What Can You Do When You Feel Life Doesn’t Care About Your Pain And Suffering?

What Can You Do When You Feel Life Doesn’t Care About Your Pain And Suffering?

By

Bill Cottringe
n“This is where you win the battle—in the playhouse of your mind.” ~Maxwell Maltz.

Unfortunately, the short and truthful answer to the title question is not what you want to hear—nothing. Why is this true? Simply because you can’t change a situation for the better, that is based on faulty, untrue beliefs. The problem is, you can’t see this important reality when you are being held hostage by bad feelings about having pain and suffering, and then thinking things like:

• I don’t deserve this crap.

• Life is working against me and things are very unfair.

• Nobody else really cares.

When you are suffering and at your worst emotionally, this is not the time to try and rationally understand the only thing that can makes things better—the truth. Like it or not, you have to wait things out for a lull and a point of entry to appear. The point of entry for positive change is in seeing that these sorts of thoughts really aren’t true or even “provable” in any practical way.

And of course these kinds of thoughts just work together as enemies to form a very strong negative attitude, which then starts influencing future negative realities. Finally, this unproductive attitude then superglues you to a paralysis addiction to the “high-gravity no-where zone,” where things get worse instead of better.

Question: When is the best time to correct this faulty belief that no one cares about your pain and suffering?

Answer: When you are not suffering quite so much or better yet, when you are just getting ready to suffer. This is when you have the needed mental and emotional space to grow into the truth by opening up to:

• Seeing that what you think you know may not always be so (especially your beliefs about life and other people).

• Learning how life and people really work (there are no victims, nobody is being picked upon, and plenty of people do care).

When this open-mindedness begins to take hold, some very helpful realities suddenly appear as if by coincidence:

• There are lots of people that really do feel your pain and suffering and do care about you and all the rest of the people who are suffering. The huge helping industry of doctors, teachers, psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, ministers, social workers, self-growth writers, spiritualists, naturopaths, success coaches, palm readers, financial consultants and motivational speakers—is a prime example of people who devote their whole lives to caring about others’ pain and suffering.

• Another large group of people who are compassionate about human pain and suffering are the creative professionals—musicians, artists, writers, actors and actresses, movie directors, media commentators, talk-show hosts and entertainers. They invented the term “empathy.”

• Everything in nature—trees, mountains, flowers, rivers, butterflies, fish, wild animals, birds and even scenery—all care very deeply about your welfare.

The positive, compassionate energy from all these caring sources forms a giant pool of “cosmic empathy,” which anyone can tap into for some relief to remove the unnecessary pain and suffering from the necessary pain and suffering.

If you think no one really cares about your pain and suffering, there is really only one thing you can do and that is to be more patient and wait it out. In the meantime, be brave and notice what you may be inadvertently doing to aggravate your own pain and suffering.nnn nnn