Keeping the Language of Love ALIVE!

Whether you are in a newly formed relationship or been in a long-lived one, it's probably a good think to keep in mind every relationship can use a little 'relationship rejuvenation' once in a while.

We all get a little 'lazy' with this stuff. I don't know why...we're pretty good during the 'fresh bloom' of a relationship, but as the years pass, there seems to be a tendency to over-look the simple, easy ways to fan our flames!

First of all, we need to conclude whether or not we can still have FUN together. Having FUN and laughing together is the most useful relationship tool I've discovered over 37 years of marriage.

I think most of us are all on the look-out for a simple way to boost our relationship meter to the positive without it costing an arm and a leg or requiring a series of classes. It could be easier than you think to 'keep the language of love alive' or at least get it back onto the radar screen. Here's an idea I know works.

Twenty-seven years ago my husband surprised me with a little red glass heart he had hidden for me to discover. I’m sure he was ‘in the dog house’ for one reason or another, a ‘house’ in which he has often found himself, but as you can imagine all was forgiven when I discovered the 'wee heart' hidden among my lingerie! Over the years, we have found the little glass heart to be helpful when trying to say ‘sorry’ or ‘forgive me’ or ‘miss you’. Discovering the heart unexpectedly has proved to be a great facilitator for heartening and renewing relationship building. For us it is a good way to get a 'difficult' conversation going, especially when some 'less than friendly' words have been spoken. What we often find difficult to express verbally we can express with the little red glass heart.

Flowers, candy, notes, hugs, kisses on the back of the neck, holding hands, sharing a cup of coffee/tea or glass of wine while watching the sun rise or set among others are also good little practices to RE-IMPLEMENT if you have let them go for a while. FYI: I can make a longer list for you if you ask me! or YOU can submit your suggestion list to the email address found below.

Here's the deal. It doesn't really take much to create a spark, especially if you have some affection for one another. Of course, none of the aforementioned ideas are a 'magic potion', but finding ways to express affection in a sweet and positive manner can be the start of something that could at least be referred to as a 'tonic', don't you think?