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I have always been the kind of girl who loves living her life to the fullest. Never afraid of stating what I think, but always expressing my beliefs with diplomacy and tact, I have tried to put my naughty thoughts on paper and let the other side of me come out through writing. Sweet, naughty but also shy sometimes, wi…

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Addison Bell is a local Tantric Practitioner, Experiential Sex Coach, and Body-Image Expert. She is known for her fierce passion for helping others reach thier life potential. Over the last 10 years Addison has gathered a multitude of skills and knowledge and has integrated these modalities into her own Tantric heali…

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Currently, Allura works for a fabulous company, Oceanus Naturals based in Phoenix, AZ that manufactures all-natural products to support sexual health & overall wellness. Most of the Oceanus Naturals product line can be found across North America in over 80 retail chains including GNC, The Vitamin Shoppe, Fred Meyer, Z…

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Martina Weiser founded the Tantra Massage Center ANANDA, a place where well-trained and warm-hearted women offer the best and most holistic massages: Original Tantramassages and ANANDA-Massages see http://www.tantramassage.de. During a seven month journey through South-East Asia, Martina attended training courses in…

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Beatrice Fox has dedicated her life to makes sure we stay connected with other human beings. During her training as a sex educator Bea noticed how we seem to be more busy using all of our devices, but we also seem less happy and less socially connected than ever before. The more friends (and lovers) we get on Facebook…

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Hi! My name is Brenton Gilbet (pronounced Gil-bay). Most people just call me "Benny" for short. Ever since that point in grade school when all the guys decided to start treating the girls nice for a change (not conincedentally, "cooties" were seemingly eradicated from our school around the same time), I've made it my…

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My name is Betty Martin. On my website, I offer thoughts about sensual exploration, healing and intimacy. Website - http://www.sacredexploration.com I offer coaching, special events and workshops, and host Cuddle Parties, a non-sexual mini-workshop to rediscover gentle welcome touch. I bring to this work my intuitio…

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Billie Reed is a successful entrepreneur and Canadian escort marketing expert and consultant. At the helm of her very own marketing firm, she has helped independent escorts and escort agencies achieve their fullest online marketing goals in Canada for over 11 years with. As a much sought-after online marketing specia…

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I hold an MA in counseling from New York University and have conducted seminars on sexual communication issues for such professional associations as the National Sexuality Symposium and ther Association for Humanistic Psychology, as well as lay workshops for the Learning Annex, and sex ed classes for San Francisco Sta…

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It’s amazing what results occur from working with a Sacred Intimate! Amazing results occur quickly and the benefits continue as you grow. Imagine living into what your heart yearns for in your sexual expression and your romantic relationships. Imagine living beyond shame and being really happy with the depth of your i…

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Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed. has many passions and several areas of expertise. She is an adult sex educator helping couples to become better lovers, keep passion alive and have the great sex life they desire. Through her books, eClasses, and personal coaching she has helped hundreds of couples achieve not only a more sati…

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Writer, hypnotist, and a pioneer in the art of hyperemperia. I have developed a collection of erotic hypnosis programs designed to immerse the listener in virtual erotic adventures with a full sensory experience. This enables the listener to safely explore erotic fantasies of seduction and submission. My hypnosis MP3s…

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Daniel Garrett is a certified sexual wellness expert through the Eldorado Sexual Health Board where he graduated with honors. Daniel's specialty is helping marriages as well as other relationships which struggle with having a healthy sexual presence. When a man is uncertain about his manhood it leaves him with a sense…

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Through many trials and tribulations (due to being terrible in bed), David Carreras was lead to extensive research about how to improve his abilities in the bedroom, including techniques and knowledge to last longer during sex, strengthen erections, overcome sexual anxiety, increase penis size, how to make a woman org…

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Dorothy C. Hayden, LCSW, is a psychoanalyst and sex addiction therapist located in Manhattan, New York. A graduate of New York University,she has been treating sex addicts and their partners for 15 years. She has recently released an e-book, "Total Sex Addiction Recovery-A Guide to Therapy" and has published 40 articl…

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Executive Image International is the Official Guide for Sexuality on SelfGrowth and parent company of www.MaleBuzz.com the Elite Sexual Resource for Men. Our staff is committed to locating and reviewing sexual enhancement items for men and women and offering quality information and products to responsible adults who w…

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Freja Njorden, Intimacy Educator, consults on subjects including, but not limited to, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, inability to ejaculate and or orgasm, matters to do with libido, desire, arousal, sex education, eroticism, sexuality and aging, porn and or sexual addiction and compulsion and it's result…

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For years I've worked with various organizations in hopes to curb the spread of stds. Hopefully I can find some more people here that wish to help and network to achieve this goal.

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There is a scene in the film ‘The Chicken Run’ where Ginger, our hero, returns from solitary confinement after her umpteenth escape failure. Another chicken tentatively suggests that, since the chances of them breaking out of the chicken farm are evidently ‘a million to one against’, perhaps Ginger should consider giv…

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Educated at the University of Reading, UK, and the University of Nigeria, Enugu, Jay holds degrees in Estate Management, and in Surveying and Geodesy. His over 20 years career as geophysical seismic surveyor involved field operations and duty tours into remote and mostly unexplored terrains of South Sudan, Yemen, Cha…

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Choosing to heal for relationship In 1974 I was a freshman at CU in Boulder. I felt I had kept it together pretty well, all things considered. Well, I was fooling myself, because I wasn’t studying and my relationships were not going well. I remember the day I walked in to Wardenburg and talked with a counselor. Befor…

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Dr. Jo-A Bird is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Board Certified Clinical Sexologist, Certified Cognitive Behavioral Therapist, Hypnotherapist and relationship expert providing therapy and coaching services in the Tampa Bay area. She received her Doctorate from The American Academy of Clinical Sexologists at Maim…

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Julianne Bentley, the original Wanton Hussy, is unashamed to admit that she’s spent years thinking about sex. She works with individuals (and occasionally couples) who want to bring the passion and joy back into their bedrooms. Drawing on over fifteen years of experience discussing the ins and outs of sexuality, in a…

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Hi all my name is Kobi and i live in Los Angeles. I am an expert in many areas such as Sex Toys education, business management, Music production and web design. I will be writing here all sort of articles about human sexuality, toys reviews and other articles. You can check my web site at: www.adultnbeyond.com for…

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Krisanna Jeffery, BSW, M Ed., is a sex educator trained at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She has had the privilege to work on sexuality issues with many couples and individuals as a practicing psychotherapist since 1983, on Vancouver Island, British Columbia. In 2001, she received the Profession…

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Leah is an Advanced Certified Tantra Educator™ and has been a student of Tantra since 1997. She is Vice President and the Director of Events and Primary Female Facilitator for Source School of Tantra Yoga® and has been teaching seminars with Charles Muir since 2004. Leah, alongside Tj Bartel, founded More Love Seminar…

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America'sr Most Understanding Sex Educator, Dr. Leah Schwartz, continues to bring you books, videos and articles based on over 30 years of groundbreaking work in sex and sensuality. A Bestselling author, with over 2,000 media appearances and interviews, Leah Schwartz knows first hand the most pressing questions peopl…

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Lena Laursen, a sexologist, author, relationship educator, advice columnist and psychologist. She holds a Bachelor of Science in psychology from the University of Arizona. In addition to her original qualification, is also experienced in its psychotherapeutic aspects. Bring back fun in your sex life, pick up and buy…

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Founder of Eros Coaching, Dr. Martha Tara Lee is a Clinical Sexologist who conducts sexuality and relationship coaching, and runs sexuality education events in Asia. She is compassionate, practical, honest, interactive and solution-focused. Dr. Lee incorporates a blend of conventional and alte ative approaches and dra…

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BECOME THE ECSTATIC LOVER - THE CAPTIVATING EXPERIENCE IN AN ULTIMATELY CAPTIVATING ENVIRONMENT I am a DELICATE, ELITE, EXTREMELY FIT, FEMININE SACRED INTIMATE who enjoys spending luxurious quality time with the disce ing clients. My companionship and practice offers intimacy and relationship coaching as well as Vibr…

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Maya Silverman is the authour of the Erotic Massage Guide: Unleash the Power of Touch The guide explores the world of erotic and tantric massage for personal, physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual bliss and enjoyment. With a keen interest in relationships, sexual pleasure and fulfillment, intimacy, as well as alt…

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Michele O’Mara, LCSW is a 1992 graduate of Indiana University (IUPUI) with her Masters in Social Work. As a private practice therapist she has been working with lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender clients since 1997. She has authored two books, created multiple educational classes, workshops, and community presenta…

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Olivia Jade, an internationally recognized sex & intimacy coach, Tantra yoga teacher and tantric therapist. Launching a breakthrough somatic method of personal development through tantric touch, energy work, breath-work, meditation and sex/intimacy coaching. Learning to embody sexual and spiritual potential. Enjoy a l…

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Patrick Banks is a Berlin based writer with over 5 years of experience providing dating and life advice. He is a fierce optimist who believes in the power of making life happen; enjoy being single and making the most of it. He offers advice on dating and helpful tips to make your sexual life better at Get-A-Wingman.com

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Hi, I am Paul zand and I am medical writer by passion. I have been writing about various websites, medical jou als and health magazines for the past 6 years. Looking back, I must say that it has been quite a long journey for me. I always knew that I have this creative flair in me. I was always fascinated by health bas…

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Dr. Kanaris holds a doctorate in Clinical and School Psychology. He is a N.Y.S. licensed psychologist and the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists certifies him as a Diplomate of Sex Therapy. He is a graduate Post-Doctoral Fellow of the Albert Ellis Institute in NYC where he served as a se…

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I am a private practice psychotherapist and Director of the West L.A. Psychotherapy Group where I run a weekly support group for Adult Survivors of Childhhood Abuse. I am also a Supervisor of interning therapists at the Southern Califo ia Counseling Center. Most of my life has been devoted to helping people with any t…

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Dr Sheafe has over 24 years of clinical experience in marriage counseling & family therapy. She specializes in: substance abuse treatment, drug addiction, sex therapy and couples counseling. She can assist with recovery from emotional, verbal, physical and drug abuse. Dr Sheafe is considered an expert on domestic viol…

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Shahrazad has a Bachelor of Social Work degree with honours from Ryerson University, as well as a Bachelor of Arts in Sexuality Studies from York University. She is an active apprentice to the ancient shamanic teachings of the Sweet Medicine Sundance Path, and assists with the Chuluaqui Quodoushka spiritual sexuality…

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SelfGrowth Bio Sheri Winston, CNM, RN, BSN, LMT Teacher of Wholistic Sexuality and author of the award-winning book: Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure Founder & Executive Director of the Center for the Intimate Arts “I'm inspired to catalyze radical sexual transformation for individuals, f…

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Dr. Stephanie Buehler is a licensed psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist. As Director of The Buehler Institute in Orange County, Califo ia, she works with individuals and couples who want to have more passion in their relationships. Dr. Buehler is also "Your Passion Expert," and is developing all sorts of…

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Rev. Dr. Stuart A. Bloch founded the Institute for Sexual Awareness in 1979 on the belief that people are entitled to pleasure and satisfaction in their lives. Using communication about sexuality (the most difficult issue to talk about) has allowed people to communicate about everything else in their lives, and honor…

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Valeria Chuba, PhD, MS, ACS is a board certified clinical sexologist and sex & relationship expert and coach. Dr. Valeria is a member of The American College of Sexologists (ACS); the World Association of Sex Coaches; and The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS). She offers coaching, online workshops,…

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Victor Gold B.S. M.S., is a holistic health educator specializing in erotic spirituality. He shares a private practice with his tantric partner, Aimee Lyndon-Adams in San Rafael, Califo ia. Victor's recently published book, "The Potency Principles: Transforming Sexual Energy into Spiritual Power," demystifies tantric…

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Some extra lubrication can greatly improve sex or masturbation , but it's important to use a product that's designed specifically for your body. Hand lotions, petroleum jelly, and other substances might look the same as your favorite lube and even be just as slick, but they're a poor substitute - some can even put ...

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Lubricant is an amazing thing. It makes sex more comfortable, more slippery and just feels awesome. I am sure you have all heard the term 'wetter is better', and if you have used lubricant for sex , then you know this is completely true! There are also a whole lot of benefits to using lubricant for sex beyond just ...

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Let's get real, we all do it. Masturbation that is. Masturbating is what we do to help ourselves fall asleep before bed or even early in the morning to kick start our day. It can even be entertainment when there is nothing else to do. Whatever your reason it is natural and healthy to masturbate regularly. There are ...

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Are you in a sexless marriage? I’m a sex therapist in Orange County, CA and I assure you, you are not alone! About 25% of all marriages are “sexless,” meaning that the couple has sex fewer than one to two dozen times a year. Sometimes marriages naturally go through dry spells. A partner might be sick, be pulled by care-giving demands, or absent due to military or other job obligations. But when couples go for a year or longer without connecting in the bedroom, there’s a problem. What causes a sexless marriage?

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As a sex therapist and psychologist in Orange County, CA, I have found that a lot of people believe that it’s always the woman who has no sex drive. But that is a myth. Women also call to complain that their husband or male partner has no interest in sex. Women who have a husband with low libido, like men with wives who have no drive, also state that they feel rejected, unloved, and unattractive. In part because of the myth that “men always want sex,” they sometimes feel even more desperate than their male counterparts. They experience intense sadness and become frustrated.

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Ancient tantric teachings have long specified that all women possess two poles, or hot spots. One is the northern exte al pole, the clitoris. The other is the less well-known internal southern pole, the G-spot. It should be noted that recently both these assumptions have been challenged as being too limiting. Some people feel that the human sexual response is so rich, fluid and varied that it is impossible to declare any absolutes. After all, it may be entirely possible for women to have more than two hot spots and there is no good reason to get stuck with any more limiting beliefs.

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One of the most common complaints that I hear from women about their male lovers is that they are just to genitally focused. It's become clear to me that many women seek a more soulful experience in sexual love that relates to the heart as well as the genitals. Their craving for it is so deep that its absence insures her dissatisfaction at a primal level. Women often use the words "sexual intimacy" to describe what they are looking for in sex. However, for many men, the term sexual intimacy seems to mean only sexual intercourse, or other forms of genital fulfillment.

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EROTIC SPIRITUALITY and the CHURCH

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One thing is certain, Tantric sex is not for everyone. Tantra requires a level of consciousness that is based on energetic and spiritual principles. In a nutshell, the foundation of Tantric sexual practice is learning to generate copious amounts of orgasmic energy, and directing it up the energetic pathways that target the spiritual faculties that reside in the brain. It is in the brain where sexual energy, the creative energy from which we all sprang, transforms consciousness. In this way, a new perceptual reality can be born that gives birth to Unity Consciousness (Oneness).

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Many of us are engaged in various activities in the pursuit of physical fitness. We go to health clubs to tone up and strengthen our muscles so that we can look and feel better about ourselves. While the focus of this type of exercise conce s itself with strengthening the exte al muscles, for many practitioners of the sexual arts the focus expands to include the internal muscles used in sex. You see, weak sexual muscles not only compromise a man’s ability to provide complete sexual satisfaction, but they reduce the capacity for sexual pleasure and genital health for both men and women.

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If you have paid careful attention, you may have noticed that ordinary friction sex, the kind of sexual exchange that most men employ, is characterized by a series of incessant, robotic, pelvic pumping actions combined with rapid breathing. There is no doubt that this is the fast and hard version of sex that has been glorified in pornography and elsewhere.

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I believe it's safe to say that very few of us have received any formal training in sexual matters. Let's face it, the subject of sex is one in which the majority of people appear to be unpardonably ignorant. The sexual urge has been grossly misunderstood and slandered by both the uninformed ...

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I find it fascinating that men place so much emphasis on their own ejaculations, often to their detriment (unlike women, men lose vital life-force energy with their release), while virtually ignoring women’s ejaculatory capacity. Trust me! The world would be a much different place if men ejaculated less and women ejaculated more. While the discovery of the G-spot may rank first in importance of all the “recent” sexual discoveries, female ejaculation is certainly more observably dramatic.

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We all know it happens: A few years (or sometimes a few months!) into a relationship, sex can get boring, even with a partner that you still love in your heart. Like boiling away the flavor from a stick of cinnamon, you may find that the “heat” has evaporated from the bedroom. But don’t toss ...

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We hear it all the time, how sex in marriage or long-term relationships fades or dies out altogether. One or both partners lose their sexual desire. Passion is a forgotten memory. Making love becomes an obligation or an afterthought. But does it have to be that way? Take this quiz and see ...

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Want to know the shocking secret of passionate sex? It has nothing to do with technique! The shocking secret of passionate sex is to be able to talk about it with your partner. Amazed? You shouldn’t be. That’s one of the first things any good sex therapist would tell you if the ...

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I believe its safe to say that very few of us have had any formal instruction in sexual intercourse. Let's face it, when it comes to the subject of sex, the majority of people appear to be unpardonably ignorant. If you think about it, most of what we have learned about sex comes to us from ...

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Even though an orgasm is only a small part of the lovemaking experience, couples are always interested in how to make it better. They want to know the best sex positions, the best lubricants, the best sex toys, the best lovemaking techniques for exciting themselves to stronger climax. But ...

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Does your sex life have about as much dazzle as an old, beat up penny? Do you love your partner, but feel sad that sex just isn’t the same as it used to be? It doesn’t have to be that way. Here are the top 8 ways to put the passion back into your relationship. 1. Plan for passion. Maybe ...

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Does your partner complain that you are not a good lover? Do you want to improve your lovemaking technique? If you want to make your partner purr with pleasure, you must: 1. Learn what your partner enjoys. Just because you read about a great technique in an article or book doesn’t mean that ...

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If you’re in a sexual relationship, there’s probably more on your mind than chocolate and flowers when it comes to Valentine’s Day. No doubt, you’re thinking about putting the moves on your sweetheart to get some hot sex going in the bedroom. If you want to ensure you ...

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Whether you’ve been married a year or a decade, you’ve probably discovered that sex can go stale, no matter how much you love your partner. Keeping sex hot in a monogamous relationship is a challenge—but can you think of a better one to tackle? As any sex therapist will tell ...

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You would think that with all the information there is about good sex more people would be better at pleasing their partners when they make love. Sadly, a lot of folks pay little attention to how they can become a better lover. It isn’t that difficult to learn how to make love. ...

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No controversy in religious annals is more laden with raw emotion than the argument as to whether sexual activity is, or is not, a necessary ingredient to spiritual expression. Down through the ages, as this sometimes-bitter dispute has raged some of the most ruthless crimes (remember the ...

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For some people, letting their partner know when they want to have sex turns into a big problem. They seem to only ask their partner for sex in one way all the time, no matter what is going on in their partner’s life. So it’s no wonder that when they ask for sex, they end up with a big, fat ...

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Lots of couples complain about sex getting boring or routine. They must not realize what you’re about to learn: That if you’ve been together awhile, hot sex takes work, as well as play. Here are 5 super ways to keep things sizzling in the bedroom. 1. Learn to be seductive. You don’t have to ...

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It happens to everyone: sex becomes routine or passionless. It doesn’t have to be that way! In fact, it’s easy to get that tingle back if you try easy ideas to generate new excitement. 1. Sex 911. That’s right, you can declare a “sexual emergency.” Text your partner and tell them that ...

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Want passionate sex? The first step is to figure out what you mean when you think about sex that is passionate. You could think that sex is passionate when your partner: Acts like they want you right nowr Is more aggressive than usualr Goes slower than usualr Takes the time to explorer Gets right into itr Is tenderr Is rough As you might guess, passionate sex means different things to different people! Some couples are lucky; they read each other easily and can usually figure out what kind of passionate sex their partner wants.

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Often people think intimacy is learning about their partners and teaching their partners what they want their partners to know about them. In actuality, the word "intimacy" says it all – IN TO ME SEE. Seeing intimacy as this simple phrase can be the key to unlocking the door to true openness and communication in a relationship. In order for one to see into oneself, one must acquire the knowledge of who he or she really are so that one can live authentically with a partner and with the rest of the world -- but most importantly with oneself.

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I dislike the term “masturbation,” which comes from the Greek root word to “self pollute.” I prefer self pleasuring. Only through self pleasuring can we discover what our bodies are capable of and what really pleases -- or pleasures -- us. Without that knowledge, we can never let our partners know what we want or what we need to be pleasured by them.

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Sexual fantasy is a vital, exciting, and natural part of our sexuality. Almost everyone fantasizes about sex, which means that the human brain can be legitimately considered a sexual organ in its own right.

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Sexual desire is a hot topic these days, considering that 15 to 20 percent of couples are reported to be living in sexless marriages (which means they’re having sex 10 times a year or less). With low desire fast becoming a top sexual conce for couples, it’s more important than ever that we learn how to keep the spark alive. With this in mind, I came up with a list of three big myths of sexual desire which may prevent us from having the sex we want and deserve. Here are these three myths – and my tips on how to overcome them.

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Valentine’s Day is a holiday few of us like but most of us feel compelled to participate in. Many people I know, friends and clients alike, resent the commercialism of this holiday and its authoritative “celebrate or else” feel. It’s true that no one likes to be told to be romantic and spontaneous; making it mandatory sort of kills the mood. And of course, those of us who are single, dislike being made feel like the “lesser species” just because we don’t have a partner.

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Sex toys combine two things we humans love most: sexual pleasure and fun! Today, the pleasure product industry grosses a whopping $15 billion annually, but a mere decade ago sex toys lived on the fringes, just starting to break through into the mainstream. Thanks to stores like Good Vibrations in the US or A Summers in the UK, with their clean, brightly lit locations and helpful, non-judgmental staff, consumers began thinking of sex toys as something normal and acceptable.

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Are you currently dating - or getting ready to start dating online? Have you dated unsuccessfully in the past, and want this time to be different? When it comes to dating, It's especially important to get started in a way that will set you up for success. In this episode of the Get Sex-Smart podcast, Dr. Valeria and sex coach Sarah Martin give dating tips and advice, including: creating a successful dating mindset; attracting the right people; and dating do’s and don’ts. Don't miss out on this information!

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If there is one thing in this world everyone wants to have more of, it’s confidence. Men and women everywhere wish they could be more assertive, self-assured and secure. Confident people make it all look so easy. There is something magnetic and enviable about their unshakable sense of self.

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Are you currently dating, or about to start dating? Then you absolutely need to listen to this new episode of the Get Sex-Smart podcast. Dr. Valeria Chuba and sex coach Sarah Martin share expert tips and strategies on how to have a great first date. This includes: choosing the right location for your date; how to dress and present yourself; what to say and how to behave to make a great - and genuine - first impression; how to get a read on your date; safety tips; and other do's and don'ts.

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She chased you to the back of the playground and told you she'd share her new crayons with you if you showed her what you had "down there". You tried kissing her with bubble gum in your mouth to see if you could share a "bubble". He often played "doctor" with his next-door-neighbour, always delighted when she rang him up complaining that she was "sick". Somewhere along the line, most adults decide that sexual exploration is serious. Very, very serious. But we don’t start off that way, as the above examples illustrate.

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One thing I hear often from clients is that they are afraid to communicate their particular fetish, fantasy, or desire to their significant other. In a perfect world, partners would hold for each other a space of unconditional love within which the couple could explore together like children in the playground of their mutual imaginations. Unfortunately, due to the prevalence of sex-negative conditioning in the way most of us have been raised, we don't know how to do this for each other.

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“All cruelty springs from weakness” (Seneca, 4BC-AD65) There are those who say that bullying is behind all forms of violence, conflict, persecution, abuse, harassment, discrimination and prejudice.

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How can I hurt myself? Let me count the ways. But first let me distinguish between hurting myself and abusing myself. Hurting myself - self-harm is a term commonly used for physically abusing oneself by cutting, self inflicting blows, pulling out hair (Trichotillomania) skin or nails, starving or food misuse, extreme piercing, or purposely burning ones’ self.

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There weren’t a lot of statistics, because no one thought it was a problem. But then in 1990, Ramsay–Klawsnick found that adult females were abusers of male adolescents 37% of the time and of female adolescents 19% of the time; and in six studies reviewed by Russell and FInkelhor, female perpetrators accounted for 25% or more of those abused. In 1996, The National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect conducted a widespread investigation on the maltreatment of children.

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Let's begin with the statistics - and they are daunting: Approx. 1 in 4 girls & 1 in 8 boys are sexually abused before the age of 18. Even the most conservative estimates put it at 1 in 6 girls & 1 in 10 boys. It is estimated that as many as 40 millio Americans - one in six people - experienced sexual abuse as a child. Child sexual abuse is seldom a one-time occurrence - it lasts an average of 1 - 4 years. It occurs at every socioeconomic level, across ethnic and cultural lines, within all religions and at all levels of education.

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A while back, I jotted down some thoughts about a person I called “The Other Parent”. Since then, I’ve been collecting information and have concluded that there is a dearth of material on this subject. But I have expanded upon my initial ideas and hopefully this will be lead to more research data in the future. These were my initial thoughts:

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When we feel different than the person we are projecting to others, it can cause stress and sometimes shame. Most of us have felt that way at times, and the ability to integrate again is usually fluid. But when we feel fragmented and fake most of the time, it can be extremely painful and debilitating. The desire to feel centered and authentic is a healthy longing. For those who have either come from a background of abuse or have experienced extraordinary trauma as an adult, a fragmentation of personality may have occurred that - whether conscious or not - emotionally isolates that person.

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How would you know if you were the only sane person in an insane asylum? Now imagine yourself as a child with no prior knowledge of what is sane or normal. How would a child know if they were a sane person in a family with disturbed parents?

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There is ritual sexual abuse and there is ritualized sexual abuse.

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Even though there can be life long debilitating psychological effects, sibling abuse may be the most ignored - if not accepted - form of domestic (i.e. sexual, physical, emotional) abuse. Why is this kind of abuse ignored or minimized? There is a lot that is swept under the rug in the guise of “sibling rivalry”. And American law does not consider this a prosecutable offense unless a child is turned in by their parent(s). In other words, parents would have to be willing to file an assault charge against their own child. So parents keep this type of abuse within the family.

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Breaking up with someone who means a lot to you is hard to do. But you might have been given no option. Whether you are on the receiving end of being dumped or whether you caught your partner out with someone else, heartbreak sucks.

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There are those of us who have become obsessed with synthetic pills that manufacturers say increase stamina in bed. Use of these synthetic pills has shown that they have often an opposite impact!. So, for those men who are wondering how to increase stamina in bed, it is good news that there are a number of natural tips that help men to increase stamina in bed without having to worry about the side effects that come with the synthetic aphrodisiacs. Surround yourself with red color

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While I have reposted a couple of articles on the subject, I wasn’t going to write about Bill Cosby or the subject of serial rape; there are enough articles and editorials on this subject. What has now made me decide to join the fray is a recent statement by a friend of his that “this isn’t about the women, this is about the legacy” - of Bill Cosby.r

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Over the years I’ve discovered that a significant proportion of adult clients who present with depression have a history of childhood abuse. The abuse may have been sexual, physical and/or emotional. At first I attributed this to the fact that I specialize in abuse and many clients who come to me saying they are depressed are using that as a presenting issue because they aren’t ready to discuss the abuse. But what I now understand is that most adult survivors of childhood abuse do suffer from some form of depression.

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The following is not an article but some preliminary thoughts on what may be expanded into one later on:

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For a moment imagine that you are standing alone at the entrance of a deep hole, a gloomy dark chasm. Imagine in your mind's eye staring into a terrifying and ominous void…a murky hole! The opening is indistinguishable, and it's intimidating. What is even worse is that this sinister cavity, this deep crater has a severe tug on you. You are being sucked in. In contradiction, although this place seems frightening, you feel convinced that you should enter.

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Trust in therapy only happens at step one, with the client's willingness to admit that there is a problem and by having the courage to consciously work on it. The ‘HOW’ in therapy are indeed HONESTY, OPENNESS and WILLINGNESS! As the client begins to open themselves up in the therapeutic process their history is revealed. In turn, I am able to discover how they arrived where they are.

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Often couples carry baggage from relationship-to-relationship. They do not realize that their new relationships fail as a result of the previous baggage. In any new relationship there is always one constant…themselves! Often, problems first arise with the couple's intimacy. These can have devastating and long-lasting negative effects. Frequently this results in a complete lack of intimacy.

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For the patient, psychotherapy is the treatment of emotional or behavioral problems designed to encourage communication of conflicts and insight into their problems; the goal being relief of symptoms and changes in behavior leading to improved functioning. Our expression, experience, and meaning of sexuality and intimacy are dynamic and fluctuate throughout the lifespan, changing over time as we age. At different ages the experience of sexual satisfaction changes. People that are 50 are not looking for the same things in their relationships of intimacy as they did when they were 25.

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On occasio I meet someone who “knows it all.” These pseudo-fountains of knowledge are usually among the first to require counseling. Regardless of the type of therapy provided, all counselors, from time to time, run into someone who has a cornucopia of knowledge to impart to the therapist. The question then becomes, why are you here? Most people realize that their knowledge of sexuality can be enhanced; however, talking about it is a different issue.

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Come inside; relax to take a load off and let's talk for a moment. I hope your life is good and fruitful. When words are shared that encourage, empower and construct, they serve to propel an individual to aspire to be the best that they can be.

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There are very few guarantees in life but one is certain, everything changes: day changes to night, morning to evening and summer to fall. People of course are no exception; we physically change from young to old. There are times we change for the better and at times the changes are undesirable. Being in a relationship requires work, whether it is working on communication between the parties involved or works on other issues.

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Sticks and stones may break my bones but … bullying and name-calling can emotionally scar me forever. Not the original ending to the classic verse, but probably the more accurate one. It seems that broken bones will heal far more quickly than a battered soul. Does this sound overly dramatic?

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“A Social Problem Does Not Exist For A Society Until It Is Recognized By That Society To Exist” – H. Blumer The following is the first of a three-part series of articles:

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I am the first documented Social Scientist and Clinical Sexologist to conduct in-depth research into the sexual behavior and sexual practices of Black People in America, As a result of this research I theorize that the sexual practices of black people are virtually unknown because they are shrouded in myths, fairy tales and stereotypes developed over centuries by other races.

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“There is no other closeness in human life like the closeness between a mother and her child. Chronologically, physically and spiritually, they are just a few heartbeats away from being the same person” *

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The holiday season often brings unwelcome visitors in the form of stress and depression. There are three primary areas that can invite these unwanted killers into your life. The first is relationships! According to the researchers at the Mayo clinic, “Relationships can cause turmoil, conflict or stress at any time, but tensions are often heightened during the holidays. Family misunderstandings and conflicts can intensify — especially if you're thrust together for several days.

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Inspired by the life of Lana Wachowski: Gender is defined as a set of characteristics – masculine, feminine or neuter, while Gender Identity is a person’s sense of and private experience of their own gender. Transgender suggests that the state of one’s gender identity does not match one’s assigned sexual gender, usually based on physical characteristics – anatomy.

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It took me quite a long time to sit down and watch “The Secret”, which if I recall correctly was all the rage a few years ago. And I probably would have never watched it if a client of mine (I’m a psychotherapist) had not kept urging me. So I viewed it with a jaundiced eye. The first few minutes confirmed my suspicions that this was just another quick fix, superficial answer to the key to a better life. Then slowly I was seduced.

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When we think of children who have been sexually abused, we think of fear, anger and violence. Most sexual abuse survivors talk of the terror and disassociation surrounding the abuse. Many still feel that way as adults and don’t enjoy sex now, even in a loving relationship. But there are those who have a more complicated story to tell. These survivors may have hated their abusers but experience an unspeakable shame over the fact that their bodies responded sexually to the abuse. They cannot live with the knowledge that they were sexually stimulated even as they were being raped.

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Sexual abuse of children is not a new problem, nor have the statistics changed. “1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 14; 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 16.” (Hopper, J. (1998). Child Sexual Abuse: Statistics, Research, & Resources. Boston, MA Boston University School of Medicine.) This issue is as old as time, but we are finally paying attention to it in a new way. Whether it is in the church, sports, boys clubs, schools or families, there have always been environmental pockets in society that foster these deviants.

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I have always enjoyed therapy with couples. It is stimulating, interactive work and can create dramatic change quickly. By strengthening a couples' communication pattern, you not only help them to improve their relationship, but help them to learn more about themselves and what drives their behavior. And as with individual therapy, if the clients are motivated to change, they will. But after years of doing the work, I still marvel at the difficulty of creating lasting change when dealing with a co-dependent relationship based on negative attachment issues.

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Our bodies cry out in two ways - either through emotion or illness. When we understand our body's pain we articulate it. When we can't understand it, we are overwhelmed by emotional and/or physical sensations. And we feel powerless. While we need to understand what is happening to us, we may not always find the answers. But we can make peace with our emotions, just as we learn to make peace with other unanswerable events in our life - and in fact, with life itself.

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We all come into relationships with past issues. Trust, ability to be intimate, anger management, mental and physical health limitations and childhood trauma are among the most common. Each issue colors, although in a different way, how we deal with current stressors and disagreements. This article will look at how having a partner who has survived childhood abuse (sexual, emotional, physical) can affect the relationship.

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When I began working in this field many years ago, I was told that if I hadn’t already picked a specialization, it would pick me. And that is exactly what happened.

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Online generic pharmacies have become a well known online drug shop and the main reason for their increasing popularity is the availability of generic drugs that are cheap and has the same effect profile as their branded medications. The light of focus is slowly shifting to these generic drugstores that provide the same features and similar medications but at a much affordable prices that easily fits the pockets of the common man.

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"Therapists who work with adults abused as children have one overriding goal, that is to repair the client's self-image. Once the client's self image is repaired, he or she is on the road to full recovery." Eliana Gil - Treatment of Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse If you think it happened, it probably did.

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Relationship between couples is a very mysterious thing in the world. For some it becomes extremely difficult to carry out the responsibility and attain succession, where as there are some cases where couples are in grave love and attachment towards each other that is builds a stronger relationship. In short, it is very difficult to explain the love relationship in the two. Love is a very fragile element in this universe, but has got great powers that can even generate miracles.

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Group therapy can be the most nurturing and also the most challenging form of therapy. It is highly effective. While it doesn’t replace individual therapy, it can be a great adjunct and a final step in the healing process.

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Powerful antioxidant: Packed with powerful antioxidants, green tea is full of health benefits. It lowers your cholesterol, boosts your immune system, helps prevent cavity and tooth decay. And according to recent research, it reduces the risk of cancer as well. Different from other teas: What makes it different from other teas is that the green tea leaves are steamed not fermented. When tea leaves are

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Testosterone is a male hormone that is generated by testicles. These hormones are responsible for developing the person’s sexual abilities and prowess. The hormone contributes majorly in making the person feel erotic and get rejuvenated. However in the recent generation there are many such cases where people have been observing difficulties like lowered testosterone count which has been creating huge complications in their sexual life.

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You find yourself going through a whole extent of emotions. You want to do a lot but are not supported or held back by familial pressures. Under such a circumstance one needs to be optimistic and believe with dedication, you will make a mark in your life. You urge to be successful should seem extremely strong. This will help you to override many obstacles. It is assumed that it would be difficult to make your parents understand and may not change your parent’s attitude toward letting you work.

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Approximately 2,50,000 to 500,000 malnourished children in the developing world go blind each year from a deficiency of vitami A makes the cornea dry, damaging it,and the retina. One of the first signs of vitami A deficiency is night blindness. Before you pop vitami A pills, consult your doctor. Too much vitami A can harm. Consume rich in vitami A, like meat and dairy products like fish, butter, cream, cheese, fruits and vegetables such as papaya, mangoes, spinach, sweet potatoes.

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As this article is being written, I, the writer, am having a hard time swallowing, my palms are slightly sweaty and I feel tension in some of my muscles. The reason for the odd symptoms, is this author, along with 18% of Americans, is affected by an anxiety disorder. There are several different types of anxiety disorders but for the purposes of the article, we will focus on generalized anxiety disorder. Generalized anxiety disorder otherwise known as GAD has part of its definition in its name.

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It doesn't always happen. But it happens to a large enough degree that it can be referred to as commonplace. A number of studies indicate that between 30 - 70% of young abusers (physical or sexual) have been sexually abused themselves. Statistics on adult abusers who were sexually abused as children are lower - approximately 10 - 22%. However, I suspect that a much larger percentage of adults who have been sexually abused as children have developed coping and/or relational styles that are abusive - if not to others, then certainly to themselves.

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Coming out is a challenging process, whether you are 15, 21, or 50. The first step toward “coming out” is self-awareness or recognition of having feelings of attraction for persons of the same sex. This awareness may lead to confusion, attempts to deny or repress feelings of attraction, anxiety about unwanted feelings, or even attempts to “pass” as heterosexual. It is no secret that in our society there are a lot of societal stigmas, and negative feelings about being gay.

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When a relationship ends, one of two things is typically happening. One, you are being spared something (such as a life with someone who is not well-suited to be your partner); or you are being prepared for something new (learning lessons that will prove invaluable to you in your next relationship). Unfortunately, though, no matter how good a break-up might be FOR you, they rarely FEEL good to you. That’s okay. Not everything that’s good for us feels good.

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Dear Michele,

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No one is ever surprised when they learn I am a lesbian. Well, I suppose my grandma did seem a little taken aback, asking, “How did that happen?” Interestingly though, aside from my appearance I am seriously lacking when it comes to a lot of common stereotypes of a lesbian. My friends even tease me, saying my card-carrying status as a lesbian is in danger!

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Rarely do I speak the words, “I am gay (or lesbian).” Although very early in my being out process, I attempted this strategy at work, rather unsuccessfully. This happened years ago when gay marriage was but a blip on the radar screen. I was working at a private psychiatric hospital and it was the end of a very long workday. I walked my last client out to the lobby, and, after saying goodbye, the receptionist said I had a personal call waiting. She asked if I wanted the call transferred to my office, or if I wanted to take it there at the front desk.

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Imagine that all humans were produced on a production line of various human production factories around the world. Would all of the non-heterosexuals just be plucked right off the conveyor belt and tossed in to a pile labeled defects? Most of us, gay or not, are raised to believe that non-heterosexuals are some sort of alte ate human design (the design without the standard human feature known as heterosexuality). And this design is considered a deviation from the “normal” human design, which suggests that non-heterosexuals are defective. Or worse yet, not normal.

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It was 1979 and I was 13 when the beautiful new girl in school, with long brown hair and green eyes, approached the locker next to mine. Obviously struggling to satisfy the lock she was trying to open, she turned to me and said, “Hi.” She told me her name and said, “I’m new here.” Out of the blue, my entire body flooded with what felt like a million butterflies all trying to get out at once. It was at that moment that I knew there was something very, very different about me.

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Heterosexual’s don’t advertise their sexuality, why should I? Like any good lesbian, Jen was innocently strolling the aisles of Target one Sunday afte oon with her partner Sally, when they ran into her co-worker, John. Jen says, “Hey John. How are you?” “Great,” he replies while looking at Sally with curiosity. On cue, Jen says, “Oh, John, this is my friend Sally.” He doesn’t notice Sally cringing. She’s mastered the art of deception. She smiles politely as she always does in these situations and simply says, “Nice to meet you.”

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Developed by Harville Hendrix and his wife Helen, in their book, Getting the Love You Want, the Imago theory of relationships is described in great detail. In fact, if you were told that you could only read one book to figure out how to dramatically improve your relationship, this is the book I would recommend. Read on to learn more about the Imago theory (and then get the book!). IMAGO

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Developed by Harville Hendrix and his wife Helen, in their book, Getting the Love You Want, the Imago theory of relationships is described in great detail. In fact, if you were told that you could only read one book to figure out how to dramatically improve your relationship, this is the book I would recommend. Read on to learn more about the Imago theory (and then get the book!). IMAGO

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While taken seriously enough to be a legally reportable offense categorized alongside child abuse as either a misdemeanor or a felony - elder abuse does not seem to be taken as seriously by the public. Perhaps elders do not appear to be as helpless as children, but many times they are. And if helplessness is the yardstick, how does it account for the fact that domestic violence, which is not legally reportable, arouses more conste ation and receives more attention and media coverage. Perhaps it’s because of national neglect in respecting, supporting and caring for elders in general.

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Recognizing you are being abused is difficult when you love the person who is abusing you. This is true for both children and adults. The mind will go to great lengths to protect a person who cannot emotionally accept that they are being abused. The greater the abuse, the more elaborate the strategy the brain employs.

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Sexual prowess in men is more linked to their self esteem and any difficulty like erectile dysfunction (Ed) would badly hit their ego of being an erotically impotent man. Before Viagra hit the floors the condition was ignored and no special attention was given. The magical moves of the drug made a hypnotizing effect on men by actually understanding their physical pains. The medicine was introduced in 1998, but the saddest thing is till date, there are many such areas where people have no access to such quality treatments.

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A courageous man is the one, who always visualizes success and excellence. Such brave people are used to winning attitude and anyhow they make their way towards victory. Audacity is the major element contributing them to lead such a beautiful life that full of freedom. There is also another category of people living each and every moment with fear, tensions and mental pressure. This kind of attitude requires to be changed to lead a healthy and successful living. Fear is a very unhealthy aspect of living and only brings in nuisances.

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The following words and poetry were written by Kallel Hunter. She has graciously allowed me to share them with you. My name is Kallel and I am 13 years old. I live in the U.K. and have Irish, Jamaican and Barbadian in me. I also have two sisters and 3 brothers. I am the eldest. We don’t live together anymore. Two are living with my mum in Birmingham; one is living with her mum (my granny) in Leicester and two are living with me and my dad and my step mom.

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Welcome to 'Just Ask Sadie'. This is an expert online advice column offered here as a free service. Now you can get honest answers to the questions you've had difficulty finding answers to. I welcome all queries and comments and tackle most subjects. Please Visit: http://www.drsadiesheafe.com/justasksadie.htmlQUESTION: Dear Dr. Sadie, I am 26 year old male, from India, currently staying at Phoenix (AZ, USA). And this is my story.......

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Today is the first day of Spring Break for my kiddos. They were promised a treat of their choice if they get through their last week of class without “moving their apple,” which is 1st grade code language at their school for “ummmmm, you’re in big troooouble!” I sweetened the deal a bit, (for Teresa and I, of course) by extending the requirements of their extra-good behavior through this afte oon. Hey, we gotta do what we gotta do, that first day of break is high energy stuff (think children on crack, enough said?).

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“You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere.” – Unknown 1. Speak confidently, honestly and well of yourself. Repugnant and worthless won’t get you dates… well, at least dates that you want. Dating is like marketing, it is critical to highlight the benefits and features of dating or being in a relationship with you.

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Sex is an essential, physical expression of love! It is often seen in the context of a meaningful, lasting, love relationship. It is more of emotional experience and how the partners feel about each other determines and influences their sexual desire and performance level. It satisfies our sexual drive, reassures partners of being loved and above all, serves as a way of expressing love and commitment.

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Sex is an essential, physical expression of love! It is often seen in the context of a meaningful, lasting, love relationship. It is more of emotional experience and how the partners feel about each other determines and influences their sexual desire and performance level. It satisfies our sexual drive, reassures partners of being loved and above all, serves as a way of expressing love and commitment.

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Sex is an essential, physical expression of love! It is often seen in the context of a meaningful, lasting, love relationship. It is more of emotional experience and how the partners feel about each other determines and influences their sexual desire and performance level. It satisfies our sexual drive, reassures partners of being loved and above all, serves as a way of expressing love and commitment.

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Why would a woman who was sexually abused as a child have rape and submission fantasies that sexually excite her as an adult? Why would another woman who suffered physical abuse as a child now enjoy role-playing dominant/submissive sex games? Why would a man raped or taunted by classmates as an adolescent now be unable to perform sexually or another man who was repeatedly berated by an emotionally abusive parent now not be able to approach women socially or sexually?

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This past weekend I read an article in the New York Times Sunday Magazine entitled “To Catch A Rapist”. It highlighted the work of a dedicated inspector and some of her colleagues in the Special Victims Unit of Law Enforcement in New Haven, Conn. and the repeated roadblocks they come up against trying to prosecute sexual assault cases. It was powerful and informative and I would encourage anyone reading this to take a look at that article as well. First some statistics:

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Abusive situations in families do not happen in isolation. It is neither bad luck, nor is it the fault of the victim of abuse. Abuse happens within a culture of abuse. That is, there is something that is handed down over the generations that encourages those who abuse and allow those around the abuser to ignore what is happening. While the abuser is certainly responsible for his/her actions, there are other family members who are complicit by their passivity or inability to recognize the signs.

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When you first meet someone and experience the dizzy heights of love, the last thing that you might be thinking of is that at some point you are going to be guilty of infidelity but that’s what happens to many people in often surprisingly good relationships.

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Selfishness has a negative connotation in our culture; but it’s not selfishness, it’s a lack of empathy that hurts others. While I am no Ayn Rand acolyte, I do agree with her argument in “The Virtue of Selfishness”. Taking care of oneself is not only reasonable; it is necessary – necessary for survival. But our culture has placed a judgment on taking care of oneself – as if taking care of yourself, precludes caring or doing anything for others. Why would that be the case? That type of assumption usually falls into the category of faulty, black and white thinking.

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Once you have decided to take the plunge and to start Internet dating, there are some important basics that you need to know. Many people set themselves up with the expectation that love is just around the corner and will drop into their laps in an instant, metaphorically speaking but just because there are many more opportunities to date via the Internet, it doesn’t mean you will meet the love of your life in an instant.

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Sometimes when a couple is married for a while some of the foreplay time goes out the window. Maybe you’re busy with work or kids, but you should never let your love life dwindle. “Quickies” are great sometime, but it’s important to focus on arousing your wife as well. If you would like to know how to arouse your wife, simply think back to the things that turned her on when you were first together.

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Living in the stressful world that we do it can be hard to set aside time to keep your marriage fresh and lively, but it’s important to let your partner know that you appreciate them. You can refresh your marriage by finding a way to calm things down and bring you and your partner closer together. But what can you do, you wonder? What can you do that will refresh your marriage on an emotional, physical and sensual level? One sure way is to delight each other with a male or female erotic massage.

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There are many things you can do when looking to romance your wife. To give your wife a special romantic evening you might want to start with a candle lit dinner, perhaps with some calm, quiet music playing, and then move on to a warm bubble bath, followed by a relaxing massage.

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As any doctor will tell you, when you want people to feel better and help the body perform in a healthier manner, then there is no way that beats sex. While we talk about sex, we don’t mean the complete act of sex, but only the sensations that are aroused during it. What we are talking about is erotic male massage, which is tantric massage that goes beyond mere sex.

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There are many ways to experience the love and companionship of the person you care the most for. The most common being sex, but sometimes sex is not what one person wants to do, and if this is the case, there is something that both can experience that is not sex, but is something completely different; erotic massage. Erotic massage goes beyond sex for the couple who practices it. When you have sex with a partner, you are getting close to them and intimate with them, but with all the passion and ecstasy, there is little time for self discovery.

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Yoni is the conventional Indian word for vagina. Sanskrit in origin, the broad interpretation is holy space. It is a term of reverence and respect and is the belief that forms the root of Yoni massage. It is often used to free women from sexual inhibitions that may have been brought on by negative sexual or life experiences. It is used to free the woman's sexual energy and offer release of pent up energy. It can be very healing and can offer a girl the trail to wholeness. Too often the ordinary sexual experience produces the reverse effect.

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For centuries, Tantric sex and massage has been a way not only to get nearer to each other, but to also help you develop a deep connection with your other half, yourself and the world around you. Through Tantric massage or sensual male massage technique, you can discover the benefits of being with a partner you love, who understands the fundamentals of male genital massage.

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Women often find themselves worn thin by life and the on going stress of caring for others. Erotic massage can be particularly beneficial to them. It is a woman’s nature to give more than they receive and with the demands of work and family they understandably become overwhelmed and exhausted. Massage in general and erotic massage in particular can be extremely beneficial to women, providing them with relaxation and invigoration. Massage requires nothing from the receiver but to lie back and enjoy.

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As we age our bodies change and begin to reveal the ill affects of stress and any less than healthy living habits we may have developed. We lose flexibility both physically and mentally and we may find we are less responsive to pleasure of all kinds. Our bodies no longer respond the way they did when we were younger and/or physical ailments and restrictions may make engaging in physical activity, sexual or otherwise, uncomfortable or embarrassing. Sensual Massage can be the perfect therapy for aging men and women.

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People who have been married for many years often find their sexual lives becoming stale and predictable. The business of life, children and careers can interfere with maintaining a close bond and the deep understanding and intimacy we all long to share with another person can slip through our fingers. We may have started our relationship feeling like soul mates but as time passes we can easily lose touch with one another. Erotic massage is the perfect tool to bring a long term, committed relationship back to life.

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Couples who actually care for their relationship always make time to make great love with their partner. There are 5 things to keep in mind for improving your lovemaking techniques and satisfying her the right way. 1. Don't just talk! Communicate It's the need for sex, closeness, emotional connections that draw people together. Love, friendship, communication and attraction are the glue that keep the bond between lovers strong and stable. Make it habit to chat to one another everyday about how you're feeling.

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Tantric sexuality practices have been around for many centuries and are still today helping people all over the world to resolve their difficulties and problems in the bedroom. The fact is that there is no better way to develop or redevelop the trust and intimacy that is necessary to maximize your enjoyment of great lovemaking than by exploring the Tantric arts. Yes, there are those Kama Sutra lovemaking positions that everyone always thinks of first, but there is so much more to Tantra.

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He loves me; he loves me not… It’s taken me a long time to get my head around the fact that sometimes even a lot of love isn’t enough to make a relationship work. You can love someone dearly, but still attack them, disrespect them, verbally abuse them, and withdraw from them. At the time of ...

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"What we've got here, is a failure to communicate..."n- Captain, Road Prison 36, from the movie Cool Hand Luke I know sometimes its difficult enough to figure out what you want to say, much less how your partner is going to hear it. And even if you have an idea of what you want to say, you may ...

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Agree to agree! We have all heard the saying that if you want to have a happy, harmonious relationship, you sometimes have to agree to disagree. Standing your ground and demanding that you're right may feel all righteous and satisfying, but it's a sure-fire way to eliminate intimacy. Let's go a ...

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Here's a trivia question for you: How many sexual positions are there? A few dozen? A few hundred? A couple thousand? A twelfth- century Indian love manual, the "Ananga-Ranga", describes 32. The more famous "Kama Sutra" describes many more. One Indian sexologist declared there are over 500-- ...

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Quote: "A Big Belly Laugh A Day Can Keep The Doctor Away" Any relationship with another human being has its complexities and challenges, but the relationship with your intimate partner - your lover, spouse, spousal equivalent, significant other, or however you refer to this special person - is ...

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No matter how positive our outlook, there are times when it just feels that the world is our enemy, or at the very least, not our friend. Between job-related pressures, financial challenges, family dynamics, and any number of internal "issues" we may be facing, sometimes, every one of us feels ...

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Put your relationship to the test by answering this quiz/questionnaire. 1. Is the passion in your relationship: 1. improvingn 2. decliningn 3. staying the samen 4. gonenn 2. Is she sexually satisfied when you make love: 1. every timen 2. ...

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Breast Massage Instructions - The Lovers Guide to Sensual Breast Massage Pleasure Breast Massage Instructions - The Lovers Guide to Sensual Breast Massage Pleasure Author: Maya Silverma Breast massage instructions should be part of male (and female) everyday learning. It's that ...

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Female sexuality has always had a mystique of it's own. Scientists, poets, religion have tried to explain this raw power as an 'excess' to be controlled, managed, and suppressed and even himself Freud claimed never to have understood female sexuality. Tantra on the other hand - an ancient all ...

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Before we can experience sensuality, touch and pleasure with a lover, it is important that every woman learns to explore her body, to pleasure it, and to appreciate it. Yes ladies - you can't always blame your love for your failure to launch. Take a good look at your sensual world, your ...

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Tantric Orgasm, tantra, tantric sexuality all conjur up images of the weird and wonderful, elastic limbed lovers, non-stop indulgence. Fortunately this is a misunderstanding of the Tantric Orgasm and Tantra as a whole. Tantra refers to'expansion' of the conscienceness, and tantric sexuality and ...

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Just what is it? And is for real? Well i’m here to tell you that it can happen, although it does take a bit of practice. In case you didn’t know, the prostate gland is a walnut sized gland located just under the bladder. It can be felt by placing a finger 2-3 inches into the anus, although it ...

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For well over 1000 years, people all over the planet how utilized the powerful techniques of Tantric sexuality to enhance their sensual pleasures and emotional satisfaction. They not only develop the skills necessary to have mind-blowing, long-lasting orgasms time and again, but they also open ...

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Tantric touch and sensuality are part of the concept of Tantra. And incase you didn't know Tantra is an ancient Indian philosophy in which mind, body and soul are united for to experience maximum pleasure, sensuality, bliss fulfillment and intimacy. The heart of the philosophy is to connect ...

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The penis is refered to as the linghma in tantra’s language. The lingham means – wand of light. So much nice isn’t it? Tantrist believe that prolonging orgasm, allows latent energies to evolve and fill the body, thereby raising awareness, sensation, pleasure, and of course ending in a mind ...

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TANTRA: The Art of Conscious Loving® By Charles Muir & Leah Alchin It is generally accepted that there was a “sexual revolution” which began in the mid-sixties. Many feel that this revolution is dead, some having tried all there is to try sexually, and growing bored with it. In truth the sexual revolution of the sixties was the initial phase of a sexual “evolution”. The 60’s seeds of a woman’s right to pleasure and power in the world have flowered ever since then. Tantric wisdom states that as a woman awakens, her sexual center (second chakra), she naturally awakens her spiritual power.

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Can you imagine that female ability to have orgasm is an inherited skill? Sounds pretty weird right, but don't hurry to start laughing, because it is not a joke, but a scientifically proved fact. Such unexpected news is the results of the researches made by the scientists from different ...

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In fact there are common elements in every type of relationship but gay couples have their own special problems and challenges to live through as well as benefits of course. First of all, they have to permanently fight with the rules and barriers of our homophobic society and it's not an easy ...

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As with all things worth doing, sensual massage takes attention, care and practice to perfect. The art itself is a journey towards greater and greater destinations. A simple relaxation rub, or tension busting deep muscle massage does not awaken the sexual centres in quite the way an attentive, ...

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You’ve done your research, read some books, perhaps even viewed instructional videos on the topic. Everyone is talking about sensual massage, the depth of the connection it enables and of course, the mind shattering orgasms it helps produce. You’re ready to embark on some more practical ...

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With millennium lifestyles busier than ever before, it can be hard to find time for one another. Couples who once spent whole weekends in bed might find their love life relegated to a nighttime quickie a couple times a week. Added to the stresses caused by modern career life and this state can ...

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Tip Of The Month... "I want you, I love you, I knead you!" Master the art of massage, and your love will be putty in your hands. The skin, after all, is the largest organ, and there are anywhere from 14,000 to 18,000 nerve receptors in each square inch of skin. This can provide an incredible ...

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Genetics is becoming an inseparable and quite common part of own life. The researches plan to decipher human DNA code very soon, so that we could have all the information about the inherited defects and to diagnose different diseases more effectively, even before the conception. Moreover, with ...

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For well over 1000 years, people all over the planet how utilized the powerful techniques of Tantric sexuality to enhance their sensual pleasures and emotional satisfaction. They not only develop the skills necessary to have mind-blowing, long-lasting orgasms time and again, but they also open ...

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A lot of people think that Tantra is just about sex - that's not true. Tantra is about developing an appreciation of life in general; it's about learning to maximize your pleasure in all things simultaneously. The goal of Tantra is open your mind and allow you to clearly understand that you are ...

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Have you ever wanted to give your beloved a great sensual massage experience but didn't know where to start? Get the quick key steps to injecting some more pleasure and stimulation in to your relationship. Set Up Essentials: • A comfortable table or bed that will allow the massager access ...

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Agree to agree! We have all heard the saying that if you want to have a happy, harmonious relationship, you sometimes have to agree to disagree. Standing your ground and demanding that you're right may feel all righteous and satisfying, but it's a sure-fire way to eliminate intimacy. Let's go a ...

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The mechanics of “having sex” are fairly simple, but really “making love” and developing a good intimate relationship takes some time and effort. Movies, pornography and other media tell us that sex is–or should be–easy, which is a set up for problems in a real relationship. For those who have ingested pornography, it’s difficult to have a healthy and accurate perspective of sexuality, and to separate fantasy from reality. Pornography–The Sex Mis-educator

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When I started my practice, Eros Coaching, I was told unreservedly by many well-meaning people, often complete strangers, not to do so. Will I have enough business? Are Singaporeans going to come forward? “We are too shy!”, they exclaimed. “Why didn’t you stay in the United States and practice there? Surely, you don’t want to waste your time with this lot.”r

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Mention the word “Masturbation” and what do you think of? While masturbation means different things to different people, it is one of the most misunderstood subjects in the world, as it is enshrined in mystery and secrecy because of the simple reason we speak so little about it. Masturbation may evoke massive levels of guilt and shame, as many of us were told from when we were young not to touch ourselves “down there”.r

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Is sex a job or a joy to you? Sex means many things to different people, often depending on where they are emotionally, or even the time of their life. For some, it is a chore, a duty, an obligation, simply a way to keep the harmony in a relationship. For others, it may be a way to ensure food gets put on the table. Sex may even be viewed as a strategic decision to reduce the chances of the partner seeking sex elsewhere.r

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In this day and age, are we really suffering for want of… anything? Long before budget airlines, it was a very big deal when people would travel to other countries. So much so that friends and family would go to great lengths to show up at the airport just to wish that person ‘bon voyage’. Often the departing person would be asked to seek out and bring back a particular spice, cosmetic, or other luxury item, because such items were either unavailable or exorbitantly priced in Singapore. This practice still exists, and I’ve had experience of it from every angle.

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This is part four of a four-part series on sexual consent. The other pieces can be found here: Sexual consent: When no is no; Sexually Confused: When No is a Game; and No Go: Too Drunk to Consent. In early December, paparazzi pictures of 19-year-old Hong Kong starlet, Rose Chan, being kissed and hugged by fellow actors and co-stars Joe Ma, 43, and Benny Chan, 42, surfaced. The actors had apparently gone for supper after a day of filming in Hengdian, China.r

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I have a question to ask you. Amidst the hustle and bustle of your busy work and personal lives, when was the last time you played? Close your eyes and try recalling some of the happiest moments in your life: What might they be? Whether this memory is of you as a child or as an adult, chances are, they involved some sort of play.

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I facilitated a session which defined sex, sexuality and intimacy during SlutTalk, a fringe event under SlutWalk Singapore. It was the inspiration for an earlier piece on publichouse.sg with the same title here. After my session, I thought I could go off-work, resume my civilian status, and was easing into my seat. An undergraduate lady sitting next to me began small talk by first remarking that I look nothing like my namecard/ website/ media pictures. She next asked me if my work was difficult.r

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Last September, I attended a ten-day residential program, which is part of the Sexological Bodywork certification in Australia. Though this was the second time I was going through this program, I was returning as one of four assistant coaches. I felt it was important to connect with my community (sex-positive people who spoke my lingo), refresh my skills and acquire new knowledge.r

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Have you heard of the saying, “Speech is Silver, Silence is Golden?” This phrase can be traced back to early Egyptians and it essentially means that while speaking is good, saying nothing is better. Discretion can be worth more than even eloquent words. Have you ever felt glad, relieved even, to get away from someone because the person would not stop talking, and worse yet, about themselves? Have you wished the person sitting behind you on the bus or standing behind you on the train would stop talking into their phone or to the person next to them at the top of their voice?r

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Book Review: Shameless – How I Ditched the Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure… and Somehow Got Home in Time to Cook Dinner by Pamela Madsen I fell in ‘like’ with Pamela Madsen even before I heard about or read her first book Shameless. It happened when she shared her blog post ‘My Mother and The Gift of The Traveling Red Panties’ on Facebook. I instinctively felt that she was a woman who is honest, has a good sense of humour, and ‘gets’ what embracing her sexuality was all about.

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His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage – Fifteenth Anniversary Edition (2001) by Willard F. Harley, Jr. Most of us are probably familiar with ‘The Five Languages of Love’ by Gary Chapman. These “Five Love Languages” have been useful in helping people speak and understand emotional love when it is expressed through one of five ways: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch.

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Each partner needs satisfaction in every sexual encounter. There are many sex positions that you can employ if you want to make your love life pleasurable. You do not need to be an acrobat in order to practice these positions. They are very easy to learn and apply in real life situations The sex positions that make women happy Private lap dance styler

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Your boyfriend or love or husband desperately wants to hear it. You can proclaim your love for him through deeds and words without using the three most basic terms. You may opt for candle light dinners and midnight strolls since you are both romantic at heart. Sending surprises will reveal your feelings and portrays a hellish experience. Some of the top most ways of telling him that you truly love him include: Offer him your ear even when the topic of discussion seems less pressing.

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Seduction is a process of building up attraction and developing trust to your woman. Just like any other reaction that requires a catalyst to reach the optimum standards, seduction is a catalyst that helps you to win a woman over. In most cases, man bears the responsibility of seduction. You should understand very best tips of seducing a woman as a man. The process of seduction demands that it should be unique and very captivating to the woman whom you are focusing on. 1.Look your bestr

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For the longest time, being a woman, to me, meant being:rn-seen and not heard;rn-expected to help, serve (for instance cook, clean, iron) and please people around me, especially the men;rn-fertile, and being expected to bear children.rn-expected to look good, smell nice, and happy and positive at all times.

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This piece first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. The trailer of the new Singaporean film ‘When Hainan Meets Teochew’ was enough to persuade me that I had to watch it. The movie was premised as a romantic comedy between a ‘manly’ woman, and a ‘womanly’ man, as opposed to the usual Hollywood cliché where a handsome man meets a pretty lady and they fall in love after some complications are overcome.

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This article first appeared on Good Vibrations Magazine. If you have been following my blog here, you may recall a previous post where I mentioned looking forward to watching an 83-minute feature film/documentary called Cowboys in Paradise.

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How much you reveal to your partner has a lot to do with what kind of a relationship you want. If you want an honest and open relationship, then it is important you are as honest and open as you possibly can. Your past is a part of where you have been, and may not be representative of who you are as a person now. If he has difficulties differentiating that, then it might be very telling of his emotional maturity and you might not want to pursue a relationship with such a person anyway.

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What are some tips on the ways a guy can impress a girl with the perfect Valentine’s Day dinner date? Generally, women’s sexual fantasies tend to be filled with more romantic interludes. The whole works would mean: the perfect venue for that perfect date – a 5-star hotel, an elite restaurant, or even a yacht; reservations; elements of ambiance such as candles, flowers, music or musicians; and the icing on the cake would be a thoughtful gift.

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The ear is one of the erogenous centres of a woman’s body. Since ears are very sensitive, touching, kissing, sucking and even gently biting her earlobes, can send her into a sexual tizzy.

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What’s the best way a guy who has been out of the dating scene for some time can get back in the game? Before venturing out into the dating world, take time to figure out who you are and what you are about such as listing a personal inventory of goals, lifestyle priorities, what works and what won’t. You want someone who is the best fit in terms of lifestyle temperament and connection.

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Am I doing alright in bed? How can I tell? We get turned on through our senses – seeing, feeling, touching, smelling, tasting, hearing – and through thought or fantasy. When we begin active sexual movements, we feel the flow of pleasurable feelings centering in the genitals and abdomen. The entire body is gradually flooded with warmth, generally increasing in intensity and reaching toward a peak. In both sexes, heart rate, breathing rate and flushing (if it occurs) continue to increase.

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How much of erectile dysfunction is biological and how much of it is psychological? Erectile dysfunction, sometimes known as impotence, is attributed to physical causes in up to 85% of cases. Medical conditions linked to erectile conce s include heart disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, neurological disease, and other health conditions. Research has shown that psychological causes of erectile dysfunction occur in up to 15% of cases. They include anxiety, depression, stress, and problems in relationships. Is popping Viagra the only solution to ED?

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The first thing we should know that the monogamous model for relationship has not existed through all societies and time. More so in our Asian culture, we are exposed to concepts like polygamy where Muslim men can have up to four wives; and patriarchal systems where the father or eldest male is head of the household, having authority over women and children and expected to continue the male line or family name.

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How do you know your sex life back on track? It depends on what aspect of her sexuality she is not happy with. If she is not receiving sexual pleasure the way she would prefer, she needs to be first looking at what are some possible reasons she is not asking for what she likes. Does she know what it is she wants? If she knows, why is she not asking for it? If she does not know, how can she find out?

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It is easy to point the finger elsewhere and say it is the men’s fault. For every man who we say is making a mistake, there are three fingers pointing back at you. Really, since men are not mind readers (though we would like them to be), we have to communicate. Men won’t be making ‘mistakes’ if only women are clear first about what it is they want, and then being clear about asking for what they want.

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On women’s health "down there". 1. Get familiar with what you are ‘normally’ like ‘down there’ – from the look, smell and even taste. Check daily when you go to the toilet. This way, you are aware when there is any out of the ordinary vaginal discharge. 2. Avoid bath oils, perfumed soaps and bubble baths. 3. Drink cranberry juice. It contains hippuric acid, which prevents bacteria from clinging to the lining of the urinary tract. 4. Make it a point to excuse yourself to the toilet and urinate before and after sex. This will help flush out bacteria.

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Some sexually transmitted infections can be passed on orally, so it’s a good idea to put on a condom for oral sex. Flavoured condoms would be the same strength as well as gone through the same rigorous testing as the normal condoms so you shouldn’t worry about it at all. There is a chance of the condom breaking or tearing if the girl is actually biting or chewing on the condom as part of the oral sex. It is a good idea to change the condom before vaginal penetration.

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An orgasm is not just a physical experience, it happens in your body, mind, possibly even spirit. And there is no single definition of orgasm. Some tell tale signs of an orgasmic response might include increased heart rate and blood pressure, increased muscle tension, a flush of her skin, as well as a release of tension followed sometimes by a feeling of deep relaxation. On the other hand, she might experience one or several of these things and not “feel” she had an orgasm. Trying to figure out if she had an orgasm can also be a dead end.

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What the hug is saying that you are missing. 1. A hug that’s followed by a thump on the back A thump on the back above or below shoulders is more of a friendly or ” hey how you been ” hug. This is an indication of discomfort with hugging you or with your closeness. However not all back thumping is negative and can be difficult to analyze the precise reason. 2. A crushing bear hug

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It is normal for couples to have differences in their sexual desire. It is important for couples to begin by having a honest discussion with how often they need to have sex versus how often they would ideally like to have sex. There needs to be a conversation about the role sex plays in a relationship and why it is important. Stress, anxiety, and tiredness are very real factors that affect the sex lives of Singaporeans. It’s hard to get in the mood or have any real desire when you’ve been working long hours.

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1. Do not make fun of or dismiss her anxieties/ insecurities as irrelevant, nonsensical and the like. 2. Find out where her comfort level is i.e. she doesn’t like/ want to do A, B, or C. What can she do or is willing to do? Start from there. 3. Gently stretch her comfort level e.g. if he wants her to give him oral sex and she doesn’t like/ want to due to fear of bacterial infection. For instance, how about getting her to stimulate the same with another erogenous part of his body e.g. ear/ finger first?

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How can a man best use his tongue to bring a woman to orgasm? What are some techniques he can try? Our fingers are hard, dry, and possibly chafing. On the other hand, your tongue is warm and moist, hence probably superior to the penis in giving her an orgasm. Also it is easier for most women to achieve clitoral rather than vaginal orgasms, and oral sex is very effective in triggering such orgasms.

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The definitive DSM-IV-TR, which is the latest version of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders published by the American Psychiatric Association, does not recognize sexual addiction as a diagnosis. Conventional wisdom among therapists has long been that there is no such thing as a sex addict. I would prefer to refer to what is commonly called sexual addiction as a form of obsessive compulsive disorder and refer to it as sexual compulsivity, as a more accurate term.

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The idea of having better orgasms isn’t meant to make you feel like there is anything wrong with the orgasms you’re currently having. Here are some basics: 1) Breathe so your orgasm becomes more of a full body experience; 2) Instead of tensing up and holding still during orgasm, move your body and let the energy spread through your body; 3) Experiment and prolong the period before orgasm; 4) Try to build better orgasms by doing your Kegel exercises; 5) Use sex toys; 6) Fantasize. Remember not to compare your orgasms with others. What works for you is good enough.

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Do guys need to take protein supplement after making love to replenish the loss of protein?

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The length or girth of a penis is not the measure of a man. Penis pumps, pills, and patches can only make your penis bigger temporarily. They all work on the same principle of increasing blood flow in order to get a thicker penis. I would be wary of any body alte ating devices and invariably hurting the sensitive nerves of the penis. However as long as you use your penis pump safely there is no reason not to try it if you really want to. That said, lots of people are having great sex with no penis involved at all! Most women don’t orgasm from penetration at all.

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For most men, their earliest sexual experiences are with masturbation done secretly and quickly, for fear of being found out. Hence it is often believed that such early experience actually condition some men’s sexual response to a pattern of rapid ejaculation. In reality, masturbation is one of the best ways for men to learn about their bodies and develop confidence about their ejaculatory control in a pressure free environment. Using lubricant, slowing down on the stroking action when you masturbate and letting yourself enjoy the sensations more are all part of the learning process.

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Does male circumcision make sex more pleasurable for both the guy and the girl?

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Work out suitable times in the week both of you can make sex happen. It might sound unromantic to plan time for sex but we all know how to make time for what is important to us – and sex deserves us making time. The anticipation, lead-up and preparation for the date will make it sweeter. Experiment

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For starters, you can use a vibrating ring which looks like a hair band except it has an exte al battery with an on-off switch. Have your husband stretch the vibrating ring over his penis and rest it at the base of his erect or non erect penis, and watch the penis come to live as you turn the ring on. Ride him as you usually do and the added stimulation may well help you get a stronger orgasm. If he isn’t comfortable with a vibration ring at the base of his penis, you can always use the vibrating ring for outer play such as on your clitoris or around your vulva.

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Premature ejaculation happens when a man ejaculates earlier than he would like to. It is also known as rapid ejaculation, rapid climax, premature climax, or early ejaculation. The average male takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he ejaculates. To gain greater orgasmic control, the first thing is to understand what is happening to his body when he ejaculates: the functions of the prostate gland and pelvic muscles.

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During intercourse, it is the outer third of the vagina that is most stimulated. Some women are able to orgasm through this vaginal penetration. That is, vaginal orgasm — without clitoral stimulation.

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How will the first sex session be like? Be aware of your feelings and know it is normal to feel excited and awkward at the same time. Talk to each other: ask what’s working and what isn’t, don’t assume that what feels good for you feels good for her. During lovemaking, the penis is inserted into the vagina. One partner will usually use a hand to slide the inner labia apart and guide the head of the penis into the vaginal opening. Most people need foreplay, or outerplay, before, during and/ or after intercourse to relax and become sexually aroused. This includes:r

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When you fake an orgasm, you are essentially putting on a show for the benefit of your partner. Your reasons could vary from “getting it over with”, “sparing his feelings”, misleading yourself with “what he doesn’t know won’t hurt”, to the inner satisfaction of “pulling it off” and “getting away with it”. Whatever your reasons, it is important to call a spade a spade: you are lying to your partner, and more importantly to yourself.

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We set resolutions, goals and targets for all manner of things, from our career and our finances to our love life; so why not for our sexual lives? Your face might be wearing a bemused expression after seeing the above title. But, let’s pause and think about it. We set resolutions, goals and targets for all manner of things, from our career and our finances to our love life; so why not for our sexual lives? Still sounds strange? Setting sex goals within your relationship can have a very positive impact. Here’s how and why:

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1. For a quickie You have a few minutes and you want it hot, quick and sexy! Try Wall Standing Sex where both partners are standing doing penetration. The female uses a wall to support herself while being penetrated. Tip: Bend your knees to change the angle of penetration. The guy may wish to intense the depth of penetration by holding up his partner’s leg or legs. 2. To have a baby

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What factors should a couple take into consideration when wanting to spice up their sex life? Consider if your partner is a visual, auditory or kinaesthetic (touch) person. Does irritating sounds bother him to no end? Is he particular about textiles, fabrics and the way they feel next to his skin? Most guys tend to be visual followed by auditory. If you have a visual guy, you know he would be able to watch you. So have dim lights on, or candles as they make you look even more alluring. Better yet, have sex infront of a mirror so he can admire the reflection of you (and himself!).

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Do's Discuss what makes a good date in your opinion so your partner knowsr Take turns planning the date and making it happen the way you like it tor Talking about what is going on in your relationship right now, or resolve old issuesr End the evening with a high note or with a fun activity. Don’ts Don’t spend a lot of money on the date. The quality of the date is not necessarily determined by the amount of money spent. Do not wait for the “mood” to come over you. Decide to be you are open to possibilities.r

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What to say when you are too tired for sex. There are three things to say when you are too tired for sex. 1. Say something polite, nice or caring. Thanks for asking, but… (can state reason) I’m glad you asked, but… (can state reason) 2. State your alte ative. I’d rather… I prefer… 3. Or suggest an alte ative Would you like to…? E.g. Would you like to cuddle instead? How about…? E.g. How about if we put time aside after the football match? Why not ____ instead? E.g. Why not I finger you to orgasm tonight?

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Aphrodisiacs are substances that supposedly enhance erotic perceptions and sexual performance. In virtually all societies, people have sought such agents and have attributed magical or powerful properties to unusual substances, like ground rhinoceros horn. It is controversial whether any single substance has singular and specific effects in enhancing sexual arousal and orgasm. Whether the effect is real, minimal or nonexistent may well be a self-fulfilling prophesy.

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What is considered a low sex drive for females? There is often a sexual desire discrepancy between the male and female. I like to first emphasize that just because you have a lower sex drive than your partner does not necessarily mean there is something wrong with you. What this means is that you need to be aware of this difference and together come with creative ways to fulfil both your sexual needs.

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As the name suggests, it refers to the reverse of fast sex, think fine dining or a 12-course meal as opposed fast food. Slow sex does not necessarily infer to the amount of the time needed for sex, but the way it was being done – slow. It would be good to set aside 30minutes to practice slow sex. The Slow sex movement is a term used by Nicole Daedone, founder of the One Taste Urban Retreat Center, who describes herself as the movement’s leader. She describes Orgasmic mediation and mindful sexuality as its practices.

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Possible reasons of multi-tasking during sex can vary considerably: from boredom due to predictability of sexual routine; stress and anxiety stemming from work; habitual need to overachieve; to genuine lack of time in juggling work and household chores. Sexual inhibition from any kind of trauma, pain, or discomfort may also cause one to disengage or disassociate mentally.

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Sex does not magically happen. You are stymied by a lack of time and energy and having kids have only caused sex from being erratic to the point of non-existent. You love your spouse and want to keep an intimate connection. However life gets in the way. Sex has turned into a dull routine and you don’t know how to rekindle your connection. Recognise that having a healthy and positive sex life takes effort, and scheduling sex is a part of it.

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How can one overcome premature ejaculation? When is faster not necessarily better? That’s right – when we are talking about premature ejaculation or ‘PE’. PE is also known as ‘early ejaculation’ or ‘eager ejaculation’. This occurs when a man ejaculates quicker or earlier than desired. It is actually a very common sexual concern. Can you learn to last longer without resorting to medication? Here are some tips: 1) Do your Kegels

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I had tuition from when I was in Primary One until Secondary Four. My younger sister started from when she was Kindergarten Two. She started early because she wouldn’t leave me alone during my tuition lessons – insisting on playing with me, talking with me, peeping on me – she felt left out. I, on the other hand, hated being forced to take supplementary lessons I did not need. After a succession of tutors who quit – one of whom pinched me – I realised that my mother was going to continue forcing tuition down my throat. I eventually settled on the one I thought was the nicest.

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There is a new beauty pageant in Singapore. It’s named TruMe, an online transgender beauty pageant organised by Action for Aids; it will be officially launched next month.

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I was browsing through the October issue of an expat magazine recently when I chanced upon an article entitled, “Well-being and Sex”. Intrigued, I read the piece, only to come upon the sexual terms: ‘sexual transmitted diseases’, ‘impotence’ and ‘frigidity’. The author is obviously not a sexologist because these terms are passé.

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Have you heard of the expression, “Men don’t grow up; their toys just get bigger and more expensive.”? True, since adult men don’t talk of Matchbox cars, but full-sized motorized ones. What of their electronic devices and gadgets from the iPhone, Wii, mp3 players, to laptops?

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Living in harmony with nature’s rhythms and gifts is not easy in a heavily-developed world. Nature can be very helpful in restoring sensory, behavioural and emotional balance. Are we listening?

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Loh Lik Peng. Does this name sound familiar? If you are any Singaporean worth your salt, you would know that he is an hotelier and restaurateur with not one, not two, but three boutique hotels located in Singapore. What may be lesser known is that his empire also includes six restaurants in Singapore; as well as one hotel in Shanghai and two in London.

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When I was little, all I wanted was to grow up. Grown-ups rule the world – from controlling the television remote and operating all kinds of cool gadgets to being able to choose the time they went to bed. And then there is always the sentence “You will know when you grow up,” that made adulthood all the more alluring. We all know what happened. I came of age. Now that I am finally ‘there’, I have to admit that there have been times when I wished I could turn back the clock and relive my childhood. This might be a typical case of the grass being greener on the other side.

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Have you ever poured ‘cold water’ over somebody else’s happiness? In a literal translation from the Chinese language, ‘pouring cold water’ means dousing the flames of passion. This usually happens when the opposite party is feeling elated about a new love, promotion or business deal, and somebody comes along and ruins the ‘moment’.

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In previous pieces*, I have covered how sex is not a one-way experience (in ‘Don’t Lie Back and Think of England’), as well as how sex can be like an elephant in the bedroom when it comes to communicating any problems that might be occurring. This week, I would like to suggest ways in which we can get feedback from our partner after a sexual experience. And when I say sexual experience, I am not limiting it to just penetrative sex. Open-Ended Questions You can begin asking your partner what the sexual experience was like: “Sweetheart, how was it for you?” or “How was it just now?”r

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In a previous piece, I talked about the role of open- and closed-ended questions to get feedback from our partner after a sexual experience. You might begin asking for sexual feedback by using a few open-ended questions. If your partner is not forthcoming, or you wish to get clearer answers, you could consider incorporating some closed-ended questions. What else could you try? Scale of 1 to 10 This is where the scale could come in. This is how you might begin: “On a scale of one to ten, ten being the highest, what do you think of this (technique/position/etc.)? Give it a number.”r

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A smile is a wonderful thing. Yet it appears that a smile can have more connotations than what is usually appreciated (on the surface) in our society. At the age of eleven, I was taught this poem when I joined the Brownies (a school uniform group similar to the Girl Scouts): “A smile is a quite funny thing, as it wrinkles up your face; And if it’s gone, you cannot find its secret hiding place. But far more wonderful it is, to see what smiles can do: you smile at one, he smiles at you; and so one smile makes two!”

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I adore the American actress Cameron Diaz. She dares to be ridiculously funny in ‘The Mask’, has men swooning over her in ‘There’s Something About Mary’, gets to kick butt in ‘Charlie’s Angels’, and is not shy in admitting that she can’t sing in ‘My Best Friend’s Wedding’. She smiles readily, laughs infectiously, and is ‘on’ about life. What’s there not to like about her? Recently she upped the antenna with her quotes (in reverse order of my favourites): On staying young:

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Why is sex like learning to ride a bicycle? Well, do you know how to ride a bicycle? Not the four-wheeled type. The two-wheel ones (one front, one back) upon which the rider needs to be balanced. If yes, how long did it take you to learn to ride one? While you were learning how to ride the bicycle, did you fall? Did you feel like giving up? Was there anybody who helped, supported or encouraged you?

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I tell my clients that sex is not the same as sitting for the ‘10-year series‘. For those who don’t know, the 10-year series is a colloquial term unique to Singapore where students refer to official compilation books of examination papers for the past years for the GCE N-levels, O-levels and A-levels, approved by the Ministry of Education and the University of Cambridge Local Examination Syndicate, respectively.

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I am surprised that, in this day and age, I still am asked: “What can women do in bed besides lying back and thinking of England?” In case you are not familiar with this expression, it is an English saying with roughly the same meaning as “to grit one’s teeth”, i.e. to put up with what is happening. It was used both in England and among expatriates outside the country when conditions were difficult. It is given as an encouragement to perform a task that is unpalatable.

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If there is one questio I am asked almost every time I meet somebody new, it is this: “Why did you become a sexologist?” Even complete strangers on Facebook find it is their business to pose one-liner questions along the lines of: “Is your job for real?” Occasionally my polite replies would be followed by cheekier replies of: “Can I know you?” Or I will receive lengthier ones trying to draw me into philosophical, theoretical or academic discussions related to sex and sexuality. Indeed, I have an interesting profession. This is my official answer, all of which is true:

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For most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about. I have come across a man who, after 15 years of marriage, admitted that he and his wife have never talked about sex. Don’t get me wrong. They do have sex. They just don’t talk about it.

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I first learnt about the ‘Facebook Bra Color Campaign’ through the blog post by sex-positive activist Carlin Ross who works alongside the legendary Betty Dodson. The campaign, believed to be started by women in Detroit, Michigan, who are trying to raise awareness of Breast Cancer, asked women to post just their bra color and nothing else.

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Recently a girlfriend admitted that until she met me, she had always thought that vaginismus was a myth – a disease that was made up, or had been eradicated in the ’80s, and most definitely did not exist in modern day. In fact, vaginismus is a very real sexual conce that women experience, and more common than we might think.

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For most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about. I have come across a man who, after 15 years of marriage, admitted that he and his wife have never talked about sex. Don’t get me wrong. They do have sex. They just don’t talk about it.

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The Buddha is purported to have said “What we think, we become.” If your thoughts could change your life for the better, wouldn’t you do it? Of course! But, what thoughts do you change? All of us have an inner voice that speaks to us and us alone. Self-talk is that inner running dialogue you have with yourself. When you allow this voice to become overly negative or critical, it can deplete your energy and destroy resiliency.

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Have you heard of pelvic floor exercises? You may have learnt about them from your aerobics instructor. Or perhaps your urologist was the one who ordered you to squeeze your butt cheeks together? Maybe your gynae was the one who asked you to attempt to tighten your vagina, or was it your anus? I have news for you: They’re all the same thing. This exercise is more commonly known as the Kegel exercise.

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How many of the people that you know are truly happy with their bodies? Be honest: Are you satisfied with yours? If not, you might have a body image issue. Body image does not just refer to aspects of our physical appearance, attractiveness, and beauty. It also has to do with the mental picture you have of your own body as well as your thoughts, feelings, judgments, sensations, awareness and behaviour.

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We hear it said constantly: “He’s hot!” or “She’s sexy!” What exactly does ‘sexy’ mean? Merriam-Webster’s Online Dictionary defines ‘sexy’ as sexually suggestive or stimulating. In other words, sexy can be ‘erotic’. Another synonym is ‘appealing’; as in generally attractive or interesting. Surely sexiness is in the eyes of the beholder and can be very subjective. Yet, universally, there are a few things about ‘sexy’ which most people would agree upon: 1. Sexy people are confident.

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During my training to be a sexologist, I was confused by the differences betwee PE, DE, and ED. They are, namely, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation and erectile dysfunction or disorder, respectively. Later, I realised it was just as confusing for the men who have sexual conce s. Hopefully, this piece will give you an idea of the types of male sexual dysfunctions. There are four main types of male sexual dysfunctions:

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There is a place within a woman which is so famous that it is referred to by a singular alphabetic term. I am asked frequently, usually by men, just where this is. Many women are confused about whether they have one. The fixation has a lot to do with the belief that its stimulation results in an instant mind-blowing orgasm. No, not the T-zone. That’s right. We’re talking about the G-spot.

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Many women have problems with sex at some stage in their life and it becomes more common as women get older. Having covered male sexual dysfunctions in a previous piece, let’s move onto the types of female sexual problems. Female sexual dysfunction refers to one or more of the following issues: loss of sexual desire, loss of arousal, problems with orgasm and pain during sex. 1. Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder

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Gentlemen prefer blondes? All blondes are dumb? All redheads are passionate? A man is always sex-, porn- and/ or looks-obsessed? Therefore, he is expected to sow his wild oats? The gay person is promiscuous? A woman is seductive when she is slim, and that’s why every woman wants to be slim—so she can be seductive? Women are gold-diggers, headache-prone and stupid (especially if she is a wife or a girlfriend of a footballer, otherwise known as a ‘WAG’)? All of these make her definitely the weaker sex. Oh yes, she also can’t park and men can’t pack?

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As the Lion City’s only clinical sexologist with a doctorate in human sexuality, I have often been asked by journalists, friends, and complete strangers to share my thoughts about what I felt was my most bizarre/ interesting/ fulfilling case. I could become the next media darling or belle of the party but I have always refused to give them what they wanted. Instead, I may reply: “I treat all my client information as strictly confidential, so I couldn’t discuss any of that. But, I can share the most common kinds of issues related to sex….”

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According to a new research study in the UK (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1341660/Six-10-women-dont-like-eating-partners.html?ITO=1490), more than 60 percent of British women in relationships do not feel comfortable eating in front of their partner, and almost half get shy when undressing. Also, four in ten women feel as though they are ‘always dieting’ or are ‘constantly conce ed about their weight’.

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Released in 1992, ‘The Best Things in Life Are Free’ is a song by Janet Jackson and Luther Vandross. The song went to number one on the R&B singles chart and debuted at number 24 on the U.S. Billboard Hot 100 the week of May 30, 1992. Three weeks later, the song peaked at number 10 for three consecutive weeks. It was nominated for a Grammy Award for “Best R&B Performance by a Duo or Group with Vocals”. Are the best things in life really free? (and if so, are they free in Singapore?) I list some of the things I think are best in my life: Getting to my bus-stop,

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I am a sexologist. Since I am the only one with this unique combination of qualification and training in Singapore, there exists a lot of confusion about what exactly a sexologist does within our little city/state. Not only that, I have my share of detractors who think I am a ‘joke’, only about hype, or out to create trouble or controversy for the purpose of my own aggrandizement, etc. I have never professed to be something I am not. Since I am 100% serious about the work I do and intend to be around for some time, here are a few common misconceptions I would like to address here:

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Anxiety is a normal part of life. We all have experienced anxiety at some point of our lives. In fact, anxiety is one mechanism that evolved to keep us alert and help us cope in stressful events or situations. More specifically, performance anxiety refers to self-consciousness about the quality of one’s performance that actually, in turn, decreases the quality of one’s performance.

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Touch is the medium through which we first become acquainted with the world. It is the first means of communication between the newbo baby and the mother. Research has shown that many babies who are raised in an orphanage and are not handled and touched on a regular basis rarely live past the age of two—they literally wither away.

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If you accidentally touched a hot stove, the nerves in your skin would shoot a message of pain to your brain. The brain then sends a message back telling the muscles in your hand to pull away. Is that a bad thing? No, you would answer. What a ridiculous question, you might retort. Hear me out.

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Have you ever poured ‘cold water’ over somebody else’s happiness? In a literal translation from the Chinese language, ‘pouring cold water’ means dousing the flames of passion. This usually happens when the opposite party is feeling elated about a new love, promotion or business deal, and somebody comes along and ruins the ‘moment’.

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We are inundated, on a daily basis, with multiple messages about how our bodies can or should look better from slimming and facials to skin whitening and body hair removal. There is just so much we can be unhappy with when it comes to your bodies. How can we ever be happy with the way we look, much less enjoy inhabiting the only body we’ll ever have? Could dance help us become more comfortable with our bodies? I asked three female dance instructors:

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I was on the MRT train with a new friend the other day, and he asked me what caused my marriage to end. We were both standing, dangling from different handrail supports. I looked around. We were surrounded by a lot of other commuters. This person is not exactly soft-spoken either. I replied, “It’s complex. I’ll tell you another day.” “How complex can it be? It can only be a few things: money… religion… affair…,” he rattled off. I remained silent. First of all, I wasn’t ready to dismiss six years of my life (including courtship) with a one-word answer.

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I had tuition from when I was in Primary One until Secondary Four. My younger sister started from when she was Kindergarten Two. She started early because she wouldn’t leave me alone during my tuition lessons – insisting on playing with me, talking with me, peeping on me – she felt left out. I, on the other hand, hated being forced to take supplementary lessons I did not need. After a succession of tutors who quit – one of whom pinched me – I realised that my mother was going to continue forcing tuition down my throat. I eventually settled on the one I thought was the nicest.

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What is the relationship between sex and durians? Is there any at all? Since I am paid for my time, I like to use metaphors and analogies to make sure that I get my intended message across in the most effective way in the shortest amount of time. This has a lot to do with my first career in corporate communications: where time is of the essence and clear, simple messages often work best. When I hear of adverse reactions to male ejaculatory fluid, also known as semen, I ask follow-up questions to better understand the aversion. “What is it about the ‘cum’ that you don’t like?”

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When I was in my third semester studying for my Doctorate in Human Sexuality, I went to the Florida Sex Therapy Institute to complete a Certificate in Sex Therapy. Dr Susan Lee, my teacher, introduced me to her clients I bumped into and her counterparts as ‘Dr Lee’. My first reaction was “Wait a minute! I am not a Doctor yet!” I felt like a fraud.

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Recently, I attended a men’s health forum on erectile difficulties. There were three male speakers scheduled, all of whom were medical doctors. Being a sexologist, I was always keen to learn more in the area of sexual dysfunction. I had pre-registered for the event and was queuing to sign in. I caught a glimpse inside the seminar room, as the entrance was ajar. It was evident that more than half the seats were already occupied with men. All was in order: Men’s forum, lots of men.

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Is it possible to get better, ‘betterer’ and ‘betterest’ when it comes to sex? A certain Singapore minister was cited in the media as saying, “If you’re the best today, strive to be better. If you’re better today, strive to be ‘betterer’ and if you’re ‘betterer’ today, strive to be ‘betterest’ so that over time, Singapore’s service standards can just keep getting better, ‘betterer’ and ‘betterest’.”

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A few weeks ago, while watching ‘Robin Hood’ starring Russell Crowe, I found myself cringing at the predictability of the plot. I am usually not so squeamish about my buttons being so obviously pushed. However, I walked away from the experience with a few observations about the preparation of heroes that I’d like to share with you.

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You might have come across the term ‘Coming out’. What does it mean? It is a figure of speech used by the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community in disclosing their sexual orientation and/or gender identity. Also referred to as ‘Coming out of the closet’, the beginning of this process is acceptance of oneself. Following this, openness may occur with family, friends, co-workers, the community in which one lives, etc. This is a life-long process. One can ‘come out’ similarly or in a different manner to various individuals or groups at different times.

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I didn’t know I had a vulva until I went to sex school. Don’t get me wrong. Of course, I do have a vulva (pronounced as ‘vuhl-vah’) and a vagina (pronounced ‘vha-gine-a’). I just didn’t know what they were called. I couldn’t even pronounce the word penis (pronounced as ‘pee-nis’) for that matter and called it incorrectly as ‘pen-is’. For the longest time, I was calling the whole area ‘no nok’ because that was what my mother said it was. For the purposes of this article, I asked my parents how to spell it and realised that what I always assumed was a Teochew word is in fact Malay!

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Sex is a learned act. That’s right: l-e-a-r-n-e-d. I remember contributing an article to an online portal a few months back. I had written the sentence: “For most people, sex is a learned act.” When the portal owner’s edits come back, she had written: “Don’t you mean, ‘For most people, sex is a natural act’?”. My immediate response was territorial: ‘Who is the sexologist here? Are you saying I am wrong? What are you trying to imply here?’

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Women Who Love Sex: Ordinary Women Describe Their Paths to Pleasure, Intimacy, and Ecstasy, by Gina Ogden Once I started reading the book, I did not want to put it down. It is beautifully and succinctly written by a woman who has had to deal with her own inner ‘ghosts’ and discomforts with sexuality, who has sat with countless numbers of women, from the 1970s up to the early ’90s to understand their perspective, and who has and is leading the way for the many others to follow.

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The cover of book Impossible Motherhood is simple but alluring. It traces the outline of a woman with two lines, with the title and sub-title ‘Testimony of an Abortion Addict’ located where the pubic mons is. Then, there are three sets of red lines (each set has four lines with a fifth line diagonally striking them off to symbolise ‘five’) at where the figure’s vulva would be.

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I was drawn to the book Sitting Moon: A Guide to Natural Rejuvenation After Pregnancy at the library. It has in part to do with the professional-looking cover with a white background, as well as the sub-title: ‘Natural Rejuvenation’. Natural is always good, I thought. Another factor probably has to do the cover image of an Asian woman having a private moment with a baby on her lap.

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‘Stand by Her: A Breast Cancer Guide for Men’ is a book by one brave man for other men who are witnessing their loved one fighting breast cancer and how to support them. These men can be their husbands, fathers, sons, brothers, friends, and coworkers.

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The Erotic Mind: Unlock the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin In this intriguing, insightful mix of analysis, anecdote and advice, San Francisco psychotherapist Morin developed an ‘erotic equation’ by drawing on the discussions of 351 respondents, straight and gay. This equation is: Attraction plus obstacles leads to excitement.

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Red Hot Touch: A Head-to-Toe Handbook for Mind-Blowing Orgasms by Jaiya and Jon Hanauer Red Hot Touch is sizzling hot! It is possibly the modern-day equivalent of The Joy of Sex. The writing is fresh and playful; the content is incredibly useful and informative; and the techniques are specific, detailed, and easy to understand.

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The Joy of Sex: A Gourmet Guide to Love Making by Alex Comfort This original The Joy of Sex, first published in 1972, has often been credited with inventing the modern sex manual and enjoyed unprecedented success world-wide gracing 8 million homes. Illustrated with line-drawings and watercolors of a couple, this book aims to be a personal one-couple notebook containing valid sexual behaviors, plus a certain amount about how and why they work.

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Not long ago within our culture, there was a myth that women were not very sexual. If they were, they did not enjoy it, much. It was also not long ago that sex toys were hidden and shameful. It is safe to say that toys and aids have gone main stream. Women are inherently sexual beings and it is the time of our sexual re-awakening. Couples know that sexual intimacy is a major player in being happy together.

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The term Erotic Hypnosis invokes mystery and allure, a tantalizing combination of words that sounds extremely exciting, and more than a little dangerous. So what is it? I use erotic hypnosis in my practice as an intimacy educator and consultant, and will outline the most common uses, then go into greater detail of what I like it for.

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Evolving Relationships and Sexuality Calls for a new kind of Therapist Sex is simple, except it's not. As our society becomes increasingly exposed to sex, increasingly educated and connected, and more aware of sexual potential, a gap in the area of education and teaching has become glaringly obvious. People are desperately seeking information for their sexual issues and not getting it. The world of human sexuality is enormous in its complexity. The question remains, where do you go when you need help?

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Preface: I'm making generalizations using the terms woman, man she and he... to simplify things. However any gender pronoun works, it is an issue of dynamics not an issue of gender. I simply see patterns in my practice and am referring to the most common. Anything that deviates from that is still relevant. The most common complaint amongst my clients who have otherwise "healthy" or good relationships, is that there is a lack of sex, even to the point of it being non existent.

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Herpes is a disease that affects millions of Americans every day. In fact one in five people have genital herpes and eight in ten have oral herpes or those cold sores you get on your lips every few months. That’s right it’s basically the same thing. Genital herpes is caused by a strain of the herpes simplex virus called HSV-2. Its symptoms vary from either really noticeable blister on and around the genitals to redness like a rash to nothing at all. People often don’t know they have genital herpes because the symptoms are so mild or non-existent.

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Question: The question that I am about to ask is one I feel a lot of parents and educators try to abdicate. My belief and curiosity comes from a desire to be a good parent myself and to be prepared for the situation(s) when and if they happen. I am also aware that others may have similar thoughts, but because this question will eventually be asked or wondered about by at least 1 out of every 150 children and their parents, I think getting it out there will save time, stress, and awkwardness for a lot of parents, educators, family members, and young adults.

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Shere Hite explained back in the 1970’s how the women in her surveys reached orgasm during sex with a partner.

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Do not be fooled, women are quick to criticize the shortcomings of their partner. Throw out the comforting notions that it is not the size, but what you can do with it. Women are not buying into it. In fact, over half the women asked say they want a man with a fuller, larger and firmer penis and are unhappy with their partner’s penis size. Men, what does this mean for you? The need for sexual satisfaction has led to one of the largest and fastest growing markets.

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Art of Stimulation: Leave Her Begging More, More, More “Yes! Yes! Yes!” she cries while one had beats heard and steady on the dinner table and the other hand tussles her thick head of hair. This is the scene from When Harry Met Sally, when Sally demonstrates how easily a woman can fake an orgasm in an instant. Everyman wants to her their partner to shout loud enough for the neighbor at the end of the block to hear, but the reality is most men don’t know how to get a “Yes! Yes!

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The True Self is Reality. It sees the activities of the Addict as being what it is: a fantasy growling for what it compulsively seeks: immediate gratification in the form of physical pleasure. Sex addiction is fueled by a fantasy of being how you never thought you were in your youth together of a fantasy of the power over women you've always wanted to have. Do you see how the Addict Self always lives in the past?

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A sex addiction is a habitual response and a source of sexual gratification or emotional security. It is a way of coping with internal feelings and exte al pressures that provides the Addict” as “Not You”">addict with predictable and consistent immediate gratification, but that has concomitant costs. Eventually these costs may outweigh the subjective benefits the addiction offers. Nevertheless, people continue in their addiction as long as they believe it continues to do something for them.

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The True Self is capable of objectively observing the Sex Addict Self because it's not obsessively preoccupied with getting it's neurotic needs met. Psychoanalysts call this the “observing ego” and it is considered a sign of maturity. Proponents of Eastern spirituality call the True Self “The Witness” because it's essence is conscious awareness of the inner workings of the mind.

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Sex is surely one of the most powerful of all human experiences. It can drive people to the pinnacle of ecstasy or it can spiral others to the depths of self-loathing and despair. Sexual expression is meant to tie, or connect, to our core sense of self. Sexual energy is part of our life force, our energy for creative and productive attainments, and the source of our passion for life.

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Who are sex addicts and what are they hoping to find through their compulsive sexual behavior? Sex addicts are people who, afraid of real, intimate relationships, repeatedly and compulsively try to connect with others through highly impersonal, non intimate behaviors: masturbation, empty affairs, frequent visits to prostitutes, voyeurism, and the like.

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I've been sitting in a room talking to addicts for 25 years. All kinds of addicts. I've participated in the enormous struggles of alcoholics to get sober, cocaine, heroine, methamphetamine, food, love, nicotine, sex...all kinds of addictions. My conclusion, culled from clinical experience, is that internet porn is THE primary addiction and is, by far, the hardest to kick. My intention in comparing my uncle's cocaine addiction that robbed him dry was to show you that the biochemical dysfunctions of a cocaine addict are exactly the same as those of a long-term porn addict.

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Steve is a professional musician. A man in his 50's, virile yet sensitive, he is sexually compulsive around fetishistic sex. Since his early teens, Steve had masturbated nearly every night before going to sleep. As he matured, his need for masturbation increased until he was masturbated five or six times a day. He found that if he did not act on these urges, he would remai "horny" all day, which would make him restless, distracted, and irritable.

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Attachment patterns have to do with how the infant is tended to by his/her primary caregiver, typically the mother. This means that when an infant is upset, or dysregulated, the "good enough" mother soothes the infant thereby regulating his/her nervous system. This kind of consistent tending to and soothing not only assists the brain in forming its regulatory capacities but also encodes or patterns the nervous system to respond appropriately under stress. If a baby is soothed while under duress, that baby will grow into an adult who can soothe himself while under stress.

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My work over the last fifteen years as a psychotherapist treating sexual compulsions has brought me into contact with men - and more men. They come to my consulting room wearing the mask of shame, humiliation, and confusion. Often, after a period of therapy, they come to a common link among them: they are depressed. Empty and suffering from a disorder that, for men, can be as hidden as sexual deviance itself, depression in men is hardly spoken about. It is women who are depressed - it's a women's disease -- with depression occurring four times more often in the fairer sex.

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A number of years ago, in conjunction with my work with treating sexual addiction, a number of masochistic or submissive men began to come to me for help. The clients I saw did not seem immature or inferior. In fact, the reverse seemed to be true. They were successful by social standards: professionally, emotionally, and culturally, in marriages or out. They were frequently individuals of inner strength of character, possessed of strong coping skills and an ethical sense of individual responsibility.

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The diagnosis of sex addiction is the same as every addiction: loss of control and continued behavior despite adverse consequences. Sexual addiction differs from other addictions, however. Our sexuality reflects unconscious conflicts, longings and wishes of which we are not aware.

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“Brainlock”, a four-step self-help guide for treating OCD is a book written by Jeffrey Schwartz, M.D., a physician who spent most of his career treating and doing research on Obsessive/Compulsive (OCD) behaviors. His has developed a four-part program self-help program that can be used for any unwanted compulsive urges, desires and behaviors.

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Sex addiction recovery typically involves at least psychotherapy,twelve-step groups self-help groups and medication. Medication, while not always necessary, can serve as the “water wings” for negotiating the changes necessary for growth. Certain psychiatrists believe that addiction is maintained by mood-dependent motives and that pharmacological treatment of the underlying mood disorder can diminish the urges and cravings associated with the addiction to sex. Medications that enhance mood/feelings regulation also enhance the the ability to control impulses.

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Cybersex is the use of electronic communications for sexual diversion and includes email, texting, and internet porn. The American Bar Association cites that in 2011 a whopping 50% of the divorces it handles have cybersex implicated in the couple’s demise. The harm and emotional wreckage to the partner (co-addict) is enormous.

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Group therapy is a highly effective treatment modality for sex addicts. It reduces shame and denial, limits isolation, increases socialization skills and the development of empathy. The process fosters the development of intimacy and helps sex addicts develop the coping skills they need to meet their emotional needs in healthier ways. Irwin Yalom wrote “the book” on group therapy. In it, he delineates the essential factors that make patients get better. The specific benefits, according to Yalom’s model, of group therapy for sex addicts are:

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The philosophical basis for cognitive therapy goes back to the Stoic Philosophers who taught that it is not the exte al event that causes our distress, but rather our perception or interpretation of the event that is distressing. According to the Stoics, people are capable of considering alte ative perceptions or interpretations by changing the thoughts that underlie emotional distress or sexual dysfunction. This ancient philosophy can help you in your therapy for sex addiction.

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Relapse in sexual addiction recovery is a reality. While all addictions are relapse prone, it is the sexual recovery community who suffer most from the demoralization of repeated relapse. After all, we can live without ever being around alcohol or drugs, but our sexuality is ever-present. Because ours is a sexualized culture, triggers, cravings, urges, cues, and high-risk situations are everywhere.

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Most addicts would stop if they could.

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Addiction to sexual behavior is a complex disorder that incorporates many aspects of your personality, bio-chemistry, socio-cultural environment, family-of-origin issues, thinking/feeling processes, self-esteem, and quality of relations with others. I see sex addiction as a prism; depending on the angle you hold it up to, it can look completely different.

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To be at risk for addiction, two psychological conditions seem to exist during childhood. First, the child has become over- reliant on sources of comfort outside of himself to provide a feeling of being soothed, safe and secure. Second, the child had difficulty making a healthy separation from the primary parent, with later conce s that closeness and intimacy can be dangerous.r

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A sex addict is a person who misuse sex as means of coping with unwanted feelings and life stressors.

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Addiction to sexual behavior is a complex disorder that incorporates many aspects of your personality, bio-chemistry, socio-cultural environment, family-of-origin issues, thinking/feeling processes, self-esteem, and quality of relations with others. I see sex addiction as a prism; depending on the angle you hold it up to, it can look completely different.

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While the sexual behaviors differ, the underlying dynamics of sex addiction are the same. There is always an inability to form a healthy, consistent attachment to a cherished loved one. Perhaps there was a mother who was unable to create a bond with her infant/child that provided the attention, recognition, validation and appropriate physical contact needed.

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In my opinion, long-term psychodynamic therapy is the most efficient way to cultivate healthy personality development. The most comprehensive treatment combines the empathy, insight and relational abilities of a psychodynamic psychotherapist with the 12-step orientation and cognitive-behavioral strategies of an addiction specialist. What IS Psychodynamic Psychotherapy?

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NLP is an approach to doing psychotherapy that was all the rager

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The usual response to the suggestion to one of my clients that hypnotherapy might be useful in the treatment of sexual addiction is typical of the general public’s misguided understanding of hypnotherapy: “I’m afraid of going into trance – I might lose control”; “You’ll find out things about me that I don’t even know myself”, or, typically, “I’m just not the type to benefit from hypnosis”.

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Mindfulness is a method of awareness and introspection which involves a conscious attempt to focus attention intensely on the present moment, noting thoughts, feelings, perception, images and sensation without judging them, participating in them or acting on them. The contents of the mind appear and disappear without reacting to them. One experiences on a fundamental level that every thought, desire, urge or impulse dies a natural death if not fueled by emotional reaction or through behavioral enactment.r

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Fifteen years ago, people didn’t even know there was such a thing as sex addiction, never mind how to get help for it. With Patrick Carnes’ groundbreaking book Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction, people who suffer from self-destructive sexual acts had hope of knowing what ailed them. Since then, the disorder has received tremendous attention from the media and a whole new group of therapists trained to treat sex addiction.

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Over the years, the people I have worked with have used various words to describe the end result of their compulsive sexual behaviors: words like shame, anger, depression, anxiety, disappointment, self-hatred, hopelessness and helplessness, usually describe their subjective experience after the orgasm is over. Never have I worked with a person who described their sexually addictive experiences with words like, fulfillment, satisfaction, closeness, or ecstasy.

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Loss of Relationships

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The rapid mushrooming of individual 12-step programs throughout the nation and the world in the past 50 years has given millions of people suffering from addiction back their lives, their families, their self-respect and their pride.

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Do you have a Problem with Internet Pornography? Do you find yourself spending increasing amounts of time online looking at pornography or engaged in sexual or romantic intrigue? Do you become involved in multiple romantic or sexual affairs online at the same time? Being truly honest with yourself, do you think pornography use or online sexual activity violates your marital commitments? Have you been unable to cut back on the frequency of your online sexual involvement despite a thought that you should do so?

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What kinds of ideas is porn putting into our heads? If the wrong things keep getting dumped in, your mental environment can get so polluted that your life is going to have problems. One of the most vital parts of mental environment is a healthy idea of who we are sexually. If these ideas are polluted, a critical part of who we are becomes twisted. To Find Freedom from Porn Addiction: Recognize the Lies

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Imagine two funnels, each inverted onto the other. Both the top and the bottom of the funnel represent the cerebral cortex of our brains. It’s what distinguishes us from animals. Rational processes and higher level thinking live in the cerebral cortex. The middle part of the funnel, the constricted part, represents the limbic system of the brain, responsible for instincts, feelings and survival (including food and sex).

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It’s in the coupling. Limbs entwined in limbs, the way you can feel skin rub on skin, these are the things that draw women to porn. Often viewed as taboo, women’s increasing interest in the sex industry has made them the new group to market. Research and otherwise seemingly useless percentages claim women as the victor of highest percentage purchasing porn. With women shedding the shackles of dated views on gender obligations, morals and taboos, they are taking on the role of creator and manipulator of the porn market.

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Desire for physical sexual contact is creative potency seeking expression or outlet. That same creative energy projecting as intense sexual desire can become Money energy, Intellectual energy, Political energy, Professional energy, Business energy, Sports energy, Spiritual energy, or whatever type of energy you need at any point in time. Unfortunately, many men being unaware of this fact, continue to waste their essence, and thus fail to avail themselves of that subtle but exceptional creative stimuli generated by their abundant sex drive; and this is one primary cause of mediocrity.

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Being a women in todays society has it's advantages and disadvantages. Women can be a lot more open about their sexuality then years ago, which is a good thing, so disscusing sexual issues such as STDs is more common and showsus just how bad it has gotten.

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Periods Align That time of the month can be hell. I am talking about that week and a half to two weeks of discomfort, emotional discourse and inflated proportions. The week prior to menstruation when tears need little provoking and the bloat adds to frustration then takes an abrupt swing into cramps, fatigue and an easily stirred attitude. This is catastrophic enough when it’s just a lone woman dealing with premenstrual and menstrual symptoms, but what if it’s an entire office of women?

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Sometimes the fire dies. The flame doesn’t have get enough oxygen and the embers are left to fizzle out. I am talking about passion in the bedroom. The steamy feelings that keep you occupied in wrapped sheets and your lover’s limbs. Busy schedules, stress and age can all decrease those sexy and intimate feels. There are a lot of options for rekindling the passion in your love life: sexual enhancement products, aphrodisiacs, romantic get aways and sexy lingerie. Often underestimated, your under garments can have a huge impact on your sex life, as well as boosting your self-esteem.

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What are the ways to fall in love and stay in love? Couples counseling can help two people enjoy a healthy relationship. Start today with these ten direct and established things you can do now, or this week, to improve the dynamics of your intimate relationship. Isn’t it time you started feeling passionate about your partner to help your relationship?

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In marriage counseling, and relationship psychotherapy, I have noticed my clients have issues with their partner being too busy texting, returning emails, and donning headphones, both at home and at work! Have you noticed with texting, email, mobile devices, and tablets, that we are more and more “alone together”, and not really enjoying relationship intimacy? How has your partner’s mobile devices, Twitter, Facebook time, texting, and returning emails affected your relationship?

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Haven’t we all felt the pit in our stomach, the disbelief it’s happening, feeling pissed off, calling up to get back together, and the sadness, when we go through the loss of a romantic relationship that we cared a lot about? Elizabeth Kubler-Ross wrote originally about these stages in terms of death, though they apply to intimate relationships as well. I’ll be adding information from my own reading and counseling experience in helping individuals through the process of relationship breakup.

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rn(This article has been excerpted from the book The Intimate Couple, by Jack Rosenberg and Beverly Kitaen-Morse. 1996. Out of print.) How would like to get through feeling hopeless about your intimate relationship? Can you remember times when you were so unhappy with your partner that you were not yourself, that you got off track with yourself? Intimacy can be fraught with these painful feelings when you lose it, especially when partners do not know how to work with them.

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Frequently Asked Questions · What is sex addiction? Sex addiction is an obsessive relationship to sexual thoughts, fantasies or activities that an individual continues to engage in despite adverse consequences. These thoughts, fantasies or activities occupy a disproportionate amount of "psychic space", resulting in an imbalance in the person’s overall functioning in important areas of life, such as work and marriage. Distress, shame and guilt about the behaviors erode the addict’s already weak self-esteem.r

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Understanding Sex Addiction: A Depth Psychology Approach An Introduction to Sex Addiction

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Brian is an investment backer in his early forties who, in graduate business school, first began to visit prostitutes, spend money on phone sex, compulsively masturbate and, finally spend as much as 5-10 hours a day looking at internet porn. When sexually acting out, he would feel that someone had turned on his brain for the first time. On the net, he would suddenly feel alive. He had energy and felt the euphoria that sexual immersion seductively provides. His mind slowed down; he didn’t need to keep moving.

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So many couples don’t discuss important aspects of marriage until AFTER they’re married. Will you have children? Will both of you work, or just one of you? Where will you live? Who will be in charge of which chores? How much personal time will you give each other? How do you both see finances in marriage? Talk about the ten B’s, and build a healthy marriage that lasts many, many years. Avoid the misunderstanding and misconception caused by putting off the B’s! I will provide you both a safe place, a plan, and guidance to talk about the following aspects of marriage intimacy.

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The greatest challenge of a spiritual life we were told was to transcend the body and of sexuality. To fully inhabit our bodies –vulnerable, sensitive, and flawed as they are – takes a thousand times more courage than transcending them. The body is a condensation of spiritual presence and provides the field within which our spiritual experience unfolds. Ecstasy too is experienced in and through the body. The path of making love with life requires us to inhabit our bodies fully. Your body knows what ecstasy feels like and how to get to it.

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Sometimes there are hardships in intimate relationships. These hardships often show up as:rn-Lack of desire in your sex life.rn-Wishing your partner would do just the right thing to satisfy you.rn-Feeling sad when the sex isn’t what you expected.rn-Believing that your sex drive ‘stops’ after 40.rn-The same old “boring sex”.

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Aren’t sexual intimacy problems everywhere? People who have come in for emotional intimacy issues can be communicating clearly to their partner: “Get lost!” “It’s all YOUR fault!” It’s so very normal to get caught up in these communication pitfalls. It’s a negative loop of hope, desire, rejection, and hope again. I can show you how to get out of this negative loop without being out of your relationship. To begin with, ask yourself if it really is your partner’s responsibility to make you happy.

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Practicing your confident sexual self Do you feel confident sexually? We often think of sexual confidence in terms of “skills.” If someone knows the “correct” hand motions or what to do with their tongue, they should feel confident. But sexual skills can be difficult to acquire if you are single. And even those who are skilled don't always feel confident. Real sexual confidence starts inside. Here are some key tips to increase confidence on your own. 1. Know your own sexual self

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What do “sexy” women do differently? Have you ever seen a woman who is physically less-than-perfect, maybe touting a larger schnozz or carrying an extra ponch, and yet somehow she manages to steal all of the glances in the room -- oozing sex appeal? On the other hand, the physically perfect woman with enormous breasts and 4 inch heals who is completely overlooked. Even though her breasts arrive in every room before she does, she somehow manages to teeter around the room radiating anything but sexy.

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In the first throes of passion, desire never seems to be much of a problem. We are so focused on the newness of the situation – the person, the sensations, etc-- that our attention can more easily stay on the erotic. That focus on erotic thoughts keeps our bodies primed for sex. But after time with the same partner, our brain gets distracted more easily. And when our thinking is taken off the erotic, arousal drops.

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Want to have better sex in the new year? Apply these principles to your life and you'll not only have a more pleasurable sexual relationship, but a healthier, richer, more fulfilling relationship all around. 1. Keep Priorities Straight Your intimate relationship with your partner should be at the top of your priority list. Passion, desire and arousal will dwindle when sexual intimacy is pushed to the side. Take time to fully enjoy, appreciate and savor one another. 2. Communicate More There is nothing more important to creating a better sex life than communication.

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In the many classes and workshops I've given over the years on the art of erotic communication, the most common questio I'm asked is: "Can you give me some ideas on how I can get over my self-consciousness about using erotic talk with my partner?" My answer is an emphatic yes! There are several ways to help you and your partner feel more at ease communicating about your sexual needs and desires.

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Many people initially think of "talking dirty" when they hear the words "erotic talk". But as I explain in my book The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite and Enchant Your Love with Words (Random House), the phrase means so much more than that.: "Words are wonderful aphrodisiacs. With words you can stimulate the pleasure centers in your partner's mind so they send shivers of sensual delight through his entire body. With words you can help her become more relaxed and receptive to your touch.

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With Thanksgiving drawing near, I believe this would be an ideal time to discuss the role of gratitude, validation and appreciation in the art of lovemaking. Of course, when we feel validated and appreciated in any aspect of our lives it deepens our sense that we truly matter in this crazy world and that we are making a contribution to the lives of others. Yet, many of us overlook or forget to bring such appreciative expression into the intimate moments we share with our partner.

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Alcohol addiction is a chronic brain disease characterized by the compulsive use of alcohol. The alcohol changes the brain both in structure and in how it works by disrupting the normal functions. These changes can be long term and lead to harmful behavior. Scientists began studying addictive behavior in the 1930s. Since that time, science has changed the way people with addictions are treated and thought of. Science has also provided a means to understand and effectively address alcohol and other addictions. Addiction is a disease that affects the brain and behavior.

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Despite what you may have thought, alcoholism, like all addiction, begins in an area of the brain called the reward pathway. The brain is composed of neurons that pass electrical and chemical signals across the brain's synapses. Neurons come in different shapes and sizes which enables them to communicate in a variety of functions; when the neurons fire in a series from one area of the brain to another it creates a pathway. In the middle of the brain is the reward pathway which includes the ventral tegmental area (VTA), the nucleus accumbens, and the prefrontal cortex.

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Due mostly to the standard American diet, Candida is running rampant. Most people don't realize they have Candida as the symptoms associated with it vary. People may spend years trying to find out why they're fatigued, irritable, in pain, or one of many other symptoms. Without proper diagnosis, some people are incapacitated by Candida and its symptoms. Most traditional doctors are either uneducated or under-educated when it comes to this condition. They simply don't understand the impact Candida can have on a person's health.

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The correlation between alcoholism and nutrition is a crucial one to understand. Vitamin and mineral deficiencies among alcoholics are numerous and pose a threat not only to sobriety, but the alcoholic's overall mental and physical health. To succeed in long-term recovery it is crucial to address these deficiencies, otherwise they may result in symptoms or consequences that drive the alcoholic to drink. Additionally, their quality of life will be significantly lowered in response to deterioration in health.

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What we eat has a significant impact on our mental state and can create profound psychological symptoms. It is not uncommon for people to notice things such as increased level of energy or mental alertness after eating sugar or caffeine. Most of us know that it is the tryptophan in our turkey that makes us tired on Thanksgiving and many of us have cravings for carbohydrates and get that temporary mood boost after ingesting them, thus demonstrating some of the simpler ways that food affects us. On the most basic level, the neurotransmitters in our brain are affected by food.

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At least once in life you’ve heard the term ‘geisha’. The term is quite popular but there are only few persons who really know what a geisha is. Here are some answers to the question: ‘Do you know what a geisha is?’rn-Sam, 22 years old: ‘Yes, I’ve heard about them, I think they are prostitutes in Japan, aren’t they?’rn-Wynonna, 37 years old: ‘I don’t really know much about them, I only know they are women, they live in Japan or China and they entertain men’rn-Reese, 27 years old: ‘Easy! They are hookers who sleep with different men every night. Am I right?’r

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My philosophy ( men-women ) Today, I would like to share my philosophy about obvious gender differences, between the sexes. Throughout my career I've been working & dealing closely with both males & females & I have to agree with Dr.John Gray that it appears that we are from different planets. With Mars being the planet of war & Venus the planet of love, it does make sense.

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The reaso WHY we are so different, all boils down to different hormone distribution. Males possess 10-20 times more of the sex hormone testosterone, then females & it flows through their bodies on a daily basis, being highest in the AM, which explains why men are horny first thing in the morning.

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Having passionate sex is a very important component of a couple's relationship and it's also one of the most difficult to maintain in the long term. Couples frequently struggle with this issue because they don't understand why it dwindles or how to keep it alive. Many people aren't even aware ...

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There are two very easy steps that a woman can take to find a great deal of Menopause relief that doesn't involve risky hormone replacement or other prescription drugs. 1. Diet The first line of defense is making changes in the diet. There's never been a time that your body needs healthy ...

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The Candida Diet is one of the most challenging diets there is to adhere to. It is extremely rigid, limiting and bland to the senses and doesn't allow for much variety or flexibility. So much so that many people feel utterly deprived when trying to follow it. No matter how you look at it, that ...

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Planning a sexy Valentines Day celebration will not only make your special someone feel loved, but will also make them feel desired. This is important because couples need to know that their partner still finds them attractive and desirable. Arrange a day that is not only romantic and special ...

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The best ways to say I love You involve not only words, but actions as well. They don't cost anything and come straight from the heart. Yes the words are absolutely essential, but those words need to be reinforced with strong action. Your love needs to see your love as well as hear it. If ...

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Menopause is a natural phase of every woman's aging process that is usually marked by a specific set of symptoms. The progression usually runs for several years or more starting with gradual changes in her menstrual cycle and concluding with complete cessation of menstruation. For some women, ...

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A lot of people are turning towards a holistic health approach for their health care needs today because of the rising costs and dangerous side effects of traditional medicine and synthetic drugs. Our health care system is failing us in many ways and it seems one of the best ways to address ...

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The benefits of exercise go far beyond losing weight or building an attractive body. We often hear that we are supposed to exercise, but unfortunately many people tend dismiss the importance and value of this simple act, as just something doctors or health care providers routinely say to keep ...

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Not knowing the benefits of a good colon cleansing program could be detrimental to your health. In fact you could prevent serious illnesses as well as death, simply by knowing how to properly take care of your colon. The colon is being blamed and pointed to as the root of many different ...

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The most important thing to keep in mind in regard to great sex, is that it does not occur as a result of one particular tip, technique or position. It's a compilation of the chemistry you share with your lover, the quality and depth of your relationship and the development of craft. Now ...

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Candida is a yeast that lives in all of our bodies. It is also known as Candidiasis. Normally it is kept in balance by other friendly bacteria that also live there. It loves and thrives in a warm, moist environment and thus tends to proliferate in some areas more than others, such as the mouth, ...

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Fibromyalgia or FMS targets approximately 2 - 6% of the US population, and is a very difficult condition to live with. It is considered a non-life threatening syndrome, however symptoms can be quite debilitating. It is generally thought of as an arthritic type of syndrome, with aching joints, ...

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No, it’s not some new wild and kinky position or technique, it’s just some good old fashioned simple communication! Unfortunately many couples find it very difficult to communicate with one another about their sexual needs or preferences and this can lead to a lot of dissatisfaction and ...

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I grew up hearing “NO” a lot. As much as I rebelled against the ideas that I can’t have what I want, that deprivation is somehow noble, and that I certainly can’t have it all, I internalized those ideas and lived them out for years and years. Yet a part of me always knew it wasn’t true. I think our true self wants to do it all, to be free, to explore and expand and its sane voice gets buried under all of these false ideas we learn from our parents and people around us who are in their own story about deprivation.

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I was again faced with a typical scenario this past week in my work as a sex coach. I received an inquiry from a man who said he wanted help. I hesitated because I don’t really work with men and they tend to waste my time. I have a number of structures in place to assure me that someone is a good fit for me as a client way before I get on the phone with them. He went through those steps and as much as I was skeptical, and as often as men have wasted my time in the past, I went ahead and set up a get acquainted call with him.

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This week I sponsored at an event hosted by one of my coaches and since I am beginning to launch some work that connects sex and money, I was asked over and over again, “How exactly are sex and money connected?” I found myself explaining some of the myriad ways they are connected and decided if they had those questions, you probably do too.

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How many times do you put off your own growth, self-development work, fun, pleasure or education because of some made-up reason that really just slows you down and keeps you from having what you want, for no good reason?

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The other day I spoke to a woman on the phone who was interested in coaching with me. She was a perfect fit for my work and one of those classic mirrors; she had been through a divorce that had uncanny similarities to my own. I knew I could help her in a big way and she seemed really ready to do this work. Wonderful! I love to hear that kind of readiness and enthusiasm in a prospective client or student. I know that willingness is a critical component to doing the work that needs to be done.

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Ever since I first came across that quote by Buber, I have kept it on one of my altars at home, a daily reminder of one of my core values. Play.

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“I’ll never have a sexual life like other women.” “I’m too wounded to have a good sexual life or relationship.” “It’s just not in the cards for me.” “Everyone else is fixable—but me.” “My perfect relationship just doesn’t exist.”

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Given the latest attacks on women’s sexual and reproductive rights and the responses of many critical thinking lawmakers about men’s sexual rights, I thought it was high time I posted the actual Declaration of Sexual Rights.

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If you’ve read my articles you know I see sexual energy, creative energy and spiritual energy as coming from the same well. We have a desire for sex, for affection, for a lover, to create art and beauty, or to connect to the divine, and if that desire is there, then the energy and material to fulfill that desire must also be there.

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Sometimes you get so stuck sexually and you are so used to feeling stuck, you have no way to gauge how or why. I see this a lot with new sex coaching clients and prospects. If a woman has gotten far enough in her process to call me, she at least has some sense that her sexuality needs attention. Sometimes that's as much as she knows. Figuring out the way into it or how to break it down feels hard and the whole of her sexual issues becomes a series of symptoms with vague ideas of the root causes.

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Dear President Obama, I just watched your ABC interview where you came out, at last, in support of equal rights for all Americans. I mean, it's a little ironic isn't it? You being our first African-American President and all. I'm guessing you've experienced an obscene amount of discrimination during your life and certainly within your presidency! You, of all people, must know how critical it is to have equal rights. Mr. President, I heard your battle call back in 2008 and I was skeptical, although I did have some hope that you would do well by us.r

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Orgasm is truly all in your mind, however you need to let go of all thoughts and just allow yourself to be fully present with the physical sensations without distractions. It is, in a sense, a meditation to practice and ultimately master. In fact, it is possible to bring yourself to a powerful orgasm while sitting absolutely still with no movement, physical stimulation, or friction whatsoever. Many women have testified to having the ability to produce a full-o “mindgasm” during meditation, or rather a self-hypnosis type of technique.

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What is 'premature ejaculation'? The 4th Edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-IV), describes premature ejaculation as "...the recurrent or persistent start of ejaculation and orgasm with minimal sexual stimulation before, on, or right after penetration and before the person wishes it." It's labeled a mental health issue when it creates difficulties or causes emotional problems inside a relationship.

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It's well known that worry, stress, and anxiety contribute negatively to premature ejaculation. In addition to the degeneration of the feeling of control, when a man is "uptight," his love will usually perceive it. If she then starts to stress about his anxiety, she is prone to have issues with her own relaxation, arousal, or orgasm. Stress and anxiety in the bedroom is contagious and it is a significant cause of lovers avoiding stressful sexual activities. After all, sex is supposed to be pleasurable and relaxing - not unsatisfying and tense.

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The Contest

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Frequent sightings of the New American Cougar are occurring more often now in urban areas. Discover fascinating techniques in how cougars hunt. Find out why they “catch and release” their victims and continue the ongoing pursuit for prey for the mere sport of it. They are extremely territorial, especially around other cougars and pumas. Read further as we explore the wild habitat and lifestyle of this marvelously exquisite creature.

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A wonderful way to connect with your partner when you first meet after a long day is a simple tantric hug. This is a gentle, yet effective, way to tune your energies by simply placing your bodies together. When you’re in closer energetic harmony, then it is easier to move to greater intimacy or you may just allow the loving touch to be a renewing contact. Too often we don’t express affection because we may not be “up” for more. Allow each gesture and each moment to simply be a stand-alone event.

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Since the causes behind premature ejaculation are typically not due to a medical condition, home remedies can be an effective method of treatment. Continue reading to find out how you can help your partner solve this problem with simple techniques and natural mixtures. Room For Two

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According to recent studies, over 90% of adult women report having conce s about their sexual health. Our sexuality is a major part of our life and can greatly affect our overall physical, mental and emotional health. Unfortunately sexual wellness is an aspect of our health that is largely ignored and avoided, and, as such, very much misunderstood. This is mainly because it can be uncomfortable to discuss, even with a health professional.

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You can look and feel younger, no matter what age you are! It is just a matter of staying active and implementing more fun and adventure in your life. Don’t just exist and be a slave to the same old boring routine day after day. You don’t have to be wealthy, retired, or even have a significant other to be happy and have a fun-filled, joyful, extraordinary life. You have heard the cliché, “life without passion is not worth living”. Here are some ways for women to defy maturity and live life to its fullest.

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During a Peace Summit in Vancouver last year, the Dalai Lama made a stunning proclamation that “the world will be saved by the Western woman”. His Holiness went on to highlight the reality that 'awakening' women are emerging as the leaders of the global change movement. Women have never before held so much power to shape the future of our planet and the evolution of humanity. At this time a major economic shift is taking place where women now have more influence, money, control and resources to revolutionize how we do business on a global level.

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Men and women can be so completely opposite sometimes in how they think, act and communicate. They might as well be from different planets! We’ve all heard the old saying, Women are from Venus. Men are from Mars. Well there is a lot more to that aphorism that dates back several centuries – not suggesting that we come from other planets, rather our universal gender traits stem from ancient archetypes from Greek mythology; the goddess Venus and the god Mars.

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If you’re single looking to find the guy of your dreams, or you already have a partner but feel overlooked at times; then listen up for some great tips on enchanting those around you. Seducing a man doesn’t necessarily mean stealing him from someone else, or convincing him to do something he doesn’t want to do. It can simply mean to captivate his attention or desire for you, whether it is a guy you just met or someone you’ve known for years. Get noticed and gain the respect you deserve through the art of sensuous seduction.

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Our diet affects everything; our energy level, body composition, strength, endurance, stamina, mental cognition, body odor, mood, sex drive, sleeping habits and overall vitality. The health and wellbeing of every living creature on earth significantly depends on their diet and the quality of all they consume. When you eat junk and processed foods, your body produces more fat, lowers your energy and even reduces your brain power. If your diet is consistently of low quality; long-term health issues and chronic illnesses can occur, affecting every aspect of your life.

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Premature ejaculation affects not only you but your partner as well. Feelings of anger and resentment can arise from continued unsatisfying sexual encounters. The good news is that this does not have to be a permanent problem. Read on and learn what you (and your partner) can do to improve your sexual relationship The Basics

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The term "Premature Ejaculation" is something which can strike fear into the heart of almost any man. But what exactly does this phrase mean? How do you know for sure whether or not you suffer from this condition? And what can you do about fixing (or at least treating) it? Upon a closer examination of the term, pinpointing a definition for premature ejaculation is more difficult than you might think.

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Maturity can be a good thing, especially when it comes to fine wine, cheese or ripe, delicious fruit. But as a state of mind, maturity can feel a bit lifeless and boring. We may envision an older “mature woman” who lives a bland, insipid lifestyle clinging to her beloved dog and superficial television shows. Of course there’s nothing wrong with that chosen reality, as it may bring much joy to that type of person who finds peace and security in self-contained mediocrity.

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Newsflash: Conventional medicine is responsible for 255,000 deaths per year in the United States, and almost half of those are from adverse reactions to prescription drugs. Just because a pharmaceutical drug has been studied in a laboratory, regulated by the FDA and prescribed by a doctor, it does not necessarily mean that it is safe – especially mixing with other Rx drugs.

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Most romantic arrangements have in common a space of time and a partner's full positive attention. Attention first of all. Call your partner during the day. Let each other know you care. When you come home from work, after you've allowed yourself half an hour or so for practical matters, sit down and talk. Sit down and listen. Pay more attention to what your partner is saying than to what you want to reply. "What did you do today?" Listen supportively while your partner clears away the day's debris. Until the debris is cleared away, you can't come together emotionally.

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Fueled by pure primal instinct, our sex drive is a compelling physiological desire for copulation. Unlike most female mammals, women can enjoy immense pleasure from sexual activity. Of course a partner is not necessarily needed to achieve sexual satisfaction and orgasm, however it always more fun to share erotic experiences with someone you care deeply for. Whether you enjoy solo play in stimulating yourself, or you have assistance from an adoring lover, orgasm can be profoundly powerful and extremely gratifying to a woman.

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Did you know that in many ancient cultures, the intense pleasure of sex was considered as a spiritual experience? For some men, that same intense pleasure is not a lasting or experience because it really is "too much". Today, we're taking a brief look at the role physical sensitivity plays in a man's sexual experience.

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As a sensually empowered woman, you are the keeper of your own mojo. It is that sense of self-confidence, self-esteem and sex appeal stemming from the core of your being and spiraling outward, enchanting every person around you. Sometimes we are in the flow, feeling good and looking our best. Other times we may feel like hiding under a mask, lacking self-esteem and poise. So how do we sustain our mojo and live life in balance?

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As women, it is crucial to be surrounded by beauty. It’s also a sign of auspiciousness. Your environment ‘talks’ to you on a daily basis and women are more sensitive to their environments whether they’re conscious of it or not. Therefore, it is mandatory for you to program your environment to tell you the truth about who you are instead of allowing it to repeat negative habits or patterns.

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Forget the Spanish Fly, Rhinoceros horn or other rumored aphrodisiacs, the most natural libido enhancers are easily accessible and good for your overall health. For thousands of years, humans have been experimenting with various foods and herbs to improve health conditions and support sexual wellness.

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So May has been declared National Masturbation Month. Although the movement is gaining awareness and media attention, it most likely will not be officially recognized, or show up on your yearly Hallmark calendars anytime soon.

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If you’ve ever danced the night away, then you know how truly liberating, invigorating and therapeutic it can be to just let it loose on the dance floor. Music has a way of touching the soul in an extraordinary and profound way. Whether fueled by a DJ or a live band, dancing is quite similar to sex. By allowing yourself to fully delve into the veritable vibration of what you perceive, you’re able to become fully present to the physical sensations that you might not otherwise be keen to.

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It is time to start planning your summer vacation! Have you thought about taking some time off to enjoy some fun in the sun? Whether you choose to escape for the weekend, or spend several weeks at some exotic retreat, it is so important to enjoy a fun vacation from time to time. Taking some time off from the same old daily grind is an excellent way to recharge your batteries and can greatly improve your wellbeing. By getting some much needed rest and relaxation, you can reduce your stress levels and stay healthier.

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Did you know that sex can make you look younger and more attractive? Sex helps boost the production of the human growth hormone, which improves muscle tone and takes years off the way you look and feel. Women’s estrogen levels naturally decline with age eventually reaching the stage of menopause. When a woman has sex, she produces more estrogen, which helps keep her hair shiny, smooth, thick and healthy looking. Sex also increases the production of collagen, which promotes supple youthful skin evading age spots and sagging. Sex is truly the real fountain of youth!

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Some people, especially in the Western region, view sex as a source of recreation rather than a means of transformation. They tend to focus more on the end goal – the destination, rather than the journey. In Tantra, every intimate moment is an opportunity to experience optimum pleasure and connect with your partner more fully.

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In many parts of the northern hemisphere, signs of spring are beginning to appear all around us. Trees are budding, birds are signing, flowers are blooming, and the animals (including humans) are… well… twitterpated.

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So how do you feel about the “C” word? – no, not THAT one. I’m talking about commitment. It is one thing to choose to date someone exclusively, as you both may agree to be monogamous and fully committed to one another – until you get bored with it and move on to someone else. But to level up and commit to marriage? Now that is a BIG step!

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Women tend to spend a lot of time and money on skincare. We want our skin to look youthful, supple and smooth. The key to younger healthy looking skin is sufficient moisture. In humid tropical climates, our skin naturally looks and feels healthier, and the women of the tropics generally look much younger than those who live in dryer climates. That is why it is so important for us to stay hydrated and keep our skin properly moisturized.

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Many people, especially women, have insecurity issues when it comes to being naked in front of their partner. They may hide certain body parts under towels, blankets and clothing rather than proudly strutting their stuff in the buff. Women are their own worst critic, as they tend to focus on self-perceived flaws and compare themselves to others. Lack of self-confidence with your body can be like a set of shackles holding you back from enjoying true freedom in many aspects of your life.

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It starts with her alluring and curious glance at him. Her expression is full of desire with a soft inviting smile. He feels a rush of impassioned energy throughout his body as he approaches her. She has his full attention as he fervently extends his arms toward her. They warmly embrace, as he envelopes her body, caressing every sensual curve with his strong devoted hands. Their lips unite in delicious, passionate kissing, pausing momentarily as they excitedly unclothe one another.

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For centuries, various forms of Tantra have been practiced in many eastern cultures as a means to reach enlightenment. Tantra is an ancient yoga that is perhaps best known in the West for its celebratory inclusion of sexual energy as central to the practice. This powerful meditation can be experienced solo or with a partner. It involves being consciously aware of all your heightened senses, especially through breath and movement. Tantra is about sensing sexual/creative/life force energy; building it and moving it throughout the body for healing and pleasure.

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Even though it is always fun to enjoy a special date out on the town with your sweetie pie, most nice restaurants are extremely busy and outrageously expensive on Valentine’s Day. Rather than dealing with traffic, parking, long waits and overpriced menus; stay home for a romantic dinner you both will cherish forever more. With a little preparation and creativity, you can put together a fabulous Valentine’s feast that will far exceed what any restaurant could ever offer.

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A standard routine is often a good thing, as a familiar schedule regulates activities, tasks and responsibilities, as well as instills discipline and organization. However the same old routine in your relationships and especially with intimacy may become a bit boring after a while. It is important to keep it fresh with unique experiences to add richness, excitement and variety to your partnerships and sex lives. Sometimes couples fall into a repetitive program that seems like they’re reliving the same habitual scene every day like a sitcom rerun.

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Yoga is an excellent way to increase strength, agility and blood flow to all parts of the body. You can be any age, shape or size to enjoy the benefits of yoga. There are hundreds of styles and various levels to explore from gentle stretching and breathing exercises for the physically challenged – to advanced power yoga for an incredibly intense workout. Consistency is essential for maintaining peace, focus, agility, and optimum health and well-being.

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One of the best gifts you could give to partner is the exhillarating experience of a full-body massage. In addition to immense therapeutic value, a professional massage is your one-way ticket to Pleasureville. Massage uses touch through rubbing or kneading of parts of the body to aid circulation, relax the muscles, or provide sensual stimulation. Touch is a very important part of human development, as it helps us feel connected, loved and acknowledged.

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The Valentine’s Day gift you choose for your loved one and how you decide to spend the day says a lot about the quality of your relationship, so give something that has real meaning to you. Gifts from the heart don’t have to be expensive and will tend to have more significance when you put some thought into giving something a bit more innovative than the old standbys. Since the traditional gifts of flowers or chocolates don’t last forever, here are some more creative ways to express your love.

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It’s the beginning of a new year and many of us have set intentions to make healthier choices with what we eat and to be more physically active in our day to day lifestyle. Obviously there are infinite benefits to getting in better shape, especially when it comes to maintaining optimum health and aging gracefully. As our metabolism gradually slows down, we start noticing changes in our bodies and realize we do not look nearly the same as when we were 18-years old. This can be a despondent feeling for some; however all we can do at this point is make the best of what we’ve got.

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I’d like to share an amazing resource with you from one of my favorite authors, Dr. Christiane Northrup, an internationally known expert on women’s health and wellness. Dr. Northrup explains the “7 Secret Keys That Open the Door to Wonderful Sexuality and Sensuality around Menopause”. Here is her advice, excerpted from the book, The Secret Pleasures of Menopause. Become an Ardent Explorer of Your Own Pleasurer

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Nitric Oxide (not to be confused with nitrous oxide) is a very simple but important molecule that can actually determine how long you live and the quality of your life. Nitric Oxide is made by the blood vessels’ lining, or endothelium. The endothelium is extremely sensitive to the physical and chemical conditions inside our blood vessels. When the endothelium senses heart-healthy conditions, such as physical activity and low cholesterol, it releases more Nitric Oxide. And that’s very good for your health and vitality.

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The questio “How did you meet your life-partner?” is one I love to ask couples – especially if they’ve been together for a long while. Most often they light up when recounting their nostalgic reminiscence of how their companionship came to be. It is interesting to listen to various personal recollections of what particular set of circumstances led to their momentous first encounter. I find it fascinating to think about all the choices we make in life that lead us to the next significant experience, meaningful friendship or romantic relationship.

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If you’ve ever danced the night away, then you know how truly liberating, invigorating and therapeutic it can be to just let it loose on the dance floor. Music has a way of touching the soul in an extraordinary and profound way. Whether fueled by a DJ or a live band, dancing is quite similar to sex. By allowing yourself to fully delve into the veritable vibration of what you perceive, you’re able to become fully present to the physical sensations that you might not otherwise be keen to.

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If part of your New Year’s resolution is to improve your relationship and enjoy better sex, then listen up! Intention is certainly the first step; however it will also take thoughtfulness, preparedness and action to make any drastic improvements. In the previous article, there are 7 Great Tips for Improving Your Sex Life – so hopefully it will be helpful in that department. Let’s focus more now on improving your personal relationships with the way we communicate with others.

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First of all, the term “great sex” is totally subjective. What I considered great sex or a fantastic love to me many years ago does not even come close in measuring up to subsequent sexual experiences. I didn’t know what I was missing as I had nothing better to compare it to at the time. Lucky for me it has become progressively better and I’ve learned so much about my own sexuality and relationships over the years. Also, I have learned a lot of terrific tips from working with many other couples in facilitating relationship counseling.

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Contrast and conflict is an inevitable part of a personal relationship, but it need not be malicious or agonizing. In fact, we all have within us the ability to sustain relationships, even when we deeply disagree. When we reach our breaking point (as we all do), and need to walk away, we can do so in ways that make it more likely that we will come back together.

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Sensual massage is an excellent way to enhance sexual arousal and erotic pleasure. It can be a very enjoyable part of lovemaking as a way to intimately connect and lead into more in-depth foreplay. Massage may be utilized as a sexual therapy, that is, as a means of stimulating the libido – getting you both in the mood and familiar with one another’s bodies and areas of sensitivity.

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Why is it that some women struggle with attaining sexual satisfaction? Why do some women have difficulty achieving orgasm? It has been reported that over 50% of women have some conce s about their sexuality and are not completely satisfied in this area. Most women have a sexual ‘problem’ at some point or other in their lives. Some issues are short-term, and some may be long-term conce s. As women get older, or have been in a relationship for a long time, some women may feel a lack of interest in sex.

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When it comes to getting ‘turned-on’, men are mostly driven by visual and physical stimulation. For women, sex is much more of a mental and emotional experience. Stress is the most common obstruction in being able to feel optimum sexual pleasure. If your mind is full of distracting thoughts or if you’re upset about something, you may be unable to wholly experience all of the magnificent sensations our bodies our capable of. It’s imperative to decrease stress, tension and disturbance before embarking on a sexual journey with or without a partner.

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Women may not be the only ones who experience a “life change” in their bodies and emotions as they become older. Some doctors claim that many of their male patients report similar symptoms that women endure in perimenopause and menopause. Some men experience decreased energy and muscle tone, disinterest in sex, impotence, depression, and fatigue. They also report weight gain, hair loss, memory loss, irritability, hot flashes, night sweats and trouble sleeping.

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A woman’s body can be just as unpredictable as the weather. When it comes to preparing for sexual activity, sometimes women can become naturally lubricated fairly easy – other times it can be quite difficult. It is important to engage in plenty of foreplay to encourage emotional connection and physical arousal. However, there may be times when a woman remains uncomfortably dry despite the best efforts of her partner to stimulate the receptive area. It can be embarrassing, inconvenient, and even painful if you don’t have a ‘back-up’ personal lubricant handy.

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Just like fine wine, women get better with age – and so does the sex. During our younger years, social time is spent either in excessive party-mode or completely focused on academic and personal development. Curiosity about sex is generally fulfilled by amateur experimentation, books, films, and/or random hearsay from others. Our first intimate relationships mainly consist of trying to figure out what we’re doing and becoming comfortable with sharing our bodies with another person.

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For thousands of years, Cordyceps Sinensis (mushroom) has been an integral part of traditional Chinese medicine. Found in the Himalayan regions of Tibet and Nepal, sprouted from caterpillar carcasses, this potent fungus is used to treat numerous health conditions while boosting sexual vigor and overall vitality. As legend would have it, cordyceps was discovered by Himalayan shepherds who observed a drastic increase in liveliness and mating activity among their herds after eating this particular mushroom. Soon emperors were sending for it to boost their own libidos, stamina and energy.

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Every woman deserves to have a great sex life, whether or not she has an accessible partner. If you have a companion who’s willing to embark on this journey of mutual discovery and support, good for you! But if you’re currently alone, don’t let that stop you from enjoying extraordinary pleasure and passionate intimacy, as you have the power and ability to provide that for yourself.

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Whether you’ve been with your partner for years, or are with someone new for the first time, it’s important to express what you want. There are many ways to communicate your desires. We do this through our behaviors, through our actions and reactions, through our body language, or by simply asking. Talking about what we want and what turns us on takes away the guesswork. However some couples prefer the trial-and-error method. What worked with his (or your) previous partnership, may not necessarily work with this one.

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How do we deal with keeping it quiet in the bedroom when we co-habitat with roommates, children or house guests? It can be extremely awkward listening to a family member or friend scream and moan as they enjoy a wild sexual escapade in the next room. It can be even more embarrassing to be that unruly couple producing audible substantiation during sex. Sometimes when we’re caught up in the heat of the moment, it’s hard to keep quiet – especially when we’re used to freely expressing our ecstatic bliss during love-making.

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What is this mysterious ‘G-Spot’ we’ve been hearing about, and how exactly can it help women to experience more pleasure than we’ve ever thought possible? For years, the clitoris was considered the only trigger for the female orgasm, and with that we do celebrate the all-mighty clitoris as the epicenter of sexual bliss. But think of the clitoris as the tip of the iceberg. On the other side of the clitoris, deep within the vaginal chamber is the extraordinary and enigmatic G-spot.

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Women enjoy a variety of qualities from many different men in their lives. We can still enjoy and honor a monogamous relationship; however one man is sometimes not enough to fulfill a woman’s many needs. We are extremely social creatures and experience unique connections with most everyone we meet. In being ultra sensitive and highly intuitive, most women are naturally compassionate and enjoy nurturing others. Our inherent mate al instincts compel us to console and comfort our family and friends including plenty of men who are organically drawn to our kindhearted nature.

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It all seems so cliché… Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukah, Happy New Year… blah, blah, blah. For the majority of Americans, the holidays have become more about consumerism and expectations of material reward rather than realizing the true spirit of what the holidays may represent in our heart and soul. Many of us seem to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of shopping, seeking out all the latest and greatest gadgets that the retail market has to offer.

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New research has found that an algae-derived compound called carrageenan is a powerful weapon against the virus that causes cervical cancer and various sexually-transmitted diseases. It is an extract of red algae – a type of seaweed found in the northern Atlantic Ocean. Carrageenan is purely natural with superior moisturizing properties and many potential health benefits.

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Is initial attraction and sexual arousal really only skin deep? Beyond visual appeal, there’s a subconscious scientific magnetism happening that may affect the physical desirability of those around us. Whether we realize it or not, most women and men are deeply affected by the natural pheromones that we are constantly emitting. Just follow your nose – it always knows!

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This question has been on my mind for quite some time, and I’ve recently asked several men, “What is sexy?” This is sort of like asking, “What is delicious?” or “What is quality?” It is all a matter of personal taste and there is no right or wrong answer. How does a woman exude sexiness to a man? Does she need the physical attributes of a supermodel? Should she wear suggestive or revealing attire? Or perhaps an attractive face with luscious lips and perfect teeth? A particular hairstyle?

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The main difference with regard to emotions between men and women in relationships is in the way we communicate our feelings, wants and needs. I’ve certainly noticed from personal experience, as well as from numerous couples that sometimes men have a very difficult time communicating how they feel. This would seem to indicate emotional disconnect for men. However, in truth, men indeed have deep feelings and very strong emotions – they just have a different way of expressing them.

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Menopause is certainly not a time to pause from men. In fact, we need to look to our male counterparts for support through this difficult physical and emotional process. It’s important for them to at least try and understand what some women go through during this transitional time in their life. Most women experience the typical irregular menstrual periods and hot flashes, which is more of a personal inconvenience.

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When you are “in the groove”, you feel confident, sexy, healthy and strong! Being in the groove is all about attitude, and is really quite noticeable to others. People can sense your energy if you feel secure, positive and optimistic – all incredibly attractive qualities. But what happens when you lose it? – Maybe for a brief time, or eventually giving up and completely letting yourself go? I’ve certainly experience feelings of despondency at times. It’s like a downward spiral that may have been initially triggered by something exte al, yet can allow it to deeply affect our entire outlook.

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Scenario 1: We have just come out from an extraordinary concert that has my heart dancing from the beautiful music. As we walk down the sidewalk, he grasps my shoulders and pushes me to the right, and I get jokingly scolded as he explains that he needs to be between me and traffic. In this moment, he wants to be my protector.

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It’s late in the evening, and I’m walking with two of my lovers as the light, balmy breeze blows my hair. I look up and feel deeply connected to the moon and breathe it into my being. As we walk, I give one of my lovers a gentle hug, and then I lean sweetly into the other with an affectionate nudge. They tell me how gorgeous I look and how sexy I am in my flowy dress that cuts up my leg perfectly and makes me look like a true Goddess. Then my one love stops and caresses the side of my face and leans over to plant a soft kiss on my lips as he puts his hands on my waist.

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My cheeks are flushed, my body is radiating heat, and little moans escape my lips. His breath is heavy on my neck as we dive deeper and deeper into a state of passion. The little moans escaping my lips tell him that I am enjoying his touch and he sporadically shares little insights of enjoyment… “Oh, yes,” “You’re amazing,” “Oh, right there,” as I watch his body tremble over and over again with orgasmic energy. As we continue in our play, he enters a state of deep intensity and shifts my positioning.

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There is nothing like the feeling of having my love deep inside my throat. Though, I have found to my surprise that many women despise orally pleasuring their man. Often women see this act as a major turn off or a chore, and engage in it only as a sense of obligation when they want their own oral sex and so will simply “deal with it.”

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We learn early on that that sex can lead to unwanted pregnancies and STD/STIs. Schools do a wonderful job at scaring us from having sex when we’re younger by showing us images of genitals infected with diseases, the negative effects of an unwanted pregnancy, and the staggering statistics about both. I am an advocate for engaging in safe sexual practices and think it’s essential in a healthy adult relationship and as a responsible individual. One surefire way to kill any sex life or relationship is to get an incurable STD.

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I receive the text message long before we are even supposed to meet… he is excited to see me and thinking about the upcoming meeting. I’m getting turned on mentally in that moment, and slowly, anticipation starts to build. By the time I arrive at our meeting place I have passed arousal and made it to a sense of nervousness. I barely know this man, and in the past we have only shared a few hot kisses. We begin the evening with a luxurious glass of wine, sitting on the floor and casually talking about our days.

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When I get asked what I do for a living and say that I am a Tantric Practitioner/Sex Coach, I typically get one of two reactions: 1) A look of complete horror as if I’ve just killed a small child, or 2) A look of curiosity, and the person will begin asking me questions in a very hushed voice. Many times after a few questions I will hear something along the lines of, “Oh, I have a great sex life.

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I have spent the last two weeks in a pile of books. I have read books on sex, on Tantra, on advanced energy techniques, on the human body, on spirit, etc. Honestly, my brain feels like it’s going to explode!

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As I sit here in my car in the hot Texas summer, I have a sense of peace in my heart. I look out the car window and am amazed at the beautiful green trees that stand resilient against the beating heat. If you look hard enough you can see a pure white aura glowing from their steady statures. Around is a dazzling blue cornflower blue sky with white puffy clouds that make me want to dive into their marshmallow-ness. Even the soft breeze that blows through my window and dance across my skin takes strands of my hair off on a miniature dance.

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My pussy speaks to me. It has a voice. At times in my life this voice has been almost inaudible while at other times it has been loud and robust. Years ago I worked very hard to silence this part of me that was connected on a soul level. The connection felt too much, too intense, and too open. Through my awakening to different sexuality practices I have reconnected with that primal area. However, despite any attempts to ever silence my pussy it continues to speak to me whether I am listening or not, and when I am not listening my pussy finds a way to make me pay attention!

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For women, sex is much more than just a mechanical biological activity. We want an extraordinary holistic experience with an attentive, perceptive and expressive partner who is willing to delve into the depths of our soul, sharing absolute bliss in divine union. Is that too much to ask?

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It was always one of the more depressing aspects of aging, at least to me... an inevitable loss of "manliness" and potency as one gets older. Well the good news is, a decrease in testosterone levels is NOT something that has to be accepted as you age. Studies have shown that it is deteriorating health conditions, and not age itself, that can cause a reduction in testosterone levels, and that men in overall good health do not experience this decrease.

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Psychological ED hits men of all ages, young and old. In younger men, psychological ED generally hits due to the newness of sex... it is all so overwhelmingly exciting, combined with the unfair pressure of being expected to know what they are doing (when deep down they know they are inexperienced). In middle aged men, it may come after a divorce. A man having had sex with the same woman for years, may have split apart from her, and now experiences self-doubt, guilt, fear over the future with a new lover... and sex with someone new just feels so foreign.

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The negative side effects associated with Sildenafil Citrate (Viagra) necessitated the search for an alte ate medicine and the experiments confirmed the use of natural vitamins to cure erectile dysfunction as a trusted way out. Covering nutritional deficiencies improves overall physical health along with the ability to have satisfactory sexual intercourse. Despite claims to the contrary, no dug available in the market can enhance the male sexual ability on permanent basis. A regular use of these drugs is a major cause of visual impairment, irregular heart beat, deafness, headache and nausea.

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Are you stuck with your current sexual responses and abilities? Could you learn to come and come, and come some more? Are such things really possible for anyone? They are, and they’re possible for you! You watch as huge waves of orgasmic pleasure flow through her body and burst out in ...

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POWERPOINT SLIDES It seems that PowerPoint has become the standard when presenting, especially in the corporate world. This despite the fact that most slides are as boring as the screen they’re displayed on, with way too much information. No wonder there’s a collective sigh in the audience when someone reaches for their wireless presenter. Here’s why I prefer a good old fashioned flip-chart instead. 1. IT INCLUDES THE AUDIENCE

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There are many ways to sink a presentation: ** Standing with your back to the audience ** Droning on and on and on (and on) ** Waffling and rambling ** Having information-overload slides ** Being arrogant and superior ** Moving around like a tennis ball at Wimbledon These can all detract from your message, but none of them come close to the real presentation killer, and here it is. HAVING A MONOLOGUE Being the only one that speaks during your presentation is like having friends over for dinner and not allowing them to say anything.

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I recently did a poll where I asked participants which speaker/presenter behaviours they find most annoying or off-putting. Here’s what they said: 1. Talking for long periods of time without a break or engaging the audience. 2. Talking too fast. 3. Using language (concepts. acronyms etc.) that hasn’t been explained. 4. Say “uhmm” a lot. 5. Read their presentation or slides. 6. Focusing too much on and giving irrelevant detail about themselves. 7. Not engaging the audience and not including everyone at the beginning.

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THE TREND White boards are popular among presenters, especially for corporate presentations. Here’s why I prefer to avoid them and use a flip-chart instead (also read here why I avoid PowerPoint: https://fallinlovewithpresenting.com/why-i-avoid-whiteboards-during-presentations/). DELETING YOUR CONTENT WITH A BRUSH STROKE There is something about simply wiping clean what you’ve put on a white board that renders it unimportant.

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When you attend a public speaking course, make sure they’ve got this covered. There are many courses out there. Based on my own experience of attending some of these and what others tell me, some very damaging teaching styles are sometimes used, like: Videos of participants presenting are shown to the entire class and then all the ‘mistakes’ are pointed out (sometimes very unskilfully). Participants are put on the spot to ‘perform’ in front of the whole class. When they freeze up they are ‘forced’ to blunder their way through it.

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Let’s Talk Pornography Question: I discovered that my husband is secretly using pornography on a regular basis. At the same time our sex life is pretty poor. What can I do? Answer: Over the last decade the impact of pornography on intimate relationships has become a fairly common issue ...

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I am often asked how to go about discussing fantasies with a partner. Aside from clarifying rules and coming up with safewords, how do you even get the conversation started? The simple answer is finding your courage and making a leap of faith that the world won't end if you tell your lover ...

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Once you've figured out what you want out of life, how can you get it? That's the million-dollar question, isn't it? It's also the really meaty part of the coaching process - coming up with a game plan to get you the pay raise, the fantastic career, the sexy body, the smokin' hot love life.n ...

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Sometimes life just throws things at you, seemingly coincidentally, but with too much of a smack in the face to ignore. In the last week a song I haven't heard in years came up on a playlist - "21 Things I Want In A Lover," by Alanis Morissette - and then when I was moving around some old files ...

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I keep talking about being a Wanton Hussy - but what on earth do I mean? Why choose a pair of words with such convoluted histories, with shades of prostitution and sex-negativity, which echo thousands of years of virgin/whore opposition? Because I love words. And while I won't say that I'm ...

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The big theme this month seems to be communication - both in my own relationship and for my clients. Why is communication so difficult? Whether it's with our families or our coworkers or our lovers, intentional discussions can be daunting. I want you to know that it's all right if you ...

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We all tend to live in our heads a bit too much, especially those of us who are thinkers, writers, computer techs, and other people who spend a lot of time in front of computer monitors. I've noticed that for me, if I don't make a conscious effort to come back into my body, I can get pretty ...

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February's message - in fact, the message for all of 2009 - is about finding your yumminess. Take the time to do the things that make you happy! What could you to do treat yourself better, to romance yourself, to woo yourself? (Isn't that a great word? Woo!) You deserve to be happy, to meet ...

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Sometimes, when you've been with your partner for a long time, the shine kind of wears off of your relationship. In fact, I might go so far as to say "always" rather than "sometimes" - shine gets a lot of its sparkle from the newness of discovering one another. Once you know each other it can ...

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Sometimes relationships get a little bit predictable, right? You know each other, you love each other, it seems like you've been together forever - or even longer. You have great sex, but sometimes it gets a little routine. And routine? Well, it's boring. It can be difficult to work up much ...

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If you’ve ever wondered what the real difference is between that incredibly hot, well-dressed, popular woman with the big nose that everyone wants to go to bed with and the far-more-beautiful girl hiding in the corner, I have the answer: body image. What we perceive as attractiveness is often ...

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“How did a nice girl like you start writing smut?” If I had a dollar for every time I’ve been asked that question... Well, let’s just say it’s a popular one, especially when the subject comes up at parties. Instead of answering directly though, I like to take a step back. See, I’ve been ...

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Eggnog and glitter, champagne and faux fur. Parties scheduled for every Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and Monday. Ice sickles, satin ribbons, candles, and black leather take on new possibilities in your deviant little mind. Mistletoe seems like the best invention Mother Nature ever came up with. ...

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Do you want your next year to include sexual fulfillment? Do you want to improve communication, change your body image, and make more time for fun? What if you could create or welcome into your life a new relationship reality? The Winter Solstice, the time when the new Sun is born, is an ...

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"If you were to define love, the only word big enough to engulf it all would be "life". Love is life in all it’s aspects. And it you miss love, you miss life. Please don’t." Leo Buscalia The word "presence" is not a word that’s commonly used in discussions on love. However, there ...

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Sexual Fantasies: Who doesn’t have them? But how many people can be honest and open about them? Well that’s a different matter. And what difference will it make if we are open or secret about them? These are all more important questions than you might think. Fantasies can greatly enhance our ...

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Sexual Fantasies: Who doesn’t have them? But how many people can be honest and open about them? Well that’s a different matter. And what difference will it make if we are open or secret about them? These are all more important questions than you might think. Fantasies can greatly enhance our ...

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How honest can we be in relationships? This is a common conce among couples striving for intimate relationships. Couples often discuss the importance of being honest and truthful within their relationships. A common question I’m asked is: “Should I tell my partner about a sexual affair”. ...

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How to Make First Sex Fabulous Sex By Al Link and Pala Copeland - 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra The heat is on. You can literally feel it arcing between you. Whether it’s an enticing stranger you’ve just met or a special someone you’ve been slowly getting to know, you’re aware that now is the time to take your connection to the physical level. You can sense that she’s about ready to hop into bed and you damn well know that you are.

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The Tantra Massage is a method developed by Andro Andreas Rothe, the founder of the first German Tantra institute (Diamond Lotus Tantra Lounge, in Berlin since 1977). In an integrative way it combines well-founded massage techniques from various schools of massage with elements from ...

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What is TANTRA ? n "If you add the suffix "tra" (which expresses the instrumental) to the linguistic root "ta " (pull out, spread out), one indeed gets the word "Tantra" - literally the instrument to expand your consciousness in order to provide the basis for reaching spiritual enlightenment, ...

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Hypnosis to help you enjoy the process of discovering and preparing meals to support your health goals. Positive feelings of enthusiasm, enjoyment and satisfaction are connected to the process of discovering, and preparing healthy meals. Includes instructions for mindful eating and positive self talk.

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Holistic massage for women, men and couples. We specialize in yoni-, lingam and prostate-massage.

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The Buehler Institute provides sex therapy by licensed and supervised psychotherapists. Director Dr. Stephanie Buehler and her team help men, women, and couples experience the expression of intimacy and sexuality.

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Knowing what genital warts and other STD's look like and what they can do to you is an important step in being a responsible adult.

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Cutting Edge Tantra Program promoting, tantra massage, health, wellness, spirituality, tantra retreats, as an easily accessible Sexual Self Development Program for men, women and couples. Offering tantra massage, tantra sessions, tantra workshops, tantra retreats and tantra study programs

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It is our mission to provide you with the tools and information for a happy and fulfilling life journey.

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Website for therapy and coaching services for adults

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Sensual Massage Therapyrnthe largest and most successful institute for Original Tantric Massage in Germany, we are located in Cologne (Koeln) between Amsterdam and Frankfurt - the highlight for your European vacation

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