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Abraham Harold Maslow was an American psychologist. He is noted for his conceptualization of a "hierarchy of human needs", and is considered the father of humanistic psychology. Maslow saw human beings' needs arranged like a ladder. The most basic needs, at the bottom, were physical -- air, water, food, sleep. Then c…

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Adrian Kertesz. Médico psiquiatra, viajó en 1989 a New York para formarse en Biorretralimentación (Biofeedback) En el Stress Regulation Institute del Dr. Keith Sedlaceck. En 1991 viajó a Japón y estudió en la Ki Society dirigida por Koichi Tohei Sensei , Aikido y Kiatsu, alcanzando le nivel de Ier. Dan en aikido y kia…

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I am a jou alist, author, speaker and counselor. My base is Cape Town, South Africa, where I've lived since 2003. Over the last ten years I've been intensely involved with the topic of masculine identity (identities) in Africa and based on that research wrote a very personal book on "manhood": Spots of a leopard. Man…

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Dr. Aleksandra Drecun is the founder of Association for Compassionate Transformation. She is a licensed psychologist who has a profound passion and derives immense gratitude from assisting individuals, couples and families in realizing their fullest potential. Her practice includes treatment of children, adolescents,…

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She has her Master’s Degree in Counselling Psychology, is a Registered Psychologist, and is also a member in good standing of the Psychologists` Association of Alberta. She has specialized training in EMDR (a trauma/PTSD therapy technique), treating trauma and addictions, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Coup…

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Experience: - Clinician Psychologist, Psychological Counselor and Psychotherapist at Cabinet Individual de Psihologie Andreea Niculescu (May 2009 - Present) - Clinician Psychologist at Centrul Medical Dava (August 2004 – May 2009) Education: - Societatea de Psihologie Experientiala Romana - postgraduate studies, C…

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Hello. My name is Beth Mollenkamp. I am a human resources manager and adjunct professor, specializing in organizational psychology and organizational effectiveness, leadership development, performance management, and employee relations. I am an accomplished speaker, and have published a number of articles on business,…

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Dr. Bettina Lehnert earned her PhD in clinical psychology from the Califo ia School of Professional Psychology, Los Angeles. She completed an internship in Child and Adult Psychology at Harvard Medical School/Massachusetts Mental Health Center and a two year Postdoctoral Fellowship in Child and Adolescent Psychology a…

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Nashua, NH: Clinical Psychologist providing individual psychotherapy, marriage and relationship counseling, and consultation. Dr. Carl Hindy is a graduate of Brandies University, and earned his Masters and Doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Connecticut. He has been licensed as a psychologist in NH…

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Carl Gustav Jung was a Swiss psychiatrist, an influential thinker and the founder of analytical psychology. Jung's approach to psychology has been influential in the field of depth psychology and in countercultural movements across the globe. He emphasized understanding the psyche through exploring the worlds of dream…

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Carl Rogers was an influential American psychologist and among the founders of the Humanistic approach to psychology. Rogers is widely considered to be one of the founding fathers of psychotherapy research and was honored for his pioneering research with the Award for Distinguished Scientific Contributions by the Amer…

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Dr. Carlos Warter is a mentor for those who wish to work on their personal growth and shift into greater spiritual awareness and an understanding of global health and awareness. Through experiential research in a variety of spiritual and healing traditions, Dr. Carlos Warter Medical DOCTOR Psychiatrist Hawaii has dete…

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I am a licensed clinical professional counselor in private practice in Oak Lawn, IL (southside of Chicago). I have owned and operated my own private practice for 4 years and have worked in social service for 15 years. I have experience working with children 5 years of age through adults in several different settings (…

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Christiana Star (BA Hons Psychology, BA Hons Education) is a registered psychologist and author with extensive experience in private practice, as a corporate consultant, critical incident counsellor, trauma consultant , speaker and workshop facilitator. Combining professional expertise with a spiritual outlook on lif…

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Christy Matta M.A. is a trainer, consultant and freelance writer. She has worked in mental health since 1994, is intensively trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy(DBT) and has extensive training in Mindfulness. She is an experienced group leader and trainer in Mindfulness and DBT Skills Groups. She has provided cli…

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Clare Mann is an Organisational Psychologist, Bestselling Author of numerous books and Existential Psychotherapist with extensive international experience facilitating individuals and organisations to create extraordinary results. Her main focus has been on communication, leadership, executive coaching, organisationa…

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Dr. Daniel H. Johnston, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist affiliated with Mercer Health Systems in Macon, Georgia. For 25 years he was the Director of Psychologicalr Services for a large metropolita Medical Center and is currently serving as anr Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science for Mercer Univer…

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Daniel J. Tomasulo, Ph.D., TEP, MFA, MAPP Dan holds a PhD in psychology, an MFA in writing, and is the first licensed psychologist and psycho-dramatist to graduate from the Master of Applied Positive Psychology program from the University of Pennsylvania in 2012. In addition to teaching at NJCU he is an assistant ins…

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Daniela Roher, PhD is a psychotherapist in private practice with offices in Carefree, AZ and in Scottsdale, AZ. Daniela has worked in this field helping individuals and couples better understand their emotions and teaching them how to manage and regulate them, without letting them get overwhelming or frightening. She…

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David Hawkins is an internationally renowned psychiatrist, physician, researcher, and pioneer in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality. Hernwrites and teaches from the unique perspective of an experienced clinician, scientist, and mystic and is devoted to the spiritual evolution of mankind.

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David Pollak is a seasoned Psychologist with extensive experience in mental health, and ageing and disability services. He has provided staff counselling, and taught counselling to students. David lives in Australia, enjoys drumming and poetry, while offering a unique skillset. David uses ethical practices as a Psycho…

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Debbie Ford is an internationally recognized expert in the field of personal transformation and the creator of world renowned Shadow Process. A pioneering force in incorporating the study and integration of the shadow into modern psychological and spiritual practices, Debbie's work is based on the core belief that out…

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Dell is a professional speaker, educator, and mental health consultant with 20 plus years experience in helping a diversified group of clients change destructive lifestyles and build healthier relationships. Dell's unique set of personal and professional experiences enhance her messages and provide valuable insight,…

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Dominique gained her diplomas in Clinical Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy and psychotherapy at the British Ethical School of Therapies. She is a Reiki master and magnet Therapist. Dominique is a member of the British Institute of Hypnotherapy and a certified trainer of EFT to therapist level. Her clinical practise is based in…

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Prof. Lakshman, through his revolutionary philosophy dares all of you to take the possibility of transformation and optimizing your true potential seriously creating nothing less than a revolution inconsciousness and culture. He believes that even though humans are preoccupied with the development of the mind, the ke…

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Basically I am professor of literature . I studied Homoeopathy deeply and passionately. I studied psychology. the corelation betwee Homoeopathy and psychology is deep.mostly human diseses are psycho samantic in nature.. Homoeopathy is study of mental symptoms i.e the study of psychology.How the patient thinks how he b…

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Dr. Alex Avila is an award-winning clinical and forensic psychologist who holds four graduate degrees, including a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. A respected college professor, researcher, and bestselling author (The Gift of Shyness, GuyTypes and The 3 Secrets of Happiness), Dr. Avila’s first book, LoveTypes, has been…

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Dr. Anne Brown, PhD, CS of Snowmass, Colorado formerly from Sausalito, Califo ia and Aspen, Colorado in her private practice has served as the trusted advocate and advisor to Influential Corporate leaders, Trial Atto eys, Athletes, Leaders, Physicians and their families, many whose connections extend well beyond the t…

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EITAN D. SCHWARZ, M.D., D.L.F.A.P.A., F.A.A.C.A.P., is a doctor who knows kids, media, and families. He is board-certified in both general and child and adolescent psychiatry. During his nearly 40 years of distinguished practice and teaching in a variety of public, private, and academic settings, Dr. S has been steadi…

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Dr. Young is a licensed clinical psychologist with over 20 years of experience. She incorporates aspects of psychodynamic, relational therapy and dialectical behavior therapy into her approach to psychotherapy. Her career focus has been on treating trauma and its aftermath. She is also an EMDR trained therapist. She…

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Scott M Peck once said that “Life is difficult” and for many people, this is sadly the case. Many people are “stuck in a rut” dealing with issues from the past or have negative thought patterns that leave them miserable, unable to enjoy life and relationships and seeing no real perspective for the future. My passion…

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Dr. Tal’s style is interactive, direct and collaborative, drawing upon cognitive and behavioral approaches as well as insight-oriented psychotherapy. She works diligently to reduce or eliminate anxiety, depression, doubtfulness, low self-esteem, low body-image, relationship conflicts, and unresolved grief and loss. Sh…

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Assessment and Treatment of adult & child Psychiatric Problems. Courses & Lectures in Psychology & Psychiatry

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Dr. Howard Gurr has earned two Masters degrees in psychology and a Ph.D. in Professional Psychology with a dual specialization in Clinical and School Psychology. He is both a certified school psychologist and a licensed psychologist in New York State. Dr. Gurr was voted #1 best psychotherapist on Long Island for 2010…

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Eda Schottenstein is the founder and CEO of Multi-Role Woman™, a personal wellness and lifestyle brand that supports women in creating healthy, happy, balanced lives. She is also the author of “You Got This: 21-Day Mental Wealth Challenge” — a step-by-step action guide and journal anyone can use to transform their exp…

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Eve A. Wood, MD is Clinical Associate Professor of Medicine at the University of Arizona Program in Integrative Medicine. A practicing psychiatrist, author, speaker and consultant, Dr. Wood is a pioneer in the field of integrative psychiatry. Having spent nearly two decades and over 28,000 hours in the care of trouble…

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Gary Ames is a psychologist in private practice in Bala Cynwyd, PA. He specializes in biofeedback and neurofeedback. He trains athletes and executives for optimal performance. He treats children and adults for ADHD, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, migraine, etc.

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Gwen Randall-Young is a psychotherapist and author whose work bridges the worlds of self and spirituality, body, mind and soul. A registered psychologist, she has a busy practice in Sherwoodr Park, Alberta, Canada and provides psychological services to individuals, couples and families. Her writing appears in many pu…

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Dr. Grayson received his Ph.D. from Boston University and a Postdoctoral Certificate in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy from four years of postdoctoral training at the Postgraduate Center for Mental Health in New York City. He is the Founder and is Chairman Emeritus of the Board of Trustees of the National Institute…

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I am a bilingual mental health counselor psychotherapist offering face-to-face and online counseling services. I work with people from different ages and backgrounds and a broad range of issues: relationships (marriage & dating), mood disorders (depression & anxiety, stress), trauma, body image & eating disorders, sel…

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With more than 30 years of helping people get well quickly, I bring experience, compassion and sensitivity to help you get to the source of your unhappiness, and find lasting solutions. I will partner with you to uncover the EXACT CAUSES of your stress and pla IMMEDIATE SOLUTIONS with you. If you wish to explore the…

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Dr. Siddall is a Psychologist with over 30 years of experience in clinical and forensic psychology as a clinician, educator and consultant to business, industry, and the criminal justice system. He is Vietnam Era veteran who served with law enforcement. As a free lance writer he specializes in articles on personal sec…

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For decades Jard has researched, written and published more than a score of books, psychological tests, college and business courses that include NICE GUYS FINISH FIRST, LOVERS FOR LIFE, LEADERSHIP PSYCHOLOGY, LEADERSHIP POWER (Japanese), LOS BUENOS TAMBIEN GANAN (Spanish), THE LIBERATED SOUL, THE LAWS OF LEADERSHIP,…

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I am a Life Management and Relationship Coach and sexologist. I earned a Masters Degree in Mental Health Counseling from Nova Southeaste University. I have been in private practice as a Coach and Counselor working with individuals and couples for nearly 20 years. I have also worked with clients throughout the country…

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John Kruse, M.D., Ph.D., is a neuroscientist, psychiatrist, and author of the book, “Recognizing Adult ADHD: What Donald Trump Can Teach Us About Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.” With 25 years of psychiatry experience, Dr. Kruse specializes in treating adults with ADHD.Dr. Kruse grew up in Shaker Heights, Oh…

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Educator 5 years public schools Newark, NJ. Website on Natural Psychology developed over period of 3 years. Many psychologists, physicians, school psychologists, educators, and authors have contributed information or helped to develop this site and other publications related to the AYCNP. The Association for Youth, Ch…

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“I have over 30 years experience working as a psychotherapist and executive coach with a great variety of people who have come to me for help with emotional, relationship, educational and career & business issues. I work with all ages in couples, family, individual and group therapy. My style is conversational, engagi…

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Dr. Joy Browne is a licensed clinical psychologist and host of her own nationally syndicated radio show. Every day, millions of listeners on more than 300 stations in the United States and Canada hear her give advice on a variety of subjects. Before starting her radio career, she was a teacher, archeologist, and engin…

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Joyce Brothers, PhD (maiden name Joyce Diane Bauer, born October 20, 1928) is one of United States' leading family psychologists and advice columnists, publishing a daily syndicated newspaper column since 1960. She gained fame in 1955 by winning The $64,000 Question game show, on which she appeared as an expert in the…

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Dr. Karen Sherman is a licensed psychologist in NY. She’s had a private practice since 1982 with a specialty in relationships. Karen’s work very much reflects the knowledge she has gained from her own personal experiences. From these experiences, Karen brings not only a very keen awareness of others but a genuine aut…

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Hello - I'm Dr. Kathy Marshack. I am a licensed psychologist and family/business coach with over thirty years of experience. I utilize Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Hypnosis, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Family Systems Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, and Thought Field Therapy regularly in my clinical work.…

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I am a Jungian psychologist, author, and artist/creator of SoulCatchers. I have studied 20 years with Richmond Greene, past chair of the NY Jungian Institute and 10 years with Dr. Jean Houston. I have been employed as company psychologist for a large corporation and as clinic director of a mental health clinic. I have…

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I am a licensed mental health counselor. I received my graduate degree from New York University, Applied Psychology department. I began my ventures in this field at Cornell Presbyterian Hospital in NYC, interning in the behavioral health department, treating substance abusers/mentally ill. Upon my completion, I contin…

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"Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind" -Rudyard Kipling Greetings...and welcome to my bio page. Here you will learn a bit about my background and what I do... I am available to provide you with quality, professional online counseling. Whatever problems and troubles you are faced with, I can…

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We provide high-quality executive mental health, corporate wellness, and leadership programs that protect organizations' most valuable assets. Through our nationwide network of consulting psychologists—Corporate Psychotherapists, Executive Coaches, and Organizational Psychologists—we collaborate with organizations' pe…

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Lars Gimstedt graduated from The Psychosynthesis Academy in Stockholm, Sweden, 1992, and has worked as a Psychosynthesis therapist, Psychosynthesis supervisor, coach and mentor since then. His company, PsykosyntesForum, also offers many different tools for self-growth and personal development in a comprehensive websho…

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I am a Psychologist/counsellor, having gained many degrees,masters, however there nothing more gaining than life experiences, because I beleive that all the degree's in the world cannot replace one's life experience's . I have always been interested in this type of work, and knowing that after a session with a client…

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As one of the most popular talk show hosts in radio history, Dr. Laura Schlessinger offers no-nonsense advice infused with a strong sense of ethics, accountability, and personal responsibility; she’s been doing it successfully for more than 30 years, reaching approximately 8.25 million listeners weekly. Her internatio…

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Laura Schultz is a freelance writer and licensed psychotherapist As such she has been assisting individuals and families in crisis for 25 years in private practice with expertise in the field of relationships, sexuality, addiction, and childhood trauma. She has written for national magazines on topics such as relation…

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Lee Odescalchi is a coach and licensed psychologist. She has coached and counseled clients, just like you, looking for more fulfilling lives. Her unique approach uses the most effective methods of personal development and performance strategies. She does this while addressing issues from the past that have led to self…

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I am a licensed Clinical and Behavioral Psychologist, in private practice in Kaneohe, and an Adjunct Professor at Hawaii Pacific University. I work with children, adolescents, and adults, providing individual, family, couple/marriage, play, and art therapy, as well as diagnostic evaluations. My primary interests are i…

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Dr. Linet received his medical degree from the Albert Einstein College of Medicine. He is board certified in both adult and child psychiatry and has practiced for over 30 years. In the past, he held faculty positions as Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Cornell Medical College and also at the State Univers…

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Linda Sapadin, Ph.D is a psychologist, author and success coach. Her specialty is helping people overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior - particularly debilitating fear and procrastination patterns. Dr. Sapadin’s bi-monthly newsletter, PsychWisdom, provides topflight advice on enhancing relationships, enriching…

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Lori has been involved in counseling for many years. She brings a unique blend of spirituality and transformational psychology to her clients. Whether the tool is an astrology chart, a dream interpretation or the use of the I Ching, it must guide each soul to find his or her own path. Lori has worked with children, a…

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Lorne Ladner, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in the suburbs of Washington, D.C. He provides individual psychotherapy, family therapy, and psychological testing and assessments. Dr. Ladner also provides workshops and trainings on the psychology of positive emotions, the integration of meditation a…

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New York City born, raised and educated through college. I've always been a wordsponge and an education lover [PhD, JD] and I now use those words and education to coach and dispense advice and information in different formats! And do this from a home that floats on a river. I work under my umbrella business - Gray Wo…

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Lynn Karjala, Ph.D., DCEP, is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Roswell, Georgia, USA. In addition to her general practice, she specializes in the treatment of trauma, including dissociative identity disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder. Her approach to treatment interweaves the best of both tradit…

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Born in Los Angeles, Califo ia to parents, who immigrated from Calcutta, India, Mala Mukherji began studying the differences betwee Indian and American cultures from an early age. Frequent and early trips to India and being raised in Covina, a homogeneous suburb of Los Angeles created the perfect climate for Mala’s fu…

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Mark Gorkin, MSW, LICSW, "The Stress Doc" ™, is a psychotherapist and "Motivational Humorist," an acclaimed Keynote, Kickoff and Celebrity Cruise Lines Speaker and an OD/Team Building Consultant. His diverse clients range from Booz Allen Hamilton, DuPont Corporation, Skadden Arps (Intl law Firm) and SAP to the Austral…

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Marlene M. Maheu, Ph.D. Dr. Maheu is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and online counseling/telehealth legal-ethical issues consultant in San Diego, Califo ia. Author: Dr. Maheu is the author of several books, book chapters and articles. Her main publications are: 1. E-Health, Telehealth & Telemedicine A G…

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A Psychotherapist, Counsellor, Clinical Hypnotherapist, and a qualified practitioner in EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). I have received training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) from Oxford Cognitive Therapy Centre, received postgraduate education at UC…

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I'm really excited about helping 100,000 people accelerate their careers this year through www.CareerPsychometrics.com It all starts with figuring out who you are. So I am busy writing the online version of "How To Get Headhunted" and "Career Decision Maker". This is following the successful workshop of the same. Als…

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Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D., works on positive psychology, learned helplessness, depression, and optimism and pessimism. He is currently The Fox Leadership Professor of Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania and Director of the Positive Psychology Network. In 1996, he was elected president of the American Psycho…

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I'm a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist with a background in neuropsychology and biofeedback. My primary orientation is Bioenergetic Analysis which means I focus on the relationship between mind and body and the problems that come up around integrating these two levels of experience. I focus on brain functioni…

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Maxson J. McDowell, PhD, LMSW, LP has been in private practice in Manhattan for the past 22 years as a Jungian analyst. He is the President of the C. G. Jung Foundation for Analytical Psychology in New York City and a faculty member and supervisor at the C. G. Jung Institute of New York, at Blanton-Peale Institute, an…

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Mr Trevor Roberts is the senior consultant at Dolphin Psychotherapy Practice. Based at a busy Doctors Surgery in Bou emouth, Dorset, UK, he has been helping patients with Depression, Anxiety, Confidence, Realtionship difficulties and numerous other issues since 1994. Following the recent launch of OnlineCounselingFast…

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I am a survivor of ritual abuse. I am an advocate against child abuse. Articles written by Neil Brick http://ritualabuse.us/smart/neil-brick/ http://neilbrick.com Neil Brick’s conference presentation transcripts: Fighting the Spin : The Truth about Child Abuse Cases http://ritualabuse.us/smart-conference/2010-conf…

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For more than thirty-five years, New Harbingerr Publications has brought readers effective, scientifically sound self-help books that deal with a range of topics in psychology, health, and personal growth. Launched by psychologist Matthewr McKay and writer Patrick Fanning in 1973, New Harbinger pioneered a style of s…

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Olaf Schwennesen, M.A. is a certified coach for solution focused therapy and a licensed natural health professional for psychotherapy. He is working as a lecturer and trainer for social and methodical competences and in private practice in Berlin, Germany. www.naturalselfesteem.com

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I am an interactive therapist practicing in the park slope section of Brooklyn, NY. In practice for over 20 years, I have worked with a wide variety of people presenting a large range of issues. Before opening my private practice, I worked at an LGBTQ Therapy Center in NYC. I completed my MSW at NYU in 1984. As an und…

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I am a psychologist and writer, working particularly in the field of personal development. Born in London in 1952, I spent most of my life in England before moving to France in 2000 to be with my wife, Nicole. I have trained both as a rational-emotive and transpersonal psychotherapist, and combine these techniques in…

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Dr. Phil McGraw is a life strategist and host of the nationally syndicated series, Dr. Phil. He is also known as the human behavior expert from The Oprah Winfrey Show. With 25 years of experience in psychology and human function-ing, Dr. Phil deals with real issues in his signature “tell-it-like-it-is” style. He is th…

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Philip Zimbardo is internationally recognized as a leading "voice and face of contemporary psychology" through his widely see PBS-TV series, Discovering Psychology, his media appearances, best-selling trade books on shyness, and his classic research, The Stanford Prison Experiment. Zimbardo has been a Stanford Univer…

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I am a licensed clinical psychologist in San Francisco, CA. I have focused my career on community mental health support, working with and advocating for clients to make sure that everybody in our society has a voice. I have now developed a thriving private practice, where I strive to maintain a space where individuals…

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My office on 967 Spaulding Avenue SE continues to provide a renewing experience for both the people I see in my practice as well as for myself. My office has been referred to as "reflective space" by more than a few people. It is quiet and peaceful with large windows overlooking a wooded area where hawks, deer and a f…

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Richard A. Singer is an award winning author, trained psychotherapist, and most importantly a seeker of truth. He continuously searches for wisdom to use in his life, as well as helping other human beings in their precious jou ey. He has studied eastern psychology, buddhist healing, and non-violence at the doctoral le…

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Dr. Robert Epstein is a longtime researcher and professor, the former Editor-in-Chief of PSYCHOLOGY TODAY magazine, the host of "Psyched!" on Sirius Satellite Radio, a contributing editor for SCIENTIFIC AMERICAN MIND, a visiting scholar the University of Califo ia San Diego, and the founder and Director Emeritus of th…

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Studies have shown that the most important indicator of success in therapy is the relationship between client and therapist. In order to strenghten and promote this bond, Rod has written over 1,000 post session letters to his clients. Many clients have reported that these letters have helped them to find the answers t…

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Dr. Sabrina Schleicher is a licensed psychologist, as well as an executive and life coach. She has over twelve years of combined experience in college and university teaching, psychotherapy, psychological assessment, coaching, and consulting. n nDr. Schleicher’s coaching clients are successful professionals and busi…

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The Web site "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" was, for many years, an Open Directory Cool Site and is a Psych-UK recommended Site. I am not a mental health professional though I am certified in psychological counseling techniques byBrainbench. I served as the editor of Mental Health Disorders categories…

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Hi I am Dr. Sherrie! Welcome to my experts page. I love all visitors. Let me introduce myself. I am a licensed Psychologist with over nineteen years of clinical training and experience. I earned my Ph.D. in 2003. I believe one of the most powerful steps in Self Love we can take is asking for mentoring, therapy or guid…

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I am a professional artist in Portland, Oregon, and have lived a life of a person afflicted with schizo-affective disorder, which gives me the experience dealing with this disease, what prescribed drugs will help me and how to get help from my doctors. For 3 1/2 years I have attended colleges at Southern Oregon Colleg…

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Shoshana Bennett, Ph.D. (“Dr. Shosh”) is the author of Postpartum Depression For Dummies and co-author of Beyond the Blues: Understanding and Treating Prenatal and Postpartum Depression. Her latest book Pregnant on Prozac was published in January of ’09. She’s also created guided imagery audios that are specifically f…

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Dr. Srini Pillay, founder and CEO of NeuroBusiness Group, is a pioneer in brain-based executive coaching who is dedicated to collaborating with experts to help people unleash their full potential. He also serves as an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and teaches in the Executive Education Pr…

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Stephanie Macadaan is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles, Califo ia providing therapy for individuals, couples, adolescents and families. Stephanie provides treatment for a variety of issues, including anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, infidelity, anger, life transitions, divorce, pa…

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I work with high performing men and women who struggle with being stuck in patterns that cause them to feel powerless and sometimes even hopeless, and who would like to break free of these old negative patterns so they can experience a more rewarding life. What separates my service from others is my ability to instin…

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Jene Hedden, B.C.D.,M.S.W., L.C.S.W., is a Clinical Social Worker licensed to practice in Kentucky and Indiana. He holds a Master's Degree in Religious Education with a major in Social Work from Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, a Master's in Social Work from the Kent School of Social Work at the University of Lo…

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Master's degree in Integrative Psychotherapy/Counselling Post-qualifying certificate in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) Degree in Psychology and humanities (2:1) Post-graduate Certificate in Education (PGCE) - secondary school teacher qualification.

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Before beginning my academic training in psychotherapy I was a composer working in the film and television industry in Hollywood, Califo ia. I provided music for motion pictures and television shows for over twenty years. I grew up in an artistic family as both my mother and stepfather were very successful, and very t…

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Will Parfitt has worked in the fields of personal and spiritual development for over 30 years. He trained in psychosynthesis and is a registered psychotherapist, leading courses in England and Europe. He also has a private practice in Glastonbury, England, offering psychotherapy, mentoring, coaching, supervision and s…

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Will Parfitt describes how our relationship with trees goes back to the origins of humankind, and how trees are a potent symbol for the creative growth process both on a personal and collective level. The Tree of Life features as a potent symbol in the myths of many different cultures. The ...

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Video games have evolved exponentially since the advent of the first interactive games in 1947 with the development of the Cathode Ray Tube Amusement Device (CRTAD). Baby boomers may remember playing “Tank”, “Pong” and “Space Invaders” in the seventies at arcades where the pin-ball machine was still king.

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These days we all know only too well how the act of one person can and does have a profound effect on us all; equally we are all responsible for the effect we have collectively on both the planet as a whole and on each individual. In the early stages of this new century, the two areas of most ...

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March Madness brings plenty of opportunity to place bets…online, in Las Vegas and in office pools across the country. But, what can be a harmless bet for most people can be more than a game for others. It can be a dangerous trigger for the compulsive gambler. Unlike casual betting, compulsive ...

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A Simple Lesson in Arithmetic Most people think finding happiness is a matter of addition. They believe that happiness will come after the acquisition of something or series of things. They’ll be happy when they get a new car, a new home, a new job, a new pair of jeans, a new wife, a new ...

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Relationship shapes our lives. There are times when a relationship is heart shaped, and times when a relationship is another shape altogether, maybe even dagger shaped. An individual mood can make all relationships conform to a particular shape, from, for instance,’ I love everyone’ to ...

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There is an ancient Celtic tale that speaks of a crack in the earth from which evil creatures and spirits ascend upon the upper regions from the dark and dank recesses of Hell. The Cave of Cruachan was its name, and many a story of elfin lore was spoken from the lips of this vile split between our world and the world below.

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How do you know if you have an anger management problem? Anger is a tough issue for many men. Males are hard-wired to act when threatened. In times past, that may have meant defending themselves against a wild animal or an enemy intent on harming them or their families. These days, the ...

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A Tree for Life Will Parfitt describes, in this extract from his new book ‘The Complete Guide to the Kabbalah’, describes how our relationship with trees goes back to the origins of humankind, and how trees are a potent symbol for the creative growth process both on a personal and collective ...

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I’m a perfectionist. Always have been. And sometimes it drives me crazy. Like most ‘Type-A’ people, there isn’t enough time in the day to be a perfectionist about everything, so we often prioritize areas of our lives where our standards need to reach their highest, and those where we can allow the ‘good enough’ standard to rule.

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Never making the decision you know you need to make has been called ‘analysis paralysis’; ‘sitting on the fence’; ‘considering your options’; ‘waiting for the right time’ (when there is no right time); ‘not wanting to rush into anything’; and, in new age lingo ‘being kind to myself by NOT making a decision’. OMG, really? However, deep inside ourselves, if we’re willing to be honest, we know it by another name, and it’s not ‘procrastination’. It’s called “F.E.A.R.”. I know fear well, and my guess is that you do, too.

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We’re about to head into what is likely your busiest time of the year, and yet songs joyfully remind us that it’s THE most ‘wonderful’ time of the year. Most people wouldn’t agree.

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Ending a relationship can be a difficult and devastating process, but when children are involved, it gets more complicated. When divorcing, the desired outcome is usually to separate physically, financially and mentally. However, parents are ultimately bonded and connected to each other for the rest of their lives, at least through their children, making "moving on" delicate and challenging. Here are a few things to think about for parents considering a break-up:

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As a psychotherapist, I often meet individuals, couples and families who at first describe the relationships that matter the most in their lives as ‘very close’, ‘tight’, and supportive. But later, after understanding the issues that brought them to my office, I view them more as insular systems that nurture – or even demand – ‘group think’ and inhibit individualism altogether. In fact, in many of these situations, any deviation from the collective is often considered betrayal to the larger system, whether it be the couple, the nuclear, or extended family.

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For many women, their female friendships have been a source of comfort, support, laughter, and joy. For others, they have been mired in betrayal, mean-spiritedness, and competition. But for most of us, they’ve been a combination of these two extremes, and typically, even before we reach the age of twelve! But, by the time we reach 30 years of age, most of us carry a number of scars from battling – and often losing to – the tactics (or ‘rules of engagement’) that we learned while still making mud cakes in the sandbox.

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We are living in powerful times. A crucial time in the lives of those who’ve been sexually abused. For girls, boys, men, and women, it’s a long-awaited time when people are becoming empowered to speak up against the sexual abuse they’ve experienced during their lifetimes with the hope of making those who’ve perpetrated the abuse finally accountable.

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Clients come to my office for a number of reasons. For example, when they’re feeling depressed, when they’re feeling anxious, and when they are experiencing conflict in their relationships, but also when they’ve become bored with their lives. For these people, meaning and engagement in life seemed to have disappeared without conscious awareness, and not all of a sudden. Instead, it seemed to filter out slowly and they just woke up one day and experienced an emptiness that wasn’t previously there.

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When I was in Grade 4, I struggled with an ability to read, especially when asked to read in front of the class. I wasn’t dyslexic but I was quite shy, and not at all confident about my intellectual abilities relative to my peers. Unfortunately, I had a teacher who, I discovered many years later, had a reputation for being a bully that extended far beyond the city of Winnipeg where I lived for that one terrible year.

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Over the years, I’ve discovered there are few among us who embrace transitions. I’m not one of them. Just ask my husband. For perhaps the first ten years of our lives together, when we vacationed overseas (before the aid of the Internet to illustrate the sort of place we were headed to), I’d arrive exhausted, hungry, not yet adjusted to the time change (another transition), and would typically find myself utterly disappointed with our choice of accommodation and/or locale.

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June is convocation month, and all around the world students are celebrated as they make their way out of their post-secondary, and often, personal, nests as they fly toward the next phase of their lives. Most of us watch them cross the stage with joy at the possibilities that we imagine for them, as well as envy at, again, those same possibilities that we may or may not have taken advantage of at the time of our ‘flight’ from the nest.

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At one time or another, we’ve likely all been advised that we should go through our closets on a regular basis to weed out what no longer works for us, and to remind ourselves what does. After months of procrastination, I tend to carry out this arduous task every couple of years, and not surprisingly, at the end of it, I’ve usually gathered together at least one large garbage bag of ho-hum clothes, that were previously relegated to the back of my drawers or closets. To the Salvation Army drop off they go, and afterwards, I’m left feeling uplifted, lighter, and free.

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From the moment we’re born until the day we die we are continually absorbing messages that tell us who we are, what we’re worth as human beings, what we should be doing at any given time, how we should look (and especially how we shouldn’t look), what we should eat, what we should buy, what activities or careers we should or should not engage in, and so on. Opinions come from near, they come from afar, but for sure, they come, and they never stop.

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Sometimes I feel like complaining. About whatever. And it feels good – that is, when I’m not in the company of the kind of person we all know who see it as their job to drag us over to the “positive perspective” corner of the room. “Leave me alone. I want to feel miserable for now,” I want to scream. But it’s hard to communicate that message without sounding like a whiny, malcontented child.

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Ways Your Website Should Be Perfect to Avoid Losing Sales “I can see I’m dealing with a perfectionist here.” This is what a client said to me the other day when I pointed out a glaring error on her website that we had just launched for her, appearing after her assistant made an update. “Well of course!” I wanted to exclaim back, “aren’t you with your business?”

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Just as I was leaving my office last night, I discovered THE most beautiful bouquet of flowers sitting beside my door awaiting me. I was so taken back by the thoughtfulness of whomever had arranged this lovely gift, and when I opened the card and read that it was from my clients who participated in our 13-month Group Therapy for Women, I felt a profound sense of gratitude for them, and for the work that I have the privilege to do as a psychotherapist on a daily basis.

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It's a thrilling prospect - turning your idea into a huge success! Creating a thriving company, finding financial success, earning respect and joining the ranks of modern day superheros like Steve Jobs, Marissa Mayer, Mark Zuckerberg and Elon Musk. Being an entrepreneur is an exciting ride, but it is also an emotional roller coaster with drops, turns and spins. One of the biggest mistakes entrepreneurs make is not dealing with the emotional impact of the job. It's much easier to focus on investors, analytics and finances than your personal emotional and mental health.

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As a psychotherapist, I’m in the business of hearing how people, especially women, talk about their bodies using hateful and disparaging terms. They aren’t alone. I’ve done the same myself, and so I know how hard it can be to make peace with our imperfect bodies (are they ever anything else?) let alone feel loving toward it.

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Just the other day, I was involved in a situation that reminded me of the amount of courage it takes to give selflessly. I was acutely aware that few of us know the kind of love that’s willing to offer this sort of giving, particularly if it means experiencing personal suffering in the process of that giving. We might attribute this extraordinary ability to those who we believe are more emotionally or spiritually evolved than the rest of us. But, from my own experience, both personally and as a psychotherapist, that isn’t necessarily true.

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Dissociative identity disorder (formerly called Multiple Personality Disorder or MPD) is defined in the DSM-IV-TR as the presence of two or more personality states or distinct identities that repeatedly take control of one’s behavior. The patient has an inability to recall personal information. The extent of this lack of recall is too great to be explained by normal forgetfulness. The disorder cannot be due to the direct physical effects of a general medical condition or substance.[1] DID entails a failure to integrate certain aspects of memory, consciousness and identity.

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There are two types of mindfulness practice: formal and informal. In formal practice, you actually set aside an amount of time and dedicate it to being mindful. Informal practice doesn’t require any extra time; the idea is to bring moment-to-moment awareness to everything you already do, to zero in on what you are doing as you are actually doing it. People often do things without being fully present, as if they were on automatic pilot. Living this way, they cheat themselves out of many moments in their lives.

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The negative effects of overwhelming emotions often have more to do with our reaction to the emotion than to the emotion itself. If you feel extreme rage and act on that rage by breaking a window or physically assaulting the person you’re angry at, the problem then becomes the damage you’ve caused rather than the emotion of anger. If you allow the anger to pass through you without reacting to it, there would be no problem. Emotions themselves, even the painful ones, can be neutral and soon pass.

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Your every significant choice -- every important decision you make -- is determined by a force operating deep inside your mind: your perspective on time -- your internal, personal time zone. This is the most influential force in your life, yet you are virtually unaware of it. Once you become aware of your personal time zone, you can begin to see and manage your life in exciting new ways.

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You probably think of stress as bad or negative, but there are times when stress actually helps you. Andrew plays soccer on his school’s team. He tends to get really nervous before a game, and his stomach often feels a little queasy. At the same time, his adrenaline increases and that helps him perform better. If you go beyond that perfect point, the balance tips; the stress gets too great. It begins to decrease your ability to do well and starts to hurt you. Samantha tends to put school assignments off until the last minute.

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A couple conce ed about the lack of sexual desire and activity in their relationship, came to see me for a consultation. They had been living together for two years, loved each other and had no problem being affectionate. Sex, however, seemed to have fallen by the wayside after the first year. The couple had been avoiding the issue, but once it was raised, they realized they needed help. I offer this example because the couple happens to be heterosexual. What is Lesbian Bed Death?

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Maria entered my office crying. She just ended her five year relationship and was understandably upset. In retrospect, she recognized numerous 'red flags' that she tried to overlook throughout the relationship. As she spoke of her anger, hurt, and disappointment, she asked, "Does anyone ever actually have a healthy relationship? I mean, is it even possible?"r

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At times, everyone experiences emotions so intense that there’s no controlling them or talking ourselves out of them. When the emotions you feel are so overwhelming that you just need to stop what you’re doing and deal with them, here are some tips for what to do. Remember that feeling your emotions, especially the painful ones, is the way through them.

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Schizoaffective Disorder occurs in 1 and 100 people. It was first diagnosed by Dr. Jacob Kasanin in 1933. Many people who have it are diagnosed with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or major depression because it is difficult to understand its symptoms.

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Most of the pain of overwhelming emotion is caused by our struggle against feeling the emotion. We fight against our situation, wishing things were different, being disappointed when our expectations aren’t met, and telling ourselves we shouldn’t be upset, depressed, sad, disappointed, or angry. The next time you feel overwhelmed by intense emotion, try doing the exact opposite of what you normally do: feel the emotion and accept it. Tell yourself, "I’m feeling __________________ right now and it is very uncomfortable.

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Capture Your Memoriesr Sherry Joiner –Living A Life With Schizo-Affective Disorder - Lecturer in the Psyche Ward and In Our Own Voice Speaker for NAMIr

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A Gay Man’s Lifer Sherry Joiner Living A Life With Schizo-affective Disorder Lecturer and In Our Own Voice Speaker for NAMI As I sit a gallery in Portland, Oregon, where my paintings hang with other artists, I’m looking at a photo. That’s me in the denim jeans and white laced blouse with my brother’s arm around my shoulder. He has a dusky Afro and a wide Portuguese smile. A happy picture. I remember stroking his soft brown curls when he was a baby. I sat him on my lap and he stared into my eyes with his bright blue eyes, grabbing the strands of my red hair with his tiny hands.r

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Typology of Codependents Codependence is a complex, multi-faceted, and multi-dimensional defence against the codependent's fears and needs. There are four categories of codependence, stemming from their respective aetiologies: (i) Codependence that aims to fend of anxieties related to abandonment. These codependents are clingy, smothering, prone to panic, are plagued with ideas of reference, and display self-negating submissiveness.

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Schizo-affective disorder is a hard disease to tackle when societal pressures seem to dominate your routine, yet the sheer process of overcoming the stigma of this disease is complicated but workable.r

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Recovered memories have been defined as the phenomenon of partially or fully losing parts of memories of traumatic events, and then later recovering part or all of the memories into conscious awareness. They have also been defined as the recollections of memories that are believed to have been unavailable for a certain period of time[1]. There is very strong scientific evidence that recovered memories exist.[2] This has been shown in many scientific studies.

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The Extreme Abuse Surveys (EAS) were created to develop a qualitative and quantitative base of data regarding the accounts of survivors of extreme abuse [1]. Four researchers from Germany and the United States, Carol Rutz, Thorsten Becker, Bettina Overcamp and Wanda Karriker worked together to develop three different surveys to develop this base of data[1]. The Trilogy The international online survey was divided into three parts. The Extreme Abuse Survey for adult survivors (EAS), was conducted betwee January 1 and March 30, 2007.

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The presence of pets activates in us two primitive psychological defense mechanisms: projection and narcissism. Projection is a defense mechanism intended to cope with internal or exte al stressors and emotional conflict by attributing to another person or object (such as a pet) - usually falsely - thoughts, feelings, wishes, impulses, needs, and hopes deemed forbidden or unacceptable by the projecting party. In the case of pets, projection works through anthropomorphism: we attribute to animals our traits, behavior patterns, needs, wishes, emotions, and cognitive processes.

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The love of - nay, addiction to - competitive and solitary sports cuts across all social-economic strata and throughout all the demographics. Whether as a passive consumer (spectator), a fan, or as a participant and practitioner, everyone enjoys one form of sport or another. Wherefrom this universal propensity? Sports cater to multiple psychological and physiological deep-set needs. In this they are unique: no other activity responds as do sports to so many dimensions of one's person, both emotional, and physical.

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Interview granted to Samantha Cleaver for YourTango.com Q. What are some common ways that a mother's narcissism can affect her daughter's relationships? A. Depends on how narcissistic the mother is. Narcissistic parents fail to recognize and accept the personal autonomy and boundaries of their offspring. They treat them as instruments of gratification or extensions of themselves.

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I was painting from a picture of a lady on a swing on a warm Spring’s day. It was a blend of impressionism and realism, and I was overcome by the feeling of peace and tranquility as I painted it. It reminded me of all the times I lectured at the psyche ward and gave a meditation exercise. I hoped that the power of meditation would reach the audience with the same effect as did the lady sitting in the swing, meditating in a calm place.

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When you’re first diagnosed, you may not even know what questions to ask. And the answer to one question often leads to many more questions about things you may not have considered before. It’s hard to take in a lot of new information when you feel anxious. It’s normal to need information to be ...

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Here are some suggestions to help you get through your chemotherapy treatment. By preventing nausea you can be comfortable, stay well nourished, and feel better sooner. BEFORE TREATMENT It’s not necessary to have an empty stomach before getting chemotherapy. Staying well nourished and well ...

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In every situation you’ll encounter as a new mom, whether it is chaotic or mellow, there are three things happening. Examine what’s going on for you right now. You are probably having some thoughts, or your mind is focused on reading and digesting this information. You may be having some ...

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Hopefully, you now have a better idea of where to find information on self-harm, the types of resources that are out there, and some of the treatments for self-harm. Below, we turn our attention to the specific ways in which you can go about finding help in your area, as well as some important ...

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Abusive conduct is not a uniform, homogeneous phenomenon. It stems and emanates from multiples sources and manifests in a myriad ways. Following are a few useful distinctions which pertain to abuse and could serve as organizing, taxonomical principles (dimensional typologies) in a kind of ...

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INGREDIENTSnn· 2½ cups whole-wheat pastry flour or gluten-free baking flour from garbanzo beansn· ½ cup wheat brann· ½ cup whey protein powdern· ¼ cup ground flaxseedsn· 1 teaspoon baking sodan· ¼ teaspoon baking powdern· 2 teaspoons cinnamonn· ½ teaspoon nutmegn· 3 eggsn· 1 cup xylitoln· ¾ cup ...

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Just as your automobile needs regular care and maintenance, so does your relationship. Many couples ignore warning lights and other signs that their relationship is falling apart and is in need of a service call. They know something’s wrong, but ignore the problem(s) thinking it will go away. ...

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In every situation you’ll encounter as a new mom, whether it is chaotic or mellow, there are three things happening. Examine what’s going on for you right now. You are probably having some thoughts, or your mind is focused on reading and digesting this information. You may be having some ...

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Several different types of treatment may be helpful for self-harm, including the following:nn+ Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) CBT helps people learn new skills for managing their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. CBT is often a fairly structured treatment, with a clear agenda for each ...

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One late-night talk-show host is famous for his top-ten lists. I hope he won’t mind, but I’m going to borrow his idea. Here’s my top-ten list of questions asked most often about genital herpes. They come from patients at my clinic and from the WebMD message board. And if your question isn’t in ...

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One of the participants in our Mindful Motherhood Training for new moms (I’ll call her Cindy) told us a story about one of those moments that every mom dreads. At the park one day, she and her husband took their toddler and their four-month-old baby in her stroller to the pond to watch the ...

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NAME your feelings If you want to handle your feelings effectively, NAME them. NAME is an acronym for: N – NoticenA – AcknowledgenM – Make space E – Expand awareness Let’s go through these steps for handling your feelings, one by one. STEP 1: NOTICE When strong feelings show up, the first ...

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After you’ve had herpes for a few weeks or months, the emotions surrounding it sometimes change. You might still have some of the initial ones we talked about, but they’ll tend to fade a bit as you get more information about herpes, in general, and your case, in particular. But now, some new ...

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Find a quiet place where you will be relatively free from distractions and unlikely to be bothered by anyone. Sit in a comfortable position. Write down how strong your urge is on a scale from 0 (no urge at all) to 10 (the strongest urge you’ve ever had). Then, write down how much you feel as if ...

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Now that you’ve learned some of the basics about sleep, let’s take a look at some common myths about sleep that may be contributing to your sleep problems. MYTH 1: Spending more time in bed at night will give me a better chance of falling asleep. Actually, the opposite is true. The longer you ...

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New moms have specific contraceptive needs. They want birth control that is effective, simple to use, can be used over a long period of time, and allows for sexual spontaneity. An important question often asked by new moms is, “How soon after giving birth do I need to start using birth control?” Usually, doctors recommend that birth control be started six weeks after giving birth (if medically it’s okay to have sex) or when menstruation resumes.

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In the right context, rules are very useful. We’d be in trouble if we didn’t have rules about which side of the road to drive on, or how fast we can drive, or how much we can drink before we drive. However, rules can be problematic if we hold them too tightly. We can become rigid or inflexible, ...

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Let’s discuss LOVE: L – Letting go O – Opening up V – ValuingnE – Engaging Let’s now explore each of these elements in more detail: LETTING GO “Letting go” is the escape route from inside-your-mind, one of the elements that DRAIN your relationship. Your mind is like a master storyteller ...

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• Calcium. This mineral is vital for skeletal mineralization, blood clotting, conduction of nerve impulses, buffering of acidic blood, enzyme activity, and muscle contractions.nnn • Phosphorus. This mineral is important for energy, enzyme activity, muscle contraction, and nerve ...

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Whether you’re a new dad or a dad-to-be, you probably already realize something about fatherhood: it’s the highest of the highs—and the lowest of the lows. You’re on an emotional roller coaster unlike any you’ll ever experience. One moment, you’re beaming, the proud dad of a beautiful newborn. ...

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Ritual abuse exists all over the world. There have been reports, journal articles[1][2][3], web pages[4][5][6][7][8][9] and criminal convictions of crimes against children and adults [10][11][12]. Contents * 1 Definition * 2 Origins of the term * 3 Evidence * 4 References * 5 Bibliography * 6 Exte al Links Definition Ritual abuse has been defined as: a brutal form of abuse of children, adolescents, and adults, consisting of physical, sexual, and psychological abuse, and involving the use of rituals. Ritual does not necessarily mean satanic.

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No matter who you are, if you walk deeply into the forest enough times, you’re going to get lost. I certainly have—several times. Dark, twisting ravines, steeply sloped hillsides, and impenetrable tangles can be disorienting. That’s the bad news. The good news is that if you persist, if you ...

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People seem to go through two separate periods in their reactions to having herpes. The first obviously comes right away; it starts as you sit in your clinician’s office and hear the words, “I think you may have herpes,” and continues until you get your test results that confirm those ...

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The last thing you want to think about when you learn you’re pregnant is whether you might end up with postpartum depression. Unless you’ve experienced depression before in pregnancy or postpartum, chances are you’ll be tempted to avoid the topic. Don’t worry – thinking about it won’t cause it! Quite the contrary - as with many other situations you want to prevent, just a tiny amount of planning can greatly reduce the likelihood (and severity) of problems. Just a few years ago an interesting fact about the eyes was discovered.

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White knights have a compulsive need to rescue, but how and why they rescue can be quite varied. The following is an overview of the basic characteristics common to all white knights. There are also four subtypes: the overly empathetic white knight, the tarnished white knight, the terrorizing/ ...

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DECIDING ON THE TREATMENT PLAN During your next visit, your doctor may recommend chemotherapy alone or in combination with radiation therapy, hormonal therapy, targeted therapy, or surgery. Your doctor will explain treatment options and why a certain one is recommended. Your doctor may be able ...

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Question: Do narcissists have friends? Answer: Not in the usual sense of the word and not that they know of. The narcissist is one track minded. He is interested in securing the provision of Narcissistic Supply emanating from Narcissistic Supply Sources. His world is as narrow as an ant's, to ...

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Here are some tips for developing self-compassion:nnn+ Start with mindful breathing. Breathe slowly and deeply. Breathe into your body, wherever it hurts most. Imagine your breath flowing into and around the pain; feel yourself opening up around it. nnn+ Place a hand on the area that is most ...

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Narcissistic Injury An occasional or circumstantial threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist's grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack ...

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To create our subtypes we reviewed numerous cases of rescuing behavior in intimate relationships. We examined and compared the personality styles, behavior in relationships, and early history. From this review, four basic subtypes of rescuers emerged: the overly empathic white knight, the ...

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Emotional difficulties in women during pregnancy and after delivery are surprisingly common. For example, studies consistently show that approximately 14 percent of women suffer from postpartum depression (Paulson, Dauber, and Leiferman 2006). In addition, some studies have found around 16 ...

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If you’re going to address an issue, first think about the outcome you are looking for. If you want to waste your energy in a useless fight, you know what to do: put on your armor, pick up your sword, and charge. Leap into the fray, armed to the teeth with accusations, strong words, criticisms, ...

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After what was hopefully at least a 2-year courtship, you now find yourself engaged. You're excited and nervous as the big day approaches. You think you've got all the important questions asked and answered. Are the guests seated properly? Did we give the florist a deposit? Are all the relatives ...

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Question: I met many narcissists who are modest – even self-effacing. This seems to conflict with your observations. How do you reconcile the two? Answer: The "modesty" displayed by narcissists is false. It is mostly and merely verbal. It is couched in flourishing phrases, emphasised to ...

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Staying positive when you feel you are surrounded by negativity… well, it is a simple concept, but not always easy to implement at first. But, with just a few key strategies, you can remain upbeat and positive even when the rest of the world seems like it is sinking into worry and ...

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Welcome. I’m a survivor of two life-threatening postpartum depressions. At the time of my illnesses, there was no help for me. The great news is that, if you’re suffering from depression in pregnancy or postpartum or know someone who is, there’s help now. For the last 20 years my mission has been to educate medical and mental health professionals, and work directly with women and their families around the country to make sure they don’t suffer the way my family and I did.

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Question: Is the narcissist characterised by simultaneous instabilities in all the important aspects of his life? Answer: The narcissist is a person who derives his Ego (and Ego functions) from other people's reactions to an image he invents and projects, called the False Self (Narcissistic ...

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Research indicates that a variety of factors can be associated with the onset of manic symptoms (Johnson 2005; Goodwin and Jamison 2007; Bauer 2008a). It is important to recognize such potential triggers because avoiding or reducing exposure to them can reduce the likelihood that manic symptoms ...

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Question: The narcissist is not entirely responsible for his actions. Should we judge him, get angry at him, be upset by him? Above all, should we communicate to him our displeasure? Answer: The narcissist knows to tell right from wrong. He is perfectly capable of anticipating the results of ...

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DEFEATING PERFECTIONIST EXTREMES In a perfectionist state of mind, you put yourself on a seesaw. You are up when you do well. You are down when you don’t. So, let’s look at how to clear this perfectionist tarnish from your window on life. Perfectionist thinking is vulnerable to ...

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We all have a scenario of our life. We invent, adopt, are led by and measure ourselves against our personal narratives. These are, normally, commensurate with our personal histories, our predilections, our abilities, limitations, and our skills. We are not likely to invent a narrative which is ...

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Question: What kind of a spouse/mate/partner is likely to be attracted to a narcissist? Answer: The Victims On the face of it, there is no (emotional) partner or mate, who typically "binds" with a narcissist. They come in all shapes and sizes. The initial phases of attraction, infatuation ...

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Question: What are the effects that narcissistic parents have on their offspring? Answer: At the risk of over-simplification: narcissism tends to breed narcissism - but only a minority of the children of narcissistic parents become narcissists. This may be due to a genetic predisposition or ...

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We are all members of a few families in our lifetime: the one that we are born to and the one(s) that we create. We all transfer hurts, attitudes, fears, hopes and desires – a whole emotional baggage – from the former to the latter. The narcissist is no exception. The narcissist has ...

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Therapy, in most cases, cannot cure the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), only mitigate and ameliorate the condition by modifying some of the narcissist's behaviours. Only narcissists, who go through a severe life crisis, tend to consider the possibility of therapy at all. When they ...

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Of course they do. All humans have emotions. It is how we choose to relate to our emotions that matters. The narcissist tends to repress them so deeply that, for all practical purposes, they play no conscious role in his life and conduct, though they play an extraordinarily large unconscious ...

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The human body is a very complex system. It is a whole much larger than the sum of its parts. And most importantly, all of the parts work together in synergy, and all depend on one another for proper function. Being but one element in this complex system, calcium needs many other nutrients to ...

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Question: What is the typical profile of a homosexual narcissist? Why is he always on a lookout for new victims? Is he lying or is he telling the truth when he says that he "wants to get laid" by one and all? If he is not suicidal, is he not afraid of AIDS? Answer: Research failed to find any ...

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Maybe you think your loved one hasn’t been acting like herself for a while now and you’ve been encouraging her to seek professional help. Or maybe you’re annoyed or angry with her for not responding to motherhood the way you or someone you know did or the way you think she ought to. Maybe you ...

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No one should feel responsible for the narcissist's predicament. To him, others hardly exist – so enmeshed he is in himself and in the resulting misery of this very self-preoccupation. Others are objects on which he projects his wrath, rage, suppressed and mutating aggression and, finally, ...

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You’re Off the Hook Unwittingly, your female forebears passed the carnival mirror self-image down to you, and, unwittingly, or unintentionally, you have passed it down to your daughter. (Many mothers may be sensitive to their influence on their children and still find themselves unable to ...

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It’s my job to take care of everyone else. I shouldn’t need help. I should be able to take care of my baby by myself. If I say “no,” that’s selfish. They’ll be disappointed in me if I refuse. If there’s time leftover for me, then I’ll take it. Even if only one of these statements rings a bell ...

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Question: Am I to blame for my husband's/child's/parent's mental state and behaviour? Is there anything that I can or should do to help him or to reach him? Answer: Self-flagellation is a characteristic of those who choose to live with a narcissist (for a choice it is). Constant feelings of ...

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The energy flowing between you, your body, and your connections with the body of the world can be consciously appreciated - if you pay close enough attention. Let this practice of mindful listening to a larger body tune you in to the joy of the world. 1. The next time you are part of an ...

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This is a delicious and easy way to prepare squash. If you have any leftovers, they make a great soup. Just puree them in a blender with enough stock or water to reach the consistency of a creamy soup, then heat and season to taste with salt and pepper. 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 ...

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Question: Is the narcissist confined in his grandiose fantasies to one subject? Answer: This apparently simple question is more complex than it sounds. The narcissist is bound to make use of his more pronounced traits and qualities in both the design of his False Self and the extraction of ...

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Are you in a relationship with someone who drives you crazy? Are you in a relationship with someone who no matter how well you point out the facts of their irresponsibility or immaturity they find some way to justify and rationalize all they do? Do you leave conversations with these people feeling unheard, angry and exasperated? If so, you are in a relationship with a difficult person, one who I call an Adult-Child or a Crazy Maker.

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Perhaps the most important application for your listening skills is when you communicate with your partner. A process called reciprocal communication provides a structure in which you can really hear each other. Here's how it works. When you're discussing a topic that is a conflict area for ...

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"He knows not how to rule a kingdom, that cannot manage a province; nor can he wield a province, that cannot order a city; nor he order a city, that knows not how to regulate a village; nor he a village, that cannot guide a family; nor can that man govern well a family that knows not how to ...

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Many people are cut off from what their bodies are feeling, unaware of how their emotions manifest physically. Whether you're aware of it or not, emotions often can be first detected in the body. Do you know that different people experience the same emotion differently? When you feel rage, ...

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As psychologist William James said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” To gain mastery over your anxiety, it’s very important that you learn how to challenge automatic thinking, such as catstrophizing and overestimating the ...

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The things that can go wrong with your body when your thyroid function is low are so pervasive and extensive it’s startling. So many of the difficulties and indignities we learn to live with, thinking they’re an inevitable part of aging, are actually the result of low thyroid function and are ...

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Question: Are Narcissists addicted to being famous? Answer: You bet. This, by far, is their predominant drive. Being famous encompasses a few important functions: it endows the narcissist with power, provides him with a constant Source of Narcissistic Supply (admiration, adoration, approval, ...

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Question: Can a narcissist ever get better and, if not, how should his partner end a relationship with him? Answer: The Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a systemic, all-pervasive condition, very much like pregnancy: either you have it or you don't. Once you have it, you have it day and ...

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Anxiety disorders are a group of psychological disorders characterized by debilitating anxiety that interferes with a person’s functioning. The following explores the connection between starvation eating disorders, core anxiety, weight obsessions, and compulsions. Beyond the relationship between ...

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Question: Are narcissists mostly hyperactive or hypoactive sexually and to what extent are they likely to be unfaithful in marriage? Answer: Broadly speaking, there are two types of narcissists, loosely corresponding to the two categories mentioned in the question. Sex for the narcissist is ...

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We are born with abilities of the first order (abilities to do) and of the second order (potentials, abilities to develop abilities to do). Our environment, though, is critical to the manifestation of these abilities. It is through socialisation and comparison with others that we bring our ...

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Question: Doesn't the narcissist ever feel sorry for his "victims"? Answer: The narcissist always feels "bad". He experiences all manner of depressive episodes and lesser dysphoric moods. He goes through a full panoply of mood disorders and anxiety disorders. He experiences panic from time to ...

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I have had many people sit on the therapy couch, look deeply at their partner, and say, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” As the eyes of their other half fill with tears, I explain to both of them that this is not a bad thing. Now they can get down to the business of having a real ...

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Momentum is a powerful force. Once you are in motion, the tendency is to keep moving. And your movements, especially when hurrying and worrying, can be in both body and mind. All you need to stop the momentum of mind and body begins with giving yourself permission to stop. Try this practice ...

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Becoming a new mother is an intense experience that affects all areas of your life including work, relationships, identity, and emotional health. Motherhood adds stress to life, no matter how good you feel. The challenges of caring for a newborn, other children, home, and whatever else can ...

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The difficulty with quirks in a partner is that, by definition, they are peculiar and idiosyncratic and not commonly shared. This means you are dealing with a behavior, belief, or other trait you may not understand or relate to in any way, which tends to make acceptance of your partner all the ...

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Let's take a look at our personal, emotional, and spiritual support systems, as they will hold up our physical structure - and not the other way around. What follows is my interpretation and synthesis of the work of many masters, principally the seven levels of judgment of George Ohsawa, ...

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Victims of abuse in all its forms – verbal, emotional, financial, physical, and sexual – are often disorientated. They require not only therapy to heal their emotional wounds, but also practical guidance and topical education. At first, the victim is, naturally, distrustful and even hostile. The ...

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Question: What happens to a narcissist who lacks even the basic potential and skills to realise some of his grandiose fantasies? Answer: Such a narcissist resorts to deferred Narcissistic Supply which generates an effect of deferred grandiosity. He forgoes his grandiose schemes and gives up ...

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Disclaimer Statistically, the majority of abuse victims are female and most abusers are male. Still, we should bear in mind that there are male victims and female offenders as well. Ideally, after a period of combined tutoring, talk therapy, and (anti-anxiety or antidepressant) medications, ...

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(I use "she" throughout this article but it applies to male victims as well) Contrary to popular misconceptions, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Acute Stress Disorder (or Reaction) are not typical responses to prolonged abuse. They are the outcomes of sudden exposure to severe or ...

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TREATMENTS FOR A BIO -PSYCHOSOCIAL CONDITION Understanding and treating bipolar disorder requires tuning in to biological, psychological, and social aspects—it is a bio-psychosocial condition. Typically, bipolar disorder is treated with one or more medications plus some type of counseling or ...

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STRATEGY: PRACTICING THE POSITIVES One way to stock your couple’s psychological first aid kit is to practice some of the strategies, like just being there, active listening, partner care, and identifying needs at low-stress, neutral, and even positive times. The benefits of practicing ...

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Stop right now and translate your restlessness into productive energy with five simple steps: 1. Stop; stand still and consider opening up to a new perspective. Take a few deep breaths, and put your attention on the feeling of restlessness. 2. Ask yourself, “Where in my body do I feel ...

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Acupuncture is a type of ancient Chinese medicine. It has been used for thousands of years, and works with over 2,000 pressure points and energy meridians in your body. As you probably know, acupuncture uses disposable needles as thin as a strand of hair placed just below the skin to stimulate ...Acupuncture is a type of ancient Chinese medicine. It has been used for thousands of years, and works with over 2,000 pressure points and energy meridians in your body.

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Emotional affairs might begin as friendships, but they don’t stay that way. The friendship becomes transformed, sometimes slowly, sometimes almost immediately, into a fundamentally different relationship. There are distinct differences between friendships and emotional affairs. - An ...

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The science of nutrition includes the significant connections between food and our minds and emotions. The food you eat can affect your emotions. The same research also shows how feelings affect food choices. How does food affect your feelings and vice versa? The next practice allows you to ...

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Donovan, 16 years old, is incapable of loving and, therefore, has never loved you, his mother (or, for that matter, anyone else, himself included) in his entire life. His natural capacity to love and to return love was all but eliminated by his horrid childhood. We practice loving first and ...

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A MINDFUL CHOCOLATE MEDITATION Walk into any grocery store and there’s likely to be a Halloween aisle brimming over with candy. Those who struggle with mindless eating have already begun to wonder how they’ll stay clear of trick-or-treat sweets. Many people find that Halloween ...

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I genuinely believe that in order to create an effective exercise habit, you must think about what you can sustain not for weeks, but for decades. What sort of movement and exercise can you do that you'll enjoy and that won't elicit the mule response? What feels good to your body? In terms of ...

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This paper will delineate the etiological antecedents of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and enumerate upon the scientific evidence proving the existence of DID. (I will use the term DID for MPD to avoid confusion, even when the original author cited may have used the original term MPD.) ...

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Stalking is a crime and stalkers are criminals. This simple truth is often ignored by mental health practitioners, by law enforcement agencies, and by the media. The horrid consequences of stalking are typically underestimated and stalkers are mocked as eccentric and lonely weirdoes. Yet, ...

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Question: Are female narcissists any different? You seem to talk only about male narcissists! Answer: I keep using the male third person singular because most narcissists (75%) are males and more so because there is little difference between the male and female narcissists. In the ...

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Do you know how beautiful you are? Yes, you! You're beautiful beyond compare. Affirm this to yourself ten times right here and now. Okay, now that you're back, think about how you felt as you affirmed your beauty. Did you feel a spark of power? What if you used that spark to ignite filling ...

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When to seek treatment: I recently received a call from a woman who was interested in couple therapy. She and her partner were planning a wedding and thought it would be a good idea to have pre-marital counseling "to iron out a few problems." After a few months in treatment, they agreed that ...When to seek treatment:

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Everyone experiences feelings of anger or irritability, but people with bipolar disorder are especially prone to these feelings and the adverse effects of anger. In fact, sudden feelings of anger or irritability are key symptoms of mania. Inappropriate anger attacks occur in up to 60 percent of ...

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Research indicates that a variety of factors can be associated with the onset of depressive symptoms for people with bipolar disorder. It is important to recognize such potential triggers, because avoiding or reducing exposure to them can reduce the likelihood that depressive symptoms will ...

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In the book describing the fabulous tales of Baron Munchhausen, there is a story about how the legendary nobleman succeeded to pull himself out of a quicksand marsh – by his own hair. Such a miracle is not likely to recur. Narcissists cannot cure themselves any more than other mental patients ...

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If you’re restless and don’t know what to do with yourself, stay where you are. Just be still, be quiet. Let the eage ess to do something cool down. Let the pull of the outside world release its grip on you. Just as the sediment in a bottle settles to the bottom, so will your ...

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Question: How does the narcissist react when he fails to obtain enough Narcissistic Supply? Answer: Very much as a drug addict would react to the absence of his particular drug. The narcissist constantly consumes (really, preys upon) adoration, admiration, approval, applause, attention and ...

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~ HOW CAN A PERSON USE THEIR DEPRESSION TO CHANGE THEIR LIFE, INSTEAD OF BEING RENDERED POWERLESS BY THE EXPERIENCE? ~n If you can translate your depression into a message that you need to make some changes and set out to discover precisely what those changes are, your depression may prepare ...

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Question: Are there compulsive acts unique to the narcissist? Answer: The short and the long of it is No. In general, there is a strong compulsive strand in the narcissist's behaviour. He is driven to exorcise internal demons by means of ritualistic acts. The narcissist's very pursuit of ...

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Question: What is the difference between self-love and narcissism and how does it affect the capacity to love others? Answer: There are two differences between healthy self-love and pathological narcissism: (a) in the ability to tell reality from fantasy, and (b) in the ability to empathise ...

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An older couple, Shirley and Rick, planned what they thought would be one of their last vacations. Finances and aging were making their trips more difficult. They wanted to travel to southern Utah and take in the beauty of the national forests. They had heard from a number of friends about the ...

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Do you worry about how other people perceive you? Do you consider yourself an excellent mind reader who knows what others think about you? Maybe you've thought, "He's disgusted by my weight" or "She can tell I feel bad about being short." The truth is no one can read others' minds, and it's ...

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"I lost everything when the police raided my house looking for prescription drugs. My husband and two little children were home that night. I was so ashamed I couldn't even look at them. I was arrested, put in handcuffs and locked up. My husband divorced me. My children were taken away from me. ...

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Question: In his drive for Narcissistic Supply, would the narcissist be callous enough to exploit the tragedy of others, if this were to secure him a new Supply Source? Answer: Yes. I compare Narcissistic Supply to drugs because of the almost involuntary and always-unrestrained nature of the ...

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For a vegetarian variation, replace the shrimp with cubed seasoned, smoked tofu (available at natural food stores). If you use shrimp, keep the shells for stock; just throw them in a bag in the freezer until you're ready to use them. 4 leaves bok choy 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 2 ...

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Have you ever noticed that in many of your relationships that one person seems to have all the power while the other one is in the hunt to stay in the game? If you find yourself in relationships like this you will continue to attract them until you change your patterns. Many of us are desperate for love. Many of us are desperate for attention. Many of us are desperate for affection. Many of us are desperate for validation. In being this desperate we often set ourselves up to get into relationships with all the wrong people.

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EATING BY THE MINDFUL Portion control, the good old divide (the portion) and conquer (overeating) approach, is not without merit. But what if you redefine the portion size from how many mouthfuls you can have to how many mindfuls you need to feel full, if you shift your attention from a ...

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You know it’s a good idea—to make a list of what you’re grateful for—but you just don’t get around to actually doing it. So take the next five minutes and do it now. 1. Grab a pen and paper. 2. Start with your body and record what you’re most thankful for. You may list: Good health, good ...

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Should you work while you are pregnant? About 78% of pregnant women continue work through the end of pregnancy. Consult your doctor about working during pregnancy. She will take into consideration your general health, how well the pregnancy is going, and any problems you’ve had with former ...

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CHANGING PERCEPTIONS As you gain more understanding of traumatic reactions, your understanding of how they affect your relationship will increase. Gradually your perceptions are likely to change. You may begin to take each other's reactions less personally and with less pain. For example, if ...

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I’m a survivor of two life-threatening postpartum depressions. For the last 20 years my mission has been to educate medical and mental health professionals and the public to promote postpartum wellness. I work directly with women and their families around the world to make sure they don’t ...

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This kind of stalker believes that he is in love with you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking to your friends, co-workers, and family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The ...

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How do you relieve stress? Coping with stress requires that you identify and understand the source of your stress and then make a plan for how to reduce the impact of that stressor on your life. The next set of action steps will give you some tools to help you identify stressors, and learn how ...

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"Such a one (the narcissist – SV) is encased, is he not, in an armour – such an armour! The armour of the crusaders was nothing to it – an armour of arrogance, of pride, of complete self-esteem. This armour, it is in some ways a protection, the arrows, the everyday arrows of life glance off it. ...

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Question: My husband is a narcissist and is constantly depressed. Is there any connection between these two problems? Answer: Assuming that these are clinically established facts, there is no necessary connection between them. In other words, there is no proven high correlation between ...

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A fundamental shift in humanity’s consciousness— our way of both perceiving and acting in the world has been developing over the past few decades and will continue to develop through much of the twenty-first century. The shift accompanies a profound rite of passage that the earth ...

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Intimacy, by its very nature, requires us to be vulnerable. Our partner, lover, or mate can know us to our very core, sometimes better than we know ourselves, and that can make anyone feel as though they were totally exposed. Intimacy can be intimidating. However, it is also an amazingly freeing ...

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Statistics show that intimate partner abuse, including domestic violence, has declined by one half in the last decade in the United States. Jay Silverman and Gail Williamson demonstrated in "Social Ecology and Entitlements Involved in Battering by Heterosexual College Males" (published in ...

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Is there anything you can do to avoid abusers and narcissists to start with? Are there any warning signs, any identifying marks, rules of thumb to shield you from the harrowing and traumatic experience of an abusive relationship? Imagine a first or second date. You can already tell if he is a ...

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The dissolution of the abuser's marriage or other meaningful (romantic, business, or other) relationships constitutes a major life crisis and a scathing narcissistic injury. To soothe and salve the pain of disillusionment, he administers to his aching soul a mixture of lies, distortions, ...

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If you want the nightmare to end, there is a rule of thumb which requires courage and determination to implement: Involve the courts whenever possible. In many countries, the first step is to obtain a restraining order from a civil court as part of your divorce or custody proceedings or as a ...

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Notes of first therapy session with El-Or (real name: George), male, 22, diagnosed with Schizotypal Personality Disorder El-Or's real name is George. He changed it as a result of an epiphany he experienced at the tender age of 9 when he encountered an alien spaceship in his back yard and "in ...

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Many abusers have a specific body language. It comprises an unequivocal series of subtle – but disce ible – warning signs. Pay attention to the way your date comports himself – and save yourself a lot of trouble! Abusers are an elusive breed, hard to spot, harder to pinpoint, impossible to ...

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For her traumatic wounds to heal, the victim of abuse requires closure - one final interaction with her tormentor in which he, hopefully, acknowledges his misbehaviour and even tenders an apology. Fat chance. Few abusers - especially if they are narcissistic - are amenable to such weakling ...

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If you want the nightmare to end, there is a rule of thumb which requires courage and determination to implement: Involve the police whenever possible. Report his crimes as soon as you can and make sure you retain a copy of your complaint. Your abuser counts on your fear of him and on your ...

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Notes of first therapy session with Dale G., male, 46, diagnosed with Paranoid Personality Disorder (PPD) Dale's first enquiry is whether I am in any way associated either with the government or with his former employer. He doesn't seem reassured by my negative response. He eyes me skeptically ...

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Stalkers have narcissistic traits. Many of them suffer from personality disorders. The vindictive stalker is usually a psychopath (has Antisocial Personality Disorder). They all conform to the classic definition of a bully. Before we proceed to delineate coping strategies, it is helpful to ...

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How to get your abuser to see reason in the first place? How to obtain for him the help he needs – without involving law enforcement agencies, the authorities, or the courts? Any attempt to broach the subject of the abuser's mental problems frequently ends in harangues and worse. It is ...

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The narcissist regards therapy as a competitive sport. In therapy the narcissist usually immediately insists that he (or she) is equal to the psychotherapist in knowledge, in experience, or in social status. To substantiate this claim and "level the playing field", the narcissist in the ...

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In the process of mediation, marital therapy, or evaluation, counselors frequently propose various techniques to ameliorate the abuse or bring it under control. Woe betides the party that dares object or turn these "recommendations" down. Thus, an abuse victim who declines to have any further ...

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In 1978, a medical doctor by the name of J.E. Groves published in the prestigious New England journal of Medicine an article titled "Taking Care of the Hateful Patient". In it he admitted that patients with personality disorders often evoke in their physicians dislike or even outright hatred. n ...

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This article is meant to be a general guide to seeking and finding help. It does not contain addresses, contacts, and phone numbers. It is not specific to one state or country. Rather, it describes options and institutions which are common the world over. You should be the one to "fill in the ...

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Abuse by proxy continues long after the relationship is officially over (at least as far as you are conce ed). The majority of abusers get the message, however belatedly and reluctantly. Others – more vindictive and obsessed – continue to haunt their ex-spouses for years to come. ...

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Dealing with divorce is never easy. In fact it is probably amongst the most stressful and grueling experiences one can go through. When we get married we start off with a tremendous amount of hope and expectation. Intellectually we know it will take work but it is truly impossible to really know what kind of work it will take until we are already down the path of the marriage. I believe the reason it is difficult to get an idea of what the work of marriage will look like is because I believe it is individual to each marriage and the specific issues which exist between the partners.

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The abuser mistreats only his closest – spouse, children, or (much more rarely) colleagues, friends, and neighbours. To the rest of the world, he appears to be a composed, rational, and functioning person. Abusers are very adept at casting a veil of secrecy – often with the active ...

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Disclaimer The Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive) Personality Disorder appears in Appendix B of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), titled "Criteria Sets and Axes Provided for Further Study." Notes of first therapy session with Mike, male, 52, diagnosed with Negativistic ...

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How can one negotiate with an abuser without incurring his wrath? What is the meaning of contracts "signed" with bullies? How can one motivate the abuser to keep his end of the bargain – for instance, to actually seek therapy and attend the sessions? And how efficacious is psychotherapy or ...

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Can abusers be "reconditioned"? Can they be "educated" or "persuaded" not to abuse? As I wrote elsewhere, "Abuse is a multifaceted phenomenon. It is a poisonous cocktail of control-freakery, conforming to social and cultural norms, and latent sadism. The abuser seeks to subjugate his victims ...

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A Typology of Stalkers Stalkers are not made of one cloth. Some of them are psychopaths, others are schizoids, narcissists, paranoids, or an admixture of these mental health disorders. Stalkers harass their victims because they are lonely, or because it is fun (these are latent sadists), or ...

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People suffering from the Avoidant Personality Disorder feel inadequate, unworthy, inferior, and lacking in self-confidence. As a result, they are shy and socially inhibited. Aware of their real (and, often, imagined) shortcomings, they are constantly on the lookout, are hypervigilant and ...

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I. Introductio The dogmatic schools of psychotherapy (such as psychoanalysis, psychodynamic therapies, and behaviorism) more or less failed in ameliorating, let alone curing or healing personality disorders. Disillusioned, most therapists now adhere to one or more of three modern methods: ...

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There is nothing special about the body language or behavior patterns of the abuser. If your abuser is a narcissist, his pathology is evident on first sight (read "How to Recognize a Narcissist"). But not all abusers are narcissists. Regrettably, most victims find themselves trapped long before ...

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The Masochistic personality disorder made its last appearance in the DSM III-TR and was removed from the DSM IV and from its text revision, the DSM IV-TR. Some scholars, notably Theodore Millon, regard its removal as a mistake and lobby for its reinstatement in future editions of the DSM. The ...

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A voluminous literature notwithstanding, there is little convincing empirical research about the correlation between personality traits and addictive behaviors. Substance abuse and dependence (alcoholism, drug addiction) is only one form of recurrent and self-defeating pattern of misconduct. ...

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The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, fourth edition, text revision [American Psychiatric Association. DSM-IV-TR, Washington, 2000] - or the DSM-IV-TR for short - describes Axis II personality disorders as "deeply ingrained, maladaptive, lifelong behavior patterns". But the classificatory model ...

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Twenty or thirty years ago, classic cognitive behavioral therapy didn't have much to say about the eastern concept of mindfulness. Over time it kind of snuck in by the stress reduction back door. Now it's all over current approaches such as acceptance and commitment therapy or dialectical behavior therapy.

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The paranoid's world is hostile, arbitrary, malicious, and unpredictable. Consequently, he or she distrusts others and suspects them. No good deed goes unpunished. Every gesture of goodwill is surely fuelled by ulterior, self-interested and uncharitable motives. Paranoids are firmly convinced ...

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The Five Factor Model was suggested by two researchers, Costa and McCrae, in 1989. The designers of previous factor models sifted through bulky dictionaries and came up with thousands of words to describe human nature in all its variability. Not so the inventors of the Five Factor Model. It is ...

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Most victims attempt to present to their children a "balanced" picture of the relationship and of the abusive spouse. In a vain attempt to avoid the notorious (and controversial) Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS), they do not besmirch the abusive parent and, on the contrary, encourage the ...

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Notes of first therapy session with Ani Korban, male, 46, diagnosed with Antisocial Personality Disorder (AsPD), or Psychopathy and Sociopathyn Ani was referred to therapy by the court, as part of a rehabilitation program. He is serving time in prison, having been convicted of grand fraud. The ...

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Notes of first therapy session with Mona, female, 32, diagnosed with Dependent Personality Disorder (or Codependence) "I know I won't actually die, but it often feels like it." - says Mona and nervously pats her aubu hair - "I can't live without him, that's for sure. When he is gone, it's ...

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After what was hopefully at least a 2-year courtship, you now find yourself engaged. You’re excited and nervous as the big day approaches. You think you’ve got all the important questions asked and answered. Are the guests seated properly? Did we give the florist a deposit? Are all the relatives ...

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Children and adolescents with conduct disorder are budding psychopaths. They repeatedly and deliberately (and joyfully) violate the rights of others and breach age-appropriate social norms and rules. Some of them gleefully hurt and torture people or, more frequently, animals. Others damage ...

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Abusers regularly deny the abuse ever took place – or rationalize their abusive behaviors. Denial is an integral part of the abuser's ability to "look at himself/herself in the mirror". There are many types of denial. When confronted by his victims, most abusers tend to shift blame or avoid the ...

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The Sadistic Personality Disorder made its last appearance in the DSM III-TR and was removed from the DSM IV and from its text revision, the DSM IV-TR. Some scholars, notably Theodore Millon, regard its removal as a mistake and lobby for its reinstatement in future editions of the DSM. The ...

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The Negativistic (Passive-Aggressive) Personality Disorder is not yet recognized by the DSM Committee. It makes its appearances in Appendix B of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, titled "Criteria Sets and Axes Provided for Further Study." Some people are perennial pessimists and have ...

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Your abuser "agrees" (is forced) to attend therapy. But are the sessions worth the effort? What is the success rate of various treatment modalities in modifying the abuser's conduct, let alone in "healing" or "curing" him? Is psychotherapy the panacea it is often made out to be – or a nostrum, ...

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Ambient abuse is the stealth, subtle, underground currents of maltreatment that sometimes go unnoticed even by the victims themselves, until it is too late. Ambient abuse penetrates and permeates everything – but is difficult to pinpoint and identify. It is ambiguous, atmospheric, diffuse. Hence ...

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Important Comment Most abusers are men. Still, some are women. We use the masculine and feminine adjectives and pronouns ('he", his", "him", "she", her") to designate both sexes: male and female as the case may be. It takes two to tango – and an equal number to sustain a long-term abusive ...

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Are personality disorders the outcomes of inherited traits? Are they brought on by abusive and traumatizing upbringing? Or, maybe they are the sad results of the confluence of both? To identify the role of heredity, researchers have resorted to a few tactics: they studied the occurrence of ...

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Is sexual abuse worse than emotional abuse? Is verbal abuse less deleterious than physical abuse (beatings)? Somehow, the professional literature implies that there is a hierarchy with sexual mistreatment at its nadir. It is rare to hear about a dissociative identity disorder ("multiple ...

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Personality disorders are not only all-pervasive, but also diffuse and shape-shifting. It is taxing and emotionally harrowing to watch how a loved one is consumed by these pernicious and largely incurable conditions. Victims adopt varying stances and react in different ways to the inevitable ...

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Notes of first therapy session with Marsha, female, 56, diagnosed with Histrionic Personality Disorder Marsha visibly resents the fact that I have had to pay attention to another patient (an emergency) "at her expense" as she puts it. She pouts and bats suspiciously long eyelashes at me: "Has ...

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Your abusive ex is likely to cope with the pain and humiliation of separation by spreading lies, distortions, and half-truths about you and by proffering self-justifying interpretations of the events leading to the break-up. By targeting your closest, nearest, and dearest – your family, ...

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Notes of first therapy session with Gladys, female, 26, diagnosed with Avoidant Personality Disorder "I would like to be normal" - says Gladys and blushes purple. In which sense is she abnormal? She prefers reading books and watching movies with her elderly mother to going out with her ...

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Patients with personality disorders have a body language specific to their disorder. It comprises an unequivocal series of subtle presenting signs. The patient's body language usually reflects the underlying mental health problem. For instance: people with Avoidant Personality Disorder and ...

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Notes of first therapy session with T. Dal, female, 26, diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Dal is an attractive young woman but seems to be unable to maintain a stable sense of self-worth and self-esteem. Her confidence in her ability to "hold on to men" is at a low ebb, ...

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Phineas Gage was a 25 years old construction foreman who lived in Vermont in the 1860s. While working on a railroad bed, he packed powdered explosives into a hole in the ground, using tamping iron. The powder heated and blew in his face. The tamping iron rebounded and pierced the top of his ...

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Disclaimer The Masochistic personality disorder was included in the DSM III-TR but removed from the DSM IV and from its text revision, the DSM IV-TR. This move was criticized by some scholars, notably Theodore Millon. Notes of first therapy session with Sam, male, 46, diagnosed with ...

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With every emotional and/or physical painful experience in life, you have the opportunity to write and store knowledge about pain. You add new volumes every year. Moments of unhappiness, confusion, failure, depression, and the act of making the same mistakes over and over, all present the ...

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Introduction to Psychosisn Psychosis is chaotic thinking that is the result of a severely impaired reality test ( the patient cannot tell inner fantasy from outside reality). Some psychotic states are short-lived and transient (microepisodes). These last from a few hours to a few days and are ...

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It is telling that precious few psychology and psychopathology textbooks dedicate an entire chapter to abuse and violence. Even the most egregious manifestations – such as child sexual abuse – merit a fleeting mention, usually as a sub-chapter in a larger section dedicated to paraphilias or ...

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To embark on our exploration of the abusive mind, we first need to agree on a taxonomy of abusive behaviours. Methodically observing abuse is the surest way of getting to know the perpetrators. Abusers appear to be suffering from dissociation (multiple personality). At home, they are ...

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The Eating Disordered Patientn Eating disorders - notably Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia Nervosa - are complex phenomena. The patient with eating disorder maintains a distorted view of her body as too fat or as somehow defective (she may have a body dysmorphic disorder). Many patients with eating ...

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Millions of singles across the world are looking to create relationship bliss. It takes time. It requires energy. It mandates desire. A lot of people have all that. What they don’t have is a valid and reliable Roadmap to Relationship Success. Whether they’re accessing Yahoo Maps or their ...

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Do not leave unprepared. Study and execute every detail of your getaway. This is especially important if your partner is violent. Be sure to make a Safety Plan – how to get out of the house unnoticed and the indispensable minimum items that you should carry with you, even on a short ...

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Notes of first therapy session with Mark, male, 36, diagnosed with Schizoid Personality Disorder Mark sits where instructed, erect but listless. When I ask him how he feels about attending therapy, he shrugs and mumbles "OK, I guess". He rarely twitches or flexes his muscles or in any way ...

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Our sexual behavior expresses not only our psychosexual makeup but also the entirety of our personality. Sex is the one realm of conduct which involves the full gamut of emotions, cognitions, socialization, traits, heredity, and learned and acquired behaviors. By observing one's sexual ...

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If at all possible, put as much physical distance as you can between yourself and the stalker. Change address, phone number, email accounts, cell phone number, enlist the kids in a new school, find a new job, get a new credit card, open a new bank account. Do not inform your paranoid ex about ...

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For her traumatic wounds to heal, the victim of abuse requires closure - one final interaction with her tormentor in which he, hopefully, acknowledges his misbehaviour and even tenders an apology. Fat chance. Few abusers - especially if they are narcissistic - are amenable to such weakling ...

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Ever since Freud, more women than men sought therapy. Consequently, terms like "hysteria' are intimately connected to female physiology and alleged female psychology. The DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the bible of the psychiatric profession) expressly professes gender bias: personality ...

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It is common knowledge that brain disorders, injuries, and traumas are sometimes misdiagnosed as mental health problems. But what about "run of the mill" organic medical conditions? Syphilis provides a fascinating glimpse into the convoluted world of differential diagnoses: the art of telling ...

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What is Empathy? Normal people use a variety of abstract concepts and psychological constructs to relate to other persons. Emotions are such modes of inter-relatedness. Narcissists and psychopaths are different. Their "equipment" is lacking. They understand only one language: self-interest. ...

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Shelters are run, funded, and managed either by governments or by volunteer non-gove ment organisations. According to a 1999 report published by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, there are well over 2000 groups involved in sheltering abused women and their off-spring. Before ...

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It is clear that each abuser requires individual psychotherapy, tailored to his specific needs – on top of the usual group therapy and marital (or couple) therapy. At the very least, every offender should be required to undergo the following tests to provide a complete picture of his personality ...

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There is nothing special about the body language or behavior patterns of the abuser. If your abuser is a narcissist, his pathology is evident on first sight (read "How to Recognize a Narcissist"). But not all abusers are narcissists. Regrettably, most victims find themselves trapped long before ...

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Roots of the Disorder Are the psychopath, sociopath, and someone with the Antisocial Personality Disorder one and the same? The DSM says "yes". Scholars such as Robert Hare and Theodore Millon beg to differ. The psychopath has antisocial traits for sure but they are coupled with and enhanced by ...

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Notes of therapy session with Magda, female, 58, diagnosed with Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) Magda is distressed when I reschedule our appointment. "But we always meet on Wednesdays!" - she pleads, ignoring my detailed explanations and my apologies. She is evidently anxious ...

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The abuser often recruits his children to do his bidding. He uses them to tempt, convince, communicate, threaten, and otherwise manipulate his target, the children's other parent or a devoted relative (e.g., grandparents). He controls his - often gullible and unsuspecting - offspring exactly as ...

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Before we proceed to outline the psychological profile of the stalker, it is important to try and gauge the extent of the problem by quantifying its different manifestations. More plainly, studying the available statistics is both enlightening and useful. Contrary to common opinion, there has ...

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The Five Factor Model deals with the healthy, normal personality. Not so other factor models. In 1990, Clark and a group of researchers constructed an instrument with 21 dimensions, based on the criteria of personality disorders in the DSM-III, on various scholarly texts in the field, and even ...

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Notes of first therapy session with Sam V., male, 43, diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Sam presents with anhedonia (failure to enjoy or find pleasure in anything) and dysphoria bordering on depression. He complains of inability to tolerate people's stupidity and ...

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The Depressive Personality Disorder is not yet recognized by the DSM Committee. It makes its appearances in Appendix B of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, titled "Criteria Sets and Axes Provided for Further Study." It is not clear in what way is the Depressive Personality Disorder ...

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Narcissists are not prone to "irresistible impulses" and dissociation (blanking out certain stressful events and actions). They more or less fully control their behavior and acts at all times. But exerting control over one's conduct requires the investment of resources, both mental and physical. ...

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The International Classification of Diseases (ICD) is published by the World Health Organization in Geneva, Switzerland. It included mental health disorders for the first time in 1948, in its sixth edition. In 1959, following widespread criticism of its classificatory scheme, the WHO ...

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The DSM-IV dropped two diagnoses that made an appearance in the DSM-III: the masochistic and the sadistic personality disorders. But these are not the only differences between the two editions as far as Axis II (personality disorders) goes. The DSM-IV considerably expanded and updated the ...

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Selecting the right professional is crucial. In the hands of an incompetent service provider, you may end up feeling abused all over again. Go through the following check list before you settle on a divorce atto ey, a financial consultant, a tax planner, a security adviser, or an accountant. ...

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Is abuse anomalous – or an inevitable part of human nature? If the former – is it the outcome of flawed genetics, nurture (environment and upbringing) – or both? Can it be "cured" – or merely modified, regulated, and accommodated? There are three groups of theories – three schools – regarding ...

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Having chosen your team of consultants and experts – and having hired their services – relegate any inevitable contact with your abusive ex – when and where possible – to professionals: your lawyer, or your accountant. Work with these qualified third parties to extricate yourself and your loved ...

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If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbours, the media, teachers – in short, third parties – to do his bidding. He uses them to cajole, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat, tempt, convince, harass, communicate ...

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Why is it that so many of us put ourselves second? Why is it that we often sacrifice what is good for us to make someone else happy, and why is it such a difficult transition to start putting ourselves first? I see this issue not only every day in my office but also at times in my own life. Of course, there are those people who no matter what, without any regard for the other, place themselves first; but that is someone who is arrogant. We are not discussing arrogance here. We are simple discussing how to make a healthy transition into learning to put ourselves first.

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The manic phase of the Bipolar I Disorder is often misdiagnosed as a Personality Disorder. In the manic phase of Bipolar Disorder, patients exhibit many of the signs and symptoms of certain personality disorders, such as the Narcissistic, Borderline, Histrionic, or even Schizotypal Personality ...

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The first encounter between psychiatrist or therapist and patient (or client) is multi-phased. The mental health practitioner notes the patient's history and administers or prescribes a physical examination to rule out certain medical conditions. Armed with the results, the diagnostician now ...

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What is Anxiety Anxiety is uncontrollable and excessive apprehension, a kind of unpleasant (dysphoric), mild fear, with no apparent exte al reason. Anxiety is dread in anticipation of a future menace or an imminent but diffuse and unspecified danger, usually imagined or exaggerated. The mental ...

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The Viennese neurologist, Sigmund Freud, was among the first to offer a model of psychological development in early childhood (within the framework of psychoanalysis). He closely linked the sex drive (libido) to the formation of personality and described five psychosexual stages, four of which ...

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Notes of first therapy session with Edward J., male, 51, diagnosed with Depressive Personality Disorder Edward has a lumbering, numbed presence. He walks as if in a dream, his gait robotic, his eyes downcast. Within minutes, it is abundantly clear to me that he is gloomy, dejected, pessimistic, ...

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Personality disorders cannot be safely diagnosed prior to early adolescence. Still, though frequently found between the ages of 3 and 6, Asperger's Disorder is often misdiagnosed as a cluster B personality disorder, most often as the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). The Asperger's ...

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Even a complete battery of tests, administered by experienced professionals sometimes fails to identify abusers and their personality disorders. Offenders are uncanny in their ability to deceive their evaluators. They often succeed in transforming therapists and diagnosticians into four types of ...

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Obsessions and compulsions are about control of self (mental) and others (interpersonal). People with the Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) are conce ed (worried and anxious) about maintaining control and about being seen to be maintaining it. In other words, they are also ...

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"It is an ill thing to knock against a deaf-mute, an imbecile, or a minor. He that wounds them is culpable, but if they wound him they are not culpable." (Mishna, Babylonian Talmud) Some personality disorders are culture-bound. Critics charge that these "mental illnesses" mostly serve as an ...

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The disrespectful remarks of other people - slights, criticism, or humiliations - can hurt us very much. Sometimes it hurts so much that we want to take revenge to restore our wounded self-esteem. Why is it possible that criticism and humiliation are able to harm us? The answer can be found in our biological heritage.

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The Inner Critic is the nagging voice inside your head who constantly criticizes you. In reality, you do this yourself, but in therapy or if you want to change, it is advisable to treat that criticism as separated from yourself. There is a direct and an indirect way how the Inner Critic can harm your self-esteem. While the direct way is not that difficult to spot, the indirect way is more insidious and pollutes your self-esteem behind your back.

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Overcoming low self-esteem is probably one of the most misunderstood problem of the professional community, meaning psychotherapists, counselors, or coaches. The full dimension of low self-esteem does not seem to be generally understood. Often clients reported that they saw several therapists and still felt that they received only little help. Some therapists may even become irritated or hostile, pigeon-holing the client as “resistant.” This, of course, leads to a vicious circle of seeking understanding and not getting it.

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Mindfulness seems to be a rather gentle tool at first appearance. It is know as a tool to reduce stress, popularized in the West by John Kabat-Zinn. Or mindfulness is used to expand your consciousness, have a more deeper experience of the present moment and be in the “now”. But mindfulness can also serve as the only tool that is left when you are amidst a severe low self-esteem crisis.

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Compassion towards ourselves and towards other is a powerful tool to overcome low self-esteem. You can apply compassion as a short term tool in your day-to-day life, and as a long term practice on a regular, preferably daily basis. While the former is an informal way to use it 'to go', the latter is a formal practice. Compassion as a short term tool

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1. Your self-esteem can be harmed by your thoughts and beliefs. But changing only your thoughts is not sufficient if you intend to overcome overcome low self-esteem. Unless you don't work you don't work with unconscious motives and intentions and re-integrated suppressed qualities, you will miss your aim. It's not just that you stop at the halfway mark, but unconscious motives can undermine the work with your thoughts, making the efforts to overcome your low self-esteem null and void.

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So far there seems to be two schools regarding willpower. The first one claims that willpower is always at hand ready to be used. The second school holds the view that willpower is a limited resource and weakens over time. While the latter seems to be our day-to-day experience, the former is especially advocated by self-help gurus and in certain “success”-books. Willpower is a muscle

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Do you share the common belief that you have to analyze events in your childhood in order to get better? I would like to challenge this belief. Quite often it is not necessary or even counter-productive to 'rummage through the past'. But why is it such a popular idea? Our general approach to repair things...

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THE STYLES OF AFFECTIVE ATTACHMENT "As your mother loved you and enjoyed you, so you will love and will enjoy life" (Mario Marrone) Most of us have some knowledge of psychological concepts. We use these in everyday life to help us in social interactions, and also to understand ourselves. Most of us are familiar with the terms: introversion, narcissism, self-esteem, trauma, paranoia ... However, this list excludes the concept affective attachment ... Below is a definition for affective attachment, as well as definitions for the various types of attachment …..

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This paper presents research showing the biological basis for the theory of recovered memory. I define recovered memory as the phenomenon of partially or fully losing part or a specific aspect of a memory, and then later recovering part or all of the memory into conscious awareness. This paper includes data from the works of van der Kolk and Fisler, Knopp and Benson and Bremner.

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SEXUAL OBSESSIONS IN CONVENTS Before knowing the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, this already existed in monasteries and convents. He was known by the name of "scruples of conscience. " A VERY STRICT MORAL Sexual morality of the Roman Catholic Church has been very strict. Any “venereal” pleasure (sexual) consented, constituted a grave sin and was punished with ete al hell. This sin not accepted "paucity of matter", ie, against this provision had not sin mild, all were serious or fatal.r

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ANTI SPAM PSYCHOLOGY SPAM Spam is junk mail we receive on our computers. It is usually mail we have no interest in receiving. By opening it, we waste time we could be spending on something else. Also, the same spam is often sent to us repeatedly. We become annoyed and feel that our privacy is being violated. Even worse, spam often carries a malicious virus intended to infect our computers. ANTI-SPAM Generally, mail which is possible spam is filtered by our e-mail so, if we’re not interested, we don’t have to waste time reading itrnor being irritated by it.r

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PASSIVE PEOPLE Some people think and analyze a lot and act little. Others, however, without so much thought, are more prone to action. The firsts tend to be passive, the seconds, active. The activity-passivity as a way of being, is very related with our hormonal map. THE PASSIVITY

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FROM DREAMS TO MAGIC The dreams have been a great importance in the discovery and development of founding myths of the pre-monotheistic religions. FROM THE SIMPLE TO THE COMPLEX In some biblical texts 2,500 years old and in modern psychology we can find materials that will lead us to verify the fundamental role had dreams in the birth of the various myths and legends. At a time when the man lived in nature, the first religious beliefs are myths of nature itself. The first gods were supe atural forces of forests, rivers, lakes, the Sun, Earth ...r

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SAFETY DISTANCE When a stranger comes to us or the syndrome of the elevator THE ELEVATOR One day we go into an elevator with other people who we do not know. The limited space forces us to tolerate the physical contact and we are uncomfortable. A person turns to avoid a face to face, another does not want to expose the strange his lower body, a third apparently felt a sudden curiosity to the roof of the little drawer and that was in the middle in a “I stay, I’m leaving”. Nobody looks directly anyone ... All have the unpleasant sensation of feeling violated our security space.r

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THE TIMID ON THE S. XXI The Latin root of the word timid means "be afraid". The people have used this word torn designate the timid because they are presented in society as people fearful. The timid do not sell well to himself, but at short distance they earn much and may be dazzled by his rich inner life, his creativity and his sensitivity. FORMS OF SHYNESS What is the underlying ideation on the timid? What are the engines of socially fearful behaviour? 1-THE SHY WHO HAVE A LOW SELF ASSESSMENTr

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POWER TRAITS There is power in the money and the political class. In this article we travel to that part hidden and unspeakable of power that is part of power and that largely determines its performance. 1 –A MALE ROLE There are people who by birth are destined to be in the power, others will have their opportunity to access to it in a society like the modern where the status is not predetermined and can ascend and descend on the social scale ... It is not difficult to see that the "role" of power is masculine. Yesterday a generation ofr

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SHYNESS AND LURES Lure is a word often used in hunting and fishing; it refers tornanything that attracts "with some fallacy" . It happens that the timid move in a world of lures or signals that trigger his social anxiety. The social fear is neither continuous, nor appears in all circumstances. But ... when it appears? What are the lures? Here we will see the seven most common lures. HOW WELL I FEEL AMONG MY PEOPLE! Being of modern man in society leads to feelings of confidence and happiness. --- "I feel good. My people around me and protect me. Nothing bad will happen to me. "r

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As human beings we have an innate need “to do”. We build, we repare, we create. We use tools, and if we don’t have the appropriate tool at hand, we create one. We use and manipulate all forms of media, including space. We occupy our environment and we change it as our needs require.

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“It’s all about what they don’t say than what they do.” Business is a tough game, piled high with challenges, obstacles, problems and, of course, reward, that usually comes when you’re ready to give up. Owner-managers and founding directors face major dilemmas throughout both the start-up and growth phases of their businesses, such as how to write an effective business plan that allows finance to be raised; how to make a strategy that drives business growth; how to manage business’s finances effectively, so that over years to construct a business that grows, not that survives.

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SUPEREGO AND DIVERSITY Sigmund Freud discovered the superego as a psychological structure juxtaposed to the ego, but at the same time faced this. The father of psychoanalysis died in 1939. It's been 70 years. At this point there are who ask: "About the superego ... what is fantasy and what is reality ...?" The superego certainly exists and we can reach it using our capacity of introversion. 1-THE SELF With few exceptions, all have clear awareness of what is the ego, ie, just what we call in our everyday language when we say: "I think, I am ..." 2-THE SUPEREGOr

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Visual Carriers Your thoughts are more powerful than you think. In order for your thoughts to manifest in the real world they need from you a visual cue or reminder. In other words I know you have hope and dreams or goals all you have to do is attach your thoughts or goals to something that you can touch or see in real life. Let me explain further. You have a thought or dream correct? You have visually visualize an image or picture in your head or what you’re going to achieve in life; this could be a house, car, success etc.

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As you hold your glass of water in hand and peek inside it crystal clear water where dreams are held. Inside that cup of water is the one thing you want most in life. Walk around with your glass of water hold it tightly in hand so you can test yourself, prove to yourself that nothing inside will spill for dreams are found in glasses of water. Our Hands

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You have choice today to succeed or fail. Success is solely a personal decision and that no one can take that away from you. Do everything in your power to convince yourself what you want in life is worth sacrificing your mind to. You have the freedom in today’s world to live a miserable life or a happy life; no one can take that way from you. Today you decide if you start your project to success or leave it for tomorrow. But you, you are the one that will have to pay the consequences and face the results because you have the freedom to choose.

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When I was a child, daisies and dandelions were my favorite flowers. We lived on a dead end street that ran between the sprinkled lawns of our duplex, and the mod Edsel dealership that lined its shiny, fancy, cars in a row. The pavement was dressed with seismic cracks and yellow dandelions peeking up toward the sky. I remember I would walk to the edge of the pavement, bent from the waist, arms stretched out behind me. Then leaned forward, made a big O with my mouth, drew a gust of air through my lungs and blew out a 'puff' ball.

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I grew up in the small city of Roseburg. Officially, I moved to Roseburg to its rolling green hills, from Salt Lake City, where I used to float in the Great Salt Lake when I was 10. In my 4th grade, I, and other students, participated in Roseburg’s Centennial where we dressed up like Sacajawea, Lewis and Clark, Patrick Henry, and famous pioneers who had made their names in Oregon History. I wore my curly red hair in ringlets unde eath a bonnet made of pink- flowered material, cardboard, and ribbons, and slipped into sliky pantaloons that my mom had made for me. The style of the day.

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Love a schizoidr How to sustain a relationship with a schizoidr THE SCHIZOIDS are people who do not make affective links, they are emotionally cold, avoiding social relations and have significant difficulties in their working lives and their relationships. Here is a sequence that is sometimes occurring: : 1- Falling in love If you're a woman you can find a man, who is respectful, cultured, shy ... You can fall in love with him because of some reason ... or simply for the sake of it.

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Truth be told, I am mildly obsessed with Serena Williams. Her talent and intelligence on and off the court, the longevity of her career, her comebacks, the authenticity of her ambition, her grit and determination, and her overall appeal are hard to ignore.

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Imagine yourself sitting in a movie theater chair with a tall bucket of butter popco and big cup of ice-cold Coca Cola, maybe stealing a nacho or two with your sister or friend next to you, chatting away about your day’s events – who sent you an email or a text or whatever makes you happy. You might be at Carmike Hickory 8 Theater in Murfreesboro, Tennessee, watching “Mad Max: Fury Road,” or in the Lafayette Louisiana Theater laughing at a comedy “Train wreck.” Maybe at the Aurora Theater in Aurora, Colorado, taking in “The Dark Knight Rises.” You are being targeted by a killer.

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When we are in love, the world is golden and nothing gets us down. When we are out of love, we are desperate to regain those feelings we had while in love. The desperation can be so intense, we find ourselves thinking and doing things we would be ashamed to tell our best friend. The excitement of falling in love, being in love, is not just a thrilling psychological and emotional experience. It is as well a bio-chemical experience, what might be called a "high," and there are resemblances to a chemical addiction, and withdrawal, which become evident when we break-up.

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…in division and duality; in-division-duality: individuality. Although individuality has many redeeming qualities, and is, in fact, one of our major developmental tasks throughout the lifespan, it is as well loaded with problems. Individuality is the source of feeling alone, isolated and estranged. It is the source of conflict, both internal and exte al. Individuation can be a painful process as one separates from close attachments including family, friends, jobs, cherished beliefs and socio-cultural self-perceptions.

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It is estimated that about 1 in 8 children experience some form of an anxiety disorder. Anxiety can be mild, and very temporary, as in simply being nervous about an upcoming event, to more severe and long lasting forms such as panic attacks, obsessiveness and traumatic stress responses. Symptoms of anxiety can range from low-level physiological responses such as headaches, upset stomach or irritability to intense nausea, sweating and an overwhelming incapacity to function.

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It may be of some surprise that the word 'wound' is used to represent a cut, hurt, abrasion or more serious injury AND that same word can mean tied up tightly, coiled up, or bound as in "I was all wound up with stress." We tend not to think of being wound up and stressed as an injury, or wound. However, on a psychological level, that is exactly what it is. In today's jargon, the word 'trauma' is used, and aptly so. Trauma is Greek in origin and translates into English as 'wound' - as in hurt or injury. When we speak of trauma, we are talking about being all wound up with woundedness.

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We tend to think of love as an all encompassing, overwhelming, positive feeling. We say, “I love you” and think that solves all our conflicts and arguments with our partner. During the initial stages of love, often referred to as an infatuation phase, boundaries are melted and dissolve away. We enter into the realms of the other person’s reality. We merge together. Our life becomes theirs, theirs ours. We lose ourselves. We become one. It’s a wonderful, marvelous feeling. For a while. At some point, we want ourselves back. We begin to erect some boundaries.

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FINDING THE LIGHT: OVERCOMING DEPRESSION By Laura Schultz, MFT “We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope”---Martin Luther King

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Just before the start of a “Stress, Change and Creative Teaming” workshop, I was testing out my microphone. The program was for managers of a global engineering company. Most of the 50 + particpants were ex-military, now contractors working with commands and brigades based at Ft. Hood, TX or presently stationed overseas. As I called out, “Can people in the back hear me?” a former Sergeant Major who knew me from my work at Ft.

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Childhood nightmares, or very bad dreams, are not uncommon and often need nothing other than a parent’s consoling embrace to remedy the immediate situation. Nightmares may occur for several reasons. Because children are very impressionable, watching a scary movie at night before bedtime can easily trigger a nightmare. If there is a high stress or frightening situation going on in the home, or at school, and the child has not been able to disclose this information to his or her parents, or a teacher or trusted adult, the nightmare may serve as a release valve.

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With a dagger in your hand, or a loaded gun nearby….anger is particularly dangerous. It’s one thing to slam doors, throw plates or simply yell, scream or have a temper tantrum. It’s an altogether different level of conce when weapons are involved. Anger itself is not a dangerous emotion; it’s the decisions that arise from an angry mind that become dangerous. Any person who is angry has choices about how to deal with that emotion. Unfortunately, almost by definition, anger is not rational, and the decisions made while angry are not thought out….

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An open mind is good thing - most of the time. New ideas, new experience, increased knowledge, personal and professional growth, better relationships and an overall positive approach to life are just a few of the benefits of having an open mind. However, there are some pitfalls. Like an open window or an open door in which bugs can enter the home, an open mind is susceptible to litter, junk, lies and deceptions, false information and misdirection. The open mind, like an open window, needs a screen to keep the bugs out.

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Social Anxiety Disorder (Diagnostic Code 300.23 in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition – DSM IV) is marked by a persistent fear of social or performance situations in which embarrassment may occur along with an immediate anxiety response often reaching the level of panic.

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I'm sure you have heard couple's of all ages say to each other "I love you." You would probably like hearing it said to you, if it's not already. Sometimes when one person says "I love you" to another person, the response is "me too." I find that an absurd response. What does it mean? That I love me too? A more appropriate response would be "I love you too" and even that isn't terribly poignant. It's kind of like someone asking "how are you" and you say "fine." It's automatic and somewhat meaningless.

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My participation as the “Stress Doc” ™ at the USPTO Health Fair reminded me of two basic facts: 1) people like to laugh, especially when they can share a gentle and knowing laugh at their own flaws and foibles and 2) especially in a high demand-production work environment and a “TNT – Time-Numbers-Technology – Driven- and Distracted World, many folks are hungry for concepts, tools, and strategies that will impact and improve the quality of daily life.

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As a mental health counselor, I've often worked with depressed individuals. Regardless of whether the individual is a child, adolescent or adult, I often play a little word game with them to help me get a better understanding of their depression. The word game goes something like this... "I'm going to ask you a few very simple questions and then I'm going to ask you a difficult question. OK?" The person often responds in the affirmative.

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There is little debate that most anxiety is a symptom of internal cognitive/psychological machinations. That is, we are thinking in a way that is generating the anxiety. We think in both mental pictures and internal dialogue and depending on what we are telling ourselves, and what we are seeing, we may generate irrational anxiety. We often do not hear what we tell ourselves, or see those internal mental images, consciously; but they nevertheless exist as a subconscious process and have tremendous power over our moods and emotions.

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The truth is, self esteem is a mental fabrication. It has no objective existence of its own like might a part of the body or something in the natural environment. We can all agree on a person’s height, weight or even how fast he or she can walk a mile. But, there is no way to measure self esteem that is objective or standardized. That’s actually a good thing because it means any person can make self esteem to be what they choose. But, therein lies the problem as well. We might think a person who is successful in business, productive and wealthy, has “high” self esteem.

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Parents often bring their child (or children) to a counselor or therapist to help "fix" behavioral problems exhibited by the child. These behaviors could be some form of conduct or adjustment disorder, general disobedience, substance abuse, depression, anxiety, relationship issues or any number of psychosomatic complaints. Although this is likely a good step to take, parents need to realize that a child's misbehavior is more often than not a symptom of a family dysfunction.

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You’re going to the dentist – and you feel anxious. You’re about to go take a test, and you feel anxious. You’ve been asked to have a meeting with your supervisor, and you feel anxious. You might just be anxious anticipating another day! Anticipatory anxiety is a common discomfort for millions of people. Some people can even get anxious anticipating the arrival of the anticipatory anxiety!

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Here is a relatively simple method you can do which may be effective in helping you overcome anxiety, panic or a phobia. Let’s take as an example a fear of…..swimming. Let’s say as a child you had some negative experiences while learning to swim. Perhaps you were thrown into the deep end before you really knew fully how to swim; or, perhaps you went running into the pool without your inner tube around your waist and soon found yourself, even in the shallow end, mildly terrorized as you realized you didn’t have your inner tube.

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There is a saying that depression is anger turned in on itself. That means the anger that you may be holding within your mind has nowhere to go and rather than being expressed outwardly, it is festering inside. Like undigested food that turns putrid, the anger becomes depression. You feel lethargic and dull, uninterested in anything. You may find yourself without energy and not wanting to get out of bed. You may find yourself crying, moody and irritable. Your sex drive may diminish to nothing. You may even feel suicidal.

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Many people strive for some form of perfection. Whether in their work, in their appearance, in their relationships, in their expectations of others…There are a number of problems with perfectionism not the least of which it is simply not possible. Perfection is an ideal, which, almost by definition, is unattainable. Like trying to stand in the middle of a rainbow; as it’s approached, it recedes. The other problem is that the criteria used to gauge perfection are suspect. How did we arrive at these criteria? Is it valid criteria?

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If information and knowledge is the currency of today's marketplace, then asking questions is the means of accessing that currency. Knowing how to ask what questions when is important in leadership positions, sales, management, teaching and parenting as well as learning in any field of study. We ask so many questions daily that we take it for granted. But, there is art to asking questions. There are two types of questions: open and closed. Closed questions are those that can be answered with one of three words: yes, no or, sometimes, maybe.

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Online counseling is a relatively new therapeutic service. There are many advantages over the traditional in-person face-to-face therapeutic sessions offered in just about every community. And, of course, there are some cons. As the technology has developed, online counseling has also grown expanding from simple email based therapeutic communication to also include chat, pc-to-pc telephone sessions and even web-cam based live video sessions.

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Over lunch, a colleague posed a provocative challenge: “Write an article on chutzpah.” He believes the timing is right. In this difficult economy and uncertain times it’s certainly tempting to withdraw into a shell. But a better strategy might be a contrary one, throwing off the shell and putting yourself out there.

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No man is an island, no woman either for that matter. We are all influenced by our surroundings. Our consciousness is really not our own, but belongs to the environment in which we exist. The appearance of an individual self is an illusion in much the same way empty space appears to be solid matter. And yet, we do experience ourselves as individual entities. But, that does not mean we should ignore the various spheres of influence that make us who we are.

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Procrastination has a bad rap. It is a very creative and often useful behavior. Generally defined as putting things off until the last minute, procrastination is also putting things off until the best time. For some, it’s that last minute rush which energizes and motivates. For others, it’s that last minute when important information is made available allowing then for more accurate decisions and actions. Some people may be perceived as procrastinating but they are actually prioritizing, working on more important tasks first.

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Trusted guidance on meeting Ms. or Mr. Right If you think dating is a simple process--meet someone, ask him or her for a date or get asked out yourself, try not to come off as a drooling moron, then arrange to get together for a second date or cut your losses and work to meet someone else--well, lucky you. For many people, it's far more complicated than that, and Dr. Joy Browne addresses those complexities in Dating for Dummies.

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Here is a simple meditation that will put a smile on your face….You can do it laying down in bed, sitting up in a chair or in the more traditional cross legged or lotus posture. The meditation of appreciation is basically giving thanks to the many parts of your body that are working. You can often tell when a part of the body is working well when you are NOT noticing it. It is only when things don’t work that we become focused upon them. If you’re NOT aware of your back, then it’s probably working fine. If you’re NOT aware of your toes, then they are likely working fine.

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Two three-letter words: "but" and "and." In grammatical terms, they are called conjunctions. They bridge two clauses of a single sentence together. In communication (and negotiation), these words are subtle manipulators of exclusion or inclusion. Generally speaking, "but" excludes, denies, discounts or in some way rejects the previous clause.

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Let’s face it ... not many people like conflicts; they’re unpleasant. But it’s also unlikely that when you’re in a relationship with someone for a long time, that the two of you aren’t going to run into some snags along the way. After all, even if you’re from the same ethnic and religious background and have even come from the same neighborhood, you’ve been raised by two different families. The result is that you’re going to be different.

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If you have recently received a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome for one of your children, you may be asking yourself how this could be? You are certainly experiencing a lot of emotions right now, but your brain has also kicked into high gear as you search for an explanation. You want to know why? Where did it come from? Isn’t Asperger Syndrome an Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD)? Is it genetic? Is it due to a poor diet or childhood immunizations?

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Have you lost your direction in life? Doubts about the meaning of what you are doing? You have an inner "CEO" All successful companies formulate their Vision and their Mission, sometimes termed as Business Plan, Our Vision, Our Core Idea or similar expressions. The successful CEO makes sure that each and every employee knows this by heart, that each one sympathizes with it, talks about it, so that the Vision and Mission Statements are communicated, in each contact the company has with the world and with its customers.

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A playful challenge from an audience member helps bring to life the importance of searching for and developing your passion, whether in the face of skepticism, long periods of self-doubt and/or having to accept (even better, learn to play with and laugh at) your own flaws and foibles. Setting the stage for the dramatic close of my Practice Safe Stress program with the Virginia Commonwealth University (VCU) School of Dentistry faculty and staff, I declared, "Find something you love to do, that you are truly passionate about.

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The Stress Doc presents a four step, “Four 'R'” communicational guide for building successful “give and take” professional relationships. The Four “R”s are dramatically illustrated in his recent encounter with an ENT surgeon. Many of us “Boomers” grew up with an alliterative academic mantra as educational foundation, that is, the Four “R”s – Reading, Writing, Rithmetic and Religion. Let’s just say I focused more on the first two “R”s and sort of made a nominal wave at the latter.

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If your relationship is on life support, it’s time for serious remediation. Here are two “must-do” assignments for you. 1. Stop the Zero Sum Game. Start a Team Effort A zero sum game is a game where there’s a winner and a loser. It’s a great model for competitive sports but a miserable model for personal relationships. So, if you’ve been playing a zero sum game or a game of tug-of-war with your spouse, quit. Right now. Quit. Simply drop the rope.

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We like to go to war on things we think are wrong or bad; the war on drugs, the war on poverty, the war against crime. We need to have a war on worry because worry is wrong and bad; it underlies, and may be in part the cause of, crime, drugs and, perhaps, even poverty. What is worry?

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Anxiety isn’t all bad; it has an upside. Anxiety can be viewed to have a functional use. It is not arising out of nothing for no purpose. Anxiety is a kind of low grade fear; an apprehension. It is a form of caution. It is an awareness of possible threat, of potential danger. This wariness of our environment goes way back and may, in fact, be at least in part, responsible for our survival. The issue with anxiety is not so much about having it as it is about having it in a particular context, a specific setting, a time and a place.

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Yoga is generally considered to be a set of physical postures; often a class to which millions of people throughout the world go to stretch this way and that. Yoga, however, is a much grander philosophy which encompasses not just physical health but mental well-being and spiritual regeneration. Yoga is often ridiculed and made fun of in today’s modern materialistic societies; it has also been revered in many of yesterday’s ancient spiritual societies.

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Confronting Your Intimate FOE: Transforming Fear of Exposure into the Fun of Embarrassment As a speaker and workshop leader, I’m always designing and experimenting with small group exercises that, hopefully, generate positive energy, emotional give and take and some knowing, if not hearty, ...

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"How can the person displaced or downsized see both the danger and opportunity in career change or disruption? Can we learn, even, to both cry and laugh at this career crisis turning point?" To be able to see the comic in the crisis requires two achievements. First we must embrace Charlie ...

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The earth spins on its axis at a precise angle. If that angle is off just a fraction, it would render the earth either too hot or cold to be inhabitable. The number of connections in our mind, between each nerve cell, has been compared to the number of stars in the universe. It is a complex, ...

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Self help is a viable option in many cases of metnal health difficulties and disorders. In fact, whether someone gets professional help or not, self help should and must be a part of the healing process if there are going to be long-term gains in mental healing. If we go to a doctor and lay ...

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It is not common knowledge that divorce is actually a social phenomenon in existence since the time of ancient Mesopotamia. This suggests that the roots of our collective disillusionment with the institution of marriage have some deep, and perhaps meaningful, roots. To understand the meaning of ...

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Human rights activist backs computer hacke When human rights activist Terry Waite spoke in support of Gary McKinnon, the noted Pentagon hacker, it made quite a stir in March 2009. Waite is a former Beirut hostage, imprisoned for four years in Lebanon in the 1980s. Waite told the press that ...

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As challenges appear in our lives, we do not always have the time or money to seek professional help, or maybe we're not ready to share ourselves with another person, i.e. a therapist. There are many self help books, and I have read a few, that made a profound difference in my life. I ...

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Two types of seasonal affective disorder have been identified: winter SAD and summer SAD - winter SAD being far more common. Characteristic is a reduction in mood and/or energy during periods of reduced hours of sunshine and daylight (even during the summer). Common symptoms include ... Two types of seasonal affective disorder have been identified: winter SAD and summer SAD - winter SAD being far more common. Characteristic is a reduction in mood and/or energy during periods of reduced hours of sunshine and daylight (even during the summer).

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"Learning that one's child has bipolar disorder can be traumatic. Diagnosis usually follows months or years of the child's mood instability, school difficulties, and damaged relationships with family and friends. However, diagnosis can and should be a turning point for everyone conce ed. Once ..."Learning that one's child has bipolar disorder can be traumatic. Diagnosis usually follows months or years of the child's mood instability, school difficulties, and damaged relationships with family and friends.

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Can Men and Women Be Friends? By Dr. Linda Sapadin - Psychologist www.PsychWisdom.com It’s been 20 years since the witty romantic comedy - When Harry Met Sally - explored the still debatable question- “Can Women and Men be Friends?” There are those who say ‘No’. Heterosexual men and women can‘t be true friends. Blame the hormones! Attribute it to jealousy from a spouse! Point the finger at the predatory nature of men (and aggressive women) who “want only one thing”! Or simply remember that men and women come from different planets and interplanetary friendships have never worked!

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It was September 22, 1991 and I arrived promptly at Dr. Gle 's office for my Radix Bodywork session. I had no idea that the life I thought I had been living was about to crumble like so many pieces of stale bread. In the course of my four year tenure with Drs. Linda and Austen Glenn, ...

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Divorce is often brutal both to the divorcing spouses and to their children. This discussion will appreciate the enormous stress and distress that divorce subjects upon families, including both the adults and children. A syndrome of divorce-related hostilities that affect children has been ... Divorce is often brutal both to the divorcing spouses and to their children. This discussion will appreciate the enormous stress and distress that divorce subjects upon families, including both the adults and children.r

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Obsessions are persistent but unwanted ideas, thoughts, impulses, or images that cause marked anxiety or distress. The most common obsessions are about contamination or repeated doubts (e.g., whether one has performed some act such as having hurt someone in a traffic accident or having left ... Obsessions are persistent but unwanted ideas, thoughts, impulses, or images that cause marked anxiety or distress.

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“Help! My sweet, nice, lovely 3-year-old has begun lying to me. What should I do?” First thing you should do is feel pleased, maybe even proud that your child is learning how to lie. “Whaaat? You’ve got to be kidding” No, I’m serious. Lying is a milestone in cognitive development. It ...

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The term co-dependence is pretty familiar to many people today. It is a term that arose out of the treatment of alcoholics and refers to how one person, generally a spouse, would benefit in some way by having their alcoholic partner remain an alcoholic. And the alcoholic partner would, of course, benefit by having the spouse benefit from their alcoholism.

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A Secret You Don’t Want to Know By Linda Sapadin, Ph.D. Psst, want to hear a secret? A secret that will bring you wealth, health and a svelte body with little if any effort? Looks like a lot of people want to hear just such a secret. So many that the very attractive looking book “The Secret” ...

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Leading with “Passion Power” ™: A Four “P” Interactive Model for Expanding Personal Energy, Professional Creativity and Organizational Synergy – Part I Awhile back, preparing for a talk on “Becoming a Dynamic and Engaging Speaker,” I asked myself a fundamental question: what are the essential ...

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When a marriage first starts out, it is full of vitality and excitement. Of course, there are adjustments to be made, but most couples are on their best behavior making lots of efforts. And then the “honeymoon” is over and the work begins. The hardest work in any relationship is the bridging ...

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Guidelines for a Good Wife "1. A good wife always knows her place. 2. Don’t ask your husband questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. He is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fai ess and truthfulness. You have no right to question ...

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Sad as it might be, most marriages do not turn out to be the picture that you expected as you stood gazing into one another’s eyes and exchanged your vows. Do you find yourself having thoughts like the following?: X The spark has long since gone. X If it weren’t for the children you might ...

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Why would anyone want to sabotage their own efforts? It’s a reasonable question. But, a better-phrased question would be what is the motivation and logic underlying self-sabotage. There is little doubt that it occurs. What is often not recognized is that it serves a purpose. There is a positive intention, a need if you will, underlying the behavior of self-sabotage. There are a number of ways in which we sabotage ourselves and in every single case the self-sabotaging behavior can be viewed as serving some positive need.

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Many business owners are puzzled when their atto ey or CPA suggests that they should meet with me before proceeding with signing a contract or structuring a reorganization or resolving a partnership disagreement. What's a psychologist have to do with business anyway? "I don't need a ...

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"I just let him handle things his way." "We're not very good at resolving problems, so I let it go." "I just hate confrontation!" Listening, talking, communicating, resolving problems, making joint decisions... these are requirements for all business owners, not just entrepreneurial couples. ...

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Most of the time I am extolling the virtues of entrepreneurial couples, or at the very least, discussing how to successfully solve problems that come up for families in business. The lifestyle can be extremely rewarding when you work with the ones you love. As I have said often, "Who better to ...

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How to Understand Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder I had just completed my evaluation of 11 year-old Timmy. His parents had brought him to me because of behavior problems and the teacher's complaint that he was "underachieving" in school. Timmy, I explained, has attention deficit ...How to Understand Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder

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Dr. Linet has extensive experience and expertise in the problem of abuse in its various forms. Most people are more familiar with the concept of physical abuse than they are of nonphysical abuse. The terms, nonphysical abuse, relationship abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and ... Dr. Linet has extensive experience and expertise in the problem of abuse in its various forms. Most people are more familiar with the concept of physical abuse than they are of nonphysical abuse.

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When you get involved in anything, there are always expectations that you have about the situation or person. Here are some examples: X The college I’ve chosen to go to is going to be really difficult. X The project I’ve just done may not meet the standards of the committee. X My blind ...

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Sad as it might be, most marriages do not turn out to be the picture that you expected as you stood gazing into one another’s eyes and exchanged your vows. Do you find yourself having thoughts like the following?: X The spark has long since gone. X If it weren’t for the children you might ...

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Most marriages include children. Certainly, kids bring joy and add love to the family unit. You wouldn’t have it any other way. But, often, on a day-to-day basis, children also add stress. As a matter of fact, research indicates that the years when couples are raising their children are the ...

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A few years back, preparing for a talk on “How to Give Exciting and Engaging Presentations,” I asked myself a fundamental question: what are the essential qualities that I bring to a speaking program? In general, my goal is to help people become more FIT, that is, how can attendees have “Fun” ...

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Your feelings are significant. Your opinion counts. Your ideas are valuable. Yet, all too often, if you give voice to these matters in the middle of a heated exchange, your input will be distorted or discarded. Indeed, striking while the iron is hot may get you scalded. Though you may be ...

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Some patients hear “bipolar disorder” and immediately protest: “Oh, no Doc, I know what bipolar disorder is. That’s mania, right? I’ve never had that.”

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“I don’t believe in psychotherapy.” “Therapy is for crazy people; you’re not crazy.” “Therapy is for narcissists who just like to hear themselves talk.” “Therapy is for weak wimps who can’t solve their own problems.” “Therapy is for whiners who complain about everything.” “Therapy is like talking to a friend; why pay someone when you can talk to me?” “Therapists are crazier than you are; why listen to them?”

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Gradually, unwittingly, we often overload our electrical systems at home until a circuit breaker pops. It may begin with the purchase of a newer, more powerful computer. That computer necessitates having a state-of-the art printer. Then, before you know it, you are the proud owner of a scanner, ...

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Women’s minds are often on overdrive. We notice details. We have high expectations. We expect fai ess. We become frustrated when things aren’t the way they’re supposed to be. What does this all add up to? Frustrated women! Upset women! Mad women! Gone are the days when women would simply demure to others’ wishes. Gone are the days when women would squash their feelings in the name of femininity. Today’s women speak up. They vent their anger, even at the risk of gaining a reputation as a shrew, a nag, a bitch, a ball-buster.

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A recent article in the Wall St. journal, “For a Nation of Whiners, Therapists Try Tough Love”, has created quite a stir in the psychological community. The author advocates that therapists should provide ‘tough love’ for their clients, firing those who can’t stop complaining. “Crybabies be gone!” is her rallying cry. A bit harsh, I’d say. This psychologist believes that a little bit of whining is good for your health. Here's why:

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Delivering bad news is never easy. Whether it’s “I’m breaking up with you”, “You’re fired” or “You’ve got cancer”, there’s no pleasant way to deliver these messages. There are, on the other hand, quite a number of ways to make ...

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Many of today’s kids have been brought up hearing about how “special” and “smart” they are. The unintended consequence of this type of upbringing, (which, on the surface, seems like a wonderful way to build self-confidence and self-esteem), is that kids actually believe that they are special and superior to others – including their parents.

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You’re in a groove. You’re on track. You’re inspired. You’re filled with confidence. And then you’re not. It’s over – at least for now. You’re in a rut. You’re off track. You’re discouraged. Your commitment wavers. What do you do? It’s the norm, not the exception, to lapse into a rut. These times may come as part of a general slump in your life or as a response to a challenging situation that’s getting you down.

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No Child Left Differentnedited by Sha a Olfma Foreword by Mel Levine, M.D. Dealing with child development, childhood disorders such as bipolar disorder and ADHD, medications, media’s role, other topics. A monumental, anchoring work with two chapters written by Sha a Olfman, a Clincial ...

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Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes it’s the hushed voice at the end of an exhausting day that says, “I’m still here. You can count on me.” Heroism doesn’t always bellow. Sometimes it’s the quiet stillness at the end of a tough road that says, “I get it. I accept it, even though it's hard for me.”

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Do You Seem to Get Caught Up in the Same Old Reactions? Have you ever blown up at your spouse only to realize—after the smoke cleared—that you might have over-reacted just a tad? Maybe you learn that you haven’t been invited to your uncle’s friend’s sister’s birthday party and you behave as if ...

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A New Normal - for kids and for adults. Constantly busy. Always on the go. Rush, rush, rush. So much to do. We don’t “go” to the store anymore; we “run” to the store. We’re not just “busy” anymore; we’re “crazy busy.” We don’t rest and relax anymore; we have stuff to do 24/7. We don’t pay attention to just one thing at a time; we’re tuned in to multiple things. Have we all become ADD (attention deficit disorder)? Check it out. Here are a dozen symptoms of the disorder that have become the norm in our overly stressed lives.

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Overcoming special challenges: This is a story related to me by a reading coach in Paterson, NJ. She tutors hundreds of students every year at the public library and has tutored hundreds of children and teens with ADHD: J.M. is a compassionate African American woman who works very diligently ...

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Role Reversal – the Good, the Bad and the Unexpected Have you sometimes wished that your spouse (or someone else close to you) could walk in your shoes for just one day? And did you hope that this role reversal would enable your spouse to have a better perspective on what your day is really ...

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Does the way you dress affect how you feel about yourself? There are two schools of thought. One says: “It’s not the wrapping that matters; it’s the person unde eath that radiates confidence or beams out insecurity. I dress for comfort and couldn’t care less about the “in” style of the moment.” The other says: It’s naïve to think that appearances don’t matter. Sure, it would be great if appearance had no effect on confidence, but get real. If you’re feeling fat, wearing the “wrong” clothes, having a bad hair day, how can these factors not detract from how you feel?

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When you feel at your lowest point, food becomes your best friend. Food makes you feel better from the hurtful comment that you heard a stranger say about your weight. Food comforts you when no one else can. Food numbs any pain that you don’t want to feel.

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The American Psychiatric Association is now working on the 5th edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, otherwise known as the DSM. There will be some new categories as well as some possible exclusions of what is considered a “mental illness.”

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Love: The Story The story of love seeped its way into our psyches since birth. Heard hundreds of times by the fourth grade, “The Story” presents two young people who fall in love at first sight, after years of passion-fueled banter, on the third date after the first kiss with a friend’s cousin’s neighbor. Sometimes, The Story uses a glass slipper, often a spectacular twist of Fate, but never portrays true human flaws. The Story chases us until we catch it. Then, it forms a chasm between our partner and us. The relationship and our partner don’t stand a chance.

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PARENTAL ALIENATION is real. If you're on the receiving end...you know it. For most everyone else,...it's invisible.rn ..... TheBondedFamily .......Retweeted by PASA-NJ January 10, 2012

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Since the beginning of time, people have been prone to procrastinate. Some of them are embarrassed by it (“Sorry, I’m late.”), some brag about it (“I put the “pro” in procrastination”) and still others have created a holiday for it.

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'60 Minutes' antidepressant report may be 'explosive,' but it's not conclusive. Studies linking the placebo effect to antidepressants have been around for more than a decade. There have, however, been far more studies showing antidepressants to be significantly more effective than placebos. The good in the 60 minutes program is that it will stimulate scientific inquiry into this question. If Dr. Kirsch is right, we want to know. If he has an agenda and/or is wrong, he and the media, which uncritically jump on sensational stories, are doing a disservice with potentially great harm.

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By now, we’ve all gotten it through our heads that physical exercise is important. Even champion couch potatoes can no longer deny the evidence that vigorous activity improves agility, stamina, fitness and overall well-being, from youth well into old age. If however, despite all the evidence, you still insist upon sitting on your duff day after day, your muscles will weaken, your body will sag and your energy will dissipate. There is no way you can escape yourself.

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Goodbye trophy wife. Hello, trophy kids. Young, gorgeous women hanging on the arms of an older, affluent guy is so yesterday. Alpha kids with high status achievements are the trophies of today. Yes, raising kids with every imaginable benefit can pay off. Many of them are remarkably talented in diverse areas - not only academically but in technology, sports, drama, music, art, dance and more. You name the field, you probably know someone who knows someone whose kid won a regional, national or international award for achievement in that field.

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We know from our own experience about the mind-body connection. For example, if you were to imagine or visualize sucking on a lemon rind, you may very likely begin to salivate. Even though that sucking on the lemon rind is entirely of the mind, it can easily generate bodily responses.

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From the black Eames chair that I have sat in as a therapist for well over 10,000 hours, 2012 parades forth as the catalyst humans need to jar them from their slumber. Blessings to the Mayans for their implantation of an alarm bell into the future collective consciousness of humanity. Whether they have predicted the end of times, the beginning of a new spiritual era or nothing at all, we should not delay the existential question most everyone avoids in order to focus on thoughts that keep their self-concept and lives in tact. Now, let’s ask: Why do you exist?

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You can’t teach somebody something in English if all they speak is Spanish. Well, you can if you are showing them, rather than telling them. Likewise, if you want to teach effectively, you need to understand the student’s preferred learning style. Some people do really well with wordy explanations, while others don’t and would prefer visual type education. Whether you are a parent, a coach, a teacher or a manger, you likely find yourself in a position of having to educate people in your environment. It behooves you to have some understanding of different learning styles.

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Seventeen millio Americans today are taking antidepressants, spending 11.3 billion dollars for the privilege of doing so. Kind of depressing, wouldn’t you say? Rather than get depressed, however, I get angry. Why? Because we have been fed so many phony “facts” about depression, we now simply accept them as true when we should really be applauding the drug companies for a super successful relentless marketing campaign. You hear the ads everywhere. But here’s what you won’t hear about anti-depressant drugs.

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For eons, the human organism has been honed and perfected to respond effectively and appropriately to any perceived sense of threat or attack. In modern language, this effective and appropriate response is called the 'fight or flight response.' In lay terms, this means that when we feel threatened or attacked, our first line of defense is generally to either fight back, or run. We have likely experienced this at some time in our lives. Our fight response, however, may be hampered by the conditioning of our upbringing and our society.

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The Seeds of Marital Conflict Her Version: “They married and lived happily ever after.” Though no modern woman would ever admit to believing in such a fairy tale ending, conflicts often originate and are perpetuated because she believes the relationship “is not romantic enough” or “not the way it used to be.”

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Dyslexia can be a conditioned way of acting Dyslexia has in many cases been shown to be caused by a subconsciously learnt behavior where the memory is accessed in a neurologically inefficient or even dysfunctional way. The access mechanism does in these cases not utilize the whole capacity of the brain, especially the co-operation of the two brain hemispheres. Other causes can also have an influence. Working with memory access in these cases can have small or even negligible effect, but it has on the other hand no negative side effects either.

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People who are hurt, specifically in an emotional or psychological sense, tend to hurt other people. Hurt people can hurt people with harsh words, biting comments, derogatory statements, ridicule, condescension, sarcasm, yelling and screaming, cussing and innuendo about family members or friends. It doesn’t really matter how a person came to be hurt, for there are hundreds of ways it can happen: childhood trauma such as physical abuse or rape, parental neglect, peer bullying, sibling conflict, to name a few.

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In Parental Alienation Syndrome, one parent brainwashes or programs the child to turn against and vilify the other parent. It is difficult for many people to understand how an alienating parent could implant information that may be directly at variance with what the child had previously believed and experienced with the now-targeted parent.

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Learn how to do more using less energy: The e-course ETT - Eliminate the Time Thieves Inefficiency leads to stress We often try to handle stress in our work by learning "stress coping", and there are many courses available in this field. Many of these are useful and necessary. But, they often miss one important factor: lowering the stress level by working more efficiently, to increase one´s personal efficiency. Work smarter

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Learn to release limiting emotions gracefully : The e-course RELEASE THE EMOTION. Emotions can limit you : Emotions fulfill an important function. Without emotions we would not be fully alive. They sometimes have a life of their own, and we are not always in control of them. This is mostly OK, it makes us spontaneous and human. On the other hand, we all sometimes get stuck in paralyzing emotions. Emotions we cannot free ourselves from, despite being aware, on a rational level, that these emotions just drain our energy and limit our ability to act in constructive ways.

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Most of the talk and research about ADHD has been directed towards children with little more than passing reference to adult ADHD. Most adults with ADHD do not look like the typical depiction in childhood, Typically, but not always, as kids with ADHD mature into adolescence, the hyperactive symptoms diminish. But, for some people, adult ADHD continues to cause significant adult problems.

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In Parental Alienation Syndrome, courts, atto eys, police, social workers, therapists, and friends often assume that what the presumably frightened alienating parent is saying is true. People may believe fabrications by the alienator because the kinds of abuse the alienator claims DO and are known to happen. There are, indeed, ex-spouses who are abusers and sexual molesters. The alienating parent can be very convincing with detailed, vivid stories. The clincher is that the alienated child corroborates the alienating parent’s version of how terrible the targeted parent is.

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I re-programmed my sub-conscious mind and I now speak completely fluently. Speech Block For a stutterer, certain situations can be extremely stressful: you come to an office, enter into the reception and a beautiful woman walks up to you, greets you and asks you to feel welcome. And you are not able to utter a single word … and a man in the background jokes, in his mind in a friendly way, how her beauty is stunning …

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Allergy always has a physiological/medical cause. Allergy has always a physiological / body chemical source. Foreign microscopic particles enter our body and activate our immune system, causing different symptoms like swollen mucous membranes, skin rash, inflammation. When this occurs with a substance that does not expose the body for any threat, we call the reaction allergy. The activation of the immune system is also done by a psychological conditioning.

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Someone with Asperger Syndrome (AS) is characterized by their lack of communication skills, social skills and reciprocity of feelings. A person with AS, also known as an Aspie, knows what they think and feel but are often unaware of what others think or feel. With a deficiency in these critical areas, some have wondered how someone with Asperger's develops an intimate relationship or even gets married.

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From the very beginning of our life we encounter problems that we try to find solutions to. Even a new-bo baby needs to do this, for example in order to establish contact with key persons so that the baby´s basic needs can be met. The surrounding, the situations and one´s basic personality make us develop different strategies for solving these perceived problems. Repetition and feed-back develop these strategies over time, until they are built up by whole clusters of specific reactions, emotions, thoughts, beliefs - full-blown subpersonalities start to emerge.

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Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) has, to date, not been included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders and is not widely accepted in United States courts. Even after it might be included in the diagnostic manual, courtroom arguments will likely continue for decades – because it appears invisible. Unlike physical abuse where scars and wounds are exte al, PAS destroys internally and, thus, a denial that PAS has occurred is relatively easy.

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Some women’s groups have denounced and denied the existence of Parental Alienation Syndrome, claiming it is a ploy by men to use against women. The claim that PAS has not been accepted in U.S. courts of law is not true. Although there are judges who have not recognized Parental Alienation Syndrome, there is no question that some American and foreign courts are recognizing the condition.

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Black and white thinking is sometimes referred to as absolutist or dichotomous thinking. In this kind of thinking, something is all right, or all wrong, all good, or all bad. If you are not a total success, then you are a complete failure. There is no middle ground, regardless of situation or context. It is as if there is only hot water or cold water, no degrees of warm water. There are times when this kind of thinking is useful, even important. For example, for children who live in a home near busy streets, no playing in the street is an absolute rule. No middle ground there, no exceptions.

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Despite years researching and treating this topic, I find it to be poorly understood but extremely destructive both to parents and to children of divorce. Parents who have lost their child through alienation have sometimes described it as worse than the death of their child because, for the parent, it is an unresolved loss.

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Learn self-hypnosis, an easy, predictable and powerful tool for self-growth. In coaching or therapy at PsykosyntesForum (http://psykosyntesforum.se) we often use methods for working directly on a subconscious level. It can be inner visualizations, subconscious reprogramming, methods from CST (Cognitive Script Therapy, http://www.psykosyntesforum.se/services_cognitive_script_therapy.htm), inner explorations along the Life Track or inner meditative processes. These methods have in common that they bring the client down into a state of deep relaxation.

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Learn to empower yourself by shifting your inner focus: The e-course MENTAL FRAMES. Our thoughts govern our inner state For the most time, we are not aware of our thought patterns - our thoughts just are there and we seldom reflect on how they affect us, emotionally and physiologically. But, by making yourself aware of your thought patterns, you can change them. This can be especially valuable, when it comes to thoughts around problems you have had during a long period of time, and that may have burdened you and cost you a lot of time and energy. Focus on one problem

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Learn to be more present by increasing your visual acuity : About the e-book CONSCIOUS VISION. Conscious Presence You have probably come by descriptions and course offers about Conscious Presence. Many of these descriptions focus on the attitude Conscious Presence, and on different mental and psychological techniques for increased level of presence. These techniques constitute important and necessary factors and deserve attention, and I recommend you to investigate them.

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In my YouTube video, Parental Alienation Syndrome Excerpts from Gregory Mantell Show, I have excerpted segments from an excellent discussion of Parental Alienation. This episode is from a weekly half-hour progam, the most successful talk show on the internet. "The Gregory Mantell Show” also airs on cable TV in Los Angeles and NYC. The episode’s discussion is comprehensive and features Dr. Jayne Major and police officer Catherine MacWillie. I have excerpted approximately 6 min from this 26 min segment. The excerpts will speak for themselves with one comment that I reserve at the end.

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The Parental Alienation Syndrome, introduced by forensic psychiatrist Richard Gardner, carries the connotation of the mother as the predominant alienator. I have seen both mothers and fathers alienate their children from the other parent. I have therefore introduced the term malicious divorce syndrome as a gender- neutral name for this disorder.

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Binaural beats are auditory brainstem responses which originate in the superior olivary nucleus of each hemisphere.

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We hear a lot about physical fitness. Every town has at least one, and probably several, gyms. You see people jogging around town and television infomercials are filled with the latest workout program or gadget to help you get into shape. There is no question that physical fitness is important. But, what about psychological fitness?

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For many women, the perennial ete al triangle between men, women and football is coming to a close – for this year anyway. Depending upon when you're reading this, Super Bowl is now history (or almost history). You’ve got your husband back. Though if you’re not rejoicing, it may mean that your man has simply switched to another sport. If it’s not football, it’s baseball, basketball, golf, soccer or tennis. What’s a woman to do?

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Some narcissists are obviously obnoxious, offensive and obstinate. Others, however, present as attractive, appealing, easy-going people. It’s not until a direct confrontation occurs that their narcissism becomes obvious. Summon up the courage to tell him (or her) that he’s being self-centered and he’ll either continue doing whatever he was doing as if you hadn’t said anything at all or he will become irate. “Me? Me? Self-centered? How do you think that makes ME feel?”

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As a speaker, writer and leader I’m always looking to follow in the mind-prints of, or at least understand and hopefully emulate, Nobel-prize winning scientist, Albert Szent Gyorgyi’s “elegantly simple” words: “Creativity is seeing what everyone else has seen and thinking what no one else has thought!” With originality as frame, form and function, what are the key skills and strategies for exploring new performance possibilities, generating potent ideas, inspiring others and strengthening my creative output as a word artist – whether on the stage or the page?

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I have often heard from some, as you may have too, that you chose to be here, on this planet, at this time, in the circumstances you find yourself. And why did you choose to be here? To learn lessons. Do you believe that? If so, I am going to suggest that you are misinformed. You did not choose to be here, you are here by the inescapable results of consequences.

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Who has not been called stupid, fat or ugly at some time in their life? And, who has not felt hurt by such comments? Even as an adult, to be called any one of those can be hurtful. And, also, to be called the opposite of any one of those would make us feel great. How would you feel if you were told you were smart, fit and beautiful? Of course, it is not really being told either of those extremes that make us feel up or down; it is that we believe the words. If we know we are smart and are called stupid by somebody, it has no real effect, because we know, within ourselves, that we are smart.

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Sure, you've thought about curtailing your procrastination habit instead of trying to justify it. But it's hard to do. You have your ingrained patterns. You're always busy with something. There are never enough hours in the day. If you've been unsuccessful so far, it could be that you haven't found the right approach. Most 'how-to' programs highlight developing better organizational skills and discipline. Those are good skills to learn; but they're not enough. Why not? Because many habits - including procrastination - are driven by unconscious personality traits and emotional needs.

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We started last time talking about dealing with the feelings you may be having given the new, very challenging time, we’re finding ourselves in. We will get through this if we work together.

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Given the social isolation mandates required to keep everyone safe during the pandemic, many of you are spending much of your time alone, maybe even separated from loved ones that you usually live with. It makes sense that you may be feeling lonely at times. After all, we are social beings: even introverts need human connection. Without it, our lives just aren’t as fulfilling. I have some tools designed to cope with isolation, steps you can take to feel better.

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Welcome back! It means a lot that you take your time to be here, especially right now when we're all juggling new responsibilities on top of our old routines. We started talking last time about feelings of loss, and I invited you to write down some of the feelings of loss you've been noticing recently, and what's been helping you, or what's been holding you back. I want to stress the fact that a loss is a loss, and what you're feeling today is not less of a loss compared to others; it's your experience of loss.

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Overreactions, emotional meltdowns. Something has happened to get you very upset. Or (more frequently!) a series of things have happened, and just when you thought you were handling it pretty well – “Bring it on! I don’t let stuff get to me” – boom. One more thing happens, it’s the last straw. And you feel the anger or the frustration build to a breaking point. Swearing, yelling, crying. Or maybe you shut down. You want to pull the covers over your head and say to the world, “I can’t deal. Leave me alone. I am DONE. I have HAD it”.

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Every day, whether it’s a fantastic day, a so-so one, a day of crisis, or during a pandemic, life is happening to you. Life calls upon you to decide how to respond, and how you choose to act makes a big difference in the quality of your life: how effective you are, and how happy you are. Would you like to learn to respond more successfully to what life presents? Then take a look with me in the area of coping mechanisms so that you can ingrain the ones that work best for you and let go of the ones that cost you too much.

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Do you ever catch yourself in the middle of a swirl of negative self-talk? Maybe you find yourself imagining a conversation with someone you know, and before you know it, you're irritated and grumpy, maybe it's even keeping you up at night, making you restless.

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Two people. Same life circumstances. One has a positive mindset. The other…doesn’t. Think about them both for a moment, what images come to mind? Does one appear happy, handling life with grace, taking setbacks with perspective, while the other seems “off”, struggles with bumps in their path, seems to find the gloom in everything? Pause for a moment and reflect on your circle of friends, I’m sure you can find examples of both. How do you feel around each of them?

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THE HIGHLY EFFECTIVE- YET VERY DOABLE - STEPS FOR OVERCOMING PROCRASTINATION We started this blog series talking about procrastination in general, and then shifted our focus to start thinking about what we procrastinate about and why. Now we’re going to get to work! Remember, document your thoughts, read, and reflect on each of these steps. (1) THE 5-MINUTE PLAN

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"The joy of being is the joy of being conscious." ~ Eckhart Tolle Some of the readings on the subject can be a little too abstract for me. When I read Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now, a mindfulness classic, I trusted that being present was important, but I have to admit… I didn't really get what he was talking about. After reading, and re-reading his work, I boil it down to this: being present, mindful is a mental state achieved by focusing your awareness on the current moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.

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Knowing that most of you are being affected by the COVID-19 pandemic, I want to share some thoughts I’ve had for how to cope with the challenges you’re facing as a result. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed or unsure about what to do; this is uncharted territory for us all.

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Loss, death: it’s a part of the human experience. COVID-19 has certainly reminded us all of that. It stinks. Yet I want you to realize that there is a lot you can do to have it be less awful… for you and your loved ones. While it may be new, that this is the first time that we have all experienced major or minor losses at the same time, what isn’t new is that loss is loss is a loss. No matter the nature or the depth. I say this to reassure you: that you already know everything you need to manage really well right now.

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In my last post, I talked about the value of letting go of what no longer serves you. Forgiveness is a biggie in that department. Are you holding onto past hurts in a way that costs you way too much… energy, joy, freedom? Shorting yourself of the peace and lightness that we’re ALL allowed to have in our lives?

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Last week we started talking about being more present as it allows you to experience life in a more meaningful and more joyful way. Right now, we are living with an all-time high level of distractions, which is sending people’s stress levels through the roof; and stress robs us of our joy. That’s why, at a time of potential abundance and ease, people aren’t as happy as I know they could be. It’s so unnecessary. People have forgotten, or never knew, that to feel content and fulfilled, you have to take care of your mind.

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Last week we started our conversation about procrastination. It’s something I struggled to overcome and could have gotten in the way of my dreams. Hearing the honest truth, that I didn’t have the discipline to complete my dissertation, was tough to hear. But sometimes it’s tough love that is exactly the wake up call we all need. Let’s talk a little more about procrastination, and choosing your language carefully…

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Thank you so much for continuing on this journey with me. Last week we took a deeper dive into four key principles to becoming your own mood expert: 1. Keeping Positive 2. Creating a Treasury of Mood Adjusters 3. Assessing your Lifestyle Choices 4. Practicing Gratitude

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"Gratitude is a powerful catalyst for happiness. It's the spark that lights a fire of joy in your soul." ~Amy Collette What’s all this talk about gratitude? It’s EVERYWHERE— social media, inspirational posts, in guided meditations. Gift shops sell gratitude jou als and gratitude jars. If there’s a short list of best practices for your biggest life, a gratitude practice belongs on it. Why is gratitude so popular?

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When I look at people who have fulfilling lives, achieving what they want in work, enjoying satisfying relationships, and are just generally happy campers, they have something in common. They’re in a place of clarity which is so important to function at our best. What’s the difference between those who live in the space of clarity, and those who continue to feel stuck? They likely don’t carry around a lot of baggage, creating room for the positive mindset and energy that we need for a vibrant life.

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Do you know that, by using some easy-to-apply tools, you can have a profound positive effect on your mood? If you practice my principles consistently, you won’t believe what a game-changer they are. ALL of us experience moments of highs and lows. They’re a natural part of life. What I’m talking about is learning how not to let our moods get the best of us. It’s about purposefully doing the specific things that lift you up or calm you down: whichever’s needed at the time. And it works for everyone.

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Last week we started the conversation about becoming your own mood expert. This is very important to me because I believe, in most cases, the power to change your mindset comes from within. I want to reiterate that in some cases medication is needed to help with depression and anxiety. If you are presently on medication, speak to your doctor before making any changes. You may even want to share my thoughts with them so that they can incorporate them into your treatment plan.

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If you are 100 % psyched for the holidays and you can’t wait to enjoy every second, stop reading and have a blast! But if there’s any part of you that isn’t counting the minutes in excited anticipation and loving every minute of your preparations, you may want to keep reading. There are a lot of people feeling stressed right now, maybe a little grumpy. I know people who dread the holidays. I don’t want you to feel like the holidays are something you have to get through; trust me, it doesn’t have to be this way. You likely have a lot more say in this than you realize.

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"The joy of being is the joy of being conscious." ~ Eckhart Tolle Some of the readings on the subject can be a little too abstract for me. When I read Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now, a mindfulness classic, I trusted that being present was important, but I have to admit… I didn't really get what he was talking about. After reading, and re-reading his work, I boil it down to this: being present, mindful is a mental state achieved by focusing your awareness on the current moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one's feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.

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It’s a thief. If you procrastinate, it’s likely been robbing you of your happiness: your dream job, the academic degree that will allow you to have a career you’re passionate about. The promotion or raise you’ve been wanting, yet haven’t gotten around to taking the training required for it — the marathon finisher medal you’ve wanted to earn. Your procrastination pattern could be damaging your relationships. Because if you put things off and then cancel plans or are late as a result, you are breaking promises to people.

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I want to take you back to a time when you were very young. When everything you were to become and create and have in your life was all ahead. The possibilities were endless! Back then, you might not have known it, but you had everything you needed inside of you to create a wonderful, fulfilling life: satisfying work, meaningful relationships, plenty of time and money.

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Ten-year-old Harry finds a sand dollar on the beach; racing over to show his parents this treasure, he plows right through the sand castle that his eight-year-old sister, Carrie, had just started building. Carrie bursts into tears, shouting “I hate you! I hope you die! You always do this! I’ve been working for hours on my pretty castle and you’ve ruined everything!” Harry and Carrie’s parents exchange a familiar look: another beautiful morning at the shore has been derailed by the ADHD-driven behavior of their children.

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We’re going to have fun this week, and I have to thank my team for inspiring this blog. Let me tell you a brief story… We recently had our team call, brainstorming, getting our creative juices flowing, working on programs for the upcoming year (more on this to come!) when we started talking about mindset. We all get in a “funk” now and again, it’s unavoidable, but how do we turn our day around to get back on track, and back to being our most productive selves? It’s tough, isn’t it?

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Psychologist Roger Callahan tells a fascinating anecdote about a patient he calls Mary. Around 1980, they were working together on her intense, life-long phobia of water. He’d been working with her for about a year and had tried every conventional therapy he could think of. She’d gotten a little better, but not much. One day, as they were working in sight of a swimming pool, she complained of nausea and upset stomach. Callahan had been studying Chinese medicine and had learned that one of the end points of the stomach meridian is at the bone just unde eath each eye.

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When someone we love dies, a feeling of deep, painful grief is a natural and common response. Actually, grief can be triggered by the loss of anything we value, anything in which we have invested time, energy, a part of ourselves--a job, a work of art, a beloved pet. People who are divorcing are often surprised (and appalled) by the depth of their grief, unless they realize that what they are mou ing is not the angry battleground that the relationship has become but the dream they still cherish of what might have been.

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Notice the vertical letter pattern to the right of the first “Preamble” stanza. It’s the rhyme scheme: A-B-CC-A-B-CCC. This is the basic scheme throughout the poem. Also, it’s one reason the poem is subtitled, “The ABCs of Designing Disorder.”rn~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Courageous Resilience & Creative Risk-Taking (CR2): The ABCs of Designing Disorder Preamble Trio: 1) Weariness… 2) Uncertainty… 3) Failure A Resilience and Risk B The new “R & R” C Where effort and pluckr C With guidance and luckr A Help you stretch and stickr B To that rising starr

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Alas, the recent break-up of a nine year relationship was painful enough. But when my ex-partner’s daughter indefinitely suspended (if not permanently ended) weekly 3-5 minute Skypeing and my periodic visiting with her 3 ½ year old daughter (i.e., my ex’s grandchild), because the mother felt “confused” by the split (initiated by her mother) along with being “tired of saying ‘Yes’ when she wanted to say ‘No’”…well, the loss, pain, and grief go very, very deep.

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In a world where encounters with sources of aggression and violence, trauma and grief are all too common, understanding the dynamics of “critical incidents/hazardous events” – both for adults and/or children directly impacted and for those encountering second-hand effects – is vital. This “train the trainer/caregiver” workshop is for family members or close friends, colleagues, educators, religious or community leaders, emergency responders, or an array of helping professionals.

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In light of events fifteen miles away (Baltimore) to 10,000 miles from my doorstop (Nepal), this essay titled, "Individual and Collective Crisis/Trauma Intervention and Debriefing: Ten Steps & Strategies," clearly has immediate relevance and application. Actually, the impetus for the article occurred last week when a friend and colleague (originally from Nepal) asked me to talk briefly about stress and trauma on a strategic planning phone conference with other Nepali-bo individuals.

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Recently writing about “Bully Types” resurrected an emotio I have grappled with much of my life: a) being part of a family, especially as a child and teen, riddled with mental illness and shrouded in family secrets, b) as a child and young teen, threatened and emotionally bullied by peers for too many years, c) as an oft underachieving student and, finally, d) as a financially vulnerable speaker/word artist. The emotion is “SHAME!” And the crown with the cross: The ability to harness shame for uncommon empathy as well as creative and inspiring performance.

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One of the most effective methods parents can use to help modify behaviors of their children, are natural consequences and positive reinforcements. Although consequences can be seen as punishment, and reinforcements as rewards, there are some differences. Natural consequences, sometimes referred to as logical consequences, are an established set of results, which occur from specific behaviors. There is no emotionality contained with the dispensation of a natural or logical consequence; it is just the given outcome of a particular behavior.

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A great deal of what has been said about the Law of Attraction is only half the story. Attraction is one of two forces contained within magnetism. The other is ‘repulsion.’ Magnetism does not operate without both poles. In other words, if you can accept that you are currently attracting the elements of your life, then you are also repelling energies as well, simultaneously. In fact, you are probably repelling a lot more than you are attracting. Your entire field of experience, everything you have attracted to you, is small in comparison to all that is being repelled, all that is possible.

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Alas, the recent break-up of a nine year relationship was painful enough. But when my ex-partner’s daughter indefinitely suspended (if not permanently ended) weekly 3-5 minute Skypeing and my periodic visiting with her 3 ½ year old daughter (i.e., my ex’s grandchild), because the mother felt “confused” by the split (initiated by her mother) along with being “tired of saying ‘Yes’ when she wanted to say ‘No’”…well, the loss, pain, and grief go very, very deep.

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Alas, the recent break-up of a nine year relationship was painful enough. But when my ex-partner’s daughter indefinitely suspended (if not permanently ended) weekly 3-5 minute Skypeing and my periodic visiting with her 3 ½ year old daughter (i.e., my ex’s grandchild), because the mother felt “confused” by the split (initiated by her mother) along with being “tired of saying ‘Yes’ when she wanted to say ‘No’”…well, the loss, pain, and grief go very, very deep.

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“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends and it will get you the right ones.” We all have been there! Maybe you had a friend or you know someone now who is in a big DRAMA! The situation keeps getting worse and you can’t believe the stories… affairs, lying, addictions, bills not paid, bullying and on and on. I am not referring to illness, accidents, natural disasters; I am referring to things that can happen to us when we don’t have a Backbone.

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"You are confined only by the walls you build yourself!" Rationalizing is something we do when we don't want to face the truth. Rationalizing is something we use to make what just happen ok in our eyes. Rationalizing is a tool for survival when things are too bad to survive. Rationalizing helps us cope when we can't cope! Rationalizing is making up a story to protect those we love in our eyes! Rationalizing is smoothing everything over because the road became too bumpy. Rationalizing is what people do to enable substance abusers.

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"Whenever one person stands up and says, "Wait a minute, this is wrong," it helps other people do the same." Gloria Steinem

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Mary Pearson, Financial Post Published: Tuesday, March 16, 2010

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"Two things define you; your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything." In my article on March 2, 2014 and chapter two in my book Backbone Power The Science of Saying No, I speak about the importance of being able to say No when you mea No. After listening to Elliot Rodger's horrific video, I see that it is also important for us all to learn how to HEAR/ACCEPT the word No. There is not just one breakdown that led to this tragic shooting and this is one distinction that screams out to me.

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The Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church's sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing and according to the report there are those who simply lied. If you want to educate yourself on minimalizing, rationalizing, doing the right thing, doing the right thing but others sabotaging your report, and not doing the right thing, read the report.

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(A simple way to let go with dignity) "The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread." Mother Teresa

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" You will never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore." Christopher Columbus Denial is a mechanism we use consciously or unconsciously to alter reality, usually to pretend it is better than it is. We don't want to see aspects of life for which we have no solution or we don't like the solution.

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When the chips are down, the athlete often cannot share his/her inner fears, anxiety and anger issues with the coach or their parents. Now, the athlete has a critical ally...the professional Sports Psychologist (also referred as the professional Sport Psychologist).

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"You must do the things you think you can't do." Eleanor Roosevelt

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Sports Hypnosis for athletes? Hypnosis for athletes was something that was unheard of some years ago, but is now considered an important tool in the elite athlete's arsenal. This applies to all activities from football to poker! Did you know that hypnosis and self-hypnosis are actually commonplace occurrences that most of us engage in on a regular basis without realizing it?

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(We all need Strong Minds!) "Unless you try to do something beyond what you have mastered you will never grow." Ralph Waldo Emerson The most important asset one can have is a strong mind. Forget all the material things many think are so important and would be lost without; a strong mind is really what we all need in life.

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The Fear of Failure

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Add Sales TRIUMPHS Model to Your Selling Skills Repertoire

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“It comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do to much.” Steve Jobs

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Apply the Secrets that Sport Psychologists Use With Elite Athletes to Skyrocket Your Sales Performance By Jack Singer, Ph.D. Matt is a sales manager with a computer software company. His sales people have the responsibilities of generating new business by making “cold calls” and following up on leads from potential customers who respond to inquiries that his company receives.

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"If you don't stand for something you will fall for anything." Gordon A Eadie Why do I need a backbone? I just have my simple little life. I don't aspire to be famous. Hmmm! Everyone's simple little life is going to be given an opportunity to take a stand for something, someone, some passion, some principle, some cause and you want to be ready.

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There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle OK we all know this right? And yet how many of us enter into the most intimate relationship with our partners “saying nothing.” For those who still can’t discuss sex, it is time to lift that veil. Requests in the domain of sex to many are the Everest of requests so to speak. So many men equate a negative response to requests in this area as a reflection of their inadequacy. Women know this, don’t want to offend, and so say nothing. Sex then goes into the “be nothing” category.

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Keep making those Requestsr Making requests may seem like such a simple thing. Of course I do that you say to yourself. Check again it can be the root of many negative emotions especially resentment.

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"Never make yourself feel like nothing, to make someone else feel like everything!" Rationalizing has to be prevalent when there is Domestic Abuse because how else could you convince yourself to stay. First you have to recognize that you are being emotionally, physically and or sexually abused.

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Wow…the Winter Olympics are gone but the idea of how many good lessons we could learn from them keeps gravitating in my head. The most important is the idea of persistence and trying again vs the typical win or loose model, not only when pursuing an Olympic medal but in life. Stop for a second and think if you are one of those people for whom the word looser tends to come often into your mind? Or do you constantly deal with a feeling of winning or loosing in life even when things are small and maybe not so important? If so, this article is for you.

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" Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." Steve Jobs Someone recently asked me the definition of Codependency, so let's take a look at what we can see to help uncover this complicated phenomenon. The visual I have is someone who is suppose to be driving his own car in the race of life, but he is running around cleaning everyone else's car.

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"There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds." Laurell K Hamilton Mistral's Kiss

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Neuropsychology is the study of the relationship between the structure and functioning of the brain and everyday behavior. Although we all share the same planet, each of us sees, hears, touches and smells our own individual universe of experience. Art, music, dance, and to some degree language, allow us to share our experiences, yet we often fail to 'connect' at an interpersonal level. Man is a social animal. This means that we each have a unique role within the tribe of mankind.

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"What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do." Tim Ferriss How did we become a society that cannot hear the word No? Why are we so sensitive to being told No? There is yes and there is No, there is night and day, dark and light, yin and yang, and on and on. So to be balanced and have strong minds we need to accept No in the same way we accept yes.

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There continues to be controversy regarding the perception of unethical conduct surrounding the DSM for more than 30 years. The DSM-5, approved this past weekend for publication in May 2013, has even been highly criticized by Allan Frances, the chair of the DSM-4 committee.

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In this month when we celebrate love, I wonder what we are celebrating and what love is all about. Love…what’s love? That is the question. A word that causes the biggest happiness but can also cause the biggest misery in our lives, especially when we don’t know what it means, misuse it to achieve personal goals, or to cover up personal deficiencies. I see that everyday when people come to my office justifying their abusive, comfortable or unconscious behavior in the name of LOVE. Providing a definition for love is most difficult.

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If you only read self-help books and articles by many pop-psychologists, you would likely believe that changing how you think, feel, and behave is a relatively easy process once you decide to do so. Many people write in such a way that leads you to believe it should be as easy as deciding to change and instant change occurs. Deciding to change is only the first of many steps toward the attainment of lasting and permanent change. It will require a commitment of your time and effort to reach your desired goal.

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This morning, I woke up feeling anxious, fearful and ashamed. My human self, my scared little girl, was activated and toxic thoughts and familiar feelings from my past were dominating my experience of a quiet morning. Sadly, I arose thinking about what had triggered these unwanted emotions. I couldn't figure out why I was feeling this sudden anxiety about my life and my future.

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How to Shut Down My Brain So I Can Sleep

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Professional Athletes Using Hypnosis to Enhance Mental Toughness and Peak Performance As they get older and put more mileage on their bodies, proactive thinking professional athletes look for an edge. Much of the training and coaching that professional athletes receive works on the logical brain, the left brain. Game plans, strategies, knowing what to do in a specific situation…all fire up the left brain. Frequently, the right brain is ignored. Balance, music, emotions, visualization and self-hypnosis all involve the right brain.

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Change! Such a loaded word. What comes to your mind when you think of the word change? Stop for a minute and try to answer that question. What types of feelings does it bring up in you? Hope, excitement, joy, or on the other hand, fear, anxiety, loss, or to make things more complicated, a combination of both? I really like this anonymous quote “Life is change. Growth is optional. Choose wisely,” because I feel it very much encompasses the point I would like to make in this article.

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An article by: Jay Tow, M.S. During the many years I have worked as a counselor and coach, I have found that one thing holds people back from living the lives they want more than anything else. Fear is the one common emotion that inhibits us from making the changes that would improve our situations, our standard of living, the quality of our relationships, and our feeling of self-worth. Fear can keep us safe when our safety is truly threatened. On the other hand, fear can keep us from taking actions that could change our lives for the better.

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Cleansing, detoxifying diets, exercising… what else do we do to purify or clean our bodies? It is somewhat common to hear people say that they are engaged in one of these practices to clean themselves from toxins and other harmful elements. They usually express to feel more energized and thinking clearer after one of these periods. Our bodies naturally let go of toxicity when we exhale and when we go to the bathroom. My question is what do we do with the emotional toxins that negative emotions, stress and pain accumulate day after day?

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What comes to your mind when you think of the word grief? Most people think of death. Even if you google it, the listings that come up are related to the emotional response that surfaces from the death of a love one. There is very good information and help out there related to that topic. So the purpose of this article is to talk about the silent discounted grief that is part of our daily life but we don’t even know is there for the most part. Believe it or not we all grief since we are born and our emotional health depends on grant part on the mastering of this process.

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More than twenty years ago, stress was the cover story in Time magazine. Stress was referred to as “The Epidemic of the Eighties” and it was referred to as the nation’s number one health problem. Flash forward to 2007. Results were released on December 12, 2007 from “Stress in America,” the American Psychological Association’s annual survey of stress in the general public in the U.S.

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I just came back from a professional workshop about calming your inner critic and I couldn’t wait to share this interesting topic with you. Where to begin? Well the structure of the human personality is very interesting and complex. Fascinating and confusing, lovely and irritating, logical and irrational… and all at the same time. Our inner selves have different parts and that is why we all experience internal dialogues. Many people who come to my office feel they are going crazy or wonder if they are normal because sometimes this dialogue could be too intense or constant.

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Forgiveness is one of the most difficult things to do while at the same time one of the most needed in the world. There are plenty of people sick of anger, either toward others or to themselves. Forgiveness involves letting go and surrender of judgment and condemnation while engaging in a ...

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Hypnosis – is it magic? Not really, but a lot of my patients tell me it is. While hypnosis is not a magic wand, it does become so to paralyzed patients when they find they can walk again, and to patients who have suffered for years with chronic pain, when they find that their pain is gone. ...

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There are thousands of articles about the physical preparation that a healthy pregnancy requires and very few about the psychological aspects of it. I titled this article “How to emotionally prepare for motherhood” because the psychological changes that start before your become pregnant do not ...

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Hypnosis – is it magic? Not really, but a lot of my patients tell me it is. While hypnosis is not a magic wand, it does become so to paralyzed patients when they find they can walk again, and to patients who have suffered for years with chronic pain, when they find that their pain is gone. ...

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There are thousands of articles about the physical preparation that a healthy pregnancy requires and very few about the psychological aspects of it. I titled this article “How to emotionally prepare for motherhood” because the psychological changes that start before your become pregnant do not ...

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Like any other threat to the basic need of survival, the recent Swine flue alert is causing fear in people. While a reasonable fear of death is a normal human reaction to a threat, excessive worrying and paranoia are not. The Swine flu alert can understandably trigger a sudden loss of security ...

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Try to assess people fairly and look inside yourself to find out where your expectations and disappointments really come from. All of us get disappointed sometimes, but if it happens very often or if it hurts too much it might become a problem. What we don’t realize is that our expectations ...

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Every human being needs to get around satisfactory human relations, both in the family and other areas. Your emotional well-being will depend largely on the capacity you have to achieve this objective. In 328 BC, Aristotle said humans are social animals. Nowadays, more and more evidence is ...

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1. Biofeedback is elegant. It is a mirror where you can see and adjust yourself. Biofeedback is behavior guided by direct interaction with a physiological display reflecting nervous system activity. The effect is to develop the range and flexibility of the nervous system. The goal is to ...

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Brain development inside the womb, value of music- Baby Einstein….. The bond between parents and babies is one of the strongest forces in nature. Romances come and go, but once you've fallen for your baby, you're probably hooked for life. I have heard many mothers say that: having her in my ...

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When talking about relationships and families, dynamics are complex. Why? Because especially the closest we are the more we expect and therefore, the more disappointed we can be. For example, one of the biggest dreams every parent has is that their children get alone. It sounds simple and easy ...

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Relationships are a beautiful thing but they can also be challenging. I love a cartoon that reads as follows: “Relationships: a mess worth making.” It very well illustrates how many times relationships can be messy or unhealthy. The main cause of unhealthy relationships? Unhealthy boundaries. ...

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One of the biggest problems my clients complain about everyday is not that the person they love hurt them or did something wrong. It is the fact that the person didn’t apologize or the apology did not feel sincere. Let’s face it. We don’t really know how to apologize and the problem is that it ...

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Finances and money have for always being the number one cause of relationships failure. Many people say, “he/she was my friend until I lent him/her some money and things were never the same.” It has been proven by the American Psychological Association that during bad economic times, any ...

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ADD or ADHD is a common and serious problem that causes difficulty at home and in school. The hallmarks are distractibility and impulsivity. “You don’t listen” or “Sit still” are commonly heard. Variants of ADHD may involve mood problems, defiant attitudes or ...

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How to Conquer the Real Threat to Your Success I don’t know Eli Manning personally. But I know a thing or two about what it takes to become a champion, as he did by winning the Super Bowl on Sunday night. In my 33 years of experience as a professional sports psychologist, I have counseled and trained many professional football players and world champion athletes. They all face challenges, adversities and setbacks during their careers, but a particular problem for many athletes is “imposter fear” – a psychological obstacle advisors may find familiar.

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We are constantly bombarded with statistics regarding the harmful effects of stress on our health, both mentally and physically. We know that stress is one of the leading contributors to 8 of the most life threatening illnesses, including cancer, heart disease, strokes and contributes to many chronic diseases and anxiety-related illnesses. I even wrote a book, "The Teacher’s Ultimate Stress Mastery Guide”that teaches how to prevent and eliminate stress from one’s life.

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An article by Jay Tow, M.S. Certified Sexologist

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To succeed as an advisor, it’s not good enough to have the right products and the right clients. You need to understand your clients’ underlying goals and constraints and to develop an atmosphere of trust and understanding. In the course of my work with numerous advisors, I have found that the “T.R.I.U.M.P.H.S” model effectively develops those skills. Here’s the difference that model made for a couple of advisors:

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When we think about child abuse, our thoughts often stop at sexual abuse of minors. However, the term child abuse, often replaced by child maltreatment, has a broad spectrum of definition. The WHO defines it as follows :

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You exercise your cardio-vascular system with aerobics. You strengthen your muscular system with weight training. You watch your diet to avoid toxins and supply nutrients. All these good things promote health and vitality. But what have you done for your brain lately? It’s the most important ...

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Do you prefer your fish broiled, fried, or blackened? How about your steaks? Do you like them rare, medium, or well done? What is your favorite flavor of ice cream? Are you an early riser or do you prefer to sleep in when you can? Do you tend to be attracted to slim people or someone with a little meat on their bones? I doubt that these questions or the way someone would answer them would be judged and would raise any eyebrows.

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Johnny, age 7, was fascinated for hours by running water, lost in his own world. Like many autistic children he ran on his toes and flapped his hands to self-stimulate in hopes of controlling all the noise in his head. Even minor frustrations turned into emotional meltdowns including seizures. ...

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Each one of us has a story that is its own beautiful tale and we can learn a great deal when we choose to share our stories with one another. Because of this, I have chosen to share my patients'stories and experiences in this book. I have learned that without focusing upon the human element of ...

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An article by Jay Tow, M.S., Certified Sexologist “It’s just not fair.” “How can they do that to me?” “Don’t they care how this affects me?” “This always happens to me. Why can’t I catch a break?”

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Online therapy is relatively new and not yet fully accepted by everyone. When you browse articles on this topic, you generally find that the main issues center around privacy conce s, proposed regulation and the usual chatter from psychotherapists stuck in the Freudian era.

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Biofeedback is interactive training using a display of your physiology. In biofeedback you expand self-awareness and practice powerful self-healing. This is often done with monitoring devices to train for relaxation. However, the true goal is expanding the dynamic range and flexibility of your ...

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For many people, stress levels spike during holiday season and here are the key reasons. A DOZEN TIPS TO BUILD YOUR RESILIENCY TO STRESS More than twenty years ago, stress was the cover story in Time magazine. “Stress” was referred to as “The Epidemic of the Eighties,” and it was referred to as the nation’s number one health problem.

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I can't quite remember where I heard it first but it has fascinated me for a long time. The quote went " You know you are getting old when you look in the mirror one day and find your parent looking at you". As time marches on, this gem becomes more and more relevant but looks are not the only attributes we carry with us as we progress through various life stages.

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Mary Smith headed outside to her friend’s pool. Settling into a lounge chair, she tapped the Skype application on her phone. Hundreds of miles away, her face popped up on her therapist’s computer monitor; he smiled back on her phone’s screen. She took a sip of her cocktail. The session began.

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Nothing is perfect and that goes for relationships too. In the best of intimate relationships, there are those subtle and not so subtle signs that harmony is being disrupted. Some disagreements and discussions make sense and are in fact healthy; his words against hers, her values in the face of his values, old traditions vs. new ideas and so on. However, after a few years of living with a partner, attempting and working on intimacy, you can often see a few patterns emerging. Those patterns might be complicated to detect when you are a part of the everyday ‘drama’.

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Why Children Are More Stressed Than Ever And What You Can Do To Help Childhood has changed. Instead of pick-up baseball and basketball games on the corner lot, there are competitive travel leagues for kids as young as seven or eight. Instead of the three “R’s”; Reading, wRiting and aRithmetic, kids are faced with standardized tests and after-school tutors. Instead of Sunday night with the Wide World of Disney, there’s questionable “family” shows such as the Family Guy, South Park, and the Simpsons. And then there’s technology!

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When we think of emotional stress, we automatically assume it’s something that is bad for us. Yes, some kinds of stress are associated with health issues such as high blood pressure, headaches, and even weight gain. But not all stress is negative stress.

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The greatest risk to our children doesn't come from strangers but from friends and family. In light of the devastating events that allegedly took place at Penn State and Syracuse Universities, we now see fresh evidence of horrific child sexual abuse that continues to be all too prevalent in our society. How many children have been violated and are living with the horrible emotions, too frightened to come forward? Although it is impossible to put a cocoon around your children, there are many measures that you can put to use, which will mitigate the danger. VULNERABILITYr

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As a parent, you certainly want the best for your children. While a college education is important, it is only one of many roads to success. But you are convinced that college is the best road for your child and you are meeting with resistance, trying using the following tactics to convince your children of the value of a college education. Keep in mind however, that all you can do is guide and suggest. The final decision is ultimately up to your son or daughter.r

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My approach to working with couples has always started with the following: Two people coming into a relationship with their own set of issues. They act out on these issues within the relationship. In order to deal with the issues that may be having a negative effect on the relationship, both people must first work through their own issues. What both individuals need to work on could range from minor issues or major issues like abuse or other trauma.

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The subject of suicide has been heavily covered in the news lately. Mainly due to the time of year where most people believe suicide numbers rise (though some studies suggest otherwise) but also due to the well publicised suicide of an ex-sportsman in England and a number of celebrities `coming out` about depression and attempted suicide. While some of the stories have to be seen in the context that any publicity is good publicity, it does highlight the issue that suicide rates are rising.

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Reading, and a love for reading begins long before a child enters preschool or kindergarten. It begins at home! By reading with and to your children early in life, you are setting them firmly on the path to later success.r

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Certainly the storied career of former Penn State football coach Joe Pate o has left many praising his legacy of career wins, devotion and loyalty to his university for so many decades, and his conce with providing a wonderful role model for the young men under his tutelage. Sadly, the end of his career seriously tarnished the image of his decades of honor and success. Pundits will be debating for years whether to give Joe credit for what he accomplished or to revile him for what he did not do, with respect to the Jerry Sandusky sex abuse situation.

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There is a fun and simple way to get your kids started recognizing some basic words. You can do it easily without even having to spend any money. Simply label things in your house. The kids will enjoy getting involved in the ongoing process of labeling things, as well. You will need some small strips of paper (you might adjust the size according to the item you are labeling), a pair of scissors, a pen or marker, and some tape. Or you can purchase different color Post It notes.

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Have you ever wondered if you are normal? Do you spend time comparing yourself to others? It is not uncommon to have these thoughts because we tend to judge many things as being normal or not normal. If people don’t perceive themselves as having “acceptable” thoughts, feelings, beliefs, or behaviors, they think there is something wrong with them and believe they are not normal.

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Millions of adults in the United States were victims of some degree of sexual abuse when they were children. In most cases this abuse leaves its affects to a greater or lesser degree. The affect it has on people when they become adults is dependent on many factors. The first factor is the severity and the duration of the abuse. The second most important factor is how the abused child processed the abuse in his or her mind. If the abuse was dealt with at the time, it would have a lesser affect later in life.

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What constitutes sexual addiction? This article addresses some common misconceptions. It also more clearly defines sexual addiction. I hope that those reading this article will understand that like all addictions, sex addiction is a progressive disease. It requires more and more to get the same “high” and sex addicts find themselves seeking things that are taboo and more risky behaviors. This could result in engaging in illegal sex acts and possibly sexual abuse.

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Research recently reported in the Monitor on Psychology shows that aerobic exercise not only significantly improves health and wards off disease, but it also may prevent—and even reverse—cognitive (thinking) functions. New neurons and neuron connections develop, which favorably impact general intelligence, logic, verbal ability and visuospatial ability.

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Establishing a good nighttime routine can be difficult for families with children of all ages. If you start introducing a routine early in life, your kids may be more likely to stick to a routine later in life. Establishing a routine that keeps your household running smoothly can be a challenge at first, but doing so will result in that peace you desire and deserve. Keep in mind that you are the adult and the children are children. They are not in charge of the household. You are. The Importance of Sufficient Restr

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It’s no secret that college students have severe schedules, even in the summer. Between juggling classes, studying, assignments, internships, working a part time job, and making time for friends, it’s predictable that your energy levels are low. Although most students resort to caffeine to remedy their lack of energy, there are viable alte atives. Use these strategies to boost your energy without having to step into a coffee shop:r

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Do you feel like you have so much to do and not enough time to get everything done? When your life gets crazy, you can’t let the busyness take over your mind. You need to put yourself first to maintain your mental health. Here are eight tips for keeping a clear mind: 1. Get organized. Your life can be much easier if you maintain a good level of organization. You’ll save time and gain a feeling of control over your circumstances. The time you save allows you the opportunity to take care of yourself with relaxation exercises or the pursuit of hobbies that you enjoy.

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To-do lists are magic. According to experts, the second you write something down, you’re infinitely more likely to actually make it happen than if you rely on your (sometimes faulty) memory. Some of the greatest thinkers – and achievers! – of our time have been inveterate list-makers, including: • Benjamin Franklin • Leonardo Davinci • Thomas Jefferson • Martha Stewartr

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Teenagers Are As Stressed As Adults: Stress Management For Teens

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As a psychologist who is also a professional speaker I am often asked by people how to gain in confidence so they can get up on stage and easily share their gifts and passions. What I have always found is that the way you talk reflects your personality and displays the amount of confidence you have in your message.

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Do you have habits that hold you back from experiencing the successful life you deserve? Your habit may be as small as biting your nails or buying expensive lattes every day. On the opposite end of the spectrum, you may wish to break free of smoking, extreme anger, excessive eating, or other detrimental habits. There is hope. You can rid yourself of the habits that hold you back. Use the tips below to help you put an end to that pesky practice once and for all:

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Anaphylaxis –Homoeopathic cure Anaphylaxis is life threatening allergic reaction to certain kind of allergens by the human body. It is an emergency condition and if not responded to immediately, the patient may die. It occurs suddenly and can prove to be fatal or lethal.r

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Do you struggle with doubts that hold you back from reaching your dreams? Are you timid in situations that may present roadblocks to your success? Instead of settling for a mediocre life, learn a few simple strategies that will help you to feel confident in every situation. Confidence in your talents and abilities is closer than you think. You were created for a purpose, and you’re the only one who can fulfill that purpose.r

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You Are What You Eat

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Benefits of Qigong

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Accountability: Own Your Stuffr

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Everyone has at least one. One family member that ruins the holiday for everyone, if you let them. Self hypnosis can help. My downloads contain a track for deep breathing, something you can do at the family dinner table, while driving, pretty much anywhere. There is also a guided meditation in addition to the hypnosis track. The tracks are split up intentionally to allow you to pick and choose based on time limitations, given how busy we all are, espeically this time of year. Check them out on itunes or via my website at www.umfer.org.r

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Deep Breathing It is easier to learn this in the presence of a professional or via audio (see www.umfer.org to get mp3s with this exercise on it). Begin by sitting in a chair. Once you learn this you can do it lying down or while in line at the grocery store. First test your breathing by timing for one minute how many breaths you take, with each inhale and exhale counting as one. Notice how high your count is. Most people take on average between 15-17 breaths per minute. You likely are taking short shallow breaths. The goal is to get between 3-6. And no I’m not on acid.

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Title: Backbone Power: The Science of Saying No Genre: Co-dependency/Stress Management Synopsis: A No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

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Remember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes time in pain and sorrow. Dating a Sociopath? Yes, he is fun, exciting, seductive, and yes he is superficial, without conscience, without compassion, a liar, and looking for the opportunity you are. It is not IF your heart will be broken, it is WHEN.

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“Sometimes, you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself.” In our article about Leaving a Narcissist, I spoke about knowledge being your best weapon. Only with knowledge about what is happening, how it is happening, and how to counter can someone who is brainwashed begin to fight back. Once the person is out, we add to knowledge, “developing a different observer”.

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People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children and our grand children. In today's world, it's no longer optional but mandatory to learn the skills of a warrior.

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People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children and our grand children. In today's world, it's no longer optional but mandatory to learn the skills of a warrior.

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“Stop Asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it.” ~Charles J. Orlando Today we are going to address leaving a narcissist emotionally and physically. Many people feel they cannot leave physically because of logistical conce s (e.g. money, no support system, housing, etc.), so leaving emotionally becomes vitally important. Knowledge is the best weapon you have in this scenario. The Components of Emotional Abuser

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Who is a Sociopath? Sociopaths/Psychopaths are fun, exciting, seductive, charismatic, impulsive, sexy, AND unfortunately, individuals diagnosed with an anti-social personality disorder. Dr. Anne Brownr What does this mean to you? After you have been drawn into their world, then you are going to find: Sociopaths don’t keep agreements. They have a disregard for the law and any rules. Sociopaths lie, are deceitful, can use aliases for their own personal financial gains or pleasure. They are not conce ed with their own or your safety.r

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A child’s letter to his divorced parents. Dear Mom and Dad, The operative word here Mom and Dad is My events. You are a guest here and I ask you to act accordingly. My events include but are not limited to: 1. My teacher’s conferences. 2. My athletic events. 3. My musical recitals. 4. My birthday party. 5. My school plays. 6. My school graduations And later 7. My Prom 8. My going to college 9. My wedding So here are some guidelines which I ask if you can’t follow, best you postpone coming until you can. Your Divorce, My Eventr

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Psychoneuroimmunology is a multidisciplinary approach studying the interaction between the mind and health and specifically immunity to disease. Immune System Your immune system operates much like the safety forces (police fire,EMS) in your city. Two-way communication exists between the safety forces and the community utilizing electronic means (telephone,radio,computer, CCTV) and direct contact with the citizens. Safety forces maintain a sense of vigilance in order to “protect and serve” the public. (1) Emergency situations are monitored and evaluated.

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When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BP), whether it’s a sudden realization or a long-known fact, it can be challenging. Those in relationships with BP individuals may be subject to unique forms of manipulation or toxicity. Recognizing these habits of the BP is the first step to liberation. I will address different toxic tools here so you can pick from both articles the toxicity that you are experiencing. You may not have all of them and I may not address all of the ones you are experiencing. I also am addressing emotionally leaving the damage of the BP.

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Take Your Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse To The Next Level! From the safety of your home learn trauma-transforming steps to not only empower you but also make notable reductions in the vast array of trauma symptoms. What would it be like to have an action-oriented roadmap for recovery that has helped thousands of survivors find their path to a vibrant and resilient recovery? Attend this Telesummit if you want to: Learn best practices and research-oriented strategies for healing the trauma of narcissistic abuse

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People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children and our grand children. In today's world, it's no longer optional but mandatory to learn the skills of a warrior.

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Eight percent of people will achieve their New Year's goals — which means 92 percent of us fall short. Why do so many of us give up… and so quickly? More importantly, how do we make sure to stay on track and meet the goals we set for ourselves? For the longest time, I had many dreams, but they remained stagnant. I realized dreams happen when we're asleep. It was time to wake up. Waking up meant acknowledging my role in allowing my own self-sabotaging behaviors to perpetuate and take control of my life.

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We Are All One! We are living during a time where we have forgotten we are all one. We all have muscles, bones, organs, tissues, blood and we come in different colored packages. We also have different ideas. We have to find ways to connect through our similar beliefs and learn through our dissimilar beliefs. We also have to challenge our fears and ask ourselves are they grounded in reality or not. We have a golden rule that I still think works and is well said by Karen Armstrong.

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A No-Nonsense Approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term, and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes? Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

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BY Dr. Alex Avila Visit us at www.loveuniversity.love Listen to Dr. Avila’s Love University at https://rb.gy/qbfexs Are you Introvert or shy? Is so, this is becoming your world. Currently, 50% of the population is classified as Introvert (seeking energy within) while 50% are classified as shy (strongly sensitive to the social environment). As technology grows, and people do more things from home, we’re becoming a more internal species — spending a great portion of our time on our technological devices and in our own thoughts.

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Backbone Tools: From Codependency to Dignityr If you grew up in a family with lots of dysfunction e.g. alcohol, anger, illness physical or mental, Borderline/narcissistic (it is all about me), or any other phenomena other than adult people being normal loving parents to their children you may have developed the symptoms of codependency.

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The Challenges to Having a Holiday in Recovery

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For this discussion, we are going to stick with our understanding of codependency as a system of distortions that exists on a continuum. Codependents learn personality traits that interfere with knowing one’s self and others. The people-pleasing aspect of codependency might drive the ignoring of who we are trying to please. The focus of wanting approval may keep us from acknowledging abusive behaviors coming from the very person whose approval we seek. The need for harmony might prevent us from realizing we are enabling abusive behavior. Or any combination of the above.

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Should I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can evaluate your history with intimacy, help you heal your wounds and help you get clear on who might be a good partner for you. A Quick Guide of Gauging Toxicityr

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What Do My Dreams Mean?

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How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? This is an excellent question and often confusing for many for different reasons. Let’s look at the definitions of codependent and loving and see what we find. Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we will include some distinctions of love: Truth Strong Energizingr Codependency: Codependency for the purpose of this discussion is a recognizable system of learned personality traits that negatively affect knowing one’s self and others.

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Stay or Leave?r

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Are You in a Dead End Job That Makes You Feel Dead Inside? 10 Ways to Help You Move On! Being in a job like this is like being in a cage with the gate open. You know you can leave but fear (perhaps of loss of income, benefits, something new or different) keeps you from walking out. Being in a job like this drains you of your energy, preventing you from doing things to allow you to move on. When these jobs leave you with no autonomy or ability to be creative and learn new skills, to basically grow personally and professionally, it might be time to leave.r

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How To Set Healthy Boundaries and Live Life with Authenticity | Get Backbone Power Audiobook by Dr. Anne Brown -a psychotherapist, speaker, author, coach. https://backbonepower.com/backbonepower-audiobook/ A No-Nonsense Approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term, and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes? Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

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1. Physical Abuser In theory, in this country, no one can touch you as adults in any way (physically or sexually) without your permission. At the horrendous end of the spectrum of physical abuse are the stories we hear about the beating, burning, rape, mutilation, sex slaves, etc. and at the lesser end of the spectrum, we hear about people using their physicality to bully and get their way. In a healthy marriage, the couple respects each other’s physical boundaries and sex is a mutually agreed-upon part of intimacy.

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People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children and our grand children. In today's world, it's no longer optional but mandatory to learn the skills of a warrior.

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Our Historyr When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This included all forms of abuse: sexual, physical, and emotional. Having no rights, we were groomed to be compliant, to obey, to serve, to not speak up, to not have a voice, and generally be an extension of the man. Both church and state enabled and didn’t interfere with this paradigm.

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Remember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart: Healing a broken heart takes time in pain and sorrow. Dating a Sociopath? Yes, he is fun, exciting, seductive, and yes he is superficial, without conscience, without compassion, a liar, and looking for the opportunity you are. It is not IF your heart will be broken, it is WHEN.

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A Voice For Our Veteransr In honor of Veterans Day, we are going to begin to give a voice to our veterans in Part One. In Part Two we are going to offer insights on how we can be better friends, countrymen/women when our veterans return and actually when they are away as well.

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we introduced the importance of being able to say No. For the purpose of our discussion this week we are talking about people with equal status in the relationship. This does not include parent-child, teacher-student, or employer-employee. These relationships have different guidelines for dignity. The relationships we are talking about are people out in the world negotiating life. People chatting on the Internet, attending school, in social situations, in family relationships other than parent-child need to include the ability to say No in their quest for dignity.

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What is this phenomenon “I need to make everyone in the world like me or people-pleasing?” This is a tough concept because in one-way people-pleasers are nice to be around. If we look deeper we have to ask at what cost? People pleasing can affect both men and women. The history of women, however, is to be compliant and accommodating. Women have been taught, “Don’t rock the boat, and just agree.”

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Should I leave my relationship? This question is probably one of the top ten reasons people have come into my practice asking for help. I am a therapist who prefers to work preventatively. I would like someone who is in the market for a relationship to already be in therapy. A good therapist can evaluate your history with intimacy, help you heal your wounds, and help you get clear on who might be a good partner for you. A Quick Guide of Gauging Toxicityr

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WITH NEALE DONALD WALSCH, “CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD” #1 NY TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR AND MODERN DAY SPIRITUAL MESSENGER By Dr. Alex Avila

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BY Dr. Alex Avila Visit us at www.loveuniversity.love Listen to Dr. Avila's Love University at https://rb.gy/qbfexsThey say beauty is only skin deep, but if it is, what really attracts you to a love partner? Is it primarily someone’s looks, character, personality, faith, beliefs, or financial resources? New research provides insight into the true nature of dating, physical attraction, and long-term relationship success, and reveals interesting truths about how men and women choose to date and mate. Let’s take a look at some of the findings:

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Our Historyr When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This included all forms of abuses: sexual, physical and emotional. Having no rights, we were groomed to be compliant, to obey, to serve, to not speak up, to not have a voice, and generally be an extension of the man. Both church and state enabled and didn’t interfere with this paradigm.

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Backbone Power, an easy to understand book, tackles the question of whether being a “people pleaser” is a virtue or a curse. Backbone Power takes the reader on a self-guided tour of their deepest thought processes to arrive at an understanding of the true “Self”. As they gain a better understanding of what drives their reasoning process, they are able to learn how to better assert themselves. Dr. Brown has been able to craft her message so as to empower people to develop a “Backbone” with the power to say “No”.

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People-pleasers are at risk in the domains of finance, love, sex, family, and friendship. How is it that we can manage a successful business but still have a failed personal life? Extending a hand to others after taking care of yourself is how we make the world a better place for our children and our grand children. In today's world, it's no longer optional but mandatory to learn the skills of a warrior.

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In Part One: https://www.recovery.org/pro/articles/challenges-to-having-a-holiday-in-recovery, we discussed many breakdowns reported to me by clients which can ruin the holidays. Now we will look at some tools to deal with those breakdowns. As I said in Part One having a strong mind is an important piece of the solution. Remember stress is in the eyes of the beholder. It certainly doesn’t feel like that to me sometimes and I continually have to remind myself to change my interpretation of the situation. The holidays are a great test to see how we do.

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Remember our question from Part One: How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? Also, let’s review our definitions of “codependent” and “loving”: Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we will include some more distinctions of love: Brave Kindr Trustingr

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By Dr. Alex Avila

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Who is a Sociopath? "Sociopaths/Psychopaths are fun, exciting, seductive, charismatic, impulsive, sexy, AND unfortunately, individuals diagnosed with an anti-social personality disorder." — Dr. Anne Brown What does this mean to you? After you have been drawn into their world, then you are going to find: 1. Sociopaths don’t keep agreements. 2. They have a disregard for the law and any rules. 3. Sociopaths lie, are deceitful, can use aliases for their own personal financial gains or pleasure. 4. They are not conce ed with their own or your safety.r

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No one plans on getting divorced when they get married, and yet that is a possible outcome for some. If you have spent your life mastering people pleasing, always saying yes, being diplomatic, and putting everyone else's needs before yours, you will suffer tremendously if you are confronted with going through a divorce. The following are some areas of negotiating a divorce that people pleasing needs to be replaced with having a Backbone. 1. Fight for you Marriage

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Prepare to Fight

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The History

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Most of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes. Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. It is very puzzling for an observer of this phenomena to understand how the brainwashed person can’t see what is happening.

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A No Nonsense approach to Making Decisions. A Self Help Guide to having Backbone and Integrity in all your choices, short term and long term. Is this decision going to be good for Me? To help Me be successful? How do I make the right choices? What are the effects and the outcomes. Ask yourself, Who am I really making these choices for?

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Join Us For A Queen Adventures Signature Ladies Night ! Topic: A Date With Danger Are you single and dating? Do you think you could be in a relationship with a narcissist or married to one? Do you have a daughter or young woman in your life that you want to love and protect? If the answer to any of the above questions is yes, this interview is for you..

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Have you been a victim or do you know someone who's a victim of Narcissistic Abuse and Betrayal? Are you getting a Divorce? Do you want to learn more about Codependency and People Pleasing? Learn why havingAuthenticity and Backbone will help you. Be among the first to see my newest blog posts, updates, and more! Subscribe now and get a free sneak-preview of my book. Click here www.backbonepower.com/newsletter-signup

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I assess bullying as a form of abuse. Our first child abuse laws had many starts and stops; they did not really gain traction until the 1970’s. These laws addressed physical and sexual abuse, not emotional abuse. Church and State enabled abuse and the paradigm that women and children were property of man and he could do as he wanted with his property. We do know female bullying in the workplace is on the rise. It is highly likely these same women are using their bullying tactics in other areas such as in their social situations and families. Healing From Emotional Bullying

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In Part One, we discussed some characteristics of the serial female family bully, the way she bullies, her targets and her end game. We looked at some interesting characteristics also seen with the codependent; poor self-esteem and inability to speak her truth or express her anger. In Part Two we are going to give you lots of examples, so you can identify if you are bullying or being bullied. The Setupr The female family serial bully (FSB) may try to set people up against her victim. This can be accomplished in many ways.

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