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Everyone experiences feelings of anger or irritability, but people with bipolar disorder are especially prone to these feelings and the adverse effects of anger. In fact, sudden feelings of anger or irritability are key symptoms of mania. Inappropriate anger attacks occur in up to 60 percent of ...

“You can’t always get what you want . . .” The Rolling Stones will soon be singing this refrain at venues around the world, as they embark on a year-long concert tour in August. nnThis song, now decades old, addresses a universal truth. Here’s the rest of the refrain:nnYou can't always get what you want . . .nBut if you try sometimesnYou just might findnYou get what you need.nnnWhat is it that you really wanted and didn’t get? The affections of a person who was with

You exercise your cardio-vascular system with aerobics. You strengthen your muscular system with weight training. You watch your diet to avoid toxins and supply nutrients. All these good things promote health and vitality. But what have you done for your brain lately? It’s the most important ...

“Maybe if I have this client blink his eyes at an increased speed, while exposing him to his past, and add some cognitive behavioral therapy while sitting next to a waterfall, he may be able to function more effectively in his life!” Yes this is rather exaggerated, however it demonstrates ...

The things that can go wrong with your body when your thyroid function is low are so pervasive and extensive it’s startling. So many of the difficulties and indignities we learn to live with, thinking they’re an inevitable part of aging, are actually the result of low thyroid function and are ...

A common narcissistic personality disorder trait is pathological lying. The narcissist presents to the world the creation of his false self. This false self is based on the image of who the narcissist would like to be rather than how he really feels about himself at a deep inner level. As a result, the narcissistic personality disorder trait of outrageous and vindictive lying is a faux shop front regarding the narcissist’ssupposed accomplishments and achievements, as well a

The terms “anxiety attack” and “panic attack” are used interchangeably in popular culture, but they have very specific and different meanings to psychiatrists, so I’d like you to know what the difference is too. It’s important to know whether you are having and anxiety attack or a panic attack because it will affect the type of treatment that you are likely to respond to (as I’ll discuss at the end of this article). nnAn anxiety attack is when something bad happ

Question: Do narcissists have friends? Answer: Not in the usual sense of the word and not that they know of. The narcissist is one track minded. He is interested in securing the provision of Narcissistic Supply emanating from Narcissistic Supply Sources. His world is as narrow as an ant's, to ...

One late-night talk-show host is famous for his top-ten lists. I hope he won’t mind, but I’m going to borrow his idea. Here’s my top-ten list of questions asked most often about genital herpes. They come from patients at my clinic and from the WebMD message board. And if your question isn’t in ...

Divorce is often brutal both to the divorcing spouses and to their children. This discussion will appreciate the enormous stress and distress that divorce subjects upon families, including both the adults and children. A syndrome of divorce-related hostilities that affect children has been ... Divorce is often brutal both to the divorcing spouses and to their children. This discussion will appreciate the enormous stress and distress that divorce subjects upon families, including both the adults and children.r

Some patients hear “bipolar disorder” and immediately protest: “Oh, no Doc, I know what bipolar disorder is. That’s mania, right? I’ve never had that.”

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Love a schizoidr How to sustain a relationship with a schizoidr THE SCHIZOIDS are people who do not make affective links, they are emotionally cold, avoiding social relations and have significant difficulties in their working lives and their relationships. Here is a sequence that is sometimes occurring: : 1- Falling in love If you're a woman you can find a man, who is respectful, cultured, shy ... You can fall in love with him because of some reason ... or simply for the sake of it.

Wow…the Winter Olympics are gone but the idea of how many good lessons we could learn from them keeps gravitating in my head. The most important is the idea of persistence and trying again vs the typical win or loose model, not only when pursuing an Olympic medal but in life. Stop for a second and think if you are one of those people for whom the word looser tends to come often into your mind? Or do you constantly deal with a feeling of winning or loosing in life even when things are small and maybe not so important? If so, this article is for you.

Are you in a relationship with someone who drives you crazy? Are you in a relationship with someone who no matter how well you point out the facts of their irresponsibility or immaturity they find some way to justify and rationalize all they do? Do you leave conversations with these people feeling unheard, angry and exasperated? If so, you are in a relationship with a difficult person, one who I call an Adult-Child or a Crazy Maker.

Ritual abuse exists all over the world. There have been reports, journal articles[1][2][3], web pages[4][5][6][7][8][9] and criminal convictions of crimes against children and adults [10][11][12]. Contents * 1 Definition * 2 Origins of the term * 3 Evidence * 4 References * 5 Bibliography * 6 Exte al Links Definition Ritual abuse has been defined as: a brutal form of abuse of children, adolescents, and adults, consisting of physical, sexual, and psychological abuse, and involving the use of rituals. Ritual does not necessarily mean satanic.

At times, everyone experiences emotions so intense that there’s no controlling them or talking ourselves out of them. When the emotions you feel are so overwhelming that you just need to stop what you’re doing and deal with them, here are some tips for what to do. Remember that feeling your emotions, especially the painful ones, is the way through them.

Why would anyone want to sabotage their own efforts? It’s a reasonable question. But, a better-phrased question would be what is the motivation and logic underlying self-sabotage. There is little doubt that it occurs. What is often not recognized is that it serves a purpose. There is a positive intention, a need if you will, underlying the behavior of self-sabotage. There are a number of ways in which we sabotage ourselves and in every single case the self-sabotaging behavior can be viewed as serving some positive need.

Interview granted to Samantha Cleaver for YourTango.com Q. What are some common ways that a mother's narcissism can affect her daughter's relationships? A. Depends on how narcissistic the mother is. Narcissistic parents fail to recognize and accept the personal autonomy and boundaries of their offspring. They treat them as instruments of gratification or extensions of themselves.

Dealing with divorce is never easy. In fact it is probably amongst the most stressful and grueling experiences one can go through. When we get married we start off with a tremendous amount of hope and expectation. Intellectually we know it will take work but it is truly impossible to really know what kind of work it will take until we are already down the path of the marriage. I believe the reason it is difficult to get an idea of what the work of marriage will look like is because I believe it is individual to each marriage and the specific issues which exist between the partners.

Of course they do. All humans have emotions. It is how we choose to relate to our emotions that matters. The narcissist tends to repress them so deeply that, for all practical purposes, they play no conscious role in his life and conduct, though they play an extraordinarily large unconscious ...

In Parental Alienation Syndrome, one parent brainwashes or programs the child to turn against and vilify the other parent. It is difficult for many people to understand how an alienating parent could implant information that may be directly at variance with what the child had previously believed and experienced with the now-targeted parent.

The DSM V re-defines personality disorders thus: at "The essential features of a personality disorder are impairments in personality (self and interpersonal) functioning and the presence of pathological personality traits." According to the June 2011 text of the DSM V, the following criteria must be met to diagnose Narcissistic Personality Disorder (in parentheses my comments): Significant impairments in personality functioning in either identity, or self-direction (should

Dissociative identity disorder (formerly called Multiple Personality Disorder or MPD) is defined in the DSM-IV-TR as the presence of two or more personality states or distinct identities that repeatedly take control of one’s behavior. The patient has an inability to recall personal information. The extent of this lack of recall is too great to be explained by normal forgetfulness. The disorder cannot be due to the direct physical effects of a general medical condition or substance.[1] DID entails a failure to integrate certain aspects of memory, consciousness and identity.

An open mind is good thing - most of the time. New ideas, new experience, increased knowledge, personal and professional growth, better relationships and an overall positive approach to life are just a few of the benefits of having an open mind. However, there are some pitfalls. Like an open window or an open door in which bugs can enter the home, an open mind is susceptible to litter, junk, lies and deceptions, false information and misdirection. The open mind, like an open window, needs a screen to keep the bugs out.

Black and white thinking is sometimes referred to as absolutist or dichotomous thinking. In this kind of thinking, something is all right, or all wrong, all good, or all bad. If you are not a total success, then you are a complete failure. There is no middle ground, regardless of situation or context. It is as if there is only hot water or cold water, no degrees of warm water. There are times when this kind of thinking is useful, even important. For example, for children who live in a home near busy streets, no playing in the street is an absolute rule. No middle ground there, no exceptions.

As the New Year approaches, thousands of people make New Year resolutions, determined to change their lives or aspects of them. By the third or fourth of January, many have broken them and by the middle of the month, most have forgotten them completely, yet alone used them as the impetus to change their lives. What is this collective urge to usher in a New Year, determined to make it different from the previous one?

No man is an island, no woman either for that matter. We are all influenced by our surroundings. Our consciousness is really not our own, but belongs to the environment in which we exist. The appearance of an individual self is an illusion in much the same way empty space appears to be solid matter. And yet, we do experience ourselves as individual entities. But, that does not mean we should ignore the various spheres of influence that make us who we are.

PASSIVE PEOPLE Some people think and analyze a lot and act little. Others, however, without so much thought, are more prone to action. The firsts tend to be passive, the seconds, active. The activity-passivity as a way of being, is very related with our hormonal map. THE PASSIVITY

In my YouTube video, Parental Alienation Syndrome Excerpts from Gregory Mantell Show, I have excerpted segments from an excellent discussion of Parental Alienation. This episode is from a weekly half-hour progam, the most successful talk show on the internet. "The Gregory Mantell Show” also airs on cable TV in Los Angeles and NYC. The episode’s discussion is comprehensive and features Dr. Jayne Major and police officer Catherine MacWillie. I have excerpted approximately 6 min from this 26 min segment. The excerpts will speak for themselves with one comment that I reserve at the end.

THE STYLES OF AFFECTIVE ATTACHMENT "As your mother loved you and enjoyed you, so you will love and will enjoy life" (Mario Marrone) Most of us have some knowledge of psychological concepts. We use these in everyday life to help us in social interactions, and also to understand ourselves. Most of us are familiar with the terms: introversion, narcissism, self-esteem, trauma, paranoia ... However, this list excludes the concept affective attachment ... Below is a definition for affective attachment, as well as definitions for the various types of attachment …..

A great deal of what has been said about the Law of Attraction is only half the story. Attraction is one of two forces contained within magnetism. The other is ‘repulsion.’ Magnetism does not operate without both poles. In other words, if you can accept that you are currently attracting the elements of your life, then you are also repelling energies as well, simultaneously. In fact, you are probably repelling a lot more than you are attracting. Your entire field of experience, everything you have attracted to you, is small in comparison to all that is being repelled, all that is possible.

The Sadistic Personality Disorder made its last appearance in the DSM III-TR and was removed from the DSM IV and from its text revision, the DSM IV-TR. Some scholars, notably Theodore Millon, regard its removal as a mistake and lobby for its reinstatement in future editions of the DSM. The ...

Mindfulness is spilling into areas beyond medicine, healthcare, psychology and neuroscience. It’s moving into programs in education with children and college students, parenting, athletics, the legal profession and business. Studies of Mindfulness in a business context have shown that increases in mindfulness are associated with increased creativity and decreased burnout and executive and corporate mindfulness leadership programs are emerging to meet the need.

When we are in love, the world is golden and nothing gets us down. When we are out of love, we are desperate to regain those feelings we had while in love. The desperation can be so intense, we find ourselves thinking and doing things we would be ashamed to tell our best friend. The excitement of falling in love, being in love, is not just a thrilling psychological and emotional experience. It is as well a bio-chemical experience, what might be called a "high," and there are resemblances to a chemical addiction, and withdrawal, which become evident when we break-up.

The narcissist presents to the world a facade of invincibility, equanimity, superiority, skilfulness, cool-headedness, invulnerability, and, in short: indifference. This front is penetrated in times of great crises that threaten the narcissist's ability to obtai Narcissistic Supply, or when the Narcissistic Supply is spurious (fake or low-grade), negative, or static. In the majority of cases, narcissists react to deficient narcissistic supply by resorting to several adaptiv

Are You in a Dead End Job That Makes You Feel Dead Inside? 10 Ways to Help You Move On! Being in a job like this is like being in a cage with the gate open. You know you can leave but fear (perhaps of loss of income, benefits, something new or different) keeps you from walking out. Being in a job like this drains you of your energy, preventing you from doing things to allow you to move on. When these jobs leave you with no autonomy or ability to be creative and learn new skills, to basically grow personally and professionally, it might be time to leave.r

People with homosexual or bisexual orientations have long been stigmatized. The same is the case for those who are gender non-conforming or who feel their assigned at birth sex or gender does not match their true selves. Heterosexism is a term used to describe the belief that heterosexuality ...

Most of the talk and research about ADHD has been directed towards children with little more than passing reference to adult ADHD. Most adults with ADHD do not look like the typical depiction in childhood, Typically, but not always, as kids with ADHD mature into adolescence, the hyperactive symptoms diminish. But, for some people, adult ADHD continues to cause significant adult problems.

1. Biofeedback is elegant. It is a mirror where you can see and adjust yourself. Biofeedback is behavior guided by direct interaction with a physiological display reflecting nervous system activity. The effect is to develop the range and flexibility of the nervous system. The goal is to ...

The love of - nay, addiction to - competitive and solitary sports cuts across all social-economic strata and throughout all the demographics. Whether as a passive consumer (spectator), a fan, or as a participant and practitioner, everyone enjoys one form of sport or another. Wherefrom this universal propensity? Sports cater to multiple psychological and physiological deep-set needs. In this they are unique: no other activity responds as do sports to so many dimensions of one's person, both emotional, and physical.

Sports Hypnosis for athletes? Hypnosis for athletes was something that was unheard of some years ago, but is now considered an important tool in the elite athlete's arsenal. This applies to all activities from football to poker! Did you know that hypnosis and self-hypnosis are actually commonplace occurrences that most of us engage in on a regular basis without realizing it?

Here is a simple meditation that will put a smile on your face….You can do it laying down in bed, sitting up in a chair or in the more traditional cross legged or lotus posture. The meditation of appreciation is basically giving thanks to the many parts of your body that are working. You can often tell when a part of the body is working well when you are NOT noticing it. It is only when things don’t work that we become focused upon them. If you’re NOT aware of your back, then it’s probably working fine. If you’re NOT aware of your toes, then they are likely working fine.

Many of us mistakenly believe that it's wrong or conceited, to think we have any good qualities. We may spend a lot of time berating ourselves for our negative qualities, thinking that self criticism is the key to improving our performance. However, a constant focus on our supposed shortcomings can hinder our efforts to make friends with other people. How can we have the confidence to make new friends if we think we don’t have much to offer? How can we believe that others c

'60 Minutes' antidepressant report may be 'explosive,' but it's not conclusive. Studies linking the placebo effect to antidepressants have been around for more than a decade. There have, however, been far more studies showing antidepressants to be significantly more effective than placebos. The good in the 60 minutes program is that it will stimulate scientific inquiry into this question. If Dr. Kirsch is right, we want to know. If he has an agenda and/or is wrong, he and the media, which uncritically jump on sensational stories, are doing a disservice with potentially great harm.

Typology of Codependents Codependence is a complex, multi-faceted, and multi-dimensional defence against the codependent's fears and needs. There are four categories of codependence, stemming from their respective aetiologies: (i) Codependence that aims to fend of anxieties related to abandonment. These codependents are clingy, smothering, prone to panic, are plagued with ideas of reference, and display self-negating submissiveness.

Since my area of specialty is working with trauma of all kinds, I am often asked this question about EMDR because it was originally developed as a method of treating post traumatic stress syndrome. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is considered a mind-body approach that focuses on ...

This is a delicious and easy way to prepare squash. If you have any leftovers, they make a great soup. Just puree them in a blender with enough stock or water to reach the consistency of a creamy soup, then heat and season to taste with salt and pepper. 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 ...

The Fear of Failure

Someone with Asperger Syndrome (AS) is characterized by their lack of communication skills, social skills and reciprocity of feelings. A person with AS, also known as an Aspie, knows what they think and feel but are often unaware of what others think or feel. With a deficiency in these critical areas, some have wondered how someone with Asperger's develops an intimate relationship or even gets married.

How fit do you consider yourself? You can be fit in any number of arenas--financial, health, physical, etc. You consult doctors, financial planners, chiropractors, CPA's, tax analysts, bankers, stock brokers, nutritionists, tennis pros, golf pros, physical therapists, fitness trainers and anyone else who might be able to help you raise your particular fitness quotient. But have you ever thought about the level of your mental fitness?

Two three-letter words: "but" and "and." In grammatical terms, they are called conjunctions. They bridge two clauses of a single sentence together. In communication (and negotiation), these words are subtle manipulators of exclusion or inclusion. Generally speaking, "but" excludes, denies, discounts or in some way rejects the previous clause.

Joyce Brothers, PhD, is one of United States' leading family psychologists and advice columnists, publishing a daily syndicated newspaper column since 1960. She was the host of her own television program, has published several best-selling books, and continues to appear on television, radio, and in film both as an expe

Loneliness is the unpleasant feeling of the inability to have satisfying relationships. The person desires to be in intimate, long-lasting relationships, but is unable to do so. It is an unfulfilled need for intimacy. Loneliness is experienced by all age groups, some time or the other, but it is most prevalent among adolescents. It is also highly prevalent among children, which is not very well known. The experience of loneliness, depending on its intensity, is very disturbin

People who are hurt, specifically in an emotional or psychological sense, tend to hurt other people. Hurt people can hurt people with harsh words, biting comments, derogatory statements, ridicule, condescension, sarcasm, yelling and screaming, cussing and innuendo about family members or friends. It doesn’t really matter how a person came to be hurt, for there are hundreds of ways it can happen: childhood trauma such as physical abuse or rape, parental neglect, peer bullying, sibling conflict, to name a few.

Article: Written by Renee L. Richardson Too boyish to Cry: Way too girly not to As an African American woman, and educator, I sit inside of my preschool classroom amazed at the observations of which I am afforded. During my astonishing experiences with the young learner, I have found that there exists gender-role identity bias within the preschool classroom setting in the year of 2012. Regardless of the countless amounts of research of which suggest that educators encourage

How to Understand Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder I had just completed my evaluation of 11 year-old Timmy. His parents had brought him to me because of behavior problems and the teacher's complaint that he was "underachieving" in school. Timmy, I explained, has attention deficit ...How to Understand Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder

An article by: Jay Tow, M.S. During the many years I have worked as a counselor and coach, I have found that one thing holds people back from living the lives they want more than anything else. Fear is the one common emotion that inhibits us from making the changes that would improve our situations, our standard of living, the quality of our relationships, and our feeling of self-worth. Fear can keep us safe when our safety is truly threatened. On the other hand, fear can keep us from taking actions that could change our lives for the better.

When the chips are down, the athlete often cannot share his/her inner fears, anxiety and anger issues with the coach or their parents. Now, the athlete has a critical ally...the professional Sports Psychologist (also referred as the professional Sport Psychologist).

I'm sure you have heard couple's of all ages say to each other "I love you." You would probably like hearing it said to you, if it's not already. Sometimes when one person says "I love you" to another person, the response is "me too." I find that an absurd response. What does it mean? That I love me too? A more appropriate response would be "I love you too" and even that isn't terribly poignant. It's kind of like someone asking "how are you" and you say "fine." It's automatic and somewhat meaningless.

ANTI SPAM PSYCHOLOGY SPAM Spam is junk mail we receive on our computers. It is usually mail we have no interest in receiving. By opening it, we waste time we could be spending on something else. Also, the same spam is often sent to us repeatedly. We become annoyed and feel that our privacy is being violated. Even worse, spam often carries a malicious virus intended to infect our computers. ANTI-SPAM Generally, mail which is possible spam is filtered by our e-mail so, if we’re not interested, we don’t have to waste time reading itrnor being irritated by it.r

The era of personal development in which we exist, echoes the message 'You are here to find your purpose'. The implication is that once we find our true meaning and purpose for living, we unlock the key to health, abundance and happiness. Anyone responding to that call finds themselves on a path of self-discovery in search of the holy grail of one's unique purpose and meaning. There is no shortage of information, direction, processes or value systems beseeching us to heed their solutions. Nor is there any overriding system enabling us to evaluate the merit of their claims.

When we use existential as in existential psychology, existential alienation or an existential vacuum, we the authors mean only that the topic under discussion relates to the satisfying, mediocre or disappointing lifestyle men and women choose or have thrust upon them by society. For us, existential or life style values, attitudes, expectations, beliefs and choices have no connection with the purposeless European philosophy formerly called existentialism or know now as secular nihilism.

We hear a lot about physical fitness. Every town has at least one, and probably several, gyms. You see people jogging around town and television infomercials are filled with the latest workout program or gadget to help you get into shape. There is no question that physical fitness is important. But, what about psychological fitness?

Recovered memories have been defined as the phenomenon of partially or fully losing parts of memories of traumatic events, and then later recovering part or all of the memories into conscious awareness. They have also been defined as the recollections of memories that are believed to have been unavailable for a certain period of time[1]. There is very strong scientific evidence that recovered memories exist.[2] This has been shown in many scientific studies.

Most of the pain of overwhelming emotion is caused by our struggle against feeling the emotion. We fight against our situation, wishing things were different, being disappointed when our expectations aren’t met, and telling ourselves we shouldn’t be upset, depressed, sad, disappointed, or angry. The next time you feel overwhelmed by intense emotion, try doing the exact opposite of what you normally do: feel the emotion and accept it. Tell yourself, "I’m feeling __________________ right now and it is very uncomfortable.

You know when your skin is exhausted as you look in the mirror you see a grey wrinkly face staring back at you and wonder A., how did I end up looking like this and B., how do I change it ? Given that it is tired, a series of facial exercises may seem a bit odd. Firstly, if it is on your face, chances are that it is on other parts of your body so as you get into your shower check your body over and note what parts need some working on. Right now we are concentrating on the face but the first thing we must look at is the diet.

The Stress Doc presents a four step, “Four 'R'” communicational guide for building successful “give and take” professional relationships. The Four “R”s are dramatically illustrated in his recent encounter with an ENT surgeon. Many of us “Boomers” grew up with an alliterative academic mantra as educational foundation, that is, the Four “R”s – Reading, Writing, Rithmetic and Religion. Let’s just say I focused more on the first two “R”s and sort of made a nominal wave at the latter.

Despite years researching and treating this topic, I find it to be poorly understood but extremely destructive both to parents and to children of divorce. Parents who have lost their child through alienation have sometimes described it as worse than the death of their child because, for the parent, it is an unresolved loss.

Millions of adults in the United States were victims of some degree of sexual abuse when they were children. In most cases this abuse leaves its affects to a greater or lesser degree. The affect it has on people when they become adults is dependent on many factors. The first factor is the severity and the duration of the abuse. The second most important factor is how the abused child processed the abuse in his or her mind. If the abuse was dealt with at the time, it would have a lesser affect later in life.

SEXUAL OBSESSIONS IN CONVENTS Before knowing the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, this already existed in monasteries and convents. He was known by the name of "scruples of conscience. " A VERY STRICT MORAL Sexual morality of the Roman Catholic Church has been very strict. Any “venereal” pleasure (sexual) consented, constituted a grave sin and was punished with ete al hell. This sin not accepted "paucity of matter", ie, against this provision had not sin mild, all were serious or fatal.r

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The Parental Alienation Syndrome, introduced by forensic psychiatrist Richard Gardner, carries the connotation of the mother as the predominant alienator. I have seen both mothers and fathers alienate their children from the other parent. I have therefore introduced the term malicious divorce syndrome as a gender- neutral name for this disorder.

My approach to working with couples has always started with the following: Two people coming into a relationship with their own set of issues. They act out on these issues within the relationship. In order to deal with the issues that may be having a negative effect on the relationship, both people must first work through their own issues. What both individuals need to work on could range from minor issues or major issues like abuse or other trauma.

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Some women’s groups have denounced and denied the existence of Parental Alienation Syndrome, claiming it is a ploy by men to use against women. The claim that PAS has not been accepted in U.S. courts of law is not true. Although there are judges who have not recognized Parental Alienation Syndrome, there is no question that some American and foreign courts are recognizing the condition.

This paper will delineate the etiological antecedents of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and enumerate upon the scientific evidence proving the existence of DID. (I will use the term DID for MPD to avoid confusion, even when the original author cited may have used the original term MPD.) ...

Have you ever noticed that in many of your relationships that one person seems to have all the power while the other one is in the hunt to stay in the game? If you find yourself in relationships like this you will continue to attract them until you change your patterns. Many of us are desperate for love. Many of us are desperate for attention. Many of us are desperate for affection. Many of us are desperate for validation. In being this desperate we often set ourselves up to get into relationships with all the wrong people.

PARENTAL ALIENATION is real. If you're on the receiving end...you know it. For most everyone else,...it's invisible.rn ..... TheBondedFamily .......Retweeted by PASA-NJ January 10, 2012

The Primordial Energy (Adi Shakti) has 2 streams 1) spiritual 2) material. Spiritual energy is called Gayatri and material energy is called Savitri. Gayatri has 1 face because it represents Non-duality and oneness of soul. Savitri has 5 faces. The body is made up of 5 gross elements. Its 5 sense organs experience sound, form, taste, smell and touch with the help of 5 Tanmatras (subtle element). Vibration of consciousness i.e. the 5 Pranas (Vital Forces) control our bodily mov

More than three decades ago I had the opportunity of meeting the iconic Ram Dass for the first time on Martha’s Vineyard at a satsung. Satsung is a Sanskrit word that means “gathering together for truth,” which usually involves teaching, music and meditation. This evening rocked my world in a subtle yet profound way. Ram Dass, formerly known as Dr. Richard Alpert, the eminent Harvard psychologist and psychedelic pioneer, traveled to India in 1967 where he met his guru,

Neuropsychology is the study of the relationship between the structure and functioning of the brain and everyday behavior. Although we all share the same planet, each of us sees, hears, touches and smells our own individual universe of experience. Art, music, dance, and to some degree language, allow us to share our experiences, yet we often fail to 'connect' at an interpersonal level. Man is a social animal. This means that we each have a unique role within the tribe of mankind.

What constitutes sexual addiction? This article addresses some common misconceptions. It also more clearly defines sexual addiction. I hope that those reading this article will understand that like all addictions, sex addiction is a progressive disease. It requires more and more to get the same “high” and sex addicts find themselves seeking things that are taboo and more risky behaviors. This could result in engaging in illegal sex acts and possibly sexual abuse.

When we think of emotional stress, we automatically assume it’s something that is bad for us. Yes, some kinds of stress are associated with health issues such as high blood pressure, headaches, and even weight gain. But not all stress is negative stress.

Introverts are perhaps the most misconstrued people in this world. They are usually perceived as dull, boring, and at times arrogant. They are also, often believed to be rather dry, lackluster, and lacking in enthusiasm. For this they are at the receiving end of quite a lot of criticism and endless advice and suggestions. This, of course, is not really what introverts are about. These are many of the misconceptions and misperceptions that usually people have about them. Such

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If information and knowledge is the currency of today's marketplace, then asking questions is the means of accessing that currency. Knowing how to ask what questions when is important in leadership positions, sales, management, teaching and parenting as well as learning in any field of study. We ask so many questions daily that we take it for granted. But, there is art to asking questions. There are two types of questions: open and closed. Closed questions are those that can be answered with one of three words: yes, no or, sometimes, maybe.

The subject of suicide has been heavily covered in the news lately. Mainly due to the time of year where most people believe suicide numbers rise (though some studies suggest otherwise) but also due to the well publicised suicide of an ex-sportsman in England and a number of celebrities `coming out` about depression and attempted suicide. While some of the stories have to be seen in the context that any publicity is good publicity, it does highlight the issue that suicide rates are rising.

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) has, to date, not been included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders and is not widely accepted in United States courts. Even after it might be included in the diagnostic manual, courtroom arguments will likely continue for decades – because it appears invisible. Unlike physical abuse where scars and wounds are exte al, PAS destroys internally and, thus, a denial that PAS has occurred is relatively easy.

Bess was a 34-year-old, attractive, single, accomplished attorney living in the Boston area. She lived comfortably in her condo, managed her finances, had no close friends and had a succession of unfulfilling relationships with men. She struggled with sustaining connections with others and often felt quite lonely. Only at work did she feel empowered and on her game. Bess could not figure out what got in the way of her having better relationships. Time was passing her by and m

The Extreme Abuse Surveys (EAS) were created to develop a qualitative and quantitative base of data regarding the accounts of survivors of extreme abuse [1]. Four researchers from Germany and the United States, Carol Rutz, Thorsten Becker, Bettina Overcamp and Wanda Karriker worked together to develop three different surveys to develop this base of data[1]. The Trilogy The international online survey was divided into three parts. The Extreme Abuse Survey for adult survivors (EAS), was conducted betwee January 1 and March 30, 2007.

Have you ever wished you could get others to agree with you? Do you ever find yourself agreeing with someone that you wish you hadn’t? Like maybe a telemarketer or other annoying individual? This is a brief summary of some of the reasons we agree. Perhaps you want to become more persuasive or perhaps you want to discover why you are so easily persuaded. Let’s examine some reasons. Reciprocity We each try to repay, in kind, what another person has provided us. Favors have a

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In Parental Alienation Syndrome, courts, atto eys, police, social workers, therapists, and friends often assume that what the presumably frightened alienating parent is saying is true. People may believe fabrications by the alienator because the kinds of abuse the alienator claims DO and are known to happen. There are, indeed, ex-spouses who are abusers and sexual molesters. The alienating parent can be very convincing with detailed, vivid stories. The clincher is that the alienated child corroborates the alienating parent’s version of how terrible the targeted parent is.

The human tendency to adapt as life changes swirl around us, or to stand pat by holding to the past even when doing so is self-defeating - begins when we are infants. Our personality patterns, values, attitudes, expectations and all the rest jelled when we were deciding who we are, what life is all about and what we are worth in the scheme of things. Your life-theme, the prism through which you interpret what goes on within and about you, has also been called a person's world-view or mind-set.

Here are some suggestions to help you get through your chemotherapy treatment. By preventing nausea you can be comfortable, stay well nourished, and feel better sooner. BEFORE TREATMENT It’s not necessary to have an empty stomach before getting chemotherapy. Staying well nourished and well ...

AIR RAGE, like road rage, is the inability to cope with the challenges of congested traffic. Just like aggressive driving and road rage, air rage is so common that most travelers are unaware that they have it. It's just part of the background feeling that goes along with the stress of travel and transportation. This background below the surface simmering feeling of anger explodes into rage at unpredictable moments. What can the air lines do about it, and what can we do as tra

Attending a support group can be a very positive part of your recovery plan, as long as you understand what is healthy and what is dysfunctional. Let’s look at a few qualities of support groups and what happens when things get out of balance… Similarities vs Enmeshmentr When I join a support group and find others who share similar conce s, I have an immediate way of connecting. Why is this a good thing? 1. I don’t feel alone. 2. I don’t feel so awkward/strange. 3. I have others who have a similar body of knowledge about our concern. 4. I feel comfortable.r

Since the beginning of time, people have been prone to procrastinate. Some of them are embarrassed by it (“Sorry, I’m late.”), some brag about it (“I put the “pro” in procrastination”) and still others have created a holiday for it.

"Learning that one's child has bipolar disorder can be traumatic. Diagnosis usually follows months or years of the child's mood instability, school difficulties, and damaged relationships with family and friends. However, diagnosis can and should be a turning point for everyone conce ed. Once ..."Learning that one's child has bipolar disorder can be traumatic. Diagnosis usually follows months or years of the child's mood instability, school difficulties, and damaged relationships with family and friends.

I was having breakfast with a group of friends this morning. When I declined the biscuit offered to me, one of them said, “Oh, no, now I suppose you have gluten intolerance too, the latest disease fad. I wonder the next new disease will be?” To which all of the others laughed in agreement of her observation. I assure you, if you have intolerance to gluten, it is no laughing matter.

Question: Are Narcissists addicted to being famous? Answer: You bet. This, by far, is their predominant drive. Being famous encompasses a few important functions: it endows the narcissist with power, provides him with a constant Source of Narcissistic Supply (admiration, adoration, approval, ...

If you’ve been listening to the news lately, you may have come to the conclusion that the outlook at the moment is bleak. You may be caught up in the gloom and doom, hopeless mind set that is more contagious than a flu pandemic. There are some things you can do to help prevent the spread of the dis-ease.and keep yourself healthy when those around you share their negativity. Inoculate – To keep your mind and body healthy, it is important to first inoculate yourself by setti

Dr. Linet has extensive experience and expertise in the problem of abuse in its various forms. Most people are more familiar with the concept of physical abuse than they are of nonphysical abuse. The terms, nonphysical abuse, relationship abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and ... Dr. Linet has extensive experience and expertise in the problem of abuse in its various forms. Most people are more familiar with the concept of physical abuse than they are of nonphysical abuse.

The negative effects of overwhelming emotions often have more to do with our reaction to the emotion than to the emotion itself. If you feel extreme rage and act on that rage by breaking a window or physically assaulting the person you’re angry at, the problem then becomes the damage you’ve caused rather than the emotion of anger. If you allow the anger to pass through you without reacting to it, there would be no problem. Emotions themselves, even the painful ones, can be neutral and soon pass.

There are many ways to increase IQ and here, we aim to reveal and explore some of the things which you can do right now, which will help to enhance and develop your mental powers going forward. Use The Square Attention Game This is a very unique mental training technique, which, in the scientific community is known as "N-Back Training". It was invented in its original version by Dr Jaeggi at the University of Michigan, and has been shown in clinical trials to lead to improvem

The truth is, self esteem is a mental fabrication. It has no objective existence of its own like might a part of the body or something in the natural environment. We can all agree on a person’s height, weight or even how fast he or she can walk a mile. But, there is no way to measure self esteem that is objective or standardized. That’s actually a good thing because it means any person can make self esteem to be what they choose. But, therein lies the problem as well. We might think a person who is successful in business, productive and wealthy, has “high” self esteem.

POWER TRAITS There is power in the money and the political class. In this article we travel to that part hidden and unspeakable of power that is part of power and that largely determines its performance. 1 –A MALE ROLE There are people who by birth are destined to be in the power, others will have their opportunity to access to it in a society like the modern where the status is not predetermined and can ascend and descend on the social scale ... It is not difficult to see that the "role" of power is masculine. Yesterday a generation ofr

This question fascinates me because I have observed over many years many jou eys where people struggle with this task (myself included.) Let’s take a look at some of my speculations and see what your thoughts might be on why this is so challenging. Our History and Teachingsr For women, it is easy to look back at the history we are and see that we have had to work hard for our rights. We have been considered an extension of our marital partners, the gender to be educated last in some cultures, the gender to serve, the gender to be barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen for starters.

Not all teams are created equal. Some teams clearly ARE better than others. They get more done, and with less squabbling. Still, there are instances of teams performing heroically even though they may all dislike each other. Keeping in mind there are various definitions of teams and their purposes, we can paint a fairly clear picture of what we WANT in the ideal team. Here are 17 things we know that peak-performing teams have in common. 1. All teams experience conflict. The successful ones manage it and succeed in spite of it. 2. All teams have weaknesses.

WHAT IS CHILDHOOD ABUSE? Child abuse can take the form of any act of emotional, physical or sexual abuse perpetrated against a child. Child abuse can also take the form of neglect: ignoring the child's emotional and or physical needs. Child abuse can take place inside and outside of the ...

Just before the start of a “Stress, Change and Creative Teaming” workshop, I was testing out my microphone. The program was for managers of a global engineering company. Most of the 50 + particpants were ex-military, now contractors working with commands and brigades based at Ft. Hood, TX or presently stationed overseas. As I called out, “Can people in the back hear me?” a former Sergeant Major who knew me from my work at Ft.

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When to seek treatment: I recently received a call from a woman who was interested in couple therapy. She and her partner were planning a wedding and thought it would be a good idea to have pre-marital counseling "to iron out a few problems." After a few months in treatment, they agreed that ...When to seek treatment:

Whether you’re a new dad or a dad-to-be, you probably already realize something about fatherhood: it’s the highest of the highs—and the lowest of the lows. You’re on an emotional roller coaster unlike any you’ll ever experience. One moment, you’re beaming, the proud dad of a beautiful newborn. ...

A No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

What rating would you give yourself on personal productivity? Do you have a systematic plan for improving your effectiveness in your daily work? Superachieving business people and athletes know what it takes to motivate themselves, maintain focus in the face of obstacles and drive forward to the completion of their vision and dreams.

Obsessions are persistent but unwanted ideas, thoughts, impulses, or images that cause marked anxiety or distress. The most common obsessions are about contamination or repeated doubts (e.g., whether one has performed some act such as having hurt someone in a traffic accident or having left ... Obsessions are persistent but unwanted ideas, thoughts, impulses, or images that cause marked anxiety or distress.

Physical/aggressive bullying is easy to identify. We can all see the broken bones, blood, and bruises. This type of bullying is most often chosen by men.

Let’s look at the definition of betrayal so we can understand why it hurts so much. Webster’s definition: To hurt (someone who trusts you, such as a friend or relative) by not giving help or by doing something morally wrong. “The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.” ~Unknown

Online counseling is a relatively new therapeutic service. There are many advantages over the traditional in-person face-to-face therapeutic sessions offered in just about every community. And, of course, there are some cons. As the technology has developed, online counseling has also grown expanding from simple email based therapeutic communication to also include chat, pc-to-pc telephone sessions and even web-cam based live video sessions.

For eons, the human organism has been honed and perfected to respond effectively and appropriately to any perceived sense of threat or attack. In modern language, this effective and appropriate response is called the 'fight or flight response.' In lay terms, this means that when we feel threatened or attacked, our first line of defense is generally to either fight back, or run. We have likely experienced this at some time in our lives. Our fight response, however, may be hampered by the conditioning of our upbringing and our society.

Change! Such a loaded word. What comes to your mind when you think of the word change? Stop for a minute and try to answer that question. What types of feelings does it bring up in you? Hope, excitement, joy, or on the other hand, fear, anxiety, loss, or to make things more complicated, a combination of both? I really like this anonymous quote “Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely,” because I feel it very much encompasses the point I would like to make in this article.

Affective relationships give us a sense of purpose and provide added meanings to our lives, actions, and choices, as they create powerful motivations to set and pursue goals which aim is that of maintaining them. They affect us deeply, offering us opportunities to feel and express emotions that come from our universal need to be in intimate relationships where we love and are loved. Sharing our experiences and emotions enriches us and helps us manage our uncomfortable emotions, better adapting to life’s challenges and partaking of the joys of life in deeper and fuller ways.

Some people feel very strongly that a person cannot be both a friend and a lover, as one will undermine the other. It’s one or the other, these people say, and cite the importance of mystery and the excitement of the new and the exotic as powerful forces that fuel sexual passion and physical attraction and lust between two individuals. How can you feel the attraction, they say, if you know the other person as an open book? When do you ever feel passion for a friend?

Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

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SUPEREGO AND DIVERSITY Sigmund Freud discovered the superego as a psychological structure juxtaposed to the ego, but at the same time faced this. The father of psychoanalysis died in 1939. It's been 70 years. At this point there are who ask: "About the superego ... what is fantasy and what is reality ...?" The superego certainly exists and we can reach it using our capacity of introversion. 1-THE SELF With few exceptions, all have clear awareness of what is the ego, ie, just what we call in our everyday language when we say: "I think, I am ..." 2-THE SUPEREGOr

In Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part Two we are going to give you lots of examples, so you can identify if you are bullying or being bullied. The Setupr The female family serial bully (FSB) may try to set people up against her victim. This can be accomplished in many ways.

A strategic business plan provides the organization a sense of direction and a sense of purpose It answers the questions “Who are we?”, “What value are we creating for the stakeholders?” and “What does success look like?” Performance management is the process that ensures the implementation of the Strategic Business Plan by focusing on performance of the Company, the Division or Region, the Department or work group, and the individual employee.

Who is this Dr. Phil Guy? By Richard A. Singer Jr. Psychotherapy and counseling are extremely precious to me. The help of trusting and loving professionals within these fields empowered me to pick myself up from the depths of despair and become a contributor to the human race. Therapy is also ...

Are you tired of the 9 to 5 grind? Have you been dreaming about retirement but wonder if it can ever happen for you? Most of us think we are just “one lottery ticket away” from retirement, and we are too depressed to even consider it as a serious possibility. So instead of thoughtfully planning for it, we tuck our heads in the sand and hope it will all take care of itself someday.

Two types of seasonal affective disorder have been identified: winter SAD and summer SAD - winter SAD being far more common. Characteristic is a reduction in mood and/or energy during periods of reduced hours of sunshine and daylight (even during the summer). Common symptoms include ... Two types of seasonal affective disorder have been identified: winter SAD and summer SAD - winter SAD being far more common. Characteristic is a reduction in mood and/or energy during periods of reduced hours of sunshine and daylight (even during the summer).

Johnny, age 7, was fascinated for hours by running water, lost in his own world. Like many autistic children he ran on his toes and flapped his hands to self-stimulate in hopes of controlling all the noise in his head. Even minor frustrations turned into emotional meltdowns including seizures. ...

We always hear people say, "I wish I knew then what I know now," so here is some help if you are navigating a divorce now ... 1.Believe in Yourself!

Leading with “Passion Power” ™: A Four “P” Interactive Model for Expanding Personal Energy, Professional Creativity and Organizational Synergy – Part I Awhile back, preparing for a talk on “Becoming a Dynamic and Engaging Speaker,” I asked myself a fundamental question: what are the essential ...

A No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

Professional Athletes Using Hypnosis to Enhance Mental Toughness and Peak Performance As they get older and put more mileage on their bodies, proactive thinking professional athletes look for an edge. Much of the training and coaching that professional athletes receive works on the logical brain, the left brain. Game plans, strategies, knowing what to do in a specific situation…all fire up the left brain. Frequently, the right brain is ignored. Balance, music, emotions, visualization and self-hypnosis all involve the right brain.

Some of the writing about Borderline Personality Disorder by therapists and health care professionals seems to almost disparage the emotional sensitivity of sufferers who are characterized as experiencing widely varying emotional responses that can swing from anger to delight in a moment. Some portray BPD sufferers a having multiple personalities. This is not strictly true. We do not imagine ourselves to be multiple personalities in the way schizophrenics were once perceived

Are you frustrated with someone you care about who appears to be the victim of a perpetrator? Do you find yourself getting angry for this person? We all have examples of these situations and we often struggle with what to say, how much time to spend with the victim, and how to continue being their friend. Some common examples of these situations might be: Your best friend keeps bailing out his/her partner from the consequences of his/her addiction. Your parents keep giving money to your clearly addicted sibling.r

Have you been a victim or do you know someone who's a victim of Narcissistic Abuse and Betrayal? Are you getting a Divorce? Do you want to learn more about Codependency and People Pleasing? Learn why havingAuthenticity and Backbone will help you. Be among the first to see my newest blog posts, updates, and more! Subscribe now and get a free sneak-preview of my book. Click here www.backbonepower.com/newsletter-signup

SAFETY DISTANCE When a stranger comes to us or the syndrome of the elevator THE ELEVATOR One day we go into an elevator with other people who we do not know. The limited space forces us to tolerate the physical contact and we are uncomfortable. A person turns to avoid a face to face, another does not want to expose the strange his lower body, a third apparently felt a sudden curiosity to the roof of the little drawer and that was in the middle in a “I stay, I’m leaving”. Nobody looks directly anyone ... All have the unpleasant sensation of feeling violated our security space.r

How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? This is an excellent question and often confusing for many for different reasons. Let’s look at the definitions of codependent and loving and see what we find. Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we will include some distinctions of love: Truth Strong Energizingr Codependency: Codependency for the purpose of this discussion is a recognizable system of learned personality traits that negatively affect knowing one’s self and others.

This paper presents research showing the biological basis for the theory of recovered memory. I define recovered memory as the phenomenon of partially or fully losing part or a specific aspect of a memory, and then later recovering part or all of the memory into conscious awareness. This paper includes data from the works of van der Kolk and Fisler, Knopp and Benson and Bremner.

Deep Breathing It is easier to learn this in the presence of a professional or via audio (see www.umfer.org to get mp3s with this exercise on it). Begin by sitting in a chair. Once you learn this you can do it lying down or while in line at the grocery store. First test your breathing by timing for one minute how many breaths you take, with each inhale and exhale counting as one. Notice how high your count is. Most people take on average between 15-17 breaths per minute. You likely are taking short shallow breaths. The goal is to get between 3-6. And no I’m not on acid.

Why another blog on 9/11? Because I want to remember this date by offering something that hopefully can shed further light on some of the repercussions of the fateful events of ten years ago. As a psychotherapist, I am deeply aware of the importance of traumatic events that occur unpredictably and seemingly without any logical reason, such as the events of 9/11 ten years ago. These events affected each of us individually as well as collectively.

Have you ever wondered if you are normal? Do you spend time comparing yourself to others? It is not uncommon to have these thoughts because we tend to judge many things as being normal or not normal. If people don’t perceive themselves as having “acceptable” thoughts, feelings, beliefs, or behaviors, they think there is something wrong with them and believe they are not normal.

Article: Written By Renee L Richardson Sharing Within an Intimate Relationship: How much is too much? When we fall in love, we are ecstatic over our newly found love. It seems as though all senses and usage of boundaries are set aside in the attempt to not appear as uncaring, selfish, hard-hearted beings. We become preoccupied with our looking good for the brand new love of our life thereby forgetting about protecting ourselves. Why on earth would we need to remember to kee

Loss of trust in a love relationship can come about as a result of infidelity, a partner lying about money, one partner failing to be a loyal ally when needed, and many other ways. Regardless of the cause, when couples are faced with the dilemma of rebuilding trust after a betrayal, there are four strategies that can help. We call these CORE strategies. CORE is an acronym for Communication, Opportunity, Renegotiation, and Empathy.

SUBSCRIBE TO GET THE LATEST BLOG POSTS, NEWS, & MORE UPDATES FROM DR. ANNE BROWN. http://backbonepower.com/newsletter-signup Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, of Sausalito, Califo ia, formerly from Aspen, Colorado in her private practice has served as the trusted advocate and advisor to Influential Corporate leaders, Trial Atto eys, Athletes, Leaders, Physicians and their families, many whose connections extend well beyond the town of Aspen.

I assess bullying as a form of abuse. Our first child abuse laws had many starts and stops; they did not really gain traction until the 1970’s. These laws addressed physical and sexual abuse, not emotional abuse. Church and State enabled abuse and the paradigm that women and children were property of man and he could do as he wanted with his property. We do know female bullying in the workplace is on the rise. It is highly likely these same women are using their bullying tactics in other areas such as in their social situations and families. Healing From Emotional Bullying

If you have recently received a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome for one of your children, you may be asking yourself how this could be? You are certainly experiencing a lot of emotions right now, but your brain has also kicked into high gear as you search for an explanation. You want to know why? Where did it come from? Isn’t Asperger Syndrome an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)? Is it genetic? Is it due to a poor diet or childhood immunizations?

All intimate relationships are supported by two pillars: Intimacy andSafety. Intimacy implies both closeness and communication (Holmes, J.Attachment, Intimacy, Autonomy, J. Aronson, 1996.) The more we communicate with one another, the closer we get. The closer we get, the easier and deeper our communication.

Psychotherapy is an intimate, private and deeply personal experience. Both therapist and patient/client co-construct, in the common professional parlance of the day, a relationship where unknown or unexpressed desires, conflicts, questions and dreams are explored. For this unveiling process to ...

Video games have evolved exponentially since the advent of the first interactive games in 1947 with the development of the Cathode Ray Tube Amusement Device (CRTAD). Baby boomers may remember playing “Tank”, “Pong” and “Space Invaders” in the seventies at arcades where the pin-ball machine was still king.

Let’s discuss one particular use of technology, sexting – sending lewd pictures and texting sexually explicit messages over the phone – in the context of relationships. A case of a public figure caught sexting has recently brought the use of this technological communication to everybody’s attention. There are two myths about this practice that need to be challenged:

Even though it is interesting to note that recent reports state female workplace bullying is on the increase, causing more people to say they would rather work for a man, we are going to stay focused on the female family serial bully. I believe bullies know they are bullying. I believe you don’t wake up one morning as a competent bully. I think you learn bullying over time and by attending “mean girl school.” (I am not sure what “mean girl school” means, but I imagine it is a combination of watching other bullies, having been bullied and deciding to retaliate by bullying others.)

Resiliency and Recovery have a nice ring. The two R’s! Having a backbone makes this process a lot easier. Resiliency is having the ability to adapt in the face of adversity. The more you know yourself, the greater your self-awareness, and the greater your backbone, the greater your chance for success in your recovery.

Are you working longer hours but getting less done? Are you being asked to do more in less time? Beginning to feel like a hostage at work? Productivity problems can make you feel incredibly stressed--and then you're just spinning your wheels. But there is help. You can use your mind. You can soon be winning the mental game of personal productivity. Peak-performing sales professionals work smarter, not harder. They want to achieve to the maximum in business and then go play. Here's how you can do that too. 1.

During school life everyone come through those few children who sit by themselves and don’t say anything, don’t look around, and don’t seem even the least bit interested in getting involved with classmates. None of us ever think about the reason for such behavior rather most of the children make fun of them and isolate them by providing the tag of weird. In most of the cases such behavior arises due to mental disorders, the child might not behave the typical way on thei

Ever since Freud, more women than men sought therapy. Consequently, terms like "hysteria' are intimately connected to female physiology and alleged female psychology. The DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the bible of the psychiatric profession) expressly professes gender bias: personality ...

Why do people tend to avoid feeling their feelings? It has everything to do with our early experience in life - what we learned and what we didn't learn. As I talk to people across the nation, most people agree that they didn't really learn how to make good use of their feelings when they were growing up. What they did learn was how to avoid certain feelings. * "It's not okay to be angry."rn* "Don't feel excited about yourself." These are the some of the common messages that

This summer in particular, we had some pretty spectacular athletic competitions in England, France, and more recently, Rio. Whether you follow cycling, tennis or any of the competitions that took place in Rio, it is hard not to be inspired and learn from some of the stories. Stories and Goalsr First, all athletes come with a story. If we spend any time reading about and/or watching the athletic events we have been blessed with this summer, we begin to become a part of these people’s lives.

Are superstars born or made? Do they have the genius of supreme achievement by an accident of birth, a favorable environment or from their own individual effort? Whatever the reasons, superstars are a different breed. They must succeed and they will succeed. They have an amazing capacity to dream big, strive even bigger and come through against all the odds. Can we learn to become better achievers by looking inside the minds of the big-time peak performers? Let's see what makes them tick and why they are able to achieve so much more and at a higher level than anyone else.

“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends and it will get you the right ones.” We all have been there! Maybe you had a friend or you know someone now who is in a big DRAMA! The situation keeps getting worse and you can’t believe the stories… affairs, lying, addictions, bills not paid, bullying and on and on. I am not referring to illness, accidents, natural disasters; I am referring to things that can happen to us when we don’t have a Backbone.

Keep making those Requestsr Making requests may seem like such a simple thing. Of course I do that you say to yourself. Check again it can be the root of many negative emotions especially resentment.

Are you stressed? Or are you among the rare 25% of Americans who are not greatly stressed at least once a week? [A number down from 45% about 25 years ago.] Why we have so many more people feeling stressed these days has been attributed to factors such as job conce s, crime, changing societal and religious practices, etc. I am not sure what stresses you, but I do know that the two reasons most people do not sleep well at night are worries about their health and their finances.

Many people strive for some form of perfection. Whether in their work, in their appearance, in their relationships, in their expectations of others…There are a number of problems with perfectionism not the least of which it is simply not possible. Perfection is an ideal, which, almost by definition, is unattainable. Like trying to stand in the middle of a rainbow; as it’s approached, it recedes. The other problem is that the criteria used to gauge perfection are suspect. How did we arrive at these criteria? Is it valid criteria?

THE TIMID ON THE S. XXI The Latin root of the word timid means "be afraid". The people have used this word torn designate the timid because they are presented in society as people fearful. The timid do not sell well to himself, but at short distance they earn much and may be dazzled by his rich inner life, his creativity and his sensitivity. FORMS OF SHYNESS What is the underlying ideation on the timid? What are the engines of socially fearful behaviour? 1-THE SHY WHO HAVE A LOW SELF ASSESSMENTr

A friend of mine is the mother of four, grandmother of three, and jokingly told me that if she had one wish it was to put children entering puberty into a machine, in suspended animation, until they were mature - all the while feeding them a nutritious diet, giving them therapeutic exercise so their muscles don’t atrophy, and feeding them education through headphones. Now, I realize she was kidding, but I’m certain there are many parents who would vote for this if they were

© 2003 WorldNetDaily.com \ One of my recent callers came up with what I'm sure she thought was the singular most legitimate reason for not being a stay-at-home-mom: "... it's not all enjoyable." I kid you not, she actually said that, followed by, "... and I just don't seem to be able to do it ...© 2003 W

Apply the Secrets that Sport Psychologists Use With Elite Athletes to Skyrocket Your Sales Performance By Jack Singer, Ph.D. Matt is a sales manager with a computer software company. His sales people have the responsibilities of generating new business by making “cold calls” and following up on leads from potential customers who respond to inquiries that his company receives.

There are two types of mindfulness practice: formal and informal. In formal practice, you actually set aside an amount of time and dedicate it to being mindful. Informal practice doesn’t require any extra time; the idea is to bring moment-to-moment awareness to everything you already do, to zero in on what you are doing as you are actually doing it. People often do things without being fully present, as if they were on automatic pilot. Living this way, they cheat themselves out of many moments in their lives.

Boundaries are important. From a psychological perspective, boundaries are the mental, emotional, spiritual or relational limits on who and what kind of influences you accept into your life. How you expect to be treated depends on your personal history and self-evaluation. This is different for each person and circumstance. What is acceptable in one case and with one person, may not be tolerated in other instances. The cost of weak boundaries.

I remember a couple, old friends of mine, who had been married for over 25 years. They had raised a family; had made major financial decisions together; had achieved common goals throughout their marriage and, I thought, were solidly attached to one another for the foreseeable future…

(We all need Strong Minds!) "Unless you try to do something beyond what you have mastered you will never grow." Ralph Waldo Emerson The most important asset one can have is a strong mind. Forget all the material things many think are so important and would be lost without; a strong mind is really what we all need in life.

A fundamental shift in humanity’s consciousness— our way of both perceiving and acting in the world has been developing over the past few decades and will continue to develop through much of the twenty-first century. The shift accompanies a profound rite of passage that the earth ...

An article by Jay Tow, M.S. Certified Sexologist

When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BP), whether it’s a sudden realization or a long-known fact, it can be challenging. Those in relationships with BP individuals may be subject to unique forms of manipulation or toxicity. Recognizing these habits of the BP is the first step to liberation. I will address different toxic tools here so you can pick from both articles the toxicity that you are experiencing. You may not have all of them and I may not address all of the ones you are experiencing. I also am addressing emotionally leaving the damage of the BP.

For this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of who we are trying to please. The focus of wanting approval may keep us from acknowledging abusive behaviors coming from the very person whose approval we seek. The need for harmony might prevent us from realizing we are enabling abusive behavior. Or any combination of the above.

Parents often bring their child (or children) to a counselor or therapist to help "fix" behavioral problems exhibited by the child. These behaviors could be some form of conduct or adjustment disorder, general disobedience, substance abuse, depression, anxiety, relationship issues or any number of psychosomatic complaints. Although this is likely a good step to take, parents need to realize that a child's misbehavior is more often than not a symptom of a family dysfunction.

The American Psychiatric Association is now working on the 5th edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, otherwise known as the DSM. There will be some new categories as well as some possible exclusions of what is considered a “mental illness.”

It really is up to you every day whether you see divorce support as a curse or a blessing! Whether you are the giver or the receiver, I recommend you reframe it as a blessing. Is this easy? Of course not! However, if you actually go through the trauma of getting divorced and you stay married through your anger that seems pretty self-destructive! Remember, "Letting someone live rent free in your head" has bigger costs than a monthly check.

FINDING THE LIGHT: OVERCOMING DEPRESSION By Laura Schultz, MFT “We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope”---Martin Luther King

Divorce can be ugly. Courts can make it uglier. I think we are all in agreement "settle out of court". How can a couple do that when they are fighting to the extent they are filing for divorce? You are probably going to get tired of hearing me say first always "Fight for your Marriage."

"What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do." Tim Ferriss How did we become a society that cannot hear the word No? Why are we so sensitive to being told No? There is yes and there is No, there is night and day, dark and light, yin and yang, and on and on. So to be balanced and have strong minds we need to accept No in the same way we accept yes.

We always hear "the rules" From the female side. Now here are the rules from the male side ~! These are our rules!!! Please note that these are all numbered "1” ON PURPOSE ! rn1. Men ARE NOT mind readers. 1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be. 1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way. 1. Crying is blackmail. 1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one:Subtle hints do not work!Strong

With a dagger in your hand, or a loaded gun nearby….anger is particularly dangerous. It’s one thing to slam doors, throw plates or simply yell, scream or have a temper tantrum. It’s an altogether different level of conce when weapons are involved. Anger itself is not a dangerous emotion; it’s the decisions that arise from an angry mind that become dangerous. Any person who is angry has choices about how to deal with that emotion. Unfortunately, almost by definition, anger is not rational, and the decisions made while angry are not thought out….

Partnership Driving Partnership Driving, is a method of driving in which the passenger is designated by the driver as a partner in driving. The two set up an informal contract between them that expresses the terms they mutually agreed on. The contract is for one trip only, and needs to be renewed each time. Here is an example of a typical Partnership Driving Agreement or PDA: 1. I, the driver, designate you the passenger, as my driving partner for this trip. 2. As my driving

Living without a backbone sets you up for severe consequences in the domains of health, finances, career, friendships, romance, recovery and your dignity for starters. What does this mean? How can this be? It means you don’t know how to advocate for yourself and even worse you have insidious rationalizations on why you shouldn’t stand up for yourself. It can “be” for many reasons, but for openers because of dysfunction or perceived dysfunction in your family of origin. Enter chemical dependency and your recovery and we have a huge mess.

There are two indispensable elements that make forgiveness possible. Without them, people struggle with anger, hurt, fear and insecurity, without resolution. Let’s take the case of a couple where one partner had an affair. This scenario is not uncommon in our society, where 50% of married people admit to having had at least one extra-marital affair in the course of their marriages.

“It’s all about what they don’t say than what they do.” Business is a tough game, piled high with challenges, obstacles, problems and, of course, reward, that usually comes when you’re ready to give up. Owner-managers and founding directors face major dilemmas throughout both the start-up and growth phases of their businesses, such as how to write an effective business plan that allows finance to be raised; how to make a strategy that drives business growth; how to manage business’s finances effectively, so that over years to construct a business that grows, not that survives.

So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Others reported gaining weight so they wouldn’t have to say no to dating and sex. Many reported losing weight, feeling attractive, and wanting to put the weight back on so they wouldn’t have to deal with the dating and sex game. Others reported being raped because when they said no, it wasn’t respected.

If you only read self-help books and articles by many pop-psychologists, you would likely believe that changing how you think, feel, and behave is a relatively easy process once you decide to do so. Many people write in such a way that leads you to believe it should be as easy as deciding to change and instant change occurs. Deciding to change is only the first of many steps toward the attainment of lasting and permanent change. It will require a commitment of your time and effort to reach your desired goal.

This morning, I woke up feeling anxious, fearful and ashamed. My human self, my scared little girl, was activated and toxic thoughts and familiar feelings from my past were dominating my experience of a quiet morning. Sadly, I arose thinking about what had triggered these unwanted emotions. I couldn't figure out why I was feeling this sudden anxiety about my life and my future.

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How do you become conscious of your Self - that is, your true or spiritual self, rather than just your inner speech and the voices in your head replayed from the past? Direct conscious effort is necessary. You become more conscious just by asking yourself, "What thoughts am I conscious of right ...

Our Historyr When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This included all forms of abuses: sexual, physical and emotional. Having no rights, we were groomed to be compliant, to obey, to serve, to not speak up, to not have a voice, and generally be an extension of the man. Both church and state enabled and didn’t interfere with this paradigm.

Anxiety is more than just a feeling. As a product of the body's fight-or-flight response, anxiety involves a wide range of physical symptoms. Because of the numerous physical symptoms, anxiety sufferers often mistake their disorder for a medical illness. You may have visited many doctors and ...

"There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds." Laurell K Hamilton Mistral's Kiss

“Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself.” In our article about Leaving a Narcissist, I spoke about knowledge being your best weapon. Only with knowledge about what is happening, how it is happening, and how to counter can someone who is brainwashed begin to fight back. Once the person is out, we add to knowledge, “developing a different observer”.

Biofeedback is interactive training using a display of your physiology. In biofeedback you expand self-awareness and practice powerful self-healing. This is often done with monitoring devices to train for relaxation. However, the true goal is expanding the dynamic range and flexibility of your ...

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Are you controlled or in a partnership? Abusive marriages come in different forms. Most people are quick to think of "physical abuse" but there are definitely other acts of abuse that detriment the wellbeing of individuals at the hands of their domestic partner. 1. Physical Abuse

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Stay or Leave?r

Concepts like homophobia can be tricky. We all get the extreme examples like physically attacking someone because they are gay. But what about more subtle manifestations of fear or discomfort with non-heterosexual people? The Riddle Homophobia Scale was developed to further elucidate this ...

I could write on and on about what you can do, should do, must do, and could do. We have all been frustrated with and in our relationships especially regarding a juicy relationship for couples. I had one of my students write me an entire letter the other day on all the ways she hated everything about her husband. It took me two sentences for me to get back to a place of willingness to see what could change. It went from hate, hate, hate to I don’t know what to do.

Living with chronic pain is draining, disturbing, frightening, debilitating and terribly disruptive. Sometimes the injury or ailment is visible like the results of a severe automobile accident or stroke. Frequently there is no apparent "cause" as the pain results from stenosis, immune disorders ...

Moon Centers. Let’s face it, many women have out-of-control emotions—huge emotional swings that they often blame on PMS, SMS, MPS—whatever! Some people would say it’s easier to just let the emotions rule. Wrong. As a woman, I’m sure that you’d welcome knowing that there are ways other than prescription drugs, to deal with your emotions—how to get them to work for you instead of the other way around—being a slave to them. I’m sure you agree.

The presence of pets activates in us two primitive psychological defense mechanisms: projection and narcissism. Projection is a defense mechanism intended to cope with internal or exte al stressors and emotional conflict by attributing to another person or object (such as a pet) - usually falsely - thoughts, feelings, wishes, impulses, needs, and hopes deemed forbidden or unacceptable by the projecting party. In the case of pets, projection works through anthropomorphism: we attribute to animals our traits, behavior patterns, needs, wishes, emotions, and cognitive processes.

Certainly the storied career of former Penn State football coach Joe Pate o has left many praising his legacy of career wins, devotion and loyalty to his university for so many decades, and his conce with providing a wonderful role model for the young men under his tutelage. Sadly, the end of his career seriously tarnished the image of his decades of honor and success. Pundits will be debating for years whether to give Joe credit for what he accomplished or to revile him for what he did not do, with respect to the Jerry Sandusky sex abuse situation.

The Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church's sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing and according to the report there are those who simply lied. If you want to educate yourself on minimalizing, rationalizing, doing the right thing, doing the right thing but others sabotaging your report, and not doing the right thing, read the report.

“Stop Asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it.” ~Charles J. Orlando Today we are going to address leaving a narcissist emotionally and physically. Many people feel they cannot leave physically because of logistical conce s (e.g. money, no support system, housing, etc.), so leaving emotionally becomes vitally important. Knowledge is the best weapon you have in this scenario. The Components of Emotional Abuser

Imagine yourself sitting in a movie theater chair with a tall bucket of butter popco and big cup of ice-cold Coca Cola, maybe stealing a nacho or two with your sister or friend next to you, chatting away about your day’s events – who sent you an email or a text or whatever makes you happy. You might be at Carmike Hickory 8 Theater in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, watching “Mad Max: Fury Road,” or in the Lafayette Louisiana Theater laughing at a comedy “Train wreck.” Maybe at the Aurora Theater in Aurora, Colorado, taking in “The Dark Knight Rises.” You are being targeted by a killer.

(A simple way to let go with dignity) "The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread." Mother Teresa

"Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything." In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mea No. After listening to Elliot Rodger's horrific video, I see that it is also important for us all to learn how to HEAR/ACCEPT the word No. There is not just one breakdown that led to this tragic shooting and this is one distinction that screams out to me.

When I was in Grade 4, I struggled with an ability to read, especially when asked to read in front of the class. I wasn’t dyslexic but I was quite shy, and not at all confident about my intellectual abilities relative to my peers. Unfortunately, I had a teacher who, I discovered many years later, had a reputation for being a bully that extended far beyond the city of Winnipeg where I lived for that one terrible year.

If you have been affected by divorce or separation or are considering ending your marriage you're going to want to tune in to DivorceForce Survival Guide. In each episode, DivorceForce CEO Gregory Frank tackles various aspects of divorce through candid discussions with leading industry experts such as lawyers, financial planners, divorce coaches, and beyond. Whether you need inspiration, information, or just to know that you are not alone, DivorceForce Survival Guide delivers.

Allergy always has a physiological/medical cause. Allergy has always a physiological / body chemical source. Foreign microscopic particles enter our body and activate our immune system, causing different symptoms like swollen mucous membranes, skin rash, inflammation. When this occurs with a substance that does not expose the body for any threat, we call the reaction allergy. The activation of the immune system is also done by a psychological conditioning.

Why is it that so many of us put ourselves second? Why is it that we often sacrifice what is good for us to make someone else happy, and why is it such a difficult transition to start putting ourselves first? I see this issue not only every day in my office but also at times in my own life. Of course, there are those people who no matter what, without any regard for the other, place themselves first; but that is someone who is arrogant. We are not discussing arrogance here. We are simple discussing how to make a healthy transition into learning to put ourselves first.

"Never make yourself feel like nothing, to make someone else feel like everything!" Rationalizing has to be prevalent when there is Domestic Abuse because how else could you convince yourself to stay. First you have to recognize that you are being emotionally, physically and or sexually abused.

The energy flowing between you, your body, and your connections with the body of the world can be consciously appreciated - if you pay close enough attention. Let this practice of mindful listening to a larger body tune you in to the joy of the world. 1. The next time you are part of an ...

Should I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can evaluate your history with intimacy, help you heal your wounds and help you get clear on who might be a good partner for you. A Quick Guide of Gauging Toxicityr

"Whenever one person stands up and says, "Wait a minute, this is wrong," it helps other people do the same." Gloria Steinem

There are thousands of articles about the physical preparation that a healthy pregnancy requires and very few about the psychological aspects of it. I titled this article “How to emotionally prepare for motherhood” because the psychological changes that start before your become pregnant do not ...

Wouldn’t it be great if we could wave our magic wand and no one would relapse? Until we understand more about addictions (and we have work to do there), we will have to tackle relapse in other ways. Let’s look at a couple of possible breakdowns that might lead to relapse and find some ways to avoid the traps. First of all, everyone is different. We can give a general plan and it is up to you (with your team) to make it specific to your vulnerabilities. In working with my clients, here are a couple of key areas I’ve found that need to be addressed: Structurer

Yesterday I was weeding in my back yard and I had a realization. Weeding the yard is so much easier than weeding out our thoughts. Weeding out unwanted thoughts needs tools. What are your tools for weeding out ineffective thoughts? What about ones that actually take you down? Do you have different tools for each of these? I’m not into perfect tools I’m into effective ones. Are yours effective? I want to share some of my favorite tools. The first one is just to clear your head so you can calm down the chatter or lists, or all the peoples demands. Hands Shakingr

Procrastination has a bad rap. It is a very creative and often useful behavior. Generally defined as putting things off until the last minute, procrastination is also putting things off until the best time. For some, it’s that last minute rush which energizes and motivates. For others, it’s that last minute when important information is made available allowing then for more accurate decisions and actions. Some people may be perceived as procrastinating but they are actually prioritizing, working on more important tasks first.

Nothing is perfect and that goes for relationships too. In the best of intimate relationships, there are those subtle and not so subtle signs that harmony is being disrupted. Some disagreements and discussions make sense and are in fact healthy; his words against hers, her values in the face of his values, old traditions vs. new ideas and so on. However, after a few years of living with a partner, attempting and working on intimacy, you can often see a few patterns emerging. Those patterns might be complicated to detect when you are a part of the everyday ‘drama’.

" Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." Steve Jobs Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let's take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own car in the race of life, but he is running around cleaning everyone else's car.

How do you relieve stress? Coping with stress requires that you identify and understand the source of your stress and then make a plan for how to reduce the impact of that stressor on your life. The next set of action steps will give you some tools to help you identify stressors, and learn how ...

FROM DREAMS TO MAGIC The dreams have been a great importance in the discovery and development of founding myths of the pre-monotheistic religions. FROM THE SIMPLE TO THE COMPLEX In some biblical texts 2,500 years old and in modern psychology we can find materials that will lead us to verify the fundamental role had dreams in the birth of the various myths and legends. At a time when the man lived in nature, the first religious beliefs are myths of nature itself. The first gods were supe atural forces of forests, rivers, lakes, the Sun, Earth ...r

We like to go to war on things we think are wrong or bad; the war on drugs, the war on poverty, the war against crime. We need to have a war on worry because worry is wrong and bad; it underlies, and may be in part the cause of, crime, drugs and, perhaps, even poverty. What is worry?

Are you ready to die? Most people aren’t? Yet if we are not willing to be with death it will hunt us down. Last week I had a gigantic dose of people sitting with death. My contractor’s 10-year-old daughter with an inoperable brain tumor on the brain stem. Next a dear friend called with breast cancer, then another dear friends sister found out she had a brain tumor all within less than 24 hours. All sitting with what we are all sitting with only they are doing it consciously. Befriending death.

"The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other." ~ Jane Bauston Do treat your Children like Gold! Remember you just turned your children's life (and they didn't have a vote) upside down. They now have to decipher new rules, new logistics, probable logistical chaos until their stuff finally gets where it is suppose to be, emotional land mines, and they have just inherited all the things you divorced your "ex" about. Maybe you were able to shield your children from some of the "bad stuff" going on and now they have to figure things out on their own.

To create our subtypes we reviewed numerous cases of rescuing behavior in intimate relationships. We examined and compared the personality styles, behavior in relationships, and early history. From this review, four basic subtypes of rescuers emerged: the overly empathic white knight, the ...

Capture Your Memoriesr Sherry Joiner –Living A Life With Schizo-Affective Disorder - Lecturer in the Psyche Ward and In Our Own Voice Speaker for NAMIr

What are the components of successful people? So many people over time have dissected this and put the pieces together backwards and forwards. They have used it to sell courses. The formula has been used to sell everything imaginable. I don’t want to sell you anything. I want to give you Priceless tips. The one thing all successful people have in common whether they are financially successful, mentally successful, spiritually successful, relationally successful all of the above or some of the above is energy. Sounds so simple doesn’t it?

We all perform in some way every day. In what arenas do you want to perform better? To improve your performance abilities, you need to know, understand, recognize and be able to avoid the myths surrounding performance. Top performers are so fine-tuned in their disciplines that they have seen all the traps, pitfalls and blind alleys about performing, and have devised methods to overcome them to be able to sustain high levels of performance under all adverse conditions. We call these people peak performers. Why are these myths dangerous?

I can't quite remember where I heard it first but it has fascinated me for a long time. The quote went " You know you are getting old when you look in the mirror one day and find your parent looking at you". As time marches on, this gem becomes more and more relevant but looks are not the only attributes we carry with us as we progress through various life stages.

Many years ago, maybe fifteen or more, Daniela and I both attended a small gathering in Phoenix, Arizona, for professionals interested in deeper approaches to psychological issues. As I recall, this event focused on the father and daughter relationship. Daniela and I ended up sitting next to each other, spontaneously introduced ourselves and began to talk.

Title: Backbone Power: The Science of Saying No Genre: Co-dependency/Stress Management Synopsis: A No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

Whether this is your first time in the dating world or you are newly divorced and entering the dating world, there are some steps you can take to help guard against divorce. There are no guarantees and why not do everything you can to live happily ever after with that someone special?

There are times in life when we get overwhelmed by our emotions – anger, hurt, sadness, shame, guilt, rage, desperation, terror. They seem to be so powerful and overwhelming that they control us instead of the other way around. They monopolize all our thoughts and energies, not allowing us to focus on anything else. We cannot calm down, we are irritable. Are we losing our mind? No matter what we say to ourselves, it doesn’t seem to help. It feels as though the logical part of our brain is not getting through the emotional one, no matter how hard we try.

It may be of some surprise that the word 'wound' is used to represent a cut, hurt, abrasion or more serious injury AND that same word can mean tied up tightly, coiled up, or bound as in "I was all wound up with stress." We tend not to think of being wound up and stressed as an injury, or wound. However, on a psychological level, that is exactly what it is. In today's jargon, the word 'trauma' is used, and aptly so. Trauma is Greek in origin and translates into English as 'wound' - as in hurt or injury. When we speak of trauma, we are talking about being all wound up with woundedness.

June is convocation month, and all around the world students are celebrated as they make their way out of their post-secondary, and often, personal, nests as they fly toward the next phase of their lives. Most of us watch them cross the stage with joy at the possibilities that we imagine for them, as well as envy at, again, those same possibilities that we may or may not have taken advantage of at the time of our ‘flight’ from the nest.

The Blowfly That Trapped The Guilty Conscience My mother recently related a funny story about how she is now the proud owner of a blowfly trap as a result of developing a guilty conscience when faced with a dilemma over a salmon pie. In preparation for a dear old school friend’s visit my mother prepared a simple lunch comprising the salmon pie and salad. But what she hadn’t counted on was two dirty big blowflies flying out of the pie’s dish just moments before her frien

Brain development inside the womb, value of music- Baby Einstein….. The bond between parents and babies is one of the strongest forces in nature. Romances come and go, but once you've fallen for your baby, you're probably hooked for life. I have heard many mothers say that: having her in my ...

Zen mind is the “Natural” state of our beings: No self, no identity, no memes, no beliefs.nnAny idea of “what is” takes us away from what is – to be in the moment, all ideas need to be gone. There’s not even an “I” to have the ideas. nnThe natural being acts as an outcome of the movement of the universe, in the same way that an artist’s brush is moved by its “universe”.nnAll “teachings”, “spiritual” paths or “sacred” practices actually take u

Trusted guidance on meeting Ms. or Mr. Right If you think dating is a simple process--meet someone, ask him or her for a date or get asked out yourself, try not to come off as a drooling moron, then arrange to get together for a second date or cut your losses and work to meet someone else--well, lucky you. For many people, it's far more complicated than that, and Dr. Joy Browne addresses those complexities in Dating for Dummies.

Online therapy (also referred to as Internet therapy, distance therapy, cyber therapy or e-therapy) is used to describe the variety of ways a professional counselor or psychotherapist can communicate with you over the Internet or telephone. It may consist of emotional support, mental health ...

People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children and our grand children. In today's world, it's no longer optional but mandatory to learn the skills of a warrior.

Psychotherapy is also performed by practitioners with a number of diverse qualifications including clinical psychology, clinical or psychiatric social work, psychiatry, mental health counseling, counseling psychology, play therapy, school counseling, dance/movement therapy, marriage and family therapy, rehabilitation counseling, occupational therapy, psychiatric nursing, psychoanalysis, and those belonging to various other branches of psychotherapy. Psychotherapy is performed

Dominique Staruss-Kahn, the scandal-ridden former head of the International Monetary Fund (IMF) is entitled to the presumption of innocence until proven guilty. But, if he did try to rape the hotel maid in New-York in May 2011, his behavior would conform to the type of misconduct common among malignant narcissists. Narcissists in positions of authority and celebrity narcissists exhibit a confluence of three pernicious phenomena: pathological charm (i.e., the illusion of bein

How To Set Healthy Boundaries and Live Life with Authenticity | Get Backbone Power Audiobook by Dr. Anne Brown -a psychotherapist, speaker, author, coach. https://backbonepower.com/backbonepower-audiobook/ A No-Nonsense Approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term, and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes? Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

A No-Nonsense Approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term, and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes? Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

My title is prompted by the oft repeated phrase: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. What is your experience of this? Is suffering optional? Is that even a desirable goal? Or are there experiences that automatically cause suffering? Is there a function to “suffering” or feeling one’s feelings fully that is crucial to healing? Sometime I post quotes of the day on Twitter. I like searching for and finding a phrase that resonates, speaks to some inner truth for me. Recently I chose “We are healed from suffering only by experiencing it to the full” by Marcel Proust.

Men, masculinity, myths and archetypes guarantee to get people all stirred up. Especially feminists. Either in sheer enthusiasm because the ‘untouchables’ get touched by something other than the usual stuff men get excited about (ie cars, chicks and chips); or otherwise in anger, disbelief and even disgust for it’s for some not ‘politically correct’ enough (‘politically correct’ meaning: not within their clearly defined ideological boundaries.

From the black Eames chair that I have sat in as a therapist for well over 10,000 hours, 2012 parades forth as the catalyst humans need to jar them from their slumber. Blessings to the Mayans for their implantation of an alarm bell into the future collective consciousness of humanity. Whether they have predicted the end of times, the beginning of a new spiritual era or nothing at all, we should not delay the existential question most everyone avoids in order to focus on thoughts that keep their self-concept and lives in tact. Now, let’s ask: Why do you exist?

Do you have habits that hold you back from experiencing the successful life you deserve? Your habit may be as small as biting your nails or buying expensive lattes every day. On the opposite end of the spectrum, you may wish to break free of smoking, extreme anger, excessive eating, or other detrimental habits. There is hope. You can rid yourself of the habits that hold you back. Use the tips below to help you put an end to that pesky practice once and for all:

A Voice For Our Veteransr In honor of Veterans Day, we are going to begin to give a voice to our veterans in Part One. In Part Two we are going to offer insights on how we can be better friends, countrymen/women when our veterans return and actually when they are away as well.

Depriving yourself of a good sleep has great impact on your performance at work and in dealing with the people around you. Read further to learn more about sleep deprivation and its impact on a person’s life. By default, sleeping is our body's way of rejuvenating energy and restoring health of the body. With today's busy, sedentary lifestyle, people in general get lesser quality of sleep. This disorder affects millions of people worldwide especially in highly industrialized

People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children and our grand children. In today's world, it's no longer optional but mandatory to learn the skills of a warrior.

What Your Body Language Signals: Why we make the gestures that we do with our bodies, is directly caused by our state of mind at that particular point in time and place. The following is an alphabetized list of the traits we exhibit: Aggressive, Defensive Or Hostile: When one is feeling aggressive, defensive or hostile, eye contact is dramatically increased. Anger, Defensive, General Unhappiness: Knitted and downtu ed eyebrows, closed and defensive arms, squeezed foreheads

That girl would never go for a guy like me. My resume isn’t good enough to apply for that role. I could never pull that outfit off. She’s not replying to my message because she doesn’t like me. And the list goes on. As human beings who spend 24/7 in our own minds, it is inevitable that we will have stages of thought that aren’t what we want to be thinking, which make us feel a way we don’t want to be feeling. As temporary as some of these negative thoughts are, ther

5 Ways to Stay Mentally Healthy As A Small Business Owner One of the biggest challenges I’ve ever faced as a small business owner is keeping up with my mental health. All too often, I can talk to 15 people in a day and every single one of them not only wants something, but also doesn’t understand what I do and the challenges I face as a small business owner. I’m sure many of you are in the same position, so here’s 5 ways to stay mentally healthy as a small business owner.

Perhaps the most important application for your listening skills is when you communicate with your partner. A process called reciprocal communication provides a structure in which you can really hear each other. Here's how it works. When you're discussing a topic that is a conflict area for ...

Much has been written about self-esteem. But if we would like to give a simple definition of what self-esteem is, a definition that everyone can immediately relate to, what would that be? Self-esteem is our gut feeling about our Self. It is an inner condition that accompanies us wherever we go and whatever we do. It is how much we like our Self, how much we love our Self, how much we honor our Self and how well we are aligned with our Self. It is our inner estimation of our S

In this month when we celebrate love, I wonder what we are celebrating and what love is all about. Love…what’s love? That is the question. A word that causes the biggest happiness but can also cause the biggest misery in our lives, especially when we don’t know what it means, misuse it to achieve personal goals, or to cover up personal deficiencies. I see that everyday when people come to my office justifying their abusive, comfortable or unconscious behavior in the name of LOVE. Providing a definition for love is most difficult.

Users of sexting represent a particular spectrum of the population. Some people don’t seem to realize the meaning or the full impact of their sexting activities on their reputation, career, their families and other people around them.

The disrespectful remarks of other people - slights, criticism, or humiliations - can hurt us very much. Sometimes it hurts so much that we want to take revenge to restore our wounded self-esteem. Why is it possible that criticism and humiliation are able to harm us? The answer can be found in our biological heritage.

Here is a relatively simple method you can do which may be effective in helping you overcome anxiety, panic or a phobia. Let’s take as an example a fear of…..swimming. Let’s say as a child you had some negative experiences while learning to swim. Perhaps you were thrown into the deep end before you really knew fully how to swim; or, perhaps you went running into the pool without your inner tube around your waist and soon found yourself, even in the shallow end, mildly terrorized as you realized you didn’t have your inner tube.

I've been giving a lot of thought to this concept of anti-aging because every time I turn on my computer I see ads for anti-aging x, y, and z products. Is anti aging possible? Can it be a reality? Do you want it to be real? You might disagree – but in short - I don't think so. Aging is a process that starts when we are born - we get older every day! It's that plain and simple; then again I am a developmental psychologist and look at forward development; not backward. Aging is a process, it has a beginning, a middle and an end.

Sports champions know how to win and accomplish their dreams. They have learned the secrets of winning and success in sport. The mental game concepts that follow are familiar ones in the sport world. Let's examine these principles and laws of winning in sport and see how we can apply them to our daily lives. Championship sports stars know what these principles mean, honor them and apply them in their training and competitions: 1. Second Effort. Making that extra effort can make the difference between winning and just barely losing.

People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children and our grand children. In today's world, it's no longer optional but mandatory to learn the skills of a warrior.

For many people, stress levels spike during holiday season and here are the key reasons. A DOZEN TIPS TO BUILD YOUR RESILIENCY TO STRESS More than twenty years ago, stress was the cover story in Time magazine. “Stress” was referred to as “The Epidemic of the Eighties,” and it was referred to as the nation’s number one health problem.

Who has not been called stupid, fat or ugly at some time in their life? And, who has not felt hurt by such comments? Even as an adult, to be called any one of those can be hurtful. And, also, to be called the opposite of any one of those would make us feel great. How would you feel if you were told you were smart, fit and beautiful? Of course, it is not really being told either of those extremes that make us feel up or down; it is that we believe the words. If we know we are smart and are called stupid by somebody, it has no real effect, because we know, within ourselves, that we are smart.

Do you know dophins also need ESA registration just like US service dog registry ? In the event that you have ever swum with dolphins or get in contact with them then you may have how amazing and accommodating they are particularly for individuals with mental issues. There are submerged marine parks and dolphin treatment that truly attempts to conquer anxiety and to accomplish prosperity. Dolphins are very agreeable and among their assumed recuperating mechanisms are bioenerg

If you are in the stage of selecting a psychologist, how needs to you go about making this selection? Discovering the right psychologist can be a complicated task particularly in Adelaide where there more than 1000 licensed psychologists. Moreover, Adelaide has a disproportionate several psychologists compared with other districts making your search a lot more tough. What would you look for in a psychologist? What technique should you take into consideration? Is the type of d

We Are All One! We are living during a time where we have forgotten we are all one. We all have muscles, bones, organs, tissues, blood and we come in different colored packages. We also have different ideas. We have to find ways to connect through our similar beliefs and learn through our dissimilar beliefs. We also have to challenge our fears and ask ourselves are they grounded in reality or not. We have a golden rule that I still think works and is well said by Karen Armstrong.

There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle OK we all know this right? And yet how many of us enter into the most intimate relationship with our partners “saying nothing.” For those who still can’t discuss sex, it is time to lift that veil. Requests in the domain of sex to many are the Everest of requests so to speak. So many men equate a negative response to requests in this area as a reflection of their inadequacy. Women know this, don’t want to offend, and so say nothing. Sex then goes into the “be nothing” category.

Waking up in the morning to a clean, de-cluttered space brings me a sense of balance and happiness. Even when my children were young I managed to maintain a space where I could sit, if only for a few precious moments and enjoy the calm and peace of a minimalist space. Of course we all know that life is messy business and cannot really be controlled. There are however ways to make daily life less stressful. Getting rid of extra stuff is one of the keys to diminishing stress. S

When we think about child abuse, our thoughts often stop at sexual abuse of minors. However, the term child abuse, often replaced by child maltreatment, has a broad spectrum of definition. The WHO defines it as follows :

Backbone Power, an easy to understand book, tackles the question of whether being a “people pleaser” is a virtue or a curse. Backbone Power takes the reader on a self-guided tour of their deepest thought processes to arrive at an understanding of the true “Self”. As they gain a better understanding of what drives their reasoning process, they are able to learn how to better assert themselves. Dr. Brown has been able to craft her message so as to empower people to develop a “Backbone” with the power to say “No”.

There is enormous power in what we say, do, think and feel. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you smile and reflect on how much you are enjoying something and suddenly you remember ‘I asked for this?' You may have had a desire, wish or intention at an earlier time in your life and you said something like ‘I wish I could get up on a Monday morning, eager to get to my job!’ Maybe you said something like ‘I wish I could live like this every day’ (words spoken during a relaxed or exhilarating holiday).

Fifteen or so years ago, I sat through a dinner party where the discussion at the table went something like this... "Well, as a three, I felt like I really needed to finish the 10k in less than an hour," said the perky blond. The whole table cracked up, but I missed the joke. "I'm a two, so my time was longer this race, since I of course had to stop and help the guy next to me -- who was lost," said the guy to my left. This also brought chortles from the group, but left me co

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Over the last decade of working in the field of Psychotherapy and Coaching, I've met many clients who had a rather negative experience or no results at all as they worked with some of my colleagues from various locations and branches of Psychology. As a solution to this popular problem, I created a practical guide for all those who are committed to improve their life situations in all possible ways and who are looking for an effective Psychotherapist, Life Coach, NLP, EFT, or

Dear Mom and Dad, Please remember my life has been turned upside down and I never had a vote. I don't have a rulebook to negotiate waters totally unfamiliar to me. It is really hard for me to understand that my family has broken up. I feel scared that I will loose one or both of you. I don't know what to do with all the bad feelings I have. It would really mean a lot to me if you could do a few things to help me with the land mines I seem to be stepping on. Thanks for taking the time to listen.

Dan Jones has written a beautiful poem called "Shameless" which has a few lines which I think are priceless. He is talking about the nature of being shameless as well as what self-confidence is, and isn't. It's absolutely beautiful...n nVanity and conceit have nothing to do with this,nand not arrogance or righteousness.nThose are the masks of Shame.nThe "proud" man, the "vain" woman,nthe smug, the selfish, the egotistical and stuck-up,nall the "better-than,"nthe know-it-alls

Off late I see lot of folks tossing around the word EGO and they present the word seeming to have comprehended the meaning around it. rnBut often it seems to me, as an unknown factor and sometimes a complex concept to apprehend. What is Ego? was my question, and I was startled with the vivid flavour of responses I received. a) Ego is I, it creates my iconrnb) Ego is my emotional energy rnc) Its ME becoming bigger than MYSELFrnd) Ego is ‘Aham’ (Sanskrit)rne) Its my conscio

You’re going to the dentist – and you feel anxious. You’re about to go take a test, and you feel anxious. You’ve been asked to have a meeting with your supervisor, and you feel anxious. You might just be anxious anticipating another day! Anticipatory anxiety is a common discomfort for millions of people. Some people can even get anxious anticipating the arrival of the anticipatory anxiety!

In Part One: https://www.recovery.org/pro/articles/challenges-to-having-a-holiday-in-recovery, we discussed many breakdowns reported to me by clients which can ruin the holidays. Now we will look at some tools to deal with those breakdowns. As I said in Part One having a strong mind is an important piece of the solution. Remember stress is in the eyes of the beholder. It certainly doesn’t feel like that to me sometimes and I continually have to remind myself to change my interpretation of the situation. The holidays are a great test to see how we do.

DECIDING ON THE TREATMENT PLAN During your next visit, your doctor may recommend chemotherapy alone or in combination with radiation therapy, hormonal therapy, targeted therapy, or surgery. Your doctor will explain treatment options and why a certain one is recommended. Your doctor may be able ...

What Do My Dreams Mean?

Many are the times when people moil and toil in bed but sleep will not come their way. As much as you need sleep, there are times when you turn in bed in search of sleep until the morning comes. The society is suddenly turning to be full of sleep-deprived individuals because of many reasons. Statistics carried out by psychologists in Brisbane indicate that most people in Watwerford, Watwerford west and Marsden are suffering from insomnia at any given time. The best thing is t

Over lunch, a colleague posed a provocative challenge: “Write an article on chutzpah.” He believes the timing is right. In this difficult economy and uncertain times it’s certainly tempting to withdraw into a shell. But a better strategy might be a contrary one, throwing off the shell and putting yourself out there.