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ARTArticle*** Getting Love, Being LovingTake a moment right now to think about your real intention when it comes to love:
Is it most important to you to get someone to love you - to get love?
Is it more important to you to be a loving person - to give love to yourself and others?At any moment, you have one of these two intentions, ...ARTArticle*** Happiness and Financial Success - Which Comes First?Which statement do you believe is the most true?
Happiness brings you financial successFinancial success brings you happinessYou might be surprised to learn that research suggests the first statement to be the most true.
Again, which statement to you believe is the most true?
Happiness is ...ARTArticle*** Love Asks for Nothing"We 'love' another in order to get something ourselves….There can be no greater mistake than that, for love is incapable of asking for anything." -- A Course in Miraclesnn"Love is incapable of asking for anything." Wow! Take a moment to think about that ...ARTArticle*** Love: Is This Romance or is This Friendship?James, in his middle 30s, was ready to meet his life partner, get married and have children. After dating many women, he met Cindy.
"She is really beautiful, although I'm not sure she's my type. But I think she is perfect for me. We have the same interests, the same values, we go to the ...ARTArticle*** Real Love: What is Real Love?Most people would love to have "real love," yet often they have no idea what real love is. Take a moment to think about how you would define real love.
Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color - you have to feel it know what it is. ...ARTArticle*** Relationships: The Dance of Victims and Perpetrators"He is always blaming me for the bad things that happen in his life, and then he tells me it's my controlling him that is making him so angry. He yells at me and puts me down rather than deal with his own feelings. How can I get him to see that he is the one trying to control me? How can I ...ARTArticle*** Speaking Your Truth Without Blame or JudgmentHow often have you become irritated or angry, given yourself up, started to argue or debate, teach or explain, or withdrew when someone was treating you badly - ordering you around, judging you, blaming you, or dumping their complaints or negativity on you? How often have you behaved in any of ...ARTArticle*** The Meaning of LifeSome say that the purpose of life is to seek happiness.
Is happiness the purpose, or is happiness the result of another purpose? Is happiness the meaning of life, or is happiness the result of discovering what has heart and meaning for you?
There is not one right answer to this question. The ...ARTArticle*** The Power of Positive Thinking - Does it Work to Manifest?I was recently at home of a friend's daughter and she had affirmations taped on the walls everywhere.
"Are these helpful to you?" I asked.
"Not really," she answered. "I do them all the time but they don't seem to be doing anything. I've read about the law of ...ARTArticle***7 Rules for Saving Your MarriageIs your marriage in trouble?
The first question you need to ask yourself is: "Do I want to save this marriage or do I want to leave it?" If the answer is that you want to save it, then this article is for you.
Following are 7 rules or choices that you can make to completely change the course ...ARTArticle***Are You Emotionally Dependent?Discover the difference between needs coming from emotional dependency and authentic needs that we have within a relationship.
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Every few weeks I do a free webinar. People can listen on their computers or on the phone; they can write in asking questions or they can ask me directly on the phone. Here is one of the questions a woman – I will call her Susan - asked in a webinar on emotional dependency:ARTArticle***Caring: For Outcomes or for JoyMany people have the ability to truly care and receive joy when caring from the heart. Yet even very caring people sometimes find themselves using caring as a form of control.
Take a moment right now to think about a situation today in which you were caring - at home, at work, with a friend, ...ARTArticle***Conflict: Why Do You Argue, Why Do You Fight in Conflict?Think about the last time you had a conflict with someone and you argued - with your partner, your friend, your parent, your child, or someone else in your life.
What did you argue about, and why did you spend your energy arguing or fighting?
Reasons for Arguing and Fighting
Here are some of ...ARTArticle***Connecting With Loved OnesAs social beings, our desire for connection is a deep and powerful force within us. Babies who do not experience connection with a caregiver do not thrive or may even die. Deep connection with another is one of the greatest joys in life.
Yet for many people, this deep and joyous connection ...ARTArticle***Fear of Failure: What Does Failure Mean to You?What do you believe about failure?
The ego wounded part of ourselves, the left-brain part of ourselves that has been programmed with many false beliefs, often believes that:
"If I fail, I am a failure."
"If I fail, I am stupid."
"If I fail, no one will like me or value me."
"If I fail, then ...ARTArticle***He's Probably Not Emotionally Unavailable After All: Beware Of MislabelingFreedom, separation, aggression, conquest, goal seeking and sex are the basic nature of testosterone. You’ve seen how many wars and conquests have been waged by men since the beginning of time. That’s the side effect of testosterone.
It has also contributed to so much magnificence in the world: invention, creation, technology and innovation.
Men are programmed and conditioned to constantly seek achievements and success. That’s their raison d’etre, like the birds’ nature is to fly and the fish’s is to breath in the water. Embrace it instead of faulting them for it.ARTArticle***Health and Nutrition: Feeling the Effects of FoodIf you are a junk food junkie or you often don't eat well and are unconce
ed with health and nutrition, why is this? Everyday we read about or see on TV how sugar, soft drinks, many kinds of fats, fried foods, factory farmed foods, devitalized, packaged and processed food, pesticide laden food, ...ARTArticle***I'm Neat, He's Messy--What Can I Do?________________________________________
Is your partner's messiness driving you crazy? Discover how to resolve this issue in your relationship.
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When we meet and fall in love with someone, we often don't think about what might seem like minor differences, which can later turn into major conflicts. One of these differences that frequently occurs with my clients is neatness vs. messiness.
Vanessa, in one of our Skype sessions, said:ARTArticle***Love: Falling in Love With Your Spouse - AgainBobbie and Mac sought me out for couples counseling because they were on the verge of divorce - after 25 years of marriage. Both had years of counseling, yet they could not find their way through their relationship problems.
Bobbie described her experience of their relationship:
"I love Mac ...ARTArticle***Managing Expectations Goes A Long Way In Keeping Your Man Attracted To YouMen have a love-hate relationship with their mothers. They love their moms to death, yet they loath the feeling of being mothered (i.e. being told what to do/not to do). Now they are adults and live on their own, they don't need another woman -and much younger at that- replacing their mother's role. That is one of the main reasons why many men are gun shy about relationship. They don't want someone to check in with every time they do something. It's an obligation that hampers with their freedom that they hold sacred.ARTArticle***Relationships: Empathy Vs. Responsibility for FeelingsWilliam grew up with a mother who was depressed much of her life. As the oldest of three children with a father who was not around much, William took on a lot of responsibility for his mother's wellbeing. He grew up as a kind and caring man, believing that he was responsible for another's ...ARTArticle***Relationships: Why Do You Attack and Blame?"A woman who I was dating and who I really liked ended our relationship and is dating someone else. I see her all the time at the market and I feel like yelling at her."
"I keep vowing not to, but I keep getting really angry at my husband when he is distant."
"I lost my temper with my ...ARTArticle***Verbal Abuse, Emotional Abuse - Overt And CovertOur society is filled with verbal and emotional abuse, from radio and TV commentators and presidential candidates, to parents, educators, employers and managers. As Patricia Evans states in "The Verbally Abusive Relationship", the old adage, "Sticks and stones can break my bones but words will ...ARTArticle***Why Do You Blame?Take a moment to think about who you blame for your feelings of hurt, anger, resentment, aloneness, emptiness, loneliness, helplessness, inadequacy, shame, depression, anxiety, fear, and so on. What is really going on inside when you blame someone else for your feelings?
Many people have a ...ARTArticle***Why Less Is More In Dating Emotionally Unavailable MenThe key of dating an emotionally unavailable man who wants to take things slow is to let him set the pace. Expect that he will go hot and cold. Mirror him in everything he does. When he's hot, reciprocate that, this is your time to establish bonding. When he's cold, also keep a distance. Don't try to force yourself unto him asking for attention and affection. He will only withdraw further.
Trust His Actions, Why Words Don't Mean So Much For A Man.ARTArticle***Why Many Women Don't Think About SexAre you a woman who rarely or never thinks about sex? Have you believed that was something wrong with you?
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e wrote the following to me:ARTArticle*Relationships: Letting Go Of Problem Solving"We never seem to be able to solve any problems," Kaylee told me in a phone session. "Every time we sit down to solve a problem, we end up fighting. It doesn't really matter what it is about - it always ends up the same. Is this normal? Aren't couples supposed to be able to solve ...ARTArticle10 Keys to Inner Peace and JoyInner peace and joy are spiritual gifts. The gifts of Spirit enter the heart when we make the choices we need to make to be available to them. What are these choices?
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Peace and joy exist in this present moment - not in the past or future. If you are in your left-brain ego programmed ...ARTArticle3 Steps to Light Up Your Love LifeAgree to agree! We have all heard the saying that if you want to have a happy, harmonious relationship, you sometimes have to agree to disagree. Standing your ground and demanding that you're right may feel all righteous and satisfying, but it's a sure-fire way to eliminate intimacy. Let's go a ...ARTArticle4 Reasons Why You May Not Be Attracting Great Men Into Your LifeHow often have you heard a single women state, with a sigh, that all the good men are taken? Hmm... is that really true? If you're attracting less than great men into your life, it's very likely that it’s got more to do with you than them. Here are four reasons that may be true for ...