Dads Are Heroes

My friend, Dovid Grossman, who is the father of nine children, told me he intended to have a website and teleclass series dedicated to the Hero’s Journey for Dads. He wanted to use the framework of a Hero’s Journey to engage in a discussion with fathers on parenting.

I was somewhat aware of the idea of the Hero’s Journey from the PBS series The Power of Myth with Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyers. Still I couldn’t see how he would use the model with Fathers. “What is it about the Hero’s Journey that interests and excites you?” I asked him.

He told me he had just read Christopher Vogler’s The Writer’s Journey, in which Vogler says, “I came to believe that the Hero’s Journey is nothing less than a handbook for life, a complete instruction manual in the art of being human.”

Wow! No wonder he was excited. He wanted to use what happens in a father’s life – the ordinary trials and tribulations father’s face as “a handbook for life”.

Grossman believes the hero’s journey can provide a solid framework to help fathers to better understand their role. “There are many truth’s in the world” he says, “like we know gravity always works. It is the common experience of it that resonates with us.” So it is with the Hero’s Journey.

As fathers discover the aspects of their own jou
eys they will also see that they are involved in the multiple jou
eys with their children. Using what they learn from each journey helps both father and son or daughter to confront and expedite future jou
eys.

Dovid’s explanation gave me the idea to see if I could use something that happened in my own life as a Mom that might help me understand the concept as it relates to Dads. Since I had learned to ski late in my life (I was almost 40!) I plotted my experience into the 12 stages of the Hero’s Journey. (Go to www.AwesomeDads.com for the stages) I could see it clearly now. But so what?

When Dovid asked me what truth I had discovered from my skiing journey that helped me in the future, the first thing that came to my mind was that it prepared me for my divorce. Four years after I learned to ski I faced a huge upheaval in my life. It was not something I was expecting.

I had been a stay-at-home mom for thirteen years and now I would have to be on my own as a single mom caring for two young children. This felt overwhelming to me. I felt the same sheer terror as I did on the top of that mountain only more so. Having faced that kind of terror before and survived, made me confident that I could face this even greater challenge of divorce.

We all face challenges in our lives. A father’s role is to deal with his own challenges and to help his children to overcome and learn from their challenges. Understanding the Hero’s Journey makes it clear how to leverage past experiences in facing the present. If you are a Dad you’ll want to check out the Hero’s Journey for Dads at http://www.AwesomeDads.com/ to read the blog and join the teleclasses.

Alvah Parker is a Business and Career Coach as well as publisher of Parker’s Points, an email tip list and Road to Success, an ezine. Parker specializes in working with professionals who want to have a career that is fun, fulfilling and profitable. Alvah is found on the web at www.asparker.com. She may also be reached at 781-598-0388.

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