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Loving-Kindness Toward Difficult Emotions: Be Still

Topic: PsychologyBy Mary Brantley, MA, LMFT, and Tesilya Hanauer, CMTPublished Recently added

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If you’re restless and don’t know what to do with yourself, stay where you are. Just be still, be quiet. Let the eage
ess to do something cool down. Let the pull of the outside world release its grip on you. Just as the sediment in a bottle settles to the bottom, so will your emotions if you let them be still.

1. Wherever you are in this moment, stay there. Don’t go anywhere. You are right where you need to be.
2. Bring your attention to your breath. Take three or four deep 2 breaths. When you inhale, let it be deep. When you exhale, let the breath out slowly.
3. Now repeat the following phrases to yourself a few times. Every time you say the words, let them penetrate your restlessness.
May I have courage.
May I trust myself.
May I have patience.
May I be free from fear.

Remember, you are right where you need to be.

Excerpt: The Gift Of Loving-Kindness: 100 Meditations on Compassion, Generosity, and Forgiveness (New Harbinger Publications)

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MARY BRANTLEY, MA, LMFT, is an instructor in the mindfulness-based stress reduction program at Duke Integrative Medicine in Durham, NC.

TESILYA HANAUER, CMT, is a freelance writer and certified massage therapist. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.