Smart Goals
Written by Nina Atwood, M.Ed., LPC
If you have completed your visioning exercises (see previous blogs: 2008 Intentions, 2007 Reflections, Current State, Life Vision Statement, and 2008 Vision Statement), then you are ready to set SMART goals for 2008. What is a SMART goal?
S = Specific
M = Measurable
A = Action-oriented, achievable
R = Results-oriented
T = Time-based
A SMART goal might be something like this:
Land a new job in my industry by end of first quarter 2008
Join 3 online dating services and complete my profiles by end of January ‘08
Attend two singles groups or functions every month in ‘08
Arrange time to spend with my closest friends every month
Lose 10 pounds by March 30th
Join a health club and work out 3 times per week beginning first week of February
And so on. Write down your SMART goals, then create a small chart that looks like this:
I will be on track with my goals if I achieve these milestones:
End of 1st quarter: [milestone]
End of 2nd quarter: [milestone]
End of 3rd quarter: [milestone]
End of 4th quarter: [milestone]
Once you have written all of this into your 2008 plan, take the further step of sharing it with at least one other person. Writing down goals makes them take on a real life of intention. Sharing them raises the bar even higher and maximizes the probability that you will achieve them.
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About the Author
Nina Atwood, M.Ed., LPC, is a licensed therapist with twenty years in private practice. Nina launched the world’s first educational resource on the internet for singles, Singlescoach®, in 1996, simultaneous with the publication of her first book, Be Your Own Dating Service. Since then, she’s established herself as one of the foremost authorities on the intricacies of dating and love relationships. She’s been featured in innumerable national magazines and newspapers, on radio hundreds of times, and on national and regional television. Nina’s newest book, Temptations of the Single Girl: The Ten Dating Traps You Must Avoid (Wheatmark, 2008), was just released to rave reviews. Nina lives in Dallas, Texas, with her Soul Partner and husband, Mark.
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