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He’s Not Ready for a Relationship

Featuring Kara Oh

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished January 7, 2011
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Have you ever had a man tell you he likes you, enjoys dating you, but isn’t ready for a relationship right now? I get letters from women all the time who are upset when the man they’re dating delivers this message. Usually, the woman paints him as a villain, when he’s actually just being honest. A man can be a good guy without wanting the long term relationship. The big questio I always ask is, “Are you intending to make babies?” If not, why not just enjoy this man and see where it goes. Women tend to be hung up on a relationship needing to ‘move to the next level.’ But what if just being together and enjoying each other IS the next level? If you want to get married, can you give a clear answer to why? So often, we want things simply because we’ve taught to want them, not because it’s what our heart desires. Get very clear about what you REALLY want, and why. Then, if you honestly need to know his long term intentions ‘right now,’ then this is not the man for you. If you’re willing to allow things to unfold in their own way, in their own time, you could be surprised at how much you enjoy the journey. And remember, even when we have that commitment and the promises, there are no guarantees that they’re going to last. Even with marriage and children, there are no guarantees. What I notice is women are not able to enjoy that unfolding, because they’re so focused on what is ’supposed to be,’ and worried about ‘where is this going.’ If you want to raise the possibility that a man is going to want to be in a long term relationship with you, because the thought of losing you is too great, then you’ll want to not only learn the Secrets about men revealed in Men Made Easy, but you’ll also how to use these Secrets to create a relationship like you’ve never had before…one that makes you toes curl and your heart sing. If you'd like to find out if he's a Caveman, a Dog, a Prince, or all three, you can get three free ebooks right here that will help you begin the journey of understanding men. If you're REALLY serious about creating an amazing love-filled relationship, you'll want to get Men Made Easy and start reading immediately!

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Kara Oh, Relationship coach, best-selling author and public speaker, offers a full range of products and services to assist women and men with everything they need to create fulfilling relationships that are filled with love, playfulness, romance and passion. Whether you are single and looking for the right partner, involved and frustrated, or married and struggling with everything from an affair to falling out of love, her unique resources offer everything that you need to enjoy the kind of relationship you desire.

Men Made Easy - How to Capture His Heart Forever. What if you learned how to go from "totally confused" about men to knowing how to melt his heart and be cherished by a man who adores you forever? Learn how here.

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