Who is Really in Control of Your Life? Is It You? Or….?

You might be thinking, what a ridiculous question! “Who else is — or could be — controlling my life if it isn’t me?”

The truth is there are many possible answers to this question. Here’s a few: your spouse… your significant other… your parents… your siblings… your good friends… or…. I’m sure you can come up with many more answers tha
I did, but here’s the simple yet powerful answer. Your life is controlled by whomever you give your power away to.

Believe it or not, for you and for most people, the powerful driving force running your life is that all mighty little voice in your head known as your “Saboteur.”

Think about it. Throughout your life you’ve had good times when everything was going right and there was no need for you to change anything. Then something shifted which caused your life to become stressful and overwhelming. You might have even had many sleepless nights thinking about all the “what ifs” that kept swirling through your mind.

Not wanting to stay in this now stressful and overwhelming life, you decide you want to make changes. That’s great — and it’s a wise choice. Yet, no matter how much you want to make these changes, for some reason you find you just can’t do it. This is the land of the all too familiar experience of being “stuck.” You need to get “unstuck!”

There is a lot more to the process of getting unstuck and achieving what you want than just deciding you want to make changes. You need…

To know what you want,
To commit to the process,
To change your current mindset, and, most importantly,
You need to know how to deal with that little voice in your head – your personal Saboteur.
Sounds like a lot, huh? You might even be saying, “No wonder it’s so hard to get to where I want to be.”

Or, maybe you’re thinking, “That all makes perfectly good sense, but now I don’t even know where to start or what to do. HELP, get me unstuck!”

Ok, since you asked, let me share a few tips with you to get you started on the road to change — and to get you “unstuck.”

1. Declare what changes you want to make. Write them down on a piece of paper. Putting it in writing is powerful. Don’t just say the words.
2. I recommend working on only one or two goals at a time.
3. Remember, take baby steps and keep it simple.
4. When you start in on your goals, take time to notice how this moves you out of your comfort zone.
5. As you start getting out of your comfort zone you’ll notice that little voice in your head getting louder and louder. You might be hearing, “You can’t do that” or “You tried before, and it didn’t work then and it won’t work now,” and so on. Don’t let it control you!
6. Quiet down your Saboteur. Refuse to surrender to those negative voices and success will be yours.

Are you ready to give it a try? Good for you!