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Healing a Broken Heart

There is no such thing as a broken heart-only a heart that is learning to love more and better. Realizing that your heart isn't damaged is a relief. But when you're desperately trying to let go of a former mate, and you're in emotional agony, this bit of wisdom is cold comfort. Many say they can feel a physical aching in the chest that can last for weeks and even months. An inability to hear love songs on the radio without crying is common. At worst, those struggling through

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Be Careful of Your Thoughts

"Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character. Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny." Author unknown I've had this poem hanging in my office for years.

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How to Get Over Your Divorce in One Day

Do you know that you can come out of the pain, and suffering from divorce in just one day? nn When you start taking control of your healing, by setting yourself a process for recovery, you will come out of the immobilizing pain immediately. nn Complete emotional healing takes a series of steps, but nobody has taught us what those steps are and how to implement them in our lives. Once we know that there is a short cut to recovery and that we can use it, we will accelerate the

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21 Ways to Reward Yourself Without Food

It’s important to reward yourself for your accomplishments during your weight loss jou ey. Reward yourself for behavioral changes as well as physical. After all the key to maintain your weight loss depends on the behavioral changes you’ve made along the way. Your rewards need to be non-food ...

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Divorce Decision: Things To Consider When Making A Decision About Divorce

When making a divorce decision, there are quite a few things that you should consider. Too often people find themselves unable to clearly identify what they need to think about when making a divorce decision which leads to further indecision and frustration. When making a serious divorce decision, having an open mind and listing the things that will figure into your decision about divorce, will help make the process a little simpler for you.nnThe things to consider when decid

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An Unhappy Marriage: How to Know When It's Really Over

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who feel unhappy in their marriage. But the real question many of them are asking themselves is, how do I know when my marriage is really over? Is it when your spouse says, "I don't love you anymore?" Is it after an affair takes place? How do you REALLY ...It's a fact. There are a lot of people who feel unhappy in their marriage. But the real question many of them are asking themselves is, how do I know when my marriage is really over? I

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How to Maintain a Positive Attitude When Someone Lashes Out at You in Anger

When someone lashes out at you in anger what does it really mean? People who are judgmental and harsh towards others usually disapprove of something within themselves. It could be that they see a trait in you that they desire for themselves or one that they dislike about themselves. An important thing to remember when someone disapproves of you – is that it is not you. They are projecting their perceived lack onto you – so you see, it’s really all about them. The same is true when you disapprove of someone else.

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"Searching for Dimes" Tip for the Day "Find a Reason to Believe"

The Boss sings about it. Self help gurus write about it. Setting goals is the ideal way to live your best life and most of my clients get that. However, how do you get to the point where you get that gusto to want to be a goal setting machine? The bottom line is, exactly how do you find reasons to believe when most of what is going on in your life causes nothing short of disbelief? I have to confess, over the last few months or so, I have become very superstitious.

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"Does Living In A Loveless Marriage Necessarily Mean That You Should Get A Divorce?"

Being in a loveless marriage is a frustrating predicament, but it may not necessarily mean that a divorce is eminent. Solving the quandary of a loveless marriage requires self-reflection to assess the situation, courage to try to create a team effort for the best decision with your spouse, and gumption to face the reality that a divorce may be the best solution for the loveless marriage. But, before you jump right to the easy way out and decide on divorce, you should got th

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Top 10 Characteristics of a Successful Entrepreneur

A successful entrepreneur has mastered the art of a balanced life. They take the time to care for their own personal health and maintain meaningful relationships with their loved ones. They are driven by their passion to serve others and to utilize their creativity. What makes a successful entrepreneur? Top 10 Characteristics of a Successful Entrepreneur Level Headed

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When Can Your Ex Take You Back To Court?

Just because your court date is over and your divorce/child custody case is final does not mean that you may never have to go back to court and fight another battle. You and/or your ex can file for amendments to your final decree at any time. Unfortunately, this may also mean more court costs and legal expenses.

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Women and Divorce: How Women Should Protect Themselves Financially Regarding Divorce

Women who believe a divorce is a possibility or who think that their husband will be asking about getting a divorce at some point should put their emotions aside and plan "just in case" their intuition is correct that a divorce may be coming in the near future. If women who believe that the ...Women who believe a divorce is a possibility or who think that their husband will be asking about getting a divorce at some point should put their emotions aside and plan "just in case"

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Going Through a Difficult Divorce?

Going through a difficult divorce? Disagreeing with your ex about child custody and visitation? Dealing with domestic violence? Ending a domestic partnership? Fighting over child support or spousal support? If you are going through any type of family law litigation, you may feel stressed, anxious or even scared. It is important that you look out for your overall well being during this time in your life. It is critical that you find an atto ey you feel comfortable with and trust to help you get through your legal matter.

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Top 10 Habits of Happy People

Happy people have a different way of thinking and doing things. They maintain a positive attitude about people, things and life in general. They interpret the world that they live in differently than the average person. Happy people generally have the following habits that express their values and beliefs ... 1. Love Self Be your own best friend. It sounds simple and like a "no-brainer" but learning to truly love yourself can be a challenge. It's absolutely the most essential step in being a happy person.

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Divorce is Stressful and Creates a Temporary Feeling of Loss. However, the Help of the Right Professionals Alleviates Unnecessary Stress.

A divorce is a life-changing event. Accordingly, a divorce affects a person's emotional well-being and the process may feel stressful. Even when a person knows a divorce was inevitable and necessary, there still may be a feeling of loss; therefore there is a natural temporary mou ing process. This makes even basic decisions feel difficult and therefore making major decisions at this time on your own can be dangerous. A divorce also completely affects one's financial situation. Planning for one's future becomes even more important because of the changes a divorce creates.

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Visualize Yourself Thin

Experts agree that visualizing is one of the key factors in obtaining your goals - including weight loss. Is it really as easy it sounds? Visualizing takes practice - just like anything else in life. It may be hard to picture yourself 50 pounds lighter - especially if it's been years since you've been at your ideal weight (if ever). When you visualize it's important that you believe you can achieve what you're visualizing. Visualization isn't dreaming and hoping.

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"My Wife's Separate Vacation Spells the Beginning of the End of Our Relationship"

Separate vacations may, indeed, signify the beginning of the end of your relationship - or serve as a boost to its quality and durability. It all depends on several factors: 1. Topical vs. recreational vacations If your wife is addicted to chess and you can't stand the game, she has the right to travel to attend a tou ament in another city. If you are an expert skier and your spouse prefers more sedentary pursuits, why drag her along to your ski resort? Separate vacations t

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Surviving Divorce: What To Think About To Ensure Surviving Divorce

Surviving divorce can be a valid fear if you're contemplating getting a divorce. In order to ensure surviving divorce, you should first understand that your divorce decision shouldn't be taken lightly. Ensuring that you'll be surviving divorce can be comforting and can influence your path as you consider your reasons for divorce and take the emotional plunge into actually going through with it. Its tough enough to think about how your immediate life will be impacted by getti

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How to Maintain Job Performance During the Divorce Process

During the time of a divorce, individuals are often overwhelmed due to the many stressors. Some stressors may be the fact that your spouse wants a divorce, to decisions that need to be made but the uncertainty of how to answer them. Stress comes from the realization that even though your personal life is very overwhelming, your life continues and you must continue to function in daily life.r

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Three Faces of Low Self -Esteem

It is believed that direct or indirect messages that we received from our parents may contribute to the development of our feelings. As children we are often labeled in our family. We might be identified as smart, funny, and sensitive, lazy or superior – just to name a few. As we grow we either accept or doubt our parents perceptions of us thus creating self-esteem issues. Here are three common faces of low self-esteem: The Imposter: This person seems to be happy and successful to the outside world. However, he or she is engulfed with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

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Keep Your Friends and Family Out of Your Business

Involving third parties in relationship matters doesn’t solve your problem, it compounds the issue. If you discuss your private affairs in public, it is going to backfire. Managing relationships by committee condemns them to a premature death. The best approach is to allow time, patience and the human conscience a moment to work. Besides, only you and the person that’s involved posses the ability to actually solve your problem. Once you put people in your business, you never get them out. It’s human nature for people to hold on to negative preconceptions about people.

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Top Ten Benefits of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking is not the phony-baloney it was once believed to be. Numerous studies over recent years have shown that optimistic thinking leads to a positive attitude. People with positive attitudes live longer happier healthier lives. 1. Thinking positive is a choice. With practice it becomes a habit that will reap the following benefits: 2. Feel Better - When you're positive you'll feel better about yourself and life in general. It's impossible to feel positive and negative at the same time - so the more positive you are, the more positive feelings will come.

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Reasons For Divorce; What Constitutes Viable Reasons For Thinking About Or Wanting A Divorce?

According to the Center for Disease Control's National Vital Statistics Report of 2002, 50% of first marriages ended in divorce and 60% of remarriages end in divorce. But, the Center for Disease Control also found that 96% of Americans express a personal desire for marriage, and almost three-quarters of Americans believe marriage is a life long commitment. I imagine that there are somewhat similar statistics worldwide. With these kinds of statistics, its easy to see how comp

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“Shifting Gears” – Transition Tip #5 Believing that You Can Change Your Life is the First Step to Changing It.

As I was driving in my car yesterday, I was thinking about “themes” and life lessons that keep reoccurring in my every day life. It seems that each week, there is some kind of thread of commonality that manifests and keeps trying to be recognized – with my clients, my colleagues, my kids, my life. The theme/word/life lesson that has been coming up over and over again is “shift”. We shift gears, we shift in our seats when we are nervous, we look shifty when we lie; at one time or another, we are all “shifters” (no pun intended).

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Forgive Me, Forgive Me Not. Tip for the Day - Practice the Art of Self Forgiveness.

I took a poll the other day when I was teaching my class at a local community college. I asked the students what they thought in regards to the “act of forgiveness.” Since we are reading the book Tuesdays with Morrie, one of the main themes in this life lesson memoir is “forgive everybody everything.” As you can surmise, there were a mix of opinions as to whether they believe the old adage “forgive and forget.” However, they all seemed to universally agree that they did see Morrie’s point. Sure, forgiving others is an important part of moving on with your life.

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Divorce Recovery for Men – Overcome Depression And Anger

What makes it difficult for us men to recover from a divorce is an unpleasant feeling of anger. This feeling may be destructive yet it is natural. It is one of the stages of grief and is a phase you may find hard to overcome. In divorce, it is not as easy as getting rid of self-pity and recover in an instant. You may get stuck in a cycle or an unending feeling of bitterness and animosity. If you have been through a divorced relationship you could relate to how hard it is to b

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How to Wake Up Thin

Does it feel like you just woke up one morning with all those extra pounds? You went to sleep and woke up much heavier than you ever thought you would be. You hardly notice yourself in the mirror anymore. When did that double chin creep up on you? Has your face always been so round? Oh my gosh what happened to your waist? Is it even still there? Hurry, hurry go back to sleep so you can wake up thin. For most overweight people this is just what it feels like happened. In reality it really took months and years for you to pack on those pounds.

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7 Traits of Healthy Self-Esteem

Keep in mind that having a healthy self-esteem does not mean conceit. It also does not mean that you never doubt or have low points in your life. Here are 7 common traits of people that have a healthy level of self-esteem …. Confident A person with healthy self esteem is confident in the choices they make. They don’t look to others to make decisions for them. They do not need the approval of others to feel good about themselves. Responsibler

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Making Love Work

Managing conflict is the foundation of a lasting relationship. There were many implications that support the hypothesis that positive affect and de-escalation are predictive of positive outcomes in any relationship, including marriage. To the extent that positive affect and de-escalation involves the physiological soothing of the man either by his partner or by himself. In other words, men must take responsibility for their contribution to the state of a relationships condition. There were many components that contributed to failing and failed relationships.

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10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem

Having a High Self-Esteem is a skill that anyone can learn. Decide what you can and can't control. Change and act on the things that are in your control and release the things that are out of your control. "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning ... but anyone can start today and make a new ending" Maria Robinson 1. Accept Responsibility Your life is up to you. The sooner you accept responsibility for your feelings and your actions - the happier you will be. You may not be able to control a situation - but you can always control your response to it. 2.

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There Are Two Sides To Every Story. Let Yours Be The Positive Side.

Divorce is one of the hardest things a person can go through so it’s really easy to push the blame on someone else for why you are going through it in the first place. People always want to deliver a smart alec answer when they are asked why they got divorced – at least I did - especially if the divorce wasn’t their fault. A friend of mine divorced her husband because she found out he preferred batting for the other team. Now that was an entertaining story of how she found out that little tidbit of information.

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Even the best relationships come to an end!

Chances are, that relationship you’re ending has been knocking at death’s door for quite some time now or should never have begun to start with. The handwriting has been on the wall but you didn’t have the courage to say that it’srnover. Bad advice from your peers, relatives and so-called friends is more than likely all, or at least part, of the reason you haven’t had the courage to let go and get on with your life. Your family and friends may have no clue of the stress and extreme pain you suffer on a daily basis or they may not know any different themselves.

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Get Over Being Dumped - 7 Helpful Guides Towards Successful Moving On

To get over being dumped is a challenge for you! You will have the biggest fight with your EMOTION, so be ready. It might be too painful for you to recover easily especially on facing the fact that you're done and it's over.You always suffer from the pain he caused you, you feel worthless and you cry for it over and over again. If you keep on crying and crying and dwell so much in pain, moving on will never be possible. You feel hurt and pain, and i understand such feeling, b

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How to Get Going with Personal Development After a Divorce

Throughout life there is always times when you will want to improve, strive for a bit more, and concentrating on your own personal development will help you attain those goals. This is especially valuable after a divorce. It is critical to take time to grieve your divorce, but then there comes a time when you know it is time to look inside yourself and decide what the next chapter in your life will be. This is sometimes challenging, but the advice in this article will provide excellent insight to start you down your new path.

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Tips On How To Restore A Relationship

Attaining your goal in the game of love entails a great deal of dedication, energy, and hard work. Because so much effort is necessary, failing this game is undoubtedly upsetting. For this reason you'll find plenty of suggestions and guidance on how to fix your relationship. For a great article, have a look at How You Can Mend A Relationship rnTake a look thoroughly to see if perhaps this is actually worth it before you decide to make so much effort to know how you can repair

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Don’t Do These 13 Things When Co-Parenting

Co-parenting is not a laughing matter when you are divorced. What I find to be amazing is that when you were married, you agreed on how to parent your children, but now that you are divorced, everything is a battle. And, co-parenting is hard work. Throw in bitte ess, anger and general displeasure and it can be a recipe for disaster, so following is a list of things you should NOT do when co-parenting. 1. Don’t respond to emails from your ex. Ignore the fact that the information that is being sent to you is probably fairly important, and just hit delete.

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The First Step to Understanding the Law of Attraction

The simplest way to understand what The Law of Attraction is that your thoughts create your reality. Everything you are right now is based on your thoughts in the past. The first step to making the Law of Attraction work in your life is to understand your thought patterns. Both your conscious mind and subconscious are constantly busy with thought. It's believed that the average person has about 50,000 thoughts per day. That equals 35 thoughts per minute! It would be impossible for you to monitor each and every thought you have.

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"Living Your Authentic Life" Who's Life Are You Living? Transition Tip # 2 - Be The You That You Were Meant To Be

We all hear this phrase. Live your authentic life. Whether it ’s on the latest self help blog or you happened to be tuned in to Dr. Phil, this seems to be the phrase that can stop us personal development junkies in our tracks. What, exactly, does this mean? If you aren’t living your “authentic life” right now, who is? Last night I had a great discussion with my good friend about this very subject. I said my goal for 2009 was to do just this – live authentically.

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Sexless Marriage : Does Your Sexless Marriage Have You Thinking About Divorce?

If you are in a sexless marriage and are unhappy because of it, don't worry, it isn't unrecoverable but it is serious cause for concern. You may even be thinking that you need a divorce because of your sexless marriage, that's only natural. But, in order to really decide what to do, some thinking needs to be done so you feel good about your decision, regardless if you stay married or not. Being stuck in a sexless marriage can have you feeling a wide range of feelings from lo

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How to be More Self-Confident

Have you ever wondered how to be more self confident? What is it that you are looking for when you think of self-confidence? To be more self confident the first thing you must do is become your own best friend. You have unique talents and gifts that were given ONLY to you. Isn’t that wonderful! Every single person that is living, has ever lived and will live are all different. Can you imagine how boring the world would be if we were all the same? Who would be there to guide us? Who would be there for us to teach?

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Five Things to Avoid to Win Her Love Back

Soon after finding yourself dumped, it could be harder for many men to win their exes back. They can not endure the hurt that they are dealing with after being so terribly damaged. Some men around simply want their girlfriends back because they really want to confirm it to themselves and to the entire world that they are still wanted. These guys are very superficial more often than not. Still there are some excellent guys these days also, who are really decent people who basi

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Divorce Is Expensive! Don't Spend More Than You Have To.

Anyone who has been through a divorce can probably tell you the horror stories of how much money they spent just getting divorced. With my divorce, let’s just say that with the amount I spent I could have supported a large village in Africa for a year. At the time, I was willing to pay just about any amount of money to be divorced .

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5 Tricks to Beat Your Sweet Tooth Cravings

It's natural for us to have cravings. It's part of our body's way of telling us what it needs. For instance if you are low in iron you might crave red meat. If your body is low on potassium it might crave bananas. When a craving strikes the first thing you might want to try is drinking a large glass of water. Thirst often disguises itself as a craving. On the other hand your body does not need sugar - not the processed kind anyway. We have became creatures of habit by eating sweets for any and everything.

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Overcome Holiday Depression During & After Your Divorce

The holiday season can bring up painful memories of happier times, especially if you are divorced and have children. When feeling yourself starting to sink into negative emotions keep in mind that with the pain comes a choice. You can choose to acknowledge the past for what it was. You can value the good times you might have had together. Then you can choose to move on and let go. If you don’t, you will likely get stuck tormenting yourself with the "shoulds." We should still be a family today. He should be ashamed of what he's doing to us.

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The Narcissist in Custody Battles

The Narcissist in Custody Battles Presentation made by Sam Vakninr Author of “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” In the 11th Annual and First Internationalr Battered Mothers Custody Conference http://batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/ HOW NARCISSIST SEES HIS CHILDREN 1. As extensions of himself ---> Possessiveness ----> Breach of BOUNDARIES ---> abuse (incl. SEXUAL) 2. Mere avatars of his inner constructs 3. Pawns in the grand chess game that is his Life 4.

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Getting Off Track? Five Tips on How to Lead a Stress-Free Life

I read an interesting blog today by the author of Little Things Matter. Each day, a post is written about the daily rituals we do to help or hinder our personal development. Funny thing is, so many thing that Todd Smith writes about seems so obvious, yet we neglect to do this little things day in and day out. He emphasizes the need to listen, eat right, sleep well, set goals, find time for fun, etc, all issues that I have ranted about in Blogland a time or two.

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Having a Hard Time Setting Goals? Start with the "Attitude of Gratitude." Tip for the Day: Be Thankful.

Goal setting can be tricky. There are times in our lives when we think about setting goals and it can be so overwhelming. How can we even think about setting more goals when we have a hard time checking off our daily to do lists? It's so easy to put all the other tasks first - whether work related, kid related, house related, volunteer related, since these are the issues we face day in and day out. We almost get addicted for doing others and begin to define ourselves by what we are supposed to do rather than what we want to do.

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Success Tip for the Day -" Notice What You Are Doing Right Today and Be Present."

So much of our day is spent thinking about what we want to do, be or have. When was the last time you actually thought about what was going right and how well you were doing something? Maybe it's time you start.. Today I woke up exhausted. I have been going, going, going, with work for months now. The good part is, I love my job. The bad part is, I need to give myself permission to stop. Funny thing happens when you work a lot, you have a hard time not working. So today, I am officially proclaiming as of 12 p.m. eastern standard time, I am off the clock.

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Preparing For Child Custody Battles

Unfortunately, child custody battles are often part of bitter divorces. If you and your spouse can't reach an agreement about custody, you need to prepare yourself in the event that your custody case goes to trial. Today, it can no longer be assumed that the mother will get custody of the ...

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Divorce and Custody - Love Gone Wrong in the Military

Marriage is a wonderful state. It can bring a sense a fulfillment, belonging, love and intimacy when both people enjoy their life together. Adding children can fully complete the picture. However, so many marriages exist with disharmony, disappointment, distress and tension. The additional stressors involved with parenting can tip a marriage into the danger zone. Marital difficulties and custody problems, as painful and emotionally wrenching as they sometimes are, can certain

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A 12 Step Program for the Recovering Divorcee

Hello, my name is Lee and I am divorced. I have been in post marriage recovery for the past 5 years. This is a 12 Step Recovery Program for Divorce, adapted from other 12 Step Recovery Programs. Step 1: Admit that you are powerless in your marriage and that your lives together have come to an end. This is a crucial step because this is the first step to freedom. Like an alcoholic or drug addict, you have hit rock bottom in your marriage, and have tried everything to save it with no success.

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Creating Happiness After Divorce

CREATING HAPPINESS AFTER DIVORCE Divorce is the loss of a relationship, and it's painful. You will go through a grief process that involves denial, sadness, and anger. Depending on your particular circumstances, recovering from the sadness and anger and moving into acceptance can take approximately one year. Once you have reached the stage of acceptance you may find yourself with a void; you're no longer sad or angry, so where do you go from here ? This is the point in your a

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The Most Common form of Abuse Experienced by Christian Women in Marriage

She sat there for the third hour in the room waiting for the doctor to come back in. Over the last few months, she had experienced shortness of breath, cold sweats, migraines, excessive weight loss, and nausea. Last night, as she was walking the floor and rocking her youngest daughter to sleep, she started to get short of breath again and this time it was accompanied by dizziness. Suddenly she felt like she was going to pass out. She started praying under her breath and was able to finish rocking the baby to sleep and lay her in her bed. That was the last straw.

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Battling Parents -- Not Divorce -- Most Damages the Children!

It's a controversy that just won't quit. Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? Well, answers are finally coming in! A recent article by marriage and family therapist Ruth Bettelheim has much to say on this topic that is both relevant and, quite surprising for many. That’s because she refutes common misconceptions about divorce and addresses the real issues of concern.

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A Reason To Believe

A Reason To Believe Amidst the chaos of our lives, we must be steadfast on our quest to find reasons to believe. Even in the gloomiest of times when there does not seem to be a light at the end of the tunnel, you have to look for that glimmer of hope. Because, at times, that is all we have. It wasn’t too long ago that I sat on my kitchen floor crying, typical Lifetime movie style of crying – late at night, one night light on, while I sobbed out of fears for tomorrow. I had no idea what I was going to do about my life at that moment, never mind the future.

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Co-Parenting with a Frosty Ex during the Holidays

For many parents who are divorced or in the process of going through divorce, holidays are especially challenging to navigate through without losing your cool. As you begin to prepare for the holidays by filling up your freezer full of turkey and pies, it is also wise to prepare ahead of time for the hot-button issues you expect will come right along with the tinsel and tree lights.

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Conflicted about a Conflict? - Tip for the Day: How to Bridge the Gap and Not Jump Off the Bridge

One of my email buddies wrote about something very interesting this morning that gave me yet, another morning coffee AHA moment that I would love to share with you. Just as I had referred to that annoying voice inside our heads in my last blog, how do we stifle the real life of the whiners or negative naysayers in our lives? What's a person to do when they start to master the art of positivity but cannot escape the wrath of conflict bullies and emotional bloodsuckers? How do we get rid of them?

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“My Drill Sergeant Wears Skate Shoes” Transition Tip for the Day – Listen To Your Kids; You Could Learn a Thing or Two

I have to admit, being a mom to a teenage son has its challenges. I cannot for the life of me figure out how he can function in his room that is filled with technology and dirty socks. With the buzzes of texts, the bam bam of the XBox games, and the other random noises I hear from time to time, it’s like an alien has landed here on 24 Maple. Much of my time is spent, I have to admit, when I am home, is pondering how to bridge the gap between the foreign land of “teenagerdome” and the mind of a 41 year old (I would like to think but am reminded I am not) cool mom.

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Betrayal And Abandonment

Betrayal and abandonment are tremendous themes that I notice in my counseling practice and the trainings I’ve been conducting for over 27 years. I have worked with thousands of people who feel they have been betrayed by someone that they were very close to: partner, lover, boss, sister, ...

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Abuse Victim's New Year Resolutions

New year resolutions are notoriously fragile and ephemeral. But victims of abuse cannot afford this cavalier attitude: their mental - and too often physical - health depends on strictly observing the following promises to themselves: 1. I will treat myself with dignity and demand respect from others. I will not allow anyone to disrespect me. 2. I will set clear boundaries and make known to others what I regard as permissible and acceptable behavior and what is out of bounds

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Top 7 Motivational Weight Loss Tips

Here are some great motivational weight loss tips. They will not only get you started on your weight loss jou ey, they will help you to stay motivated and inspired. Motivation is the main ingredient that determines your success in weight loss. Ready, Set, Get Motivated ... Motivational Weight Loss Tip 1: Congratulations! You've decided to lose weight. The first thing you need to do is sit down with pen and paper and make a list of ALL the reasons you will succeed.

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Is it possible to stop hating your ex so you can co-parent in peace? YES!

1. Do you want to change? You need to answer this honestly. Do you want to change? If you’re thinking, “Of course I want him/her to change!” That is not what I asked. You cannot change your ex. Try as you may. Manipulate as you may. Punish, kick, scream, whatever your tactic, it won’t work. The only thing you can change is yourself to make things different. It sounds cliché, but it’s true. Do not enter into this endeavor with the hopes of your ex magically turning

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Divorce? What to Tell your Spouse Before You Tell the Kids!

Ever go on a vacation without making plans in advance? The consequences are usually disastrous. If you fail to plan ahead regarding newspaper and mail delivery, feeding your pets or watering the plants, knowing where your destination is and reserving your accommodations, your vacation is likely to be filled with disappointment, frustration and even heartache. What about preparing your children for your pending divorce? Do you have a plan – or are you going to wing it without any prior thought? For children, divorce is a monumental life experience for which they have no preparation.

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A "Whats-Best-for-Our-Child" Mindset is Critical in Co-Parenting After a Divorce or Separation

Disagreements regarding your children are natural when a marriage or relationship ends. Each parent's life moves on in a new direction and as a result disagreements arise about custody, visitation, and decision-making regarding the children. A look at the policies behind Califo ia's custody laws may help prevent and reduce disagreements because the policies are focused on what serves children's best interests. For that reason, separated and divorced parents may benefit from understanding the rationale a judge would use even if they are not in litigation and especially if they are.

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Fair Fighting Rules for Separation and Divorce

rnEmotions can run riot during separation or divorce. High value topics such as child custody, property division, child support and security get shuffled with advice and criticism from all corners, to create a mental tangle that can shake up even the coolest customer. Add a couple of divorce lawyers to the mix and it can seem like the issues and challenges are popping steroids while at the same time, you get weaker from all the anxiety. Having a set of rules or guidelines for

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Are You In Control Of Your Life?

Most people wander through their entire life believing they are in the drivers seat … But are they really? Are you??? When you are driving your vehicle, you have your hands on the wheel, your eyes on the road, your foot on the gas (ready to brake if necessary) and most important of all you KNOW your destination. What would happen if you took your hands off the wheel? You could wind up in a ditch, driving on the opposite side of the road or even taking a nice little off road trip …. None of which would be very pleasant. What would happen if you took your eyes off the road?r

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You cannot solve a problem with the same thinking that got you there…

Ever been stuck in a situation or a problem but not known how to get out of it? Life throws us lots of different hurdles and hiccups along the way and people disappoint us and we disappoint ourselves. But our biggest mistake is not when we first make that mistake, because our past can determine who we are today. That can be what makes us grow into our true characters and help us find and define our strength. But the biggest mistake I believe we can make is our failure to learn from them and our failure to let go of the past.

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The Different Experiences of Divorce

THE DIFFERENT EXPERIENCES OF DIVORCE Copyright by Merlene Bishop Divorce is a complex process involving legal, emotional, and economic aspects as well as learning to be a collaborative co-parent. The emotional aspect of divorce often begins long before the economic and legal. It begins when you fully realize that your marriage is not going to work, despite all your efforts.It is not uncommon for one person to realize this before another does. When you come to this point it c

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