Gifts of Communication: The 5 Love Languages

The Five Love Languages

By Stacie Campanelli

How many of us are familiar with the 5 Love Languages? Are you curious or interested to learn & discover or re-discover what your first Native language is? According to Gary Chapman, best selling author of the book The 5 Love Languages, we all have 5 languages of love that we live by and respond or react to daily.

These are wonderful tools for communication and make great gift ideas for Valentine's Day :)

The following are the 5 languages and their basic descriptions:

⥠Words of Affirmation:

Actions don't always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, "I love you," are important-hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

⥠Quality Time:

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, "I love you," like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there-with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby-makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

⥠Receiving Gifts:

Don't mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous-so would the absence of everyday gestures.

⥠Acts of Service:

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an "Acts of Service" person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: "Let me do that for you." Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter.

⥠Physical Touch

This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face-they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Gary's findings reveal & assert that we need all 5 to thrive, yet we all have 1-2 primary languages that when we are responding we are in the flow and natural rhythm of our primary language.

When we react however, we are closed off, frustrated and not able to receive and give love. I am putting the Love Language test on the discussion boards and invite you take the quick 2 minute assessment and discover for yourself what your primary language is. Once you do this you will begin to discover the beauty of receiving love in the language that speaks to us and our hearts.

You will begin to understand that although we all speak the Universal Language of Love, each one of us has our own unique dialect that opens us up in ways that until now was only imaginable â¥

Using the tools provided whether single, married, in a relationship or not. These tools are wonderful for your entire family from very young children & tweens to your teenagers and full grown children. You can even use them to improve the value of all you friendships. You will begin to create the real-ationships of your dreams. Ready?? Click the link below to go to Gary' website and take the test.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/Stacie Campanelli
5 Star Success Coach * Writer * Speaker

http://www.StacieCampanelli.com