Sandy Clendenen
Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology
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Sandy Clendenen Quick Facts
Sandy Clendenen lost her husband and best frienf in 1999, after twenty-one years of marriage. Her grief process was lengthy and complex. Sandy felt stuck in layers of unresolved grief.
As part of her heaing, Sandy filled numerous jou als with her thoughts and feelings. A review of these jou als several years later revealed insights into the grief process which Sandy is now committed to sharing with other grievers.
Sandy attended seminary for 3 years. She also received her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology. Sandy has also worked in various areas of hands on healing.
Sandy incorporates her vast personal experience and educaation into her grief coaching products and services.
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Shifting the Grief Healing Paradigm-Authentic Grief Healing
While grief is a universal experience, the mou ing process varies from family to family and from culture to culture. What I am referring to as the mou ing process are the rituals that most of us grow up with about how to behave and how to speak when confronted with a loss. In essence, mou ing rituals can be referred to as habits or paradigms. These habits or rituals are usually not questioned.
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Tips for Widows--Surviving The Holidays
Holidays can be difficult for widows. Whether it is a birthday, anniversary, Thanksgiving or New Years, the memories of past holidays can keep widows stuck in the past and unable to move forward in their life. It can feel impossible to even consider participating in a holiday without one's spouse. Those shared traditions and memories from past years probably do not feel appropriate now. Sometimes widows feel guilty when they think about participating in special days without their spouse.
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*** Jou aling the Journey Through Grief
Many who grieve find comfort and healing through the jou aling process. Writing truly does cause thinking. And thinking is the beginning of new awareness. And awareness is the beginning of transformation. When the love of your life is no longer physically present in your everyday like, there is definitely a huge empty space in your life. Often there is a great need to express yourself. Jou aling can really fill that need in a safe and secure way. Your journal can become your closest confidant. You may ask if jou aling is an isolating process.
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*** Emerge Beyond Your Grief
The grief process can be compared to the transformative process of the butterfly. Grievers ofte find themselves stuck inside the safety of the cocoon of grief. There is a sense of feeling lost in the darkness of grief. There is a push-puss feeling that often occurs during grief. Grievers want to move beyond their grief, but often find themselves unable to move out of that dark but secure place that grief can become. The journey of the butterfly from the cocoon is not an easy task.
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Dating and Grief
Dating and Griefr By Sandy Clendenen About a year after my husband died I began feeling extremely restless. Grief kept my mind skittering from one thing to another. Although these restless feelings were confusing, they were at least a bit of a relief from the heaviness of grief’s deep sadness and depression. Somehow, from this agitated state of displaced energy, I decided to try internet dating. It took me awhile to figure out the mechanics, since I knew very little about computers at that time.
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Grief and Dating
Dating and Griefr By Sandy Clendenen About a year after my husband died I began feeling extremely restless. Grief kept my mind skittering from one thing to another. Although these restless feelings were confusing, they were at least a bit of a relief from the heaviness of grief’s deep sadness and depression. Somehow, from this agitated state of displaced energy, I decided to try internet dating. It took me awhile to figure out the mechanics, since I knew very little about computers at that time.
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Grief And Dating
About a year after ny husband died I began feeling extremely restless. My mind seemed to be skittering from one thing to another. in a way, this was welcome relief from the heaviness of deep sadness and depression. But something was missing. Of course, comething was missing. My husband was ...
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Gratitude journal, A Tool For The Grieving Heart
Several times over the past few years I began to keep a gratitude journal. I bought a special notebook and pen and kept them by my bed. I wrote for a few days. Then I would forget for a day. Then I would stop completely. Last year I made a commitment to myself to write in my journal for 21 ...
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GRIEF AND FINANCES
Do you know your net worth? The first time I was asked this questio I had no idea what it meant. Even though I paid the bills for our farming business, I really did not pay attention to the bigger picture. I had money to pay the bills. that was the important thing. Right? When my husband died ...
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***Myths of Grief, 8 Part Series, Part 1
Since grief is a difficult topic for most people, there is a tendency to descend into myths about the subject of grief. These myths have often been passed down from generation to generation. These myths or paradigms easily become the truth of our lives that we accept without questioning. In ...
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***Tips for Grievers, Surviving Valentine's Day
How do you survive Valentine's Day when your special valentine is no longer around? 1) If you are feeling sad or depressed, be honest about it. In the past this may have been a special day for you and n your loved one. But now you are alone. If you are sad, n be being ...
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***Myths About Grief--Part 2
In the previous article I shared with you one of the most prevalent myths encountered by grievers; namely,"...it just takes time to heal grief." I explained how this myth, along with many others, have been passed down from generation to generation, and how these myths are assumed to be factual ...
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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Sandy Clendenen
Grief and loss are not choices. But you do have the choice to move beyond grief and into the realization that transformation is not just for butterflies.
The incredible beauty of the butterfly often shrouds the courage and effort that preceded this miraculous transformation.
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