Clarity Through Contrast
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In order to find out what your true calling is - what life path you are meant to be on, you can tune in to your inner voice. You can sit still, breathe, and listen to what your wisdom deep inside wants you to know.
Another way to find this out is by gaining clarity through contrast.
Have you ever done something that seemed so far away from what you knew deep inside you were meant to do?
Many people feel this way about their jobs. They realize exactly what they want in a new job by recognizing what they don't want in their current job.
This can also be seen in relationships. Have you ever noticed another couple fighting and filled with contempt for one another? I'm sure this made you realize right away what you didn't want in a relationship of your own.
Being on a direct path to your true calling is one way to start living your ideal life. And being on a roundabout path by experiencing different situations and recognizing which parts of these situations no longer feed your soul is another way to get there. And neither one is better than the other. They each take you to the same outcome: you living the life you were born to live.
Anytime I do something that I am no longer excited about doing, I realize that I am receiving clarity through contrast. I have begun the process of sifting through each experience and putting it all into two categories: my true life path and my "this no longer serves me" path. And it all becomes so clear when I look at everything through this lens.
Take some time today to think about what you truly would love to do with your life.
Take some time to think about what your ideal life would look like.
And then take some time to notice if there are any parts of your life that no longer fit this ideal (job, relationship, etc.).
Can you gain clarity through contrast?
When we begin to sift through and get clear on what our true life path looks like, we are able to recognize each experience as either on the path or away from it.
And we can then begin to let go of any relationship or experience that no longer fits in with our plan for our life.
And this is such a fun, exciting process!
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Jodi Chapman is the author of the inspirational blog, Soul Speak; the upcoming book, Coming Back to Life: How an Unlikely Friend Helped Me Reclaim My True Spirit; and the bestselling Soulful Jou
als series, co-authored with her amazing husband, Dan Teck. www.jodichapman.com
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