Living On Your Own: Is the Timing Right?

Think about it, living on your own can give a great sense of freedom and certainty, however the cost might be prohibitive. In fact, it could be more expensive than you predict. Usually when a young person prepares to leave the comfort and guidance of their parents household, they do it with out the necessary life skills that are required to keep from having to come back to live with their parents and avoid having a “false start”. We all know that knowledge is power. This article lays out three simple guidelines which will enable you to experience independence and autonomy in your life with never having to carry your box of stuff back into your old room with the words “parents know best...” repeating after you.

1. The first step to prepare for leaving the homestead is crucial. You must have enough money! Think about the job you currently hold. Ask yourself questions about the reliability of the job and the employee turnover at the company. Do many employees come and go frequently? Does the boss have a short temper? Job hunting is challenging, make sure you do the job hunt while you are still living at home. Always try to keep at least two months of expenses in your account in case of emergencies and unexpected events. The best option is always to try and hold your job and receive a promotion before you move to your own apartment, just to ensure your job stability.

2. Something that is frequently overlooked by young people going out on their own is their relationship with Mom and Dad before they leave. Even if you feel like rebelling and screaming at them at the top of your voice before you “peace out” indefinitely, control yourself. It is best to not burn your bridges, they are your parents, they helped raise you... And besides, if you ever need money you can call them up if you leave on good terms. In general, don’t allow any bad blood to stand in the way of your returning home if you happen to receive a notice of eviction. Life as a young independent individual can be tough. Mom and Dad can still play an important role in guiding you in until you learn the ropes yourself.

3. Once all your things are packed and you are ready to move in, take a minute to remember this last tip. Clean your room and ask Mom to help. The basics of cleaning are crucial to maintaining a healthy living environment and a place where your friends will want to spend time. While your at it, learn how to cook and how to organize your mail and other important papers. Do you know how to do your taxes? That would also be a good thing to learn from the parents before you depart. Start clipping coupons and learn how to shop with a budget at the grocery store. Using a list is always helpful. This all seems like a lot doesn’t it? It’s ok, we know you can handle it. The most important thing to remember is to prepare ahead of time and always keep in mind that Mom and Dad are there to help you on your journey and teach you life skills.