Chris Chandra

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Friendship & Loneliness Expert

Chris Chandra

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Social Engineering, Overcoming Shyness and Anxiety, How To Have Better Conversations
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Secrets To Becoming Socially Savvy & Attract 10x More Friends

I was the guy who showed up to hang out and people would go “Ugh why’d they have to bring HIM?” and they’d avoid talking to me or even looking in my direction. I remember in high school I used to read about cool scientific facts and knowledge about the universe. And I’d remember it for conversations starters thinking it will mesmerize people and get them to notice me.

Yep, no one cared. I was shy, introverted and usually lonely.

But I wasn't the type to throw in the towel. I studied some of the most extroverted outgoing people around and read about anthropology, ethology and psychology to understand what makes them so likable from a scientific point of view. Eventually I started getting the same success they were and created step by step methods to teach other introverted, shy men about being social and outgoing.

I met some famous people from Miss Korea, Jean-Claude Van Damme to small time movie directors in the area using some of my techniques.

I've coached many guys over the years and took them from shy and meager to being the center of their social circle. Once they got this success they never went back to being the same again. You should check out my page if you want to learn more about my systems and methods How To Avoid Social Anxiety/Shyness, Have Amazing Conversation and Make 10x More Friends

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You know it... That moment where you see that girl and you want to go talk to her. Maybe it's in school, maybe it's at work, maybe it's at the gym.... Who cares where it is! You just want to go talk to her and get her to like you. Right? But the problem is you're too shy to do it. Well I'm gona try to help you out with that by giving you an insight on women that you might not have known before which in turn will help you lower your shyness.

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Ahh rejection. Rejection is pretty hard on the soul. It can make you feel unwanted, lonely and frustrated. It doesn't matter if you’re the average Joe or a big shot executive. It hurts just the same; and with today’s fast paced society the world can feel extra punishing.

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“Nice guys finish last” I’m sure many shy men can relate with this statement. I’ve seen over the years that shy men have an air of “I’ll always be nice no matter what.” They are easily forgiving of others regardless of what the situation is. Overly NICE guys also tend to remember things others did even though on the outside he’s forgiving about it; and these incidents just keep piling up more and more. After reflecting on the question of “Why are they so nice even after being pushed around?” I realized it came down to one factor. That behavior comes from FEAR.

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Waiiit STOP Don’t do it! This will save you a lot of humiliation and rejection if you just read this first. Because women talk. And they’ll talk about how you tried to pick up on them to their friends, and if you have the same circle of friends that could mean somewhat of a disaster. Hot Women. They’re almost like a different species. You know they’re hard to get. You know they’ll almost always reject you. And almost always they’ll have an army of guys trying to pick up on them.

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Yes, there is such a thing. A meditation technique that helps you to overcome shyness. It’s a meditation technique I’ve used for over 6 years and it’s helped me a great deal. If you follow any of my articles or read about me then you know I’ve overcome shyness and gotten to the point where I networked with celebrities, directors etc... and I credit a lot of my success to this one meditation technique.

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Let’s face it. If you have shyness working against you then making conversations can be really tough. But did you know that many great conversations can start from canned material? Meaning its stuff you planned to talk about ahead of time. The problem is knowing what material to talk about to get people interested. Today I’m going to discuss one topic in particular that gets people interested in what you have to say.

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The problem with shyness is it feels like you’ll never overcome it. It takes a grip over you as soon you have to meet people or introduce yourself to someone. And it grips you until the very end of the interaction. To many of us with shyness it feels like an enormous wall that blocks us from meeting and attracting the type of friends we want in our life. When you begin to understand your own shyness, where it comes from and how to deal with it the right way you can start to overcome it and begin having the social lifestyle you always dream about. Shyness is an inte al state.r

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Have you ever been in a situation where you get a girl’s number and you think everything went well, but when you get in touch with her she never returns your calls? Suppose she wasn’t a stranger, maybe you met at a barbeque at your friend’s house. Shouldn’t it be easier to get in touch with her since you have mutual friends? Ha! Not so easy. What I’m going to discuss here today is why women never call you back. Once you understand this you’ll have a better chance with her being receptive to you and in turn hopefully you get to meet her a second time.

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Hmm Of course the answer is make new friends right? Especially if you wished you had a more active social life and you’re not social. The reason I’m bringing up this topic is to discuss how we sabotage ourselves when it comes to the social success we want. When you can figure out where in your life you’re holding yourself back from being more social you can start to take action and get the kind of life you want. You see, we have certain mechanisms in our mind that can work against us in the wrong situations.

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How many times has it happened in your past where a date didn’t go the way you planned? You planned out a whole romantic evening, you gave it a lot of thought, memorized love quotes for her that you might have used, spent a lot of your time. And surprisingly it went nowhere with the girl. That sucks doesn’t it? What’s worse is she didn’t even seem like she had a great time. So what can you do in this situation? Well, there’s a few things successful guys in dating do that are different.

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So you’re standing at the counter in the grocery store, there’s no one else in line and there’s a really cute girl at the counter. What do you say to start a conversation? Just saying hi usually doesn’t lead anywhere, and if you make it too obvious it’ll be embarrassing if you get rejected. When you can start conversations the right way you can get the girl interested in talking to you and you’ll be able to get her phone number. I’m going to provide you three “Ice Breakers” to start a conversation with a woman.

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If you don’t have much experience in the dating field you might make the mistake of believing all women have the same personality types and treat them the same way. Or You might already know that you have to treat different personality types with a unique approach but not know what those approaches are. When you learn about the 5 personality types women have you’ll be able to have better relationships with the kind of woman you want and also know what you’re getting yourself into before investing time and energy.

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