Solve Relationship Problems The Inner Way
Written by Bob Lancer
Even great relationships have problems.
Sooner or later, even if you find your soulmate and marry him or her, marital issues are BOUND to arise.
As hard as we work to resolve our relationship issues, though, we usually feel stuck in them.
Even if you attend the very best marriage counseling, you will very likely find that after all of the airing of issues, the issues continue to divide the relationship.
There is an alte
ative. It is a bit unusual, but so is a really happy marriage! Consider this some free marriage counseling that you really can count on to solve your relationship problems:
Look WITHIN for the real cause and solution to any relationship problem that you face.
Looking within to become better acquainted with YOURSELF turns out to be some of the best marriage advice, or advice for any relationship, that you will find.
Most often, it is not actually couples counseling that a troubled marriage needs: it is growth in self-awareness.
Whether your issue is as extreme as, “How can I save my marriage?” or as mundane as, “How can I stop my spouse’s annoying habit?” The path to problem solving in your relationship leads WITHIN.
Whenever you feel annoyed or disturbed by another person, look at how YOU are thinking and feeling.
As you grow more self-aware you will receive the satisfying marriage help you are you looking for.
As you grow more self-aware you will begin to realize that any relationship issues you have actually exist inside of you. It exists in your mind. It exists as a state of mind.
Let’s look at some typical marriage problems:
• “He doesn’t communicate.
• She treats her work as more important than our relationship.
• He’s typically late.
• I’m always kept guessing about what she is thinking.
• I can’t tell if he really loves me.
• She doesn’t seem to even care about our relationship.
• He shows me little or no respect.
Please notice that with example of a problem with marriage, the condition of conce
exists as a disturbing mental scenario.
While you focus on what is wrong with your mate or wrong with your relationshipo you overlook how you are wronging your yourself.
Instead of worrying about what your mate is thinking, feeling and doing focus on treating YOURSELF better.
This applies to all relationship issues, including the problem of feeling lonely and married.
Loneliness has to do with a relationship problem with oneself. While you presume that you are feeling lonely for another, your loneliness is actually a sign of your disconnection with yourself.
Any time time that you catch yourself wondering about what your mate is up to, or anyone else for that matter, immediately refocus your attention onto yourself.
Notice what you are thinking and how that train of thought is impacting you.
When your THINKING makes you feel married and lonely or unhappy and stressed out in any way, stop trying to control the other person. Focus instead on exercising more self-control by letting go of that disheartening and depleting train of thought.
Whatever YOUR relationship issues might be, focus on being better toward yourself.
This will release you from depending too much on others and empower you to naturally and automatically make better choices for yourself.
This, in turn, will bring you more of the satisfying results you want in life, and leave you with fewer complaints about your spouse or anyone else.
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About the Author
Bob Lancer is a world-renowned relationship expert. His book, The Soulmate Process has been translated into several languages. He presents relationship seminars as well as motivational team building seminars for businesses, schools and associations around the world. He hosts the WSB Radio show, Bob Lancer's Solutions, broadcasting to 35 states over the radio. He has produced hundreds of positive CD recordings offering profound and transformative, uniquely wise and inspiring Relationship Advice. See his website at: www.thebestmarriageadvice.com
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