Speaking The Truth In Love - Refuse To Argue Or Defend Your Truth
Written by Karla Downing
Do you struggle with speaking the truth in love in your relationships? If you answered yes, this biblical truth and tip will help you by showing you how to learn to refuse to argue or defend your truth.
Allowing yourself to get into a defensive position with your truth weakens your position. Don't argue or defend it, after all, it is just your truth. Ephesians 6:14 says, "Stand firm then, with the belt of truth bucked around your waist." The buckle of truth is part of the full armor of God in Ephesians 6 that enables you to stand against the devil's schemes. Truth gives you power and strength, because it is truth. You don't have to defend truth, because it simply is your truth. People that disagree with truth don't respect truth and won't be easily convinced.
What is your "truth?" It is what is true for you-what you believe, feel, perceive, value, and need. When you express any of these things for yourself, people do not have to agree for it to be real for you. People may tell you that you shouldn't feel a certain way or that your perceptions of what happened were wrong or your belief is wrong or your values misguided or your needs invalid. All of those are their opinion about what is true for themselves; they don't know what is true for you, because they are NOT you!
When you give others the power to determine what is true for you, you abandon yourself. When you allow yourself to be sidetracked by trying to argue or defend your truth, you weaken your position. Manipulative, unhealthy, selfish, immature, reactive, controlling, angry, addicted, and dysfunctional people will argue with you to divert the conversation from the topic to you. When you are defending your own position, the other person doesn't have to respond to your issue.
Be careful not to allow people to avoid dealing with your truth by tricking you into arguing about your truth. Your belt holds your pants up. Your truth holds you up and defends who you are. Learn to speak your truth and refuse to argue or defend it.
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