Your Attitude to Love, Dating and Relationships is Crucial in Your Ability to Develop a Successful Intimacy
Written by Doron Gil, Ph.D.
The attitude you have while going on dates is crucial to your succeeding or failing to extend a date to a meaningful relationship. The more you take the time to reflect upon your attitude this holiday season and realize whether it sabotages you or not, the more you can change and adopt a healthy one, constructive to finding a satisfying bond next year.
YOUR PERCEPTION OF RELATIONSHIPS
The way you perceive relationships has a lot to do with how you go about developing one. The more you figure out and understand your attitude and adjust whatever needs to be changed, the better chances you have to find a partner and cultivate a successful relationship next year.
WHAT KIND OF A PERSON DO YOU PERCEIVE YOURSELF TO BE?
* If you’re a pessimist, believing that everything eventually comes to an end, it is most likely that your relationship will not last.
* If, on the other hand, you’re an optimist, believing that “things will work out”, it is likely that you’ll give your relationship a chance.
* And if you’re a realist, knowing that all relationships have their ups and downs, it’s quite likely that you’ll be willing to work on your relationship.
DOES THIS SHORT POEM REFLECT IN ANY WAY YOUR OWN VIEW OF RELAITONSHIPS?
Love's death begins with its conception.
First kiss of passion ignites the path to agony.
Everything comes to its end.
It's only a matter of time.
* Does this poem reflect a pessimistic view of love or a realistic one?
* Could it reflect both?
* Aren’t there many relationships which begin with “falling in love” and end with “falling out of love”.
* Isn’t it true, then, that the “First kiss of passion ignites the path to agony”?
WITH WHAT ATTITUDE DO YOU GO ON DATES?
Whether you perceive this poem to be a pessimistic or a realistic view of the nature of relationships, some adopt this poem’s view as they go on blind-dates. It is as if they are careful, very careful, protecting themselves from the beginning, preparing themselves for the worst possible scenario.
Do you find yourself falling into this category?
Do you know others who do?
Regardless of the reason driving this view, those holding on to it don't realize that with such a belief they already set up the stage for another failed relationship.
This is a self-fulfilling-prophecy: they end up confronting what they've set up their mind to expect.
THE MORE YOU REFLECT, THE MORE YOU UNDERSTAND YOURSELF
The more you understand your own view of relationships and why you adopted it, the more you become empowered to approach blind dates and relationships with a positive, constructive attitude, one which will lead you to grow and develop with a partner.
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About the Author
Doron Gil, Ph.D., is an expert on Self-Awareness and Relationships with a 30 year experience as a university teacher, workshop leader, counselor and consultant. He has written more than 130 articles on the subject and is the author of “The Self-Awareness Guide to a Successful Intimate Relationship”. Available as eBook and Paperback: http://amzn.to/eAmMmH
More on Dr. Gil and his book: http://self-awareness-and-relationships.blogspot.com
For a complete list of Dr. Gil’s articles and their links: http://relationship-self-awareness-advice.blogspot.com
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