THE WORDS WE USE

Our words are beautiful, because they describe our feelings emotions and our thoughts (the way we communicate). God knew exactly what he was doing when he gave us the freedom to choose and create.

Our words can also be the difference between night and day, right and wrong, or pleasure and ...Our words are beautiful, because they describe our feelings emotions and our thoughts (the way we communicate). God knew exactly what he was doing when he gave us the freedom to choose and create.

Our words can also be the difference between night and day, right and wrong, or pleasure and pain. We have to be responsible and accountable for the words we choose to use. At times we choose certain words, and the emphasis of how we use those words, and on whom we use them, makes a huge difference.

From a personal point of view…when we express our opinion, tell a story or pray. We may find that it’s easy to just say things without giving them a second thought. The impact will affect the true listener almost immediately.

Now when it comes to training, teaching or trying to instill a discipline, or value in someone (child or a class). That is, or can be an entirely different story. It’s not just important, but vitally important that we watch negative words. Actually we need to be careful of negative words in our lives daily.

Words that carry heavy impact are always, never, should and don’t. These words should be used with caution. Swearing and cursing for instance can stunt a child’s growth to detrimental proportions. You see we are products of our environment and if a child is constantly exposed to that behavior he or she can be damaged. People only know what they’ve been exposed to. If you want to be better you have to be willing to change (sometimes the outside but definitely the inside).

When I was a kid our dad told us that he wanted us to be better than he was. He wanted us to be smarter, make more money and even have a better quality of life. I thought he was crazy when I heard this. I kept saying to myself I would never want anyone to be better than me.

As I matured I learned that if my dad couldn’t give us better, at least he would have hope that we would have better, even if we stumbled on to it. As an adult I now realize how powerful that is. I also want my kids to be better than me.

I can also remember times when my dad would tell us that if we got into trouble we’d better let him know before anyone else told him.
I remember doing exactly what he told me. I got in trouble at school, and it killed me to tell on myself. After I built up the courage to tell on myself, my dad said “I’m glad you told me son, after my nap, I’m going to bust your backside wide open”.

I was devastated, I mean scared to death. The only thing that I could think about was my backside bleeding and that to sit down would bring me pain (my dad never punished me). The Power of Words is a mighty thing.

The point I’m making is that the impression made with words can make us or brake us. For instance, when two people argue and they use the words NEVER, SHOULD, DON’T and ALWAYS the discussion usually goes into an entirely different direction (a negative direction).

Husband comes home late from work and the wife says, why do you always have to come home late, or little Johnny spills juice in his room, mommy comes in and tells brother Bobby to clean up. Brother Bobby says to his brother I always have to clean up your mess.

It takes so much longer to get to the real point. Usually an argument starts about the words NEVER and ALWAYS. The true topic is lost in the word shuffle.