He Loves You But Won't Commit? Try This...

Ever feel frustrated that loving a man andnnbeing together in a relationships ends up beingnna whole lot more "work" than it should be?

If so, then you should know that it doesn'tnnhave to be this way.

Having a loving and lasting relationshipnnwith a man can be as easy for you as it is fornnother seemingly "lucky" women.

If you really want to give yourself the verynnbest chance at a truly loving and committednnrelationship that LASTS... there are 2 thingsnnyou absolutely have to do:

1) Choose The Right Man (And The Wrong One)

2) Understand Why A Man Will Commit To One Woma

And Not Another... And Have Him Choose YOU

Let's talk about this first one - choosingnnthe right man.

The man you choose makes all the difference.

Sure, all men were created equal... but notnnin terms of their ability to be great lovers andnnpartners in a lasting relationship.

You wouldn't want to try and fly across the

Atlantic ocean with a tiny little inflatablennballoon holding you up...

So the same goes for men when it comes tonnlove and what you do with your own heart.

You wouldn't want to try and date a mannnwho's immature and painfully out of touch withnnhis feelings (and yours)... and then try andnncreate a deep and fulfilling lifetime relationshipnnwith this man.

It's going to be a struggle at every turn.

But that certainly doesn't keep a lot ofnnwomen from trying.

I'm sure you already know several women whonnhave dated men who were just never going to bennthe kind of loving partner they want. And theynnkept trying to change him, fix him, or save thennrelationship from it's inevitable shortcomings.

But instead of all this working, and thingsnngetting better for all their hard work trying tonnhold their relationship together on their own...nnthese women simply ran themselves into the ground.

I know you know exactly what I'm talkingnnabout here.

You've probably done this yourself once ornntwice.

An unfortunately common situatio
I see andnnhear about all the time is when a loving womannngets involved with a man who isn't at her "level",nnor doesn't really want what she wants... and shenndoes everything possible but the one thing shennreally needs to do most -

To stop to recognize and ACCEPT the thingsnnthat are true about the man she's with.

Things like him not wanting to COMMIT.

Too many women who come up against a mannnwho is telling them they "aren't ready", ornnis acting in ways that show this, like not callingnnoften, breaking dates, etc... instead of seeingnnthis for what it is (him not FEELING the feelingsnnhe would feel if he was wanting more)... theynnend up trying to MANUFACTURE those feelings innnhim.

Or worse... they start to CRITICIZE or blamennhim for not having these feelings in the firstnnplace. As though he's wrong for not feelingnnwhat they want him to feel.

Big mistake.

This basically GUARANTEES that a man won't

"feel it" for you and start to get closer andnnwant a more serious and loving relationship.

In fact, it makes most men RUN.

Of course, men play a large part in thennconfusion here.

When a man is dating a woman who's attractivennand interesting... he will often ACT in ways thatnnsay to a woman that he does want to be withnnher - as he shows love and caring through his

PHYSICAL ACTIONS (touch, affection, sex).

But this doesn't mean that he is completelynnengaged on an EMOTIONAL level, and movingnntowards a deeper relationship.

This is what I call "The Danger Of A Connection"nnin my e-Book, “Catch Him & Keep Him.”

FYI - you can download my eBook and be readingnnit in a few minutes if you go here: n nnwww.catchhimandkeephim.com/s=23550nn The "Danger Of A Connection" goes like this...

Just because you and a man share a deepe
nconnection, and he is close and intimate withnnyou... it does NOT mean that he's indicatingnnhis desire for a more serious RELATIONSHIP.

But for lots of women, the connection theynnfeel tells them that they are ALREADY in annrelationship.

So who's right?

Are men too "commitment-phobic" as they denynnthis obvious level of connection?nn

Or are women making TOO MUCH MEANING out ofnnthat special connection?

Who cares.

What matters is what you do about it, andnnhow it works out in your life.

Men could stand to learn more about what thatnnlevel of "connection" means, and how it couldnnlead to an amazing and loving relationship.

Just as women could stand to learn more aboutnnhow that connection itself is about being in the

PRESENT MOMENT... and to not attach too muchnnmeaning to it before it's there.

If you want to learn how a real and committednnrelationship gets started and works for a man...nnand how to be the woman a man sees himself beingnnwith and wanting to stay with... then you need tonnget past simply thinking that the "connection" younnhave with a man means he wants to start a realnnrelationship with you.

A man can enjoy simply "being" with a woman,nnbut not have a desire for more when it comes tonna relationship.

To create a deeper level of physical andnnemotional commitment, where a man is not onlynnloyal and loving, but he becomes your equalnnpartner in keeping you close and together...nnthen you need to understand what makes a ma

FEEL this way in the first place.

So how can you give yourself the very bestnnchance at creating a loving and LASTINGnnrelationship with a man?

It is by understanding why a man will commitnnto one woman and not another, and having the mannnyou want choose YOU.

There are 2 parts you MUST address for yourselfnnas a woman if you want to attract a great guy,nnhave him CHOOSE YOU, and have your relationshipnnwork and LAST.

Here's the first...

You have to "have your act together."

If someone is in a negative "emotional state"nnin their life, then they're going to have a hardnntime making great decisions, saying positivennthings... and doing what serve themselves andnnthe people around them best.

In fact, you can even give someone who's in annbad emotional state the right advice of what tonnsay and do in a particular situation, or share annhealthier perspective with them... yet they'llnnstill often mess things up for themselves becausennof what's going on inside them.

There's no hiding the intense emotions, fears,nnor frustrations we have inside.

Especially in close, intimate, romanticnnrelationships.

These things ALWAYS come out in one way ornnanother.

Point being, if you have a lot of pain ornnfrustration you're holding on to from any ofnnyour past relationships... a man is going tonnsense these whether you mention them or not.

If you're like some women I've talked tonnand helped in their relationships... then you'vennloved before and had things fall apart unexpectedly.

And this experience caused you to changennsome of your views and beliefs about men, dating,nnlove, and relationships.

One of the common beliefs I hear that womennncarry around is that "men don't stay"... or that

"men always leave".

This is a very DESTRUCTIVE mindset or beliefnnthat screws up way too many women in their newnnrelationships.

Why?

Well, the short answer is that it causes themnnto hold FEAR and UNCERTAINTY in their minds.

And these things create all kinds of intensennand negative EMOTIONAL REACTIONS to things a mannnsays or does - even if they aren't a big deal.

For instance... if you're worried that a mannnis going to leave you and he doesn't call for annday or two, your mind is sent reeling with millionsnnof ideas about the bad things 'him not calling'nnmeans and what he's thinking that's BAD.

But if you're in the kind of place on annpersonal and emotional level where you feelnncentered and CONFIDENT about yourself, your life,nnand you trust in what's happening with thennman in your life... then when he doesn't callnnfor a day or two, your mind doesn't go off thenndeep end and send you into an emotional tail-spin.

Here's where all this gets FASCINATING...

If you're in that place of FEAR and UNCERTAINTYnnwith a man about "where things are going" andnnif he's going to leave or stay... then thennexperience a man has of you is VERY DIFFERENTnnthan if you're in that more positive and centerednnemotional place.

When he finally does call on day 2 or 3 sincennyou spoke last... you pick up the phone and thennway you are, how you respond, and the thingsnnyou're thinking about and saying create that weirdnnfeeling where something just isn't right.

And it's a huge TURN OFF to a man and puts annwhole lot of distance between you because you
nmind is off somewhere worrying.

When a man senses and feels this, he doesn'tnnsay to himself - "Oh, she must be going throughnnsomething, I should ask what it is."

Instead he just FEELS WEIRD around you andnnwants to get away. And trying to SHARE MORE ofnnyour fearful, anxious, worried feelings are onlynngoing to create more of what's going wrong innnthe first place and push him away.

Now, I know it would be nice if men werennmore compassionate about these things, and didn'tnnreact and pull away.

But I'm not talking to men right now. I'mnntalking to YOU.

Of course, you can't really do much to fakennyour true feelings and what's going inside you.

But you should know...

Men know RIGHT AWAY if they are dealing withnna woman who has her "act together", or if you'rennover-analyzing and worrying about every littlennthing.

And the more a man senses that there'snnsomething intense and emotional going on insidennof you, and it creates more of that subtlennweird feeling in him... the less likely a mannnwill ever be to get closer to you and want tonngrow a more serious relationship with you.

MOVING PAST “CASUAL”

Now that we've covered getting your "inne
nworld" together, there's another criticalnnpiece to this...

You have to know WHAT TO DO with a man tonnmove past that "casual" situation to a deepe
ncommitted relationship.

I probably don't have to tell you that it'snnrelatively EASY to get a man's physical interestnnand start a "casual" relationship.

The tough part comes in when the fun andnnloving connection you're experiencing and sharingnnwith a man starts to grow and one of two thingsnnhappens:

1) He seems to be happy just being "casual" withnnyou... and does nothing to have a more seriousnnand committed relationship

2) He actually RESISTS growing with you in you
nrelationship and starts to WITHDRAW more and more

For lots of women, this is where they makenna huge mistake with a man-

Seeing that he's not initiating and bringingnnthe relationship closer... out of fear or hurtnnfeelings or their own desire, they start to trynnand CONVINCE the man in their life that he hasnnto want a more committed relationship with them.

Of course, if you know anything about humannnnature, or about men... you know that the naturalnnhuman response when someone is intense about tryingnnto CONVINCE you of something is for you to takennon the corresponding role-

To RESIST.

It never ceases to amaze me how so many womennnnever catch on to the fact that the more theynntry and talk to a man about how and why he SHOULDnnwant more... the less and less interested the mannnbecomes.

On the other hand... if you learn what itnnis that makes a man want to grow closer to younnand want to strengthen your relationship FOR

HIS OWN REASONS... then there's not much younncan do to talk a man out of wanting to be withnnyou. No matter what you do.

One of the most important things you can donnwith a man is to figure out his particular waynnof receiving and sharing love and affection.

Not all men, or women, value the same thingsnnwhen it comes to receiving love and affectionnnfrom their partner.

Lots of women, for example, feel more lovednnand appreciated by a man who will take the timennto go out and physically DO SOMETHING for them,nnlike pick up something at the store, than theynndo by experiencing a man's physical touch ornnaffection.

Whereas another woman might want to TALKnnand HEAR the way a man feels to feel loved andnnappreciated.

Well guess what?

Men are the same way. They have differentnnneeds, and different ways of engaging and connectingnnthat work best for them. And these are likelynndifferent from yours.

If you don't learn what I call a man's

"Love Preferences" are... and you don't learnnnwhat yours are, then you'll have a tough timennmaking each other feel like your needs are beingnnmet... and that you "get" each other.

This simple ability to identify what a man's

"Love Preferences" are, how they work, and thennncommunicate in the way HE values can make allnnthe difference between struggling and gettingnnnowhere with a man... and doing just one or twonnsmall things that "WOW!" him and get him instantlynnengaged and wanting to spend more time with you.

To learn more about men’s “commitment” timeline,

I strongly suggest you read Chapter 9 in my e-book,

“Catch Him & Keep Him” where I talk about the secretsnnof communicating with men, speaking his language andnnsetting relationship “standards” such as a long-termnncommitment:

Download your copy today: nnwww.catchhimandkeephim.com/s=23550nnn n n n