How Well Do You Really Know Your Partner? 1000 'Must Ask' Questions For Couples
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How compatible are you really with your partner? Down deep, where it really counts?
nHow would you know? Just because you like the same types of foods and pets certainly does NOT mean you'll have a happy, blissful, long-term relationship.
nDo you know why your mate does or doesn't attend church? Do you really? Do you know how they really think about the way you dress? Have you ever asked your partner what are the three most sensitive parts on their body? Thinking you know doesn't make you right.
nDoes it really matter what your partner thinks about sex, religion, careers, household work, money and the future? ABSOLUTELY! Even if you are one of the lucky FEW who will never argue about these topics (like most people do), core differences like these can cause many, many issues in a relationship.
nLove and a strong relationship can indeed conquer anything, but you have to know what you're facing and what you're really dealing with.
nDon't fly blind - find out where you stand.
nLearn how to listen! Sit down, ask, and LISTEN to what you partner really feels.
nHere’s our review of Oprah Love Expert, Michael Webb’s excellent book, 1000 Questions for Couples.
nIn 1000 Questions for Couples, Michael asserts that "An estimated 83% of divorces would not take place if couples asked each other the right questions". Wow!
nFact is, a lot fewer couples would get divorced (or even marry each other in the first place) if they actually knew each other well enough before they got married. Married couples could cut down on a lot of their clashes if they simply knew more about their partner's thoughts, beliefs and emotions.
nDo married couples really need to bother with asking each other questions like these?
nAbsolutely. Not to mention the obvious point - showing your partner that you care enough to take time to get to know them EVEN BETTER (no matter how long you've been together) is sure to bring you closer. And that's always a good thing.
nWhile most of the questions in 1000 Questions for Couples apply to couples that are in their first months together, an amazing 700 of the questions are critical to married couples as well.
nSo many times a secret from one partner's past comes out and you hear the questio "how could you have not told me about that?". The usual answer is "you didn't ask".
nAmazing, isn't it. And it can really be that simple...
nFact is, most couples are honest with each other, they just don't take the time to actually get to know their partner, to actually ask each other about their past, their feelings, their convictions.
nThe best way to get to really know someone is to ASK!
nHere are the key relationship areas where you'll now have great questions to ask...
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- Personality, Feelings & Emotions n
- Sex n
- Morals, Convictions and Beliefs n
- Religion & Spiritual Matters n
- Relationships, Past & Present n
- Favorites n
- Pets n
- Attractions n
- Health, Food & Well Being n
- Vacations n
- Car & Driver n
- Holidays & Celebrations n
- Home & Home Life n
- Past & Future n
- Hobbies & Entertainment n
- Love, Romance & Date Nights n
- Friends & Family n
- Communication n
- Career and Education n
- Money n
- Children & Child Rearing n
- Wedding & Honeymoon
Michael Webb recommends trying doing this as a fun activity with your partner. Get creative, make it into something enjoyable, and you'll get a LOT more out of it.
nMake it a fun date and treat your partner!
nSet aside an evening every few weeks to stay in and get to know each other more intimately. Set a romantic atmosphere... red wine, candles, just the two of you. And get to know each other better, on a deeper level. Choose a couple of the more probing questions and have fun revealing secrets to each other... getting closer.
nHow about an intimate, daily ritual for one special week?
nHave fun with this! Here's an idea. For a week, spend a few quiet, intimate minutes every evening and ask each other any two or three questions you've picked that day.
nYou'll be amazed how much you can learn about someone you've spent months or even years with - if you just take the time and care enough to ask!
nSo what CAN you possibly ask someone you've been with for months or even years?
nHere's a hint... go through the book and pick a question or two from each category that jumps out at you. You'll be surprised how much that gets you thinking, and how easy it is.
nWhatever you do, have fun with it, and don't make it a chore. Show your partner you care and truly do want to get to know them better, and become even closer - and enjoy the process!
nSummary:
nWhile we really love this book, there was one major problem with 1000 Questions for Couples... the sheer number of questions! Wow, 1000 of them! Where the heck do you start? Can you actually get anything useful out of this and not get totally lost? It can be a little overwhelming at first.
nBut we've got good news... Michael tells you exactly which few critical questions to start off with, so you don't get lost - and most importantly - so you don't get off on the wrong foot and come off like you're grilling your special someone instead of just trying to get to know them better.
nOverall we highly recommend this book.
nGet your copy right now before you get busy and forget. Surprise your partner with something they'll never expect - a true willingness to get to know them better and become more close and intimate.
nWhile you’re at it, you’ll definitely want to check out Michael’s other terrific resources below.
nOne of our personal favorites is 500 Sex Tips and Love Making Secrets That Everyone Ought to Know.
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- Spice up your sex life with 500 Sex and Love Making Secrets (Our Review...) n
- Enjoy Lick by Lick - How to Go Down on a Woman and Have Her Begging for More (Our Review...) n
- Discover 300 Creative Dates (Our Review...) n
- Don’t miss 100 Bedroom Games for Couples n
- Learn the 50 Secrets of Blissful Relationships n
- There is A Better Way To Date n
- Read about The Romantic’s Guide to Popping the Question
Don’t put it off.
nYou’ll kick yourself if you don’t get 1000 Questions for Couples today.
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