Pam Guthrie
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We and Me
We and Me How do your relationships support you? They all do, one way or another. Some of our relationships support us with kindness and comfort. Some of our relationships support us with meaningful tasks and cash rewards. Some of our relationships support us with challenges and reminders to take care of ourselves. Oh, yeah. The trick is to recognize which ones are which, not always an easy task for some reason. It seems that we often superimpose the way we think a relationsh
July 31, 2012
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Money! Power! Sex!
Money! Power! Sex! When we have them, and use them well, they are so much fun. When we donât have them, we have feelings about them. When we misuse them, we have feelings about them. And sometimes we have serious mis-learning around them, and become either abusive or abused with them. As little children, we learn about the world from our grownups. If our grownups have some trouble handling the energies of money, power, and sex, we learn their ways. Some of us learn to push
July 22, 2012
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Belly Brain
Here is something fun to try. Pull your stomach in really, really tight. Now totally relax it. What? It didn't totally relax? Well, try it again. Still not? Ok. Not to worry. Just push it out as far as you can. Now try to relax it. What is the deal? Why is relaxing your belly kind of challenging? The solar plexus is the seat, so to speak, of our personal power and intuition. It turns out we have a "brain" in our bellies, complete with neurons and neuro-choemicals. 95% of the
July 11, 2012
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The Nurturing Self
Some years back I had my first taste of Indian food and a surprising thing happened. About a half hour after Iâd finished my dinner, I felt really good. I felt like I had been fed, rather than just feeling full. Iâd never had that experience before, but it sure set me thinking. I liked that feeling of having been fed. I felt nourished, I felt energized and strong, I felt cheerful and happy. I wanted to enjoy more of that feeling, so I started to look at what nurtured and
July 2, 2012
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Watched
Whoâs watching you? We often donât pay any attention to who is watching us, but we all get watched. Children watch us to learn how to behave in the world. They watch what you do, how you speak, the way you treat people. Friends watch us to see how we are, how we are following our dreams, how we strive. Toxic friends was us to see how bad it is, how we are suffering so they can support us in following our negativity. ( I apologize to all my friends from the olden days whom
July 1, 2012
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Self-Knowledge and the Weather
Have you ever gotten a charlie horse in your leg? Ow. Or your foot? Ow. Well, that's kind of what happens when we say "no" to life. We all have different ways of saying "no" to life. We all have areas of our lives that we try to push away. And in the long run, it's kind of pointless, all that effort. Our life unfolds the way our life unfolds. At it's most fundamental, we have two options; saying yes to life, or saying no. Yes makes life easier, no makes it harder, like the cr
June 29, 2012
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How to Connect With Yourself
Who is the person in your life who treats you the best? Who watches out for you, notices when you are hungry, tired, lonely, angry and then takes care of you? Who knows what you are thinking, so you donât even have to say a word? Who knows all your favorite things, how you like best to be comforted? Who is the person whose respect you seek, whose appreciation you earn, whose love goes the deepest? Did you say, âI am!â I hope so. Our relationship with ourselves is our pr
June 16, 2012
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Committing
What are you committed to? Your partner and family? Your neighborhood? Your job? When you think of being committed to something, what does that mean to you? How do you feel when you think of your commitments? Light and joyful? In line with your purpose? Heavy and dark, resentful? What is your dearest heartâs desire? Have you committed to realizing that yet? For many of us, commitment is a dirty word. Somehow, we have the idea that a commitment is akin to a jail sentence, th
June 3, 2012
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The Meaning of Life
What do you think the meaning of life is? Iâve spent a lot of time wondering about that. I wonder about a lot of things. I have a current, working theory about the meaning of life. Itâs working pretty well for me these days so I figured I would share it with you. There is lots of stuff to cope with every day. Issues, problems, worries, all the little things that we, as people have to contend with. Everybody has stuff. True is true when it applies to everyone. If you are a
June 3, 2012
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Your Super Powers
As human beings, we are blessed with some amazing super powers. These are the abilities we have that can, when used properly, transform our lives from places of misery and suffering into lives filled with joy and blessings. Wanna guess what they are? Love, gratitude, decision, and commitment are high on the list. Choice is always my number one. Hereâs the thing about our super powers. They are always there, they have been there from the very beginning. We donât pay much a
June 2, 2012
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Living Rent-Free in my Head
There are two old saws I like regarding forgiveness and resentment. The first is, âResentment is letting someone live rent-free in your head.â The second is, âIâll fix you, Iâll hurt me!â Oy. The word âresentmentâ says it all. It means to re-feel. And we know what that means -- running those habit-thought loops over and over, working yourself up into a lather of feeling awful, which doesnât do anything to the person youâre thinking about, but is awful for
June 2, 2012
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How to Let Go
Whatâs gonna happen next? Do you know? Yeah, me, either. But arenât we cute? We think we do! We all hold the belief that we know what is going to happen next. Chances are good that the next thing will be similar to the current thing, but thatâs just a change, itâs not knowledge. We have different ways of handling that uncertainty. We learned how to handle it when we were little ones, from our adults. Sometimes, we change our ways, often we donât. Some of us donât
June 2, 2012
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