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Keeping Others Down

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"As long as you keep a person down, some part of you has to be down there to hold him down, so it means you cannot soar as you otherwise might." Marian Anderson This is so obvious when you think about it from a physical perspective. If you were physically holding someone down, unless you have really long arms or really strong legs or some other technique; you have to adopt a posture which keeps you lower to the ground. I think this is only a good thing in wrestling or mixed martial arts fighting. What this means is that if you are spending your time trying to keep others from advancing in life or in their career, you are holding yourself back too. Holding someone down (even mentally or emotionally) requires you to keep yourself lower to the ground (again mentally or emotionally) too. How can you be the best you can be when you are lowering yourself? This is another reminder about the importance of letting go of anger and hostility and unhealthy competition. The time you spend trying to put someone in their place. Or the time you spend keeping someone in their place (as you see it), is time you spend holding yourself back too. The energy you spend trying to make sure your adversary does not get ahead is energy you could be spending to strengthen your own skills, enhance your learning and advancing your own career by providing value. Holding another person back does not provide any value. In fact if you are using your time to prevent someone else from advancing you are taking time and money away from your employer and from your own career. When others grow so can you. If you are so conce ed about someone getting ahead of you, why don’t you use that competition to push yourself to be even better? Let it go, let others grow and allow yourself to soar!

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Margaret developed a passionate belief that it takes courage and skill to be human at work and that all individuals have a responsibility to treat each other with dignity, respect and compassion.

Motivated by her beliefs and the desire to make a difference in the lives of others, Margaret acted on her vision by founding Meloni Coaching Solutions, Inc. Her vision is to create a group of successful individuals who are at peace with their authentic selves; a group of people who help and support others; a group who bring humanity to the office and thrive because of it. Margaret sees a world where achieving peace and achieving success go hand-in-hand.

Margaret’s students and clients often find that what she really brings them is freedom to bring their authentic selves to the office. As a former Information Technology Executive, Margaret always knew her preference was for the people behind the technology. Now Margaret brings those beliefs to individuals from many professional backgrounds. The common thread across her client base is the desire to experience peace at work and the recognition that peace is not absence of conflict, peace is the ability to cope with conflict. For these people, Margaret Meloni is truly ‘A Path to Peace’. ™

You can learn more about Margaret and her courses, programs, and products at: www.MargaretMeloni.com

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