Thinking You Are in Control Prevents You from Making Changes Vital to Developing a Successful Relationship

Thinking you are in control of your life might lead you to believe you have done all it takes to develop a successful relationship. But if this is the case, why do you fail with your relationships time and again? Is it possible that you are not aware of the ways in which you sabotage your attempts?

BELIEVING YOU ARE IN CONTROL MAKES YOU FAIL IN YOUR RELAITONSHIPS TIME AND AGAIN

It is likely that you, like most people, feel you have a certain level of control over your life, your decisions and their outcomes. When it comes to intimate relationships, even though you might have failed time and again, you still exhibit the same harmful patterns of behavior throughout all your relationships. The reason is simple: as you stick to your illusionary sense of control you believe that the way you behave with your partners is the “right” way, refusing to acknowledge and accept that this might not be the case.

However, this illusionary sense of control – being certain that you know who you are, that you know how to date, that you know how to develop an intimate relationship – often boomerangs at you and hinders you from realizing how you sabotage your relationships, acknowledge your mistakes and make he necessary changes vital to developing a successful relationship.

THE ILLUSION OF CONTROL DRIVES YOU TO STICK TO HARMFUL WAYS OF INTERACTING WITH YOUR PARTENRS

1. It is easier to believe you are in control rather than think there are things you must change.

2. It is easier to believe you know how to behave with your partners rather than take responsibility for your failures (and therefore not feeling the need to change).

3. It is easier for you to think you have done all it takes to succeed with relationships rather than telling yourself you might not have.

But this feeling of being in control and doing “all it takes to succeed having a relationship” (if you’re still single) or “succeed with your relationship” (when you have one) is exactly what prevents you from taking yet other steps to ensure your success.

If you keep failing in having a successful relationship over and over again, it is likely that there is one crucial step you haven’t taken so far: you haven’t developed your Self-Awareness: You haven’t gotten to know and understand the ways in which you sabotage your relationships. You haven’t gotten to understand a host of factors which drive your attitudes, reactions and behaviors and make you sabotage your relationships.

REASONS FOR NOT DEVELOPING YOUR SELF-AWARENESS UNTIL NOW

1. You probably attempt to find a partner and develop an intimate relationship in the same ways others do, and you don’t know many who have developed their Self-Awareness and attested to its significance. By the same token, you apparently haven’t yet read books or attended workshops on Self-Awareness.

2. All in all, this concept is remote from your consciousness. In all likelihood, you haven’t yet even considered it is a step which can help you move forward with your attempts to succeed in developing an intimate relationship.

HOW TO TAKE REAL CONTROL AND SUCCEED WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Wishing wholeheartedly to succeed in having a healthy and satisfying relationship requires that you take real control of your life, get up the courage to develop Self-Awareness, understand the ways in which you have harmed your attempts until now and become empowered to make the necessary changes vital for success!