Mind Freedom Exercise (16): Completely Committed

Completely CommittednnTime for Exercise: 15 minutesnnProperties Required: nonenn Steps:

1. Explain to your partner what your commitment means.
2. Give evidence that supports your statement and shows your commitment. Below are examples of evidence that commitment is real. The items on this list are not all required. They are examples to help get the exercise going. Each couple will express their commitment in their own way. There are no rules about commitment. The most important thing about commitment is that you are in agreement about it. For example, in some relationships, neither partner is ready for 100% commitment.

n Merging of financesn Names on property titlesn Shared bank accountsn Beneficiaries in wills and insurance policiesn Legal marriagen Having or adopting childrenn Sleeping togethe Fidelityn Personal sacrifices on the other’s behalfn Giving up something you want so your love can have what he wantsnn Admitting when you are wrong rather than always trying to win every argumentnn Asking: “How can I help?” Offering: “Let me do that for you.” Confiding in your love when you are hurting or afraidn Admitting: “I don’t know.” Asking for what you wantn Saying “yes” whenever you can, and “no” when you mustnn Trying new things togethe Surviving hardshipn Trust—for example, when the evidence makes your partner look bad, you know: “That can’t be all the evidence.” Not putting up with your partner’s bullshit, but calling her on it (in a loving way) Forgiving your love when he has made a mistaken Treating him with kindness, respect, and fai essnnnComments:n If you have issues about commitment, share them with your lover. Explain any fears and doubts you have about your willingness or ability to give your commitment. Also talk about your intention to work through these issues together.