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Why Men Leave Women - The Secret To Getting Your Man Back

Written by JD Dean

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished June 24, 2008
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If you have just been dumped by your man then instead of reacting in an angry way it might pay you to understand first why the decision was made.

As hard as it seems, being rational when you've been spurned is the first step in achieving a successful reunion and until you have the discipline to do this, then you can virtually kiss any chance of reconciliation goodbye.

Why Men Leave Wome

The most obvious reason is because a man has met someone new and has found the qualities in that person that they have been longing for a long time. However, while this may seem the reason on the surface, the real reasons may go deeper than you realize.

You've got to understand that most relationships don't just end overnight. There is a collection of reasons which gather over time and eventually it comes to a head.

So what reasons are we talking about? Just as a woman craves a certain kind of attention then so do men. Any relationship of substance - that is, one which has been ongoing for a certain amount of time will eventually go stale if left unattended.

Does this scenario sound familiar to you? You used to worry about how you looked around the home and you went out of your way to let your man know you were interested. After awhile, you started to become comfortable and gradually your dress sense around the home would begin to taper off.

Instead of wearing clothes that made him notice, you became more casual and began wearing "sloppy Joes" and left the make up off. Listening to his jokes started to become a chore and you laughed less often. In fact, your interest in him and what he liked to do dropped in intensity.

You begin to be critical of even the most minor things and encouragement is replaced by sarcasm.

What Men Really Want

The simple truth is, men will exit a relationship most times because there not getting what they want from it. So what do they want?

Here's a shortlist and see if any of these resonate with you:

1. Men crave attention. There's a lot of truth in the statement that men don't really grow up following the attention they receive from the mothers. Believe it or not, this is the type of attention they continue to look for in a relationship.

2. Admiration is a big part of a man's life. They like to be admired and while many may not achieve this in their social sphere, they at least expect it within the walls of their own own.

3. Respect is another craving men desire. In fact, it's just about up there with the first two reasons. Lack of respect will soon convince a man that it's time to get into an environment where he gets it and if he begins to get it from another woman then you do the maths.

4. Men hate to feel like their partner is unsatisfied with them. This is a combination of the first three points plus they like to be wanted.

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