{Secret Strategy} How To Win The Blame Game

I blame…myself? Wait a minute, that doesn’t sound right. The blame game, as my wife used to to call it WAS one of my favorite games to play. LOVED IT. “That wasn’t my fault, it was your fault.” Or, “If you didn’t do that, I wouldn’t have got all screwed up.” It’s a classic game. You’re always right and correct and blameless. Who doesn’t like this game? Well. I started thinking about it. Yeah, it’s maybe great that I’m not the problem, I’m not at fault (or so I thought) but the fact remained that whatever outcome I desired didn’t materialize. So regardless, if I am to blame or otherwise be the victim, at the end of the day, I still don’t have what I want. What if there was nobody else I could blame for a failure, no circumstance I could point the finger at, no excuse I could conjure up? Then what? Well. Pretty sure the world wouldn’t end. The sun will still come up and life will still go on. But, most importantly, having nothing or no one to blame, I would have to look at myself and understand what I did wrong, where I can improve, what I can do next time, and even look at what I got right. Bottom line, I would LEARN. This failure or setback would be a learning experience and I would take valuable information away from it. Taking the blame and responsibility for things allows me to TAKE CONTROL. I begin to learn then that if I caused the failure – I can cause success. Or as W. Clement Stone once put it, “If you realize that you have created your current conditions, then you can uncreate them and recreate them at will.” This is so important for you and your subconscious mind to know. Additionally, we gain respect and self-esteem points from ourselves and respect from others when we “man up” (hey, sorry women, I don’t make these sayings up) and admit fault. Now lets extrapolate (don’t let the big words confuse you) that forward. Anything you do or are involved in, you need to take 100% responsibility, even if things were outside of your control. Only then do you learn. Only then can you take control of your life and the things that occur within it. Until I realize that I am the cause of everything in my life, I’m abdicating my power and strength. This speaks volumes to my subconscious mind as well to other people. Until you do, you will always be a victim to whatever life throws your way. Your life will be a roller coaster tossing you about as it wishes. It will have it’s way with you and spit you out. Sure you can blame it on the rain like Milly Vanilly. You can blame it on Suzy in accounting, on your boss, your headache, whatever. In any case, you’re stating you’re powerless and you’re openly admitting it nonetheless. You’re openly stating that you’re at the mercy of people or circumstances. And you’re probably not learning anything along the way because in your eyes you did everything correctly, so what’s there to learn. On the other hand, if you took responsibility, there would be reason to evaluate what and where you can improve next time. Why not take claim to your power. Exert control over your life and conditions. Jump in the driver’s seat of your own life. Sure, if you get a ticket, it you’re fault but at least you’re driving your life forward and learning instead of just sitting in the passenger’s seat drooling all over yourself half-asleep. Now I’m not gonna lie to you, taking responsibility takes courage. This is rare in our world of constant finger-pointing. But look at examples in the recent past. Did things favor better when a company or person came out and took responsibility, admitted that they screwed up and apologized? Or did things turn out better when that company or person tried to cover it up or continually dodged the issue or hid behind PR spokespeople and legal loopholes or pointed fingers elsewhere? I’m hoping you know the answer here. So look. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for things. Take the blame. Admit fault. It’s so empowering. I PROMISE you will literally feel so much more powerful. You’re strength will grow each and every time you do. When you do this, it commands respect. Likewise, it attracts people. It attracts resources and opportunities. It attracts wealth. It shows that you’re honest. That you’ll stand up to things. That you won’t back down and cower in the corner or hide. That you’re not scared. You’ll come face-to-face, nose-to-friggin-nose with possibly negative consequences. You’ll take whatever’s comin your way like a champ, get back up, dust yourself off, and continue on your way forward. That you’re a wrecking ball that’s not going to back down. (DANG IT. I’m getting so pumped up even talking about it.) So, just trust me on this one and please let me know how you feel after doing it. I can’t wait. Take care and we’ll talk soon, Ron