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Shrinky's Guide to Sex for Teenagers: The 5 Most Important Things You Need to Know

Topic: Life LessonsBy Glenn Berger, Ph.D.Published Recently added

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Are you thinking about sex? Are you wondering if you should have it? Do you want to know the best way to do it? Are you embarrassed to admit that you don't know as much about sex as you pretend? You will get the best information here so you can learn everything you want to know about sex, be able to make the best decisions about sex, and learn how to be great in this area of your life.

Hey parents, you may want to show this to your kids. Read on.

Here is the first thing you need to know: sex is not intercourse.

The idea that sex is defined by a man placing his penis in a woman's vagina is dead wrong. Any contact between people that results in erotic stimulation can be considered sex. This can happen between a man and a woman, two men, two women, whatever. It can include everything from kissing to dressing up in Care Bear outfits and rolling around on the floor. (Yes, people are into some weird stuff!)

So don't think you need to have intercourse to have sex! You can start practicing and learning good sex habits and not have intercourse for years.

Here is the second thing you need to know, and it is even more important than the first thing: sex is not the most important thing in the world (Maybe second or third, but not first). It is good, and done right it can be one of the great pleasures of life. But there is something more important, and that is love.

Here is the third thing you need to know: the most important thing you need to learn how to do to have a great sex life is to learn how to have great, loving relationships.

Get ready for number four: The number one thing you need to do to have great, loving relationships is to love yourself.

Number five: The way to get good at anything is to practice.

So let's put all these together. The best thing you can do to have a great sex life is to practice loving yourself. If you love yourself, then you can practice having great, loving, relationships. Through this practice, you can learn how to love. If you have a great relationship with yourself, and you have a great relationship with a loving partner, you can begin to practice sex. And you can do this without ever having intercourse!

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Glenn Berger, PhD,is a psychotherapist with 15 years experience in private practice. His invention, "Shrinky" gives you virtually what any good psychotherapist offers: Support - All the information you need. Advice- Ask Shrinky any questions about the issues of life. Wisdom - Inspiration to help you on the journey. Love - Connection, understanding, empathy, and acceptance. Ask "Shrinky" any question you like about emotional and mental health, love and relationship, work, money and success, and your best body at Shrinky.net. Purchase the iPhone "Shrinky" app, "the best tool to stay cool" on the App Store.

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