Location, Location, Location
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The pop phrase “Location, Location, Location” is commonly associated with real estate. It connotes the three key factors in determining the desirability of a property: location, location, and location. When it comes to female orgasm, however, the cliché “location, location, location” is possibly even more important than in real estate circles. A dysfunctional orgasm may be due to a variety of causes including: aging female apparatus, hormonal fluctuations, shrinking clitoris, medication that inhibits sexual response, or simply a partner with poor aim.
The easiest situation to remedy is a partner with poor aim. What’s required is “Direction, Direction, Direction.” Some women take pity on a partner who aims to please but seems to miss the mark every time. They give up and either fake an orgasm (the pity orgasm) or they instruct their love
to stop trying. In either case, the result is no orgasm.
There are techniques that can be used to redirect your partner to the proper location or locations that feel good during intercourse or outercourse. Never allow a love
to keep going on a site that isn’t right. It’s like telling someone to scratch the center of your back and they scratch your head where it doesn’t itch. Here are some helpful hints:
Direct your love
as if he (or she) were playing a video game such as Ms. Pac-Man on your clitoris. Men, especially video game lovers, do well with this method. Whisper directives such as “to the left, to the right, higher, lower, faster, slower;” and keep going until you achieve success. A well thought out arsenal of instructive phrases (e.g. “more lube please”) and products (e.g. K-Y Intense) are strongly recommended. Come prepared (pun intended).
If you think a road image might yield a better result, say something like, “You’ve veered off course, you’re on the shoulder, get back on the road.”
Use whatever means it takes to get your partner to understand; and stay the course for as long as you can. Frustration is often best diffused with good humor and persistence. This is a learning process. Good luck.
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Gail is the author of EverydayGoddess.org, a woman's-empowerment-goddess blog all about: How to reinvent yourself, revitalize your marriage (or other intimate relationship), reboot your libido, have theme-park quality sex, and be exquisitely happy in the process. This site is dedicated to empowered and empowering women and the men who love them. Enjoy : )
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