How to be happy all of the time

Contrary to popular belief, being happy is not about how much money you have or how much fun you have. The reason that most of us are not happy all of the time is because many of us do not take ownership and responsibility for our own mental and emotional well being.

Happiness is down to the way we think, NOT because of the way our lives have progressed, the situation we find ourselves in or the problems we have to face. A person who is constantly negative and miserable will often be reflecting on something unhappy that has happened or fearing or worrying over something that might happen in the future. Where they go wrong is to not be happy in the present. How happy we are depends on how well we have trained ourselves to think, feel and react to what has been, what is happening and will or might happen. If you ask them WHY they are unhappy they will blame what happened, what they are worrying about or what might be, when the truth is it is their perception of that and how vital it is to their overall happiness is that is the issue. So, how to be happy all of the time...

Let us look at an example of a person who is an obsessive worrier, unrealistic and negative and how she is never happy or relaxed emotionally or mentally. A lady I used to know who desperately needed to see a therapist and change the way she was thinking and reacting to happenings and thoughts. The truth was that she had no worries! She was fit and healthy. She had enough money with no debts. She did not have to work. She had no family problems. Yet she would invent issues to become upset over, such as watching the television and if the weather report said it would rain tomorrow she would become extremely upset and start to cry.She would phone up whoever she knew telling them she would commit suicide because it was terrible that it might rain tomorrow, then go to bed and spend all day laying in bed frettting about it. Whereas a more sensible rounded person would either not care that it is going to rain tomorrow or get it into proportion with everything else and realise that it has very little relevance to their life. Either they would stay in or get their umbrella out or make sure they do not hang out any washing that day, but it would not be a huge thing or the end of the World to them.

Many people get things out of proportion to a much lesser extent. They may be waiting to receive a letter from someone they like and to them it ruins the whole mood for a day if it does not arrive today and will arrive tomorrow instead, or they go for an interview for a job and are told they have to wait a month to find out if they have it, or they win some money on the lottery but get into a huff because it is only enough to buy a few rounds of drinks.

The trick to being happy all of the time?

Get things in proportion... The letter did not arrive today?! So what. Just be patient and wait till tomorrow.

See the bright side, there always is one...think of how great it is that someone who loves you has bothered to put pen to paper and write to you. That is far more important than how long it takes to arrive. Think that 24 hours to wait is not very long.

Remember that nobody's life is ever perfect. Think of the people who do not have such a pleasant letter to look forward to.

Rosemary Price says the best thing to do, and this is coming from a psychic and therapist, not just a psychic, is to re empt possible problems and situations that might occur in the future and do your best to prevent them.... i.e. if you do not smoke you will be healthier, if you save you will not end up with financial problems, if you treat your partner well you are far less likely to have the heartbreak of losing them.

You can use this easy formula no matter what is happening. Yes you do need to think about the future and be responsible. That may mean that when you get your wages you put some by for a rainy day instead of spending it all. But worrying about whether or not your car will break down on the way to visit your partner next week is totally pointless and simply spoiling the moment. It is far more sensible to make sure that the car is in working order and has had a recent service and then relax and forget about it.

Even when you are doing boring, mundane unpleasant tasks see the positive side. when you are cleaning out cupboards and cleaning the floor think of how it is exercising you and giving you a good physical work out where other people spend money in a gym to get the same work out. Think of how it means your home will be cleaner, smell nicer, look better and be more presentable. Think of how you will feel a bit tired and will then really welcome a break with a cup of coffee when you are finished.

If a friend has arranged to meet up with you and you have been looking forward to it and they have to cancel instead of getting miserable about it remind yourself that your friend cares, that you can look forward to seeing them soon, that this has given you a chance to do some tasks that have been building up or the opportunity for a quiet night in with a good book.

If a partner lets you down and hurts you instead of getting resentful, bitter, hateful, angry, hurt, confused or worried tell yourself that they have done you a favour by showing their true colours and saving you wasting more of your valuable life on them. If you decide to see them again or stay with them at least you now know they are not perfect and know their faults - well, at least some of them - and are more aware of what and who you are dealing with.

I used to know someone who was constantly getting upset at Christmas time because she had no family to visit or invite over. Yet she did not think of the many families who hate having to buy lots of presents and visiting each other and becoming irritated and bored to tears with each other, and hate the chore of cooking and washing up and looking after dozens of people.

If all else fails then remember the people who are homeless without a bed for the night wandering the streets, living in third World countries and desperate for food and water, terminally ill and in a lot of pain, totally without family and friends, desperately struggling to pay their bills and trying to sort out their debts and finances.

There are three reasons you should use a strategy to be happy all of the time. FIRSTLY you deserve to be happy. SECONDLY. By being more laid back and calm about things you are better able to cope and make decisions with any of life's disappointments, worries or problems that present themselves. THIRDLY, if you take a more positive attitude towards life and people your stress levels will drop, this may well help your sleeping, eating, memory, concentration,
aches and pains, unexplained ailments you have been having such as headaches or stomach aches and much else. This in turn will mean that you can deal with any problems that come up better because you are healthier and fitter and feeling happier as a result of this. So this is a win win situation.

Get things in proportion. See the bright side. Remember that nobody's life is perfect. This is the answer to how to be happy all of the time. By Charlotte Craig at http://www.webclairvoyant.com