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People Do Not Leave the Company

Topic: Conflict ResolutionBy Margaret MeloniPublished Recently added

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“I disliked working with those people so much that I don’t even know if I hate doing this for a living or it was just those people at THAT place.” - Anonymous Unfortunately this quote or versions of this quote are not unique to any specific individual. Isn’t that sad? I have heard it on more than on occasion. You have probably heard the expression, ‘people do not leave companies, people leave people.’ Well it is true. Think about some of the jobs you have left. Your decision to leave may have been based on the fact that you were stuck working for someone who you just could not tolerate. Now, imagine what it feels like to work someplace where you don’t fit in with the culture? Imagine going to work every day and you feel like a complete outsider. Maybe everyone at the company has lived in the area for a long time. Maybe everyone in the company goes to the same church or has the same ethnic background. Of course there is nothing wrong with that, assuming people who come in from the outside are not made to feel like well, uh gee, I guess the word is OUTSIDERS. It is a two way street. A new person joining a group needs to take time to get to know the group. And certainly you don’t want to jump to any conclusions about that group. In turn, when you belong to a group who has been together for a long time OR shares lots of commonality, be sure to be open and inclusive to your new team members. Not every company culture is right for every person, but let’s allow room for variety and that over used buzz word ‘diversity’. And if someone does decide to leave, let’s hope that we aren’t a miserable memory to them. Let’s hear it for reaching a hand out to the new team member!

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Margaret developed a passionate belief that it takes courage and skill to be human at work and that all individuals have a responsibility to treat each other with dignity, respect and compassion. Motivated by her beliefs and the desire to make a difference in the lives of others, Margaret acted on her vision by founding Meloni Coaching Solutions, Inc. Her vision is to create a group of successful individuals who are at peace with their authentic selves; a group of people who help and support others; a group who bring humanity to the office and thrive because of it. Margaret sees a world where achieving peace and achieving success go hand-in-hand. Margaret’s students and clients often find that what she really brings them is freedom to bring their authentic selves to the office. As a former Information Technology Executive, Margaret always knew her preference was for the people behind the technology. Now Margaret brings those beliefs to individuals from many professional backgrounds. The common thread across her client base is the desire to experience peace at work and the recognition that peace is not absence of conflict, peace is the ability to cope with conflict. For these people, Margaret Meloni is truly ‘A Path to Peace’. ™

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