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“The Truth About Success That Most Of Us Need To Know.” Byr Bill Cottringer “To succeed in life you need two things: Ignorance and confidence.” ~Mark Twain.

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Want to have confidence overcoming shyness, girls? Here are three power steps to do so. 1. Fake it till you make it. By behaving in certain ways, we can change how we feel. Studies done at the University of Califo ia School of Medicine in San Francisco had volunteers make six facial expressions signifying various emotions. When the volunteers looked afraid, their bodies reacted as if they were afraid: their skin temperature dropped and their heart rates went up. The same with anger. Similarly, feigning confidence can help you feel more confident.

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Shyness is very common in children. Think of how often a very young child is afraid of strangers. Perhaps a child hides when a service person comes to visit, or even during a visit from Uncle Charlie or Aunt Freda. On the other hand, a child may seem to be gregarious in his or her early years, but may develop shyness later on. Why is this, and how to help your child get over shyness?

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Shyness is very common in children. Think of how often a very young child is afraid of strangers. Perhaps a child hides when a service person comes to visit, or even during a visit from Uncle Charlie or Aunt Freda. On the other hand, a child may seem to be gregarious in his or her early years, but may develop shyness later on. Why is this?

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The Best Way To Thrive Is To help Others Survive Byr Bill Cottringer “We do not live to think, but, on the contrary, we think in order that we may succeed in surviving.” ~Jose Ortega y Gasset. The best way to thrive is to help others survive…but first you have to master surviving yourself! In case you haven’t noticed, there is an ever widening gap between many of us who are just trying to survive and the few of us who are starting to thrive.

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Welcome Back Kotter (Likeability)! Byr Bill Cottringer “Welcome back, Your dreams were your ticket out. Welcome back, To that same old place that you laughed about…”~John Sebastian, Lov’ Spoonful. One of the most popular TV programs of my generation was “Welcome Back Kotter.” I can still hear the theme song written by “Lovin’ Spoonful” playful songwriter and singer John Sebastian, clearly in my mind as the day I watched the first show. So what made this program so popular and successful?

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What You Don't Know Can Hurt You Most. byr Bill Cottringer “There is no shame in not knowing; the shame lies in not finding out.” ~ Russian Proverb. What you don't know about a situation is what usually results in not feeling good about things, especially about the gap between where you actually are and where you really want to be. Quite a lot of that goes with the private business or public government worlds and it is urgent to know how to best deal with this predicament.

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Why Some Religions Are Dying While Others Are Thriving Byr Bill Cottringer “Religion is to do right. It is to love, it is to serve, it is to think, it is to be humble.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. If you want to know a real secret worth knowing about success, look at the religions today that are growing and thriving the most and then compare them to the ones that aren’t. The thrivers follow one success prescription and the dyers follow the opposite. Here is what the thriving religions do to succeed in the tough religious marketplace.

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“The Dark Depression Cloud of Later Life” By Bill Cottringer “The aging process has you firmly in its grasp if you never get the urge to throw a snowball.” ~Doug Larson Later life often brings a dark cloud of depression that can be very worrisome and quite difficult to deal with, alone or as a couple. This period of life can be especially difficult because it involves a lot of things that work against each other to make matters worse.

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#1 Success & Happiness Solution: Rubber Band Thinking Byr Bill Cottringer “I wouldn’t give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but for the simplicity just on the other side of complexity, I would give my life.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes.

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20 Writing Tips for Better Resultsr By Bill Cottringer Excellent writing has never happened by chance. It takes open-mindedness and an insatiable drive to continually learn how to improve what you are trying to say and the hard work that goes along with that challenge. Excellent writing is clear, concise, complete, concrete, correct and compelling—with the right content and style to maximize understanding and impact. Below are some useful tips on producing better writing to help you go from getting good to excellent results:

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With the closing of yet another fast paced year in the online, and physical, world we need to take some time to reflect on what were the good things that we experienced. We need to plan for a great 2010. We should reflect upon some of the key satisfaction factors in life, and ask ourselves how did we do? At the same time, consider what we need to change for 2010 to improve our overall satisfaction rating. 1. Enjoying time with family and friends 2. Finding Time Just for Us 3. Feeling Good or Bad in General 4. Did We Achieve Our Goals? 5. Did We Make New Connections? 6.

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25 Sure Ways to Improve Communication Byr Bill Cottringer “The greatest problem with communication is the illusion it has taken place.” ~George Be ard Shaw. Communication is the main currency in the today’s Information Age, but sadly, miscommunication is our number one failing problem. Good communication involves quality thinking and it can be achieved with a plan and a little effort. Here are twenty-five practical ways to improve your communication and achieve more success in what you are trying to do at work, home or play.

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This is an interesting time to be alive. While it seems on the outside like chaos, I am seeing things in a different way. The way I see it, lots of people are getting more of what they really want by getting a big and unexpected push. You might be scratching your head right now and saying to yourself “that gal is crazy – totally nuts”.

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A Mission Every Employer Has with Every Employee Byr Dr. Bill Cottringer “The obscure takes a while to see, but the obvious even longer.” ~Anonymous. The above quote relates to a lesso I seem to have to keep relea ing and remembering from the first book I wrote several years ago—“You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It Too.” The important lesson is in understanding how to do this by understanding the opening quote. Oddly, the solution to this challenging paradox is rather obvious, yet obvious things usually take longer to see than even more obscure ones.

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A New Year’s Resolution Worth Considering Byr Bill Cottringer Normally, I am not one for making or suggesting good New Year’s resolutions, maybe because I have seen too many short-lived ones dissolving after just a few weeks. However, I am going to make an exception to my own rule this year and make a resolution myself that I intend to keep. And, it might be a template you can use to make your own resolution which will undoubtedly be a lot easier to keep, than promising to lose 50 pounds, cutting out smoking and drinking altogether, or making your first million bucks. Here goes:

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ACCEPT ADVERSITY, BOUNCE BACK & GET GOING Byr Bill Cottringer “All the adversity I've had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me... You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”rn~Walt Disney. Life is often riddled with problems, obstacles and challenges which make it seem like one big test. The test is how you approach these adversities to develop the character you need to overcome them and end up at the finish line. This is your true legacy that nobody can deny you but yourself.

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An Ever-Growing Gap Between Managers And Employees In The Information Age Byr William Cottringer When we first started on the path of the Information Age in the early eighties, we had no earthly idea where it was going to take us. Ironically, here in 2014, we still don’t know the answer to this question because the possibilities keep expanding. And, there is no end in sight if what they say about knowledge doubling every few years is true.

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There’s only one thing I hate worse than mopping the floors… …and that’s dealing with the endless emails that come into my inbox. I’m not talking about the stupid once-in-a-lifetime-do-it-right-now-or-die kinds of emails, I’m talking about the legitimate things you need to deal with. Things like requests from vendors, employees and contractors. Or “what do you want for your birthday” emails from Mom. If you know anyone that sends email (and I’m sure you do), you are dealing with this too.

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BANDWIDTH AND “P” POINTS FOR SUPER SUCCESS Byr Bill Cottringer “Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” ~Winston Churchill.

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BEING OKAY WITH BEING AVERAGE Byr Bill Cottringer “Ain’t no man can avoid being born average, but there ain’t no man got to be common. ~Satchel Page. In reality, the great majority of people fall within the “average” range of the so-called Bell Curve.

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Brain and Heart Management for Better Success Byr Bill Cottringer The lion’s share of success and failure is mostly due to how well we manage our brains and hearts—specifically how we learn, grow and improve the thinking and feeling which drives our behavior. Psychologists have never really explained the complicated process of thinking and feeling very well, notably as to which causes which and where one stops and the other starts. They are inter-twinned and seemingly inseparable but still called different things.

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BREAKING THE NEAR-IMPOSSIBLE CYCLE OF ADDICTION byr Bill Cottringer “In the course of history many more people have died for their drink and their dope than have died for their religion or their country.” ~Aldous Huxley. A drop dead handsome, smart young man gets a good education and marries a beautiful, wealthy wife, goes to Hollywood and starts partying with the in-crowd and then starts an irreversible, painfully slow downhill slide to his casket with drugs and alcohol greasing the way.

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“Success is what you get from using common sense; failure is what you get from using everything else.” ~The author. Success is built on a firm foundation of good old common sense (which unfortunately isn’t so common these days); failure follows the crumbling of a weak foundation built on the lack of common sense. Sometimes it takes seconds and sometimes years to spot the differences. Are you serious about building a strong foundation of common sense that will sustain long term success that lasts years?

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Human beings are creatures of habit. We seek the things we want with the least possible disruption to our lives; hence we tend to resist change. The choice is straightforward - make a positive change for life... or pay the price! As management guru Tom Peters once put it: "Change is disruptive . . . But it doesn't make any difference. You gotta do it anyway. We're in an era where, literally, to learn to love change is the only survival course."

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Common Sense Life Mission-Based Alignment Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense and a sense of humor are the same things moving at different speeds.

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"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~Dr. Seuss. Just like glue appearing to be very smooth until you touch it, communication can seem to be that way too, at least until you actually try to undue miscommunication already out on the table. Today we should all be very conce ed that miscommunication is much more prevalent than good communication.

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Let’s take a close look at the concept of fear. Not fun, you say? Fear isn’t your problem, you say? Are you sure? Or is that denial talking? Like many people, I had unconsciously run much of my life based on my fears. I was always finding excuses for my self-defeating behavior, unfortunate circumstances or bad things that happened to me. I procrastinated and blamed my failures on poor planning, someone else’s timing and someone else’s issues.

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Finding Your Way Out of the Swamp When you Are Shoulder-Deep in Alligators Byr Bill Cottringer “No problem can stand the assault of sustained thinking.” ~Voltaire. Scene. Picture this: A Cold, foggy, and damp early morning when you find yourself under-dressed and shoulder-deep in a swamp full of hungry alligators.

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FIVE “HELPING” THINGS WE ALL WANT FOR OURSELVES AND NEED TO LEARN HOW TO GIVE TO OTHERS Byr Bill Cottringer “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.” ~Dr. Seuss I have been involved in the helping business on both ends of giving and receiving for nearly 5 decades now and here is my short list of what counts most in regards to truly effective helping. These five acts are the most important things we all want for ourselves and need to learn how to give others abundantly and effectively, to make a difference: 1.

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Five Realizations of Good Relationships Byr Bill Cottringer “Life is not happening to you. It is responding to you.” ~Author Unknown.

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Just got off the phone with a consulting client who has restructured the people in her business to be aligned with the appropriate job. (Honestly, if I only did one thing all day, it would be style and values testing because it makes people understand their relationships so well!) Not only is she happier, but so are the other people on the team. According to Gang & Gang, 55% of people are in the wrong jobs.

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Stuck is not a fun place to be. Yet for so many, stuck seems to be a state that is stubbornly present, even defeating in the lives of so many. You know, the web site tweak that just has to be done before you promote, the sales script that needs to have every word perfect before you make the call, the distraction of finding something new to create instead of focusing on the thing that’s in front of you.

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Going From The “What To Do” To “How To Do It” Level Of Self Growth Byr Bill Cottringer “Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow - that is patience.” ~anonymous. The common purpose of life for us all seems to be to learn, grow and improve into our best selves. Why is this? It is because this road gets us all the things we want—wealth, health, influence, meaning, happiness, success, contentment, peace of heart and sense of accomplishment in making a difference.

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IF YOU CAN’T KEEP AN OPEN MIND, ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE ONE? BY Bill Cottringer “Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn.” ~Benjamin Franklin. Here are the few important realities in life that have held to be true long enough to be the exception to this rule: • The one thing that seems to be certain is change. • Life is basically a process of learning, growing and improving. • The one sure common denominator for success and happiness is adapting to change.

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I sat among a pile of papers and cried. Everywhere I looked, I saw more work to do, and the longer I looked at it, the more overwhelmed I became. Finally, I burst into tears. “Why can’t I just figure out a system for all of this paper?” I said to myself. Here I was, an intelligent woman, and I could not figure out how to set up a filing system. I felt stupid. Really stupid. So I got up and tried again. And again. And again. Each time I attempted to set up a new system, something wouldn’t work, something I hadn’t thought of, and I’d have to start all over again.

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Ever wondered why some companies, large or small can deliver consistent growth and positive, forecast results in good times and bad? So many companies ride the roller coaster of economic vagaries, and the published results are like a camouflaged list of excuses, especially when the economy is slow or there is an event in a geography. I recently saw a distributor use the excuse of a natural disaster, in one of their geographic markets, to explain their poor results. The truth was, if you looked carefully into their results this area showed growth! Why?

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Lessons From Early Team-Building Byr Bill Cottringer “The ratio of We’s to I’s is the best indicator of the development of a team. ~Lewis B. Ergen.

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Live, Love & Laugh Byr Bill Cottringer “When done correctly by individuals, living, loving and laughing greatly improve the quality of life for humanity.” ~The author. The more you do these three things, the more successful and happier you and others will be. But first you have to translate the ideas and meanings of these things into actions that get results. Here are some suggestions on how to do that. LIVE Living means letting go and trusting life to take you where the whole flow is going in the long run.

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Are you living your purpose? Do you know your mission? “What am I here for? What is my purpose, in this lifetime?” You may be asking yourself these questions. More and more people are these days. There have been hundreds of books written on this important and debatable subject. Suppose I told you that your purpose on this planet was to serve other people? What does that mean to you? How does that make you feel? Does it bring up more questions in your mind? Does it make you nervous?

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Making Relationships Less Difficult Byr Bill Cottringer “Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.” ~Anonymous.

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Managing Better Work Performance By Bill Cottringer “Compelling trust is the highest form of human motivation” ~Stephen Covey.

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MANAGING METAPHORS ABOUT LIVING AND DYING FOR EVERYDAY LIFE Byr Bill Cottringer “Key metaphors help determine what and how we perceive and how we think about our perceptions.” ~M.H. Abrams. Metaphors: Creative communication of words that magically simplify huge, complex realities into smaller, common denominators for easier consumption, ironically exploding into infinite possibilities for application in everyday living.

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What is a million dollar thinker, anyway? Million dollar thinkers think about things like money and making decisions in a different way from the average person, using both the conscious and the subconscious mind. As an example: suppose you were $10,000 in debt. The average person would focus on the debt, how to pay it, how to get out of it. They may take on a second job to pay the debt. The focus, no matter what, would be on the debt. A million dollar thinker, on the other hand, would take that same situation and look at it 180 degrees differently.

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PUTTING THE POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY MOVEMENT IN PROPER PERSPECTIVE “Happiness is not a goal, but rather it’s a byproduct.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt. This quote by Eleanor Roosevelt puts a lot of things in proper perspective, especially the popular movements for change driven by the mass media marketing machine, such as positive psychology.

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This is the first in a series of articles to help you improve your communication skills and establish stronger relationships at all levels. A lot of stress and angst can be removed from our lives if we can learn to effectively communicate. Communication is far more than words; it involves body language, eye movement, contact and actions. In total silence it is possible to convey a message of aggression, love, anger, fear or intolerance. Great communication is when the physical, mental and verbal activity is all in one state.

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REALITY REPAIR: TIME, SWEAT, TEARS & NO PROMISES OF SOMETHING FOR NOTHING Byr Bill Cottringer “You don't get something for nothing; You can't have freedom for free; You won't get wiser With the sleep still in your eyes No matter what your dreams might be.”rn~Neil Peart. Shame on us all!

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Relationship Facts That Get In The Way of Relating Byr Bill Cottringer “Relationships are the real test to find out if you are as good as you think you are.” ~The author.

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Definition: 'A Sales Legend is a sales person who stands above the rest. He or She will likely enjoy a great lifestyle, earn more and be less stressed than the rest. They will win, win and win again. They will be loved and recommended by customers. They are virtual team leaders, and well supported.

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Ever wondered why some people consistently make millions at the top of the sales ladder and others struggle to meet quota? In this series of articles, based on 999 Legendary Selling For The 21st Century, we review the differentiators between those who consistently over achieve and those who do not. Many of these people are legends in the selling profession.

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Although we see the economy slowing down in so many areas, and many of us and our colleagues are unemployed, the best news is that online sales in America are continuing not just to rise, but to reach out for the stars! 2010 is predicted by many sources to see the beginning of a spike of up to a 50% rise in online selling. For many people this represents a huge opportunity. You do not have to go back and work in an insecure situation for an employer you don’t like.

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SHRINKING FROWNS AND EXPANDING SMILES Byr Bill Cottringer “A smile cures the wounding of a frown.” ~William Shakespeare. Here are ten practical ways to reduce your unhappy failures and boost your happy successes, curing your frowns with smiles: 1. Follow the reality principle.

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Just finished watching the movie Peaceful Warrior. (If you haven’t seen it, go grab a copy at the DVD store. It’s one you’ll want to see more than once). In the movie, Dan, the main character, has a very busy life. He’s a young college student and athlete, bound for the Olympics, he trains hard, plays hard and gets good grades. A certain feeling of uneasiness comes over him about his life, something he’s never had before.

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Today’s mantra: stay on target. Some days, you just wake up apathetic or discouraged, for what could be no reason at all. Oh sure, there’s always some reason, but it’s probably not at all what you think. I mean, there are so many blessings to count, so much goodness around but sometimes you just have to let yourself feel poopy for a little bit before you move on. It’s not that you’re unhappy or miserable with everything in your life.

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STAYING AHEAD OF THE PAPERWORK OVERLOAD Byr Bill Cottringer “Keeping up with the information overload is like trying to sip water from a fire hose.” rn~ Anonymous. So you think you are overloaded with paperwork at your job? My very first professional job was a counselor at a maximum security prison in Kentucky back in 1970.

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Success Built On Common Sense Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing something the way it is and doing something the way it should be done.” ~Mark Twain. Is it just my imagination or is common sense being bred out of the human gene pool entirely? Some say the magnitude and complexity of today’s problems confronting us requires a super human “higher consciousness” to solve. I disagree and prefer to assign the best potential solution to our problems on to common sense.

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Synthesize and Simplify Your Way to Job and Relationship Success Byr Bill Cottringer I will make two bold statements that I am confident will get 100% agreement. And that is always a good starting point to build upon to make things better at work or in relationships. These two agreeable statements are: (1) We are all getting overloaded with too much information, and (2) Communication between people could be a lot better. Yes, yes so let’s not waste words and move on.

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Ten Easy Ways to Have Hard Conversations Byr Bill Cottringer “Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.” ~Ronald Reagan.

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TEN SURE WAYS TO SUCCEED IN THE WORKPLACE Byr Bill Cottringer “The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” ~Oscar Wilde.

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TERRIBLE CHOICES Byr Bill Cottringer “We choose our joys and sorrows long before we experience them.” ~Kahlil Gibran. There are some terrible choices we seem to have to make through all ages. Consider the following very uncomfortable choices confronting us all at different times in our lives: • Youth: The choice of staying cool with the peer group and doing whatever that requires—even engaging in wrong or illegal behavior—and then suffering the dire consequences vs.

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One of the most difficult challenges that we all face every day is acceptance. Not only is it sometimes difficult to accept some things in our lives, but to understand and work effectively with differentiation between that which we must accept, and that which we can change is also often hard. In short form, we often have to accept other people as they are. We can ask them to consider change, and why we think they should, but we cannot and may not change them. We can guide them (as in children, students, employees) but we cannot and may not change them or their circumstances.

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Success is hard work; it does not come easy and seldom does it come quickly. I think we can all agree with that statement. But there’s another aspect of success that is a bit more controversial and that’s the idea that success is fluid. What made you successful yesterday may not make you successful today. In fact, yesterday’s success factor can become today’s failure point. The fast-paced changes bombarding today’s business environment can leave you reeling unless you have a foundation for success that is unshakeable.

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The Most Difficult Thing About Managing Others Is… Byr Bill Cottringer “Mis-management of others is usually a symptom of mismanaging yourself.” ~An older, wiser, unnamed manager of sorts.

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The Problem That All Religion, Psychology and Spirituality Are Trying To Solve Byr Bill Cottringer “Should we all confess our sins to one another we would all laugh at one another for our lack of originality.” ~Kahlil Gabran. There is a very large “elephant metaphor” in life’s living room, that when not mentioned, it keeps us all from experiencing our full potential in learning, growing and improving into our best selves.

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The Soul’s Revenge Of The Mind’s Excesses Byr Bill Cottringer “Everything in excess is opposed to nature.” ~Hippocrates. What is the real goal of self-growth? After 4+ decades of practical research into the self-growth movement, I have come to a tentative conclusion about this question: The basic purpose of the self-growth process is to reconcile the mind’s wants with the soul’s needs. And the only way this can be done is through the very creative process than runs the universe.

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There Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking? Byr Bill Cottringer Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.rn~Ralph Waldo Emerson.

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Thinking Your Way to Success Byr Bill Cottringer “I want to know all God’s thoughts; all the rest are just details.” ~Albert Einstein.

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THREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE Byr Bill Cottringer “We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it.” ~John Lennon.

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Three Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship Byr Bill Cottringer “Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without.” ~James Dobson.

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TIT 4 TAT: The Basic Backdrop of Life. By Bill Cottringer “Reputation is not of enough value to sacrifice character for it.” Miss Clark. All of life, upon due reflection, seems to be a variation of one very basic rule commonly known as—Tit for Tat (literally blow for blow). This a priori “contract” asks for a reasonable exchange and balance to resolve conflicts in three main areas of life: • Conflicts within yourself (self-growth). • Conflicts between you and others (relationship growth). • Conflicts between all of us and life itself (humanity growth).

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Top Ten Happiness Robbers Byr Bill Cottringer “You can never make another person happy, only unhappy. ~The author. Are you happy enough with your happiness bank account balance? Knowing that a happiness bank account balance can never be high enough, here are a few bank robbers you will want to avoid at all costs: 1. Beliefs. Wrong, irrational or selfish beliefs are perpetual robbers of the happiness bank. You often aren’t even aware of what “wrong” beliefs you have that may be withdrawing happiness from your account when you think they are making deposits.

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Trust: The Stuff That Holds Relationships Together Byr Bill Cottringer “You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”rn~Epicurus Successful relationships are built on unconditional love. Without the following implied assurances that collectively define such unconditional love, any degree of compatibility in a relationship is subject to erosion by tiny trust termites which will eventually eat through the foundation of the relationship:

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“What do you want?” I call this the four words that move you forward. I find that most people have never really taken the time to sit down and ask themselves this question, and then not only see themselves with what it is they really want, but imagine their future with no limits. Can you do it? Now ask yourself – if you had a future with no limits… * What would your days look like? * Imagine you have no demands placed on you, and you too have the power of choice with you at all times.

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It was 3:30 p.m. on Sunday afte oon, and I was walking out of the movie theater with a giant knot in the pit of my stomach. I had just seen the movie “2012?. After going in with much anticipation and knowing that I would need to keep a strong mind to be able to stay positive in the midst of so much chaos and negativity, I was astonished to find that in my own mind, I had created a massive dose of anxiety and fear in my mind and body. How could that be? After all, aren’t I some kind of new thought guru that understands how thoughts can create emotion?

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What Is The Moral of Your Story? Byr Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. The answer to this intriguing title question involves an assumed answer to three underlying possibilities: • Do we all have a common purpose in this life with set success rules to carry it out ?

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Over the years, I’ve been doing a lot more life coaching (which I absolutely LOVE) helping people over panic, anxiety, worry, fear and self-confidence challenges, along with a host of other emotional and mental challenges that keep you stuck and feeling alone. I used to think that getting things done was all “mind over matter”, but not now. You see, you already have inside of you all of the resources you need to get what you want, change what you want and be who you want.

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WHY PARENTING TODAY IS SO DIFFICULT By Bill Cottringer Why is parenting today so difficult (besides being so expensive and all of us being so busy doing other things)? The answer to this question involves the main parenting role—teaching our children the basic skills that are necessary to get the most out of their lives. In other words, as parents we have to first learn what it takes to be successful and happy in our own lives, so we can pass that valuable wisdom on to our children. This is so they don’t have to experience the unnecessary failures that stopped us in our tracks.

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Why do we need to supplement today? How important is it? How about an opportunity to work from home helping others to get healthy too?

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While some have said I’m some kind of Twitter expert, let me tell you a little secret: a few months ago I had zero plans (yes ZERO) to use social media. I found it to be confusing, overwhelming and frankly not much fun. While I may have figured a few things out, in no way do I see myself as a guru of any kind.

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When it comes to getting things done in your business, do you find yourself drowning in overwhelm? Do you feel frustrated or confused by trying to figure out where to start or what comes next? Is procrastination the default for handling your stress? It doesn't have to be that way. There ARE ways to get more done - with less stress, every day.

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21 EASY WAYS TO HAVE MORE PEACE OF MIND, HEART & SOUL BynBill Cottringe n A worthy growth goal and improvement strategy, which builds a valuable sense of general wellness that leads to more success, is to carry out an action plan to give your mind, heart and soul more peace. Hear are 21 ...

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25 Self-Development Truths You Can Take To The Bank Or I Don’t Know Anything BynBill Cottringer "The highest reward for a person's toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it." ~John Ruskin. Here are 25 self-development truths I am certain of through firsthand experience ...

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Have you ever stopped, I mean really stopped for a minute to listen, hear, smell and feel the sounds of the wild animals around you? They’re everywhere…in the city, in the suburbs, in the skies and underground. And they have something to say to you…can you hear them? If there is something on your mind, a problem you’re trying to solve, a situation that needs a resolution or an unanswered question in your head, chances are the answer is right in front of you.

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You know where you want to go, but how do you get there? You may find that making some decisions is easier than others. What do you do first? How long will it take? Will you need help getting there? How do you decide what’s right for you? It helps if you understand what makes you tick; your ...

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The turning point in my life came when I discovered the law of cause and effect, the great law of the universe, and human destiny. I learned that everything happens for a reason. I discovered that success is not an accident. Failure is not an accident, either. I also discovered that people who are successful in any area usually are those who have learned the cause-and-effect relationship between what they want and how to get it. Determine Your Personal Growth and Development Valuesr

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Much has been written on what it takes to win the game of life. A lifetime of experience says it’s not as complicated as most people make it. Here’s my list. Take what you want. 1. You can’t succeed alone. Every story of success is a story of people working together, each contributing their own unique talents, skillsets and abilities. Do what you do best. And let others fill in the gaps. 2. Perseverance always wins. You can’t fail if you don’t quit. Find yet another way to make it work. Whatever *it* is for you.

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A Mother of a Problem For Reality Repai By Bill Cottringe n A central challenge in life is for us to learn how to become experts at reality repair. We frequently find ourselves as part of undesirable realities we need to fix or create new and better replacement ones we think we want. ...

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She sat on the floor amongst a pile of papers and cried. Everywhere she looked, something needed to be done. Bills were stacked, envelopes strewn about, unopened cards and grocery receipts cluttered the room. All she needed was a good filing system – how hard could that be? Every day, smart people get caught in the “it should be so easy why can’t I do it” trap. Spending hours on a task or project that is not in your core strengths can make you feel frustrated, which in turn makes you feel dumb, which in turn blows your self-confidence.

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A PERSONAL CHOICE: PRETEND OR PLAY? BynBill Cottringe nn“A truly good book teaches me better than to read it. I must soon lay it down, and commence living on its hint. What I began by reading, I must finish by acting.” ~Henry David Thoreau. For a long time now I have gradually realized ...

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According to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...

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ACCESSING THE SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS CONNECTIONnBy Bill Cottringe n“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” ~Herman Cainnn Success and happiness definitely reign as King and Queen of the worlds’ mind, at ...

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What’s on your goal list? Working with ideal clients, mastering that new software or taking a dream vacation? Use affirmations to lead the way. Affirmations are powerful statements to remind us of our magnificent potential, despite what others may say or when our own ego plants that seed ...

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AN IMPORTANT “YES, BUT...” CAVEAT OF BALANCE BEING AN ASPIRATION POINT BynBill Cottringe nn For much of my life I have faithfully bought into the total virtue of the ‘golden mean’ of balance between extremes being the only way to go. This safe road has generally worked out to my benefit, ...

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Anticipating and Avoiding Getting Fired Byr Bill Cottringer “If you intend to go to work there is no better place than right where you are; if you do not intend to go to work you cannot get along anywhere. Squirming and crawling about from place to place can do no good.” ~Abraham Lincoln.

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It's absolutely a parent's responsibility to guide their child into a responsible and contributing adult. It is necessary for you to have some disciplines, and not to give your child everything they want, even if you can afford it. You should ask your child to do small jobs for you even from a young age, to participate and contribute. If you don't, you will foster a person who expects a slave also in adulthood, and you set them for disappointment. I recently heard a Mother say that she never says no to her child, she always reframes it.

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You may pay your taxes and stop at red lights, but that doesn't necessarily mean you haven't been breaking a few laws. I'm speaking about universal laws. The one you're probably most familiar with is the law of gravity. There's no disputing it. What goes up must come down. That's simple ...

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Asking Good Questions To Increase Satisfaction In Work, Relationships And PlaynBy Bill Cottringe n Sometimes real success involves flip-flopping the traditional sequence in which we approach things. Then we end up wondering why something doesn’t feel quite right, like the tail seems to be ...

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BEING A GOOD EMPLOYEEnBy Bill Cottringe n A big part of being happy and successful, involves your approach to work. These simple requirements are a prescription for the right approach to work in being a good employee If you practice these simple suggestions you are likely to get recognized ...

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BEST 10 CUSTOMER SERVICE TIPS IN THE BUSINESSnBy Bill Cottringe n“Good customer service is 90% listening and follow-up and 10% talking.” ~The author. 1. Leave your bad moods, frustrations and other agendas at home or at least put them aside and out of mind and heart when you are engaged with ...

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Best Perspective For Success In Closing The Gap That Matters Most Byr Bill Cottringer Success is not— What you do, What you get, Or what you have; But what you attract, From being who you are. “Success is a certain sense of progress accumulated from making all the right little choices in becoming your best self, so that you can share that best self and your success with others.” ~The Author.

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H. L. Mencken said, “For every complex problem there is a solution that is simple, straightforward, and wrong.” How do you solve complex problems? Sometimes you can “just do it,” knock down the first domino—which topples the next in a long line of dominoes—and achieve the result you want. More ...

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We all have work and personal goals that we’re trying to achieve. It may be getting that promotion, attracting ideal clients and customers, losing 20 pounds or becoming debt free. When we truly commit to our goals and crave them with our heart and soul, we engage the energy of the universe and ...

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CROSS-TRAINING IN THE SELF-GROWTH JOU EY By Bill Cottringe n“There are two ways to get to the finish line quicker—run faster and bring the finish line closer.” ~The author. Today we are all getting headaches from the ever-growing ornery overload, distress from the difficulty of keeping ...

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Dealing With Early Negative Downloads That Now Control Most of Your LifenBy Bill Cottringe n What can you do about all the negative, unconscious downloads that occurred before age six, that now flood your mind with overwhelming self-sabotaging beliefs that you are not even aware of? This ...

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Dealing With The Pressure For Instant In And Out Results At Work Or AnywherenBy Bill Cottringe n Many years ago I wrote about the need to slow down, because the hectic pace of living that most of us were getting caught up in was causing physical distress. This is certainly not new news, ...

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DECREASING UNHAPPINESS TO INCREASE HAPPINESSnBy Bill Cottringe nn“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” ~Anthony de Mello.nnn More and more people are ...

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Theory That’s all well and good in practice, but how does it work in theory? It is not enough to know that a thing works: you should also understand how and why it works. The rules of the road, for example, exist to keep people safe, but it is acceptable to break the rules under certain ...

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Genius William James maintained, “Genius, in truth, means little more than the faculty of perceiving in an unhabitual way.” People like you and me do not achieve this through mental power, but through knowledge and practice. For example, people could have made gliders hundreds of years earlier ...

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Describing the Indescribable Feeling We All Want: Peace of HeartnBy Bill Cottringe n“Words are the voice of the heart.” ~Confucius. I feel rather foolish. I have been barking up the wrong tree for a couple of decades. I imagined that the end goal of all our reality repair efforts—fixing ...

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Do You Know Who You Really Are? “Most of the things you think you know may not be so.” ~The author.

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Don’t Let Your Ability Get In The Way Of Your Capabilityr By Bill Cottringer “You see things; and you say, 'Why?' But I dream things that never were; and I say, 'Why not?'” ~ George Be ard Shaw. Is your current limited ability interfering with your desire and effort to explode into your unlimited capability? Is there a gap between the current you and the ideal you that you want to be and know you can be? Are you having trouble seeing past the roadblocks and obstacles in your way? Or do you just not know how to get started?

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“There are always two choices, two paths to take. One is easy and its only reward is that it’s easy.” ~Anonymous chooser. It seems like a lifetime ago that I wrote the book “You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It Too, with all the clever ways to crack the ancient paradox of you can’t have your cake and eat it too. And every day since, I have grown into a much deeper understanding and appreciation of what the successful resolution of this major challenge actually means and involves.

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Facts of Life That Get In The Way Of Living Byr Bill Cottringer “It is nothing to die. It is frightful not to live.” ~Victor Hugo, Les Misérables.

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To understand and accept fear, we must first embrace the concept that we experience fear because we are in our ego. Most fear, or fear disguised and justified as ‘worry’ will never actualise, it just will not happen. If the feared outcome does happen, then it will happen, it is what it is!

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Many of us find it a constant challenge to juggle the demands at work and home and still "have a life." The stress mounts. At the end of the day we often feel like, in an effort to get it all done, we didn't do anything as well as we would have liked. The report was a day late and you still ...

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Finding The Point Of Entry In The Dark Without A Flashlight By Bill Cottringer What do these people have in common besides the first letter of their first name? • John has been a successful salesman in the technology field for longer than he can remember but his company finally gave up the ...

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Finding The Purpose Behind Your Purposenby Bill Cottringe nnn Finding the real purpose to our lives can provide us with valuable meaning. Such meaning can give us the right direction and structure we need, which will eventually lead to the success and contentment we want. I have discovered ...

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Finding Your Mental Sweet Spotnby Bill Cottrigner Sitting in two overgrown cedar rocking chairs watching the South Fork of the Snoqualmie River go flowing by in quiet North Bend, WA, two people—one intellectual and the other very practical—were just talking about troublesome life ...

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Finding Your Own Underlying Mental Health Withi BynBill Cottringe n“The obscure takes awhile to see, but the obvious even longer.” ~Unknown author. Just about the time I finally think I have the main purpose of life figured out, up pops something else with a slightly different flavor and ...

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FirefightingnBy Bill Cottringe n Are you part of an organization where everyone is in a perpetual firefighting mode, spending most of their day scurrying around putting band-aides on ruptures? As the direct Dr. Phil would ask, “How is that working for you?” Not very well I would imagine. I ...

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Five Ways to Keep Your Perspectives Flowing ForwardnBy Bill Cottringe n“In anything, perspective is everything.” ~The autho Perspective: Personal point of view; how you view something; different aspects of an object in thought from a particular standpoint. I hope Lao Tzu doesn’t ...

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Four Important “Yes, Buts…” About Success to Keep in MindnBy Bill Cottringe n“Success is often what is left when you empty your toolbox of the failed solutions that are past their opportunity, but hard to give up.” ~The author. Two very good cases have been made about our main purpose for ...

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Read. Recall. Write. Experiments show that the way most of us try to learn new material is inefficient. We read and reread a passage until we think we understand it. Then we are done. In fact, we learn much more effectively if we read, try to recall what we just read, and then write it down or ...

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Four Places To Be On The Growth Continuum And Three Of Them Are Bad BynBill Cottringe n“If we are growing, we will always be out of our comfort zone.” ~John Maxwell. Sorry about the gloom and dome title, but it’s true, just like throwing a pass in football—three things can happen and two ...

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FROM KNOWING BETTER TO DOING BETTER BynBill Cottringe nn This title is a logical progression from the last article—“Decreasing Uhappiness To Increase Happiness.” Before we can do this, we need to learn how to move from knowing what to do and how to do it, to actually doing it. And, the ...

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FROM KNOWING TO DOING Byr Bill Cottringer “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” ~Napoleon Hill. But will I actually do it—go from knowing to doing—is the dangling question after Napoleon Hill’s quote above. Great self-development and self-help sources of information are now nearing 1 billion “hits” on Google, and growing by the second. Maybe the problem is that this is too much information overload. What source is the best to start with? The right answer is that it doesn’t matter. Besides, if the shoe seems to fit, put it on and try it.

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Good Decision-Making One of the most important skills in life and work to perfect is decision-making. Successful outcomes are always based on good decision-making but good decision-making is not a skill you can learn ove ight or learn from a book. It takes great thought, patience and ...

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GUIDE FOR THE PERPLEXED: Maneuvering Through The Self-Improvement Overloadnn“The more you know, the less you have to say.” ~Jim Rohn. I was very encouraged to read some recent research on the younger post-MTV consumer generation. The good news is that this younger generation is fed up with ...

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Forgetting follows a pattern. There are steep drop offs in retention after 60 minutes and after 24 hours. Immediately after learning something, you will be able to retrieve a great deal of information. But then you will forget the information rapidly if you do not review it – first within an ...

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Q: Tony asks, “What is your best method of keeping your plate from getting so full, you feel frazzled?” A: That is a great question. There are a lot of different ways to simplify your systems so you don’t feel frazzled, but let me give you a really quick method to manage everything that’s on your plate. The thing is we are living in the information age. Which means, we are living in the age of opportunity, where if you are an opportunity kind of thinker, everywhere you look you get a new idea.

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Whatever business we’re in, we all have something in common. We could benefit from the wise counsel of a trusted business partner. The good news is that this partner is already here but has been sadly underused and neglected. Your business partner is a powerful force with all the wisdom ...

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“Success is the progress we each make in our private, lifelong journey of learning, growing and improving into our best selves.” ~The author. There are currently as many “tests” to measure success as there are personal definitions of it or criteria for defining it. Where do you go to sort this all out and really know how successful you are? A good starting point is to ask the toughest question there is: What is your main purpose for being here?

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HOW TO BE DEMOTED GRACEFULLY WHEN YOU ARE A GOOD PERSON By Bill Cottringe n One of the realities of today’s economic downtu is a hard one to swallow, at least with any honorable degree of courage, humility and gracefulness. This is the reality that you can still be a good person, and an ...

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How to Have a Near-Perfect Marriage Or Not. BynBill Cottringe nn“The happiest marriages are 75% right selection and 25% effort; choosing the right person and devoting the rest of the time being the right person.” ~The author, with the right person, being the right person. Let me begin by ...

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If Enough People Imagine and Believe in Something, It Will Happen… BynBill Cottringe n“I can believe anything, provided it is incredible.” ~Oscar Wilde. If enough people believe in something, it will happen…”The ‘Yes-but’ rest of the story is…True, but maybe just not quite in the exact way or ...

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Somewhere, somehow, as parents we lost something. We lost something very important to our childrens’ futures. Too many teenagers today are no longer inspired to achieve, they think work is a bad four letter word. They don’t have the hopes and dreams that we did. They do not respect their elders anymore, and see their parents as slaves. Before you defend your ‘Johnny’, there are incredible exceptions, there are teenagers who are an inspiration to us all, but sadly they are in a very small minority.

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Is It Important To Have An Accurate View Of Reality? BynBill Cottringe n“How many legs does a dog have if you call the tail a leg? Four. Calling a tail a leg doesn't make it a leg.” ~Abraham Lincoln. I suppose some people would pose slightly different versions of this title question: ...

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IS THERE A POINT OF NO RETURN IN RELATIONSHIPS?nby Bill Cottringe nn“There is a point at which everything becomes simple and there is no longer any question of choice, because all you have staked will be lost if you look back. This is life's point of no return.” ~Dag Hammarskjold.nnn I have ...

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Isn’t It Time To Agree Upon The Important Stuff—Doing What Matters Most? BynBill Cottringe n In making the long, bumpy and winding way home in my own reality repair journey, I have finally discovered answers to the two most important questions I imagine we all have. These are: • What is ...

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According to a New York City psychologist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, sitting in front of TV doing nothing, anxiety and depression." In fact, researchers in the United States, ...

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Truly Great Leaders expect maximum productivity from everyone! In High Performance Teams absenteeism is very low, productivity is high, and people are busy doing what they should be doing to contribute, they are entirely relaxed about the leader and see him or her as part of the team, rather ...

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LIKABLE COMMUNICATIONnby William Cottringe nn“Our brains quickly perceive others to be likeable, neutral or unlikeable; the words that follow verify that initial perception.” ~The author. Ron and Jennifer are both successful professionals. Jennifer is on the top of her career as a CEO ...

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Love-Hate Relationships Are Fertile Ground For Learning & Growing BynBill Cottringe n“You know you are in deep trouble when you learn to either love to hate a person or hate to love them.” ~The author. In looking back over the many relationships I have had at work and domestic ...

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Manifesting has become a popular buzzword within the metaphysical community and with “The Secret” being so popular, it has made its way into more of the mainstream. What does it mean to you? Making your dream a reality? Yes, absolutely. But, how – that’s the question. Lots of people would like to find the answer. We aren’t all born knowing exactly how to achieve results in our lives.

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MENTAL SLICING & DICING YOUR WAY TO HALF-HAPPINESSnBy Bill Cottringe nn“All colors are friends of their neighbors and the lovers of their opposites.” ~Marc Chagall. I am well into the second half of my life and in looking back I think I can openly admit that I goofed greatly in the first ...

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Sometimes we sit and listen to a friends ideas, or a new business they have started, or a goal or dream they have. We want to help them, so we usually start by ensuring they understand all the pitfalls that they may face, and the challenges that may stifle them. We want to protect them and help ...

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NO-NONSENSE “P” POINT MANAGEMENTnBy Bill Cottringer "A shortcut is the longest distance between two points." ~ Annonymous. Management information, like everything else today is on overload, so here is a quick system of No-Nonsense “P’ Point Management to help you accomplish a lot by ...

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When scientists began to study expertise, they first assumed that experts must be smarter or more talented than novices, but they quickly learned that the key difference between experts and novices is not mental power, but knowledge. Cognitive psychologists Michelene Chi, Marshall Farr, and ...

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There is a notion in Japanese that if you are a master of one thing, then you are master of all things. The idea goes back to the thirteenth century where in Rinzai Zen monasteries you sought enlightenment by meditating on koans. A koan is, “a succinct paradoxical statement or question used as ...

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It is roughly accurate to characterize the enterprise of science as explaining how one billiard ball strikes another and how that one ricochets into another, and so on. But when this approach is applied to people, it can fall short, because people are goal-oriented. For example, the philosopher ...

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Do you want your life to be more positive in every area? Your health, your wellbeing even your feelings of success and happiness? Then one key you need to utilize to unlock this flight to success is your positive emotional energy.

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“So what are your plans for next year?”, I asked a student the other day. He looked down, sighed, looked back up and said “Well, I’m going to work on a book, finish my real estate education, keep attending your teleclasses, work on my marketing plan, and – “ …I’d heard it a hundred thousand times, mostly from the creative, attention deficit entrepreneurs and small business owners I work with on a regular basis. “WAIT!” I interrupted. How can you focus on so many things at one time?

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“So what are your plans for next year?”, I asked a student the other day. He looked down, sighed, looked back up and said “Well, I’m going to work on a book, finish my real estate education, keep attending your teleclasses, work on my marketing plan, and – “ …I’d heard it a hundred thousand times, mostly from the creative, attention deficit entrepreneurs and small business owners I work with on a regular basis. “WAIT!” I interrupted. How can you focus on so many things at one time?

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People That Bother You MostnBy Bill Cottringe nn“Like the herd of animals we are, we sniff warily at the strange one among us.” ~ Loren Eisely Our success quest in life involves the paramount challenge of learning how to get along with other people. However, the reality of people being unique ...

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POWER COMMUNICATIONnBy William Cottringer “Good communication is when an artist conveys the message of his images to a musician who correctly translates them into the musical notes she plays.” ~The author. Today being a good communicator is not enough. Professional success requires ...

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REALITY REPAIR OF THE HUMPTY DUMPTY FALLnBy Bill Cottringer Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. All the King's horses, and all his men, Couldn't put Humpty back together again!n ~Well-known nursery rhyme.n n This well-known children’s nursery ...

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REALITY REPAIR QUESTIONS BynBill Cottringer "I wouldn't give a fig for the simplicity that comes on the near side of complexity, but I would give my left arm for the simplicity that comes on the far side of complexity." ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. I just finished writing another book, Reality ...

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Reality Repair Rx: A Critical Time for ThoughtfulnessnBy Bill Cottringe n“You can’t behave your way out of a problem that you thought your way into.”n ~The author. This quote is a re-arrangement of an earlier one by Stephen Covey, “You can’t talk your way out of a situation you ...

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Resolving The Clash Between Younger and Older Workers Byr Bill Cottringer “Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.” ~Max Lucade.

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SELF-GROWTH REALITY REPAI By Bill Cottringe n“Common sense is the simple knack of seeing something as it is and doing things as they should be done.” ~Mark Twain. This article has been written for both self-growth writers and readers. Having been an avid student, teacher, practitioner, ...

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SHORTCUT TO HAPPINESS BynBill Cottringe nn“Happiness is merely what you get from doing what you do to get it.” ~The author, not being facetious. Or put another way… Shortcut to Happiness Want more happiness? Slow down & do less, Unload the overload; Listen to what you want, Hear what you ...

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“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” ~Robert McCloskey. You can’t understand some things, You may think you can, But you really can’t, Especially the why questions, Other people’s motivations, And the purpose of things; There is a clever way though, In living the answers, And doing a few simple things— Growing some patience, Thinking a little differently, Relaxing your expectations, And extending your time frame; In the meantime, be more generousr With your love and com

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Is the statement, “There is a Santa Claus” true? This should be easy enough: Define truth and see if the statement fits the definition. It is widely held that a statement is true if and only if there is a one-to-one correspondence between the statement and reality. “The cat is on the mat” is a ...

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Success In The Tit For Tat Relationship GamenBy Bill Cottringe n Success in relationships is based on accurate information used in the basic cooperation vs. antagonism tit for tat game we all play. The tit for tat game typically goes like this. If I choose to do this then I expect you to do ...

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“Success is what you do and get from finding the abundance that has your name on it.” n~ The author. At home and work, we are all part of realities we often don’t particularly like and sometimes desperately want to make better. These realities can be uncomfortable conflicts in ...

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SUCCESSFUL REALITY REPAIR OF TWO COMMON MENTAL MISTAKESnBy Bill Cottringe n“Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn't go away.” ~Philip K. Dicknn What life is all about is fixing realities that we don’t like and creating new and better ones we want. We do this because ...

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Surprise: When You Are Slightly Off Keel You Are At Your Best! BynBill Cottringe nn“Doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.” ~ Oprah Winfrey. I am sure I am not the first person to discover this powerful reality, but…You are poised to be at your best ...

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Ten Important ‘Yes, Buts…’ of Happiness to Keep in MindnBy Bill Cottringe n“The good ole days weren't always good, and tomorrow ain't as bad as it seems.” ~Billy Joel. The path to the most rewarding things in life always seem to be singular, but they do have some “yes, but…” side paths ...

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Ten Right Attitudes to Have About Love to Get More Byr Bill Cottringer “Love is the gentle touching of two souls without the clamor of their exte al equipment.” ~The Author. Want more love? Consider adopting these ten right attitudes that will help you enjoy more love: 1. Keep Things in Proper Perspective.

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TEN SIMPLE TIPS TO AVOID TERRIBLE TALKnBy Bill Cottringer "It is usually impossible to get a conversation going when everybody is talking too much." ~Yogi Berrann If you want to avoid terrible talk, improve your communication skills and get better results with people, try these ten ...

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TEN SUCCESS PRINCIPLES TO IMPROVE TRAINING RESULTSnBy Bill Cottringe nn Here are the ten best common sense principles to understand and apply in order to improve the quality of your training efforts and the actual results you get: 1. Separate “training” from “teaching” in your mind and ...

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“He who doesn't accept the conditions of life sells his soul.” ~Charles Baudelaire. There are ten no-cause things I have found some people needlessly beat themselves up over. It just makes more sense to accept reality as it is with these particular things and move on to greener pastures worth mowing and watering. 1. Stop short-changing yourself for whatever seems to be the justification because there isn’t any. Everybody deserves abundance, well-being and a good life. If your ship hasn’t come in or no one is knocking at your door, build one right away (a ship or a door).

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THE “WORST BAD HABIT” YOU CAN GET CAUGHT UP INnBy Bill Cottringe n“The obscure takes a while to see and the obvious—even longer.” ~Anonymous. What is the worst bad habit you can get caught up in? One that is hard to see because it is so much of who we are on this human journey. As it ...

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A traveler meets two bricklayers and asks each what he’s doing. The first mutters, “Working for a buck.” The second proclaims, “Building a school that will educate children for generations.” Both bricklayers are doing the same work, but the work of the second is imbued with more meaning, because ...

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The Central Conflict That Spills Over Into Everything Else BynBill Cottringe nn After decades of studying and experiencing personal conflicts in a variety of work and domestic relationships, there is one that is more bothersome and difficult to talk about than any other. The strong ...

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THE FIVE C’S OF SUCCESSFUL REALITY REPAI By Bill Cottringe n There is a mighty roadblock in the way of successful reality repair—fixing broken realities (social problems, economy crises, wars) and creating new and better ones we want (equal access to and enjoyment of abundance and ...

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The Four Crucibles of SuccessnBy Bill Cottringe n Every success has four crucibles that make nothing go to something, and close the gap between dreaming and reality: The Head, Heart, Soul and Hands. We know now, the energy that is transformed between these four crucibles is what shows up ...

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THE HARDEST LESSON IN LIFE TO LEARNnBy Bill Cottringe n“It isn’t what you think you know that is most important, but rather how you feel about what you think you know.” ~Unknown author. What is this hardest lesson for us all to learn in life? Learning what to take seriously and what to ...

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“Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” ~William James. What is this hurricane that disrupts all relationships at work and home? In two words: Wrong ...

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The Imaginary Walls Between Religion, Spirituality And Psychology BynBill Cottringe n “There are no whole truths; all truths are half-truths. It is trying to treat them as whole truths that plays the devil.” ~Alfred North Whitehead. Why do religion, spirituality and psychology try to tell ...

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The least Applied Solution to Relationship Conflicts Worth ConsideringnBy Bill Cottringe n“The only way to mange the destructive affects of anger and hatred are to cultivate the positive antidotes of patience and tolerance.” ~The Dalai Lama. In any intensely close personal or work ...

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YES…THE MORE PLAN B’S AND C’S THE BETTER! BynBill Cottringe n“Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” ~Henry David Thoreau. This is an interesting quote unless you have read an even more interesting one by Søren Kierkegaard. He maintained that “Life has to be lived ...

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THE MOST IMPORTANT YES, BUT…IN ACHIEVING SUCCESS IN ANYTHINGnby Bill Cottringe n“One quality is worth more than four quantities.” ~The author. Although it may seem as though the quantity of your efforts are what lead to success at doing something your are trying, it is rather the quality of ...

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“For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.” ~Stuart Chase. There is one huge belief that has a humongous influence on all others because it represents and touches everything else. This one belief that matters most is the one we each ...

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THE ONLY WAY TO THE TOP IS ALWAYS AN UPHILL CLIMBnBy Bill Cottringe nn“Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing all the hard work you already did.” ~Newt Gingrich. This morning I was driven to write this article after initially responding via e-mail to an ...

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THE REAL ENTRY POINT TO WHOLE-GRAIN HAPPINESS AND SUCCESSnBy Bill Cottringe n“For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.” ~Stuart Chase. Several years ago my youngest daughter Abby was given an unusual final exam in her high school ...

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James Gray’s “Two Lovers” with Joaquin Phoenix, Gwenth Paltrow, and Vinessa Shaw was an amusing, but predictable movie. The plot involved a confused young man carrying on with two completely different lovers—one very passionate, slightly out-of-reach relationship with all sorts of possibilities, good and bad, and the other a comfortable love that he could easily grow into. He follows his heart and gets jilted at the last minute in his plans to run away with the hoped-for love, but luckily still has the comfortable, fall-back relationship as an alte ative to his suicidal thoughts.

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THE REST OF THE HAPPINESS STORYnBy Bill Cottringe n“Unhappiness is just the accumulation of an unwanted feeling arising from incorrect thoughts about and the anxiety of not being able to remove the source of the unhappiness and the increased unhappiness to which all this leads.” ~The Author. nn ...

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BynBill Cottringe n“Faith doesn’t fixate on the ownership of absolute truth of the mystery of life, it allows our experience and understanding of this mystery to grow as it may, with or without our belief and consent.” ~The author. One process seems most real to me—the creative ...

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The Secret In The Way of The Secretnby Bill Cottringe n I have to admit I am both a fan and a skeptic with all the hype this past year or so about “The Secret.” My “fan” perspective is a feeling one. I feel the fundamental truth of the Law of Attraction and power of positive thinking is ...

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“O Lord! Unhappy is the man whom man can make unhappy.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson. I have dealt with a lot of unhappy people during my 45-year career and I have been unhappy enough myself during my own roller-coaster ride in life to have experienced the top ten reasons causing unhappiness and their best commonsense cures from the trenches. Here goes: • Unhappiness Cause # 1: Wrong, dumb or silly beliefs that you can never prove anyway.

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THE UNNECESSARY SUFFERING PART OF NECESSARY SUFFERINGnBy Bill Cottringe n“Anything, anything would be better than this agony of mind, this creeping pain that gnaws and fumbles and caresses one and never hurts quite enough.” ~Jean Paul Sartre. Life involves a certain amount of painful, ...

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Not too long ago while in my living room, I spied a wasp clinging to the window. Not liking wasps all that much I went over to see if he was on the outside or the inside of the window. As it was, he was trapped between the glass window and the window screen. He had obviously flown onto the ...

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Not too long ago while in my living room, I spied a wasp clinging to the window. Not liking wasps all that much I went over to see if he was on the outside or the inside of the window. As it was, he was trapped between the glass window and the window screen. He had obviously flown onto the ...

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There Is Nothing Wrong With Seeing Things The Way They ArenBy Bill Cottringe n“Common sense is the simple knack of seeing things the way they are and doing things the way they should be done.” ~ Mark Twain. Here are two important clarifications that I think Mark Twain would have agreed ...

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THINK IT BUT DON’T SAY ITnBy Bill Cottringe n As a kid I never bought into the infamous playground chant, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me. Just re-look at my last name above. Now let your imagination run wild, empathizing about all the possible hurt and ...

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Thinking Away the CrapnBy Bill Cottringe nn“Keep writing. Try to do a little bit every day, even if the result looks like crap. Getting from page four to page five is more important than spending three weeks getting page four perfect.” n~Alan Dean Foster. I am not going to apologize for ...

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When all is said and done, everyone wants the same thing: to be happy. The demands of work and life often make it difficult to reach that ultimate goal. Here are three simple but powerful ways to reduce the stress in your life and enlighten up. 1. Plan for Joy. Begin to make a list of all ...

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According to a New York psychotherapist, "Loneliness is a leading social problem of our times. And when people make no attempt to overcome it, the consequences are often stagnation, doing nothing, anxiety and depression." Unfortunately, there are a number of misconceptions floating around ...

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You are probably as fed up, and frustrated, as I am with corporations to whom you entrusted your hard earnt money, and who are not returning solid results, but instead trying to confuse you with beautifully scripted results and announcements that portray a positive future and a one time exceptional (usually poor) result. These promises for a bright future though, never seem to materialize with funds in your dividend account, except in the good times, do they? How often are the questions asked: WHY are there ongoing one time exceptions?

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TRUE BALANCE: WHEN TO BE EVEN-HANDED AND WHEN TO GO FOR IT WITH ALL FOURSnby Bill Cottringe n“Genuine happiness and true peace of mind only come about when you begin to make progress at knowing when to be even-handed and when to close your eyes, hold your breath and jump in with all fours.” ...

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Trust: The # 1 Issue In Living, Relating, Working & Even Sleeping. BynBill Cottringe n“Trust is the secular version of religious faith and faith is the growing belief and comfort in the truth and certainty of something you can’t see or otherwise prove.” ~The author. Why is trust such an ...

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The mathematicia Benoit Mandelbrot asked a deceptively simple question: How long is the coast of Britain? The answer depends on how you measure it. You get a much shorter distance if you fly from one end to the other than if you drive a road that follows the island’s contours. The road gives a ...

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TWO BIBLICAL CHALLENGES TO FIGURE OUTnBy Bill Cottringe n“Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.” ~Be ice Johnson Reagonnnn There are two very powerful Biblical challenges that have provoked me for years in the search for ...

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Two Burning Questions That Keep Popping Up Like the Gopher-Bopping Game at Carnivals By Bill Cottringe n“Bold questions deserve bold answers.” ~ The author.nnn There are two burning questions that keep popping up in my life, just like the gopher-bopping game at carnivals. Bop them down ...

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TWO PATHS TO KNOWING BynBill Cottringe nnn“A good photograph is knowing where to stand.” ~Ansel Adamsnn A few years ago, my youngest daughter Abigail asked for some help writing a research paper as a requirement for transferring credit from her Epistemology class to a new high school for ...

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Understanding The Violence of RapenBy Bill Cottringe nn“Liberty without love is destruction; love without liberty is despair.” ~Thomas Troward. Earlier in my career as a prison administrator, when I was just beginning my learning curve on understanding the hard core problems of life in ...

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In Truth and Method, philosopher Hans Georg Gadamer explained how people come to understand texts. This is an ancient problem; philosophers have long known that you can’t fully understand the individual sentences of a text until you understand the whole text—the context in which they occur. At ...

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Undoing The Things In The Way Of Successful Reality Repair RxnBy Bill Cottringe nn“What we call reality is an agreement that people have arrived at to make life more livable.” ~Louise Nevelson. What life is all about is successful reality repair—fixing the realities we don’t like and ...

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Unhappiness/Happiness Reality Repai by Bill Cottringe n“There is only one cause of unhappiness: The false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” ~Anthony de Mello. Your reality repair results—decreasing ...

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It’s been 4 days since we said goodbye to the King of Pop - or as some would now call him, “The Greatest Artist that Ever Lived.” Some were shocked by the news, most saddened and some don’t care at all. Whatever your personal opinion of Michael Jackson, there is no denying the massive price this person paid for having so much success in his life. And along with that success came the high price of pain. For many, it is inconceivable that someone famous, wealthy or in the perfect relationship could have anything but joy in their life.

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WE MAKE HELPING TOO COMPLICATEDnBy Bill Cottringe n“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” ~Anne Franknn We tend to make things much more complicated than they need to be. I am not sure why we do this. Maybe out of boredom and ...

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As I am a traveller, I am often asked by people 'What are the people like, in this place or that place?' My answer is always a simple one ' How do you find the people where you are now?' The truth is - how you find the people where you are right now, is how you will find the people everywhere else! 'Lasting Success and happiness comes mostly from within and goes with you wherever you go, whenever you go' Terrie Anderson The Little Red Success Bookr Happiness we carry within us, it's very portable and light.

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What Can You Do When You Feel Life Doesn’t Care About Your Pain And Suffering? By Bill Cottringe n“This is where you win the battle—in the playhouse of your mind.” ~Maxwell Maltz. Unfortunately, the short and truthful answer to the title question is not what you want to hear—nothing. ...

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What Causes Unhappiness? (And Why This Question is Important) BynBill Cottringe n“An unanswerable question: Are good vs. bad and fair vs. unfair dualistic, subjective judgments a human invention just to know one from the other, or do things actually have an innate positive vs. negative flavor ...

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What We All Want and The Simple Game We Play to Get ItnBy Bill Cottringe n“Life is very simple; men insist upon making it complicated.” ~Confucius. It has taken me 4 decades of self-improvement giving and receiving, but I think I finally understand the penetrating meaning of the above ...

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Why Do Bullies Bully?nby Bill Cottringe nn“Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” ~Benjamin Disraeli.nnn I am beginning to think that a very widespread problem today, especially with youth, is the problem of perceiving you are being bullied (by life, parents, teachers, peers, employers, ...

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Why Is It So Hard To Talk About The Elephant In The Room? BynBill Cottringe n“Two cows were talking in a pasture. One says to the other, “Are you worried about catching mad cow disease?” “No” said the other, I am an elephant.” ~Bad joke. A work colleague of mine, Bob Bennett, is quick to ...

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Why You Should Focus More On The One Really Important Need You Have Rather than on The Many Others That Occupy Your Attentio BynBill Cottringe “We never understand how little we need in this world until we know the loss of it.” ~James Matthew Barrie. We all really just have one ...

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Why You Want To Abandon Your Comfort Zone Right NownBy Bill Cottringe n“The security and safety of a comfort zone are a persistent illusion; but the only real security is in accepting your insecurities as you venture outside of your comfort zone.” ~The author. Here are six very good reasons to ...

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I walked out of his office inspired. All I could immediately recall were those soft-spoken words, “STAY WITH IT”. They were from no less a person tha Rev. Sam Adeyemi of Success Power fame, on whom I had gone to pay a courtesy call. The first time we met was two years earlier when he came to my ...I walked out of his office inspired. All I could immediately recall were those soft-spoken words, “STAY WITH IT”. They were from no less a person tha Rev. Sam Adeyemi of Success Power fame, on whom I had gone to pay a courtesy call.

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“BEST RELATIONSHIP SUCCESS: Via Better Thinking and Better Communication” “Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~Henry Winkler

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“P” Point Management: Simple Clues for Closing Gapsnnnnn“When you want to fool the world, simply tell the truth clearly” (Otto Von Bismark). Here’s the simple and clear truth: The biggest problem we have today in managing our lives and our organizations is the prevalence of gaps. Success ...

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30 Questionsr To Help You Find Your Best Self Byr Bill Cottringer "You were not born a winner, and you were not born a loser. You are what you make yourself be."rn~ Lou Holtz.

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7 Locked Doors to Un-Doing Problem Behavior Byr Bill Cottringer “A man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way.” ~Mark Twain.

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A SIMPLE BUT PROFOUND LIFE-CHANGING CHOICEnBy Bill Cottringe n“The difficulty in life is the choice.” ~ George Moorenn Several years ago one of my best friends had a small piece of granite on his desk with some words that impressed me so much I made mention of the object several times. He ...

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AN IDEA WHO’S TIME HAS COME By Bill Cottringe nn Thanks to the relatively recent science of neuromarketing, brain research has begun to identify the central role of the reptilian part of the human brain (old brain)—below the thinking and emotional semi-conscious mental activities we ...

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AN IRRECONCILABLE CONFLICT? BynBill Cottringe nn“There is no squabbling so violent as that between people who accepted an idea yesterday and those who will accept the same idea tomorrow.” ~Christopher Morley. In his recent movie, Gone Baby Gone, Director Ben Affleck leaves his brother ...

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THERE ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES OF THE STORY n& THEN THERE IS THE TRUTHnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. nnn“Reality leaves a lot to the imagination.” ~ John Lennonnn Actually there are probably as many ‘stories’ as there are people on this planet. But, there is but one overall, unifying truth that ...

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ANGRY HEARTSnby Bill Cottringe nn There is an undesirable phenomenon going on today that we can all feel—angry hearts. Like any other problem we want to solve, we have to understand it and then figure out what we can do about it as individuals. Divisions between people seem to be ...

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ANGRY HEARTSnby Bill Cottringe nn There is an unexpected side-effect of being mentally and spiritually healthy: You become more aware of and obligated to help resolve the phenomenon of angry hearts. And this can be more time consuming, draining and beyond what you may think you are ...

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ANY RELATIONSHIP CAN GO SOUTH QUICKLYnBy Bill Cottringe nn“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~Henry Winkler. Great, good or ghastly relationships can go South in a New York second if they are not prepared ahead of time for the Big “S”—the inevitable stress that challenges ...

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Notice how often people distrust their memories, but not their judgment. Psychologists have developed thousands of experiments that demonstrate just how poor we are at making judgments, judgments of any kind – moral, business, even perceptual. You can get people to misjudge the length ...

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4 Simple Steps To Identify and Clear Bad Employee Behavior It’s a brand new day. You wake up after a great night’s sleep and get ready for work. You have objectives to meet, deadlines approaching and meetings scheduled which will make for a very full day. After a quick breakfast and a cup of ...

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Are You Asking The Right Questions? Byr Bill Cottringer “Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” ~Tony Robbins.

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BECOMING SINGLE-MINDEDnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnnn“Self-consciousness creates the illusion that there is a separate self from the rest of reality. That would be the funniest mistake in the world if so many people weren’t so convinced that the illusion is really true.” ~ The author. ...

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BECOMING YOUR SIGNATURE SELFnBy Bill Cottringe nn What do Oprah Winfrey, George Clooney, Jack Canfield, Tiger Woods, Nichole Kidman, Katie Keric, and Alex Rodriguez all have in common besides being extraordinarily good looking, rich and famous, and masters of their trades? Better yet, what ...

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BEING CERTAINnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn’t go away.” ~Philip K. Dick. The other day my daughter Abby was given a question to answer by the instructor of her epistemology class as a high school senior. The question was ...

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BEING HAPPY WITHOUT MONEY Byn Bill Cottringe nn“If you can’t be happy poor you can’t be happy rich.” ~ The Author. Are we all really capable of achieving great financial wealth like The Secret proponents and all the wealth books and wealth gurus profess? Are we all meant to have wealth? ...

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Magicians provide an excellent example of a ‘mistake hierarchy.’ A good card magician knows that many tricks depend on luck and that luck is a fickle friend. So, you tell the audience you’re going to do a trick. Without telling them what kind of trick, you go for the ...

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“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” ~Maria Robinson. As managers today, we are being challenged to use and teach one skill more than all the others in our toolbox—adapting to and teaching change successfully. Just pause a moment ...

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CHARACTER-BUILDING By Bill Cottringe nn If you do a Google search on “character-building programs in schools” you will uncover nearly a quarter of a million hits. Why is character-building such an important topic getting so much attention in our schools? First of all it is not ...

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CHOICES, CHOICES, CHOICES By Bill Cottringe nnn Probably the one thing we think about and do more than anything else in life is making choices. Many times we even have to choose to make a choice or not. We generally make choices from either our heads or our hearts, but usually somewhere in ...

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COLLABORATIVE LEADERSHIPnBy Bill Cottringe n n“A leader is a dealer in hope.” ~Napoleon Bonaparte. And so the opening question is when have we needed hope more than today, if it is just help to be more optimistic in seeing past the ornery information overload that is burying us all? ...

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DEALING WITH A CONTROLLING, TOXIC BULLY By Bill Cottringe nn It is easy to get trapped into feeling negative about being mistreated by a controlling, toxic bully and worse over not feeling you can do anything about it. It is frustrating, humiliating and maddening. And you can get even ...

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DECODING CONFLICT By Bill Cottringer nnnn Organizations today are faced with inevitable conflicts in team-building that will require creative resolutions that may be just slightly outside the leader’s toolbox. Even the most experienced leaders have to approach each new conflict with ...

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DIVORCE SURVIVAL KITnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn A pending divorce can be a scary and devastating experience for a married couple. For every divorcing person, the future is nothing but uncertainty, anxiety and confusion. Such an emotional state is not good for focusing on priorities or ...

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I learned to fly an airplane when I was 18 years old. Everyday I make use of a lesso I learned while practicing instrument flight. I use the lesson even though I’ve not in over 20 years. The lesson is that when you fly by the seat of your pants, by what your senses tell you, you can quickly get ...

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While it is true that there are many tricks for improving memory, it is also true that there are many ways to avoid needing to rely on your memory. • Leave written reminders for yourself in places that you pass throughout the day. A sticky note on your desk phone could help you remember to ...

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ESSENTIAL REALITY REPAIR Rx: Fixing Broken Realities & Creating Better Ones. BynWilliam Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.” ~Arthur Schopenhauer. I believe I may ...

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From Falling in Love, to Being in Love, to LovingnBy Bill Cottringe nn Over four decades of trial and error in relationships have taught me a valuable lesson. This lesson is to slow down and learn to listen to the lesson. The main purpose of a relationship is to get you to do something to ...

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GET READY TO RUMBLEnby William Cottringe nn There are plenty of dismal headlines in the business and public service news today. “Financial Meltdown,” “Profitability Plague” “Cooked Books,” and “Ethics Erosion” are common phrases today. Are these things just part of a bigger problem? nn ...

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GETTING YOUR HEAD, HEART AND SOUL TO AGREE By Bill Cottringe n Oh boy, I hope I haven’t bitten off more tha I can chew here with this title. It just came to me as a very important problem to solve—the many important disagreements between the information and choices these three things lead ...

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GIVE IN AND WINnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Conscience is what hurts when everything else feels so good.” ~ Unknown author. It was a rainy night in August of 1964 when this naïve 19-year old kid was assigned guard duty at the make-shift rear gate of Tan Son Nhut AB in Saigon, Vietnam. ...

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Planning should help you map your goals so they include not only what you are trying to accomplish, but also the bad things you want to prevent from happening, as well as the existing good things that you want to keep from disappearing. To do this, you must consider the bigger picture. The ...

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“He has the right to criticize who has the heart to help.” ~Abraham Lincoln. For as long as I can remember, there has always been a raging war inside me between the terrible twins within—head vs. heart. That is wrong and this is right. This will work out for the best and that won’t. I can ...

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HELP FOR REALTY REPAIR Rx? BynBill Cottringe n I am currently writing a book called "Reality Repair Rx: Making Things Better," which I feel is very important today given the extent and scope of the problems we are all currently facing (total overload). I recently published “Do What Matters ...

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HEROES, VILLAINS, VICTIMS & BYSTANDERSnby William Cottringe nnn In the game of life there are four main roles we can choose to play. These roles are Hero, Villain, Victim or Bystander. Which of these roles are you playing? HERO Heroes dream big, translate their dreams into ...

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How Do You Get Rid of Negative Thoughts? By Bill Cottringe n“All negativity is an illusion created by the limited mind to protect and defend itself.” ~Ambika Wautersn n By now the power of “The Secret” is commonplace knowledge. Since you attract what you ask for, the real secret is ...

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How Do You Know What To Do For Sure? By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Good judgment comes from experience and experience comes from bad judgment.”n ~ Anonymous. How do you know what to do for sure? That is a very good question to which we should all want to know the answer, especially ...

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Byr Bill Cottringer “Write to be understood, speak to be heard, read to grow.” ~Lawrence Clark Powell.

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How To Avoid Out-Aging Yourself Out Of A Job Byr Bill Cottringer “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” ~ Mark Twain.

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HOW TO TALK WITH GOD By Bill Cottringe n The other day I text messaged God’s Administrative Assistant to ask him how God would prefer for us to talk with Her. Since he was very well organized, as would be expected for an administrative assistant of the whole universe, he suggested I just ...

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Humility Is At Least Half-King By Bill Cottringe nn There is one critical virtue I can’t get enough of these days and I don’t think we ever appreciate its ultimate importance and value until the lack of it comes back to bite us in our butts. I think humility should be right up there with ...

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You have probably had the experience of not being able to tell somebody a phone number until you dialed it. Or perhaps you have given poor directions to a place you can easily drive to. This happens because we are able to remember procedures and tasks better than specific step-by-step ...

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JUDGMENTS, DEFENSIVENESS, UNDERCURRENTS, FESTERING & FAI ESSnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. Sooner or later conflict occurs in any relationship. A particularly difficult conflict is when one person thinks or acts one way about something that is diametrically opposed to the other person’s ...

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LANGUAGES OF THE HEAD, HEART AND SOULnBy Bill Cottringe nn“Truth is that sweet spot in time and place where your head, heart and soul hover over something from which nothing can be added, subtracted or changed.” ~The Author. I have been a student of conflict resolution and good ...

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Efficiency: Getting things done right. Effectiveness: Getting the right things done. Capital intensive: Requiring lots of money to accomplish. Labor intensive: Requiring lots of work to accomplish. Quality: Not what you put into a thing; what somebody else gets out of it. Emergency: A time ...

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LETTING GO OF ‘WHAT YOU KNOW’ MANAGEMENT THINKINGnBy Bill Cottringer What It’s All About It’s not about— How smart you are, Who you know, Where you’ve been, Or what you have; It’s not about you, Or what you’ve done, Or left undone. Here’s what it’s about: Your silent surrender— The ...

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LIGHT THEIR FIRESnby William Cottringe nn Knowing how to motivate employees is an important part of any supervisor’s toolbox. Fortunately you don’t have to be a psychologist to be an effective motivator. All you have to do is apply practical people principles in a common sense way. Below ...

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A Break From Problems Can Be The Best Solutio The best way to solve overwhelming problems may be to quit thinking about them. Are you so overwhelmed by problems that you feel you can't get your life in order? Do your attempts to pray or meditate just make you feel more frustrated? Do you ...

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Little Things Count Most in Getting a JobnBy Bill Cottringer. A long time ago I discovered an extremely useful concept called perturbation point, or just "P" point for short. These are the little critical things you can do to get the biggest results. The following checklist has the little ...

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Little Things That Can Help a Good Relationship Stay That Way By Bill Cottringer “A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results; a woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.” ~John Gray.

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MANAGING GAPS By Bill Cottringe n Much of the management role involves the important process of identifying critical gaps, understanding the details of what is in between where things are and where you want them to be, and then managing to close these gaps quickly and cost-effectively. Here ...

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MANAGING THE OVERLOADnBy Bill Cottringe n“Offices, desks, drawers, attics, basements, table tops, backyards, closets, medicine cabinets, garages, mailboxes, minds…all getting full of clutter and spilling over.” ~The author. nnn Everything I read, see, think, talk about, and experience these ...

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MENTAL DEMONS By Bill Cottringe nn We humans have been given something that can be seen as a gift or a curse—the ability or the affliction of self consciousness. This is our unique characteristic that separates us from the rest of the things in our world. What are these mental demons ...

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When studying a variety of subjects or working on a variety of projects, it is more difficult to do similar things right after each other than dissimilar things. Huh? For example, don’t study English then your foreign language then math then science. Instead, study English, then math, then the ...

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ONLY TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE? By Bill Cottringe n Getting along with other people and working together cooperatively is the fundamental foundation of successful outcomes in the workplace. This is true teamwork at its best. Organizations without this foundation don’t grow or prosper, at least ...

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PASSWORDS TO THE LAND OF PLENTY By Bill Cottringe nn In spite of the fact that far too many people are just surviving un-plentiful lives of quiet desperation, a thriving ride to the Land of Plenty does exist for us all. However, long ago when we decided to come to this life, we hid away the ...

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Being successful and winning in life takes much talent, effort, determination, cleve ess, good timing, and patience. However you can shorten the learning curve by understanding and practicing certain “P” points. These psychological power points are the little things you can do, with ...

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PRETZEL MANAGEMENTnBy Bill Cottringe nn“Pretzel Management is when you stop trying to figure out when one thing ends and another starts. You just spread some mustard, take a healthy bite and enjoy it.” ~ The author. I don’t think it’s just me but I sense management is getting ...

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PRETZEL MANAGEMENT OF THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF UNHAPPINESSnBy Bill Cottringe nn“Life probably gets annoyed at us for thinking too much. It’s like going to a great theatre production on Broadway or music concert at Carnegie Hall with virtual earphones, books, cell phones and DVD’s.” ~ The author.nn ...

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Truth = The absolute way things could be in a perfect world, where we are trying to go. Reality = The relative way things are in the real world, where we are at now. Conflicts occur when people have differing opinions as to the causes of and solutions to particular truths and ...

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PUTTING THE COMMON BACK IN COMMON SENSE AGAINnby Bill Cottringe nn Why do some people succeed and some fail in life? Why do we all sometimes fail and sometimes succeed? Can we do anything to improve our chances of success? In studying success and failure for over 40 years, I have ...

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RATIONAL REALITY REPAIR Rxnby William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“What is reality anyway? It's nothing but a collective hunch.” ~Jane Wagner. Whatever definition you give to “reality,” one of the biggest challenges in life is to learn how to successfully fix broken realities and create ...

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REALITY INSTRUCTIONS FOR KIDSnBy Gandpaw Billnn“One generation plants the trees; another gets the shade” ~Chinese Proverb. My oldest granddaughter, Hannah Banana form Metropolis Illinois (the real home of Superman, no joke!), reminded me (and I have to remind her she did this) that nobody ...

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Reality Repair RXnBy Bill Cottringe n“Reality does not conform to the ideal, but confirms it.” ~Gustave Flaubert. This is a good question: What is reality? Reality = “Anything about the past, present or future you believe to be actual and true because it comes from trustworthy sources such ...

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A big challenge in life is to fix the broken realities you don’t like and to create newer and better ones you want. Unfortunately this is much easier thought about in our heads than done with our hands. Most of us are still stuck trying to deal with undesirable realities that are getting in ...

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Reality Repair Rx Book Outline By William Cottringer, Ph.D. nnn In writing books or articles it is always good to stop now and then to question the importance and value of your writing topics and what your truest intentions are. I made a door sign some time ago that reads, “Dr. Cottringer, ...

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Two of my favorite words lately are alignment and purpose. When these two words are in sync with each other you can access unlimited success and abundance and all the positive feelings that come with those things. But when these two words are out of sync with each other, that is when you get ...

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“Reality is hard to see, harder to talk about and hardest to agree upon.” ~The author. It has taken me awhile, but I think I have finally figured out something very important. We all spend a great deal of time trying to repair broken realities we don’t like and trying to create new and ...

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REALITY REPAIR: With Stress-less SuccessnBy Bill Cottringe n“Reality is the leading cause of stress amongst those in touch with it.” ~Lily Tomlin. This is my 7th book and I am trying something entirely new this time around. I am starting out with a definite title to my book in mind; ...

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Sigmund Freud was certainly right about one thing. Human beings do have a ‘personality trinity’ that actually reflects many such equivalent three-part government and social systems. However, I think the three concepts originally used may not convey the relevant story today. ...

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REMOVING THE SAFETY SPACE BETWEEN YOU AND LIFEnBy Bill Cottringe n In a recent movie, "Lions for Lambs," the truth of life was pursued to the end from three different directions by three great movie stars, who probably weren’t acting: Tom Cruise, the ambitious politician, Meryl Streep, the ...

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“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.” ~Arthur Schopenhauer. This article is both a description of failing and a prescription of succeeding. Back in the early seventies two therapists ...

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I have noticed a scary decline in the level of customer service offered around the globe, in most businesses, in the past few years. Seems the tighter the economy, the less emphasis was placed on what should have been the critical element for sustainable success – retaining and attracting customers!

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SEVEN HELPING PILLARSnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.” ~Dr. Seuss.nnn We are all born with an innate desire to be successful and help others. There is wisdom in the saying, “you can best help ...

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SEVEN MANAGEMENT “SINS” THAT WON’T GO AWAY Byr Bill Cottringer "Always recognize that human individuals are ends, and do not use them as means to your end."rn~Immanuel Kant. There are seven “sins” that plague all managers from time to time and which even the best MBA trained managers like to deny they exist, at least in their own toolboxes. But the truth is that these “sins” do exist and are not likely to disappear and so they are a very real problem for employees to deal with. Of course it helps to accept and understand two important realities about these seven sins:

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Seven Simple Reality Repair RulesnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“Reality is what persists and accumulates when you finally see past what you think you are looking at.” ~The author. The modern science of quantum physics have proved a remarkable paradigm-shifting truth that has enormous ...

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SEVEN THINGS RELATIONSHIP COUNSELORS USUALLY WON’T TELL YOU By Bill Cottringe nn Now I realize that this article is going to rile a few people in the relationship counseling profession, but I will at least try to speak the truth gently and kindly. I have been there, done that and paid my ...

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SHARING THE SECRET OF SINGLE-MINDEDNESSnby Bill Cottringe nn The most important gift a leader can share is the illusive secret of single-mindedness. No organization can flourish with consistent growth, abundant prosperity and genuine success without single-mindedness of purpose and effort. ...

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SIX LIFE SECRETSnby Bill Cottringe nn Anyone who achieves genuine success knows there are six life secrets that have to be discovered and applied to produce that success. The bad news is that all these six life secrets work together to hide one another; the good news is that if you persist ...

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Slowing Down to Understand the Real Purpose of Life Byr Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy, successful and have peace of mind; but rather to learn how to be happy doing the few things that will result in a sense of progress at having greater happiness, success and peace of mind.” ~The author.

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You're a smart, hardworking entrepreneur, and you're moving fast. You are highly educated in your field and your business is growing and getting busier each day. But somehow, you find yourself stuck. You're doing more tasks that take you away from your core business, you are working more and ...

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SOULFUL SATISFACTION By Bill Cottringe n“It is not the things in life that bother us but rather our opinions about these things.”n ~ Epictetusnn Without a doubt, the above quote is my all time favorite, because day by day it keeps growing in meaning and value in my own life and adding ...

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SOUND LIKE THE TRUTH? By Bill Cottringe n Why is it important to “sound” like you are speaking, reading or writing the truth? If it is so important, how can you make sure you are doing it? First question first. 1. First of all, our perceptions and versions of the truth are what we act on, ...

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SUCCESS BY PERSPECTIVEnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. Success—What you get from doing what you do to get it; acquiring any or all of the following: Having an abundance of health, wealth, power, influence, friends and wisdom; gaining a sense of satisfaction from achieving your goals, being ...

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SUCCESS IS A BELIEF SYSTEMnBy Bill Cottringe n“Success is what you get from doing what you are doing to get it.” ~ The author. By now most of us realize we have moved into total overload—too much to know and do and too little time to get it all done. One special area of overload with ...

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SUCCESS IS EASIER DONE THAN SAIDnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. “People love chopping wood. In this activity one immediately sees results.” ~Albert Einstein. All the libraries of current success clues are making success harder said than done. We are all buried in the success overload and ...

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Talking to yourself has several benefits. First, it forces you to process information in a different way. Perhaps you have a picture in your head of what you mean; putting it into words can draw your attention to details that you otherwise might overlook. Second, talking to yourself helps you ...

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TEACHING RESISTIVE OLD DOGS NEW TRICKSnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnnn“The best way to teach something is to share a story of your own failure, tell what happened to help you get past it, and offer some helpful hints to succeed.” ~The author. A common problem in management and training is ...

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People often study as subject until they can get 100% right on a test of their understanding of the subject. While this is a sensible approach, it turns out that about 10% of the correct answers is composed of guesswork, short-term memory, and information not fully learned. The best approach is ...

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THE 3 C’S OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP BynBill Cottringe n We are probably all getting far too overloaded with how-to advice on being successful at things like relationships; and the last thing I want to do is contribute more to the overload. I just want to clarify a few important things I have ...

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The Challenge for Returning Veteransr By Bill Cottringer Veterans Day is a day we can all be thankful for the men and women who generously and unselfishly served our country, past and present and some with their lives, to keep the rest of us safe and secure in the freedom we cherish. This article is a special tribute to the military personnel now serving or returning from overseas duty in the many “war zones” around the world.

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The Common Misalignment Problem in Organizationsr By Bill Cottringer “Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” ~John F. Kennedy. Every “group” goes through a similar progression of four stages in its development and maturity: • Stage One: Members start out interacting with superficial “cocktail chitchat,” warming things up as an introduction of what is to come. • Stage Two: Then the conversations eventually switch to deeper subject matter conce s and issues, like the purpose of the group and how to proceed with that purpose and other related topics.

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The Ego DietnBy Bill Cottringe nn “Learning that just increases self-importance and autonomy, isn’t really learning at that point, it is over-nourishment of the ego, just like too much food causes the body to become obese.” ~The author.nnn We pretty well understand the importance of ...

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After decades of both humorous and sad failure attempts to fix broken realities I didn’t like in my own and others’ lives, I think I have finally discovered a simple prescription that I wish I had known about years ago. Many needless broken bones, bleeding and bruises could have been ...

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THE FOUR CORNERSTONES OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE By Bill Cottringe nn There are very good reasons why marriage failure is such a widespread epidemic. The four cornerstones of a happy marriage represent life’s toughest tests; and they are not lessons most people are skilled at learning right off ...

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THE FOUR STAGES OF ORGANIZATIONAL DEVELOPMENTnby William Cottringe nnn The human potential movement of the early seventies employed a helpful frame of reference to understand the process of interpersonal group development. This model involves four distinct stages of development: ...

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THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO KNOWnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“My quest has taken me through the physical, the metaphysical, the delusional and back...~John Forbes Nash. I am sure you all remember the powerful move, “A Beautiful Mind” (a great movie and book title!) in which the Aussie ...

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THE PLUS SIDE OF ADHDnBy Bill Cottringe nnn I have studied ADHD for nearly 60 years now and am ready to share the results of one very in-depth, classic case study—myself. As a child I would have gotten double “X’s” on every symptom checklist available. I ran and climbed constantly ...

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The Purpose of Relationships By Bill Cottringe n“Many men go fishing all of their lives without knowing it is not fish they are after.” ~Henry David Thoreau. Lately, I seem to be more successful at accomplishing what I am trying to do when I remain mindful of my primary purpose in what I ...

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THE REAL SOURCE OF CONFLICT WITHIN ANY CONFLICTnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“Differences in thinking about problems and solutions cause great conflicts; but the way we communicate about these differences is the source of continuing the conflict.” ~ The author. Conflicts are a frequent ...

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“Positive people live their lives like there are no tomorrows; negative people live life like it will go on forever but wish it wouldn’t.” ~The Autho n You really don’t have to have a Ph.D. in clinical psychology to explain why some people are positive and some are negative. Human ...

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THE TERRIBLE TWINS WITHIN (ANY RELATIONSHIP) By William Cottringer, Ph.D. There are two terrible twins that can rear their ugly head in any relationship and take it South in a New York second, if not managed properly. The two terrible twins within are expectations and control. Although ...

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The Terrible Twins Within: Our Psychological vs. Moral ConsciencesnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. “The human voice can never reach the distance that is covered by the still small voice of conscience.” ~Mahatma Gandhi. We start out and end up at the same place in finding and knowing ...

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THE TREADMILL TRAP: Keeping Up With The Speed Of ChangenBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn What is faster than a nanosecond? Whatever it is, it is upon us! Right at this moment I am both crying and laughing about the impact of Karl Fish’s “Shift Happens” I-Net and U-tube “Fishbowl: Did You ...

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THE TRICKS OF POSITIVE THINKINGnBy Bill Cottringe n“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ~Winston Churchill.nn n Gee, we have all heard enough about the power of positive thinking, right? You only get about 4 ...

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n“If you want to know where you are going, stop; look at where your feet are pointing and look behind you to see where the footprints are that got you here.” ~The Author. I have been a part of the positive psychology, human potential and self-help movements since the late sixties. At this ...

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THE TWO HALVES OF LIFEnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. From where I am standing do my looking today, there seems to be two distinct halves to my life. Of course I am interested in finding ...

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THE WILL TO GROWnBy Bill Cottringe n There is one particular motivation that has a significant impact on the quality of your life; it can result in varying degrees of happiness and unhappiness, success and failure, peace and turmoil and good health and ill health. This single motivation ...

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THREADING YOUR NEEDLE WITH LIFE’S ROPE By Bill Cottringe nnn A great challenge and opportunity we all have in life is to be successful in threading our needle with life’s rope. This is our main success quest behind all that we do. The keys to this quest are in understanding the rope, ...

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Training ROInBy William Cottringe nn Today, employee training has to be more cost effective than ever. Your tight bottom line can't afford the luxury of huge training expenditures without a serious return on investment. Below are the most important goals to focus on achieving in order to ...

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TRANSFORMATIONAL THINKING: Healing The Crack In The Cosmic Eggnby William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“You can’t solve a problem with the same type of thinking that created it.” n~Albert Einstein. My Native American Totem is the deer. What this means for me is that the deer spirit is here to ...

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There are a surprising number of problems that we can solve by not seeking the deeper cause, but by simply treating the symptom. Take procrastination, for example. In some sense you may be putting off doing something because of some Freudian conflict with your parents, but this can be made ...

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TRUTHFUL THINKING By Bill Cottringe n“Success is what we get from what we do to get it.” ~ The Author.nnn Which is more satisfying—week-old, cold apple pie out of the refrigerator or hot, freshly-baked apple pie with cold French vanilla ice cream on top? If Mary wants chocolate cake for ...

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ULTIMATE SUCCESS SECRET ON A PEDESTAL: RIGHT PERSPECTIVEnBy Bill Cottringe nn“It is not the things in life that bother us but rather our opinion about these things.” ~Epictetus What was Jack Palace meaning , as Curly in the movie City Slicker, pointing with his finger in the sky and ...

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UNLOADING THE MANAGEMENT OVERLOAD PROBLEMnBy Bill Cottringe nn“I have a theory about the human mind. A brain is a lot like a computer. It will only take so many facts, and then it will go on overload and blow up.” ~Erma Bombeck. Is it just my imagination or do other managers feel ...

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The principle is simple enough: Eat a variety of healthy foods, eat less junk, and exercise more. The question isn’t the principle. The question is How? I use Weber’s Law, which states that you can’t detect a difference in stimuli that is less than 10%. Have somebody lift a 50 and a 51 pound ...

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• Believe that you can. When confronted with a seemingly nasty problem or an apparently complex mathematical formula, people often give up without even trying to work on it. Often, however, with just a little effort you can solve such problems. An author wouldn’t put an equation in a book if it ...

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Walking to Successnby Bill Cottringe n“Slow down you’re doing fine. You can’t be everything you want to be before your time.” ~Billy Joel. There is too much hype about thriving to success and way too many hits about that “race” on the I-net (only 360 million!). Even the most simple, ...

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Make yourself aware of underlying metaphors in your communication. Metaphors can be very useful when you use them for elaboration of a topic. For example, we often speak about verbal arguments in terms of war metaphors. (Your claims are indefensible. He attacked every weak point in my argument. ...

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We are all Prisoners In The Vicious Circle Tit For Tat Bullying Tag Game By Dr. Bill Cottringer, in association with Storm Door Productions. “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” ~Benjamin Disraeli. Bullies Bullies come in all shapes and sizes— Countries, religions, girls and men, Strong, weak, big or small, All doing the same thing though; Shouting and spreading their hurt, Suffering and pain, Beating others down, To pull themselves up; Not seeing their wrongs, Or admitting insecurity, Not being content in any way, Continuing the cycle of hurt,r

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n“It’s not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” ~Mother Teresa. One very interesting research study I came across a few years ago was done with very senior citizens who were all over 95-years of age. What interested me most were the top regrets these people had ...

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What is Love?nby William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn I have studied the "love phenomenon" personally and professionally for over 40 years now and would like to share a few things I have discovered in my studies. First, it may be that we are being artificial and limiting in trying to describe and ...

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WHAT REALLY HAPPENED IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN? BynBill Cottringe n“Adam and Eve are like an imaginary number, like the square root of minus one... If you include it in your equation, you can calculate all manners of things, which cannot be imagined without it.” ~Philip Pullman. I have been ...

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WHEN ALL IS SAID AND DONEnBy Bill Cottringe n What remains when all is said and done? Take away all the additions, subtractions and changes we make to life with our thinking, perceptions and reactions and what remains is the 5% truth making up our personal success quest. Hidden away in that ...

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WHEN TO FISH OR CUT BAIT? By Bill Cottringe n“Adopt the pace of nature; her secret is patience.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. One of the hardest places to locate intellectually and emotionally is getting to the comfort zone where you can make the right decision to fish or cut bait—to continue ...

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n“Winning isn't everything, but the will to win is everything.” ~Vince Lombardi. After decades of mixed results—of both enjoying happiness and a sense of accomplishment in succeeding, and not enjoying the bruises, bumps, bleeding and broken bones of failing—I finally figured out a simple ...

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WINNING PRINCIPLES By William Cottringer, Ph.D. nnn“Winning and success are what you get from doing what you do to get them.” n~The Author.n n I have been an avid student of the psychology of winning/success for four decades now—learning all the knowledge and skills that bring about ...

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People do not perceive primarily with their senses, but with their minds. Psychologist Egon Brunswik and others have shown that people often don’t see a thing unless they have some idea of what they are looking for. The reason for this may be biological. In On Intelligence, Jeff Hawkins and ...

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WRESTLING WITH THE ULTIMATE CONFLICT: CONTRADICTORY PARADIGMS By William Cottringer, Ph.D. nnn“The only way you become aware of the intrinsic paradigms that guide your thinking are when they come in open contact with their opposites.” ~The author. I am sorry but I am not going to ...

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WRONG PERCEPTIONS CAN BE LETHAL By Bill Cottringe n“You are only as wise as others perceive you to be” ~M. Shawn Colenn It would be amusing if it weren’t for the destructiveness that wrong perceptions of people and situations can cause. What is amusing is that we are convinced of the truth ...

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A Simple Life Gap Map That Makes Sense Of The Ones You Have To Pay For Byr Bill Cottringer “Life gets to be fun only when we begin to feel free to live it; but there is no real freedom apart from responsibility and ownership.” ~Dr. Henry Cloud. Here are two important things you know than no one else does: First, only you know exactly where you are on your journey (probably not exactly where you would really like to be). And secondly, only you know where you want to be (living your dreams and goals happily and dealing with misfortunes gracefully).

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BE YOUR BEST SELF BY NOT TRYING TO BE A BETTER YOU Byr Bill Cottringer “We discover who we have always been when we stop attempting to become better than who we really are” ~Stephen Levine.

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Common Sense Time Management Learned The Hard Way Byr Bill Cottringer “Time is the school in which we learn, time is the fire in which we burn. ~Delmore Schwartz.

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Wars are raging all around us. Political battles fought daily in the work place, in government and in our family circle. The symptoms are many – jealousy, personal infringements and one upmanship are common, but mostly it is a turf war – a war over territory, whether that is physical territory such as a piece of ground or metaphysical territory . We see this everywhere - in the workplace, social environments, interdepartmental issues and of course betwee Nations. It is about trying to receive more – more sovereignty, more attention and accolades, more recognition and rewards.

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God’s Five Favorite Hiding Places byr Bill Cottringer Sometimes God is hard to find, let alone know very well. Not being able to see God, we have to go places where a God-like presence can be sensed in some distinct way. Here are God’s seven favorite hiding places, where such an invisible presence can be felt from the heart and validated by the mind. Troubled Waters

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Growing Old Gracefully Byr Bill Cottringer “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” ~Mark Twain.

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Growing Your Knowing Byr Bill Cottringer “A huge part of life is to live, learn and leave a legacy of that living and learning.” ~The author. To be able to leave this legacy of living and learning, you have to successfully navigate a roadmap of four levels of learning so you know what it is you have to do to bump up your knowing growing to the next level. All these four levels really help you answer this basic question better as you go: How do I know that what I think I know is really so, (for sure)? Clue: Never.

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Make Your Point! Byr Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Be ard Shaw.

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Managing Towards The Simplicity Just On The Other Side Of Complexity Byr Bill Cottringer “I wouldn’t give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but I would give my life for the simplicity just on the other side of complexity.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes.

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Relationship Reality Repair byr Bill Cottringer “Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. Successful relationships are all about keeping things in proper perspective. This is especially true about the different perceptions of the realities of the relationship, and what happens when the water starts getting a little rough on its way to being a tsunami. People get drawn into relationships for many different reasons (some overlapping), and of course it is best if these reasons are mutual, whatever they may be:

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STAYING HAPPY IN HOPELESS SITUATIONS Byr Bill Cottringer “No situation is completely devoid of all hope; hope is always there waiting patiently for patience to see it.” ~The author. Staying reasonably happy in hopeless situations is certainly one of life’s greatest challenge. Hopeless, impossible situations can hit us at the beginning or ending of life or anywhere in between, usually without a whole lot of warning. Consider the likely unhappiness in these hopeless situations: • Being born with a serious disability.r

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Success Working From Home Is Based On The Right Choices! Why Gamble?

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SUCCESSFUL SUPERVISION: SEVEN SURE SOLUTIONS Byr Bill Cottringer “You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself.” ~Galileo Galilei.

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The Best Way To Love Byr Bill Cottringer “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

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The Obvious But Most Misunderstood Quality Behind Success Byr Bill Cottringer “I look for a role that hopefully I feel empathy with and that I can understand and love, but also that has that challenge for me to play - a different kind of role, a different type of character, a different time period.” ~Kathy Bates

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Note: This is the original chapter 1 of The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles (available in PDF ebook for free download. The Chapter is called "The Right to Be Rich". If you like this chapter, you can download the entire PDF Ebook version of The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles for free HERE.

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THE TAO OF NEW INFORMATION AGE TIME MANAGEMENT Byr Bill Cottringer “The challenge today is to catch up to the shift between the manufacturing age goal of squeezing a penny out of a nickel to the new information age goal of squeezing a nickel out of a penny.” ~The author.

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The True Master Of The Clock & Calendar Has Neither! Byr Bill Cottringer “Time is our most important resource which is equally distributed to all, but unequally used by most.”rn~The author. Wasted Time— Some on past memories, More on future hopes, Most on not being here, Now and in the present, Using our time wisely, Doing what matters most.

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The World’s Worst War: The Bullies vs. The Bullied byr Bill Cottringer “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” `Benjamin Disraeli. The Problem: Today we are witnessing a major showdown between two failure extremes—the strong vs. the weak, or more in today’s terms, the bullies vs. the bullied. The bullying conflict is pervasive in every aspect of living. It is a destructive epidemic that cries for urgent attention and immediate cure. Just consider this spectrum of the conflict: • Weaker kids in school (or employees at work) getting picked on by stronger ones.r

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Trapped Under the Middle Part of the Bell Curve? Byr Bill Cottringer “Refuse to be average. Let your heart soar as high as it will.” ~W.A.Tozer.

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TWO QUESTIONS WORTH ANSWERING Byr Bill Cottringer “The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.” rn~ Norman Schwarzkopf. There are two very important questions you should ask yourself. Having the right answers can determine the quality of your life in regards to the amount of success and happiness you get to enjoy. These two questions are: 1. Do I know what the “right” thing to do is? 2. Why don’t I always do it?

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When Ability, Intelligence, Effort, Creativity, Perseverance & Luck Aren’t Enough Byr Bill Cottringer “Man may have been made in God’s image, but he has been trying to return the favor ever since.” ~Unknown humorous lay philosopher.

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A Better Relationship in a Weekr By Bill Cottringer No matter how good or bad your present relationship is it can always be better with minimal planning, effort, and cost. And in this economy that is a pretty good deal! Here is a very practical and easy way to have a better relationship in just one enjoyable week. Carry out the seven following suggestions Monday through Sunday next week and watch your relationship satisfaction thermometer rise above your expectations (Helpful hint: Holiday time is great for getting in the mood and having it stick around afterwards). Monday

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A Sensible Spiritual Viewpoint to Seriously Consider Byr William Cottringer, Ph.D.

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A New York psychotherapist has called loneliness one of the leading problems of our time. Researchers in the United States, Finland and Sweden found that loneliness ranks right up there with smoking as a health hazard and that people with strong social support networks are half as likely to die prematurely as those without. Overcoming loneliness can be an important goal indeed.

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Adaptable Leadership for our VUCA Worldr By Bill Cottringer

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Barriers to Prosecuting Human Trafficking Cases Byr Bill Cottringer

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Better Success with More Failure byr Bill Cottringer It is not the things in life that bothers us, but rather our opinions about these things. ~Epictetus.

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Check Your Beliefs at The Door byr Bill Cottringer “Beliefs are choices. First you choose your beliefs. Then your beliefs affect your choices.” ~Roy T. Bennett.

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Want some creative conversation topics? These are good topics or questions to have in reserve if conversation starts to lag on a date or in any other situation. First of all, however, don't overlook the obvious topics. Talking about the weather is seen as hackneyed, but it can lead to a very interesting discussion if the person you're discussing it with is interested in scienctific subjects. Asking the other person what type of books he or she likes to read is always a good topic and can lead to interesting discussions, especially if you find that the two of you share some interests.r

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There was a story recently in the news of a young Harvard Law student who got in big trouble! She was having an e-mail discussion with some “friends” and she made the dire mistake of confiding a politically incorrect opinion or two. Unsurprisingly (or I wouldn’t be writing about it) the e-mail came back to haunt her.

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Four Main Perspectives in the Game of Life Byr Bill Cottringer The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective. ~Al Neuharth. Heroes, Villains, Victims and Bystanders There are only four choices, For all the unheard voices: Be an honorable hero, And gain respect. Be a vicious villain, And gain distain, Be a sorry victim, And gain sorrow, Be a passive bystander, And gain nothing. Heroes use character, Villains use anger, Victims use pity, Bystanders use nothing. Heroes are positive and hopeful, Villains are negative and selfish,r

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Getting In Sync with The Way of Lifer By Bill Cottringer “In anything, timing is everything.” ~Benjamin Disraeli. During our lives we are all part of one main conflict, which is us vs. life. Of course, our everyday lives involve two other conflicts within this main one, which are us vs. others and even us vs. ourselves. The path of least resistance to resolving all these conflicts requires us to get more in sync with the Way of Life. Here are the seven behaviors that help us find this path so we can enjoy the benefits of being in sync with the Way of Life. 1. Slow Down.r

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Want a crash course in how shy men act around someone they like? Put yourself in their shoes. Think of a time that you felt shy yourself. How did it feel? How did you react? Shy people often have trouble making eye contact. They may tend to look down at their feet more than extroverts. Perhaps they get tongue-tied and don't know what to say. This is just how shy men act around women they like sometimes.

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How to keep a Job in Tough Times Byr William Cottringer, Ph.D. “The quickest way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” ~Oscar Wilde. In tough economic times, it is not a good thing to be unemployed. And if you are lucky enough to have a job, you don’t want to do anything to lose it by doing or not doing something under your control. In most states misconduct or quitting for no good cause will keep you from being eligible for unemployment benefits. And sometimes, you can even be proactive to avoid being laid off.

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Is she sending out the signals? Or not sending out the signals? Maybe she is just shy. Perhaps you're curious about how to know if a shy woman is interested in a man. It can be hard to "read" anybody, even talkative, outgoing people. But shy people can be doubly difficult. Because of their quiet, less communicative manner, it can be hard sometimes to understand what's going through their minds. It isn't easy for the shy person either. She may have more trouble talking to people, making eye contact, and communicating the positive parts of her personality.

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Everybody has certain verbal and nonverbal cues that indicate how they feel. Very rarely do people come right out and tell someone about their deepest emotional states. On has to learn how to interpret these nonverbal signals. Doing so is is the key to how to know if a shy woman is interested in a man. But perhaps, rather than spending too much time obsessing over these nonverbal signals, if you are the man in question, you should take the initiative. If you are successful, it will become obvious whether the woman is interested in you or not.

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Resurrect Your Dreams Byr Bill Cottringer “Deep down, nobody is ever quite satisfied with the amount of their childhood dreams they have actually realized and we are all disappointed with the amount that slipped away.” ~The author.

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SEEING THE REAL ENEMY Byr Bill Cottringer It pays to know the enemy - not least because at some time you may have the opportunity to turn him into a friend. ~Margaret Thatcher. The real enemy is not a person, group, country, or thing that we can easily see and fight against, but rather a compelling, persistent, and invisible illusion behind the curtain, well out of sight. A pervasive conflict, which hides the real enemy from our awareness, is the conflict we all feel between “us” and the rest of life. This all begins at our birth into this world with our own unique identity.

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Technology: The Ritalin Cure For ADHD Byr Bill Cottringer “For normal people, the artificial urgency created by today’s hyper-speed technology is a demon to be tamed; for people with ADHD, it turns out to be an angle in disguise just needing to fly itself into being tired.” ~The author.

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Ten Sensible Problem-Solving Strategies From the Trenches by Bill Cottringer Life is a series of problem-solving opportunities. The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you depending on how you respond to them. ~Rick Warren.

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THE ALMIGHTY SELF byr Bill Cottringer

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The Big Three Gap Closers byr Bill Cottringer Building on what we have in common always seems to be more productive than over-focusing on the sometimes annoying, noisy and irritating differences we have between us. Two early psychologists gave us some important clues about what we all have in common in living our lives. Abraham Maslow gave us the hierarchy of essential needs we all seek to satisfy. These are safety and security, physical comfort, belonging, self-esteem, love, meaning and self-actualization

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The Difficulties Of Selecting The Best Of The Bunch Byr Bill Cottringer “Never make predictions, especially about the future.” ~Casey Stengel. I won’t argue with Mr. Stengel’s wisdom when it comes to baseball; but in business, employers have way too much to lose without at least trying to be good predictors. And one of the areas that is too costly as a result of poor prediction by employers is the one of employee selection. The adverse effects of ineffective employee selection practices by an employer, can literally kill the bottom line.

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The Impacts of the Human Trafficking Violence Trauma Experience by Bill Cottringer I’m tired. I just want to go home. ~Anonymous survivor. Helping survivors get past the violence trauma of a human trafficking experience is a challenging effort. It requires an informed understanding of the total impact this horrid experience uniquely has on each different person. Below are the various impacts of loss that each survivor goes through to some degree or another, which need attention by human trafficking service providers in their trauma informed care model.

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The Spiritual Split Byr Bill Cottringer “Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha. One such truth is the awesome power of threes. Just consider the influence of the threes in pyramids, the Christian trinity, colors of traffic lights, a tri-fold dinner menu, the times of the past, present and future, the Bill of Rights with the life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness, and even Freud’s personality divisions of the id, ego and superego.

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The Two Problems of Problem-Solving byr Bill Cottringer If I had only one hour to save the world, I would spend fifty-five minutes defining the problem, and only five minutes finding the solution. ~Albert Einstein.

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Do you have a child or children who are shy? Perhaps you are a teacher or a caretaker for a number of children. If this is the case, perhaps the question has crossed your mind, "What to do about shy kids?" Shyness may or may not be readily apparent in young children. Some children may cling excessively to mommy in any unfamiliar situation. Others may show no signs of shyness in early childhood, but may develop it during their growing up years.

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Ever reached the limit of inspiration and action in your business and yet nothing seems to work? Well you are not alone. At some point many entrepreneurs feel stuck. Maybe you’ve tried every marketing technique in the book and still seen no increase in clients; or your business revenue is ticking along but you can’t step up to the next level; or you just can’t break out of trading time for money to create new income streams. It’s very frustrating when even time, money and effort fail to show any immediate results.

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Are You A Worry Wort? Byr William Cottringer, Ph.D. “You know you are in big trouble when you start worrying about how much you are worrying.” ~ The Author.

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BELIEFS & BEHAVIOR byr William Cottringer, Ph.D. You never know how much you really believe anything until its truth or falsehood becomes a matter of life and death to you. ~C.S. Lewis.

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Enemies of Truth byr William Cottringer, Ph.D. Truth is like the beauty of a great sculpture—all that is left when you can’t take away, add, or change anything more. ~Anonymous. At times there seem to be more enemies of truth than friends. If you are a real truth seeker, here are a few truth “enemies” of which to be more watchful: 1. The Brain.

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In and Out of Ruts byr Bill Cottringer “It takes guts to get out of the ruts.” ~Robert H. Schuller. First of all, here are the two main elements of a “rut” that can help us arrive at a common understanding of what we are talking about here. • Being somewhere where you don’t want to be or not being somewhere where you do want to be and not seeming to be able to do anything about the situation. • Doing something you don’t want to be doing or not doing something you do want to be doing and being stuck in the situation.

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Life’s Ground Rules byr Bill Cottringer Reality is the composite of the a priori laws of the universe which are left over from when we strip away all the perceptions, beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions that have been made. ~ The author.

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Navigating Conflicts Successfully by Bill Cottringer Conflicts are an inevitable part of life and when they are not resolved, they often come back with increased velocity and vengeance to take a bigger bite from a part of the anatomy that really hurts. ~The author.

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Seven Learning Lessons from Failures "Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts." ~Winston S. Churchill.

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Several Sound Sources of Happiness Byr Bill Cottringer Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. ~Mahatma Gandhi. Unhappiness is easy to have, but having authentic happiness is one of life’s greatest challenges because of the many adversities that inevitably occur in our lives. In this article we will first go for the low hanging fruit and then work our way through the weeds to explore the more complicated ways to be happy. Happiness can simply be defined as what you get from what you are doing to get it.

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Ten Essential Elements of Violence Trauma Recovery byr William Cottringer Ph.D. There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.rn~Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral's Kiss. Building Blocks (the basement). 1. Supportive Communication.

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Understanding Violencer By William Cottringer, Ph.D. "Violence in an uncontrollable animal, which usually ends up attacking its own master." ~Renny Yagosesky. There are two main problems standing in the way of understanding violence. One roadblock is that the violence trauma event is strictly an emotional one that can’t really be understood or corrected with rational thought. This is because these two mental processes use different languages to process information.

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The Success Team Formula Within Byr Bill Cottringer Effective teamwork between quality thinking, healthy emotionality, disciplined behavior, and spiritual intelligence invariably results in long-term success, along with authentic happiness, genuine peace of mind, and inherent satisfaction. ~The Author. Here is the simple Success Team Formula that tells you what to do and how to do it, with the why built in: Quality Thinking + Healthy Emotionality + Disciplined Behavior + Spiritual Intelligence = SUCCESS.

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“P” Point Power byr William Cottringer, Ph.D. Experience is not what happens to you; it's what you do with what happens to you. ~Aldous Huxley.

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Be a Winner of the Conflict Trifecta Byr Bill Cottringer Conflict is the beginning of consciousness. ~M. Esther Harding.

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GAP-CLOSING Byr Bill Cottringer Life is all the stuff that happens in between acknowledging our gaps and trying to deal with them. ~The author.

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The Path from Nobody to Somebody byr Bill Cottringer "Be a somebody who makes everybody feel like a somebody." ~anonymous.

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The Pursuit of Happiness byr Bill Cottringer Words can rarely capture the essence of an experience in life, especially common or over-used ones. Oddly though, the way you choose to define things like success, happiness, justice, freedom, and love, can often determine how much or how little of these things you actually have in hand. ~The Author. Happiness Lost What is happiness? Easier to say what it’s not— Not frustration, failure, or fiction, Or suffering, sadness, or sorrow, Have we hidden happiness, Just to enjoy finding it more? Seems harder to find,r

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Unifying the Divide byr Bill Cottringer A house divided against itself cannot stand. ~Abraham Lincoln.

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What is Our Basic Nature? Byr Bill Cottringer He who has so little knowledge of human nature as to seek happiness by changing anything but his own disposition, will waste his life in fruitless efforts. ~Samuel Johnson.

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A Serious Limitation with Words byr Bill Cottringer “Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation.” ~Rumi. Ever since being a young acolyte in the Episcopal Church studying the Bible and doing a book report on it for English class in high school, I have always been intrigued with the literal and metaphorical meanings of two declarations in the book of John. The first fiat is “In the beginning, was the Word”) (John: 1:1) and the second is “The Truth will set you free” (John 8:32). I’ll start things off with the Word and end with the freeing Truth.

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Conflicts and Heartaches byr Bill Cottringer “Difficulties are meant to rouse, not discourage. The human spirit is to grow strong by conflict.” ~William Ellery Channing.

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Dangers of a Divided Mind Byr Bill Cottringer “Warning: A divided mind misses half of everything but deludes you into believing you have the whole truth. So, if you want to get twice as much done in half the time in finding the whole truth, rejoin your divided mind.” ~The Author.

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Problem-Solving in Our VUCA World byr Bill Cottringer “I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” ~Alan Greenspan.

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Seven Crossroads byr Bill Cottringer “If you come to a fork in the road, take it.” ~Yogi Berra.

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The Problem of Our Time Byr Bill Cottringer “We cannot solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.” ~Albert Einstein.

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The Tao of Teams byr Bill Cottringer “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” ~Helen Keller, activist.

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Two Illusions That Spoil Reality byr Bill Cottringer “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” ~Søren Kierkegaard.

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Understanding Extreme Behavior Byr Bill Cottringer “Human behavior flows from three main sources—desire, emotion, and knowledge.” ~Plato. Is it my imagination or is extreme behavior becoming more commonplace these days? Is the incident rate of extreme behavior actually increasing or is the ubiquitous internet access and pervasive social media coverage giving an exaggerated boost to that perception? A fellow truth traveler friend of mine asked me why extreme behavior occurs. Here is my current understanding of the psychology of extreme behavior:

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A Baker’s Dozen Classic Ah-Ha Moments Byr Bill Cottringer “We often get the thinking-feeling-behavior sequence mixed up. It is important to understand that it is behaviors and actions, not thinking, that result in our feelings, which in turn often prompt problem behaviors.” ~The author.

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Challenges in Virtual Communication byr Bill Cottringer “Texting is a brilliant way to miscommunicate how you feel and misinterpret what other people mean.” ~Anonymous. Face to face (f2f) communication itself has many challenges but communicating in the new virtual world surrounding us has just worsened these communication challenges. Below are the ten biggest challenges to work on overcoming. 1. Words.r

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Human Capital Leadership Essentials Byr Bill Cottringer “Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” ~Jack Welch. If the dreadful COVID-19 pandemic taught the gamut of private business world, non-profits, and public government organizations anything, it is two critical things: (a) the need to be more people-centered, and (b) the requirement to be more agile and adaptable to change. Today, these two realities are widely acknowledged but unfortunately not so widely applied in actual practice.

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Peace of Mind byr Bill Cottringer “When you've seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there.” ~George Harrison. The amount of peace of mind we have, like happiness, contentment and other states of mind, depends largely on who we define the concept. It may be easier to state a few examples of what we all know is not peace of mind: • Mental turmoil from unresolved conflicts. • Unwanted, painful interactions with family or friends. • Defensiveness from exposure of vulnerabilities and insecurities.r

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Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.

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Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.

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Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.

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Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.

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Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.

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Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.

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Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.

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Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.

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Repairing Virtual Communication failuresr Byr Bill Cottringer “In a world that is constantly changing, it is to our advantage to learn how to adapt and enjoy something better.” ~Kenneth H. Blanchard. Live, face-to-face (f2f) communication has always been difficult, unfortunately with miscommunication being the norm. Now that we have quickly transitioned to a largely virtual world, good communication has become even more of a challenge. Below are a few useful tips to improve virtual communication. 1. Use Likeable Words.

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Spiritual Intelligence byr Bill Cottringer “Spiritual Intelligence is seeing past what you are looking at; or better yet, it is seeing the unseeable and knowing the unknown.”

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Ten Teaching & Training Tricks That Stick byr Bill Cottringer “No one learns as much about a subject as one who is forced to teach it.” ~Peter Drucker. Although Peter Drucker has a good point, having a full bag of teaching and training tricks can certainly help improve the learning for everyone involved. Below are ten tried and true teaching and training tricks that stick like duct tape. This short list is just from my experience and so if these don’t have any resonance value for you, I challenge you to make your own list!

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The Dynamics of Trust byr Bill Cottringer “The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” ~Ernest Hemingway. Trust is an essential ingredient to successful resolution of the three main conflicts which we all must deal with in life: (a) us vs. life (b) us vs. them, and (c) us vs. ourselves. In a sense, our lives are a series of these three main conflicts in various forms. Much of the problem of distrust in these conflicts comes from the traditional competitive, win-lose mentality, whereas more trust seems to follow the newer cooperative, win-win approach.

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The four Crucibles of Success Byr Bill Cottringer “The ‘luck’ of success is when your talents and efforts meet the right opportunity to apply them.” ~Anonymous.

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The Wisdom of Insecurity byr Bill Cottringer “Uncertainty is the only certainty there is and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security.” ~John Allen Paulos.

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7 Pillars of Character Power byr Bill Cottringer “Be more conce ed with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”rn~ John Wooden. 1. Openness.

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A Belief Worth Questioning Byr Bill Cottringer “Tolerance implies no lack of commitment to one's own beliefs. Rather it condemns the oppression or persecution of others.” ~John F. Kennedy. All the world’s dreadful problems and the unwanted miseries they bring, are caused by one questionable belief that has gone unquestioned for too long. This belief is that some people have the absolute right to control and “own” others, with the imposed certainty that the controllers have more experience, better truths and superior success prescriptions than those they control.

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A Few More Thoughts About Happiness byr Bill Cottringer “Breathe in common sense and breathe out nonsense.” ~The Author. Happiness has as many different definitions and ways to get it as there are people on the planet. Here are a few more thoughts about happiness I have had recently, since my book, “Thoughts on Happiness.”

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A Prescription for Resolving Interpersonal Conflicts byr Bill Cottringer “All conflict can be traced back to someone’s feelings getting hurt, don’t you think?” ~Liane Moriarty, Big Little Lies.

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A VERY ANNOYING HABIT byr Bill Cottringer “I personally believe we developed language because of our deep inner need to complain.”rn~Jane Wagner.

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Accidental vs. Intentional Careersr By Bill Cottringer “Our strongest gifts are usually those we are barely aware of possessing. They are a part of our God-given nature, with us from the moment we drew first breath, and we are no more conscious of having them than we are of breathing.” ~Parker J. Palmer.

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ARE YOU LUCKY OR UNLUCKY? byr Bill Cottringer “Good luck is when opportunity meets preparation, while bad luck is when lack of preparation meets reality.” ~Eliyahu Goldratt.

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Beating the COVD Holiday Blues Byr Bill Cottringer “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. Wishing you happiness during this holiday season.” ~Helen Keller This year the normal holiday spirit may be dampened by the COVID situation that is trying to hold us all hostage. But in an effort to not let that happen, here are a few suggestions on keeping the holiday spirit alive and well:r

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BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF byr Bill Cottringer “Knowing others is intelligence. Knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true strength.” ~Lao Tzu. An earlier Psychologist, Abraham Maslow, proposed a hierarchy of needs that all people had a drive to satisfy. This was Maslow’s attempt to explain human motivation. Each need must be met with a certain level of satisfaction before we are inclined to move up through the hierarchy with any degree of serious intent or likelihood of satisfying that need.

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Benefits & Callenges of Diversity Byr Bill Cottringer “Our ability to reach unity in diversity will be the beauty and the test of our civilization.”rn~ Mahatma Gandhi.

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Better Time Management for 2020 and Beyond byr Bill Cottringer “Time is the one resource that is equally distributed, but unequally used.” ~The Author. This combining millennium will likely just continue to overload us with more and more information, where we end up never having enough time to do all that we need to do. We typically get half us much done in twice the time, instead of how it should be as vice versa. Here are some practical tips to stretch your time:

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Commonsense Solutions to Our Three Main Conflicts Byr Bill Cottringer “Ideologies separate us. Dreams and anguish bring us together.” ~Eugene Ionesco.

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Communicating with Today’s Workforce Byr Bill Cottringer “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.” ~Peter F. Drucker.

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Developing a Winning Success Style byr Bill Cottringer “When you win, say nothing. When you lose, say less.” ~ Paul Brown.

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Developing Emotional Intelligence byr Bill Cottringer “Having both intellectual intelligence (IQ) and emotional intelligence (EQ) is necessary to be successful. What you lack in IQ points, you can make up for by having emotional intelligence.” ~The author.

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Divide and Conquer Byr Bill Cottringer “Divide and rule, the politician cries; Unite and lead, is watchword of the wise. ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Gedichte. In war, the divide and conquer rule has always gotten the expected results. Ironically though, this same principle can also be useful in bringing peace to the Divide in our country. The conquering of the Divide requires more dividing to understand the real problem. The Divide

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DO WHAT MATTERS MOST By Bill Cottringer “There's a mess inside you: You clean the outside.” ~Anonymous, The Dhammapada. Do what matters most. I once wrote a book with that title. It took me more than 600 pages to wade through some extreme complexity to get to the profound simplicity of the four things that do matter most—Family, friends, fun and work. In this spirit, I am thinking my way back to the middle of complexity and simplicity to offer a baker’s dozen of the most important things to do in life with family, friends, fun and work:

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FOUR CRUCIBLES OF SUCCESSFUL LEADERSHIP Byr Bill Cottringer "A good objective of leadership is to help those who are doing poorly to do well and to help those who are doing well to do even better." ~Jim Rohn. The four crucibles of successful leadership include: Becoming an expert at managing yourself first, developing proper focus, learning the people principles of managing others and resolving to be a perpetual, insatiable student of work and life. 1. Self-management.

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Good People, Bad Ethics byr Bill Cottringer “In my college ethics class, someone stole my textbook and I thought that was rather ironic.” ~The author.

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Good Sense About Getting Along with Others During Troubled Times byr Bill Cottringer “The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” ~Theodore Roosevelt.

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GREEN, YELLOW & RED LIGHTS Byr Bill Cottringer “Three things cannot be long hidden: The sun, the moon, and the truth.” ~Buddha.

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Healing the Divide: A Few Partial Solutions Worth Considering. Byr Bill Cottringer “Until we can reconcile mind and matter as just being different sides of the same coin, dualistic thinking will continue to take things apart rather than put them back together where they belong. ~ The author.

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Hopelessness: The Only Real Enemy Worth Defeating Byr Bill Cottringer “Hopelessness is a feeling. It's not a fact.” ~Anohni Hopelessness is the main cause of all the world’s problems and hope is the only real antidote. Thank heavens for the reality of the quote above, that hopelessness is a feeling rather than a fact. This reality alone is worth having hope about in joining forces to defeat the common enemy of us all—hopelessness—or call it by any other name…anxiety, nilism, fear, lack of trust, pessimism, depression, existential terror, war, or whatever else seems to fit.

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Job-Getting Reminder Tips Byr Bill Cottringer Although the post-pandemic job market is starting to lean toward favoring employees over employers, it is still a difficult challenge to find the right job today. Success requires some serious preparatory work in the following three areas, in making the attempt to market yourself better and stand out from the rest of the crowd. Job

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Leadership Skills Byr Bill Cottringer If your want to be a leader, feel free to test your potential against this self-assessment instrument. And if you are already a leader, you can assess the level of leadership skills you have achieved and the ones still needing some work. The scoring key follows the self-ratings. 101 Leadership Skills Self-Assessment Instrument © 2020 Dr. Bill Cottringer, Cascade Security Corp.

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Looking for Greener Pastures Byr Bill Cottringer “The grass on the other side of the fence isn’t always greener. Sometimes it is just a different shade of brown and other times it comes with unwanted weeds and underground pests. ~The Author. Having played fierce musical chairs for over 5 decades now with careers, jobs, relationships, living locations and even with politics, religions, and schools, I can attest to the truth of the opening quote. Here are just a few honest views of both sides of the fence: Big vs. Small

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Managing Success for a Better Destiny byr Bill Cottringer “It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” ~Tony Robbins.

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Modernize Your Mind byr Bill Cottringer The year 2020 might be a good time to think about modernizing your conventional mind, that is, if life hasn’t already forced you to do this. Here are some low-resistance, practical tips on facilitating mind- modernization:

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Psychological Power Points of Effective Writing byr Bill Cottringer “Every secret of a writer’s soul, every experience of his life, every quality of his mind, is written large in his works.” ~Virginia Woolf.

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Psychology for Dummies (Like Me & You) Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing things the way they are and doing things the way they need to be done.” ~ Mark Twain. 1. Most of what we think we know really isn’t so, whether we like that reality or not because it is true. Why we wait so long to admit this, is a mystery. Our brains need to be purged of worthless information, so we can make room for what we really need to know in order to thrive past our surviving.

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Seven Sure Paths to Self-Actualization Byr Bill Cottringer “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” ~Theodore Roosevelt.

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SEVEN VERBS TO DEFEAT ANGER Byr Bill Cottringer “Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” ~Ambrose Bierce.

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Small Thinking Can’t Solve Big Problems Byr Bill Cottringer “Logical, intellectual thinking can prove or disprove relative beliefs and at best most of these turn out to be half-truths which are not worth clinging to. But only whole-brained rational and spiritual intelligence combined can discover the absolutes that are worth dying for.” ~The Author.

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Some Uncommon Sense We Should Teach in Schools? Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing something as it is and doing something as it should be done.” ~Mark Twain. During my last seven decades of living, I accidentally stumbled upon some uncommon sense which I wish had been taught to me earlier in school. Here is the uncommon sense that is better to learn, sooner than later, but better later than never.

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Ten Life Lessons You Can Only Learn the Hard Way Byr Bill Cottringer “âThough nobody can go back and make a new beginning, anyone can start over and make a new ending.” ~ Chico Xavier.

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Ten useful Suggestions on Improving the Quality of Your Life byr Bill Cottringer “Our egos are utterly convinced that ‘quality of life’ is found in the ‘domineering of life.’ And a very simple way to effectively destroy the whole of your life is to live by this for the smallest part of your life.” ~Craig D. Lounsbrough.

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The ABC’s of Success Byr Bill Cottringer “Success is what you do to get what you consider to be a success.” ~The Author. The only “luck” that is involved with success comes from two sources: (a) You are lucky enough to be among the few to be born into an established success environment with all the necessary assets present, or (b) like most successes, “luck” is when all your arduous efforts meet the right opportunity, seemingly ove ight, but gradually.

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The ABC’s of Success in Anything & Everything Byr Bill Cottringer “How much or how little you have of something, depends mostly on how you define that something.” ~The Author.

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The Dynamics of Dishonesty byr Bill Cottringer “Accuracy is the twin brother of honesty; inaccuracy, of dishonesty.” ~Nathaniel Hawthorne. One of the most important ingredients in any relationship is trust. Trust is enhanced by honesty, while dishonesty is a hungry termite that strips the foundation of trust. Understanding the dynamics of dishonesty can go a long way towards taming its impact on human relations and the quality of our lives. Below are the main interacting factors that drive dishonesty:

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The Only Two Ways to Heal the Divide Byr Bill Cottringer “Divide and rule, the politician cries; unite and lead, is watchword of the wise.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.

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The Three Core Conflicts byr Bill Cottringer “Unresolved conflicts usually return as noisier versions with more intensity, vengeance and difficulty.” ~The author.

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The Three Main Highways to Success Byr Bill Cottringer “Knowing how to succeed is the easy part. The hard part is in translating your desire into hard work and maintaining perseverance through inevitable setbacks.” ~ The Author.

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The Trouble with Beliefs Byr Bill Cottringer “Man is what he believes. ~ Anton Chekhov.

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The Truth Shall Set You Free Byr Bill Cottringer “The beautiful irony about the truth is that it hates dark places. It despises being hidden. It loves the limelight, and it always forces itself out.” ~Mitta Xinindlu. From my research, there seem to be two main opposing sources for interpreting the true literal and the intriguing metaphorical meanings of the biblical passage from John 8:32: “The truth shall set you free.” The Bible

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The Truth Will Set You Free2 (John 8: 31-32) Byr Bill Cottringer “The truth will set you free. But not until it is finished with you.” ~David Foster Wallace, author. From my research, there seem to be two main opposing sources for interpreting the true literal and the intriguing metaphorical meanings of the biblical passage from John 8:32: “The truth shall set you free.” The Bible

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Time: The Ultimate Yin-Yang Urstoff byr Bill Cottringer “The hidden portal to real time is the precise now moment of when the past and future collide into the present.” ~The author. To see true time, You need double vision, One eye for conventionr The other for imagination. First you look, Then you see, First clock time, Then the ete al now. When they rhyme, You know time.

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Today’s Primary Problem: Commonplace Evil Byr Bill Cottringer “The way in which you define something has a lot to do with how much or how little of the thing you have in hand, both quantity and quality.” ~The Author.

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Two Serious Problems We were Warned About in 1970 By Bill Cottringer “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything” ~George Be ard Shaw.

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Various Versions of Happiness Byr Bill Cottringer “Happiness is what you do to stumble upon it.” ~The Author. The pursuit of happiness is something we all engage in, to some degree or another. And the last I heard, it is still an inalienable constitutional right of Americans and should be for all people on the planet. But this pursuit of happiness is where the commonality starts disappearing—in the many paths people choose to follow to find it. Below are several different paths to happiness people travel.

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We Are Alike & We Are Different Byr Bill Cottringer “It is a darn shame that we spend so much time arguing and being annoyed with our differences, and not enough time understanding and celebrating them.” ~The Author. An important insight to apply for success is knowing the commonalities we have in unity as human beings and the differences that separate us and make us all different. Our unique ability of self-consciousness already separates us from the rest of life and that should be quite enough separation.

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What’s Behind the Curtain of the Political Divide in America? Byr Bill Cottringer “We divided ourselves among caste, creed, culture and countries but what is undivided remains most valuable: a mere smile and the love.” ~Santosh Kalwar.

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Whole-Brained Thinking © 2021 William Cottringer “A wise person uses intelligence to find reasons to support intuition.” ~The author.

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Writing Options Byr Bill Cottringer “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.” ~Ernest Hemingway. Writing is both an art and science involving both the right and left hemispheres of the brain, including the thinking and feeling brain functions. Many great writers feel that they didn’t intentionally choose the profession of writing, but rather writing choose them as its available conduit. The better writers have lost their egos along the way.

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“P” Point Photography: Seven Success Sources Byr Bill Cottringer “Photography takes an instant out of time, altering life by holding it still.” ~Dorothea Lange Learning the art of good photography offers valuable life lessons that can bring success in other endeavors. Here are seven wisdom lessons I have learned with my photography passion that can be useful in doing just about anything and especially so in meeting life’s most difficult challenges: PRIORITIES

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7 SURE BUILDING-BLOCKS OF SUCCESS Byr Bill Cottringer “Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose.” ~ Bill Gates.

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A Disturbing Reality Byr Bill Cottringer “Logic will never change emotion or perception.” ~ Edward de Bono.

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“Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means” ~Ronald Reagan.

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AN ATTITUDE FOR ALL SEASONS byr Bill Cottringer “The amount of success you have or don’t have, is more related to how you define success, than all you talents, efforts, motivation, timing and luck combined together.”~ The Author.

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An Epiphany About Intentionalityr By Bill Cottringer “All things considered, the concept of willfulness loses sight of too many of them.” ~The Author.

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Are There Still Differences Between Male and Female Psyches? Byr Bill Cottringer

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Are You Smart Enough? Byr Bill Cottringer “Half of being smart is in knowing what you are dumb about.” ~Solomon Short. I have been an avid researcher of the connection between intelligence and success for several decades now, and am finally ready to release my short list for guaranteed results—How to be smart enough. Maybe I should start out with the disclaimer that you can never be smart enough, as becoming smart is a forever road you have to travel. So, to become smarter, there are three aspects of intelligence to consider that collectively define smartness: IQ

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Beta blockers can provide some benefits in lessening the distressing physical symptoms of social anxiety, such as pounding heart,, shaking, sweaty palms, et cetera. It is possible that medication can even reduce some of the negative thoughts felt by anxiety sufferers, although this is not guaranteed. In some people, medication can ease depression as well as reducing anxiety. Beta-Blockers Work by blocking the beta-adrenergic receptors or the receptors on the distal neurons that are activated by noradrenaline.

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Birth of The Terrible Twins Within (Our Dualistic Minds) Byr Bill Cottringer “If we never experience the chill of a dark winter, it is very unlikely that we will ever cherish the warmth of a bright summer’s day. Nothing stimulates our appetite for the simple joys of life more than the starvation caused by sadness or desperation. In order to complete our amazing life journey successfully, it is vital that we turn each and every dark tear into a pearl of wisdom, and find the blessing in every curse.” ~Anthon St. Maarten, Divine Living: The Essential Guide to Your True Destiny. What to Do?r

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Choosing the Right Side Byr Bill Cottringer An elderly Episcopal priest once gave a simple sermon with a single message that makes too much sense to disregard, even for non-religious people. The message was this: There is one main choice in life and that is which side are you on—the right one or the other one? (Notice the absence of the word “wrong”). Is there a right side of life to be on?

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Co-workers who are troublemakers can be a problem for anyone, but shy people may have particular trouble with difficult fellow employees. Shy people often find themselves to be judged more harshly than extroverts on the job. Dr. Jonathan Cheek has found that underemployment, uneasy work relationships and slower advancement tend to mark the careers of shy people.

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Problems at work are a typical topic of advice columns. Many working people have their own unhappy stories to tell, and entire books have been written on the subject of problems at work. Discussions of sexual harassment have been commonplace in recent years, but dysfunctional on-the-job behavior from coworkers is not necessarily sexual and can affect both genders.

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Common Sense Or Good Sense? Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense in an uncommon degree is what the world calls wisdom.”— Samuel Taylor Coleridge.

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Discussing Politics & Religion Byr Bill Cottringer “Those who say religion has nothing to do with politics do not know what religion is.” ~Mahatma Gandhi.

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Do guys notice shy girls? Unfortunately, not as often as they notice the outgoing ones. Why is this? Perhaps a talkative girl gets the attention from guys for the same reason that the squeaky wheel gets the grease -- -- she draws more attention to herself. Of course the attention should be positive. On the other hand, shy girls often tend to blend in with the wallpaper. They need to do things that will garner them some positive attention from guys. Here are four tips that will help.

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DO OR DIE Byr Bill Cottringer “Conflicts give rise to villains, heroes, victims and bystanders. Which are you willing to be, in doing or dying for? ~The Author.

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Double Vision Decision-Making Byr Bill Cottringer “Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.” ~Phil McGraw. Double vision decision-making is a very useful and valuable skill in maneuvering around in today’s plethora of information overload that confronts us all. Basically, double vision is seeing both sides of the decision-making equation, or things like: • What information you already have and what you may need, and using what you already have smarter?r

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Exercise Your Thinking Muscles “Sometimes you must give up the good to get to the great. The key is knowing what to keep and what to discard from your mind.” ~The author.

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Freedom of Choice? Byr Bill Cottringer “Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will.” ~Jawaharlal Nehru

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Furiously Frustrated Byr Bill Cottringer In my previous article, “Seeds of Anger,” I think I overlooked the main problem with which we should have more empathy for ourselves and others. The real problem of our day is the frustration that leads either a quiet life of desperation or extreme stress, anger and even violence, or at least vacillating somewhere between these extremes. In our life stories we all get confronted with three types of conflicts: • Us vs. life. • Us vs. others. • Us vs. ourselves.

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Game Plan For All Seasons Byr Bill Cottringer Psychology has one principle that can be applied to any interpersonal interaction to get the best results. This is the very fundamental principle of human behavior which recognizes that both our commonalities and our differences have to be understood and considered in our efforts to get the best results in what we are trying to do.

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GAP-CLOSING Byr Bill Cottringer

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Having Enough Hope in Motion for Successr By Bill Cottringer “You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world's problems at once but don't ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.” ~Michelle Obama. Having hope is a good thing to have on your bookshelf. But, hope is too useful and valuable in driving success, to leave it there and not put in motion to work its magic. How do you do this? Here are four useful tips:

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HEALING THE DIVIDE Byr Bill Cottringer “The belief that there is only one truth, and that oneself is in possession of it, is the root of all evil in the world.” ~Max Born.

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We hear a lot about assertiveness, but how is assertiveness different from aggression? The two behaviors are really almost polar opposites. Aggressiveness may make people dislike you, but assertiveness often makes people like and respect you more!

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We all must work if we are to succeed in life. Unless we were born wealthy, we have no choice in the matter. We have many challenges in any job. To add the need to deal with coworkers who are troublemakers is one more difficulty. It is through our jobs that we get our feeling of self worth as well as a way in which we contribute to society and the way in which we fulfill our dreams and ambitions. For some people, the whole vision of themselves revolve around their work.

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How to Get a Job in Today’s Marketplace Byr Bill Cottringer “People will try to tell you that all the great opportunities have been snapped up. In reality, the world changes every second, blowing new opportunities in all directions, including yours.” ~Ken Hakuta.

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To talk to difficult or disagreeable people, you want to increase your "likability factor". One way to do this is by handling your emotions. A difficult person is more likely to criticize, to raise his voice or to lose his temper. Therefore, by controlling your emotions and not falling prey to the heat of the moment, you can handle a difficult person more easily. This is an important step in how to have a conversation with difficult people.

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The ability to deal effectively with other people, including disagreeable and sometimes even downright difficult people, is one of the most important skills of daily living. Being able to get along with a wide variety of people and knowing how to have a conversation with difficult people can determine your success at school, on the job, and in life. Yet most people's skills in dealing with difficult people are sadly lacking.

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How To Not Be Controlled By Fear, Failure, Turmoil & Unhappiness Byr Bill Cottringer “A life of all positives would be very negative and probably very boring.” ~The author.

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The late author Isaac Bashevis Singer once wrote, "I don't think that people should get over being shy. It is a blessing in disguise. The shy person is the opposite of the aggressive person. Shy people are rarely the great sinners. They allow society to remain in peace." But is shyness confused with arrogance? Sometimes. In fact, shy people are frequently misunderstood.

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LIFE”S HARDEST LESSON Byr Bill Cottringer. “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.” ~Rick Warren.

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Lost in Translation Byr Bill Cottringer Hagar the Horrible was giving worldly advice to his your Viking son. He says, “The secret of happiness is be content with what you got,” …so, he continues, “get enough.” ~Dik Browne.

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Maintaining More Ups Than Downs Byr Bill Cottringer “Let it rain on some days, let yourself shiver on some cold nights, so when it's Spring you'll know why it was all worth going through.” ~Sanhita Baruah.

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Managing Life’s Five Great Illusions for Better Sports and Law Enforcement Performance. Byr Bill Cottringer As I have already mentioned in a previous article, performance in sports and law enforcement have a lot in common. For one thing, both require a healthy mixture of individuality and teamwork. And, they both require the best actions being based on the best immediate perception of situations based on past experience and future expectations. Moreover, they both require proper management of life’s 5 great illusions.

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Managing vs. Coaching byr Bill Cottringer “You must always be the apprentice, even when you become the master.”rn ~ Christopher Cumby.

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Did you know that the amount of eye contact you make is crucial to how people judge you? It's true. People who fail to make enough eye contact are seen as less confident, less capable, and maybe even less honest. As Julius fast wrote in his book Body Language, “Of all parts of the human body that are used to transmit information, the eyes are the most important and can transmit the most subtle nuances.”

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Our Common Denominator Byr Bill Cottringer “Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.” ~Dan Brown, The Da Vinci Code.

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Prolonged eye contact, smiling = flirting. Remember this formula and you have gone a long way towards knowing the secrets of flirting. If I were to expand the process to five steps, I would express it thusly: 1. Make eye contact. Holding another person's gaze sends a powerful message that you are interested in him or her. 2. Smile. Smiling is the best way to communicate friendliness and self-confidence--two qualities which are seen as sexy by the opposite gender. 3. Use an opening line.

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Re-Braining for 2020 ByrnBill Cottringer “The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” ~Albert Einstein. 2020 brings a new decade of Information Age challenges, requiring some major transformational re-braining to navigate the mine fields ahead hidden away in the plethora of information overload, which is growing exponentially. Here are the ten new main brain skills needed to succeed in the coming decade: 1. Mental Flexibility.

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Redefining Success: Seven New Super-Sized Success Secrets Byr Bill Cottringer “Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time.” ~A old H. Glasow.

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Seeds of Anger Byr Bill Cottringer

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SEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS Byr Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Be ard Shaw. Communication, like time, is one of our most important resources, but is becoming less cost-effective in usage by the minute, given the current information overload . It is helpful to understand the main obstacles to good communication, so that we can use this important resource in a more cost-effective way. Here are seven formidable obstacles to the communication process, to which we all fall prey: LANGUAGE DIFFERENCESr

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What is it about shy guys and communication? Shy guys may have a little more trouble expressing themselves in an outgoing people. Sometimes they need that little extra "push" to get them talking. On he plus side, shy guys are less likely to be loudmouthed or dominate the conversation. They are more likely to let the other person talk, too.

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Girls, do shy guys seem to be a mystery sometimes? Do they throw out signals that they're interested in friendship, dating and romance one moment and then seem aloof and distant another? What you need is to have shy guys decoded. If he is a shy guy he may have trouble taking the initiative. Everyone is different, but maybe he was burned a few times in the past by getting his hopes up and then being rejected. Therefore, he is reluctant to speak about his true feelings.

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Is shyness confused with arogance? Sometimes. But how to prevent this? Some people advise the shy person to confess that she is shy. To keep people from seeing her as cold and aloof, a case of shyness confused with arogance, she is advised to admit her shyness. Perhaps she might say something like "parties like this really make me feel nervous."

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Some Uncommon Sense Needed todayr Byr Bill Cottringer “You can see a lot by observing and hear a lot by listening.” ~Yogi Berra

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Dealing effectively with other people is one of the most critical abilities of daily living. It affects one's level of success at home, in school, and on-the-job. Yet many of us are woefully inadequate when it comes to knowing the correct steps dealing with difficult people. Because of the lack of ability in this area, many of us consider neurotic or overly-critically people as "problems" or "thorns in our sides."

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Shyness can be a very serious problem. It can keep you from making friends, finding a mate, or even getting and holding onto a good job. Fortunately, there are some definite steps that you can take to overcome shyness that will help to alleviate the problem. One of the most important steps to over come shyness is to break it down. Make a list of all the situations you can think of that make you feel shy.

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Successful Thinking Tipping Points Byr Bill Cottringer “Successful people are just those with more successful habits than others.” ~Brian Tracy.

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Taming Our Terrible Twin Within Byr Bill Cottringer “I have noticed that even people who claim that everything is predetermined and that we can do nothing to change it, look before they cross the road.” ~Stephen Hawking.

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Ten Best Success Door Openers byr Bill Cottringer “If you really want to do something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.” ~Jim Rohn. There are lots of ways to find to do something or the excuses if you don’t. In the meantime, here are the best-known door openers to success: 1. Learn, Grow and Improve.

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Ten Best Ways to Build a Quality Work Culture Byr Dr. Bill Cottringer “To win in the marketplace, you must first win in the workplace.” ~Doug Conant, Campbell Soup.

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Ten Easy Ways to Increase Your Common Sense Byr Bill Cottringer “Commonsense is the most widely shared commodity in the world, for every man is convinced that he is well supplied with it.” ~Rene Descartes. If this quote were true, we wouldn’t have any of the challenges, problems, mistakes, conflicts and failures that overload us today. The best version of common sense that is not so common today belongs to Mark Twain. He viewed common sense as “the simple knack of seeing something the way it is and doing something the way it needs to be done.”

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Ten Team-Building Essentials for Leaders Byr Bill Cottringer “Individually, we are one drop. Together, we are an ocean.” ~Ryunosuke Satoro.

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Ten Tips for Successful Presentations Byr Bill Cottringer Successful selling is often preempted by the requirement of giving a formal presentation to convince the customer to go with your product or service. These presentations require some sensible prep work to result in successful sales. Below are ten useful tips to make that happen.

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The Baker’s Dirty Dozen Gaps Between What’sr Byr Bill Cottringer “The main challenge in life is to close the gap between where you are now and where you really want to be.” ~The Author. We all have much work to do to close the above gap. Here are a Baker’s Dirty Dozen Gaps we need to figure out how to close before they widen past the point of no return:

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The Compromise Imperative Byr Bill Cottringer “I shall argue that strong men, conversely, know when to compromise and that all principles can be compromised to serve a greater principle. ~Andrew Carnegie. Our main thinking paradigm today is still stuck somewhere between a competitive, win-lose mentality model and a cooperative, win-win model. Russell Crowe in the movie “A Beautiful Mind” played the genius John Nash in discovering a primary driving force in economics. He realized the inevitability of this progression from a win-lose mentality to a win-win one.

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The Easiest Management Trap to Fall Into & The Hardest One to Avoid by Bill Cottringer “The first rule of business: Control the few controllables and manage the rest the best you can.” ~The author.

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The Main Challenge for Leaders Today Byr Bill Cottringer “Diversity: The art of thinking independently together.” ~Malcolm Forbes.

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The Only Unwinnable Conflict Worth Trying to Win Byr Bill Cottringer “There is one conflict that will never go away until we either figure out how to communicate past it or die trying. This conflict involves arguing for the beliefs and truths we are most certain about.” ~The Author.

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The Paucity Paradigm Byr Bill Cottringer “Usually the first problems you solve with the new paradigm are the ones that were unsolvable with the old paradigm.” ~Joel A. Barker.

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The Power of Awareness Byr Bill Cottringer “What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” ~Abraham Maslow.

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The Problems a Divided Mind Causesr By Bill Cottringer “I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.” ~Alan Watts.

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The Two Main Goals of Personal Development Byr Bill Cottringer “Small daily improvements are the key to staggering long-term results.” ~Anonymous.

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Three Beatitudes for Better Communication Byr Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Be ard Shaw.

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Three Key Success Factors in Effective Management Byr Bill Cottringer “The effective management of others always starts with effective self-management.” ~The author.

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Three Paths to The Truth Byr Bill Cottringer “I wouldn't give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but for the simplicity on the other side of complexity, I would give my life.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. As the above quote implies, there are but three main paths we walk to learn what we think is true about something. In a three words, these paths are—short, long and longer. Or, in a little more detail, this is where we walk and what we do:

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Too Much Familiarity Can Breed Contempt Byr Bill Cottringer “Familiarity breeds contempt, for others at first, but then inwardly, contempt towards ourselves.” rn~Oli Anderson, Synchronesia: A Depressing Existential Novel.

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Train Your Brain in Mindfulness byr Bill Cottringer “Mindfulness is a way of befriending ourselves and our experience.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn.

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TWO KINDS OF BELIEFS Byr Bill Cottringer “Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn't go away.” ~Philip K. Dick.

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Two Tantamount Truths Byr Bill Cottringer “Conscience is no more than the dead speaking to us.” ~Jim Caroll

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What Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? Byr Bill Cottringer “There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~Aldous Huxley.

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What Employers Need Byr Bill Cottringer “The employer generally gets the employees he deserves.” ~J. Paul Getty.

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What Is It About Henry or Mary? By Bill Cottringer “Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others.” ~Shannon L. Alder

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What To Focus On? Byr Bill Cottringer “Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun's rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” ~Alexander Graham Bell. Regarding the title question, the answer in a word is—NOW. One very popular view of life is that we are all pawns on a chess board being moved around by destiny (or whatever else you wish to call it), just to see what our reactions will be. This is a provocative perspective, but a plausible one.

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When Your Back is Against the Wall… by Bill Cottringer

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WHY PRISONS DON'T WORK (AS WELL AS THEY COULD) Byr William Cottringer “Men simply copied the realities of their hearts when they built prisons.” ~ Richard Wright. I do not want to offend all the good people who have devoted their entire careers to positive prison reform, but the very nature of the prison business is conservative, and so changes for the better are necessarily slow in coming. But let’s consider a few reasons for the current, somewhat bleak state of affairs.

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WORDS ARE WICKED Byr Bill Cottringer “In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends,” ~Martin Luther King, Jr. For over 50-years now, I have worked in criminal justice as a law enforcement officer, prison warden and a security manager, and I can tell you without an ounce of uncertainty, that our criminal justice system is broken. It is broken because of the emotionally laden words we use which support and drive the whole system—in the wrong direction. Here are the big three words to re-evaluate with patience and careful thoughtfulness:r

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WORK SUCCESS Byr Bill Cottringer “The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” ~Vince Lombardi.

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Everyone is a leader. What differs is the number of people you are leading. By virtue of your existence you are leading someone every day. That person is you. Others choose to increase in leadership when they start leading a family, leading in a company department or at the very top (CEO) or a government ministry, to presidents. At each level of leadership there is a need for situational sensitivity. By this I mean that you need to adjust and be flexible to realize that the way you lead yourself or your family differs to the way you may want to lead a project team.

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10 Business Fundamentals for Success Rabison Shumba 23Apr 2010 Your understanding and correct use of the available business tools will determine how far the business goes. Regardless of size, every business needs tools to setup, administer and properly run. Some of those tools are purely financial in nature. A fair understanding of finances is necessary for every leader regardless of profession. You ignore your financial performance at your own peril. You are able to make better, informed and calculated risks or decisions whenever you know the financial implications.

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You are as strong as the confessions and statements you say out loud or within you’re the confines of your own mind. There are common statements which our human nature naturally gravitates towards at the expense of progress and tasks at hand. Sometimes these statements are said spontaneously, without even thinking or winking. When you say something to yourself long enough, you begin to believe it totally. When you believe something, your actions and decisions are directly affected and ultimately real character is formed. Your statements you say to yourself are sometimes called affirmations.

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A question is a sentence that solicits for information. A question has a corresponding answer or set of answers. In life, one must be able to ask themselves vital questions pertaining to life and destiny. This is a questionnaire that you carry throughout life which acts as a guideline or compass on how your life must run. Many people shy away from these vital questions which require introspection, looking at life in retrospect and evaluating what the future holds. Whether you like it or not, one day you would have to answer the questions.

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Greatness remains a birthright for every living human being. Your greatness is guaranteed and without question or negotiation. The capacity to dream is built in and grafted to everyone at the point of conception. This function is enabled more as you arrive on earth and become aware of what could be, possibilities and opportunities as well as potential obstacles that you face in the process called growth and experience. However, your ability to dream and guarantee of greatness is has equally opposing forces which seek to either delay, derail, destroy and mutilate your progress towards destiny.

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In my 13 year career as a businessman and trainer, I have either attended or presented papers at seminars and I am now accustomed to this subject. I have witnessed how even with the most detailed and exciting content most people usually see their presentation crumble for one reason or the other. As a leader or someone whose influence I know is growing, you will have to start getting used to standing before audiences to sell or market your idea, to teach or even give a speech when you get an award one day.

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You will be forgiven for wondering what on earth a cookery lesson my wife took me through has anything to do with management, leadership and so on. If you have read some of my articles you will realize that I derive lessons from what I see and experience every day. Indeed I received some coaching from my cookery mentor, my wife. It was worth the time as I now appreciate the fact that a meal does not just happen at the touch of an Emergency SOS button. It calls for time, planning and many other leadership and management aspects I share with you today.

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In this article, I will show you how we need not take our workplaces for granted. Every workplace has a general feel and expected etiquette. It sometimes does not necessarily need to be documented for your to behave in a certain way. The ambiance communicates the expectations to you. However in some organizations, expectations are clearly laid out in company code of conduct documentation from Human Resources Department. I have documented common guidelines.

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In you lifetime, you will get to a point where your gift brings you before kings and people of major influence in society. You may not enter the real palace but for the sake of this document, I will look at etiquette considerations when you are meeting someone significant e.g. your mentor, minister, chief etc. The principles I share with you today apply to the real palace when you meet a real king or when you meet an authority figure. No longer will you live on assumption but you will be deliberate and intentional about some of the things you do.

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There is nothing as wasteful as a leader in a position and is ignorant of his/her priorities. I have always shared the notion that in every human being is the craving and desire to lead. Everyone is potentially a leader. However, some are very successful at thwarting and suppressing the leadership potential through various well-crafted excuses. I have discussed some before in another article. Now that you know you are a leader in your team, I need to acquaint you with your priorities.

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Within every individual is a desire to be excellent in that one does. Unfortunately for many, excellence remains a desire and is never acted out practically. No matter how much you can desire to be excellent, it will not come on a silver platter. It will cost you in terms of action, standing up and beginning to do those things that are building blocks for ultimate excellence. Excellence can also be referred to as distinction or pre-eminence. When you boldly take the steps I will give you below, you will soon make excellence a way of life. It will be a part of you.

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It is one thing to hire the employees you desire and require to get your vision on track towards fulfillment but it is yet another thing to ensure those people are fruitful and fulfilled to a point where they stay with your company long enough to make the impact you desire. The employee-employer relationship is such that there is mutual benefit. The employer meets all the required expectations while the employee attacks the key results areas so as to deliver results befitting of the benefits accruing to their name.

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I've lived through an amazing time. At university, the computer they used (just one) was the size of a house, used valves instead of transistors, and was programmed using punch tape. If you made a mistake it printed out random numbers until you, quite literally, pulled the plug out. Wonderful. For my first job I needed a suit, and I had to respond to customer's letters by writing, "I am in receipt of your favour of the 18th ultimo..." Utterly brilliant. It sounds medieval but it's not that long ago.

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Modern business world is ever changing, more competitive and requiring individuals who will stand and be counted as leaders above others. When you stand head and shoulders above your own colleagues, employers will rush for you, business will come your way, your department will win all the prizes for good performance. As a professional in your own area of endeavor, know that your attitudes and attributes facilitate the well being of your subordinates. This has a direct impact on the altitude the company's vision will rise to. Do business like your entire life relies on it.

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The one who gave birth to this author Mrs. Dainah Mapuranga (nee Mabaya Madoro), never attended Business School neither did she attend formal primary school education because of the culture which discouraged fathers from investing in the girl child as “she would be soon taken away anyway on getting married”. I remember her making an attempt to attend Adult Education classes where she learned basic reading and writing. That is how far she went but the intelligence of that woman was unfortunately never given a chance to manifest.

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Networks and relationships will take you beyond where your salary (money), schooling (education) or smartness (intelligence) have taken you. Greatness is built through deliberate relationship formations (networking). The bigger your network, the greater your reach. Networks are made of mutually beneficial relationships where it is not about you benefiting but others benefiting from your existence and established networks.

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Starting and running your own business has never been an easy road. It is a leap of faith, hope and believing in your dream that it will one day blossom. Building a company is similar to what a farmer goes through. He has time to Prepare the land, Plan the appropriate seed, Plant, Pluck out weeds and hope for big harvest. This is something that keeps the farmer going. Year in year out he/she risks all the seed and finance available because they are convinced that a good harvest is coming someday. As I said implementing your dream is usually riddled with many excuses.

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Never enter into any agreement or negotiation from a point of desperation. The moment you show how desperate you are, you disarm yourself of the bargaining power. The value of the transaction will be compromised by your APPETITE & APPARENT desire. Rather stand back, gather yourself & your thoughts & reschedule the talks. Often we place a PRICE tag on goods based on our NEEDS. No one desires to spend more than the real VALUE of product or service.

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When CHALLENGES face us as they often do, the tendency is to draw into a shell and FOCUS on "me" and "my" issues. One becomes selfish to a point where no one else really matters but themselves. My wife gave me a wake-up call one day. She had endured six months if not more with someone who had become hard to encourage and inspire. Her daily efforts to take husband out of dungeon were seemingly fruitless. I hardly slept for more than 2 hours per night. Gripped by worry and ANXIETY, I would wake up and think deeply and develop THOUGHTS. Unfortunately I was focused on negative ones.

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For any organization or business to succeed, it has to all it takes to ensure that it is continually achieving set goals which are linked directly to the vision of the founder. In this article I share with you what I would brand "Beyond the Marketing Mix". We explore some of the pillars that will position your business for greatness. These are a must for any up-coming or even established entrepreneur. Having studied business and also having started my own business ventures, I know I have a mandate to set others up for success.

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Appointments to position of leadership, influence and high decision making power are always rigged and plagued with inconsistency, thumb-sucking, guesswork with no system of set down criterion in place. Many followers complain of haphazard approaches to promotions where it is not based on any merit or previous track record. Books are continually judged by their cover, promotions based on looks, composure and dressing become the order of the day.

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Money is a power tool that enables businesses and individuals across the globe to exchange value for goods and services. You often hear many people mention that money is evil. I submit to you that there is no evil in money whatsoever. It is the love of money that actually is a root of all evil. How you behave when you now have the money or what you try to do in order to get a hold of this power tool is what can end up being in the Evil category. You have the right to access money. You will realize that in most people's lives, money does not come easy.

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"Customer is king", "Our customers are not strangers to us, they are part of what we do". These are common cliches we speak and write on the walls of our businesses and in reception area. The question which is rarely asked is "Do we mean all that we say?". When you customer coughs, your company performances feels the threat of that cold. The tremors and challenges your customer faces have a direct bearing on your profits and your targets. Once you obtain a customer, they should be kept lest they move on to the next supplier.

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Are you merely paying lip service to your vision or you are sold out 101%? A marriage of convenience sometimes occurs where one party or both parties are seeking to get a quick solution to an issue. Be it citizenship issues or merely passing time. Sometimes we are found reneging on our own commitments and vows out of familiarity and making our marriage so common. Question that comes to mind automatically is "What happened to your first love, the days you used to court your vision?

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Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a simple credo—a credo that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. Now, seven million copies later, Fulghum returns to the book that was embraced around the world. He has written a new preface and twenty-five essays, which add even more potency to a common, though no less relevant, piece of wisdom: that the most basic aspects of life bear its most important opportunities.

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Twenty-five years ago, Robert Fulghum published a simple credo—a credo that became the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. Now, seven million copies later, Fulghum returns to the book that was embraced around the world. He has written a new preface and twenty-five essays, which add even more potency to a common, though no less relevant, piece of wisdom: that the most basic aspects of life bear its most important opportunities.

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Based on dozens of articles that arrived in my inbox in a single week, one might think that the majority of people work in difficult work-cultures, alongside clueless co-workers, under distrusting bosses. Here are a few examples: • "You're the Boss, Not the Babysitter" • "What to Do When Your Employees Won't Stop Whining" • "Giving Feedback to the Clueless" • "How to Survive a Toxic Boss"

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Your success is linked to your understanding of the value of a resource called time. Time lost can never be recovered. While you are still able to work, make your time worthwhile and productive. While sleep is important in that you rest the body, some have a challenge of over committing time to sleep and slumber. The issue of time management is what has separated the rich from the poor. Somehow in some parts of the world it is acceptable to be an hour late for an appointment without feeling guilty. It's the "normal" expectation.

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Instead of an early start, with time to read the news, check key messages, and write uninterruptedly for a pending project, I spent it down a rabbit hole. What I expected was a five or ten minute interruption to answer a client's email, marked with one of those urgent exclamation points, but it took me over an hour. Before I could even send the requested information, I got an email telling me, in essence, "never mind," the direction had changed.

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"I don't like to be kept waiting," he responded when asked by the travel-study professor why he delayed the entire group for a third straight day. "Next time," the professor warned, "we won't hold the bus."

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Maybe you received an email seeking applicants as paid mystery shoppers in your area, or offering cash in exchange for filling out online surveys. Or you heard theaters used subliminal advertising to increase sales of popco and soft drinks. Maybe it was the "send old shoes, get a new one free" Nike promotion that caught your attention, or the discovery that you can cure disease by drinking four glasses of water every morning.

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If we were to put all of the problems that we might encounter in a business, a friendship or a marriage into a pot and boil them down, what do you think might remain? The biggest factor in most failed businesses or friendships or marriages is 'unresolved conflicts.' Marriages have been ruined and family relationships ripped apart, brother against brother, because of unresolved conflicts. This is one factor that can devastate a business.

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When things get out of our control, danger lurks in the sidelines. Each of us has had situation occur where we seemed to have been tossed into the middle of a trial of which we had no control - a trial by fire. In Proverbs 17:3 Solomon teaches "The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold, but the LORD tests the heart." This, of course is allusion to the method that a goldsmith or silversmith uses to purify gold or silver ore. I watched a goldsmith take a small pot filled with what looked to me like dirt and small rocks. He told me that this was gold ore.

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Renovation of a home can be accomplished in a cost-effective manner by using the services of a reputed construction company. Care must be taken to hire an experienced construction company, so that renovatio Vancouver can be undertaken in an efficient manner.

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With all the attention focused on Mexico due to the recent Swine Flu outbreak, I thought I'd update you with what's really going on and add some very common sense recommendations to follow if you live anywhere near or have loved ones close to any influenza or swine flu outbreak centers. As some ...

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I like teaching workshops. On one hand, I'm humbled by the knowledge, insights, and challenges of those attending. I'm invigorated by the persistence and passion woven into the stories that unfold. And I'm grateful for the real-world perspectives of people who are focused on doing a great job and making a difference at work.

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Every affiliate marketer needs to look for and use the most effective and the least expensive methods to generate traffic to his or her affiliate website. The concept of affiliate marketing is really profound when you take a close look. Someone offers a product or products for sale. The most cost effective advertising for a merchant is to seek affiliates to offer his or her products on their website.

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In the first part of this series we talked about getting started with Affiliate marketing. In every start up business we need to consider both effectiveness and expense. Let's begin where we left off. Article writing is a great way, although not the quickest way, to get your name associated with the 'niche' that you have chosen. If you spend 15 minutes reading articles about your 'niche' and 15 minutes per day writing an article about your subject, in 6 days you can submit 6 articles. That will soon add up to 24 articles per month and 288 articles in one year.

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We have discussed in previous articles the value in writing articles. This is an important first step. This gives you practice in researching information about 'particular' subjects, those that are relevant to your 'niche.' Article writing also gives you material that you can use for your other projects, enewsletters, blog posts, website content, eBooks,etc. There is loads of information and instructions and software on the Internet at your disposal that will facilitate your creation of enewsletters and eBooks and websites.

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Lets take a little recap of the information in the first three articles in this series. We have learned: 1.) Article writing is a great foundation for building 'Name Recognition' for you 2.) Blogging gives you a platform for offering good information 3.) eNewsletters help build a list of people interested in what you have to say 4.) eBooks are a super viral technique for getting your name and work 'out there' on the Internet There are many other techniques for building trust. Using these methods will open doors that you did not even know where there.

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Twelve minutes before I was to speak to a large group gathering in a downtown hotel ballroom, I was still struggling with A/V equipment. With hundreds of presentations under my belt, I'm accustomed to handling last minute glitches. But no matter what I tried, my presentation wouldn't project.

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Everyone has the ability to concentrate – sometimes; while playing your guitar or piano or during a spellbinder of a movie - total concentration. However, at other times your thoughts are scattered and your mind races from one thing to another. This is especially frustrating for a writer. ...

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How do you define ’success’? Would you say that it is finding the perfect job or career? Would you think that it is finding the perfect mate or circle of friends? Maybe you would say that success is the acquisition of great wealth or property or all of the toys that you have been ...

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It was a very hot opening day at the 10th CineVegas Anniversary Film Festival. Photographers and crews lined the red carpet in position for the CineVegas executives including Dennis Hopper and the cast from Peter Cattaneo’s The Rocker starring Rainn Wilson, Emma Stone, and Jane Lynch. Our goal ...It was a very hot opening day at the 10th CineVegas Anniversary Film Festival. Photographers and crews lined the red carpet in position for the CineVegas executives including Dennis Hopper and the cast from Peter Cattaneo’s The Rocker starring Rainn Wilson, Emma Stone, and Jane Lynch.

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Campaign Trail Lessons for CEOs, Owners and Investors By Raz Silberman “To hell with facts! We need stories!” Ken Kesey, author, One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest Reporters, bloggers, pundits and other election “fact checkers” are tallying up what seems like record numbers of lies, half-truths and misrepresentations in this year’s presidential campaign.

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I've lost track of the times I've been told in someone's positive or naive thinking mode, "No problem," only to have the non problem become one. At the time they said it, there might not have been a problem, but they didn't factor in workplace potholes, speed bumps, detours, or traffic stops. Like a high-wire acrobat in a Cirque du Soleil performance, winning at working necessitates the use of safety nets with your work, too.

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What should you be aware of when you look for God’s blessings in your life? Often, when a Christian tries to go into business for himself, he hits wall after wall. When a Christian gets interested in affiliate marketing, he can expect difficulties. There are many factors in play and I want ...

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All of us, to some degree, have experienced the outcomes of some endeavor. It may have been horrible or just bad, or maybe mediocre or all right, or really good or great or absolutely fantastic. Too some degree, in my short 50 something years, I have experienced all of these outcomes. If you ...

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I can’t tell you how many times I have had clients who were so completely absorbed in their work that they had lost sight of the rest of their life. As you can imagine, the results are not good for personal, professional or spiritual health. The challenge for anyone like this comes in ...

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Taking action is the strongest way to create success in your life. The following are the 21 Actions that you can take right now, to ignite the success in your life, business, career, relationships, or family. Take one or two of the actions that you are better at and practice them. Then, start ...

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One of the most important aspects of creating success involves a delicate balance between two somewhat opposing forces – REFLECTION and ACTION. This balance is very similar to the balance of Yin and Yang in the Tao philosophy. Most successful leaders in business or elsewhere are seasoned ...

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An Excerpt from the forthcoming book THINK AGAIN! A Collection of Blasphemous and Heretical Articles about Long-Held Sacred “Secrets” of Success and Personal Developmentnn© 2007, Peter Demarest, CSAC, “Your Head Coach” Gratitude vs. Havitude (Part 1 of 3) I was having a discussion with a ...

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An Excerpt from the forthcoming book THINK AGAIN! A Collection of Blasphemous and Heretical Articles about Long-Held Sacred “Secrets” of Success and Personal Developmentnn© 2007, Peter Demarest, CSAC, “Your Head Coach” Gratitude vs. Havitude (Part 2 of 3) “Hello.” I said, answering the ...

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My friend Tellman Knudson of List Crusade.com ecentlyninterviewed Janet and Chris Attwood about "The Passio Test." The complete interview is available at: http://www.ListCrusade.com/attwood.html What is the Passion Test? First let me tell you a little about Janet and Chris. Janet Attwood ...

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My intention was to write this article with a fairly clear idea of what Iwanted to express. But you know what they say about intentions –at least good ones?:-) I came out to my balcony with laptop in tow and I started typing.However, the impressive powerboats and mammoth lake and ...

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In a recent Reader’s Digest article, best-selling author and ex-teacher Philip Pullman put his finger on what’s gone horribly wrong with the teaching of English in schools today and points the way to a common goal-setting mistake made by millions of people. It’s the mistake of turning ...

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Success often eludes us. Even when we reach our desired destination, the joy of achievements is short-lived. Every time a person is asked, "When will you be successful?" the general response is, "Some time in the future." Rarely does someone confidently claim success today. The problem is ...

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Elite athletes, business people and leaders all use visualization to succeed. In fact, everyone has probably used visualization or guided imagery in their business and personal lives at one point or another. So, what is it? Visualization is practicing or previewing your future performance by ...

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When more than half of Americans were identified as overweight, people took notice. Major news outlets began educating on how to stay out, or get out, of that statistic. I wish the same attention had been paid when a new survey was released confirming more than half of Americans are dissatisfied with their job. Disliking your job is hazardous to your health and well-being, too. You can't be winning at working if you're dissatisfied with your work or languishing in the status-quo of dislike.

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Role Modelr We all need role models and somebody to look up to that inspires us. If you think, you can make it totally on your own, think again. Sometimes we need is a push in the right direction. Everyone needs someone who believes in him or her. Perhaps all that is needed is to be shown the way and a path to follow. A role model or a mentor focuses you're thinking and possibly helps you change your life.

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Building, demonstrating and proving credibility is one of the most important things we can do as people who seek to accomplish interesting goals and live successful lives. But it’s also highly misunderstood, and many people don’t have a clue how to make credibility work for themselves. Credibility is a certain intangible quality that proves our value, sincerity and competence to others; and demonstrates that we are the exceptional people we claim to be. Credibility is important because: -Makes it easier to convince other people that you are worth dealing with.

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Before I hop into this article, I think I should clarify something: What does financial independence mean to you? In a sense, it's sort of a "buzz word" that bankers and financial planners endeavoring to earn commissions off of your investments throw around, as if working with them is your best shot at achieving it. Many people would say, "well RC, duh, it means 'being able to live without needing to work, and still pay for what you want'". I don't think that's all it means.

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In today’s active corporate and wired world, achieving your goals and feeling fulfilled doesn’t have to be a chaotic, stressful affair. Being completely fulfilled means having a deeply felt irrefutable sense that you are happy, healthy, and whole.

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We have this idea in our minds that only the select few among us are "creative" enough to develop meaningful and interesting ideas. We like to say things like "there are right-brain thinkers, and there are left-brain thinkers" that suggest creativity is relegated to one class of people, while logic is relegated to the other. I hear it all of the time from people in my accounting classes: "I don't have a creative bone in my body. I'm a lot more of a logical thinker, and that's why accounting is a good choice for me."

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This article is Part 2 in a series of articles about spending your time the way you want (www.rcsays.com/action/spending-time-the-way-you-want-a-5-part-series). Productivity is consistently completing value-added tasks with minimal inefficiency. That means: -Doing things that matter, -All of the time, -Without wasting time or resources.

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As a woman in a man’s world, learning to navigate the realm of business and leadership was comparable to charting a course to a yet undiscovered planet in another solar system. Starting out as young entrepreneurs, business success was something we both yearned for, however, knowing what to do and figuring out what route to take was a guessing game. It was a guessing game until we discovered the Six Questions.

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It feels great at the end of a workday to know you've made progress on a mounting to-do list, resolved a persistent problem, dealt with a difficult challenge, or accomplished an important objective. Yet, too often we get to the end of a day and haven't felt feelings of satisfaction, accomplishment, or progress at work, at least not as much as we'd like. Instead, frustration, bureaucracy, and unresponsiveness creep in to thwart our well-being.

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After a mutually beneficial business connection, he spontaneously offered, "if you need anything in the future don't hesitate to contact me." He went so far as to name some of the things he'd be happy to be involved in, or help me with, and I made a mental note for future reference. It seemed more than an obligatory remark from this well recognized individual.

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The story goes that after one of Ludwig van Beethoven's performances, several people were offering him their congratulations, when one woman commented, "I wish God had bestowed me with such genius." "It isn't genius, madam, nor is it magic." Beethoven replied. "All you have to do is practice on your piano eight hours a day for 40 years."

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Despite efforts on the Wii Fitness balance game, Wii persists in rating me as "unbalanced." And while it's true I'm feeling a bit stressed with a new book coming out in May, and more commitments than common sense dictates, being balanced is a challenge.

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The cyclical and now ubiquitously appearing phrase, back to basics, ignites supporters. The reasonableness of returning to previously successful principles, ethics, systems, accountability, approaches, or you-name-it, appears a tantalizing remedy for our individual or collective woes.

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Years after Disneyland was built, after the completion of Walt Disney World, the story goes that someone went up to Mike Vance, Creative Director for Walt Disney Studios and said, "Isn't it too bad Walt Disney didn't live to see this?" Without pausing, he replied, "But he did see it, that's why it's here."

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Seated in the courtyard of a sports bar during a playoff game in the home city of one of the teams, it was an energetic crowd that Sunday. While we'd come for a quick bite to eat, we caught a glimpse of a play now and then as home-team enthusiasts roared their approval during the first half.

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There is an unquestionably anatomical difference between men and women. That same difference applies to our participation and communication in relationships. Women, by nature, tend to be nurturing and driven by their emotions & feelings while men are generally more aggressive and individualistic and driven by rationale.

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In part 1 of the Creating Success Trilogy, I develop the ground floor of success. The basis of Success is Information.

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We, as Americans, are guaranteed liberty in the Declaration of Independence. What can we say that this unalienable right represents? According to dictionary.com, liberty is freedom from arbitrary or despotic government or control. In order to understand this in more depth let’s look at the definition of arbitrary. We are told that arbitrary means “subject to individual will or judgment without restriction; contingent solely upon one’s discretion as in an arbitrary decision.” It also refers to judgments decided by a judge or arbiter rather than by law or statute.

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Yep ! I'm serious. If you sit on the couch, you won't make mistakes. Well, sitting on the couch doing nothing is a mistake, but I won't get into that. No matter how careful you are, how much thinking you have done, how much time you put into searching for facts, you will make mistakes. Maybe not today, nor tomorrow. Or in the next six months. But, there will come a moment, you'll be tired, or you will rely on a source of information said to be bullet-proof, and you'll discover no such thing exists. Some people will tell you : "I rely on such and such", or "I never make mistakes".r

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Anger happens daily. There are many situations that can make it come out. Here are a few examples : 1. A driver just passed right in front of you 2. You get hit from behind while standing in a bus 3. Your child breaks something precious 4. Somebody just put you down 5. You missed your plane because of a fussy clerk 6. You were ready to go skiing and it starts to rain 7. You just lost your job 8. Your spouse made something burn on the stove Let's examine each situation in detail. 1. A driver just passed right in front of you

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Ebooks can be an enormous help in business. But, for most people, the value of using ebooks is just beginning to be appreciated. MY TECHNIQUE: The technique that I developed is to carry an e-library. Now, wherever I go, I have dozens of very high quality ebooks that keep me informed about my work. I need a lot of reference material, so my library works out well for me. I travel, so some of my ebooks provide information about the cities I visit. I already know a lot about my destination when I arrive.

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We've all heard of the power of leverage. You can be successful by yourself. It will take more time, or more money, probably both. With the power of leverage, you can also use the time and/or money of others to accomplish your goals. In order to be able to do that, you have to develop the ability to make people want to follow you. After that, all you have to do is ask, they will give you their time, or money, or both. They will trust you. Of course, after winning their trust, you have to keep delivering the goods. Otherwise, you'll destroy the relationships you've built.

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Life. Can we understand life by merely expressing its dictionary definition? Can we state that life is a state of being or the presence of vital signs, respiration, heartbeat, brain activity? Is that unalienable right to life that is endowed by our Creator and guaranteed by The Declaration of Independence and The United States Constitution simply the right to breath, to have a heartbeat and to have the presence of brain activity? Life, as it is expressed in our Declaration of Independence is much more profound.

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Napoleon Hill's writings only talked about a part of the Law of Success. Everything he says is true, however it's not the whole story. To understand how the law worked for the ultra successful men in his book, we have to look at why the law worked for them.

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Invest 4.167% of Your Day in Your Health! The 4.167% Challenge We all have 24 hours in a day and in the 24 hours we have 1440 minutes! How much of that time do you invest in work? Getting ready for work? Working? Let’s say that is 10 hours - that is close to 43% of your day!! How much of that time do you invest in your health? Getting you ready for the day? If you are like most of us it is very little to no time is spent getting ready for the day and devoted to starting our day(s) off on the right path!

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Keeping ourselves balanced during challenging times..... can be difficult! Sometimes it may feel like you are on the roller coaster of life and you weren't even asked to get on the roller coaster. You just "happened" to grab the handle bar and are holding on for dear life! Many people feel this chaotic ride in the form of anxiety, fear, worry and sometimes it leads to frustration, depression and even anger! These unexpressed emotions can create bouts of illness/disease etc.

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Nikola Tesla said: “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” In this blog in part one I talk about emotions, the energy and vibrations of emotions. I will also be talking about how emotions impact us and potentially even future generations. In part two I talk about how we can discover these emotions and about how we can change or release them to help us reach our highest level of performance. Emotion=Energy in Motion

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In part one I explored how emotions are energy in motion and how these emotions not only impact our DNA but our health and well-being. Now in part two I talk about how we can discover these emotions and about how we can change or release them to help us reach our highest level of performance. The Attraction Factor-Like Attracts Like

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What is magnanimity? Here are some quotes. “We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it.” ~ Abraham Lincoln “If you happened to be born on third base, you didn't rub it in the face of the guy who wasn't even born in the stadium. Self-interest was generally checked at the door with your coat and hat.” ~ Ron Suskind It would be judicious to act with magnanimity towards a prostrate foe. ~ Zachary Taylor

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The subject line of the email read: "We met at ..." and the name of a conference where I'd recently spoken. Thinking it was from someone who attended my session, I opened it sooner versus later. "I never heard back from you," she wrote, "I wanted to take you to lunch or drop by your office to explain my product more."

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On our first morning of vacation, we were pleased to find open tables when we arrived for breakfast at a popular and highly recommended café. With several people actively filling walk-up specialty coffee orders at the counter, it took several minutes to be acknowledged: "It'll be about five minutes for a table since the waitress needs to catch up," a person finally called out in our direction.

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"Remember, the feeling you get from a good run is far better than the feeling you get from sitting around wishing you were running." Those words from Olympic swimmer and author Sarah Connor capture the essence of a skill those wanting to thrive in the new world of work need.

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I hesitated before I answered the question. It was just a slight hesitation, but the question took me by surprise. Someone asked me how could they work on self-improvement and development on the clock. And while I answered at the time with a few tips, the on the clock part stuck with me and got me thinking.

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Unfamiliar with the city and location where I was to speak, I added the address to the GPS before leaving home. Arriving in the conference city hours later, I turn it on and dutifully followed the route that chirped at me from the device. "That's odd," I thought as the directed turn took me away from the city towards the foothills and into a neighborhood. "Maybe it's a retreat location," I mulled as I followed that voice up a winding, steep hill.

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Myths. Beliefs. Conventional wisdom. Even our own eyes get in our way. Consider what happened to Galileo. In 1589, he gathered the world’s most learned professors to the Leaning Tower of Pisa for a demonstration to disprove a 2,000 year old physics principle of Aristotle’s: the heavier an object is, the faster it will fall to earth.

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A common pastime at work, it seems, is pointing out flaws, missteps, and problems – especially the boss's, a coworker's down the hall, or that roadblock person in some other department. Stories of performance and style inadequacies, or snippets of memorable negative encounters can be repeated for days or even weeks. Some live perpetually in the work-culture, fueling rumors about a perceived inept, difficult, or bureaucratic department or person based on years-ago happenings.

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I am glad I have an opportunity to share with you an outline of effective exercises any and all teens should begin to utilize in their own lives. I recognize not every person has access to a commercial fitness gym or access to high dollar equipment so I have created a list of exercises that anyone can begin doing without having to spend a ton of money. Here you go… a list of effective exercises that I know can and will help transform your body in to a well- conditioned machine! 1. Push-upsr

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What example have you set? What is your legacy? Will others who stand where you once stood be able to follow your path to success? The chronicle of you is more important than you could ever imagine. To give the gift of hope and inspiration to another is priceless. To empower another person to take control of their destiny is an investment in a better future for all of us. To do this we need to set an example for success. A ‘how to” guide of sorts is required.

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How to Develop Unmatched Size and Strength… Naturally!! Thank you for searching for new ways to improve your overall size and strength. More importantly how you can achieve your goals without using any illegal and deadly drugs. I am confidant the information you will receive from this article will help empower you on your quest for functional power and strength!

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At a Greendrinks networking event I met a guy in the heating business. He asked me if I ever wondered why a certain temperature in the summer feels fine but in the winter feels chilly. He explained that the walls and objects are literally using us as a heat supply. We rarely think of our own role in the chain of heat distribution. And rarely do we think about the universal impact we make along the way of creating a robust career track. We rarely think about how we might be interdependent roots warming up the next guy - whether we want to or not.

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Developing unshakable belief is going to one of your key business success strategies. Many of the greatest people in history had nothing but belief to sustain them in the early days or even years of their endeavours. Mary Kay Ash's mascot for her cosmetics company is a bumblebee. Because of its tiny wings and heavy body, aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn't be able to fly. But the bumblebee doesn't know that, so it flies anyway. (Taken from 'Unstoppable' by Cynthia Kersey).

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How well have your success strategies served you over the last year? Have you even got any: Take a look back at your life over the past 12 months and tally up the scores. How many times did you 'Win' at something, and how many times did you 'lose'? There is a famous quote by Canadian hockey player & coach, Wayne Gretzky, who said: “You Miss 100% Of The Shots You Never Take”. And there is a great clue in there.

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If you feel as though your constant work and effort are to no avail, you may not possess a clear enough vision for yourself. Do you take inspired action or have you merely busied yourself with tasks seemingly related to your dreams? Do you know what has prompted you to take action and pursue certain things?

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The Secrets for Opulent Living… Now and Forever! Are you focused on what you want in your life or are you focused on what you don’t want? Are you always thinking about the scarcity you have in your life or are you focused on all the abundance that you possess? Are you focused on how great you feel right now or are you thinking how sick and tired you are with your life? Secret #1

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What’s the one food you probably eat every day that you don’t even know you’re eating, that causes Muffin Top? Just FYI there is one 'food' that’s in almost all processed foods; is often used as a replacement in gluten-free foods; is erroneously revered by many health-food companies & is even used to make the bottles we drink from & it causes Muffin Top!!! Yikes!! You're pretty savvy- wanna guess what it is? You give up, eh... well...

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Success has never been achieved based solely upon talent, circumstance, brains, or even courage. It is obtained when specific goals are combined with an organized plan, commitment to that plan is combined with a belief that it is possible, and daily action is combined with continual persistence despite the inevitable failures that will occur along the journey.

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An immovable will is something that we must possess in order to achieve the things of our greatest desires and fantasies. To have an immovable will does not mean that you are simply a stubborn person, it mean that you have a determination that is so deeply rooted to your core that it has become your internal motivation. It is the engine that drives you towards your desires. The ability to resist dissuasion from the positive beliefs we hold within ourselves that are in direct alignment with the things we have asked of the universe is something to which we must aspire.

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People everywhere have incredible ideas, reachable goals, and untapped potential – but they are far more scared of actually accomplishing their dreams than they are of failing to achieve them. The reason is because being average or just good is certainly easier than the work required to become great or successful in anything. And yet, usually it is not the work and effort that most frightens us, it is the lack of belief in ourselves and that our dreams are possible that dictates our decisions of not taking action, never taking risks, and becoming content with mediocrity.

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What are your dreams? We each have them, and they literally shape our thoughts and hopes. But, do you actually believe your dreams are possible? The unfortunate reality for most of us is that our dreams remain only as thoughts and wishes and never convert into actions. Ask yourself this important question – are you planning on making your dreams a reality someday … or are you actually doing something now to accomplish them? The great Og Mandino said it so well when he wrote: “My dreams are worthless, my plans are dust, my goals are impossible.

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Never forget that entrepreneurs are not born – they are created! Within you already lie the essential elements to be successful as an entrepreneur – and in anything in life – because you literally are capable of becoming and accomplishing anything. Remember though that an understanding of the principles below will certainly contribute to the accomplishment of your dreams and goals, but only if they are applied and acted upon continually. Perhaps most importantly, the attribute, characteristic, and action that will contribute most to your success is determining now to never quit.

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This is a short but sweet mindset shift that can dramatically improve your life. It definitely has changed the quality of my life for the better. Normally, people go through their lives and get pushed and pulled around by their emotions, causing their moods to be a direct result of what happens to them. This is a result of mental attachment, which according to Buddhism is the root of all suffering. Attachment to specific outcomes, people, objects, etc, is not healthy because when things go “wrong,” as they always seem to do, people feel negative emotions.

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People everywhere have incredible ideas, hidden talents, unlimited potential, and reachable dreams, but they spend too much time listening to the voices of fear and doubt in their own minds that they thus never take a risk and put forth the necessary action required to realize those goals, dreams, and potential. They fail because they don’t attempt. Fears are thoughts of unnecessary worry and often demonstrate an inability to control one’s thoughts. Doubts are voices in one’s mind, or thoughts created by the irrelevant comments of others. Failures are events, not people.

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There is a sad, unfortunate, and all-too-common scenario that happens on the street corners of the majority of large cities across the world. The situation is familiar to us all because we each have faced it several times. And while the locations and people may be different, the circumstances are often similar. Usually the setting includes a man or woman who is extremely unkept, smells and looks as though they have not showered for weeks, is often sitting next to the entirety of what they own, and their eyes and hands are outstretched pleading for assistance.

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Resumes are essential documents that communicate our past experience, outline our previous accomplishments, and even reveal a portion of our current character. They are so essential that employers, educational institutions, and companies everywhere must require them in order to assess our abilities, compare us against other applicants, and determine which person applying will be the most successful. In fact, resumes are perhaps the greatest indicator of future performance, based upon our past experience.

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Achievement of any goal or dream in life is the result of many contributing thoughts, attributes, and actions that cumulatively define the ‘law of success.’ Are any of these actions or attributes more important than the other? I don’t think so necessarily; however, without one essential attribute, perhaps none of the other actions would ever take place. This essential attribute is: self-esteem! To be successful in anything in life, you must first be willing to take risks. However, in order to take a risk, you absolutely must overcome the voices of fear and failure.

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What does L.F.G. stand for, and what is the story behind this acronym? Would you believe me if I told you that understanding and applying the principles of this acronym would ensure your success in anything in life? In early 2008, I started a real estate investing business. In the process of setting up the legal entity, I wanted to choose a company name that reflected what type of business it was, and yet also be something that was personally meaningful and applicable to me.

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As important as it is for children and teenagers to understand these 8 essential principles below – it is far more important that their parents actually know, understand, live and exemplify them before trying to teach them to their kids. 1)What Do Kids Want … That Money Can’t Buy: Our me-oriented culture has engrained into our minds that to show love or appreciation for another person, we must buy them something. As a result, our children’s closets are full, toys are everywhere, and candy is always accessible. And yet, so many children are still not satisfied and happy. Why?

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Fear is unnecessary worry. Fear is a lack of self-confidence. Fear is evidence of an inability to control one’s thoughts. Fear is often the underlying reason for failure. Fear limits one’s potential because the thought of fear results in inaction. Fear, ironically, is both necessary and a protection; but unfortunately, people use fear’s protection as a sad justification and excuse for an inability to take a risk. Fear is in everyone. And thankfully, fear is controllable and can be overcome.

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“If we did all the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” ~ Thomas A. Edison “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

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In March 2008, I had an experience that I am positive many of us have had – perhaps several times. It all started with an IDEA in my mind! I had been talking with a friend on the phone and he mentioned something to me that sparked a business idea that I knew would work, and that I was extremely passionate about.

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The majority of personal successes in life are usually accomplished after the individual determines to not give up when they experience a failure. This reality should suggest that dreams and goals are absolutely possible, but most often aren’t achieved because we quit during the ascent up the hill, not realizing the prize is just a few more steps away. Likewise, this truth should also suggest that any dream or goal, in order to be accomplished, most certainly will be accompanied by temporary failures and requires consistent effort.

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Each of us is exposed to and bombarded by – on a daily basis – an evil that is extremely enticing and appealing, so selfishly gratifying (temporarily), so unavoidably addictive, and so incredibly damaging to our thoughts, lives, families, and society.

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We all have heard and know that the majority of wealth in this nation was acquired through … Real Estate. The secret of the wealthy is actually no secret at all – they understand that purchasing properties is the key to achieving financial independence, freedom, and wealth. Because people realize this, there is an entire market of real estate investing products ranging from books to seminars to coaching programs that promise this same success and wealth.

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The greatest challenge we will face in life – in fact, the very purpose of our existence – is to learn how to develop self-control and discipline ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, morally, financially, intellectually, and spiritually. The difficulty of this necessary task should suggest the importance of the effort – for all things worthwhile require great work, discipline, and persistence.

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Worrying feeds fears and doubts. Worrying wastes time and consumes energy. Worrying weakens ambition and breeds inaction. Worrying will cripple our confidence, faith, and ability to reason. Worrying kills the ability to think big and reveals an inability to control one’s thoughts. Worrying is the first step towards failure and limits our potential. And yet, ironically, worrying is at times necessary, can be a protection, and is found within everybody. Unfortunately, the ability to discipline and train the mind how to stop worrying is found in so few, and yet, it is so important.

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The greatest challenge and obstacle on the pathway to success is learning how to completely control our thoughts. Do you realize that you can literally think your way into success! The thoughts we allow and entertain in our own minds – whether they are positive or negative, believing or fearful, pure or immoral, dreaming or doubting – they will literally become our very actions. Over time, as we all know, our actions become habits – and it is our daily habits that determine and create our potential, character, and eventual destiny.

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There are many different success strategies. So many in fact that you could probably waste several lifetimes just studying the theory behind all the different success strategies out there, and never actually get round to getting the job done!

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Usually, the difference between success and failure is attempt! Courage is more important than ability, faith is more powerful than experience, and action produces far more than knowledge. Ironically, the majority of our daily actions require taking a risk; in fact, progress and risk are synonymous. Thus, we must not only develop the ability to take calculated risks, decide confidently, and act quickly, but to also realize that avoiding failures, listening to fears and doubts, practicing idleness, and being content with mediocrity is just as risky.

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Your success in life is not determined by the education obtained, institutions attended, career accomplishments, awards won, or the wealth you acquire. Real success in life is solely determined on who you become, the character and attributes you develop, the people you help, and whether or not at the end of the day you were true to the most important priorities in life – namely: God & Family. And yet our culture and society certainly do not proclaim that same message.

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There is a path, called ‘the path to success,’ which everyone is traveling on. Scattered randomly throughout the journey are occasional forks in the road that require us to make difficult decisions. Both paths of these diverging forks bring with them certain appeal, rewards, risks, drawbacks, as well as consequences. The fork on the left, for example, is often much more appealing because the path is usually paved, it is always full of fellow travelers, and looks a whole lot easier than the fork on the right.

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I felt an immediacy about being in the remote Amazon jungle where I stayed with the headhunting Shuar tribe. I felt the same thing last summer when I stayed in a remote, primitive village in Malawi, Africa's poorest country. Both places called me to a presence that I don't usually experience here in my cushy life in Pennsylvania. Those treks and others taught me a lot about being in the "zone" of presence - personally and professionally.

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You can become and accomplish anything in life! Your successes, greatness, and potential are determined by you alone; and all of the characteristics necessary to achieve your goals and dreams already lie within you. Our success and potential is not determined by talent or ability, knowledge or money, race or gender, or even circumstance or setting – it is created, developed, and determined from within ourselves. Our dreams and goals will be achieved only when we understand and implement the fundamental laws and secrets for success.

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Before applying the secrets of success, one must understand what they are. This article is not focused on actually outlining and explaining in detail what the secrets of success are – its purpose is to demonstrate how they are applicable to any of our goals, pursuits, and dreams in life.

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The other day I ran into a woman who asked me the typical question that seems to be a common start to many conversations. She asked: “So what do you do?” First of all, being an entrepreneur who has his feet in many waters, I never quite know how to answer that question.

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I love my job, I am my own bossr By Mack Thomas The American dream has had its third paradigm shift in modern history. At the turn of the century, the American dream was to just become an American, considering that most people were born in other countries. In the 1950’s through the early 1980's shifted to owning a home.

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Are you waiting for the stimulus plan to kick in to solve your personal wealth and well-being woes? Waiting for a plan to work that was developed by some source outside of yourself is not going to provide you with the abundance, security and serenity that you want to achieve! The answer is within you this very moment and is waiting to be unleashed. I can guide you in unleashing your inherent creative and intellectual abilities that will actualize a new life of fulfilling and lasting success.

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Never attempt to re-evaluate a decision until you have first acted upon it. If you change your mind, opinion or decision before you have acted upon it you may be falling victim to your own internal conflict. When we re-evaluate a decision it is most likely in an attempt to validate a change of mind. The need to re-evaluate happens when the original conclusion or decision you have come to has now been challenged. This challenge is either internal or exte al. Exte al challenges of ideas come from outside forces such as the opinions of others.

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What types of goals have you set for yourself? Do your goals serve you and bring you happiness? Your goals should advance you towards your dreams. Set goals that are in alignment with what you truly want in life. Intend that the achievement of each goal will allow you to receive a bit of happiness that you did not have before. Setting and achieving goals alone down not mean that you are moving in the right direction. You must identify what it is that you want and which goals will bring you closer to those things.

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What does an old Navy Fighter Pilot, who’s an ex-airline pilot and the president of a very successful international charity do after being stricken by a brain aneurysm? Well, he could have rolled up into a little ball and quit right then. But Len Kaine is no quitter … never was … never will be! In his words, “There is work to do.

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We all have influence over our options and in turn, our options give us influence. It is not others who give us options, it is ourselves. We have the power to enable possibilities within our minds. “Practical” and “rational” are the enemies of this type of internal empowerment. They are self limiting concepts that must be removed before we can bask in the beauty of optional influence. When we make choices and establish preference, we are directing our energy to certain things rather than others. It is the consorted energetic effort that will yield results in our favor.

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Use your passion to simplify your life. Knowing what you want out of life and intending your success in achieving it is the best way to simplify your life. Follow your passion every day. By first identifying that which you are passionate about, you will be able to categorize the other items in your life as “pending elimination”. For many people, it is impractical to suggest that they wake up tomorrow and do only the things that they want to do and none of the things they do not.

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What do you need to do to achieve your dream? How do you reach something so far away from your current condition? In order to achieve your dreams you must break down your vision into achievable milestones and goals. This is a method that has been taught for many years, but is only half the battle. Not only must you create a system of measurable progression through the completion of goals and tasks, but you must also prioritize that which you choose to complete.

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The first and most important step to attaining elusive dreams is to know and believe that they are indeed attainable. A shift in your mindset must take place in order to have and hold the things you want most, but feel are out of reach. The key to this shift in mindset is to remove self imposed limitations. It does not matter what other people think of your abilities. What matters is whether or not you choose to believe them. If there is something that you feel is out of your reach it is because you have decided to place it out of your reach.

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Every cause or mission is unique. It is in its unique character that its strength is found. However, every great idea must be supported and built up to its ultimate potential. This process requires a team. A team will support you by bringing new ideas, resources and techniques to you and enable you to make a larger impact by multiplying your voice. Building a team that is willing to go the distance with you can be challenging. This is where your commitment to your dream drives you to persevere through the ups and downs of team building.

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