Women who worry too much

Why Women Worry- The psychological dynamics that steal away emotional security

By Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified Counselor & Certified Life Coach

Women worry about many different topics, from men to body image to relationships to their mother's approval or if they will be financially secure to provide for their kids. Little girls worry- their moms worry and grandmothers worry... it's universal and touches every group on the planet- but women often worry far more than the men around them realize. No matter what she may be worried about the same psychological drive is usually fueling this stressful emotion. I believe the real source behind the worry most women feel is control. n

Not control in the sense of being a manipulative monster, (like Jane Fonda's character in the film "Monster-in-Law"), rather it's the need to know what's happening around her so she can feel empowered, safe and in control of her emotions and environment. Think of it this way.

The Worry Formula

When control goes up, worry goes down because the more a woman can understand the more she will automatically feel a sense of security and confidence inside. However, as a situation begins to feel out of control, worry dramatically increases, leading to more serious conditions like nn- Social Phobian- Stress disordersn- Major physical symptoms, (like migraine headaches)
- Generalized Anxiety Disorders orn- Panic Attacks

Women process information verbally which is why they need to talk through so many issues they are thinking about to feel comfortable. When a woman feels connected through communication she feels confident and alive, instead of overly conce
ed or afraid.

Listen instead of Lecture

Men would do well to figure out that they could make rapid improvement in their relationships with women simply by listening, instead of lecturing the women in their life. Many women aren't looking for a quick 'mr. fix-it' answer, they are looking for a safe place to sort through the things that are bugging her.

When a woman feels safe in the relationship, her worries fade and psychological energy can be spent on living life, instead of living in fear of what might happen next.

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