I Am A Good Catch So Why Am I Still Single?

You have done everything right; you finished at the top of your college class, you are advancing in your dream career at an unprecedented rate. You have purchased a beautiful home and you are active in church and community activities. You regularly exercise and are in excellent physical condition. You are taking great care of your body with regular dental and medical checkups and you are well groomed. You have your financial house in order and you have invested wisely.

So why are you still single?

You may still be single because:

You don’t have room in your life for a relationship.

Is your life so full with extra curricular activities such as civic or church commitments that, frankly, if your ideal mate walked into your life, would you have room in your life to receive him?

For example, are the first, third and fourth Saturdays of your life booked solid indefinitely? You are tutoring children at your church the first and third Saturdays of the month and then on the fourth Saturday, you have sorority meeting or some other regularly occurring civic engagement.

Perhaps you are building a side or full-time business and this is causing you to spend inordinate amounts of time cooped up in your home office in front of your computer.

You are spending too much time with the wrong people.

Who are you spending your time with? Are you spending all of your free time with your mother, your girlfriends, your children or a platonic male friend? I know these are people you love but perhaps, you are so emotionally tied to others, you are not giving off vibes that you are unattached. If you are spending so much time with other people, are you able to recognize an interested man? Are you so emotionally intertwined with others that you are not emotionally available for a relationship?

Do you really want a relationship?

This may sound like a silly question but in order to attract the right relationship, you must want one – wholeheartedly, genuinely, earnestly and without reservation. If you are ambivalent in any way, the chances of you meeting someone, or the right someone are low – very low.

Because of past failed relationships or because it’s been quite a while since you’ve date, you may have become ambivalent toward the opposite sex or relationships, in general. You can’t attract what you are ambivalent toward.

Are other things more important?

Other things that may be more important to you are:

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• Proving that you are right and the opposite sex is wrongn • Keeping your lifestyle like it isn • Avoiding pain at all costsn • Not sharing your resourcesn • You are afraid of another divorce or breakup; anytime your fear of something is stronger than the possibilities of something else, fear will win.

If these are the types of things that are more important than attracting the right relationship, you may remain single – for a long time.