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People Skills
PEOPLE SKILLSnnnnâIâve had a wonderful evening,â Groucho Marx once said after a very dull party, âbut this wasnât it.â nnnAre you comfortable walking into a room full of people you donât know? Breaking into a new circle, club or group isnât always easy but here are a few ideas you might want to explore. nWhen you first walk into the room, try to relax and smile with your eyes as well as your mouth. Walk tall and keep smiling. People are attracted to people who
September 19, 2007
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Sound Relationships
SOUND RELATIONSHIPSnnnWhether youâre the Chief Executive of a corporation or the Chief Cook and Bottle Washer at home, communication is vital. nnTalking is the lifeblood of sound relationships. Communication needs to flow from the top down so that everyone knows what, when, where, why and how but if there is no valve allowing freedom of expression from the bottom up, then somebody, somewhere is going to feel isolated and frustrated. nnWhether its management not listening to
September 18, 2007
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Simple Steps To A Better Movement
Between the late 1800s and the beginning of the twentieth century, the U.S. and Britian shared the dubious distinction of the world's "most constipated nation." Well, we a bit more enlightened today as we know that being constipated can lead to dangerous toxins being released back into the system, which can comprimise organ systems. In the worse-case scenario, it could lead to sepis or autointoxication. nnHere are a few simple steps to ensure you remain regular. nn1) Have an
September 3, 2007
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The Importance of Being...Not Too Earnest
The Importance of Being ... Not Too EarnestnnnnSeven days without laughter makes one weak! - Joel Goodman nnnHave you been getting enough fun lately! If you need to think about it, then maybe you havenât. Injecting fun and humor into your everyday life is like carrying the sun around in your pocket all day long. nnnPeople who find fun are fun to be with. They look on the bright side. They are social magnets. They keep the party going. They make light work of heavy workloads
August 30, 2007
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Listen: Do You Want to Know a Secret?
Cast your mind back: When was the last time someone really listened to you and how did that make you feel? Satisfied? Delighted? Euphoric? You might not have to think too far back for this one: When was the last time someone didnât listen to you? How did that make you feel? Annoyed? Frustrated? Exasperated? nnnHave you ever been semi-engaged in a conversation with someone who is constantly looking over your shoulder for the next best person to talk to? When you listen to so
August 28, 2007
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Know Need
Know NeednnnnThe sixties pop group, The Hollies, sang, âSometimes, all I need is the air that I breath and to love you.â nnnWhat do you need? Oxygen, water, sleep and the obligatory nine portions of fruit and vegetables per day? Yes. But what else do you - the person reading these words - really need? Beyond the basics, what are your real needs? nnnDo you need to lead, achieve, build, create, organize, teach, preach, write....? Do you have a need for honesty, truth, love,
August 21, 2007
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Dwarfing Walls
Donât spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. - Dr. Laura Schlessinger nnI have an admission to make. Quite often I know exactly what I am going to write about and then something happens during the week that throws me off at a complete tangent. nnIn the beginning, the divergence may seem somewhat insignificant and then the penny drops, the message appears and I am compelled to write about it. And this article is one such example. nnI went to visit
August 17, 2007
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Got a Big 'But'?
Got a big but?nnnnWhat is preventing you from doing what you need to do? nnWhat is stopping you from saying what you need to say? nnWhat needs to happen before you can summon up the courage or find the mindset to do it or say it so that you can be done with it.nnThe problem is that we know what needs to be done or said, but more often than not our âbutâ gets in the way: nn I need to do it today but... n I wanted to call her yesterday but... n I had it in mind to tell him
August 15, 2007
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Passion Lives Here
Passion lives herennnnâInside of a ring or out, there ainât nothing wrong with going down. Itâs staying down thatâs wrong.â - Muhammad AlinnnIf you followed the Winter Olympics in Turin, Italy, you may have noticed that the motto was âPassion Lives Hereâ. What better slogan to reflect the determination that was etched on the faces of those competitors? If youâre looking for inspiration, youâll find it there. nnnThe Zhangs, from China, were competing in the f
August 14, 2007
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Burning Question
Burning questionnnnnIn life you need either inspiration or desperation. - Anthony Robbins nnHave you lost your spark? Music always inspires me and not only that, Iâve often found solace in music. When my grandmother died a few years ago I listened to two pieces of music almost constantly: âEverybody Hurtsâ by R.E.M. and âAdagioâ by Albinoni. nnnThe former, by R.E.M., happened to be on the charts at the time and seemed to capture my personal anguish. By coincidence,
August 13, 2007
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Write Here. Write Now.
Write here. Write now. nnnnThe art of writing is the art of applying the seat of the pants to the seat of the chair. - Mary Heaton VorsennnA few years ago I met Harry Potter author, J.K. Rowling. In fact we spent an afternoon together, talking about books. She has read mine, you know! Allow me to turn back the pages.... nnnI have always enjoyed reading our sons a bedtime story and although they are old enough now to read their own books there are still occasions when I read s
August 12, 2007
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Coincidence or What?
Coincidence or what?nn nCoincidences happen for a reason. You might not fully understand the rationale behind a coincidence until you have the benefit of hindsight. At the point of coincidence, you might wonder why? nnWhy did I bump into that person this morning? What made me turn down this road today? When did I ever do this before?nn nThen later, the reason presents itself. On reflection that person you encountered is now a dear friend; that road you turned down led you to
August 10, 2007