, you must have searched the internet for tips on how you can have a successful job interview. It is also likely that you have read various materials regarding the important job interview etiquette. Most of the elements of proper etiquette during job interviews may not matter much to you. However, it is these little things that can help you have a good and positive impression with the hiring manager or human resource personnel conducting the interview.

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For many people, the success of a woman is primarily out of “luck”. While it is true that luck is the ultimate game changer, it isn’t enough to make a woman a great leader. A woman becomes a true great leader because of her dedication, perseverance, commitment, and intelligence. These are the traits that help women excel in the corporate world where they are not so often expected to do well. So what characteristics do you need to possess that become a successful and effective woman leader?

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We all have many things we want to get done or feel we need to get done. How do we balalance our time for things we want to do, for relationships, work and more? Most people need to work to pay their bills. Most people have family, friends and hobbies that they want to spend time with. Some people like to exercise to watch TV. There are many things we like to do in a day. Sometimes we lose track of what is most important. Without balance we can lose focus. Here is a good story I was sent the other day: 3900 Saturdaysr The older I get, the more I enjoy Saturday morning.

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Over the last few decades, there has been an ever-increasing trend of people switching careers at least once rather than staying with one company for their entire working life. Recently, this trend appears to have accelerated dramatically. Whether you have decided to switch careers to fulfill your life’s goals or you’ve been forced to do so to maintain an income, here are some career tips you should keep in mind as you attempt to get acclimated to your new life, along with ways of presenting your resume that will accentuate your skills and get employers’ attention.

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As the worldwide economy becomes more strained and the demand for expertise in the workplace increases, people will be relocating from different cultures and countries, in order to provide for their families and establish careers. Individuals will be spending the majority of their waking hours side by side with men and women they wouldn’t normal associate with in social situations.

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It is not uncommon to find people who respond differently to the very same situation. For example, when any of us are held in a heavy traffic, most of us would react with frustration, anger etc. while few might handle the situation with strength. The manner in which we deal with even minor incidents have great impact on the progress we make in our lives and determine how we overcome the obstacles to achieve the progress. A life coach can help to deepen the self-understanding of your self.

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You did it! You impressed your future employer to the point where they called you in for a face-to-face job interview. This is your chance to go in there in person and shine. Now that you’ve been given this opportunity, it’s critical that you don’t waste it. Here are the top ten mistakes made in job interviews and how to avoid them. 1. Dressing Dreadfully: According to a Careerbuilder.com survey, the single most common mistake made by candidates in job interviews is inappropriate dress.

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I read somewhere that women will spend on average 8 years of their life shopping! It was something like 25,000 hours over the course of a 63-year life span. For someone who is more like a shop-a-phobic than a shop-a-holic, this is a staggering concept to me. One out of 20 women cannot control their urge to shop. Whether they need the item or not!

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When you're feeling down, you blame your friends, family, and spend your time thinking about what you want but don’t have now. Your ego (your mind and awareness) tells you stories about your past and based on your interpretations of your past, you doubt yourself and worry about your future. “What if I never have….?” 90% of our thinking is negative and we spend way too much energy thinking about what we don’t have. Shift your thoughts to a positive perspective and be thankful for what you have in the present moment. When you focus on what you have, you instruct the brai

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In our last issue of “Core Connections” we talked about the importance of building a strong and dependable support system consisting of carefully chosen friends with whom you can depend. That was part one of creating a Power House support system. Part two requires creating an inner team of support. When we set out to create a life and business that we love, are passionate about and fulfills us, we often feel like we are doing it on our own. At times it can be very lonely and isolating.

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Friends are like bras... close to your heart and there for support. I don’t know who said it so I can’t give credit. I love it though, don’t you?

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As summer ends and autumn begins, the sun sets earlier and the days get shorter. Trees prepare for winter as their leaves change colors and eventually fall to the ground. Nature responds naturally to the changing seasons. Let today, the first day of fall, inspire you towards personal growth. It’s time to let go of what no longer serves you and take on new challenges and responsibilities. Despite your desire to make positive changes, you may feel stuck in bad habits and resist making a change.

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In this time in human history, it is becoming more and more important for people to tap into the power that they have inside. The days of being comfortably numb for many of us are over, and we are being called and challenged to evolve. In order to make this happen, we're going to have to start making some bold moves - and that can feel quite scary. Bold moves may bring up fear, but consider the alte ative. For most of us staying the same is no longer an option - and in fact may be an even more frightening idea.

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This is my summary of the philosophy behind consciousness coaching: "Consciousness, the observer, is our True Self. Being fully present to our highest aspirations and greatest dreams as human beings, we can take action and have impact on the reality around us, independent of our thinking and feeling, simply because we are committed to it. It may not feel right, our thinking may rebel against it and our ego may resist, but we can do it because we are committed to it.

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There's a part of all of us that we hide from the world. Some parts we're aware that we hide, and some are so far buried that we don't even know what we're hiding anymore. During my own growth as a person, a soul, a coach, and a teacher, I have come face to face with more of my "stuff" in the year 2009 tha I have in my whole life. It's been amazing what I've uncovered, but I tell ya - it's not always been a "roses and rainbows" process.

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Each day is your opportunity for a fresh start. Whether your top goal is to lose weight and fit into your skinny jeans, get out of debt and financially plan, get over your x-boyfriend and find your soul mate, finish an old project and learn a new skill or discover how to find more balance and clarity in your life – there’s no better time than now. Making changes is simple…the challenge is staying committed to action when you fall off track. We all know it’s easy to exercise for day, a week and sometimes even a month, but remaining dedicated, consistent and persistent is the ha

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I loved my community in Columbine - Littleton, Colorado. I moved there in 1985 to work, live and raise my children. I picked this place because it is beautiful, has nice homes and is a down to earth suburb with grounded family values.

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Christmas time is a wonderful time of year with shopping, parties, cantatas, children’s programs, numerous Christmas parties, families and much, much more. We love this time of year, and yet some of us loathe this time of year. If we took the time to ponder the reason why people loathe it, then we would find that the answer would probably be the same as most everyone else. That answer is: “I’m way too busy, and there isn’t enough time.” Take a breather, and think about the season in a new way.

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Have you ever felt ,or has anyone ever told you ,that you are “too sensitive”? Perhaps the real problem is that you have not learned to manage your energetic boundaries. Do you feel drained after being in groups of people? Are you a healer that feels exhausted after working on just a few clients? Maybe just being around a coworker who is angry or depressed effects your mood. Learning to strengthen your energetic boundaries could give you more energy and peace in these situations. What are Energetic Boundaries and what's the big deal?

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Now that the busiest time of the year is over, many people find that they are tired and worn-out from all the hustle and bustle. It can be a wonderful time of year, and it can also leave you exhausted, just when everyone is talking about New Years Resolutions. Where is the energy going to come from to make all those changes? In traditional cultures the winter is a time to be dormant - a time to be still and quite, so that we can go inward and nurture a deeper connection with our Spirits.

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1. Learn from your setbacksr We all experience disappointments and setbacks from time to time, and it is human nature to become discouraged at those times. But, you can turn setbacks into positive experiences if you view them as learning curves. Meet your challenges head-on, and focus on the outcome - not the obstacles. I like the cliché which is currently doing the rounds, namely ‘don’t make disappointment or failure your permanent address’. Wise words, methinks. 2.

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Where were you on this day last year? What were you doing? Who were you being? What were your challenges, your triumphs and your failures? What were you proud of? Where are you today? What are you doing? Who are you being? What are your challenges, your triumphs and your failures?

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First of all: Laugh out loud! When was the last time you had a really good belly-laugh? I mean the one where you are shaking uncontrollably with laughter and the tears are streaming down your face? I'm guessing that, for most of us, it's been a while. When we grow out of childhood, there don't seem to be that many things we find uncontrollably funny. So let's go find some! Make a note of five things that make you laugh out loud. For me that would include: Laurel & Hardy movies; Tom & Jerry cartoons; Bob Newhart video clips, Monty Python and Irish comedia Dara O'Briain.

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9 out of 10 businesses make it past their first year. Why does this happen? 90% of people? It's not that there is anything wrong with these people, that they can't do it, are not smart enough, or any of that. I know one thing for sure, a person is not given the desire for something without the tools to make it manifest. So what's the problem?

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If we were to dissect the superficial front of families we would find, strife, jealousy, fear and hatred and no holiday within the family feels like a blessing. Love brought families together. Love that binds the family together is often taken for granted, by the parents and the siblings. When grown adult families come together, then everyone needs to remember that they are adults, and not children. I have posted a saga of two families One family focuses on abundance, gratitude, blessings and love. The other family focuses on power, individual differences, lack, and fear.

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Dating can be a very interesting or frustrating time in one's life. When we are in a relationship, we always wonder where this relationship will lead to. Everyone wants some kind of commitment from the other person and we all do things to make sure that we are not wasting our time with a particular person.

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When I ask new clients what they would like more of in their lives almost all of them include "more fun" to the top of the list! I think that's true for all of us really. So why aren't we having more fun? See if any of these reasons look familiar to you: 1. We take ourselves much too seriously. 2. There are other, "more important" things to do. 3. We think it will cost a lot. 4. We are too tired. 5. We don't have time. (WE DON'T HAVE TIME?) 6. We'll look foolish. 7. It's too hard to plan. The reality is these are just excuses.

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