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Abiola Abrams
Abiola Abrams, the author of "The Sacred Bombshell Handbook of Self-Love," is not your mother’s self-esteem guru. You’ve see The Bombshell Whisperer’s self-love and relationship laser coaching on networks from MTV to The CW and read her positive advice in columns from Essence to Match.com. Abiola wrote her debut novel…

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Aesha Adams-Roberts

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Aida Small
What makes me an expert? I have been married twice to the same person for the equivalent of twenty four years. I can assure you that we have a wonderful marriage that is Christian based, grounded in the word of God. DYSFUNCTION: My first marriage was not based on Gods values, because we were not believers, and every…

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Aileen Smith
Aileen is a professional therapist on the Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia and has run her private practice helping individuals, couples and families since 1992. She was a guest therapist on Gold Coast radio 92.5 throughout 2006/7 and was broadcast to 92 radio stations throughout Australia. Aileen is a successful wri…

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Alex J. Stevenson
Alex J. Stevenson is not a PHD holder on Psychology, however he better understand how to use psychology to get over an ex and live your life happily. If you having a hard time getting over your ex then checkout his training material 'The Master Training Kit: How to Get Over Your Ex In 14 Days.

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Ali Bierman
Ali shows you how to be happy so you create success. Happy people live healthier and longer lives. They thrive in their careers and enjoy personal loving relationships. Decades of research show that happy people lead more successful lives than their counterparts who live ho hum, dull or unhappy lives. The secret to…

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Alix von Cramon
Alix, a professional relationship and transformation coach, has spent years developing herself as a student of the human condition. She is originally from Europe, has traveled much of the world and is bi-lingual inr English and German. She spent 25 years plus in executive management working for multi-million dollar gl…

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Allie Ochs
Allie, relationship expert, coach, speaker and author of ‘Are You Fit To Love?’ has been through the “school of hard knocks” personally and vicariously as a coach for the world’s largest relationship agency. This background followed by studies in psychology and sociology and 5 years of relationship research afford All…

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Allison Lloyds
Life can sometimes become challenging and overwhelming. We all have times when we could use some assistance in overcoming life’s diverse challenges. Whether you are dealing with something as specific as marital difficulty, depression or anxiety or whether you just want to feel more confident about yourself and your li…

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Ana Nogales
Dr. Ana Nogales, a licensed clinical psychologist with offices in Los Angeles, and Santa Ana Califo ia, is two decades into a career of providing aid for members of Latino community wrestling with cognizable emotional disorders, and, more broadly, encouraging Latinas, across social class and occupational lines, to rea…

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Angela Hicks
With over 25 year’s business experience, insight and intuitiveness, Angela Hicks inspires individuals and organizations to excel and enables them to realize they are equipped to change their lives and environment. She is affectionately known as “The Relationship CEO”, due to her natural abilities in interpersonal rela…

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Angela Saunders
Angela Saunders is a Chartered Psychologist who has over 25 years experience in counselling and problem solving. She has worked with individuals and companies to improve relationships and understanding. A freelance writer, consultant and therapist, Angela has worked alongside leading medical experts worldwide, presen…

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Anita DeFrancesco

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Anita Jackson
I work with couples, individuals, businesses, law firms and corporates...I am the Love Wizard for couples and individuals and the Peace Negotiator for businesses, law firms and corporates. How does this work...it is essential that, in a couple or even on our own, we love ourselves first before we can give and even re…

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Annie Purple
I will be honest to your questions, conce s,and problems. Don't get weighed down with problems, feeling overwhelmed I can help you unload.

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Antoinette (Toni) Coleman
Toni Coleman is an internationally recognized dating and relationship expert and founder of http://consum-mate.com She is frequently quoted in local and national publications and top ranked dating and relationship websites and has been a guest on a number of radio and TV programs seeking to provide their listeners wit…
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Anusha Amen-Ra
Author: Woman's Water, Man's Fire: The Metaphysics of Love, Sex and Relationship Bio Born: Ronald Counts, Tampa Florida High School: Del Valle HS: Austin, Tx College: Southwest Texas State University, San Marcos, TX University of the Philippines University of South Florida Degree: 1978, BA: Pre-Law, BA: International…

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Aqsa Zareen Farooqui
Zareen is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the State of Georgia and her License number is (LPC004918). Zareen's educational background includes a Bachelor of Arts in Biochemistry and a minor in Psychology from Agnes Scott College where she graduated from in 2001.The therapist enrolled in the Professional Counselin…

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Ashley Kay
Ashley Kay is a dating and relationship expert who runs a popular free online newsletter that helps women and men have the relationship they want, minus the heartache and drama. Get even more great advice on understanding women, what they want, what turns them on and how to secure your dream woman - even if she's you…

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Ashley Porter
Welcome to my site here on Self Growth community. My mission is to help current home business owners achieve success. Many people get started in the home business industry only to experience failure, give up and quit althogether. The main reason is lack of development in personal and professional life areas. I hope t…

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Astra Niedra
Astra Niedra is a facilitator and teacher of the consciousness work Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves. She is author of the critically acclaimed books The Perfect Relationship, Enlightenment Through Motherhood and Which Self are You?. She publishes the Voice Dialogue in Daily Life website and blog at www.voi…

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Audrey Ashendorf
Audrey Ashendorf,LCSW specializes in high quality assessment, intervention and psychoanalytically oriented psychotherapy with individuals, adolescents and couples. She is imaginative, intuitive as well as thoughtful and kind. She maintains a private practice in NYC and can be reached at 212-684-2097. With over 20 yea…

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Auriela McCarthy
Auriela McCarthy is the author of the book The Power of the Possible: A Book of Hope and Inspiration. "I often think that in the University of Life I have chosen the study of love as my major, deciding to learn everything and anything I could learn about it through my own experiences, through books, workshops, self e…

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Azad Chaiwala
My name is Azad Chaiwala, and I'm a relationship expert @ GoMarry.com. I've been featured on thousands of publications including The BBC, iTV, FOX, SKY, RTV, Daily Mail, Christian Today, NY Time, Washington Post, GQ Magazine etc.

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Barbara De Angelis
Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D. is one of America’s most renowned experts on relationships and is a highly respected leader in the field of personal growth. As a best-selling author, popular television personality, and sought-after motivational speaker, she has reached millions of people with her positive messages about lov…
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Barbara Gabriel

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Barry and Joyce Vissell

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Barry Hammer

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Becky Reed
Through 56 years of living, I have discovered joys and sorrows, but most especially the wonders of this great experience under the tutelage and guidance of the All-That-Is. On the quest for romantic love, life laughed and showered me with unexpected awareness - about others...but wondrously about myself, my shortcomin…

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Beth Banning and Neill Gibson
Our lives are made up of many relationships—our parents, relatives, teachers, friends, children, partners in love and business, the mail carrier, and even salespeople at your local stores. The list goes on and on. We don't exist in a vacuum, and—like it or not—everyone, from our closest family and friends to randomly…

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Beth Veenkamp

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betsy sansby
Betsy Sansby, MS, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist has worked with individuals, couples, and families for over 25 years. She is the creator of: The S.T.O.P. Strategy, The OuchKit, LoveBites, and other tools for couples. She is the author of Ask Betsy, an online relationship advice column, which you can read at: ww…

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Beverley Watts
Beverley has been in a long distance relationship since 2006. She lives with her husband Rob in the south west of England and between them they have 3 children, 2 dogs and 2 cats. Beverley knows first hand the difficulties involved in keeping a long distance relationship alive, a process that is ongoing as Rob is ver…

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Bill Elbring

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Bill Mitchell
Bill Mitchell, Seven-Day Detective, is an internationally renowned author who is recognized for his practical, solution-based investigative strategies to marriages facing infidelity. As a recognized expert on infidelity and child custody, Bill Mitchell appears regularly as a guest expert on TV and national talk shows…

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Bill Murray

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Blanshard Blanshard
Who are Blanshard & Blanshard?! They are not the ordinary couple living next door. Their joint back grounds as creative director and copywriter, makes their relationship books creative, insightful and full of emotional intelligence. They are a husband and wife team who share the same name and belief that a love can…

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Brad Browning
Certified relationship counselor and breakup expert. I help couples mend broken relationships and re-unite with an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend. More information available from my website.

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Bree Maresca-Kramer
Bree Maresca-Kramer M.A. has successfully inspired men and women nationwide to improve and empower their lives and relationships. She has been featured on NBC, CBS, CW, & FOX News, Top National Radio Programming, National Publications such as The Chicago Tribune, Shape Magazine, Woman's Day Magazine, In-Touch Magazine…

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Candace Chambers-Belida
Candace Chambers-Belida is presently an International Speaker, providing inspirational and motivational messages to her audiences. She is also the author of Dare to Stand, and The Secret Codes of Conduct for Marriage. She has also appeared on NBC Daytime, KCBS Women 2 Women, KNBC Mid-Day, KOCE-Real Orange, KDOC-Southl…

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Caren Field
Ms Field has her master's degree from Western Michigan Univ in Marriage and Family Therapy, and is licensed by the state of Michigan as a Marriage and Family Therapist. She trained under Alison Armstrong with PAX programs for more than 10 years in understanding men and women. She is a former workshop leader of "Celebr…

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Carmen Harra
Dr. Carmen Harra is a world-renowned intuitive counselor, psychologist, best-selling author, radio show host, and relationship expert. In the past 25 years, Carmen has helped over 40,000 people rediscover peace of mind, reclaim personal power, and regain their joy. Her clients include people from all walks of life, fr…

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Carmin Wharton
Carmin Wharton is the author of Lessons Learned: While Looking for Love in All the Wrong Faces, a gritty, sometimes painful, but always entertaining memoir chronicling her journey while searching for a romantic partner. After 3 marriages and "interesting" relationships sprinkled in between the marriages, this girl kno…

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Carol Ferguson
My name is Carol Ferguson and I am a divorced mother of 2 wonderful children. My husband divorced me when our children were 6 and 10 years old. At the time, I worked for a large corporation and while I had a good paying job, I was like most of you and used to living off two paychecks. Now I had to live off only one pa…

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Carol Morgan
My career in motivating people started when I earned my Ph.D. in Communication from the University of Nebraska, and it has continued to this day as a professor at Wright State University ... and now even beyond that. I love taking my knowledge outside the classroom - thus, I am the monthly co-host of the popular radio…

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Cary & Wendy Valentine
As authors, speakers, relationship coaches, consultants, seminar facilitators and international performing artists, Cary and Wendy Valentine are assisting multitudes of couples and singles around the globe how to quickly transform themselves and have a rnhappy, successful and juicy realtionship. Our clientele ranges f…

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Catherine King
Catherine King is a part-time writer who enjoys using writing to challenge her own perspective as well as the beliefs of others. She likes getting to the core of issues and leaving no elephant in the room unaddressed. So you can converse with and learn from (and with) her or deny and debate her, she’ll most likely enj…

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Cathie Barash
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Cathy Roys
I am a Marriage and Family Therapist in the heart of San Diego, I work with Individuals, Couples and older teens. My areas of expertise are relational conflict, trauma, anxiety, boundaries, and women's issues related to past trauma, abuse or neglect. I have done extensive group work in boundary development and trauma…
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Cathy Toupin

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Charly Emery
Charly Emery is a Personal Strategist highly coveted for her savvy, straightforward approach to life and love. A trauma survivor herself, she’s known for cutting to the chase and helping you get immediate results. She’s been a featured contributor to EmpowHer.com for women, served as a guest on numerous radio shows as…

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Cherry Norris
Author, speaker, filmmaker and founder of Dating Director, Inc., Cherry Norris is one of America’s top leading dating and relationship experts. As The Hollywood Dating Director, Cherry has lead workshops around the US and on cruises to Mexico and Alaska. She has been featured in The LATimes, The Hollywood Reporter, D…
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Chris Lyon

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Chris Reynolds

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Christian Carter
Through his books, seminars and audio/video programs, Christian Carter has helped over 3 million women become more successful with men, dating and relationships. His purpose is to help women enjoy more love and fulfillment in their relationships by providing the inside scoop on the male perspective, and pull back the…

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Christina Conner
Hi, I am Christina Maria Conner. I am writing a book on my personal spiritual journey of healing childhood issues that affected my love relationships, what I learned from them and techniques I used to help heal them and manifest my current husband, including self-reflection, forgiveness, visualization and more. I had…
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Christine Whelan
">Dr. Christine B. Whelan is a professor, jou alist and author. She is the author of ">Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women (Simon & Schuster, 2006), the first book to shatter the myth of success and spinsterhood, with good news and great advice for SWANS everywhere. Are you among the SWANS: Strong Women Achievers No Spou…

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Claudia Cunningham
Claudia Cunningham (Polson, MT) has used her uniquely powerful combination of twelve-step principles and vampire lore to empower others for nearly a decade. Her "Ask the Slayer" column was a regular feature in Women's Online Magazine. You can learn more about her book at , www.thepracticalvampireslayer.com A native o…

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Claudia Luiz

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Clif K
Principal and Founder of LoveAnswer.net. LoveAnswer.net is an online community of relationship therapists and counselors providing affordable and professional relationship help to individuals struggling in their relationship. Customers ask a relationship question, and our credentialed therapists or counselors e-mail t…
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Clint Stonebraker

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Craig Miller
For thirty years, Craig has been counseling with individuals, families, and couples in both medical and mental health settings. He served at Harper Hospital in Detroit, Michigan, the Director of Social Work at Herrick Hospital in Tecumseh, Michigan and is currently the co-founder, Administrative Director, and therapis…

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Crisologo Ramasasa

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Curt Gorlick
Curt Gorlick, The Life Choice Strategist, an expert coach and public speaker on mindset and successful life skill strategies helps baby boomers navigate smoothly through their ordinary and extraordinary life struggles, guiding them into the life and relationships they want. Having experienced living life in anger, ove…

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Cynthia Wall

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Dan And Jennifer
Dan and Jennifer are the founders and senior editors of www.AskDanAndJennifer.com. AskDa AndJennifer.com has become the premiere web site about relationships and sexuality on the internet. Dan and Jennifer, in addition to providing value themselves via their insightful articles and videos, have brought together key e…

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Dan Ardebili
For over a decade Dr. Dan has invested hundreds of thousands of dollars in traveling the world searching for the secrets to life. He has met with western experts specializing in the fields of relationships, creating more financial wealth in your life, and more, to meeting with Eastern Gurus that have been teaching anc…

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Dan Becco

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Daniel Amis
Daniel Amis is a Professional Matchmaker/Relationship Expert, who has helped many people create a long-lasting, loving, and successful relationship. For more info on his services go to www.professionalsinglesmatch.com

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Daniel Linder
As featured in March, June and September issues of Recovery Today. Daniel Linder MFT is a licensed psychotherapist in the San Francisco Bay Area, Relationship Trainer, Addiction Specialist; Author: Demystifying Addiction (The Relationship Model of Addiction), Relational Recovery and numerous related articles; and new…

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Daniela Koenig
The reason for seeking psychotherapy are as numerous as the people who seek it. Clients often come to therapy feeling anxious, frustrated, depressed, or hungry for change. Many feel stuck in their life, job, or relationship(s). Others are struggling with life transitions or finding it difficult to live with uncertaint…

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Darlene Lancer
I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist: Essential Tools for Improving or Leaving Narcissistic and Abusive Relationships," Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing Your True Self and Codependency for Dummies. and the 7 ebooks, including 10 Steps…

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Dave Rich
Dave Rich is the founder of New Age Alte atives, a company that blends science with cutting-edge products designed to help women attract men and men attract women. In operation since 2004, New Age Alte atives has strengthened existing relationships and taught men and women how to rekindle "the mating dance". New Age A…
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Dave Shields
Colleagues and people have asked why I work with couples. I always say, "I love a good challenge!" When I was starting as a therapist, 32 years ago, the research on therapy success was good for all populations, except for couples. Therapists weren't faring well when attempting to help couples recover in their relation…

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David Britto
Certified Relationship Coach, speaker, and mentor. He is a master at helping others with their relationship problems. His goal is to help as many people as possible to be successful in their relationship. http://howtowinrelationships.org

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Dawn Michaels
Dawn Michaels first began studying metaphysics and spirituality as arnteenager. Grasping that she must first "BE" to then DO and to HAVE, Dawn became the owner of an accounting firm at the age of 19, and then began corporate tax accounting in a CPA firm. In the years to follow, she owned a mortgage company for 15 yea…
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Dawn Sinnott

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Dean Hopkins
As a writer, creative professional and avid Self Help Junkie I have spent many years studying the psychological dynamics of relationships. From emotional breakthrough workshops, personality profiling systems such as The Enneagram to Eastern philosophies such as Buddhism and Taoism my journey has brought me to the amaz…
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Deborah Winter
As a divorced mother of three children, Deborah Winter has gone through all the ups and downs of a marriage herself and knows from her own experience, which strategies really help to mend a broken heart and start a new (better) life after a break-up. Looking back on the hard times, she decided to get certified as Lif…
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debra mandel
About “Dr. Debra” “Dr. Debra” Mandel, Ph.D., is a recognized and respected psychologist, author, columnist, speaker, and media expert with over twenty years experience as a relationship expert. She treats pre-teens through geriatrics who suffer from anxiety, stress, childhood mistreatment, eating disorders, addiction…

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Denise Fiennes
Blog and counselling. www.copingwithpetloss.co.uk Hi and welcome to my profile. I originally trained with Relate where I did hundreds of hours with clients and then opened my own private practice. I have worked for many years with all types of relationship difficulties, career problems, depression, grief, stress and…

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Denise Wade
Denise Wade Ph.D. CMRC is a Dating Mentor, Transformational Educator, Author, Researcher, and Relationship Expert. She has studied biological anthropology, the psychology of relationships, and her specialty gender dynamics. Recently Denise completed a two year study, involving two thousand men and women on love, marr…

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Dilani Diva
Greetings My Name is Dilani, I have been a spiritual /psychic counselor and life coach for many years. Most of my sessions are to help you gain your own clarity and truth, wether it is about your self, those around you or simply to understand this journey what we call life. Even though I am a medium I only use my gi…

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Donna Beasley
Donna Beasley, The Romance Lady, is a romantic travel expert who encourages couples to create memorable romantic moments, honeymoons, vow renewals and other special romance occasions in travel locations throughout the world. She is the publisher of Romance Travel Magazine, your online resource on the most romantic des…
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Doron Gil
Doron Gil, Ph.D., is an Expert on Self-Awareness and Relationships, with a 30 year experience as a university teacher, workshop leader, counselor and consultant. He has taught classes on Self-Awareness and Relationships to thousands of students, lectured on these and related topics at conferences world-wide, and train…

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Doug and Chris Young
Doug and Chris Young are Relationship Coaches who specialise in infidelity and similar challenges that force couples to evaluate, rebuild and strengthen their relationships or marriages. They can certainly walk the walk, having faced and survived infidelity in their own 25 year marriage and come out of it much strong…

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Dr Char Richards, DD,Msd,CHT,NLP,CLC,DE
Greetings My Friends, For Over 20 Years I Have Been Speaking In Public And In Schools As Well As Working With People To Reach Their Highest Potential My Specialties Are In Coaching Personal And Relationships And Business Development As Well As What You Read Below This Relates To Your Job, Home Life, Relationships,…

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Dr. Bob Huizenga
Dr. Robert Huizenga, CSW, LMFT, The Infidelity Coach, is a relationship coach, author, and Marriage and Family Therapist. Dr. Huizenga has maintained a private practice in Marriage and Family Therapy for the past two decades serving hundreds of couples and thousands of individuals. He has served on the Michigan State…

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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (http://doctorbonnie.com) is internationally acclaimed and one of America's best-known relationship experts; named by New York Magazine as one of the city's top therapists. She is the author of Make up, Don't Break up and Financial Infidelity. Dr. Bonnie's success rate is phenomenal - 98 percent…

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Dr. Cindy Brown
Do you ever feel you just don't understand what to do to get ahead in your life, business, career or financially? Are you frustrated you don't know what to do to improve your relationships or to find the "right"one? Are you Fed-Up that others seem to be getting ahead, but you seem to not know what to do to be successf…

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Dr. Dar Hawks
You can save your marriage by understanding each other's relationship languages, embracing curious communication, and learning relationship competency skills. Start by taking the free relationship languages quiz to learn your preferred relationship language https://relationshiplanguages.com

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Dr. Dennis Neder
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Dr. Dina Evan

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Dr. Gilda Carle
DR. GILDA CARLE (Ph.D.) is the media’s Go-To Relationship Expert & Performance Coach, serving clients worldwide at www.DrGilda.com. As a media personality, she was the therapist on TV's Sally Jessy Raphael show and has conducted Relationship Wellness training for Columbia University Medical Center. As President of non…

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Dr. Grace Cornish Livingstone
TV's beloved advice expert, Dr. Grace Cornish-Livingstone (affectionately known known as Dr. Grace), is the bestselling author of ten enormously popular books, a dynamic keynote speaker, a minister of The Word, and one of America's foremost relationship consultants. After overcoming the early childhood tragedy of wit…

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Dr. Parul Patel
Dr. Parul Patel has a Doctorate in Marriage and Family Therapy, a Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, and a second Masters in Human Development. With over 15 years of psychotherapy experience, Dr. Patel specializes as a marriage and relationship therapist. Having researched Love in Contemporary Life, and Conflict…

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Dr. Patty A Tublin
Dr. Patty Ann is an internationally recognized relationship and communication expert. She is a sought-after speaker, author and leading authority to professionals in the field of relationship and communication advice. As a female entrepreneur, corporate consultant and licensed therapist, Dr. Patty Ann has helped hundr…

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Dr. Ruth Westheimer
Dr. Ruth Westheimer is a psychosexual therapist who helped to pioneer the field of media psychology with her radio program, Sexually Speaking. It began in September of 1980 as a fifteen minute, taped show that aired Sundays after midnight on WYNY-FM (NBC) in New York. One year later it became a live, one-hour show air…

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Dr.Arthur P. Ciaramicoli
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Eda M. Handly
Is a Professional Life Coach specializing in dating and relationships. Previously a domestic violence victim advocate for the Erie County Prosecutor’s Office, Eda has since been helping people all over the world discover healthier relationships through personal coaching and her website www.love-sources.com. She thoro…

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Edie Kay
Edie Kay, founder of edk Coaching and Creator of "Simple Love. Simple Life." - A Marriage and Relationship Success Program, is dedicated to helping people get MORE out of their relationship and get MORE out of life. On her blog, in her private practice, and in her coaching programs, Edie provides couples with the righ…

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Elizabeth E George
Elizabeth George, selected as a “Top 40 Business Executive Under the Age of 40” is an Award-winning businesswoman and world-class athlete. As the CEO of Compatibility Solutions Inc., she is a relationship expert specializing in fixing problems before they occur. An international consultant, coach and speaker, Elizabe…

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Elle Petes
EllePetes, Author and Founder http://www.relationship-advice-bootcamp.com~ A non-judging place to vent, and get real relationship advice. .. kinda likea BFF ~ without the drama. A punchyplace to voice opinions and get realistic relationship advice tips fromarticles, quizzes and most importantly… from reading other peo…
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Ernest Quansah
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Erwan Davon
Erwan Davon has been teaching singles and couples how to have exceptional romantic relationships through a seminar called “The Pleasure Course” for over 17 years. He is the founder, senior teacher and president of San Francisco based Erwan Davon Teachings (formerly known as Beyond Education). Erwan Davon Teachings pro…

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Eve Be shaw
Eve K. Be shaw Author of TheTransitio Process™ Eve K. Be shaw, author of TheTransitio Process™ (TTP) develops and facilitates training programs using this unique, cognitive decision-making process for career and other life changing challenges. She has been called a counselor/consultant, a teacher and an emotional mi…

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Eve Dickson
Hello everyone! I am Eve Dickson, a relationship advisor from the United Kingdom. As an advisor, I have met numerous number of people and couples. As part of this profession, I solve their problems and help them to make their life smoother. To be honest, I have been doing this even before I came across the term ‘Advis…
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Fauziah Shah

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Felecia Townsend
I am a professional photographer, author, and program specialist for those who have mental and physical disabilities. I've lived a large part of my life exploring different interests in regards to my career choices. However, the one thing that has remained constant is my passion for helping others, particularly women.…

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Gary Brainerd, PhD
GARY BRAINERD, PHD, LMFT, is a licensed Clinical Psychologist and licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Califo ia. He works primarily in private practice in Southern Califo ia, with offices in Pasadena and Encino. Dr. Brainerd is one of the few psychologists who has specialized in working with couples. Eighty to n…

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Gary Caine

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Gay Hendricks and Katie Hendricks
Over the past two decades Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks have worked with over twenty thousands individuals, eighty companies and three thousand couples in developing their method of transformation. Among their past clients are Motorola, Lucent Technologies, Dell Computers, KLM Airlines, and Monsanto. Together, Kathlyn an…
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Geoff Brandenburg
Geoff Brandenburg is the founder of Doing Your Work - the Pathway of the Whole Person. It is a Life Coaching Program dedicated to emotional healing, recovery and literacy through learning the emotional skills that allow us to take full responsibility for our lives. In Doing Your Work we learn to journey inward to brin…

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Geoff Farnsworth
For over 20 years, Geoff has provided effective and practical coaching to help people succeed in having healthy, joyful, loving relationships. He offers short term coaching for long-term results. Working with Geoff you’ll discover the underlying cause of your relationship problem and the skills and strategies to make…

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Gerald Anthony
Gerald Anthony has had a rich field of experience to advise from. He currently is the President of The Faith Hope and Love Foundation, a PhD Counselor, Board Member of OLC, Treasurer and World-wide published author and speaker.

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Gillian Reynolds
My name is Gillian Reynolds and I have been offering relationship and love advice for the past 5 years. I've helped hundreds of people find more love, joy and fulfillment within their dating connections and marriages. My goal is to help people discover that a deep emotional bond is possible in virtually every romanti…

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Gina Hardy
Hi I’m Gina Hardy, the founder of Conscious Union, here to help you create your very own conscious relationship. I am a relationship educator, which in essence means I help you to learn about the deeper and often unconscious aspects that drive you to do and say the things you do in relationships. The things that creat…
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Go Dates
Are you looking to improve your dating life, or maybe you need advice regarding your current relationship? Whatever stage of your love life, you will find it all here! Our community of bloggers is ready to help you. There is no textbook theory here, and the standpoints of our authors may vary, so it is up to you to de…
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Greg Baker
Greg S. Baker has been counseling relationships for over a decade. His success in this field has largely come through his understanding of communication and expression. People communicate all the time, but either it is misunderstood or it is not listened to. Pastor Baker has developed techniques and methods in this ar…

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Greg Dudzinski, MS, LPC
Greg is a Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Michigan who specializes in creating fantastic relationships! He works to instill a deeper, more living and initmate connection than you have ever experienced! Greg also hosts The Art of Relationship Radio Show on spreaker and Tunein.

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Guy Russell
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"Whatever your age, if you learn to listen, your inner voice will speak to you about your path," writes oncologist Dr. Be ie Siegel in Peace, Love and Healing, your 'job on earth.' This wisdom that is directing you from within is your birthright... an inner message, an inner awareness, that says, 'This is your path, this is how you can be the best human being possible.' If you follow it, you will achieve your full growth and full potential as a human being before you let go of the Tree of Life..."
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Dear Dr. Romance: Can you program the subconscious?
Dear Dr. Romance: I saw the articles on your site and I would like to know if you can ´´program´´ the subconscious mind to win a X salary per month, even if the subconscious mind is programmed to attract money. Dear Reader:
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Will Your Relationship Last? 7 Must Read Questions.
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Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice!
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Dear Dr. Romance: she is in denial and wants to escape the pain
Dear Dr. Romance: My best girlfriend ever and I dated for about eight months, then had a long distance relationship when she went back to her home country. She just broke up with me over email and she is dating someone from her home city for the last month. I thought we were very happy and serious and our best things were chemistry and compatibility!
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Book Excerpt: The Waltz of Love
Here is an excerpt from the book I think you might enjoy, that time in your life when you finally meet that one person who captures your attention like no other. The waltz of love: One of the most incredible experiences in life Then you meet him or her. What an emotionally exciting time, probably one of the most wonderful times in your life. When you eventually fall in love with the person who you decide you want to spend the rest of your life with you actually develop an unconscious emotional attraction to that person called love.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I rescued my mother from the big bad wolf, my father
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Want Boyfriend Back? Here’s Ways To Get My Man Back After Break Up
Being in relationships are great as long as everything is going on well. The possibility of having a relationship problem between you and your partner does not even cross your mind. But the reality is there could be a chance it can go bad no matter how you feel about it. Want boyfriend back? The complete solution to get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up, meanwhile let's build the foundation.
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Caring For Parents = Divorce?
7 Tips To Keep Your Marriage On Track When Helping Family Members If your parents are elderly and becoming infirm, or if there are others who require special care in your family, due to disability or illness the situation you will need to figure out how to maintain a balance between your marital life and this often taxing situation. If you have a large family, the burden of care is often lightened by sharing the responsibilities, but if you are an only child, the problem may be more difficult to resolve.
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Dr. Romance: 5 Common Mistakes in Relationships - 5 Common Mistakes when Asking your Spouse for What You Want
There are some common mistakes couples make when asking for what they want in a relationship. Here are some things that may be keeping you from achieving success with your spouse. They are the most common mistakes you can make when trying to ask for what you want when you're struggling to make your marriage work. 1. Exaggerate your want.
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Happy Father’s Day to the Unsung Heroes, Dads
As Father’s Day approaches (June 16th, 2013), I began to contemplate about significant means to pay tribute to the forsaken heroes, our fathers. We should seize the opportunity to pay respect toward our dads by celebrating the event in joyous manners. The fundamental question should focus on the reasons behind celebrating Father’s Day. Without stating the obvious, most individuals are caught on the daily struggle of survival in the complex societies of today. Consequently, we acquired the tendency of taking our fathers for granted.
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The Freedom of Maturity
And then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged…You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing. Doris Lessing
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How to Stretch Time
It is indeed possible to stretch time—to make the time you have go farther, and use it more for what you really want to do. Stretching time is not difficult if you have the prerequisites: self-awareness, a sense of purpose, thoughtful action, and a playful approach. Self-Awareness: As with all successful life skills, time stretching works better if you know yourself well. When you are aware of your priorities—for example, where do work, relationship, family and fun fall on “What’s most important” list? Are you spending the most time on what is most important?
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Dear Dr. Romance: I have never met him and he lives in another country
Dear Dr. Romance: I stumbled upon your article "Don't Make The Same Mistake Twice" while I was searching for advice on dating a divorcee. I can't help but wonder what advice you would give to a girl who has never been married who is currently seeing a divorcee. I have never in my entire life dated a divorcee, so I am clueless.
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Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence
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Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Stop My Husband's Ex-Wife from Smothering Their Son
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Solving Problems Takes Equals
There is a pervasive myth that somehow happy couples just agree on everything automatically all the time. Believing this myth, we enter relationships convinced that whatever problems or differences we have with our partners will be easy to solve. But, in reality, the individuals who make up a partnership will disagree frequently, and often struggle over even minor issues.
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Dr. Romance video: Do men have biological clocks?
Dr. Romance on men and biological clocks: To watch video, click here Yes, a man can feel the need to grow up and have a family, especially when he finds a woman who inspires those feelings in him. The problem is, how can you be sure the match is a good one?
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Dear Dr. Romance: I just got my girlfriend pregnant and I might be gay.
Dear Dr. Romance: I've just gotten my girlfriend pregnant and still have doubts about my sexuality, whether I'm gay or bisexual. She wants me to get some clarity before she decides to keep the baby or not. Can you help? Dear Reader:
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Turnaround Time
Solstice is the day near year end when the sun is furthest away from the Earth, and immediately begins to come closer again. Solstice marks a celestial turning point, and it's no coincidence that we celebrate the end of the old year, and begin a new year of birth and renewal at this time. It's a time of new beginnings, of letting go of the old and generating the new. Many of my clients come in looking for a new way to see or do things, or a way to let go and refocus. What kind of renewal do you want to generate in your own life?
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Dear Dr. Romance: He always calls, and we do the same thing over again.
Dear Dr. Romance: I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He endsup getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Can I have a life partner?
Dear Dr. Romance: I am living alone. I've been told I am sexually week. Can I have a life partner? How long will it take? I need care and protection, and to know what my choices are. How can I be fruitful to society and mankind? Is my life worth anything? Tell me the truth. Believe me I can keep my cool. I am mentally stable and happy. Dear Reader:
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Dear Dr. Romance: I am somewhat leery of another romance
Dear Dr. Romance: My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her last breakup. I loved her wholly, with all my everything, however she did not do the same. That, of course, hurt.
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Broken Heart Advice: Coping Tips When You Just Can't Let Go
Breaking up or getting a divorce might have been your idea. It could be that you, your partner or both of you were caught in destructive behaviors that could only be stopped by ending your relationship. Maybe there was abuse of some kind involved. Or perhaps the troubles in your relationship were less overtly damaging, but they seemed unresolvable and the dynamics were making you both miserable and unhappy. As much as you know, deep down, that ending your relationship and moving on with your life was the “best” decision, your heart might feel broken.
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How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back And Keep Him - Even When He Has Moved On
You have broken up with your boyfriend and feel like you can't continue on without him. If you have the desire to get your boyfriend back with you, you must take a close look at yourself. How to get your ex boyfriend back and keep him; Decide if the relationship you had with him was really all that great and would it truly be a good idea to get him back.
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Relationship Advice: When your spouse makes a drastic life change
Hello I am just now getting back to my blog. I wanted to begin by posting a media inquiry that I responded to recently on the challenges when your spouse makes a drastic life change. See below: For an article I’m writing for CNN.com, I’m seeking both nationally known relationship experts as well as “real” people to talk about this topic: when the person you married or fell in love with makes a drastic life change. Perhaps she used to love burgers, but then became a strict vegan and now pushes tofu down your throat.
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Dear Dr. Romance: How can we find low cost counseling?
Dear Dr. Romance I am in a same sex relationship of a year and 3 months. My girlfriend Phyllis and I have a constant communication problem that we want to address. Neither of us are currently working. I do get unemploymnet but my bills out weigh my income. Do you know how we can find low cost counseling? Dear Reader: If your bills outweigh your income, you are wise not to pay high fees for therapy. There are low-cost options for counselling:
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Learning To Speak From Your Feelings
Years ago, I could not find my feelings. I could give you words for miles, but I couldn’t tell you how I felt. Even in romantic settings I didn't know how to say what I felt. This is all in hindsight. Once I understood that at any given moment there's a mixture of feelings going on inside of me, I felt excited to FEEL STUFF. And yet, it was still difficult to speak my true feelings. I felt shy, I felt embarrassed, and I felt a little exposed. I'd practiced standing in a full length mirror and saying what I felt.
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Where Are All The Good Men?
Where are all the good men?! I asked myself this question over and over again when I was dating and trying desperately to find a man to marry. For years I was a magnet for men who weren’t good for me, men who were not the marrying kind. I couldn’t stop myself from dating them and getting involved in unfulfilling and unhealthy relationships. I felt like a victim, a walking target for men who were narcissistic, self-centered and cruel.
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Your Bestest Friend – You
I have a friend, Maggie, who has been my friend since 1968, and she calls me her "bestest" friend as a way of appreciating our connection. It always makes me smile, and I feel the same about her. Often, my clients have trouble learning to appreciate and trust themselves, and I think Maggie's phrase should apply to the only relationship we'll have from birth to deaththe relationship with self. Are you your own bestest friend?
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Dr. Romance on How to Help a Friend Who is Depressed
It's not easy to know what to do when you have a friend who seems depressed. Dr. Romance has some guidelines to help you support and care for your dear one. 1. Don't try to cheer your friend up. It just sounds like you don't understand. 2. Listen, listen, listen: Your friend needs someone who can hear whatever the problem is. It doesn't matter if it seems like a small or big problem to you, it's overwhelming to your friend, and he or she needs to talk about it. A lot.
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Attitude Adjustment
I have written in this column recently about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can "wash" your mood, too, and give yourself an attitude adjustment whenever you want to?
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How To Know If Your Ex Boyfriend Wants You Back - Signs My Ex Wants Me Back After A Break Up
Have you experienced a break up where your girlfriend left you for someone else? It does happen so don't feel like you are the only one trade with this. How to know if your ex boyfriend wants you back; Maybe you are now demanding to think about how you can get you're ex girlfriend back.
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Dr. Romance on Love and Chemistry
Dr. Romance writes: Many of my clients want to know: What is a safe surrender to love? They have been in love before, and have gotten hurt. While we all are aware of the joy and beauty of love, and the profound pleasure of being in love, most of us are also afraid of mistakes, of making a wrong decision.
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The Nail in the Fence: Healing Wounds
I received the following in an email:
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Make New Friends, Keep Good Friends
Research conducted by Dr. Dean Ornish and others shows that the happiest and healthiest people are those who are well-connected to friends and family. But, in our mobile society, keeping friends is not always possible. Long-term friendships are wonderful and valuable, but if you dont make new connections as you get older, your group of friends may diminish due to death and relocation. If you havent made new friends in a while, updating your definition of friendship and increasing your skills at meeting people will be worth your while.
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Practicing A New Approach To Love, Relationships & Dating
I've been on a quest for over a month now. I’ve been purposely carrying several big bags with me each day. Delightfully, men were leaping and reaching for doors, holding doors and offering to help me with my multiple bags! They were all so nice, attentive and helpful! I practiced my Leaning Back tools and graciously thanked each and every one with eye contact, a smile and a genuine "thank you" as I hustled and bustled my way through with loads of bags on both arms.
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Wanted: Older Men
Seniors today are still of a generation that doesn't want to seem to plan for sex. And there's no need for birth control, so that motivation for condom use doesn't exist. Also, senior men may not have as inevitable erections as they did when younge, so that may make them reluctant to use condoms. However, female condoms are available, and unless you and your partner are both tested, don't assume you're safe.
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Dr Romance Video: Should you stay in your marriage?
Click here for video. Dr Romance: Should you stay in your marriage? Marriage can be frustrating and disappointing, especially if you don't have the skills to fix it. But giving in to the frustration and leaving may turn out to be the worst thing you ever did. Consider these reasons to stay:
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Dr. Romance: Ending your Marriage
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Dear Dr. Romance: I got very drunk and kissed another man
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Dr. Romance on Emotional Hygiene
Dr. Romance writes: A couple of years ago, I had some difficult dental work. It was very painful, and while I recovered physically pretty quickly, I had some post -traumatic stress reactions – bad dreams, flashbacks, and upset – after my recovery. I had to acknowledge my upset and feelings, and let them out before the stress reactions subsided. I often help my clients do this, too, not only with PTSD from shocking or painful experiences, but also with grief and old memories.
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Dr. Romance: Married, Different Shifts - How to Stay In Touch When You Barely See Each Other
In this tougher economy, couples are finding it necessary to take the jobs they can get, and that means more couples work different shifts. If one of you works a “graveyard shift” or rotating shift job that limits your time together; the difference in your shifts and commutes may mean you actually get to spend very little waking time together.
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How To Spot A "Good" Woman - 15 Things To Look For
Many of my clients lately are men who have at some point or other in their lives been deceived and dazed by a woman's looks. Many of them have wasted countless hours and spent small fortunes chasing after women who lied to them and basically treated them like dirt. Some regret the lost opportunity to the marry a woman who was not exactly physically attractive but was a good woman. There is really no "standard" litmus test for telling right away that a woman is "a good woman" or one of those "other" ones. Here are just a few things to look for when you meet or date a girl/woman: 1.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I just miss her a lot
Dear Dr. Romance: I found your article about women dating younger men. So, here I'm in a middle of a crisis... hope you can read it and hope you can give some advise. I'm 30, with a promising carreer and a stable job.
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Dr. Romance: Does your relationship need a spring cleaning?
Dr. Romance: tips on spring cleaning your marriage: Over an extended period of time, dust and detritus can accumulate in even the best marriage. Spring cleaning, to clear out the cobwebs and re-energize your connection, is a great idea. Just like a regular housework schedule, regular weekly talks (I call them State of the Union discussions) keep the problems minor, the resentment level down, and the communication open, so that there is time and space for intimacy.
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Dr. Romance: Finding your Next Spouse
You're divorced and ready to look for a new love. Here are three tips to help you as you search for a new partner in life. 1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship.
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Stop Jealousy In Its Tracks
Do you ever feel like your jealousy takes over? It might seem to you that the stream of jealous thoughts you are having are never-ending and even unstoppable. They can appear to overwhelm and overpower you. As you might already know, you can easily end up saying or doing things that you may later regret when you are in a state of feeling overpowered by your jealousy. It's as if the jealousy is “making” you do and say these things. Angie sometimes feels as if her jealous thoughts take over.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I would be honored and privileged if I could end up marrying her.
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Practicing Patience
Happy New Year! This is the traditional time for making resolutions, which we all know are simple to make, but much more difficult to keep. Resolutions imply change, and making changes requires patience. It's such a valuable component of character that St. Paul considered it evidence that a person was living in faith: "...the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control," he wrote to the Galatians.
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Family Violence Q&A
Q: My spouse and I often have arguments over the small stuff. How do we get past this so that we are not constantly bickering?
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Dear Dr. Romance: My father opposes my inter-racial relationship
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Dear D. Romance: I've learned my lesson
Click here for video Dear Dr. Romance: I saw your video "Don't Call Your Ex" Great video post, good advice.
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The Road Map: Why Writing Down Your Goals Works
We see a lot of advice to write down your goals and dreams, but does it really help? Actually, it does. For one thing, it helps you get clear on exactly what you want, and makes the goals more imaginable. They seem more real when you have thought through them clearly and written them down.
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Keeping Toxic People at Bay
Keeping Toxic People at Bay I think we can all think of people we have come across who vent frustrations all the time, focus on the negative around them, or vocalize how bad they expect the world to get. Certainly, we may all have these feelings sometimes but for those who exude this negativity, it can be toxic to have them as an active part of our lives. Why? Negativity can be infectious and will bring us down. It can hamper our own outlook and happiness. One way to address it is to limit it. We can gently remove ourselves from these conversations or situations.
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Dr. Romance on To Help An Addicted Friend
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Growing Up as an Adult
"Miracles do happen," wrote Chaim Weizman , the first President of Israel "but one has to work very hard for them."
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A New Way Of Dating
Circular Dating is a tool used in the Rori Raye (www.coachrori.com) Method of relationship Coaching. Let me start off by saying that Circular Dating is NOT about “dating” a whole bunch of men at one time. Circular Dating is interacting with men! Circular Dating is all about YOU. Circular Dating is about keeping the focus on you. Actually, getting to the heart of it, Circular Dating is about men focusing on you! Circular Dating is about the intentions of men who are focusing on you. YOU are the target of their intentions andr
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Dr. Romance on shared laughter
Dr. Romance writes: A lighthearted approach to serious matters often is the most productive one. Imagine what your days would be like if you focused on having fun and making yourself and your partner laugh. Fun is also good for your health: Telling your partner the cute thing your kid said (or your pet did) or talking about the funny scene in the latest hit movie will lower your blood pressure, calm your pulse and generally help you release a lot of stress.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure there's any turning back
Dear Dr. Romance: My wife and I have been married for 5 years. We got married quickly - after only 9 months due to a couple of reasons. We have been fighting fairly regularly for several years -- and I think it comes down to us not having much in common - which I ultimately resent her for, me losing my job and career, some health problems I have had, and the fact that she is foreign and we seem to have different sensibilities.
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Dr. Romance: Got a Tough Ex?
Relationships: Three Tips to Dealing with a Really Difficult Ex-Spouse Dr. Romance’s three tips to dealing with a difficult ex. 1. Choose your battles. One of my clients once said “I don’t want to die on that hill.” She meant: that battle isn’t worth what it will cost me – I’ll ignore that problem and save it for a bigger one. Don’t get into adversarial positions with your ex when it’s not necessary. Even if he or she drives you crazy, don’t become oppositional. Save your energy for the big issues. 2. Don’t react, respond.
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How Can I Make My Ex Girlfriend Fall Back in Love With Me - 3 Tips
Tips on how I can make my ex girlfriend fall back in love with me - Making someone fall in love with you the first time around isn't an easy thing to do, that's for sure. However, trying to make a woman fall back in love with you after getting dumped by her, that is way harder for sure. In fact, the reality is that most guys will not be able to win back a woman's love after she has dumped them. That's not to say that it is an impossible task, it certainly can be achieved. It's just; you have to keep in mind that it isn't something that you are going to be able to just wish into existence.
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How Well Do You Know The Man or Woman You Love and Make Love To?
Have you ever felt like if people were to take the time and effort just get to know you a little bit more, they would love you? I have. Ego trip? Perhaps. What exactly does "to know me is to love me" mean? Some have interpreted it to mea "if people were to just get to know me a little bit ...
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Communication Tips Before Marriage
In a love relationship or marriage there are always commitments. You might make a commitment to be monogamous with your partner. Or you might make a commitment to love him or her “through sickness and in health.” Even if you’ve not sworn in front of a religious leader or ...
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5 Ways to Stay Connected with the One You Love in Times of Stress
We've all had stressful times in our lives-- some of us seem to have more frequent stress and upheaval than others. And if you've been in the middle of a stressful period, you probably know that being under pressure can have detrimental effects on your love relationship. This is the time that ...
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Making Peace With The In-Laws
If your partner is having in-law problems, it is up to you as the son or daughter of the intrusive or disrespectful in-laws to set the boundaries to protect your partner. If your partner feels disrespected or mistreated by your family, it is best to deal with it as soon as possible.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I Believe He's a Good Man at Heart
Dear Dr. Romance: My husband left to be with a much younger women. The problem became obvious in our marriage three years ago. I thought It would be something we would surpass.
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Living Single - Are You Alone In A Cool Way Or Hot Way?
"I don't know why I am doing this. I've never done this until now", he muttered. "That's okay", I said. "That's why I am here. How can I be of help?" "No body calls me." "I am listening", I said. "I feel like no body really cares about me." "Are you talking about the opposite sex, ...
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How To Get Someone You've Been Dating To Commit To A Relationship
If someone asked, "What is the truest expression of love", my answer would be "commitment". Of course the perfect answer would be "dying for another" but the reality is that there aren't that many opportunities for each of us to die for another to demonstrate our love. In terms of love ...
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Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Your Inner Mentor Can Create New Meaning
Dr. Romance writes: Sooner or later all of us question the meaning of life. The sooner we get to it, the better chance we have of finding a satisfactory answer.
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Dear Dr. Romance: How Do I Make Him Understand?
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Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Stop a Stalker?
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Dear Dr. Romance: How Can I Let Him Go?
Dear Dr. Romance: I read "Letting Go Takes Love" and it really spoke to me. I am in a situation and I was wondering if you could give me quick advice. I feel the need to let go of someone because he basically doesn't know what he wants. We have been going back and forth with the issue over a year now.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I Think I'll Be Ete ally Grateful
Thank you, Dear Dr Romance:
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5 Ways to Start Off Your New Relationship on the Right Foot
So you've met a special someone and have started spending a lot of time together. You're realizing that this attraction and connection is turning into a love relationship. This is exciting news but perhaps a little scary as well. Past relationships may have left you feeling hurt and wary of ...
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Dear Dr. Romance: My Parents Are Racists
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Don't Let Jealousy Take Over Your Love Relationship
It usually starts out small—just a twinge of worry or insecurity—and then before you know it grows to such huge proportions it seems like it will never leave. We’re talking about jealousy here. And if you’ve been in the throes of jealous feelings, you probably know what ...
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Dear Dr. Romance: Is he trying to make me jealous?
Dear Dr. Romance: I need your advice. My ex and I broke up a while ago but still talked everyday. Anyways, long story short, I decided I can't talk to him anymore because we both need to change and find out who we are and learn to treat each other better.
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Try a Spark Experiment in Your Marriage or Love Relationship
Reverend Ed Young, founder of a nondenominational church in Texas, made an unusual proposal to his congregation a few months ago. He suggested that married couples in his church make an agreement to have sex with one another every day for seven days. This “sexperiment” was intended ...
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How To Make An Ex Boyfriend or Ex Girlfriend Desire And Fall In Love With You – Tips To Get Me My Ex Back
Anyone can get his or her ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend back into their life again. What matters is your willingness to make the best out your relationship if given a second chance. Yes you surely can get reconciled to your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend that you love no-matter the condition that led to the breakup. What caused the breakup? Did you cheat? Did your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend fall out love and feelings for you? Did your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend find a new lover?
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Dear Dr. Romance: I Feel Like We Have to Sneak Around and Hide
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Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: Give Yourself a Gift
Dr. Romance writes: Want to give yourself a holiday gift that will last the rest of your life? Try giving yourself the gift of happiness. Research shows that happiness and satisfaction depend more on the inner person than on exte al circumstances. The secret to living a happy life is to get in charge of your life and what you are doing. Then you can build the life you want.
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Relationship Trust Advice: How Transparent Do You Have To Be?
Is it possible to be completely transparent in your relationship? In other words, how honest do you consistently need to be with your mate in order to enjoy strong and healthy trust? After all, aren't there times when telling the whole truth is simply unwise? These questions relate to the ...
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Psychological Tips to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back - An Easy Guide
Psychological Tips to Get My Ex Boyfriend Back - An Easy Guide
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Coping with Critics
No one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more recognizable, for along with the lovely feedback, gratitude and complements I get from many people, others feel compelled to criticize, often in a mean way, and often without having even read whatever book or column they’re criticizing.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I Love Him to Death But Can't Find a Solution
Dear Dr. Romance,
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How Likeable Are You? Your Smile Says A Lot
One key area of personal development -- distinct from most other key areas -- that can sometimes be hard to improve is "likeability". But just what is likeability? This is simply the extent to which we are liked because people feel (real or perceived) that we are emotionally open and honest ...
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WATCH FOR THE RED FLAGS
A number of years ago, one of the well-known women’s magazines surveyed divorced women. One question asked was, “Why did you get a divorce?” The answers were--he was lazy, would not work, an alcoholic, on drugs, cheated, was abusive (emotional, physical, sexual, mental, verbal), and many other ...
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Emotional Baggage is the “Stuff” hidden in the closets of your mind
Emotional Baggage is the “Stuff” hidden in the closets of your mind We all have some kind of “Stuff” cluttering our lives. It is so easy for the psychological “Stuff” to accumulate. It can come from childhood disasters, broken relationships, etc. We store this “Stuff” in closets, attics, ...
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Does Your Ex Want You Back Or Are You Being Used?
Occasionally I get calls from men and women who want to know if their ex is using them and before I can even answer, they get into "He/she is really a good person, I really don't think he/she is using me... I guess he/she is looking deep down in his/her heart to find out what he/she really wants ...
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Handling Anxiety Effectively
Handling Anxiety Effectively We are all in a time of high stress, and national disasters often bring up fear. If these fears are not dealt with, they can lead to “acting out” behavior, such as drinking too much or creating relationship, work or money problems as a distraction. To avoid these kinds of problems, follow these simple steps for resolving your fear and anxiety.
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How To Know If My Ex Wants Me Back
How To Know If My Ex Wants Me Back So you want to know if your ex wants you back, this is an article that will help. One detail sure signs your ex wants you back and the other looks at unreliable signs. First off, remember to be nice. You might think that goes without saying, but some people think nagging is the best way to get what they want. It's not. Any nagging, complaining or otherwise acting unpleasant will just remind him of things he wants to get away from. If you make things uncomfortable every time you see him, he'll only want to see you less and less.
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Uncoupling
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Little Girl Lost
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WHY AND HOW DOES THE MAN GET ANGRY?
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Family Violence Q&A
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Dear Dr. Romance: I Just Want a Way to Resolve the Yelling
Dear Dr. Romance: I have been together with my wife for about 3 years now. We have worked on many issues in our marriage and resolved most of them; however, there is still one issue that has not been resolved.
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Handling the Green-Eyed Monster
I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Yesterday, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. "O, beware... of jealousy; it is the green-eyed monster" wrote William Shakespeare in the sixteenth century. In four hundred years, we don't seem to have been able to tame or conquer this monster.
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Getting to Yes
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Dear Dr Romance: I Need a Good Self-Help Book
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Dr. Romance Video: 5 Tips to Move on Emotionally after Divorce
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Dr. Romance: When Love is Kind: Mutuality in Relationships
Dr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together greatly increases the chance that you'll make it as a couple. When I’m counseling couples on the verge of divorce, it’s amazing how establishing mutuality allows the love to come back. Mutuality Prevents Heartache Hundreds of years ago, a Renaissance bard wrote:
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Dear Dr. Romance: He Spends More Time with His Friends Than Me
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Dear Dr. Romance: Should I Date My Girlfriend's Best Friend?
Dear Dr. Romance: I need relationship advice!!!? I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and her best friend who's a girl is also my best friend and I'm very close with the best friend. Me and my girlfriend do fight a lot but there are times where I'm in love with her. And me and the friend have talked about a few times what it would be like if we went out and know it would be good because we have similar interests and sense of humor and trust each other so much. But I dont what to do, so a little advice will help Dr. Romance Replies:
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Dear Dr. Romance: Can you help me save my relationship?
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Relationship Advice For Creating Greater Intimacy
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Dr. Romance Video: Resolving Mother & Sister Fights
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How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex
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The Pain of Love
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What Do You Do With Your Anger?
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How to Reconcile with My Ex Boyfriend, Ex Girlfriend, Ex Wife, Ex Husband
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Listening to Your Inner Voice
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Psychological Tricks to Get An Ex Boyfriend or Girlfriend Back - Tips To Get An Ex Back
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None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional “til death do us part.” Any time we love, whether it’s a life partner, a dear friend, a child, a sibling, a parent or even a beloved pet, we are risking the loss of that love.
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Dear Dr. Romance: What Is Wrong with Me?
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Success in Four Steps
In my private counseling practice, clients often tell me, "I want to be happy!" We then set about making it a reality. As a psychotherapist, I know that your habits, your relationships, your environment, and especially what you think about them determine more about how happy you are than your genes do because I've watched so many people figure out how to meet their goals and create their own happiness. You can improve any part of your life you wish: your relationship with yourself, your relationships with others, your work life, your home life, and even your health.
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Time-outs Aren't Just For Kids!
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Active Listening Improves Communication
How many times have you caught yourself walking away from a conversation feeling satisfied that you pounded your idea home? You knew that the other person was perfectly clear on what it was that you were trying to say. An important concept to remember is that, as Benjamin Franklin said, “A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still.” You may have been very insistent and you may have even persuaded the other person to grudgingly agree that you may be right, but you have not changed their mind one bit.
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Dr. Romance: Detox Your Life
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Dear Dr. Romance: I actually forwarded him the conversation by accident
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Dear Dr. Romance: How should I tell her I have feelings for her
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Dear Dr. Romance: I feel almost embarrassed about being a virgin at my age
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The Fine Art of "Squirrel Hunting"
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4 Things to Know Before Confronting Your Partner About Cheating
Kim vacillates between raging anger and tears. She has lived with the suspicion that her husband was having an affair for almost a year and now she is sure. She has her proof and she wishes it was different. Confronting her husband about his affair-- that's still going on-- is not something that Kim wants to do. At the same time, she can't go on pretending that everything is okay in their marriage anymore. For months she has put on a smile and acted as if nothing has changed, mostly for the sake of their young children.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I want my wife and family back.
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Dear Dr. Romance: My husband's one-night-stand is pregnant
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3 Ways to Handle Your Partner's “Evil” Ex
Julie cannot believe the audacity of her husband Andrew's ex-wife. Julie and Andrew have been married for almost 6 months now and his ex continues to call him asking for favors, e-mail him with news about her family and even drop by their house, usually when Julie is out. It sometimes seems as if Andrew's ex is watching their house to see when Julie leaves and then she conveniently drops by. Julie knows that Andrew has tried to set some boundaries with his ex. She has seen him delete his ex's text messages and e-mails without a reply.
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Tips To Win Back Lost Love
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Nurture the Most Important Relationship You'll Ever Have
Are you in a love relationship or marriage with your soulmate? Have you found “the one” for you? Maybe you haven't yet found “Mr. Right” or “Ms Right” and are trying to attract the relationship of your dreams. If you're in a relationship with someone you love and you want this relationship to stay close and you want it to last, you might be looking for ways that you can keep your connection healthy. If you're not in that perfect-for-you kind of relationship yet, you may still want to learn ways to keep that relationship strong when it does happen.
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Stop the Comparing Game to Stop Jealousy
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Dear Dr. Romance: He Does Holidays with His Ex and Kids
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Creating The Relationship Space He Needs
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6 Femininity Tips for Christmas
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Dear Dr. Romance: From a phone call every day to a dead end.
Dear Dr. Romance: I am new to the entire single scene. Recently I met someone and after a couple of dates, he started to email me with a lot of sexual inquires. I ignored some of it and sometimes I would put a little tease in the reply. When he started getting more vulgar I want this and I want to do this...I emailed him back and told him I was very uncomfortable and wanted to take time to get to know him better.
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Dr. Romance Happiness Tip: A Year of Peace
Dr. Romance writes: Happy New Year, everyone! This is the time when a lot of energy is spent on making resolutions, most of which we don’t manage to keep. So, this year, especially given recent tragic events, I propose a different kind of resolution. Will you join me in resolving to create a year of peace?
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Dear Dr. Romance: twice I have been let down by this man I so love
Dear Dr. Romance: My partner whom I have been in a relationship with for the past year has changed and let me down twice. We were first friends for several years & became a couple for the last year. We both fell in love instantly and desire to live together to build towards a good future, financially, & with family. We both have children from past relationships & are content with it.
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Dr. Romance: Is there a right way to ask for more sex?
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Dear Dr. Romance: Every time we talk, I'm in tears and he's mad.
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How do I know whether or not a man is serious about me?
Many of us have first-handedly experienced that during the acquaintance period of a romantic relationship, the man leads us on, makes empty promises, makes us believe he will down the stars from the sky for us, and he stops at nothing in order to get us in bed with him. Once the particular “first time” occurs, the man’s behavior may change, and we may rightfully be asking, “Is he really serious, or is he just playing games with me?”
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Dr. Romance on Guidelines for Relating with Love
If you're lucky enough to be living with someone else while you're isolating to avoid this virus, you may be having some difficulty with being alone together for more time than you're used to. The following guidelines will help you get along better and perhaps even improve your relationship during the pandemic.
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Dr. Romance on Dating after Loss
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Dear Dr. Romance: She started pushing me away and becoming distant
Dear Dr. Romance: I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two of us and the relationship was going GREAT until recently. She even brought up moving in together this summer and I was all for it.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Does Friends with Benefits Work?
Dear Dr. Romance: I was browsing the net and came across one of your articles "From Friends to Lovers and Back" which I found very interesting as it relates to a situatio I am facing currently.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I don't want to keep making the same mistakes
Dear Dr. Romance: I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't want to keep making the same mistakes! Some people say "be yourself" other say "don't do too much too soon, keep him wondering"...and I am CONFUSED!
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Care For CareGivers
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Dear Dr. Romance: How can I let go of a toxic relationship?
Dear Dr. Romance: I wonder if you have an article that you've written that you can point me too on how to let go of a toxic relationship. I've been involved for 7 months with a man who is continually evasive, avoidant-attachment, manipulative and I need to figure out how to let this go. Dear Reader: Yes, I do. It's a problem many people, especially women, have.
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Self Healing And Protection
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Dear Dr. Romance: He said I was a false friend.
Dear Dr. Romance, I love reading your articles here and on your website and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he wasn't over his ex yet, so I dropped it.
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Why is coitus always the most important for men? Why do they always want THAT?
Among women, this question arises very often and not without reason, since nearly all of us have experienced this phenomenon. Men always want THAT!
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Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like such a damned freak.
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Dr. Romance on Careers in Psychology
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Dear Dr. Romance: I have never met him and he lives in another country
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Dear Dr. Romance: I'm married but I love somebody else
Dear Dr. Romance I really admire how you advise people, please help me too. I'm married and I love my husband very much, but I love somebody else so much I don't know why although people say you can't love 2 people at the same time but I do. coz I love him very much and am jealous with him. He is a married man also and he loves me too, more than his wife. Please tell me what to do coz am confused. Dear Reader:
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Dear Dr. Romance: 2 days later, he tells me he's working it out with his ex
Dear Dr. Romance: I met someone from online and we talked for a night and we met that night and one thing led to another and as it turns out he wanted to see me again.2 days later he tells me that hes trying to work this out with his ex wife. How do I not go into that situation? This is the second time it's happened to me. I've never been married and I just got out out of a violent relationship so I don't know what to do? Dear Reader:
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Dr. Romance on Friends in Need: Interventions for Domestic Violence
Last month, Dr. Romance received the following letter from a reader:
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Dr Romance: 3 Tips to Living with Someone instead of Marriage
Dr Romance’s 3 tips for living with someone instead of marriage: It's way too easy, in the throes of a new romance, to decide to live together without considering the problems that might arise. Dr. Romance gives you some things to think about before making the leap, to guarantee success.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I would be honored and privileged if I could end up marrying her.
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Dr. Romance: 3 Ways to Ruin Your Relationship
Especially during trying times like isolation, relationships can be devastated by simple, thoughtless things. Bad behavior will ruin your marriage faster than any temptation from the outside. Dr. Romance points out the worst mistakes to make in a marriage. Dr. Romance's 3 ways to ruin your relationship:
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Dear Dr. Romance: I am a married man infatuated with a coworker half my age
Dear Dr. Romance: I am a happily married man in my mid-forties with 2 small kids who has become overwhelmingly infatuated with a 22 year old co-worker. She is friendly but certainly not coquettish and there is no suggestion she reciprocates. I have no intention of trying to pursue a personal relationship with her.
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Dr. Romance on Finding Love During Quarantine
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Dear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older tha I am. We've been in contact for several months. We now live in different countries. Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me. We planned to meet up in another country. But he was suddenly never online and never contacted me even by email. I was really devastated.
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Dear Dr. Romance: It is your Christian duty to forgive
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How to avoid becoming servants… and the mystery of lost socks.
As women, we may often think, that by completing all the chores at home, we are embodying the essence of femininity, and in spite of all the running around, we receive no appreciation, and still lack happiness. The answer is very simple. A positive opinion of a woman does not correlate to the amount of work she completes, but much more to the extent of how well she is able to hold space for her feminine roles and qualities.
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Dr. Romance on Ten Things People Don't Know about Therapy
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Dear Dr. Romance: What I fear has happened the second time round
Dear Dr. Romance: I hope you can help me. My boyfriend passed away two years back... We were pretty much engaged, living together and everything. I thought i was over the whole thing, but now I know I'm not. A month back, or so.. i was seeing a man, and today i found out he had passed away. He reminded me so much of my late, they shared the same name, just second name being different. In the grieving process, I'm feeling the loss of both. And my late especially.
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Dear Dr. Romance: My ex is a great person, but a spoiled brat.
Dear Dr. Romance: I saw your website and decided to write you via e-mail. The reason being is that my love for the past three years has left me and I now am trying to afford the house and dogs and everything else we bought together with one income.
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Dr. Romance: Is it normal to argue with your spouse about your kids?
Dr. Romance: It is not necessary to argue about parenting your kids. Couples usually argue about how their parents raised them, and they want to do the same (or the opposite) of what their parents did. How Not to Pass Your Family Dysfunction on to your kids:
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Dear Dr. Romance: she wanted to still be friends
Dear Dr. Romance: I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying not to appear creepy and such. Luckily, she wanted more than friendship and we briefly dated (maybe a month), until she told me that she "didn't want to go out with with anyone".
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Dr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love
Dr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love:
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Dr. Romance: How to Apologize
Uh-oh. You messed up, and now your boyfriend, relative or best friend is really mad at you. Do you even know why? Dr. Romance explains how to figure out what's wrong and resolve the anger. Dr. Romance’s 4 Steps: How to apologize
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Dear Dr. Romance: I don't think I want to be in this relationship after all
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The secret to femininity
It may be that we spend our entire lives searching for the secret to femininity in various magazines, articles, or in girlfriends and celebrities, without even thinking to look inside our own selves a little bit. Yet, in doing so, we would in fact discover significant wonders. The secret to femininity is actually not separate from us, it is not mysterious or at all unattainable, no matter how much it seems to be. Then how does this really work?
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Self Healing And Protection
A divine healing and protection process. Close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Sit in Gyan Mudra. Focus on the tip of your head. You will experience divine sensations. It can be a cold sensation, warm sensation, or tickling sensations. Just focus on it and feel / visualize a divine white mist, white light is entering from the tip of your head and spreading all over your body. This divine mist light is entering your system — all organs and glands. Balancing the hormones, cleaning and healing each tissue and cells of your body.r
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Healing Earth
Healing Earth Together At 7:00 PM EveryDay. How we do it? Healing Processr Take 2 deep breathsr Attitude of gratituder I thanks myself for being herer I thanks Energy Healing for being herer I thanks Father Mikao Usui for being herer I thanks Archangels’ Michael, Raphael and Ariel for being herer I thanks all Spiritual Guides for being herer Do self-protection. Imagine yourself in white light of god and affirm 3 times “I’m completely safe, sealed and protected in this white light of god for 24 hours and I’m also receiving all necessary healing for my self”r
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Dear Dr. Romance: Perhaps we should have ended it sooner
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Dr. Romance: 5 tips to moving on emotionally after divorce
Going through a divorce is devastating. You not only lose the marriage and break up your family; you also lose all the hopes and dreams you had for happiness here. Dr. Romance helps you to pick yourself up from the rubble and move on emotionally.
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How To Make An Ex Love Want You Again - How To Make An Ex Girlfriend Fall In Love With You Again
How to make an ex love want you again; If you find out that your girlfriend has dumped you for another guy it can be pretty painful. You have to wonder what made her do it and you have the right to know. But you need to find the answer the right way, do not confront her or her new boyfriend with an attitude because all you will accomplish is more anger and a lost chance to get her back.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Is He Cheating On Me?
Dear Dr. Romance: Is he cheating on me? Or am I just being paranoid? Me and my bf have been together for 15 months now. A couple of weeks ago we broke up and then got back together after a week. When we broke up he kept texting me, asking “Are u happy?” and stuff.
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Magnified Healing In Delhi India
A wonderful healing technique, where you connect yourself with the source, the universe and too the center of the earth through all the spiritual center by establishing a constant flow of energy. You Will Learn: Meditation for empowerment, Self & Others Healing, Distant Healing, Absent Healing, Healing the Earth, Healing of karma And Many More.. For more details contact at 9899201645, 9911401645 or Visit
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Dear Dr. Romance: I believe he is a good man at heart
Dear Dr. Romance: My husband left to be with a much younger women. The problem became obvious in our marriage 3 years ago. I thought It would be something we would surpass.
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We ought to Seize the Generous Spirit of the Holidays to Narrow the Gap Between Our Differences
Despite the festive mood of this precious time of year, the news, of chaos and turmoil that are attempting to spread their wings of doom upon our world, may lead one to be cynical pertinent to acquiring a jovial attitude in celebrating Christmas and the New Year. Nevertheless, we need to perceive it as an opportunity for reflection and a chance for a renewal of our hopes and aspirations.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Do I tell him I can't be his friend or let silence speak for itself?
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Dear Dr. Romance: What behavior does a control freak have?
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How To Be Friends With Your Ex - Can You Be Friends With Your Ex Boyfriend-Ex Girlfriend You Still Love
How to be friends with your ex; Yes a break up is a hard thing to deal with, especially if you had been with your ex for a long time. You have developed a relationship you thought was strong and now you find yourself on your own. You may have an unfilled feeling inside you and your brain does not understand things right now. Can you be friends with your ex boyfriend-ex girlfriend; A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.
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Dear Dr. Romance: My sisters are now calling me 'The Black Widow'
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Dear Dr. Romance: I love him to death but if I can't find a solution
Dear Dr. Romance, My name is Michelle i am 18 years old.. I was reading "How Not to Fight"; and everything that you talked about not doing during a fight I tend to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and we tend to fight a lot about the smallest things that you could possibly imagine. I am usually the one who doesn't blow up or yell. I tend to hold everything in, but I do cry a lot.
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Dr. Romance on Self-Reliance and Independence
"As the price of liberty is vigilance -- so the price of independence is self-determination, the price of dignity is self-assertion, and the price of respect is self-respect," wrote psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Szasz.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I can't decide if she's as in to me as I am her
Dear Dr. Romance: My situation is different that some. See I have only been in 2 relationships, but they were really long term. My first I was 16 till I was 21. Second from 22 till 26 years old. Both of those relationships were an on off kind of relationship. So inbetween the ons and off, let's say I was a bit promiscuous. I never had a problem getting a girl, but I never really liked a girl, I thought they were cute, and just wanted to have sex. So that's a basic sum of my past, thought it might help.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I dont know what bipolar is but I wonder about him.
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Dear Dr. Romance: she slapped my face and departed
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Dr. Romance on how to keep your marriage safe from infidelity
Infidelity can be devastating to a marriage. While couples can recover, it is far better to never have cheating in the first place. Here's how to "cheat-proof" your marriage, and head off problems before they begin. Dr. Romance on how to keep your marriage safe from infidelity
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Dear Dr. Romance: I've always been asked out
Dear Dr Romance : I just read about you and some articles you wrote about Age Differences in Relationships and really enjoyed what you had to say and how you said it.
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Dear Dr. Romance: "Love advice would be greatly appreciated!"
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Dear Dr. Romance: Does Viagra give him Insomnia?
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Dear Dr. Romance: I feel like I am a maid and a sex toy not a wife
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Dear Dr.Romance: She doesn't believe that I'm trying to find a job
Dear Dr. Romance: My wife she wil get angry very easily. Even for simple things she gets very angry. She always tells me to leave her and she wants to live her family especially with her mother. She tells me she doesn't want to live and mostly she hurts her self. The biggest problem is my job. I earn very small salary and I'm trying to get a good job but she doesn't believe that I'm trying to find a job Dear Reader:
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Does My Ex Miss Me? Does My Ex Boyfriend - Ex Girlfriend Think About Me - Advice Ideas
Does my ex miss me? So, how do you get your guy or girl back after a break up? How can you convince him or her that coming back to you is in his best interests because of the great relationship the two of once had? Now, do you realize why the two of broke up and that you both are most likely to blame? The fault can go both ways regardless of the reason. Does my ex boyfriend-ex girlfriend think about me; A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.
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Chances Of Getting Back Together After A Break Up - Does Ex Want To Get Back Together - Guide Me
Chances of getting back together after a break up; When you have been dumped by your girlfriend you may feel like you need to get her back right away or you will lose them forever. This is the wrong decision to take because your ex does not want to hear from you now. She left to get away from you and if you are running after her then she will get further away from you. What you need is a verified plan to get her back.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I just want my husband and best friend back
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What Is My Ex Boyfriend Thinking - How To Convince Your Ex Boyfriend To Take You Back - Everything Guide
What is my ex boyfriend thinking; You have broken up with your boyfriend a few weeks ago. You have not talked to him at all during that time and you have been thinking that you would like to get back together with him. At this point do you know how to go about it? If not, you are in the best part, this is something that is not familiar knowledge and many people struggle with how to get their ex back.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I have been hit, controlled and manuipulated (by husband and in-laws)
Dear Dr. Romance: I am writing to you for some advice... I hope you can help.
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Dr.Romance on: Resolving Family Fights
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The Actual Hidden Meaning of Some English Phrases That We Often Say But We Never Mean
Few days ago, an acquaintance of mine uttered the phrase “We will keep in touch” before leaving. The tone of his voice and the expressions on his face indicated that he has no intention of ever contacting me and he wishes that I would do the same. That led me to take a moment and flash back to my previous encounters with some of my acquaintances. To my surprise, I discovered that neither those who uttered the phrase nor I kept in touch with each other..
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Dr. Romance on Patterns of Change
Dr. Romance writes: I’ve been dealing with a lot of unwanted changes, and it’s not easy. Losses, disappointments, changes – we all struggle when life doesn’t go our way. Why is it so hard to handle change? Then there are the changes we want to make, fight hard to make – losing weight, giving up smoking, being more organized. Why is it so hard to create change?
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Dr. Romance on: Apology and Forgiveness
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Dear Dr. Romance: I regret not telling her how I felt
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The Harmonization of both Chinese and Western Cultures
Few days ago, after thanking one of my students for helping me to accomplish a teaching task, I was surprised by, yet proud of, her graceful response. The genuine exchange occurred naturally without any pretentiousness from either my student or I. I uttered the words of gratitude “Thank you for helping me” And she gracefully and eloquently responded “It was my pleasure”. That minor incident prompted me to flash back to my first year in China. Back then, whenever I expressed by gratitude for services rendered, I received no response or the words “No thanks”.
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How To Get Him Back - Letter To Ex Boyfriend - Ex Girlfriend To Get Him Back
How to get him back; How many time have you asked yourself "why would I want to get my ex back" after having separated or maybe broke up with someone. You are finding it hard to let them go hoping someday you can get back together with them. Have you gravely asked yourself why you would want to get back with your ex? Have you careful that maybe it would be best to move on? Letter to ex boyfriend-ex girlfriend to get him back; A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.
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Is My Ex Boyfriend Thinking Ðbout Me?
will my ex boyfriend come back to me Is My Ex Thinking Ðbout Me? – The signs In case you're pondering about whether your ex is contemplating you or wants to get back with you, use these signs to know the truth. Be that as it may, at the end of the day, do 't use it as an excuse to get back together. Practically always, failed romances never do work out a moment time around.
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Dr. Romance on How Not to be Shy at a Party
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Dear Dr. Romance: What Causes One To Constantly Sabotage Oneself?
Dear Dr. Romance: What causes one to constantly sabotage oneself? Why would someone constantly put up their own roadblocks? Dear Reader:
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Dear Dr. Romance: I have lost the umph for even planning the wedding
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Dear Dr. Romance: He's simply taking advantage of my affections for him
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Dear Dr. Romance: I want some peaceful and happy years of my life
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Dear Dr. Romance: Is this unhealthy and what should I do about it?
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Dr. Romance on Learning Forgiveness
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Dear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist
Dear Dr. Romance: I am considering being a licensed psychotherapist. What was your education track if I may ask? Dear Reader:
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Dr. Romance On Infidelity -- Stay or Go?
Discovering your partner has been unfaithful is a shock. Your first instinct may be to run, but if you have a shared history, children and finances, you may wonder – should you stay or go? Dr. Romance shows you how to decide.
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Dear Dr. Romance: How can I resume my initial romance with my wife?
Dear Dr. Romance: I am a male Kenyan, married with 2 daughter. Of late, have totally lost urge for sex and it can only appear once per week though a weak one. Outside affair is a norm in my religion, but whenever I site a beautiful lady suddenly the mind switches to sex and I go to an extent of hooking her and talking on sex,though have never had sex outside marriage. Kindly advise me on how I can resume my initial romance with my wife.am very embarassed.
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What To Do When You Want Your Ex Boyfriend Back - How To Get Ex Boyfriend Back After A Long Time
What to do when you want your ex boyfriend back; Do you miss your ex boyfriend after breaking up? Are you wondering what you are going to do about getting him back? There are many women who have said "I miss my boyfriend" and never did anything about it. If they had only made an effort to get them back they may have had success. How to get ex boyfriend back after a long time; A complete solution to get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Why doesn't he want me?
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Dear Dr. Romance: My parents are racists
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Dear Dr. Romance: She runs my life like a prison
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Dear Dr. Romance: I keep telling him not to push me.
Dear Dr. Romance: I find your articles very interesting. I have a minor problem with my husband. he keeps telling me that I don't listen and that I am stubborn. I admit my mind goes blank sometimes because he expects a lot from me and treats me like a teenager. I keep telling him not to push me.
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Trump Found an Easy Formula to Govern, Destroy Obama's Legacy
A close look at the life of president Trump, one will come to a definite conclusion that he is a goal-oriented person. He would impulsively pursue an objective, regardless of its feasibility, and does not rest until he achieves it. After the election of Barack Obama, he found a new goal in life, which was removing Obama from office. To achieve his objective, Trump established the Birther movement through which he fought fiercely to prove that Obama had no right to become president of America since he allegedly was not born in the USA.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I can't find a way to talk to him
Dear Dr. Romance: K so there is a guy in one of my classes that I kinda like but he doesn't know me. I can't find a way to talk to him cause I can't ask him to help me with a question cause he is in front and it would look obvious asking him when there are so many smart people around me. We are always doing work in that class so there is no talking time and he leaves the class as soon as the bell rings. So what do I do? Dear Reader:
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My Ex Won't Talk To Me - How To Get Your Ex Back-My Boyfriend Left Me And I Want Him Back - Relational Skills
My ex won't talk to me;Do you have an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend you want to get back? You have already been trying different things to convince him to come back to you with no accomplishment. My boyfriend left me and i want him back;Perhaps you endeavor the system of pleading or insistent for him get back together with you. I believe I can carefully estimate that this process did not work out and may have pushed him further from you.
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Dr. Romance On Your Heart's Desire
Your heart's desire -- what could it be? So many people, including many of my clients, are searching to know what it is would satisfy them, to give their lives focus and direction.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Should she tell the man she's in love with him?
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Mastering the Art of Communication
Without stating the obvious, communication is the fundamental element of any interactions between human beings. It is the backbone of a successful relationship either it is a marriage, a friendship or a partnership. No one can deny the fact that it is an essential ingredient in establishing a lucrative business. We may wish to explore the reasons behind our needs to communicate. One of the main incentives or motivation to communicate is the fact that we refer to communication to satisfy our daily needs.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I'm just wondering what I can do for him to like me
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Dr. Romance on Handling The Green-eyed Monster
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Dear Dr. Romance: I don't know if this is retaliation
Dear Dr. Romance: I recently read "The One Who Got Away." While my situation doesn't parallel the situations you described in the article, it's very similar.
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The One Who Got Away
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Dear Dr. Romance: I was tired of being his 'booty call'
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How To Get My Ex Back - How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend-Ex Girlfriend Back Through Text
How to get my ex back; Have you gone through a break up and feel like you went through a storm? It happened so fast you could hardly understand what was going on. The break up started before you had a chance to try and stop it, and now you are trying to think of a way you can win your love back. How to get your ex boyfriend-ex girlfriend back through text; A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Please help, our family is growing apart
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Dear Dr. Romance: I am not sure if I am considered his "girlfriend."
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How To Tell Your Ex Boyfriend You Still Love Him - Words To Win Him Back - Fresh Ideas
How to tell your ex boyfriend you still love him; Has your boyfriend left you for another girl? Who is she and how did she manage to steal Him away from you? Could it be possible she's had her eye on him for some time and decided she was more deserving of him than you? Now you want to get him back and you are trying to figure out the best way to go about it. Words to win him back-fresh ideas; A complete solution to help you get your ex back into your life is provided at the end of this write-up (Author's Bio), meanwhile let's build the foundation.
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Dear Dr. Romance: What is wrong with me?
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Dear Dr. Romance: It's tough because we work together and I see her everyday
Dear Dr. Romance: I ran across the post from the man who was being "patient" with the wounded woman who kept projecting her thought and blowing him off. I thought it was so close to my situation, it blew me away.
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Dr. Romance on Your Job on Earth
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How To Avoid Loving a Jerk
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Dear Dr. Romance: Should I give up on his love?
Dear Dr. Romance: We'd been really close and intimate. I thought we were going to be in a special relationship soon because he told me we were having something special. No matter how tired he was, he'd had his dinner with me.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Why does he want a relationship?
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How To Help Your Child To Manage Stress And Reduce Anxiety!
While you may think childhood was a carefree period of your life, the same thing does not hold true for children nowadays. Stress is a condition everybody suffers, be it adults or children. If we talk about children, they will need exte al help to deal with and manage their stress as they may not even know they are going through any problem. As cliché as it may sound, your child is your joy and responsibility as well. You are the first person who can recognize if your child is troubled, anxious or going through some stress.
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Dr. Romance on Attitude Adjustment
Dr. Romance writes: I have blogged before about emotional hygiene, and doing the necessary maintenance on feelings as well as your physical body and household. Health reminders tell us to wash our hands frequently to prevent transmittal of diseases. Did you know you can “wash” your mood, too, and give yourself an attitude adjustment whenever you want to?
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Dear Dr. Romance: the thought of seeing him have sex with other women bothers me a lot
Dear Dr. Romance: I am a bipolar woman with emotional problems. These problems seem to manifest most lately with my boyfriend whom I tend to blame for everything. I feel super insecure when we are out and he notices other women. He taught me a lot about sexuality and commented constantly about other females and tried to entice me into threesomes, or at least get me interested in having one.
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Dear Dr. Romance: He wants me to wait on him hand and foot.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I sabotaged the relationship because I was afraid
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Age Differences in Dating
Dr. Romance gets a lot of letters about older women dating younger men, which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don't find it so unusual.
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Simplifying the Conceptual Art of Writing
“Give a person a fish and he/she will eat a meal, teaches him/her how to fish, he/she will eat for life” Few weeks ago, I began to contemplate about the above adage when my students expressed their inability to grasp the concept of English writing. Their fear of failing their English writing exams aroused my curiosity and led me to venture into the task of simplifying the process of composing a stimulating and thought provoking piece of penmanship.
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The Good Boss and the Bad Boss: Motivation and How to Create It
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Dear Dr. Romance: He is selfish and controlling
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On Mother’s Day This Year, Women Embarked upo Route of Enlightenment
Every year, on Mother’s Day, I write an article to emphasize the major and essential role that women play in sustaining the survival of the human race. However, this year, in the era of #Me too movement, I am compelled to focus on the women’s achievements during the last couple of years. On Mother’s Day this year, Sunday, May 12th, women have the opportunity to celebrate their route to enlightenment.
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Dr. Romance on Handling The Green-eyed Monster
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Dr. Romance: When Therapy Isn’t Working
Dr. Romance writes: As a therapist, I have worked with many clients who had been going to a previous therapist for years, and getting nowhere. Some therapists just listen and sympathize, but will not challenge a client to move through and past trauma and stuck places. If talking to friends and family, or even your therapist, doesn’t help you move on past old traumas, let go of toxic relationships, or move through your grief and emotional pain, it’s time to get some effective therapy.
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Dr. Romance on Creating Unconditional Love
Dr. Romance writes: Love, commitment and relationships seem to be in disfavor these days. I'm seeing a lot of articles and TV shows saying love doesn't last, so why bother. No matter what the media is saying, I believe that all of us want to be loved, and I know from experience that a relationship can work, and that a great partnership is a joy not to be missed.
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Dear Dr. Romance: Can I ask her to give up her job?
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Dear Dr. Romance: I am not needy but I am very picky
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Dear Dr. Romance: I catch him looking at me with passion in his eyes
Dear Dr. Romance: As a woman in my early twenties, I am finding it hard to get over a man with whom i have been in love with for 5 years. He is married now to another woman and they are about to have their first child. Seven years ago, I joined a church choir where i met this man. He gives me and some other choir members car ride every Saturday and Sunday to church.
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Dear Dr Romance: How do you dump someone without hurting them?
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Dr. Romance on The Meaning of Life
Dr. Romance writes: A seeker goes to Nepal and climbs into the Himalayas to find a teacher, a guru he’s heard about. After months of searching and struggle, he finds the famous man, and asks his burning question: "What is the meaning of life?" "The meaning of life is a bridge," replies the wise man.
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Dear Dr. Romance: I think I'll be ete ally grateful
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Dear Dr. Romance: I caught tremendous flak from co-workers
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Dr. Romance on Setting Boundaries and Saying No
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Dear Dr. Romance: Incomparable?
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Dr. Romance on Coping with Critics
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Being a Stimulating Communicator or an Effective conversationalis
I am often asked by my students the following question: “How can one become an effective and a stimulating conversationalist?”. My response was and still is the same “One must fathom the essence of a conversation and its main components.” After contemplation, I felt compelled to write this article to discuss the topic aspiring that it would be helpful for those who are seeking enlightenment about being excellent communicators.
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Should A Woman Say Yes to Sex Every Time?
I remember hearing years ago from a man I studied with, that he and his wife had an agreement: she was to say "yes" to him every time he wanted sex. It was the condition for the fulfillment of their monogamy promise. "If you want me to only have sex with you, then you need to provide for and take care of my need for sex."
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Do Women Have An Agenda?
Oh, yes they do! Now, let’s see how this works. I understand that it is a generalization, but we are generally either men or women, so this would apply to all of us to a larger or smaller degree whether we are aware of it or not. Everyone knows what a man’s agenda is, at least at the beginning of a “romantic” relationship. It’s sex, loud and clear. We men of course will not admit it out loud, but that’s what we dream of when we encounter a woman we “like”. Women know that as well and they use it, consciously or not, to attract men.
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Christian Marriage Revealed
1. The Christian marriage is revealed in the creation of man– In the second chapter of the Bible we find God’s purpose regarding the marriage union. In Genesis 2:7 we read, “The LORD God formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.” The term “breath of life” in the Hebrew is actually translated the “breath of lives.” When God breathed life into Adam He also imparted the essence of Eve’s life as well. 2.
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Young Adult Children: Emptying The Nest
Bill finished college, found a job, but really did not have the money to handle all of the living alone costs of a single adult … and have a social life at the same time, so he moved home with his folks. Joe and Patsy love retirement. Joe was 2 years into retirement, Patsy 6 months, when their daughter Sara’s husband left her and their two young children. Sara had not been working while the children were young and her child support could not begin to cover housing and child care expenses.
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Internet Safety Tips to Protect Your Relationships
Internet safety has increasingly become a significant issue in the area of relationships. A common and obvious threat to your home and relationships is the subject of pornography. Pornographic material from the internet comes in two ways: solicited and unsolicited. Unsolicited material is sent to your inbox. An estimated 30 % of the unsolicited emails sent to the over 30 million users is pornographic or racist in nature. Solicited material is something a computer user seeks. There are over 70,000 pornographic sites that are available online.
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3 Reasons Why Keeping Score is Good for Your Relationship
You’ve been told it’s death to your relationship but I’m going to give you three reasons why, when done right, keeping score is good for your relationship. 1. It’s a human nature “lemon” so you might as well make lemonade. Mother Teresa and Gandhi aside, we all keep score. It’s human nature to notice if your sweetheart has AGAIN “forgotten” to call, left dirty dishes in the sink, embarrassed you, hurt your feelings, broken a promise, “won” the argument, or bestowed bragging rights with a fabulous gift or an out-of-the-ballpark home run of thoughtfulness.
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Relationships That Call You To Rise! The Possibility of Relationship
In our workshops, we'll ask participants: "How many of you would sign up for a class on relationships taught by your parents?". Once in a while, a hand goes up, but it's a rare sight. Yet, that very class, taught by none other than their parents, was the first, and for most people only, class they ever took on relationships.
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What to Do When Your Friend Is Suicidal
The last couple weeks we’ve been talking about the important topic of suicide. In the United States, it’s the 10th leading cause of death. The strongest risk factor is depression. Chances are that you have had or will have a friend who is at risk. You may be reluctant to talk to him about his problems, but there are things you can say and do to help. Taking action is almost always the best course. First, ask questions.
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SwingLifeStyle: A Site For All Your Swinging Needs
Whether you have in the swinging lifestyle for a while or you are just curious about the lifestyle, SwingLifeStyle is for you. It will immerse you into the culture thanks to the thousands of members, as well as their blog, forums, stories, and much more. By joining the website you will get access to everything and everyone the site has to offer. Ability To Connect With Other Members
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Top reasons to tell your wife that you have betrayed her
Morality is inbuilt in every individual, but sometimes, due to various exte al pressures and temptations, you will be compelled to say a big blatant NO to ethical values and moral sciences. It will be only one night, but the mistake which you have committed for that small span of time may haunt you for ever, and some times, it may even start affecting the quality of your life. You will surely feel the heat of guilt from the feet, and it may burn your whole body and will start affecting the brain in a quite adverse manner.
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How to Quit Enabling
Last week I talked about how easy it is to be caught up in a destructive cycle of enabling someone you love. You may have begun by trying to help. You covered up or filled in for someone who let his responsibilities slide due to dysfunctional behavior—often addition. Over time you got stuck in a downward spiral of behavior in which you were constantly trying to fix someone else’s problems to the detriment of your own life.
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Swinging Can Be A Great Way to Strengthen Your Relationship
In recent years, the standard perception of relationships has completely changed. Modern relationships are completely different from what they were some years ago. In the modern world, people have many different mindsets, and therefore, take relationships very casually. Divorce rates have substantially increased, and many people have been involved in other lifestyle options like swinging and open marriages.
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Great Gift Ideas For Mothers Day For Your Wife
If you are among the fortunate ones who’s blessed with a caring, loving and extremely warm wife, who has recently given birth to her and yours first baby, then you must be looking for ways to thank her with some sweet gestures on upcoming Mother's day. Since her kid is too young to even understand the meaning of mother, it’s your duty to make the very first Mother’s day of your wife not only fulfilling, but also meaningful with lots of lasting memories.
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Great Habits that Build Happy Relationships
The habits you develop can have a powerful impact on your relationship with your partner. But all habits take a bit of work to incorporate into your life. Luckily you have great motivation: A happy relationship. Visualize yourself and your partner living together harmoniously. Take baby steps to improve your behavior, and if at first you don’t succeed, try again and again until you have changed for the better. Here are some habits to cultivate for a sustainable, happy relationship:
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Can You Be Happy in a Sexless Relationship?
If you have a happy, stable, fun, loving marriage, you should count your blessings, right? Right. But what if that marriage is happy, stable, fun and loving without sex? Would you still count your blessings? In other words, can couples be happy without sex? The answer is, it depends. People have different tolerances and needs. It reminds me of the old Woody Allen movie in which the therapist asks a couple how often they have sex. They reply simultaneously. The wife says, “Constantly. Three times a week.” The husband says, “Almost never. Three times a week.”
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Coping Strategies After a Loved One's Suicide
If you have experienced the loss of a loved one by suicide, you have a challenging journey ahead of you. Not only do you suffer heart wrenching grief from your loss, but also from the fact that she chose to take her own life. You may wonder if you could have done something to prevent it. You may feel guilty and blame yourself. You may be angry that she abandoned you. Don’t be surprised if you experience a whole range of emotions. When you are ready to accept the tragedy and begin to heal, here are a few suggestions that may help.
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New Year’s Resolutions for You and Your Partner
A happy relationship takes a little thought. I hesitate to quote the cliché that you have to work at your relationship—it sounds so onerous. And it’s really not work to make an effort—it’s an investment of time and energy to make your relationship as great as it can be. Here are a few resolutions you might want to try:
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Is It Time to See a Therapist?
About one in four Americans is affected by a mental disorder in a given year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. How many of those seek help from a mental health professional? Not nearly enough. So quite a few people suffer who might not have to if they sought help. But how do you know when it makes sense to check your fear and misgivings at the door and open up to a professional? Everyone has grief and stress and conflict in their lives. Often with very good reason. A certain amount is entirely normal. So how do you know when it makes sense to seek therapy?
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A Successful Marriage is Your Responsibility
The beginning of marriage relationship is usually very sweet for most couples. During this period their expectation is high in terms of positive achievements in their profession, business and having a happy marriage generally. But, subsequently if there is any little set back or challenge, things will begin to fall apart sooner than they had expected. Instead of either of them to ask, "What is the problem with our relationship and how do we move on?" They will be asking, is this all there is to marriage? Is this all there is to life?
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Atlanta Swingers Clubs - The Best Place To Explore Your Swinging Sexual Desires
Needles to say, the trend of swinging lifestyle, often referred to as wife swapping is increasing virtually all over the world. Atlanta swingers have a huge following and since most couples start feeling monotonous having sex with each other in the same manner, they decide to explore different sexual fantasies and desires by opting for this lifestyle. In fact, this alte ative lifestyle is becoming mainstream in most developed, as well as developing countries. The attraction to adopt the swinging lifestyle has a lot to do with the excitement of different variety of sexual encounters.
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5 Habits Happy Couples Have
It’s important to develop healthy habits of all kinds, and that includes habits that have an impact on your relationship with your spouse. At first, you may have to make an effort to practice positive habits, but after awhile they become part of your routine. It takes about 21 days to establish a habit, good or bad. So why not make a conscious effort to develop good ones that will contribute to your happy relationship? Here are a few suggestions:
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In the Holiday Spirit, or Maybe Not!
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The Infe al Affair: Are You Caught Up in One?
Most Americans think adultery is wrong. Almost 90 percent of men and 94 percent of women think it’s always wrong or almost always wrong. But many of those people have extra-marital affairs anyway. One of the most reliable sources for statistics is the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago whose 1992 study found that a quarter of married men and one-sixth of married women in the United States have had at least one extra-marital affair. Many experts now estimate a higher percentage. Why do so many people do it? Especially when they think it’s wrong?
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The Negative Effects of Finances on Relationships
It is true what they say, money is the root of all evil, but just like guns, it's the people that give these items the power. Finance within a relationship can result in such profound pressure that the initial feelings of love and romance become a far gone memory. The worst part has to be that financial pressure creeps in through many different cracks. In some cases the partner is to blame, and in other scenarios both fall victim to what can be considered reckless spending. Keep in mind that sometimes forces of nature like losing a job or falling ill can also attribute to the problem.
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By Michael Fehlauer Long-term healthy relationships are possible. There are fundamental skills, as well as a perspective in the way we approach our relationships, that enable us to experience solid friendships. The people we allow into our world either add to our lives or subtract from our lives. What are the characteristics of the type of friends that add to us? Here are six attributes of great friends: 1. They allow the friendship to be governed by the law of love – Three characteristics of love are acceptance, understanding and commitment.
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If you've always been involved in just normal sexual activities, you may be unaware of the number of sexual fetishes that exist. In fact, you may not have any idea how widely these fetishes are used. Usually, fetishes are something which you execute a lot of times, take delight in observing them or indulge in them with your love to acquire a heightened state of arousal. A sexual fetish can be a preoccupation in your mind specifically associated with various products like heels, lingerie etc., body parts like navel, feet, hair etc. or sexual positions.
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Letting Go Can Be Good. You Can Quote Me!
A friend always takes herself out to lunch on her birthday. By herself. She’s been doing this since she was a young girl. It’s a good time to contemplate what you want for yourself in the year ahead. But a good life is not always about what you acquire. It can also be about what you shed. You might want to think about what you don’t want—what you want to let go of so you can live a happier life. Here are some ideas:
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From Apology to Forgiveness: Healing and Reconnecting
Every relationship suffers from moments of disappointment. He brushes you off when you’re opening your heart to him. She is always late and makes you wait for her. And these are just the small things—not nearly as painful as infidelity, for example. But the small things add up and pretty soon resentment enters into your relationship.
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Five Ways to Get Rid of Your Victim Mentality
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Abraham Lincoln did not attend his father’s funeral. When Abe was nine years old, his father, Thomas, left him and his sister for six months in their backwoods cabin in the charge of their 20-year-old cousin, Dennis Hanks. During that time, they often went hungry and barely scraped by. Later, when Abe became interested in learning, Thomas ridiculed his studies. When Abe sometimes neglected farm work to read, his father beat him. He also beat him for other minor infractions, although it’s useful to remember that kind of punishment was common back then.
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Five Ways to Protect Yourself from Emotional Manipulators
For the last few weeks I’ve been talking about emotional manipulators and the tactics they use to control you. The devastation these emotional predators can cause in your life is insidious and serious. These people can wear you down until you are a depressed, defeated shadow of the person you once were. That’s why it’s important to recognize the tactics they use to dominate you and to set strict boundaries to protect yourself from them.
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Why Do We Lie to the Ones We Love?
We don’t want to lie. We love our partner. We understand a good relationship is built on trust, and that trust depends on our honesty. But sometimes we lie anyway. Why do we do it? For one thing, we’re not perfect. Our partners expect certain behavior from us (and we from them) and when we fail—because nobody’s perfect—we lie about it. What are our choices? We can tell our partners that we didn’t live up to their expectations, and that would disappoint them. Make them feel bad, and we’d feel bad too. We don’t want to do that so we make something up that’s a more acceptable story. We lie.r
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"As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral... As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product."rn~Sara Paddin Hidden Power of the Heart Love and romance are in the air along with spring's promise of newness. Whether in a relationship or single and seeking - now is the time to learn how to make it a luscious love affair. It's so exciting!
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FEAR OF LONG TERM COMMITMENT? THE SHORT TERM COMMITMENT SOLUTION Dear Renee I have a fear of long term commitment. I’m still building my career and I find most women want me to make long term plans. I’m not a player but making a life long commitment scares me. I’m not ready for marriage right now and yet I want to be intimate with the woman I date. Do I have a problem? Help! Any suggestions? Dear fear of commitment, You do not have a problem …you are clear on your current phase in life! You are building your career and long term is not right for you right now!
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Once upon a time there was a great nation. It led the world in democracy, innovation and apple pie. It preached decency, family values and personal freedom. It helped smaller nations, promoted free enterprise and encouraged individuals to be the best they could be. It was loved; it was respected; it was admired. Its name was America. How do you begin to revitalize a nation that’s been brought to its knees? How do you change a collective mindset cemented by centuries of dysfunction? You look at the symptoms, find the underlying cause and correct the problem at source.
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The Top Seven Ways to Flatter Your Man
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Is He Dating other Women?
Dear Renee (Love Mechanic), I met a man at one of your Rapid Social events and I wanted your advice. Is there any way to find out if he is been seeing or dating other women with our scaring him away? He calls me regularly and we date two nights a week and one weekend night. We have fooled ...
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Experiencing Anxiety and Don’t Know Why? Check the Calendar.
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If you want to get your ex girlfriend back in your life, you need to be careful about when and how you contact her. As you may have read elsewhere, many relationship gurus encourage you not to contact your ex for a period of time after breaking up. This is often referred to as the "no contact" period.
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Before setting new goals, a powerful step is to acknowledge the current state of your life, personally and professionally. For this step, do some writing about how you see your life right now; add or subtract categories that are relevant for you:nn-Spiritual -Health -Work -Education ...
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Almost every relationship can be salvaged after a breakup, and chances are good that yours is no different... there’s a strong possibility that, if you play your cards right and work at it long enough, you can turn your ex boyfriend’s feelings upside down and make him come running back, begging for a second chance. Unfortunately, most women trying to get their ex back make a number of mistakes that end up ruining their chances. They do or say things that might seem like a good idea at the time, but are actually pushing their ex boyfriend further away and into the arms of some other women.r
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The way you feel about yourself impacts how and why you do everything in life. If you feel good about who you are, then what you do will be an outside reflection of your innermost thoughts and feelings. Contrary to popular belief, self-esteem is not something anyone or any accomplishment can give you. Just because people like you or you receive an award, does not mean that you will love and take care of yourself.
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There is no shame in having communication and relationship problems, and one of the fastest ways to work through them is to try some couples therapy in Orange County. Anything that can positively affect you and the people around you will help you live a more fulfilling life.
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Dear Renee, (Love Mechanic) I am single and dating a few women casually. Most of my friends have a date for Valentine’s day, and I am seeing a girl yet I don’t want to do all the romantic gushy stuff this soon in our relationship. Are there a few things I could do to keep her happy without going “ Valentines crazy” on that night? I don’t want to spend a lot on her at this point, but keep her in the mix of my dating. I am not cheap but after only a few dates it seems silly to go all out since she is not my girlfriend. My single friends want me to hook up with them? Suggestions?
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Is Texting Your Ex Girlfiend Effective In Getting Her Back? Learn More Here
Did your girlfriend recently decided to end your relationship? Being left by someone you love is a very traumatic experience. It isn't really surprising if you want your ex back with you. You must have already texted or called her a few times with absolutely no response.
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Can You Really Get Your Ex With the No Contact Rule?
Does the No Contact Rule work for those who try it in on their breakups? If you want to fix your relationship then it's time you find out if whether or not No Contact Rule works for people and just how important it really is. For those who are having problems nursing a broken heart, learn more about the No Contact Rule below and how it could ultimately help you.Here are some common question i hear when it comes to the No Contact Rule. Q: How exactly does the No Contact Rule work and what could it do for me?r
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Everyone knows at least vaguely about general intelligence, or IQ, but what about emotional intelligence, or EQ? For the vast majority of us, emotional intelligence is more important to our lives tha IQ. Harvard theorist Howard Gardner explains, “Your EQ [or emotional intelligence] is the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them, and how to work cooperatively with them.” Today, our success among our peers and in our careers depends on our ability to interpret the signals from the people around us, and to react appropriately.
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Is Text Messaging An Ex Boyfriend A Mistake?
Do you wish to have your ex boyfriend back into your life? Are you having a difficult time getting through the day because you're riddled with thoughts of your ex? If so, I am truly sorry for what you're going through. Breakups seriously suck. Your fingers are itching to call or text message your ex. Before you do so, please read why text messaging your ex may be detrimental if you want him back.
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Becoming friends with an ex is not impossible. Depending on the situation of how the relationship ended as well as the dynamics of the relationship between the couple, a genuine friendship can occur over time. Keep on reading if you want to know whether or not becoming friends with an ex is a good idea. Being friends with an ex is extremely plausible. Especially if the breakup wasn't so bad to begin with. However, if you're wondering why your ex is reaching out to and is wanting to be friends all of a sudden, I can understand your confusion.
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Are you having a hard time dealing with your breakup? Are you having sleepless nights because all you can think about is your ex? Perhaps, you can hardly concentrate on work or school. What you're going through now, either way, is more than what anyone should bear. Please read below if you want to know how to cope with life after a break up.
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By Phil Cosmo After 20 years of marriage Betsy and Dylan were flying back from a trip they took together to the Caribbean. On the plane Betsy asked him if he still loved her. For a minute he thought about it and said: “What a stupid question. Of course I love you!” For Betsey hearing those words were enough for the moment but she wanted more. She could remember a trip to Hawaii soon after their marriage – Dylan had purchased a book on beautiful love quotes. He would recite over and over again until Betsey had to tell him to put “that thing away Dylan!”
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Is My Ex Girlfriend Over Me? Figure It Out Here
Are you trying to figure out if your ex girlfriend is still in love with you? It's not too hard to decipher her actions and interpret how she feels about you. You can easily tell if she is over you. Her talks with you would lack substance, that is if she ever talks to you at all. She'll also be busy with various things in her life. And if she has a new guy in her life, then that's the most obvious sign of all. Simply, don't hold it against her if she has moved on.
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Do you feel like you can’t escape the stress from work, or from your social obligations? Do they sneak up on you, even as you’re trying to have a few relaxing moments to yourself after a long day, or during a weekend that you’ve purposely left open for some well-deserved “me-time”? It might be your cell phone that’s causing the problem. We use our cell phones, especially our smart phones to stay constantly connected to the people who are important to us.
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There are many ways to fix a relationship despite the fact that every relationship is unique in its own way. If you are stuck at this situation and feel as though you've tried everything else then you need to get back to the basics. Following are some productive ways to fix a relationship:
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Is marriage life not what you've expected? When you married your husband, you never imagined you would have sleepless nights riddled with thoughts of how unhappy your marriage is. No matter what you do or say, you just can't get your husband's love or attention. Your love life kind of sucks right now. If you want to know how to get the love back in your marriage, keep reading. Before we go any further, you must understand this one thing.
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So you're feeling horrible and have no idea what to do. You are hoping the everything would turn out all right again. How will you know that everything isn't over yet? What exactly are the signs an ex still loves you? Keep reading if you want to know more. 1 - Your ex is still in love with you if they are always trying to contact you. This is one of the most obvious signs that your ex still has feelings for you. So if you ex contacts you again, you might want to set a day for you to meet each other. Try going out for a movie and see what could develop.
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Let’s talk about your ego. It is that little voice in your head that says “hey, you’re better than this.” Sometimes its wise to shut that voice up, but sometimes it isn’t. Sometimes you can’t stop the voice from taking over your actions, other times its trained well enough to stay out of your daily affairs. In either case, the ego can be a gift and a curse, it all depends on how its used.
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Did you and your ex decide to stay friends after breaking up? The problem here is that you still have feelings for your ex. Are you looking for signs that your ex may still want to be with you? For those who want to find out the top signs ex still loves you, read on. If the two of you are still good friends, finding signs ex still loves you can be very difficult. However, the following are some of the biggest signs your ex still looks at you as more than a friend. Signs Ex Still Loves You - They Want to Remain Present in your Life
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If you're reading this, I'm assuming that your marriage isn't going very well. As much as you're trying to fix things between you and your partner, nothing seems to work. I know how painstakingly difficult life can be for you. If you want to know how to save your marriage without your partner's help and get out of the depths despair of a loveless marriage, please keep reading.
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Breakups can really be painful and gut wrenching for the people undergoing them. Right now, you just want your girlfriend to be with you again. You find yourself having a hard time in school or at the office. You spend hours just thinking about her therefore losing some much needed sleep. Right now, your life is down at the dumps.
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Are you and your partner constantly fighting these days? Is your relationship slowly deteriorating? If you want to know how to save a relationship from falling apart, you might be surprised at the mistakes people make in hopes to keep it together How to Save A Relationship From Falling Apart Myths: Going for a More Creative Sex Life This is one of the most frequent advice given to save a relationship which doesn't happen to be true.
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Have you ever said to yourself, If only I had known then what I know now? As I reflect on my past relationship patterns I wonder if, had I had a more thorough grasp of the meaning of the astrological 7th house, my own particular aspects to Venus and the ruler of the 7th house, would I have been able to create something different in my life? I believe so.
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Just a quick reminder before we get into it today: TODAY is the last day for Early Bird Registration for POWERHOUSEWOMEN: The World Needs You! I strongly encourage you to participate in this four day teleseminar. On Day 3, I will be working with participants to: • Identify & breakthrough the negative self-communication that keeps you isolated • Learn how to connect with others through & ask for what we really need • Discover the roadblocks to communicatio Go here - http://www.powerhousewomen.us - to learn more! Now, onto today's topic! ---r
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If the three qualities I am going to describe in this article are not true in your life and in the life of the person you want to be with, your love life is doomed. I guarantee it. Am I exaggerating just to get your attention? No, I most definitely am not.
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Although marriage has become less desirable and there are more and more people choosing to live with their partner, see them regularly but live in different homes, or stay single, people still choose to get married and put their trust into another person. Why they choose to marry may seem puzzling to those who prefer the single life. Marriage is supposed to be till death do us part and every single person who chooses to get married does so for their own reasons.
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Are you and your wife in a huge fight and you want to make amends with her. Or perhaps it may be a little more extreme and you and your wife are temporarily separated. Either way, you want that satisfying relationship you two used to have before problems began. Here are some important things to keep in mine if you want to win your wife back.
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Find a perfect man by Rosemary Price psychic. Most women long to find a perfect man and those who have a man are unlikely to be able to claim he is perfect. Either he has a fault or the excitement has gone out of the relationship. The perfect man has no faults and never becomes boring. How to find your perfect man will depend very much on you. Each woman has a different idea of what her perfect man would be like and what would be ideal for one might sound horrific to another.
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How to Get Your Wife Back When She Is Mad At You And You Have No Clue Why
For some men, women are the world's greatest mystery. You never know what they may be thinking at any given time. They say one thing and sometimes do another. They worry about things that we wouldn't stress out about. Lets just say, women can drive us nuts, but we love them. So what do you do if you're a man who's wife is mad at you and you're not sure exactly the reason why or what do. Here are some things that can help you figure out the real cause behind you're wife's moody behavior. Are You Appreciating Her?r
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Relationship Help by Rosemary Price Psychic
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Who do crystal ball readings uk work?
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Why not apply for a VERY well paid advice columnist job?
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Work from Home Part Time Earning Well
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Am I Clairvoyant? by Rosemary Price Psychic
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Should we Want FREE Psychic Readings? by Rosemary Price Psychic
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Smart Work and Consistent Efforts
The achievements we look forward to so eagerly cannot come without a smart work and consistent efforts. If you are just working hard day and night, and not seeing any results? Then change the way, don't stop working hard. We often stop working hard because we don't see many results. Even change our fields. If you work on the same thing for longer using different ways, you may see some results. For you will come to know what ideas work and what don't. Don't lose hope. Don't give up.
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Earn £60 an Hour Advising People on Relationships
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Crisis in the World
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Healthy Eating by Beth Shepherd Psychic and Therapist
Healthy eating by Beth Shepherd psychic and therapist. One of the things I have noticed about people who get ill is that they fall into different categories. You have those who are self aware, informed, reaching out to do what they can to help themselves, where they find ways to improve their health without expecting the doctor or hospital to do it all for them. And there are those who think it is fine to smoke, drink a lot, eat a lot of junk food, over eat, ignore exercise, and then expect a doctor or hospital to wave a magic wand over it all and put it all right easily and quickly.
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In a Perfect World...
In a perfect world, if one is born from a human mother, has a brain, a face, a beating heart, organs, legs, and arms, then one is considered a human being. No one with half a brain would say, “Oh, look at that cute puppy, or kitten, or cockroach. Most intelligent people can recognize another human being when they see one. Or can they?
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The Seven Year Itch by Beth Shepherd
The seven year itch by Beth Shepherd psychic.
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CONQUERING FEAR THROUGH MIND POWER
I have been afraid, so afraid that I almost lost myself. Afraid of what I don’t know, Afraid of what might be. Afraid that I would never be accepted, afraid that someone won’t accept me for me........ But in all these I ask myself is there nothing that can convert fear to love and certainty?
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Should I Ask for a Rise at Work? by Beth Shepherd Psychic
Should I ask for a rise at work? by Beth Shepherd psychic. A case study. Names etc changed. I took this job about three years ago with a promise that after approximately two years - if I worked hard and applied myself well - I would get a rise. But it has now been nearly three years and there is no sign of it. Do I ask? Do I point out and remind Mr Jenkins of his promise or do I bide my time and wait a bit longer?
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How Can I Get My Ex Back? by Beth Shepherd Psychic
How can I get my ex back? by Beth Shepherd psychic. A case study. Names etc changed.
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Are Cheap Psychic and Tarot Readings Accurate? by Beth Shepherd Psychic
Are cheap psychic and tarot readings accurate? by Beth Shepherd psychic. Some of the very expensive, established famous clairvoyants will tell you no, but it is possible to get a helpful, truthful, insightful consultation without spending the earth. In order to do that you must first do some homework. Start with yourself and ask yourself what it is that you want from your consultation. When I do my Beth Shepherd psychic sittings I recognise that different people look for different things from their sitting.
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Why Being Single is Better by Rosemary Price Psychic
Why being single is better by Rosemary Price psychic. I wonder how many of the people who are in a settled relationship wish they were single, or at least wish they could give it a try to see if they prefer it? Then you have many people who are on their own and believe that they would be a lot happier if they could find someone. Most days I receive emails from new clients who tell me that they miserable, unloved, bored, depressed, sad, desperate to find a partner, asking me to look in the crystal and tarot cards to see what fate has in store for them relationship wise.
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Thoughts and Prayers
In recent months, there have been a startling number of catastrophic incidences: devastating hurricanes that affected multitudes; thousands left homeless, without water, and in many cases, searching for loved ones; multiple mass shootings in which hundreds were killed and many more injured, not to mention all the fires and floods that have brought down entire cities to their knees. It hasn't been pretty.
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How Differences Can Make a Better Relationship
Halloween. Every year it's a challenge to be creative and accommodating to my I'm-not-wearing-that sweetie at the same time. I love creative costumes. My ex was cooperative. He once allowed me to dress him as a topless dancer. The boobs I made for him out of balloons, cut up pantyhose, and baby bottle nipples would have been more convincing had I been able to get them the same size. Regardless, the costume was a big hit and I suspect-based on how well he carried it off-that my ex rather enjoyed the wig and the fishnets.
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How to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Those with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have an underlying fear of abandonment and often misinterpret interpersonal situations where they end up feeling worthless or mistreated. They can have a distorted sense of self and view of others. The see themselves and others as split, as either “all good” or “all bad”. They will either project that others are “all good” (loving, supportive, caring); and then when they are triggered they will project that others are “all bad” (uncaring, abandoning or mean). These internal positions prevent them seeing themselves or others clearly.
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Your Obnoxious Tenant!
You manage a beautiful apartment complex, but there’s trouble in paradise. One of your tenants is causing problems. This has been going on for a while now, years even, but you’re so used to his crazy antics, you’ve learned to live with him. This tenant constantly: • Invades your privacy. • Calls you names & makes you second-guess yourself; “You’re so stupid! Why did you say that?” • Doesn’t have any confidence in you and lets you know it. “I doubt you’ll be able to do that! Why even try?”r
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Co-dependency Do You Need to Be Needed?
Maybe you grew up in a dysfunctional home in a codependent relationship. In the bestselling book, The Glass Castle, Jeannette Walls tells of her hardscrabble childhood. Her father was an alcoholic, her mother abdicated her role as caregiver, and the children had to fend for themselves. Walls’ parents made their children serve them, not the other way around. Perhaps your situation is not so deeply dysfunctional, but it doesn’t have to be to grow up codependent. What does it mean to be codependent?
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Hurry, Hurry, Slow Down!
Do you ever notice the hurried pace with which people do everything nowadays? Take a look around you. Maybe you’re one of those people.
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***Making Peace With Lost Time
Do you sometimes look back and feel as if you have wasted your life caretaking others or trying to get others to take care of you?
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Life's One Achievable Goal
Most of us have many goals in life. These goals might have to do with work, finances, relationships and family. Some of the goals that many people strive for are to feel worthy, loved, and valued. Many people spend much time in their lives seeking the approval of others, believing that getting this approval will finally give them the love, safety, security, and sense of worth that they desire. The problem with this goal is that it is an impossible goal to achieve, because it is not others' love, attention and approval that bring about a deep sense of self-worth.
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***Does Your Partner Judge You In Front Of Others?
________________________________________ Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully? ________________________________________ Louise asked me:
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What Are We Doing That Makes Absolutely NO sense?
I came across the idea of this post as I was watching a seminar video from Tony Robbins in Act2be.com. Tony’s video was about why we do what we do. After watching it, I’ve questioned myself: what is that we do that makes absolutely so sense?
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Do You Get Frustrated With Others?
"I feel so frustrated when Mark is late," complained Shauna, during our phone session. "What am I supposed to do with all this frustration?" Shauna believed that her feeling of frustration was being caused by Mark. But this was not the case.
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How To Keep a Clean Facebook Image
I was talking with my fiancee yesterday and she was sharing a story of one of her friends whose image has diminished because of her activities and the quality of status updates she puts on her Facebook page. After the sharing, we then realized the impact Facebook can have in people's lives when it comes to image and reputation. Yes, Facebook is great at helping people connect with friends, friends of friends, and even unknown persons. Yes , Facebook allows to share with your network just about anything you feel like posting.
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***Anger And Other Forms of Control
If you grew up in a family where one or both parents used anger to control you, then anger likely plays a role in your life now. Did you grow up with anger in your household? Did one or both of your parents use anger as a way to keep you in line and have control over you? How did you respond? - You complied, trying to be the good little girl or boy and do what your parents wanted, hopeful that they wouldn't get angry so often.
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The Power Behind Names
Names! Names! Names! Names are important. Whether for you personal, social, or professional life, names get you in. I first learned about the importance of names back in 2004 when I first started working with the Southweste Company as an independent sales dealer. Our sales talk was sewed around dropping names that our prospects could connect to. Today, when I propose my services as Relationship Strategist for individuals and corporates, when I meet with friends and make new friends, when I ask for business referrals, I can still notice how important names are.
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***Are You The Person Your Dog Thinks You Are?
Your pet knows the truth of who you are! Many of us know how unconditionally loving most dogs naturally are – unless they have been abused. Even if you don't have a dog, you've likely seen the joy they express when their person comes home after being gone for even a few minutes. If you have a dog or another pet who loves you, what would your pet say about you if he or she could talk? Take a moment to imagine what your pet would say.
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Being Heart Smart Part Two: The Inner View
One of my favorite Maryanne mantras is; you have to learn how use this (your head) before you do this (have sex) so you don’t break this (your heart)! And for many of us we can sadly add…again. Sounds simple enough, right? Yeah, well, we all know that when we get the urge to merge it can be so intoxicating that we give in to it, hoping this chemistry will magically translate into Happily Ever After. Yes, I did say you break your own heart, ‘cause love doesn’t happen outside yourself, and while your heart may feel broken, the heart cannot break per se.
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***Do You Put Pressure on Yourself?
______________________________________ Pressuring yourself might be causing resistance, stress, anxiety, physical pain, insomnia and even illness. ________________________________________ How many of you put a lot of pressure on yourself? How often do you feel anxious because of this pressure? How often do you have trouble sleeping because you feel so pressured?r
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***Am I in a Healthy Relationship?
Frequently, my clients and members of our website ask me, "Is my relationship healthy? How do I know if it is healthy?" Just as physical health is on a continuum, emotional health and relationship health are also on a continuum. And, like physical health, each person may have different criteria regarding what constitutes health. For example, some people say they are very healthy if they get a cold or flu a few times a year, while others' health criteria is that they never get sick at all.
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***Addictions: Talking as a Form of Resistance
I am sitting with Bryan at one of my 5-Day Inner Bonding Intensives. Bryan is talking about one thing after another, and I cannot follow him at all. Nor can I connect with him. My loneliness in sitting with him is giving me important information - that he is in his head, in his wounded self, protecting against his feelings and responsibility for his feelings. "Bryan, would you be willing to take a deep breath and put your focus into your heart?"
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The Do’s and Don'ts of Mastering The First Date
In 2010, finding someone to date isn't nearly as tricky as mastering the art of dating. Between online dating, singles events, and the old-fashioned in-person meet and greet, it's possible to date someone new on a regular basis. But how do you make the most of these chances to meet your perfect partner? How can you ensure that a first date, good or bad, is a learning experience rather than a missed opportunity?
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***Friendship: Connection or Neediness?
Do you have problems having truly connected friendships? Friendship is a big topic. There are people who always seem to have many friends, and others who can't seem to find the way to make friends. Some people have deeply connected friendships, and others have only superficial acquaintances. What accounts for these differences? A part of the answer lies in Jayne's question:
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What is Emotional Freedom?
My definition of emotional freedom is being free from feeling like a victim of and controlled by our emotions. We are emotionally free when we know how to learn from and manage our feelings so that we are not reactive to them and they don't control us. How Do We Attain Emotional Freedom? Emotional freedom is the result of learning how to take emotional responsibility, i.e., responsibility for our feelings. What does this mean and how do we do it? There are two different kinds of feelings: wounded feelings and core feelings.
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Opposites Attract, But They May Not Last, Unless…
Most couples can name several ways in which they’re opposites: neatness versus sloppiness; extroversion versus introversion; being high-strung versus laid-back preferring city versus country living, etc. And I'm sure you have something in mind that's specific to you. It’s true that quite often and in many respects, opposites attract. But those areas can either help you thrive as a couple or destroy you!
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Network Like a King
Networking is great, fun, and yet not easy. Before I study Relationships and the pillars of professional networking, I used to think that networking with people was just about going to events and exchanging business cards with all people we meet there. However somehow, I found out that from the tens of people I gave my business card to, only two or three got back to me and did want to follow up do business with me. So I decided to dig into what made those two or three people to get back to me that I didn’t do with the rest of the people.
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"Why Are My Partners Always Needy?"
Angelo had been married to Serena for 15 years before divorcing. In his marriage, Angelo was a caretaker, always trying to please Serena, always trying to get her approval and avoid her disapproval. Serena was a taker - handing responsibility to Angelo for her happiness and often angry with him when he didn't do what she wanted. Inside, Serena was deeply insecure, too insecure to even work, so she completely relied on Angelo financially. Angelo felt very lonely in his marriage, which is what led to his decision to divorce.
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Make Yourself Unforgettable
If you know me, then you will know one of my irrefutable truth: once you’ve been introduced to me then you will remember me forever. I start noticing that strength of mine when I was still in college and was partying a lot. For some reason, at any party, or event that I was attending, if there was one person that I’ve been introduced to, then that person would come with a big smile and would give me a charming friendly hug with “MAX-MARC” highly pronounced and a distinguished smiley face.
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***Do You Remember What You Say When You are Enraged?
Discover why any kind of engaging when someone is angry is a waste of energy. "Rage can…shut off the hippocampus [linked to memory], and people with out-of-control anger may not be lying when they say they don't recall what they said or did in that altered state of mind." Mindsight, P.155 Daniel Siegel, M.D.
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Sustainable relationships
If you have had a few relationships you know what I mean by “sustainability,” especially ones that have been a source of pain or suffering to some degree. (Some of which have compelled you to dispose of them by almost any means, organic or not.) But what of the ones you wish to keep, nurture and grow rather than watch die prematurely or unexpectedly?
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The Biological Reality: There ARE Psychological Differences betwee Men and Women
Men and women think differently - I don’t think anyone will argue that point with me at all! In my work as a therapist, I see males and females totally disillusioned with the selection of mates of the opposite sex to choose from. I think that the problem is largely due to a misunderstanding of how males and females differ on the biological level, and how that difference affects everything from communication style to thought processes, and perceptions of reality. But what influences that thinking and what “biological reality” differences do males and females really have?
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***The Fear of Being Duped
________________________________________ Is being duped something you avoid at all costs, or are you willing to be duped in order to keep your heart open? ________________________________________ No one likes being duped. It feels awful to realize that someone has pulled the wool over our eyes – that we were so naïve we didn’t see that we were being duped, lied to or taken advantage of.
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How To Stay On Track With Your Goals
It’s nearly the end of January, and many of the average Jane and Joe’s have long lost resolve to stay focused on achieving their New Years Resolutions. Nevertheless, it doesn’t mean that it’s time to give up, quit and go back to the unhealthy patterns that were making you unhappy in 2009. That said, how do you stay on track? Keep up your motivation? How do you remember to re-decide for YOURSELF every time you are confronted with a challenge? Here’s a few tips to help keep your feet pointed in the right direction: 1. Write it down.
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Getting Back to the Life You Love: Self Care Gone Wild!
I’m back from Maui, and spent yesterday planning for 2010 with my team. While that’s all fabulous and exciting, I also want to reflect on my vacation, and the state of mind I had which enabled ideas to flow freely, love to grow and compassion to deepen. In looking more carefully at this, I realized I had a certain routine while on vacation which enabled me to access deeper parts of myself; A routine in which I took care of myself. Ahh — back to the concept of self care, – and an expansion of the Self-Care Bootcamp I began in the end of 2009. So, what did I do in Maui? 1.
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***"I Just Want to Explain" - Explaining as a Form of Control
"My husband never lets me explain anything to him. It's so frustrating! He makes these statements that are blaming and attacking and then he won't listen to me when I'm trying to explain." "Why do you want to explain?" "I NEED to explain because he is not seeing things accurately. He is making assumptions that are not accurate." "So you want to explain to get him to see things differently than he does." "Yes."
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Naughty or nice, presence or presents?
Here’s an email I got recently: “I wanted to thank you also for your story about "presence" that you told at your talk recently at Open Secret Book Store in San Rafael. I had an important experience of that this weekend. I have been contemplating dating a man I met recently who is a financially successful lobbyist, and we have many other interests aside from politics.
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***Change Your Life With This Simple Act
Do you understand the power of kindness to change your life? "Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again." Og Mandino, 1923-1996, Author
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***"If I Move Into My Power, Will I End Up Alone?"
Do you have the common false belief that the better you feel about yourself, the more alone you will be? Yolanda asks:
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Marry YourSelf First: The 13 Most Important Questions for Your Best Life
Here’s something everyone can relate to: Your Car. That wonderful and amazing piece of technology that takes you from one place to another… usually without any difficulty. And what is one big element the car relies on to get you there? The tires…those round rubber donuts which “usually” create no problems. Let’s talk about your tires…stick with me here… it’ll all start to make sense…I promise!
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Can You Save Your Marriage if Your Spouse Doesn't Want To?
One of the most difficult situations for a marriage that is failing occurs when one partner wants to save the marriage and the other one doesn't. If that is the case in your marriage you will know that it's probably the biggest crisis that will ever occur in a marriage.
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***First-Date Blues – What Can you Learn?
________________________________________ Dating is challenging for many. Here are some tips to turn it into a learning adventure. ________________________________________
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"We Can't Communicate"
What are couples really meaning when they say, "We can't communicate"? The issue with understanding what this means is what they mean by "communicate." All too often, when a partner states, "We can't communicate," what he or she means is "I can't get my partner to listen to me and understand things from my point of view." And unde eath this is, "If my partner only understood things through my eyes, he or she would then change and do things my way."
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Can your friends or lovers be holding you back?
I can remember getting what for me was my first big break in my budding media career. I squealed with delight when the producer called from a popular syndicated radio show asking to interview me. My heart pounded, my mouth went dry ~ I had worked so hard and now it seemed things were about to unfold. I was ecstatic. After I enthusiastically accepted the invitation, naturally I couldn’t wait to tell the three people closest to me (okay, and a few strangers along the way, I couldn’t contain myself).
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What Is Emotional Dependency?
Are you emotionally dependent? You might want to go through this checklist. __I cannot feel lovable and worthy without another's approval. __I need a lot of attention from certain people to feel that I am okay. __I don't trust my own feelings. I need others' to validate my feelings. __I am afraid of rejection. I isolate, or try to be perfect, or agree with others, or give myself up, or shut down, and/or do many other things to avoid rejection. __I am afraid to be alone. __I often feel empty inside. __I am often anxious around others.
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*** It's All About Love!
What is life REALLY all about? It's all about love! But what does this mean? Most people, when thinking about love, think about BEING LOVED. But, as an adult, the deeper soul's journey is not about being loved - it is about BEING LOVING. For small children, the main focus is on being loved, ...
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***The Foundation for Abundance
________________________________________ Are you aware of the vast difference between expressing gratitude from your ego wounded self or from your loving adult self? ________________________________________ "Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance."~Eckhart Tolle, Author of The Power of Now How often do you feel genuinely grateful for what you have in your life? There is a big difference between acting grateful and feeling genuine gratitude in your heart.
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How to Make Your Man Fall in Love with You
Wouldn’t it be wonderful to know what’s going on in your man’s head, all the time? Okay, maybe not all the time. But it would be pretty great to know how to make your man fall in love with you. I mean, you know he likes you A LOT. But it would be nice to know what those little triggers are that remind him how special you really are so that he falls for you hard, makes you feel like a princess, and respects you for who you are in all of your awesome-ness, right?r
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***Finding The Partner Of My Dreams
________________________________________ Are you seeking the formula for attracting the partner of your dreams? Here it is! ________________________________________ Rochelle asks:
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10 Things You Can Do When You Are Lonely But Not Ready for a Relationship (Part 2)
Being alone can be, well, LONELY! And most of us – even those who like to be alone – don't really like to be lonely. But what can we do about it? Many of us find ourselves alone, and lonely, for a reason: our previous relationship just ended, we've tried and tried to sustain a successful relationship but with no luck, we've decided being with someone isn't the healthiest thing for us. All these are perfectly good reasons for not being in a relationship. Most of us need to take time in our lives to seek out why we act the way we do, and to get to truly know ourSELVES!
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Be The Master of Your Emotions
Do you find that at times your emotions get the best of you? What do you usually do when you feel that you’re on the brink of a “meltdown”? Maybe you turn to someone else to console you or maybe you self medicate with drugs, alcohol or something less obvious like overwork. Perhaps at some point, these things no longer do the job and you’re unable to stay on your game because you’re too overwhelmed by emotions. If this is the case, maybe it’s time to learn how to bring the emotions themselves under your own control.
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R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Guys, this one's for you – and ladies, feel free to pass it on to any guy you know in your life who's on a path toward thinking holistically about love, relationships and family. In my work over the past two-plus decades, I've focused on relationships of many different types – dating, casual, serious, engagement, marriage, divorce, post-divorce … and in my most recent book, “Hindsight: What you need to know before you drop your drawers” I present the relationship toolbelt.
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***Overweight and Miserable
________________________________________ Are you tired of being overweight and food addicted? There is a way to heal. ________________________________________ Pamela writes this question for my webinar on food addiction:
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***Relationships: Cheating
"Why would my boyfriend cheat on me?" "I'm pretty sure my wife is cheating on me. I want to know why." "I know that my husband has been cheating on me for years. I don't get why he does this." Why do people cheat on their partners? Why do others have affairs that their partners know about? Here are some of the reasons for cheating that I have encountered in my many years of counseling.
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The 5 Best Places to Meet Men
Turns out that if you feel like you’re running out of places to meet men (read: you’ve had enough of friends trying to set you up with “this amazing guy”), fear not dignity dater! We’ve compiled a list of the five best places to meet the “good men” for your consideration. However, before we dig into the “where” and “how” of meeting good men, know that it’s time to take this dating challenge to a deeper level. You see, among the biggest obstacles in dating are having beliefs that feel like absolute truths. And, of course, these beliefs are based on your experiences.r
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***Anger Power
Does anger have power? Are you being powerful when you are angry? The answers to these questions depend on what you mean by power.
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3 Reasons Why You're Still Single - Reason #1: You Believe Love Will Just Happen
You’re happy with the direction your career is going, and that’s great! You’re in good shape, excellent health, and have a wonderful circle of friends: awesome! Do you still find yourself wondering why you haven’t caught the train that will bring true love into your life?r
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For a Stronger Relationship, Resolve Your Conflicts
No two people can agree on everything, but disagreements or arguments in your relationship don’t have to end with one or both of you angry or in tears. Here are some suggestions to make the bumps in your relationship a little less difficult and more satisfying.
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"Meet Your Man 2013 Challenge" Day #3: Honing Your Dating Savvy - Get Any Man to Pursue You
Aloha Dignity Daters, and welcome to the final day of the “Meet Your Man 2013 Challenge – 3 Steps to Tell the Difference Between a Player and the Guy Who is Looking for Love!” Today’s challenge, along with The Super Me 14-Day Challenge, is going to put you exactly where you need to be to find your man in 2013. And the final step of the “Meet Your Man Challenge” is… Step Three: Honing Your Dating Savvy – Get Any Man to Pursue You
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Unlock the Power of Meditation — To Feel Happier and More at Ease
Meditation is a great tool to combat stress and help you feel happier and more at ease. But many people don’t know how to start to incorporate meditation into their busy lives. Meditation can make coping with daily stressors easier and give you the often much needed power to “let go” of troubling thoughts or emotions. It’s easy to get started if you’re willing to try it for just a few minutes a day!
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***Are You Hiding?
Do you hide from your feelings when you are challenged by life? Or do you allow your feelings to overwhelm you? You CAN learn to manage them and learn from them. "The art of living lies not in eliminating but in growing with troubles." ~ Be ard M. Baruch "How can I get this pain to go away?"
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***Is He Really Not That Into You Or Are Your Expectations Too Skewed?
My editor Brenda who helped me edit my book out of her gratitude for the advice I have given him in the past dealing with her own emotionally unavailable man, told everyone how profoundly transformational my book is.
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***Is Your Partner Always Pointing Out Your Flaws?
Some people believe that it is caring to point out their partner's flaws - that it will help to make that person a better person. But the intent behind pointing out flaws is not loving - it is controlling. Pointing Out Flaws By pointing out flaws, you hope that your partner will let go of the things that you don't like and become more the person you want him or her to be. Now, be honest with yourself - is it working? Your partner might have one of two major responses to your judgments.
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Romance Telepathy
You and your mate don’t have to be separated by land or sea to feel like you’re having a long distance relationship. Sometimes you can be living in the same house and feel miles apart. Opposite shifts, busy schedules, and fatigue can separate you. When this happens, a simple technique called “romance telepathy” can go a long way to keeping you and your mate feeling connected. I was first exposed to romance telepathy in an unusual way. After my mom passed away in 1995, I was cleaning out her attic and found an old shoebox.
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Christian Marriage Help: Five Causes of Weak Marital Boundaries
Are you looking for Christian marriage help to enable you to have stronger boundaries? If you have difficulty setting boundaries in your marriage you are probably tolerating more than you should and allowing yourself to be disrespected. Boundaries are simply what you will and won't do and when communicated to your husband give him feedback on how you want to be treated. Here are five causes of weak marital boundaries:
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"Meet Your Man 2013 Challenge" Day #2 - Ramp Up Your Feminine Sex Appeal without Being Slutty!
Aloha Dignity Daters, and welcome to day two of the "Meet Your Man 2013 Challenge: 3 Steps to Tell the Difference Between a Player and the Guy Who is Looking For Love!" If you're still with us it means you are ready for the next step in the "Super Me" Meet Your Man Challenge! You should applaud yourself for being here, and for being brave and bold in the New Year. If you continue to follow these three simple steps, you will be on your way to a new and improved you, easily able to attract (and recognize) the quality man who is truly looking for love.
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Bachelor's Bull Blog
I forced my adoring husband to watch The Bachelors last episode, not that either one of us had ever wasted our time watching it prior; we hadn’t. For almost two hours I watched my husband alte ately squirm and moan, shaking his head, muttering ”Stupid…Stupid,” and watched what’s-his-face make ...
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***Loneliness versus Solitude
________________________________________ Do you often crave solitude, or is being alone too lonely for you? There is an inherent reason for these differences. ________________________________________ "Language has created the word 'loneliness' to express the pain of being alone, and the word 'solitude' to express the glory of being alone." –Benjamin Tillett I find this quote very interesting in the light of recent research on introversion and extroversion.
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How to Understand Men: The Truth Is Simpler tha You Think
It could be possibly the biggest question in the history of dating. As a smart, successful and independent woman, how do we better understand men? Sometimes it doesn’t matter how many classes we take or issues of Cosmo we read; it really is like they’re from another planet altogether! (They did say they were from Mars, right?) But here’s the truth: It really is much simpler than you think. If you’re dating, want to start dating, in a relationship or just getting out of one and you want to know how to understand men, we come bearing the gift of knowledge and ease!r
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Christian Relationship Help: How Anxiety in Difficult Relationships Contributes to the Dysfunction
Are you looking for Christian relationship help to enable you to understand how anxiety in difficult relationships contributes to the dysfunction? Then this article will help you. Anxiety is a sense of disquiet or dis-ease that is experienced as mental or emotional distress. Anxiety isn't comfortable and people usually react to get rid of the anxiety that comes from all types of problems in difficult relationships.
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"Meet Your Man 2013 Challenge" Day #1 - Get Some Serious Mojo Going in the Self-Love Department!
Aloha Dignity Daters, and welcome to the “Meet Your Man 2013 Challenge – 3 Steps to Tell the Difference Between a Player and the Guy Who Is Looking For Love!” Woot to the Woot Woot! Here’s the deal: 2013 is the year of a new you. If you’re over falling for the same types of men and feel like your relationships in 2012 (and prior) always seem to be going nowhere fast, then the New Year is the best time to take a fresh approach! Forget “The Rules”. Say goodbye to your go-to date on a lonely Saturday night: work. And challenge yourself to meet your man in 2013.r
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How to Flirt and Show a Guy You Like Him
If you’re really into the new guy you just met, you might have some questions about how to show him you like him without being needy, clingy or freaking him out in a way that causes him to head for the hills. How much do you reveal and when? First you’ll need to decide if you’re in one of two categories of people. Some of you Dignity Daters out there are naturally born with skills in the art of flirting.r
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Am I Undateable? The Real Reasons You’re Still Single
If you’re currently single, feel like it may be a chronic condition, and your mantra is starting to look like “I’m-never-going-to-meet-anyone-anytime-ever,” you’ll want to visit this list of Dating with Dignity’s “real” reasons you may still be single. 1. You’re still reeling from a traumatic break up and can’t let it go.r
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Does Every New Relationship Feel Like DeJa Vu? How To Break That Patte
We, as humans, are creatures of habit. But while patterns and rituals are typically helpful in maximizing brain space, certain patterns in our relationships don't usually serve us. For example, finding yourself in the "same relationship" over and over again can feel like deja vu- and not in a good way.
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***From Casual To Committed: Secret Of Capturing His Heart through Personal Transformation
A lot has changed since the publication of my book. I shared my personal story dealing with an emotionally unavailable man (EUM) I was seeing at the time. The friendship was great -we couldn't have bonded any tighter- but true to my own integrity as an author and coach (as per my own advice in the book), I moved on when I saw a greener pasture. No drama. No crying. No emotional mess.
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Personal Success Tips - The Mood
I recently went to one of the local home improvement stores to buy some lighting items for my office. Since I am not an electrician, I was looking to have the “experts” at this store assist me in this endeavor. Upon arriving and having gone to the lighting department, I was confronted with a couple of challenges. First, there was a pallet full of boxes parked right in front of the area that I was wanting to get to. In addition, one of their roll-around ladders was parked there as well. This ladder was occupied (he was sitting on it) by an employee having a telephone conversation.
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***Love: Falling in Love With Your Spouse - Again
Bobbie and Mac sought me out for couples counseling because they were on the verge of divorce - after 25 years of marriage. Both had years of counseling, yet they could not find their way through their relationship problems. Bobbie described her experience of their relationship: "I love Mac ...
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Christian Relationship Help: Actions Matter More Than Words In Your Difficult Relationship
This Christian relationship help will show you that actions matter more than words in your difficult relationship. Difficult relationships are with difficult people and difficult people tend to say one thing but do something else. It is confusing when someone's actions don't match the words, but for some reason, people tend to believe the words instead of the actions. This is a mistake.
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Personal Success Strategies - Your Living Legacy - What is the Legacy You Hope to Leave?
How will you leave your mark? How will the world know you've been here one hundred years from now? What impact do you want to have on humankind in your lifetime? Simply put, your legacy is what you'll leave behind for those who come after you. No pressure, but from the looks of things now, we could all stand to leave as much of a positive legacy as we possibly can, and as quickly as we can! Many Native tribes have made their decisions based on what they foresee the affect of decisions on the seventh generation out.
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Deal Breakers for Relationships
When you first start dating someone, there are a few specific clues you could recognize as red flags. Nobody is perfect, but there are few characteristics and behaviors that should absolutely be deal breakers for you.
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Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children: Five Signs You Are Enabling Your Adult Child
Are you wondering if you are enabling your adult child? These five signs will help you to determine whether or not you are helping or hurting. "Enabling" means that your action allows someone to continue to do something they otherwise couldn't do without it. It is also doing something for others that they should be doing for themselves.
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***He's Probably Not Emotionally Unavailable After All: Beware Of Mislabeling
Freedom, separation, aggression, conquest, goal seeking and sex are the basic nature of testosterone. You’ve seen how many wars and conquests have been waged by men since the beginning of time. That’s the side effect of testosterone. It has also contributed to so much magnificence in the world: invention, creation, technology and innovation. Men are programmed and conditioned to constantly seek achievements and success. That’s their raison d’etre, like the birds’ nature is to fly and the fish’s is to breath in the water. Embrace it instead of faulting them for it.
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Discipline and Control
Sometimes as parents we need to be extremely creative in our discipline. I managed to have a stroke of creative genius when my son was 16 that I want to share with you that helps illustrate a facet of Empowerment Parenting: "The only person whose behavior you can control is your own." When Kyle ...
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Keeping Your Valentine Forever!
Here are some little known facts about Valentines Day: 1. Nationwide, 6,000 couples will tie the knot on Valentine’s Day 2009. Even when that date does not fall upon a Saturday, February 14th is consistently one of the most popular days of the year to wed. 2. 255,000 other couples will become ...
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Great Relationships Begin Within
I heard a great story years ago about a kid whose mom asked him to make her some eggs. She instructed him to scramble one and fry the other. He, being a “good egg” and of course wanting to please his mother, did just that. He stood and beamed proudly before his mother, presenting her with what ...
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*** Cinderella Was Not Saved - She Was a Happy Person All Along!
Would the prince have chose Cinderella to marry if she was a miserable young woman? If her stepsisters were beautiful but miserable, would he have chosen either of them? Are you living under the delusion that when you meet your soul mate you will finally be happy - that your misery is because ...
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***Are You Emotionally Dependent?
Discover the difference between needs coming from emotional dependency and authentic needs that we have within a relationship. ________________________________________ Every few weeks I do a free webinar. People can listen on their computers or on the phone; they can write in asking questions or they can ask me directly on the phone. Here is one of the questions a woman – I will call her Susan - asked in a webinar on emotional dependency:
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***Why Less Is More In Dating Emotionally Unavailable Men
The key of dating an emotionally unavailable man who wants to take things slow is to let him set the pace. Expect that he will go hot and cold. Mirror him in everything he does. When he's hot, reciprocate that, this is your time to establish bonding. When he's cold, also keep a distance. Don't try to force yourself unto him asking for attention and affection. He will only withdraw further. Trust His Actions, Why Words Don't Mean So Much For A Man.
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Life Success Tips - Success And The Law Of Attraction - You Gotta Live Large!
How big can your life be? What I'm asking is: How big is the space you live your life in? What restricts you from growing as big as possible? Is there any chance you've already outgrown your old life? Just how big is your life, and how big can it be? As you're pondering those questions, think about this in another way: Just how bright can your inner light shine? That inner light of yours was given to you to brighten up the world.
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***Relationships: Why Do You Attack and Blame?
"A woman who I was dating and who I really liked ended our relationship and is dating someone else. I see her all the time at the market and I feel like yelling at her." "I keep vowing not to, but I keep getting really angry at my husband when he is distant." "I lost my temper with my ...
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*** Love: Is This Romance or is This Friendship?
James, in his middle 30s, was ready to meet his life partner, get married and have children. After dating many women, he met Cindy. "She is really beautiful, although I'm not sure she's my type. But I think she is perfect for me. We have the same interests, the same values, we go to the ...
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Relationship Success Strategies - What Is A REALationship?
What is a REALationship? A REALationship is one that has openness, honesty, integrity, individuality, growth, passion, and intimacy. It is easy to be in denial, superficial, and distant. I teach people to have deeper and more REAL relationships ----> REALationships!!!! In school we learned the three “R’s”: Reading, writing, and arithmetic. There is however, a forth “R”, and it is the “R” of Relationships. For many people, there were few, if any, healthy relationship role models to follow.
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Personal Success Strategies - Boundaries With Yourself: The Most Important Parameters
Boundaries with yourself? It does sound a bit odd, doesn’t it? Well, if you will bear with me for a few minutes here you can have a major break-through...really!! I received a phone call from a client who had a new employment opportunity, but felt scared because of the unknown elements involved in the change. I don’t blame this person for having some apprehension, as I think most of us would (sorry to speak for you all. I know I would!).
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Stalking: Is This You?
I am not talking about criminal stalkers who truly intend to do someone harm. What I’m talking about are regular people who have a relationship end before they were ready and some of the behaviors they use in their best attempt to hold on to their partners. Has this ever happened to you? Let’s ...
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Love and the Caring Habits Part One
If you haven’t read my article on the Deadly Relationship Habits (http://www.therelationshipcenter.biz/newsletters/deadlyhabits4_05.html), then you may want to do so by clicking on the link. This article tells you what to do in your relationships to replace the destructive habits with more ...
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Personal Success Strategies - Heart, Head or Hell?
I have a confession: I was confronted by a friend recently. She suggested that I might possibly be living more from my head than my heart. She wanted to know where all the successful relationships were and was asking me, since I am THE REALationship Coach (That's pretty much the way she said it, too!) to show her evidence that these happy and successful relationships really existed. She was angry. She was hurt.
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Life Success Strategies - Stress-less Success
The Eight Steps to Stress-less Success 1. Create a life vision and visit it daily. 2. Live from the goals that reinforce your vision. 3. Learn and implement your personal balance points. 4. Practice boundaries, boundaries and boundaries. 5. Participate in supportive communities. 6. Feed your mind, body, heart and soul. 7. Keep what is most important, most important. 8. Consciously breathe and smile. What is Flexible and Fluid, As Well As Being Before and After Hummingbird? “Take your work in life seriously...take yourself lightly.” ~ C.W.
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Creating Happy, Healthy Teens
There is research that shows that the best outcomes result when parents provide a good balance between guidelines and expectations for their children’s behavior and a positive, supportive relationship. Parents are not meant to be their children’s best friends but in order to raise happy, ...
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Life Success Strategies - United States Of Addiction
I’m mad...mad as hell, in fact! This is time for my monthly rant. I’ve seen and heard just a bit too much. Now you get hear about it. Do you know that our society is promoting a slew of addictive behaviors? Let me name a few for you: Over-eating, gambling, video games and internet games, over-spending, codependency, sex, worhaholisim...shall I go on? All of the above listed are not only promoted, but socially acceptable to the point where we don’t even acknowledge (until I come along) their severe consequences.
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***Why Do So Many People Lack Integrity?
"By the right choice and true application of thought, man ascents to the Divine Perfection; by the abuse and wrong application of thought, he descents below the level of the beast. Between these two extremes are all the grades of character, and man is their maker and master."nn-As A Man ...
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* Is Your Marriage Suffering From Emotional Infidelity?
Emotional infidelity occurs when you or your partner become emotionally connected with someone outside your relationship, either in person or on the Internet. How dangerous to a marriage or committed relationship is emotional infidelity? One way of looking at emotional infidelity is that it is ...
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Releasing Your Prodigal Child God's Way
If you have a prodigal child, releasing isn't your first response. Your first response is to hold on tighter and try to force change any way possible. God has prodigal children too. He feels the same about them as you do yours. Releasing your prodigal child God's way is healthier than holding on and trying to control. Here is how God deals with this problem:
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Non-Reactivity - A Major Key to Relationship Health
How much of your behavior is in reaction to your partner? What do you do when your partner:nn* gets angry or irritated with you? * withdraws from you? * is blaming or criticizing you? * misunderstands you or is not seeing you accurately? * is always busy? * is complaining, needy, or pouty? * ...
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What Men Really Want
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Christian Relationship Help: Five Characteristics of a Narcissist
This Christian relationship help will enable you to recognize five characteristics of a narcissist. Narcissism is difficult to deal with in relationships and recognizing it will enable you to respond differently to it. Jesus was constantly aware of what was in the heart of the people he dealt with. He knew when people were willing to hurt him, when people were insincere, when people were manipulating him, and when people were pretending. You need to know who you are dealing with so you can respond in a way that is wise. Here are five characteristics of a narcissist:
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***7 Step Guide To Creating A Life Of Substance Abuse
While it is probable that no one consciously sets out to create a life of substance abuse, those who end up addicted to substances are choosing certain thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that will likely end up leading to some form of substance abuse - drugs, alcohol, nicotine, food, junk food, ...
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Relationship Success Strategies: Are You Accepting Or Settling?
When you know what you have to have in a relationship, not only are you going to feel more fulfilled when you have it, you’ll also find the relationship more sustainable. As a result, the relationship will have a higher likelihood of lasting and it’ll be less stressful because your relational needs are met at a much higher level. It is of the utmost importance to put a high emphasis on the deal-breakers. Again, these are the characteristics of relationships which are absolutely, positively non-acceptable.
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***9 Secrets For A Joyful Life
________________________________________ Joy is our birthright - a gift of Spirit. Discover the choices you can make to lead a joyful life. ________________________________________ 1. Self-Compassion Rather Than Self-Judgment
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***Problems Sleeping?
Insomnia is quite common in our society. While there many different reasons for sleep problems - such as poor diet, too much sugar and refined carbohydrates, too much caffeine, or lack of exercise - I want to share two major causes and the solutions to these. Ironically, one of the major causes ...
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Is The Law Of Attraction Bringing You What You Want?
Many people on a personal and spiritual growth path have read about the law of attraction. Simply stated, this law says that like attracts like, which means, in a general sense, that happiness draws happiness and misery draws misery. The law states that whatever we think about, with strong ...
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Parenting: Emotional Incest
Jacob, a participant in one of my telephone support groups, was exploring the fact that he generally didn't like to be touched. He was sharing with the group a situation that used to happen with his mother. "She used to sit me on the couch with her and grab my arms and look intently into my ...
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***What Does It Mean To Have Integrity?
When I was in school training to be a psychotherapist, one of my professors introduced me to a concept that I find very valuable: "bad faith." We are in bad faith with ourselves and others when we are out of alignment with what is true for "who we really are." Who we really are - who is ...
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***Self Improvement: Leisure Time, Retirement Time
You've worked all your life and now you are looking forward to retirement. How will you spend your time? Many people have not created balance in their lives between work and play, so when it comes to leisure time or retirement, they don't know what to do with their time. If you no longer have ...
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***7 Step Guide To Staying Completely Stuck In Your Life
Are you stuck in your life? Do you receive some satisfaction from staying stuck and from no one being able to help you get unstuck? If you are invested in staying stuck, why not do it consciously and deliberately? Here is your guide to never getting unstuck. 1. Make Resistance Your Guiding ...
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***When Not To Start A Relationship
Have you recently ended a relationship or are you recently divorced? Are you thinking about dating again? Many times, putting yourself back into the dating scene is a good idea. But how can you know when it is time to start a new relationship? Here are some questions to ponder: 1. Are you ...
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*7 Step Guide To Never Having Sex In Your Marriage
One of the most common complaints I receive in my relationship counseling work is "We hardly ever have sex." Since you might be addicted to the anger and complaining around this issue, I want to make sure you do ALL the right things so you get to continue being angry and complaining about ...
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Awesomonious
Don't bother looking it up in the dictionary. You won't find it there. It's a Kenism. One of those unique and spontaneous terms conjured up from the depths of my Creative Soul. What does it mean?
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*7-Step Foolproof Guide To Creating A Terrible Relationship
No one SAYS they want a terrible relationship, yet so many people go about creating them that we need to assume they must WANT them! So, here's my 7 Step foolproof guide to creating a terrible relationship. 1. TAKE NO RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN FEELINGS Make sure that you do not take ...
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Attraction, Action And The Art Of Prosperous Living
The Law of Attraction, if you will excuse the pun, can be quite attractive. Narrowed down to its basics, the Law of Attraction means: You will reap whatever type of energy you sow. If you engage in and put out negative energy such as pessimism and cynicism, then you’ll get negative energy back. Likewise, if you engage in and put out positive energy such as hope and optimism, then that, too, will be returned to you. You may recognize this as karma, of which it’s basically the same perspective.
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Intimacy With Yourself
Over the 40 years that I have been counseling individual and couples, I have very often worked with people who are considering leaving their marriage. Often they say things like:nn* I no longer feel close or intimate with my spouse. I love him/her, but I'm no longer in love with him/her.nn* The ...
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Power Struggles - Being Right or Being Loving
Mandy and Evan consulted with me for couple’s counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them. They loved each other very much, but the bickering was certainly getting in the way of enjoying each other. I ask Mandy and Evan to come ...
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Ending Relationships Gracefully
In my counseling practice, I often hear the question, “How do I end a relationship without hurting someone’s feelings?” Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge. The problem arises because so many people see it ...
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Christian Relationship Help: Is Perfectionism Hurting Your Relationships?
Is perfectionism hurting your relationships? If you know you struggle with perfectionism with yourself, there is a good chance that this character trait is also hurting the people around you. Perfectionism manifests itself in relationships in the following five ways:
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“I Need A Partner to be Happy”
Do you believe that you need a partner to be happy? My client, Adrienne, an attractive woman in her 50’s, has been married and divorced twice. She was unhappy in both marriages, but she still believes that she needs a partner to be happy. This belief continually leads her into inappropriate ...
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DATING ADVICE: The Allure of the Unavailable Man
You’ve heard this story a bunch of times, right? Of perhaps lived it yourself? The irresistible man who sends mixed signals; one minute he’s crazy about you – calling and showering you with all kinds of attention. Then, when you find yourself succumbing to his charms, and let yourself ...
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Dysfunctional Families: How to Take Care of Your Children in the Midst of The Dysfunction - Part One
If you are in a dysfunctional marriage and have children, you have a dysfunctional family. This article is the first in a series to show you how to take care of your children in the midst of the dysfunction. Few things cause as much pain, anguish, anger, guilt, fear, anxiety, and frustration as seeing your children hurting. You want good things for your children. Matthew 7:9 says, "Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?"
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R-E-S-P-E-C-T: 25 Ways To Show It
Permissions: You may publish this article free of charge in your ezine, web site, ebook or print publication so long as the copyright notice and the resource paragraph (at the end ofrnthe article) are included. Laurie Weiss, Ph.D. Email: media@laurieweiss.com ------------ Article Begins Below This Line ------------ R-E-S-P-E-C-T: 25 Ways To Show It Copyright 2004 Laurie Weiss, Ph.D. Convicted criminals report that their violent behavior was caused by perceived disrespect.* Everyone wants to be treated with respect, but respect means different things to different people.
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Healthy Guilt, Unhealthy Guilt
Guilt is the feeling that results when you tell yourself that you have done something wrong. Healthy Guilt Healthy guilt is the feeling that occurs when you have actually done something wrong - such as deliberately harming someone. This is an important feeling, which results from having ...
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Four Christian Misbeliefs That Negatively Impact Your Self-Image
If you hold any of these four Christian misbeliefs, they will negatively impact your self-image. Beliefs underlie the way you view the world. The belief you hold about a thing determines what you think, how you feel, and how you act. Here are the four misbeliefs:
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What Are Your Feelings Telling You?
Our feelings are an incredible instant feedback system regarding what is good for us and what is bad for us. For example, our physically painful feelings let us know that something needs attending to regarding our physical body. If you put your hand on a hot stove, the burning feeling ...
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***The Secret To Lasting Love and Commitment From The Man You Love
We've been told that the way to love is pretty linear and straightforward with guys. They take us to a first date, they like us, they make plans and ask us to be exclusive within a month or two, they fall in love and pop the question. Trust me when I say that very often guys don't know how they feel about you in the long run nor do they know what they want. And often the route isn't that straightforward either. That's WHY giving the right impression in the beginning is very important. That's why I don't advise calling a guy up.
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Energy Vampires
Do you sometimes wonder why you feel so drained after being with some people, while you feel energized when being with others? Some people are energy vampires, and actually drain energy from you. How do they do this? What can you do to avoid this? WAYS PEOPLE DRAIN ENERGY Sometimes the ways ...
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Leaving An Abusive Relationship
Jennifer consulted with me regarding her 18-year marriage. "I just don't know what to do. I believe in marriage, and I have tried to believe in my marriage. But Jake's drinking has been getting worse and worse for most of our marriage, and so are his rages. Occasionally he has hit me, and last ...
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Fear of Intimacy
Emotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity. The experience of ...
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Filling Up Exte ally, Filling Up Internally
We all love to feel full inside, which is one of the reasons why eating too much is such a challenge for a lot of people. Yet, as soon as the food digests, many people go back to feeling empty, searching around for more food or something else to fill them up again. Feeling empty feels so awful ...
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Consequences of Authoritarian Parenting
Do you believe that it is your job as a parent to have control over your children? Do you find yourself trying to control your children in the ways your parents tried to control you, or in the ways you learned from siblings, friends or relatives? Do you hope that through yelling, threatening, ...
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Addiction to Venting
"I was up too late with my friend Peg last night," Abigail told me in our phone session. "She was needing to vent. Then I had a problem falling asleep, but at least I was there for her." "How often does this happen?" I asked her. "Oh, fairly often. At least every couple of weeks." "Why do you ...
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What You Don't Know Can Hurt You
Everybody has blind spots. You have certain tendencies that you are not aware of but others can see. These are your blind spots, and they often cause big problems. You may not want to accept that your life style is responsible for your high cholesterol and that you are courting a heart attack. ...
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Hidden Traps for Life Partners Who Work Together
You may think that it would be wonderful to be in business with your spouse, but the truth is that when life partners become business partners unspoken assumptions can cause significant problems. Neither couple I describe knows the other couple, but their stories are strikingly similar. ...
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***Do You Come To Your Partner Open And/or Happy?
________________________________________ Are you aware of what state you are in when you and your partner come together? ________________________________________ On a recent visit with my daughter and her family, she and I were taking a walk and talking about our mutual work.
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***Do You See The Obstacle Or The Goal?
________________________________________ Where does your mind generally go - to the obstacles or to the goal? You CAN change your mindset if it is stopping you from having what you want. ________________________________________ Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. ~Henry Ford
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***How To Get A Man To Pursue You And Make Him Addicted To You
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***Does Niceness Get A Closed Person Open?
________________________________________ Were you taught that if you were nice others would be nice? ________________________________________ "I had this really terrible interaction on the phone with a customer on Tuesday," Carlton told me in our Skype session. "This guy was so closed and controlling. He just kept yelling about what he wanted me to do. I was being really nice, but it didn't seem to make any difference. The conversation went on for an hour and we didn't get anywhere. He just kept acting crazy. I ended up exhausted and drained. Why do people have to be like that?"r
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Control and Resistance - the Relationship Gremlins
"I'm so sick and tired of Andrea's anger and bossiness that I'm about ready to leave this relationship," said Paul in our phone counseling session. "Everything has to be her way. Why can't she just keep her mouth shut? She is ruining this relationship. I hate her judgmentalness. Every time she ...
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Why Rebound Relationship Rarely Works
If you are a single woman over 30 and are actively dating, likelihood is you'll find many divorced men -recent or not- as your potential suitors. You -and your ex that you are not over with- are even perhaps on a rebound yourself! We all go through transitional relationships at one point or another.
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Accessing Your Spiritual Guidance
For the last 35 years, I have been working with individuals, couples and families, as well as business relationships. I have 8 published books on relationships and healing, some of them best-sellers. In the first half of my career, I worked as a traditional psychotherapist, and was not happy ...
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Addiction to Self-Judgment
“I’m such a jerk. How could I have said that?” “I’m a looser. I’ll never get anywhere.” “I’m so stupid. I should have learned this by now.” “I don’t fit in. I don’t belong with these people.” “I’ll never be good enough. I’ll never do it right enough.” “I’m permanently emotionally damaged. I’ll ...
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What to do if Your Spouse Won't Go to Counseling
"What should I do if my spouse won't go to counseling?" I often hear this from my clients. What are they really saying with this question? Generally, they are saying something like: "My unhappiness is coming from my spouse's behavior," or "The problems in our marriage are my spouses' fault," ...
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Christian Codependency: Changing the Beliefs Underlying False Guilt
Are you struggling with Christian codependency? If you answered yes, then you probably experience feeling guilty often in your relationships. Codependents struggle with guilt in relationships because they hold untrue beliefs about relationships. They need to change their inaccurate beliefs about relationships to the following true beliefs:
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Love Addiction, Approval Addiction
In my experience as a counselor for 40 years, I have found that love addiction and approval addiction are far more prevalent than any other substance or process addictions. We live in a love-addicted, approval-addicted society. What does it mean to be love/approval addicted? Below is a ...
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Christian Codependency: Helping Those That Won't Help Themselves
There are many facets to Christian codependency. One of them is that there are some people who refuse to help themselves. Martyrs suffer because they get a payoff: They feed an image that says, "I don't deserve anything better, so I'll continue to endure this." Along with the martyr stroking his or her self-esteem for being so willing to suffer, comes the abrogation of responsibility, which says, "I don't have any choice." Other people aren't willing to make an effort to help themselves out of laziness and irresponsibility. So how do you help those who won't help themselves?
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My Ex Is Seeing Someone Else, Should I Panic?
Rebound relationship is a common occurrence during a breakup. My clients usually get terribly anxious when they find out that their exes are dating again or entering a new relationship. They want to know how to stop this or how their exes can do this, what that means, etc. They ask, "Does it mean they're over me?" Chill, folks. The answer is, very likely, no and the fact that they're seeing someone else can actually work in your favor as it serves as a clarity and as such it can even hasten the reconciliation process if you know how to handle yourself.
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Christians and Divorce - The Grief Process Applied to Divorce
Christians divorce as much as non-Christians. Divorce is one of the most painful experiences people go through. It is like having gangrene and being told by the doctor that you have to cut off your arm. You don't want to, but you know you have no choice. You do what you have to do and yet the adjustment to living life without your arm will be lengthy and your life will never quite be the same, although you will eventually heal and adjust and accept life without your arm.
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***Blaming Others Can Ruin Your Health
This article on CNN Health - http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/08/17/bitter.resentful.ep/index.html?&hpt=hp_c2-by Elizabeth Cohen, is very interesting, regarding the negative health effects of blame and resentment. "Feeling bitter interferes with the body's hormonal and immune systems, according to Carsten Wrosch, an associate professor of psychology at Concordia University in Montreal...."
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How to Decide Your Boundaries When You're Asked to Help - Christian Codependency
Here's an important tool in overcoming Christian codependency: When you are asked to help, you can decide what your boundaries are by considering these five things rather than thinking you have to do everything you are asked to do and becoming resentful. Halley decided to lend her sister money knowing there was a chance her sister wouldn't pay her back and knowing her sister made bad choices with money, because it was just too uncomfortable for her to say no. A few weeks later, Halley began to get angry and resentful toward her sister for pressuring her for money.
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Speaking The Truth In Love - Know Your Truth First
Do you struggle with speaking the truth in love in your relationships? If you answered yes, this biblical truth and tip will help you by helping you to know your truth first. Is it possible to speak too soon? Yes. If you aren't fully convinced of your stance, beliefs, and perceptions, then you will be speaking too soon. Before you speak, you need to know what your truth is so you can stand firm in it and not be swayed by the reaction of the listener.
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***Your Own Inner Work Affects the Whole World!
"Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe What would happen if we each learned to take 100% responsibility for our own feelings and needs - learning to attend to our feelings with compassion for ourselves, and extending that compassion to others? What would happen if each of us were conscious enough to sweep in front of our own door - which means we would be conscious enough not to dump our filth on the rest of the world? I love to imagine the possibilities!
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Christian Relationship Help - Speaking The Truth Even When Others Disagree
Are you looking for Christian relationship help because you struggle with speaking the truth in your relationships? Then, this biblical truth and tip will help you. It is especially problematic to communicate your perceptions, feelings, choices, needs, and beliefs to difficult people. One of the misconceptions we have is thinking that we have to get the other person to agree with our truth. This keeps us in a place where we are stuck and unable to move on when the person doesn't agree with us. We react by arguing, nagging, threatening, lecturing, and re-explaining.
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***A Problem with Today's Parenting
There was an interesting article in The Atlantic, entitled "How to Land Your Kid in Therapy: Why the obsession with our kids' happiness may be dooming them to unhappy adulthoods. A therapist and mother reports." http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/07/how-to-land-your-kid-in-therapy/8555/ The article is about the way many parents focus much of their energy on being there for their children, but their children end up feeling lost and empty.
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***Will Your Next Marriage be Better?
"It's time for me to move on. I've learned so much - I just know that next time it will be better." "Our new relationship has a great chance, because we've both been married before and have learned a lot. We know that this time around we will do it so much better." Is this true? Apparently not! According to research by Jennifer Baker, of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, while 50% of first marriages end in divorce, 67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages end in divorce.
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Christian Codependency: 10 Things Codependents Must Do to Change
There are 10 things Christian codependents must do to change the patterns that keep them reacting codependently in life and relationships. If you are a codependent, you live your life focusing on other people. In order to change, you must take the focus off others and put the focus onto your own life by doing the following 10 things:
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Sometimes It Takes Only One Person To Change And Save Your Relationship/Marriage
If you are feeling desperate because you are trying to save marriage alone, do not despair. There are many others in the same boat as you and such cries for help can be heard from both men and women alike. This is probably because they have made the same common mistake; entering a relationship with unrealistic expectations of fulfillment and happiness.
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9 Relationship Red Flags - What Not to Overlook, Excuse, Or Deny
These 9 Relationship Red Flags have the potential of being overlooked, excused, or denied. All are reasons to stop, look, and listen to what is going on and carefully consider whether or not you should continue in the relationship. All have the potential of desensitizing you to their affects the longer you are in the relationship.
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***Discover Your Level of Narcissism
All of us have some characteristics and behaviors that fall into the category of narcissism. Narcissism is on a continuum from mild, occasional, and subtle to the more ubiquitous, obvious or extreme behaviors of a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Since narcissism is likely a part of everyone's ego wounded self, it is helpful to your personal growth and development to be aware of your own level of narcissism. Be honest with yourself - but not judgmental - regarding the presence and intensity of the following characteristics:
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***Why Don't You Speak Up For Yourself?
My counseling clients often complain to me about interactions they had with a partner, friend, parents or co-worker. When I asked the question, "Why didn't you speak up for yourself?" here are the most common answers I receive: "I want to keep the peace." "I don't want to rock the boat." "I didn't know what to say." "It won't change anything." "He/she won't listen." "We will just end up fighting." "He/she will make it my fault."
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Getting Real About A old Schwarzenegger
Getting Real About A old Schwarzenegger Every time there's a new scandal in the media involving a man cheating on his wife, I'm besieged with emails, Facebook posts and friends asking my opinion.
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How You Can Use Texting To Transform Your Love Life and Make Him More Passionate and Romantic
The amount of time we get to spend with our partners is less and less. Commutes are longer, people often spend eight or ten hours at the computer and in meetings. Our increasingly complex lives also come with a host of professional, personal, and hobby-related commitments. As a result, the amount of quality time we have available to spend with our partner declines. Using technology to send an affectionate or a sexy text is a great way to create touch points with your love throughout the day.
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How to Fight Dumping and Divorce in Today's World
With the statistics of divorce being so high, the idea of 'staying together' can be almost impossible to imagine. For those who are in a relationship or already married, the fight is not over yet.
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***"What Are They Thinking About Me?"
"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do." --Eleanor Roosevelt Why should most people be thinking about you? They are far more conce ed with what you are thinking about them to spend time thinking about you! Right now, take a moment to ponder the question: "How would I feel and what would I do differently if I never thought about what people think of me?" I pondered this question many years ago and discovered some things that changed my life:
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***When You Feel Hurt By Your Partner
I grew up with a very angry mother who would attack me out of the blue. As a highly sensitive only child, the fear and heartbreak of being treated so unlovingly was unbearable. So rather than feel the hurt, I numbed it out by learning to stay in my head rather than being present in my body, and by focusing on caretaking others' feelings. The only way I could survive was to not know that I was being so hurt.
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Yesterday is History! Tomorrow is a Mystery!
Couples who dwell or live in the past seldom are the ones you notice moving forward with anticipation to the future. My belief it that you should only look back to see how far you've come and to learn from the experience. To break free from the past you must look at the future as a mystery. Let things happen intentionally. This is, plan some unexpected romance with your partner. Begin to actively explore the mystery of love and romance together.
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The best gift ideas of all!
It’s easy to get besieged by the sheer volume the holiday season brings with it. And while much of what we are actually celebrating and why gets buried unde eath our “list” (which seems to grow each year, and not always in proportion to our bank account), there’s plenty of time to resurrect the Joy the season has to offer by revisiting what it actually means to give!r
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Enmeshed Parenting
"Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They came through you but not from you and though they are with you yet they belong not to you." -- Kahlil Gibran Symptoms of enmeshed parenting:
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***Are You and Your Partner Hurting Each Other?
Are you aware of how you may be hurting your partner? Are you aware of how your partner may be hurting you? Are you aware of the painful feelings of loneliness, heartache and heartbreak you likely feel when you are disconnected from your loved one and unable to share love?
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Guilty And Trapped When Someone Is Needy
Do you want to be in a committed relationship, yet end up feeling shut down and trapped instead?
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Dealing Directly in Our Relationships
There are three “people” in a relationship: ourselves, our partner, and that invisible third “person:” the couple. When there’s a conflict, we need to be aware of the feelings and needs of (a) ourselves, (b) our partner, and (c) the relationship. In a healthy relationship, our partner will be working on this awareness, too. Sound hard? It is—so first, let's focus on awareness of ourselves. And remember that life is an ongoing learning process.
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All you need is love?
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The Loneliness Epidemic
Are you lonely? Do you believe you just need to learn to live with this? Recent research on loneliness indicates that almost half of Americans experience themselves as lonely, and, surprising, more young people are lonely than the elderly. (https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/05/01/606588504/americans-are-a-lonely-lot-and-young-people-bear-the-heaviest-burden)
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Passionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at home Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul
Passionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at home Experience with Dr. Margaret Paulr The next course will start on June 26th, 2019, and is offered only once a year. https://innerbonding.com/video/mp4/Passionate_Landing-Page.apple.mp4 Are you ready to discover your calling, and have the health and vitality to pursue it? Passionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at-home experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to discover your passionate purpose, enhance creativity, and create a joyful, vibrantly healthy life!
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“I Keep Attracting Narcissists”
Seema asked me this question during one of my webinars. It’s a question that I‘m often asked. “I seem to attract men who are often narcissistic, selfish, cheating and abusive. As much as I try to not repeat this pattern and learn my lessons and grow, I still find myself with this type of person. My dad had all of those qualities too. What am I missing and how do I finally stop this cycle?” There are two very different answers to this question: One answer is that there are many narcissistic people, so the chance of meeting a narcissist when you are dating is quite high.
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Couples Who ‘Chore’ Together, Generally Stay Together
Do you and your partner do chores together? If not, this article might be very helpful to you. One of the major complaints I hear from my clients who are married is around the issue of chores. I can tell you from my own 30-year marriage that the issue of chores was a big deal in leading to the end of the marriage. The Issue That Broke The Camel’s Back
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My Guidance’s Directions to Joy - The Secrets to Bliss!
Following these ‘directions’ from my guidance can bring you much peace, joy and manifestation of your dreams! One of the things I’ve learned to do is follow the directions my guidance gives to me. This has led me to have an amazing life that I love. But since I know that there is always more to learn, I’m always asking my guidance to tell me what else she wants me to focus on. Awhile ago, she gave me three instructions that I want to share with you, because over time they have brought me deep and sustained joy and bliss! Let go of all Background Negativity
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Procrastination and Loving Yourself are Mutually Exclusive
Do you find yourself procrastinating when you have hard or boring stuff to do? Do you then judge yourself for procrastinating? There is a way out of this! What do you do when you have stuff to do that is hard for you, or stuff that may be really boring to you - like studying for an exam, doing your taxes, creating and sending in a resume, getting rid of clutter, and so on. How often do you put it off, procrastinating because it seems too hard or too boring?
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Beyond Addictions to Health, It's Not About Willpower
Do you say you want to be healthy but continue to turn to various substance addictions? Do you believe that it’s just a matter of will power? As we all know, many people in our country are suffering from obesity and major health issues. It’s interesting to explore this in terms of intent. When a person eats too much or eats junk, the intent is to control. The person is using food to suppress pain - to have control over not feeling painful emotions. Wounded Self: Control Over Avoiding Emotional Painr
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A Major Cause of Stress
Discover that stress is NOT being caused primarily by people or situations, but by your own thoughts and actions. We tend to think of stress as something that occurs because of outside events, such as having financial problems, relationship problems, health problems, or from having too much to do. Certainly events such as these are challenging, but they are not the actual cause of stressful feelings. Stress Is An Important Message
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Moved to Tears and Loving Acts by Witnessing Kindness
Learn about the feeling of ‘elevation’ and why you might be moved to tears and benevolence by witnessing acts of kindness. Have you ever been moved to tears by acts of kindness? This happens to me all the time and I’ve often wondered about it. I recently read an article by Daniel Burke, CNN Religion Editor, where he wrote about tearing up at watching the Pope’s kindness. (https://www.cnn.com/2018/04/06/europe/pope-elevation/index.html).
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***Self-Love vs. Selfless Love
Is there a difference between loving yourself and loving others, or are they one and the same? ________________________________________ Have you ever been confused about the boundary between loving yourself and also being loving to others?
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***Can You Emotionally Connect With Your Family Of Origin?
By Margaret Paul, PhDr October 31, 2016 Do you have major challenges in emotionally connecting with your family of origin? You are not alone! Are you happy with your family of origin? Can you emotionally connect with your family? If you can, you are fortunate indeed. Many people feel that if their family wasn't their family, they wouldn't spend time with them, because they feel no emotional connection with them.
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***How to Attract a Healthy Relationship
________________________________________ Do you keep attracting narcissistic or emotionally unavailable partners? You CAN learn to attract a healthy partner! ________________________________________ Have you found yourself continually attracting the same kind of unhealthy person into your life, such as people who are narcissistic or emotionally unavailable? This is the situatio Connie finds herself in.
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***How To Trust Again
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 29, 2016 Learning how to trust again is a process, not an event, and it take both inner and relationship work. I received the following question about how to trust again:
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***Healing From A Relationship With A Narcissist
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 25, 2016 ________________________________________ Healing from a relationship with a narcissist is a learned process. Learn it now! ________________________________________ Many of us have been there. You met the person of your dreams – charming, intelligent, romantic, attentive, incredible chemistry and great lover. You might have been told how wonderful you are, how this was the first time your love had ever felt this way and had this level of connection, and you felt truly seen for the first time.
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Loving Yourself Rather Than Giving Yourself Up
Marina asked: “I often go out of my way and do different things for my fiancé. For example if he wants me to stay and do something with him, I cancel what I have to do and stay with him. But he never does the same. He takes care of whatever he feels he needs to. Then I’m filled with resentment towards him. Can you explain what is a loving way to be in relationships? Do we just do what’s best for us or do we have to sacrifice at some point to make the other person happy?”
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***Addiction to Spirituality: The Spiritual Bypass
By Dr. Margaret Paul May 16, 2016 Are you using your spirituality as a "spiritual bypass" to avoid feeling your feelings and taking responsibility for them? Lian had been meditating for many years before consulting with me for his depression. He had been part of a spiritual community that encouraged their members to turn to God through prayer and meditation whenever they were feeling any difficult or painful feelings such as anger, hurt, anxiety or depression. He had been taught that Spirit would transmute his feelings for him and bring him the inner peace he sought.
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What Is The #1 Real Tool To Stop Procrastinating?
I am reading for the second time this wonderful best selling book from Napoleon Hill published in 1937 and entitled: “Think and Grow Rich.” (the book is available at Cheap’Shop, the Act2be.com online store of ONLY self-improvement materials). In the chapter 8 of this original version, Napoleon Hill talks about the mastery of PROCRASTINATION and he said: “Accurate analysis of over 25,000 men and women who had experienced failure disclosed the fact that LACK OF DECISION was near the head of the list of the 30 major causes of FAILURE.
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***Are You a Trash Can for Others' Negativity?
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 11, 2016 Do you allow others to dump their negativity - their complaints, judgments, anger, self-centeredness and sense of entitlement - onto you? Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, "I'm no longer willing to be a trash can for others' negativity." "Wow!" I said. "I'm delighted to hear that! And I love that metaphor!"
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***The Art of Manifestation: When It Is Loving to Be Controlling
Is it loving or unloving to be controlling? It all depends on your intent, on which part of you is trying to control, and what you are trying to control. When Controlling is Unloving
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Each Act Of Loving Yourself Is Healing To Our Planet
When I was four years old, I had one of those snapshot moments that is clearly embedded into my brain. I was outside by our duplex – at that time kids were safe outside alone - and there were three boys poking a snail with a stick so they could watch it writhe. I was stunned that they could do this, because I was feeling the fear of the snail. At that time I didn't know that I was an empath and could feel the feelings of people, animals and even the planet, and that many others couldn't.
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***Superheroes vs. Underminers: Are You Supporting Your Personal Power?
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. February 29, 2016 Are there people in your life and wounded parts of yourself who want to limit you from being in your personal power? How many of you had the experience growing up of being told in various ways to not claim your personal power and instead limit yourselves from being all you can be? Do you remember the cartoon movie "The Incredibles"? This older movie is a wonderful metaphor for this. In The Incredibles, the superheroes - those with extraordinary powers - are restricted from using their powers.
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Relationships: Loving Yourself by Taking The Sacred Pause
All of us have 'triggers' that set off our fear or anxiety and may lead to our reactivity - anger, defensiveness, withdrawal, compliance or resistance. We are especially triggered in our important relationships. Take a moment right now to think about what, in your relationships, triggers you into your fear or anxiety. Are you triggered by:rn-Another's anger, annoyance, criticism, judgment or rejection?rn-Another's withdrawal or resistance?rn-Another's unhappiness, whining or complaining?rn-A partner leaving on a trip?rn-A partner coming home late and not calling?r
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***Longing For Connection
Are you longing for connection? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another. Deeply connecting with another is one of the great joys of life, and is something most of us long for. Deep connection takes away loneliness and gives us the experience of being deeply known. We feel safe and loved when our hearts connect. Research indicates that the happiest people in the world are those who live in communities where they feel connected with each other.
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***Loving Yourself Fiercely and Relentlessly
By Margaret Paul, PhDr January 23, 2017 How fiercely and relentlessly devoted are you to wanting to love yourself and wanting to learn to treat yourself lovingly? Gerard sat opposite me at one of my Inner Bonding Intensives. "My body hurts and I feel irritated," he complained, in a way that felt like he was handing his hurting inner child to me to soothe and fix. "Gerard, do you want to know what you are doing and how you are treating yourself that is causing this pain?" "Yes, of course. I know he wants me to love him, but I don't know how."
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Loving Yourself When Your Partner Is Needy
Are you an empathic person who feels others' pain and then takes responsibility for their feelings in an effort to alleviate their pain? Is it hard for you to feel others' pain without trying to fix them? Often, empathic people become caretakers to try to alleviate others' pain so they don't have to feel that pain. And takers are generally very attracted to caretakers. This is the situation with Tiffany:r
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***Are You Forgetting Your Guidance?
______________________________________________________ Are you a person who has experienced being tuned into your spiritual Guidance, yet you frequently forget to check in, especially in times of anxiety and stress?_______________________________________________________ Gerald was raised in a family whose God was money and success. There was no religion practiced and neither of his parents had any spiritual connection. Gerald grew up focused on exte als only - looks, performance and material possessions.
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***Loving Yourself When in Conflict
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. November 07, 2016 You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person.
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***Are You Selling Your Soul?
You might not think you are selling your soul, but is this true? What have you given up for money and possessions? - Have you given up kindness to get ahead? - Have you given up family time for a bigger TV? - Have you given up fun for a new car? - Have you given up hobbies for a promotion? - Have you given up vacations for prestige?
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***Loving Yourself When You Feel Lonely
By Margaret Paul, PhDr December 13, 2016 Loneliness has much information for us when we open to it rather than judge it or avoid it with various addictions. One of the saddest and most dysfunctional aspects of our current culture is that it fosters loneliness. It's not hard to imagine that when most people lived in tribes or small villages, loneliness was not the epidemic that it currently is.
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***When You Are Being Nice, Are You Loving Or Controlling?
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. March 21, 2016 ________________________________________ There can be a big difference in intent between being nice and being loving. Being nice might be manipulative, while being loving means being authentic. ________________________________________ Our society has long trained children to be "nice." Being nice might mean • Telling white lies so as not to hurt another's feelings, such as agreeing with them when you really disagree. • Listening politely when someone is going on and on, even when you are so bored you can hardly stand it.
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***The Greatest Joy in Life
_______________________________________________________ There are many experiences that create momentary happiness, but there is only one experience that is truly the greatest joy in life. _______________________________________________________ Take a moment to think about what you believe is the greatest joy in life.
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***Healing the Mother Wound
________________________________________ Do you have a mother wound that plagues you in your life and your relationships? ________________________________________ Many of us have a deep and painful mother wound from not receiving the nurturing we needed. Without adequate healing, this wound can follow you around your whole life and affect all your relationships. Are you still trying to get the love from your mother that you did not receive as a child? This is the situation that Katie is in:
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Three Years of Tears
Dear Dr. Neder I am hopelessly in love with a girl I met 3 years ago at a concert. She means the world to me! I’d give up the rest of my life to spend one night with her on a more than friend level. She has a Boyfriend but I truly care for her. I've tried to move on to different girls but I always end up talking to her after the end of the last relationship. She knows how I feel because I’ve told her. We’ve kissed and made-out and it was magic. She tells me if anything would happen between her and her boyfriend that she would come to me. I feel second best but I don’t care.
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What Is a Real Friend?
For most people having friends is having someone who likes them. And it is true, that a friend will certainly like you, but being popular-which is the goal of most people seeking friendship-is not the same as having a real friend. If your goal is to be popular, be with the in crowd, be well known or well liked, most of your relationships will be shallow. They will come and go like a butterfly, flitting here and there without any real purpose or substance. The need to be liked is very powerful. But it is often a shallow victory to be considered with the 'in crowd'.
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The Disappearing Lover
The Disappearing Loverr By DR. GILDA CARLE (Ph.D.) Courtesy of Match.com’s Happen Magazine ? http://www.happenmag.com/magazine/index.aspx?lid=396 Dear Dr. Gilda, I am 36, a professionally successful divorced woman who has a lot of affection for my boyfriend. But I don’t even know if we have a relationship; he disappears from time to time. He is gone for weeks and then he comes back saying he thought about things and I am the best one for him. I don’t think he is seeing other women, though I can never be sure.
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Giving it the Old College Try
I'm a 19 year old guy studying at college in the UK and there is a girl who I've seen around, mainly in the library. I would like to approach her but have no clue what to say and I'm afraid she might laugh at me for trying to speak to her. I have no confidence and I'm afraid the girl has noticed my interest because she's caught me looking a few times. How do I approach her and what do I say? ====================== Hello! First of all, this girl isn't going to laugh at you for talking to her. That's just your own fears getting in the way.
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Communicating With Your Children
When communicating with children it is important to keep your goals in mind. The younger the child, the more difficult it is to reason with a child. A very young child won't be able to give you the reasoning for his actions. "Why did you hit your brother?" you demand. "Because I hit him?" your child may reply. As your child grows older, his reason and reasoning skills begin to develop. You can converse with a twelve year old in a manner impossible five years previous. So what are goals in parenting? 1.
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For Men Only: 7 Ways to Impress a Worthy Woman
For Men Only: 7 Ways to Impress a Worthy Woman By DR. GILDA CARLE (Ph.D.) Gals may be uncertain about what they want from guys, but there are some behaviors to which they always respond! Courtesy of Match.com’s Happen Magazine ? http://www.happenmag.com/magazine/index.aspx?lid=396
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Fixing a Broken Friendship
Friendship isn't a unique relationship in addition to all the other ones. In fact, friendship is more than that. When any of your relationships can become friends, then it has reached the pinnacle of that relationship. I don't have a wife, children, parents, and then friends. No, each of these other relationships has become friends too. I want to be a friend to my children, to my parents, and certainly to my wife. I married my best friend. She is my wife, but she is also my friend. But how do you repair a damaged or broken friendship?
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How to Prevent a Broken Heart
It seems that we've all suffered a broken heart at one time or another. The pain that it causes and brings is horrific. Few, if anyone, ever wants to go through that again. So how do you prevent it? And if we can actually do that, is it a good thing? The only sure way to prevent a broken heart is to isolate yourself 100% from every human being on the planet. It will be people who break your heart. However, attempting to stay away from people, leads to an even greater problem: A cold heart.
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How To Become More Intelligent
It may not be that intelligence is a measurable quality. We establish IQ scores, true, but these scores are not set in stone. Our brain is like any other muscle, if it is exercised, it grows stronger and more agile. Therefore, it may not even be accurate to assume that one person is necessarily smarter than another. With proper mental exercise and training, you could surpass someone supposedly smarter than you. Chess, for example, has been established to raise a person’s IQ level. The exercise of the brain in such intensity is bound to create a more intelligent person.
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Establishing Rules For Your Children
Learn how to properly establish rules for your children. Done right, you can avoid anger and resentment when you are forced to enforce your rules. Done right, your children won't fight your discipline. One of the methods that I use with my own children is contained in this article. Setting rules for your children is a fundamental part of discipline. Honestly, you have no right to discipline, or punish a child for doing something that you never made clear was wrong. That's just not fair. Shotgun discipline builds resentment in your children. Establish rules.
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How To Bury A Bad Past
The greatest problem with a bad past is not that you made mistakes or did things wrong. It is that you can't go back and undo it. That is the most frustrating part about guilt and regrets. We are hands on people. We want to fix mistakes and right wrongs. But once the moment has slipped into the past, what's done is done. We can't go back and undo or even redo it. That is the problem. So the key to letting your past go is dependent on some sort of action that we can take.
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How to Express Yourself to Others
One of the hardest things to do when you're communicating with someone is expressing yourself. How many times have you said something that just didn't come out the way you wanted it to? How many times have we said something that we really didn't mean, but we were too frustrated to stop it from being said? What's more, some people have a fear of expressing themselves at all. They're afraid to say something that might cost them a friendship. Or they bottle everything up tight and seize up at the mere thought of sharing their true emotions. This can be a constant struggle for people.
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Lousy Segments Make for Good Life
INSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 25, 2009 Lousy Segments Make for Good Life Often we're so engrossed in snippets of our lives that we fail to see the big picture; but life, directed by the mother of all directors, has a way of bringing the pieces together. Think of your favorite movie. It's tough to find a single segment that conveys the message of the whole; individual pieces range from blissful to horrifying. And it takes all of the pieces to create a great movie -- or a great life. I recently watched "Scent of a Woman" for the third time. Lt. Col.
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Keeping Him Satisfied and Interested
Dear Dr. Neder: I just recently became involved with a fellow six years my senior. He is everything I have ever dreamt of; there is just one problem….Me! I have always avoided the relationship scene because, frankly, I have no idea how to handle a relationship. I didn’t actually date until I was 18 and didn’t have intercourse until my third semester of college. I was sheltered most of my life so school and family was all I really knew. He and I met online and decided to become “partners” for a while.
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The Six “R’s” to Getting your Ex Back
Hello Dr. Dennis: I know there are lots of books out on the ‘net claiming that you can get your ex back. Do any of these books really work? What if your ex has moved on and is dating someone else? I was dumped out of the blue. I knew in my heart that it wouldn’t work out because he is very immature and insecure and he loved to play mind games. That’s not what I really wanted to be dealing with.
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FWB: Friends With Benefits, or Blinders
INSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, OCTOBER 2, 2009 FWB: Friends With Benefits, or Blinders I just explained to my husband that "friends with benefits" refers to friends who have sex.
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No Contact Rule: When You'e Addicted to Love
No Contact Ruler Cutting Out the Ex and Moving Forward Healthy people who experience a relationship break up generally experience universal stages of grief such as anger, sadness, and disappointment. Eventually they come to accept the loss and move forward. For love addicts, moving on from a broken relationship literally feels like a dreadful insurmountable ordeal. The agonizing feelings go beyond normal grief— as they are in withdrawal from the love addiction. Accepting the fantasy has crumbled, and moving forward seems unbearable.
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Will You Become A Turkey this Holiday Season?
Have you ever noticed time seems to speed up this time of year? And our calendars get squeezed every which way with commitments to attend parties, dinners, and social obligations. AND not only do we have social obligations, but we have to find time to shop for gifts, time to get our nails done, hair done, wash the car, family….eeekk I’m stressing myself out just writing this! Well I am here to give you some RELIEF and hope! I am going to help you this holiday season and assist you so you don’t have to have another holiday season of rush, rush, rush and frustration and even sickness!
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Meet Six Needs and Bond for Life
INSIDE RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 27, 2009 Meet Six Needs and Bond for Life Relationships make for a happy, fulfilling life or a miserable existence. So, why didn't our parents sit us down early on and teach us to do relationships well? If you think about their relationships, the answer might be painfully obvious. There are few people doing relationships well. Some avoid the ugliness by repressing what's felt, controlling what's expressed and avoiding confrontation.
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5 Steps To Success: This Is What I Do To Create Positive Things Happening In My Life
In my many years alive and in business, I have used many methods, tools and systems in order to accomplish my goals, carry out my plans each year AND Be Successful at the Process AND the Results! I have found there are 5 VERY IMPORTANT STEPS I Must Consistently Take in order to make things happen in my life. I have used all of these with much success! And so can You! This is what I do... First I have to think of what I want and second I need to get a vision of it; I have to be able to visually see it, taste it, smell it, hear it.
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What *Sign* Are You Wearing? The Truth About First Impressions
It’s not uncommon for singles to ask, “What’s your sign?” when meeting someone new. Depending on the extent of their belief in astrology, knowing someone’s astrological sign can aid in making assumptions or conclusions about someone’s personality, character, and consequently, their potential compatibility. But there are other signs that singles pay attention to while dating, ones that are not so obvious.
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What I Learned Last Week: Failure Can Lead To Success!
While I am traveling and at business conferences I often learn many valuable life and business lessons from those I meet along the way and those I see speak at these events. This past week I was in Las Vegas, NV at my friend Ali Brown’s wonderful event “SHINE.” This event was set up to help entrepreneurs Shine in their businesses and in their lives. My biggest take-away was from guest speaker Barbara Corcoran, one of the hosts of the hot TV show "Shark Tank." She spoke about moving forward despite being told the big word - “No” - and being teased and told she was not talented.
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What’s Scary About Being in a Relationship? Part 1
What’s scary about being in a relationship? I’ll tell you! There are many things we hear from our friends, we see in the news, on TV, or in the latest movies such as “Why Did I Get Married?” AND despite the age-old myth of “you live happily ever after... in bliss,” being in a relationship takes some work! You actually do have to learn, know and use some relationship skills to make it last longer these days.
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Open(ing) Relationships
Hello Dr. Dennis! My girlfriend (2 years of a wonderful relationship) and I have been talking about an “open relationship” where we both could find other sex partners but stay together as a couple. We’re both enthusiastic about it but I wanted to get your take. Is this a good idea? Will it ruin our relationship? Thanks! ------------------------------ Hello! Yes, I have a lot to say about open relationships. They can be extremely good or extremely bad – I find very little in between! There are reasons for that I’ll get into in a moment.
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The Good, The Bad, and the Beautiful
Every day of our lives we are confronted with the good and the bad. Our work, our friendships, commute, relationships, everything has its ups and downs. When in a relationship, whether it is a marriage or boyfriend/girlfriend, we can be flooded with warm feelings that make us secure and feel great. It is important to remember those feelings when the downs come. No matter how perfect the relationship is, there will be moments that can bring you down. If you are lucky enough to have someone to share your life and love with, you should not let the little things get to you.
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Becoming Aware of How You Hurt Yourself is a Key to Improving Your Life & Relationships
Introduction If you feel there is something in the way you “do” life, your attitudes and the way you behave that hurts your well-being and happiness, becoming aware of what you were not aware of until now is the key to initiate a conscious change in your behavioral patterns, tendencies and attitudes. Such a change will enable you to stop behaving in self-sabotaging ways and free yourself from your fear of anger, rejection or whichever fear has become part of the self-image you have created for yourself. **
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What Is the Best that You Can Do When Wanting to Help Your Friend?
Introduction There are those who, when confronted with a crisis situation or with a need to change something, get into a “helpless” state of mind. They feel they don’t have control over their lives, that they can’t make decisions and move forward. They might feel stuck in whichever situation and/or state-of-mind they are, yet still not have the courage and/or the motivation to make a change. You might then wish to intervene, help them move forward and make a change. But can you indeed help them? Would they accept your help? ** Connotations of “Friendship”
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Are You a Single Mother In Search for a Partner? Awareness is Vital to Your Success
Introduction Single mothers who wish to find a partner with whom to develop a serious and successful relationship need to be aware of their expectations and needs and share these with the prospective partner. If he will do likewise they increase the likelihood of becoming able to develop and nurture a satisfying intimacy. **
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5 vital tips on how to get your ex back fast
Ending a relationship is tough for everyone, but it doesn’t mean that you cannot get your ex back. You might think it’s impossible to get her\him back in your life or that you will need to do very amazing things in order for that to happen, but the good news is that this is not really as hard as it sounds. In the following paragraphs, we’ll take a closer look at some of the things you need to know about how to get your ex back fast.
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Letting Go of an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship: Why Many Don’t Have the Courage for & why it is Healthy and Important
At times, letting go is very healthy. Yet there are many who don’t have the courage to let go, and they resort to various reasons and justifications to explain – to themselves and to others – why they stay stuck in a bad relationship. While staying they might be “obsessed” about their partner, constantly lingering what to do, whether to stay or leave, what to expect, how to improve the relationship – if at all possible, trying to figure out what they have done wrong, feeling shame, pain and frustration. Why many don’t let go of a bad relationship?
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Do You Have the Personal Quality Which Enables You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship?
What are the “best” personal qualities which enable you to develop a successful intimate relationship?
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Why/How Am I in This Situation?
There are many changes happening in our world lately. This can seem challenging and bring about fear and negative thoughts and actions for many people. Reacting to changing situations around us is common and normal for most of us during these times, however it is not always productive in the long-term to stay in constant negativity and fear if you want to move forward and be more successful. In this article I am going to show you why you may be in the situation you are in, and how you can change it instantly by changing these 3 things...
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Be Aware: When Your Desire for Love is Driven by Neediness & Dependency it Harms the Relationship
Introduction Many “fall for” others who are unavailable, giving themselves totally, as if there is no tomorrow, ignoring warning signs – even the most obvious ones – believing they have found “the love of their life”, only to become disillusioned time and again – and to jump in with another unavailable person. For as long as they are not aware of their need and dependency, they are not able to change, heal and develop a healthy intimacy. **
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Should You Stay or Should You Leave an Unsatisfying Intimate Relationship?
Introduction Whether you decide to stay in an unsatisfying intimate relationship or leave is up to you. But you can make a proper decision only when you are aware of your fears and needs, of what might keep you hanging on to a partner which is not for you, in a relationship which is not healthy and satisfying. Only then you become able to make a conscious decision one way or another. **
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Tales from the Therapist's Couch: Why Smart Women Stay with the Wrong Guy
As a relationship therapist, I meet women every day who know they are dating the wrong guy. They are bored, they feel lonely, and their relationship is unsatisfying—yet they stay. Why? As different as the women are, their reasons are shockingly similar.
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Freeing Yourself from Harmful Behaviors within the Relationship Enables You to Succeed with Your Intimacy
As much as you might want to have a successful, healthy and satisfying relationship, and as much you think you do “all you can” in order to have one, you might still, unconsciously, react and behave in ways which hurt your bond. This is normal and humane, and many share this problem. The reason being, that you, like many others, might not have the courage to be authentic, to voice your needs and wishes. You might prefer to “be there” for your partners (or dates), to “agree” and succumb to whatever they request and expect.
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Self-Betrayal is the Most Horrific Betrayal of them All!
You probably tend to think – like most people do - that the most horrific betrayal of all is a person’s betrayal of his/her partner. After all, this is what you have been brought up to believe since childhood – from books and movies you have seen; from newspaper reports you have read; from TV programs you have watched as well as from conversations with others. But actually, the most horrific betrayal of all is a person’s betrayal of himself/herself: of living his/her life not according to what he/she would like to live them.
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Saying YES When You Rather Say NO Harms the Relationship. Make a Change and Stop Sabotaging Your Intimacy
Learning to say “No” is an important step forward in improving your quality of life and relationships. Often, those who can’t say “No” within a relationship (or, for that matter, with new dates even before a relationship has been formalized) are often those who can’t say “No” in other situations in their lives. Saying YES when you rather say NO harms your relationships. The only effective way to begin saying “No” is to begin saying it, and to stand by what you say. Why could she never learn?
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Spying on Your Partner OR Learning about Yourself: Which one is Better in the Long Run?
Partners’ spying on each other is not a new phenomenon. What is new is the “James Bond” techniques they use. In different stores in Manhattan you can find, these days, various devises to spy on your “loved one”: a pen, glasses, a key-chain, a tie, a watch, a clock, even a teddy bear - all of which look like ordinary ones. But they are more than the eye can see!
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I Do
I marry people. I guess I have married more people than most. Whoppi Goldberg and I marched in the National March on Washington for AIDS and I married ten thousand lesbians and gay men there on the steps of the I.R.S.. Since then, I suppose have officiated at 30-40 more weddings of both gay and straight people. I don’t do it for strangers. I do it for people I love, but mostly, I do it for me. It’s a step away from indifference.
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Be Your Own Relationships’ Coach and Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship
Engaging coaches in your personal and professional life has become a trend: more and more seek the advice and services of one coach or another, be it for lack of time, lack of experience, inability to make the right choices by yourself or just a symbol of status (just like having a personal psychologist, lawyer and accountant). But when it comes to relationships – whether you have a partner and are dissatisfied or are looking for a partner - do you really need a personal coach? Does the coach know something you don’t? Can the coach really help you in ways you cannot help yourself?
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Stuck in the Same Rut Most Americans Are in These Days? You Don’t Have to Be!
I have learned to turn any situation or environment into an opportunity for happiness, new learning and joy. Is this something that would be helpful to you right now? Are you hooked into the gloom and doom and negative outlook the media shouts at you through your TV and radio? You don’t have to participate in all that. REALLY! I don’t! Instead this is what I see: (1.) I’ve see Great Sale prices on almost everything! I’ve been getting deals wherever I shop.
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Can Your Dreams about a Wonderful Intimate Relationship Materialize?
It is wonderful to dream and fantasize about a wonderful relationship with a wonderful person. Who wouldn’t want to be involved with a great intimacy? But often, when you meet someone, even if at the beginning of the relationship you believe you have indeed seen your dream come true, slowly but surely you begin to realize this is not the case. Reality is different. At the beginning you might try to ignore this fact, to claim that what you notice is only temporary and to hope that, eventually, all will go smoothly as per your dream.
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3 Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Keeps Running From Commitment
Your boyfriend keeps running from commitment. Maybe for a time you looked the other way because you thought he would eventually change. He hasn't and you've been together long enough for him to know that a commitment is what you desire most in the world. Perhaps you've been trying to drop subtle clues about how you wish he would just propose. Or you may be the type of woman who just throws caution to the wind and speaks her mind by asking her man to marry her. Regardless, nothing has worked to this point and you're still the ever-doting girlfriend who feels under appreciated and unfulfilled.
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Is There Such a Thing as "Unconditional Love?"
Basically, the answer is "no." Here's how I came to that conclusion: I recently read a “tweet” on Twitter stating “Unconditional love is given by dogs & sought by children. Adults get what they get.” I was immediately prompted to “tweet” back, “Love is never unconditional. It should always be conditioned on respect, caring, loyalty, & making sure you get it back in return.” When I talk with singles who are frustrated in their search for a committed relationship, the demand for “unconditional love” frequently comes up.
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The Wheels on the Bus Again
Have you ever had strange experiences that turned into revelations? This week I had the chance on a rather interesting bus ride. This time the drivers did not change in the middle of the shift, but the adventure was equally as entertaining. On my way to deal with matters I decided to ride the bus. This bus has a driver and a ticket seller that stands near the door of the bus. The ticket sellers typical routine is to announce the stop around 200 meters from the bus stop, then again 50 meters from the bus stop and then finally around 10 meters from the bus stop.
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Don’t Try to Change Your Partner. Change YOURSELF Instead! This Can Help Your Relationship
Men and women alike often try to change their partners. They believe that “only when” their partners will think, feel, react and behave the way they themselves do – the relationship will be satisfying. But how often does it happen that just because they try to change their partners their relationship is getting worst and worst? Just because they think they know better how their partners “should be, think, feel and behave” they find themselves in endless conflicts and quarrels? Why would anyone want to change his/her partner?
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Compromise to Get Him Back or Bolt?
Dr. Neder: I've been dating a guy for 6 months. We were inseparable we spend loads of time together. We get along fantastic our families love each other. There is one big problem. I had to move back to the tow I'm from which is where he lives. I noticed that he didn't want me in his home when ...
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What of Our Fathers?
We can be quick to judge our parents. There are so many things they could have done better. That is, if they had been better trained. We tend to compare our parents -- at least during some stage in our lives -- with an ideal that virtually no parent measures up to. If we must compare them, ...
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Let the Fireworks Continue
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Have You Ever Thought about Making an Agreement with YOURSELF in Order to Succeed with Your Intimate Relationship?
It is customary these days for partners to institute a prenuptial agreement or, while dating, a “relationship agreement” - mutually agreeing on the “relationships terms and conditions”: for example, whether the partners commit to meet once or twice a week; whether they commit to spend a night or two together; and so on and so forth.
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Just Never Satisfied!
Hi Dr. Neder, I am a 24 year-old med student and cannot find the right woman. I have been told I'm a handsome and outgoing, and my women friends always tell me I'm a catch. I've been involved with a couple women that logically seem like the type I'd like to get involved with, but I never ...
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Infidelity and Being Single
In a time where President Bill Clinton, former Senator John Edwards, and countless other public and private individuals stray from their relationships, temporal as it may be, I wonder how many Singles want a committed relationship. Why? Dr. Darshana Hawks, Relationship Expert, asserts that we ...
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Business Travel Tips
Some of us love to see the world at the expense of our companies, while there are others of us who don’t enjoy the travel experience so much. When we come home from a long trip home we love to seek the things that provide the most comfort for us. It may be a nice hot beverage, or perhaps a long warm shower. No matter what it is, it is our natural instinct to seek comfort after a long trip. If you are part of a committed relationship of any sort where at least two members share a household, you may have forgotten one important fact about your business trip.
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Will He Marry Me?
Hi Doc: I guess my situation is common but let me ask what you think any way. I am a 42 year old woman that has been dating a 50 year old man for 4 years now, we have been living together for 2 years now and we’re both divorced. When we met I was very clear what I wanted and he seemed ...
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A Pair of Jackasses Beats a Straight Flush
Dear Dr. Neder, I have been reading your column for a while and I never thought that I might need help myself. But lo and behold I am here writing you this letter. I am naturally a cocky, funny asshole beautiful girl which lets me date out of my league and makes men bend over backwards for ...
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Attraction and Love Formulas
I’ve been promoting a new concept on my show that has been very successful in explaining how attraction and love work. I call these them (collectively) “The Formula”. Is there really a “formula” for attraction and love? Yes, there is. I discovered them when I was working on what sorts of ...
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Dear Dr. Neder: My boyfriend and I have only been dating a year and 2 months. I do really care for him and I pray he cares for me as well. Here is my concern, he has hidden things from me before, and I have found out and now I'm getting afraid he is doing it again. He has promised me that he ...
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Approaching The Girl
Hi Dr. Neder, I'm trying to approach and meet a girl I see frequently on the way to work in the morning at the train station. What is the best approach and what do I say at first to get her trust and interest? Please let me know what you ...
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Love And Dating - Make It Your Business
Adam is 37 years old, single, and a successful financial analyst. Adam has a track record of picking quality people to work with and profitable business ventures to pursue. Hence, he has created a loyal group of colleagues and clients who trust that whatever project Adam invites them to ...
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Surviving An Affair- The Vital First Steps That Will Lead To Your Long Term Happiness
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The "Date Canceller" and other Feminine Games
Hey Doc! I've noticed a trend in my dating life that is really starting to piss me off. It's rare for me to make plans with a girl and to not have her try to cancel on me or suddenly be "too busy" to keep our date. I'm so tired of games like that. Are they trying to see how much I want them or ...
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If You Are Unhappy About Your Relationship (or Lack of) - Learn How to Develop a Satisfying One!
ARE YOU UNHAPPY WITH YOUR INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP? If you are unhappy in your relationship – or with your failed attempts at finding a partner – “use” it to figure out what it takes to develop a successful relationship. Your unhappiness, as much as it is an awful feeling, can serve as a turning point in your future success at relationships. If you “use” it to your advantage it can enable you understand how to go about developing a successful intimacy. THE “ADVANTAGE” OF BEING UNHAPPY
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Do Little Things Bother You About Your Dating Partner? It Might Really Be About You
The guy you're dating tends to be a little less than punctual. The woman you're seeing isn't the neatest when it comes to her pocketbook, or her apartment. And it bothers you. A lot. So what do you do about it? You do what you've done before - you end the relationship. But if you find that ...
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Getting a Girl To Date Me
I’ve been friends with this girl all through high school but since December we have been best friends. The past 2 months we have brought our friendship to a new level - friends with benefits you could say. She has been going out with another guy for about 2 years but they were on a "break" ...
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A Dearth Of Dates
Hi Doc: I am 30 years old and have never been on a date. I had very bad anxiety because of my obsessive compulsive disorder. It's not as bad now, but I don't have much experience talking to people. I talk to people at work and they want to help me, but I fear I am not experienced enough. I ...
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Relationship Deal-Making - Shifting Love Into A Long-Term Commitment, Part 1 Of 2
Loving someone doesn't always translate into a relationship. This is the hard cold truth singles often have to accept if they ultimately want a healthy life-partner relationship. That's because love can't survive alone and pure in a world complicated by so many other elements. We all have jobs ...
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Should I Contact Her Again?
Hi, So a week ago I met this girl. She was an old high school friend of a new student in my department that I don't know well yet. Anyway, I had a great time chatting with this girl. We had lived in/traveled to similar places, had similar complaints about the local traffic, and so on. It seemed ...
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Listen to Your Partner’s Feedback: It Will Help You Improve Your Relationship
INTRODUCTION Your partners might often see in you characteristics and traits you don’t acknowledge and accept in yourself. The reason being – you reject and depress these in you if you feel they don’t correlate with the person that you want to believe you are. Listening to what your partners tell you about yourself can help you change, improve, develop and maintain a satisfying relationship. YOUR PARTNERS MIGHT KNOW ABOUT YOU MORE THAN YOU THINK
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When to Share Your Relationship History While Dating Someone New
Over the years, singles have asked me if they should disclose their relationship history with their dating partners. While some of this information may be important for a potential partner to know, there are a few guidelines that I recommend before deciding to "bare all." Dear Janice, I am ...
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Turning Down a "Friend"
Hey Doc: I had a friend that is very important to me ask me out. I told him he was important, but just a friend. I didn't say “yes” to him because mostly I've been thinking about a couple of other guys, one in particular, that I want to go out with. They seemed to have shown signs ...
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Are Nice Guys A Dying Breed?
Do women even want a nice guy anymore? I've been a nice guy all my life. Upbringing taught me to be nice to everyone. I open doors for women, compliment them, laugh with them, do nice things for them such as favors and such. What do I get in return? “You’re so sweet and ...
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Pre-Qualifying a Woman’s Digits
Hi Dr. Neder, I LOVE your books! They really helped me and this letter is an example of what I’ve learned. I was walking out of this building on campus and by chance I see this girl walking next to me. Every one around was wearing kind of uniform for orientation and I thought that would be a ...
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Meet, Date, And Be Merry--Or Married
INSIDE/NAKED RELATIONSHIPS BY JAN DENISE RELEASE: FRIDAY, OCTOBER 26, 2007 Meet, Date and be Merry -- or Marriednn (SET ITAL) I am 54 and was divorced in 1998. I have not had a serious relationship or sex since 1996. I have been to all types of singles groups and, of course, nightclubs, which ...
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Does Your 'Yes' Really Mean 'No' In Your Romantic Relationship?
Do you find yourself constantly saying yes to the man in your life, when you really want to say no? I'm not referring to a healthy, balance relationship, but off-balanced situations, in which many women have developed the unhealthy relationship pattern of being "yes women" in front of their ...
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My Wife is Always Angry! How to Find More Peace in Your Marriage
Most people will admit, when pressed, that they do have a temper. Each individual has a different degree of anger within them and it's often brought to the surface when things completely go awry. In a marriage that can differ slightly. Some women, who have been married for a time, seem to struggle with keeping their anger under wraps. They walk through their days with a scowl on their face and a bitter word for just about everyone, including their husband. Being married to a woman like this isn't easy. In fact, it can make staying married that much harder.
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Five Steps To Overcoming Commitment Phobia And Creating A Loving Life-Partner Relationship
While I define "commitment phobia" as "an unrealistic fear of making a promise, a pledge or a vow to be a faithful and loyal partner to another person," many singles may also fear that becoming a committed couple means giving up, or losing, their independence. It's not uncommon for singles to ...While I define "commitment phobia" as "an unrealistic fear of making a promise, a pledge or a vow to be a faithful and loyal partner to another person," many singles may also fear that becoming a committed couple means giving up, or losing, their independence.
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Did My Compliment Make Him A Lost Cause?
Hi Dennis, I like this guy. He’s one of those really hot guys that every girl likes and he knows it and he seems stuck up and conceited about it. He knows all the women want him and definitely knows he's hot stuff but all the times I have talked to him he seems nice. So today I saw him ...
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Handling The “Hard-to-Get” Game
Hey Dennis! I’ve read your website and I think you might be able to help me. I’ve had numerous relationships and have no trouble getting girls. I’m approaching 30 now and trying to find the girl of my dreams. There is this girl I have known for about a year or so that has always not only ...
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How Surviving Infidelity Can Make Your Relationship Even Stronger
If you look at the statistics you'll see that the chances of surviving infidelity in your relationship or marriage are pretty lousy. With all your emotions in turmoil, the anger, betrayal, guilt, remorse and confusion normally make it impossible to be rational so the chances of reconciliation ...
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Nature's Plan For Emotional Healing
When two people fall in love, something profound is happening that goes far beyond physical attraction, desire for companionship and even similarity of values and interests. There is an activation of an unconscious agenda that began years ago, rooted in childhood hurts and unmet needs. That ...
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Reasons For Adultery - And How The Shocking Statistics Reveal Why Noone Can Be Complacent
Everyone in a marriage or long term relationship needs to be aware of the main reasons for adultery especially in view of the most recent statistics. Recent surveys have revealed that 45% of women and 55% of men have been guilty of committing adultery. Of course these are just the ones who ...
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How Do I Make it Through
Dear Dr. Dennis, I was in a relationship for 5 and a half years. The relationship is breaking up. My partner is not satisfied with me, I believe. He has said he wants to see other people and wants to consider other options. But he says he still cares or me and he is confused. I just read a ...
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The Girl at Work
Dear Dr. Neder: I have liked a woman at my work for sometime now. We were out with others from work one evening and I admitted to her how I felt after getting a little drunk. She was perfectly sober since she was the designated driver. At the same time, she told me that she was also attracted ...
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The Problem: Inertia
Dear Dr. Dennis: I’ve read a number of your articles where you talk about having “game” (the ability to meet women, get numbers, etc.) Unfortunately, I don’t have any! I’m more of a home-type person who wants to get out and do more with life but a lot of times I find it difficult to do. It ...
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Some Women Get Mad When You Say "No"!
Hi Doc! Why is it that when women turn men down for sex, they expect us to be understanding and caring, and when men turn women down, they flip out?? Here's the situation: I broke up with a girl I had been with, but have been able to remain minor friends. I know you don't think that's a ...
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Find What Makes You Happy
Hi I recently came across your article on “sabotaging relationships” through an Internet search and I really found it helpful. I’m writing to you because of my current situation. I am 31 years old and have grown up in a very religious community. Everything is judged superficially; family, ...
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Dating Rights Verse Dating Responsibilities
Hello Dennis, You have always been very helpful to me in the past and I was wondering if you could help me out with this situatio I've encountered. My girlfriend smoked cigarettes for over 10 years but stopped. When we started dating I made it clear that I cannot date a smoker as I find the ...
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All About Lying
Hey Doc: About a year ago, I was unemployed, and my girlfriend's mother told her that if I didn't get a job, that she wouldn't allow her to see me anymore. She then called and told me this. Right then and there I made a terrible decision – I lied. I lied telling her that I had just gotten a ...
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You Better Know How to Handle “The Test”!
Hey Doc! I met this girl a couple of months ago and we started to hang out. At first she said she only wanted to be friends when I made a move so I just blew it off but she continued to call me all the time wanting to see me. One night we went out, and she kept on flirting with me and getting ...
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Stop Sabotaging Your Relationships! Learn How and Develop a Successful Intimacy
If you desire to have a satisfying intimate relationship but haven’t been successful until now, you can probably “predict”, your chances at success next time around based on your past experiences. In all likelihood, if you have failed until now, there is no reason to believe you will succeed next time – unless you make changes vital for a successful relationship. But as long as you are NOT aware of what makes you fail, how would you know what you need to change in order to succeed? EXAMPLES OF MEN AND WOMEN SABOTAGING THEIR RELATIONSHIPS
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The Five of Cups
Each day I draw a card for my own Meditation and Guidance. Today I drew the 5 of Cups tarot card from the "Deviant Moon" Tarot, by Phillip Valenza. The Deck was a gift that I received last night. I thought it was perfect timing for the "Crow Moon".
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Enjoy More, Maintain Less
Enjoy More, Maintain Less With the emphasis on home and garden this month, it's easy to feel as though you spend more time maintaining your home than enjoying it, right? And chances are you've also felt that way about your relationship. The words — muttered or screamed — go something like, "My God, can't we be civil long enough to enjoy one measly weekend?"
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Does Your Anxiety Drive You to Sabotage Your Relationships? Learn How to De-activate its Power
INTRODUCTION Your anxiety often harms your attempts at relationships. It works against you as you try to find a partner and develop a successful intimacy. It drives you to react and behave in ways which are counter-productive to a successful relationship. Combating your anxiety enables you to become empowered and selective about the people you choose to go out with and the relationships you wish to develop. YOUR ANXIETY HARMS YOUR ATTEMPTS AT HAVING A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
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How Much is Sex “Worth”?
Dear Dr. Neder: I’m 23 years old and I met this guy (25) about 6 months ago and we really hit it off. He’s absolutely perfect! We got along great and started dating and things turned physical pretty quickly. I’ve decided to wait until I’m married before I’ll have sex but we made out and ...
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What Everyone Needs to Know About Extramarital Affairs... and what you can do to help
Recent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital affairs. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in marital infidelity. That ...
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Single & Dating? Note that People Who Are Separated or “In the Process” Might Not Be “Available” for a Serious Relationship
If you are taking part in the dating scene you have probably met many who claim to be in the process of divorce/separation or declare that they have just recently separated. Agreeing to go out with them under the assumption that a satisfying relationship might develop is, in most likelihood, a wishful thinking, ending up in your being frustrated, angry at yourself, disillusioned and alone. Taking care of your own self-development is a time better spent than going out with them. WHY IS IT BETTER FOR YOU TO NOT GO OUT WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE JUST SEPARATED OR “IN THE PROCESS”?
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The Rules of Fidelity
Doctor Neder: I am in a serious relationship of almost a year. We have one major problem that continues to come up. When we were first dating, we'd been out maybe a dozen times and slept together maybe 6 times, had no conversations about being exclusive and at a party I was intimate with ...
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I’m a Snoop!
Hello – This is questions requires some background information. My ex-boyfriend and I just broke up about a month ago after a two-year relationship because he got into medical school 7 hours from home, and I can’t move because I had accepted a really great job. We decided that long distance ...
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Should a Woman Ask a Guy Out?
I keep reading that if a man is interested he will ask you out (which I think is true to a point). When a guy asks you out that definitely shows interest, but it is hard for me to believe that every single guy has the guts to ask out all the girls he has been interested in. My question is: ...
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Getting to Know Yourself is the Best Way to Succeed in Developing a Satisfying Intimate Relationship
If you are single and on the dating scene wishing to find a partner with whom to develop a successful relationship, you have probably listened to and practiced many dating-tips you read in advice columns, found on the internet and received from friends, such as: * Write the perfect profile * Enrol on several internet sites * Develop communication skills * Learn how to listen * Make a list of what you are looking for in a partner * Go on as many dates as you can *Don’t try to show the best “you” on first date
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Don’t Let Your Belief-System Hurt You & Sabotage Your Relationships
It is being said that having a belief-system is good: it is something which directs you; guides your actions; motivates you to know how to go about feel you know how to move forward with life. But if your belief-system controls your attitudes and behviors without you being aware of it, you are in danger of sabotaging your relationships.
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Just How Does A Guy Meet A Girl, Anyway?
Hello Doc: I've never really known much of anything about dating. I'm 26 years old and I've never had a serious relationship. I feel like I've missed out on a lot of knowledge over the years and I feel like I'm sunk. Where can I go to meet people? How do I introduce myself when I find ...
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Men Won’t Approach Me!
Dear Dr. Neder: I am an African female who has very short hair and for these reasons, I feel that men are intimidated by me. I am 5'0 feet tall and very petite with a voluptuous body. Aside from my looks however, my speaking abilities are very polished and I also major in Math and Computer ...
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8 Most Common Dating Mistakes People Make on The Internet
8 COMMON DATING MISTAKES MOST PEOPLE MAKE ON THE INTERNET Finding lover We all want to be loved. It is a very profound human need. But how do we get it? Where do we look for it? Why don't we find it?
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Breaking Free from Love Addiction
Love Addiction can be loosely defined as a dysfunctional relationship between two people in which one person strives, almost compulsively, to 'fix' the other person. A characteristic behavior in Love Addiction is enabling, in which the love addict ignores problem behavior in the other person or makes excuses for them in order to continuously feel needed or to live up to a faulty sense of responsibility for that person's conduct.
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SUGAR - THE CO-CANE OF THE FOOD WORLD!
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A Successful Intimate Relationship Depends on Being Aware
INTRODUCTION We all like to think that we are logical, rational human beings. But many of our reactions and behaviors are driven by factors we NOT aware of – leading us to harm our relationships. Developing Self-Awareness paves the way to a successful intimacy. ARE WE RATIONAL HUMAN BEINGS?
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The Anti-Valentine’s Day Valentine’s Day
So, what’s it going to be this year? Crowded, noisy restaurant with lousy service? The usually dozen red roses? Jewelry? Card? A lot of whimpering and crying? Here’s the problem with Valentine’s Day: It has become the lousiest “Hallmark Holiday” on the calendar. It’s supposed to be a day to express love and appreciation for your partner (or partners?) Instead it has become a day where women expect huge, meaningful messages and often wind up either disappointed or angry because the expression wasn’t “just right”.
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Does True Love Really Exist?
We all want to be loved. However for many achieving happiness within a healthy relationship has escaped us. Many of us have spent most of our lives in relationships that were co-dependent and needy, but did involve huge life lessons and karma. Knowing that each relationship we experience brings us further along our path of evolution and should not be considered a mistake. Sometimes we wonder what on earth we were thinking when we married an individual or asked them to move in with us.
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You ARE Love
You ARE Lover By Jan Denise From the time we learn the word “no,” we begin to get the message that what we would do naturally is “bad.” As young children, we can’t make a distinction between our behavior and ourselves, so we buy into a lie—the lie that in order to be good enough we have to sit still and be quiet, or look pretty, or SOMETHING. But you know as well as I do that some of the demands we place on children (and ourselves) are more apt to stifle them than make them good.
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AWARENESS - MOVING TOWARDS MASTERY
AWARENESS – MOVING TOWARDS MASTERY
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How to Turn a Failed Relationship into a Successful One: Self-Awareness is the Answer
INTRODUCTION It isn’t easy to change habits. But when it comes to intimate relationships, sticking-on to your habits is a sure way to fail. When you understand your habits, realize the damage they cause to your relationships and make the necessary effort to change them, you increase your chances of developing a successful relationship. HABITS MIGHT HARM YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
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Building Attraction in Men
“Just what do men want anyway?” Yes, I get that question a lot these days and no, I don’t just answer with “sex”. (Yes, men want sex, but that’s not really the answer to this question.) You keep hearing that “men are simple” and that’s not really true. It’s based on that however that you often believe sex is the only answer. In fact, men are actually rich, varied and pretty complicated – just like women are. Thus, answering a question like that with something as simple as “sex” is pretty sophomoric and frankly, misleading. Let me try to clear up the fog a little. Men want:
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Understanding Breaking Up
Have you ever suffered the emotional knifing of a relationship breakup? Why does it hurt so damn much? Why don’t we say “NEXT!” and smile joyfully as we trip down the road to the Plenty More Fish shop? The sudden and aching void that forms when your honey, who you thought was your only soul mate, best friend, love and life companion, gives you the news that “it’s over” can send you down a very dark road.
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Your Chance to Bounce Higher
Your chance to bounce higher No matter who you are, you feel less comfortable financially than you did a couple years ago. And particularly if that's the only comfort you knew, you're hurting. The good news is that you also feel less complacent! If you haven't gotten more creative and motivated yet, you can. You will, once you feel that spark of hope and begin to fan it.r
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How to Get the Love You Want
Take a minute to think about what you expect from a loving relationship with a partner. Does your list contain any of the following common expectations? o Healing past wounds o Meeting all of your current emotional needs o Fulfilling fantasies and idealizations of how life should berno Making up for other less rewarding aspects of life / making your life "whole"
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Hope Springs Ete al for The Holidays!
The more we focus on what we don't want the more we attract it. We all know this is a Universal Law. Putting energy somewhere even when it is not positive will attract more of the same.
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DENIAL - AND WE ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT THE RIVER IN EGYPT!
Denial blocks us from our true selves. It even blocks us from hearing Divine Guidance. If you are on the path of God Realization or enlightenment, it also blocks us from receiving these wondrous gifts.
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Do You Want to Have a Successful Intimate Relationship Next Year? Here Are the Requirements
Do you find yourself at the end of this year either without a partner or dissatisfied with your relationship? Do you wish to ensure that next year you’ll have a successful and satisfying relationship? If so, what you need to do is embark on The Journey to Self-Awareness: Understand what has led you to the situation you are currently in, change whatever needs change and become empowered to develop a successful relationship. IF, AT THE END OF THE YEAR YOU ARE: 1. SINGLE, wishing wholeheartedly to find a partner with whom to develop a successful intimate relationship;
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DETACHING FROM THE PAST
Our physical bodies are made up of energy. The earth is also comprised of energy. Thoughts are also comprised of energy. So much of what is around us from our thoughts and past relationships is energetic garbage that just needs to be removed from our energy field. In a 30 minute session the ties to old lovers, husbands and bosses can be removed so that you feel lighter and more positive. All the old energy from past relationships is still hanging onto our energy field bogging us down.
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Non-Attachment
It is Easy When You Know How
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Taking Off Your Masks is a Prerequisite to Succeed in an Intimate Relationship
INTRODUCTION Masks you wear might have a heavy toll on your relationships. You are not “who you really are”. You can’t develop a truly intimate bond. Acknowledging the masks and removing them is a prerequisite for a successful intimate relationship. DO YOU PRESENT TO YOURSELF AND OTHERS THE “REAL” YOU?
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FINDING LOVE
8 COMMON DATING MISTAKES MOST PEOPLE MAKE ON THE INTERNET Finding lover We all want to be loved. It is a very profound human need. But how do we get it? Where do we look for it? Why don't we find it?
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Poverty - The New Middle Class
Yesterday we all had manicures and pedicures on a weekly and sometimes monthly basis. Today, times are different. We dine at restaurants less and less, rarely go to movies in a theatre and certainly don't spend money without thinking twice about our purchases. We all know people who have lost their homes, some who live in motels and many families that have taken in grown children and grandchildren, just to help their families out.
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17 Tips on How Can Self-Awareness Enable You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship
In the following 17 tips I explai HOW BECOMING SELF-AWARE ENABLES YOU TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN A SUCCESSFUL INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP. I show how becoming aware of factors which control you and affect the ways in which you react and behave in dating and relationships is essential to learning how to change whatever needs change and become empowered to develop a successful relationship. 1. WHAT IS SELF-AWARENESS?
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10 New-Year Resolutions Which Will Enable You to Develop a Successful Intimate Relationship Next Year
If you wish wholeheartedly to succeed in cultivating a successful intimate relationship but haven’t been able to doing so this year, here are10 New Year Resolutions which, if you decide to adopt and follow, will empower you to develop the relationship you so much desire: 1. TAKE TIME OFF from running endlessly from one date to another. 2. HONESTELY CONTEMPLATE the reasons which might have caused your relationships to fail this year. 3. ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS you may not have asked before, such as:
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Men in Love Addiction
If you're a man- you're here for a reason. Maybe you're here because you're having relationship difficulties- or you are dealing with a relationship loss. And/or you identify yourself as having characteristics in love addiction- - YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
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Self-Awareness is at the Core of Self-Growth, Self-Improvement and Self-Empowerment
Self-Growth, Self-Improvement and Self-Empowerment are three concepts which go hand in hand. When you embark on any one of them, you’re actually embarking on all three simultaneously. You are then on the path to having a much better personal and professional life and relationships. It says about Noah that he brought to the ark all animals in couples. But there are things which come in triples, such as SELF-GROWTH, SELF-IMPROVEMENT and SELF-EMPOWEREMENT. The three go hand in hand, and the longer you tread their path, the more they will unite and become ONE.
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Are You Aware that You Might Be Sabotaging Your Relationships?
We all want to think we know ourselves well enough. That we know who we are, what kind of a relationship we want to have and how to behave with our partner. In all likelihood you are no exception. Yet there might be some things about yourself that you DON’T know. Unfortunately, these “things” might cause you to sabotage your relationships time and again – without you knowing that you do.
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He Won't Talk
Oh so frequently I hear the cry in girlie gatherings “I feel like I don’t know him, he just won’t talk about his feelings!” Ladies, is this your mantra now or maybe in days gone by? I know I have been there and put myself through painful coercion techniques often born out of desperation because “We need to talk” has been the persistent mind torture. It’s an interesting path strewn with expectations about how our men “should” be versus our willingness to know what we want and seek it out without trying to change or interfere with our partner.
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The Power and essence of Music and Song
Even as a little taker of six I had an opinion ! an dI stated it . wow How great was that ?? I would sit at the feet of my father and bask in the many renditions of Classical masters. I could hum most of the lead lines in these wonderful pieces, at that young age. There was something very cool in the energy of that old record( I thought ). as it went round and round on the turn table. Each circle releasing a hum of wonderful music. I was always amazed at how the little circles held all those many notes. wow !r
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Choosing Partners & Relationships Rather tha Escaping Into Them Makes a Difference betwee Failure & Success
It always saddens me to see how singles who are UNSUCCESSFUL in their relationships sabotage themselves. Being EAGER to have a partner, they often they jump to have a relationship with whoever asks them out. Not only that, but they often tend to stay in the relationship – even though it might not be a satisfying one – until they are being left. Often, after a short while, they jump right into a new relationship, once again with someone who “began” with them.
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An Ode to a “Blessed Mother”
Be Blessed oh beautiful mother, Let your heart be filled with Joy, Let the love be ever flowing, Let your voice be filled with song, Let your smile be ever lovingr As protected with angels ber Smiling, smiling ever lovingr Gods light to the world. For all to wonderr For all to cherishr For all to see. Let this day be a blessing and you for everr Protected be. May Blessings from God and his angelsr Guide your path today and always. Dear Mother. ( original poetry by Dilani Diva 8th May 2011 )
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Tit For Tat!
Does your relationship slip occasionally or frequently into the tit for tat spat? Don’t you just loathe it! You say something, which granted may not be languaged that well, and your honey beautifully deflects the perceived criticism that’s about to land like a fly, by pointing out that, in their opinion, you do the same or in fact worse!
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How to Combat the Fear of Being Alone and Become Empowered to Develop a Healthy and Successful Intimate Relationship
The best way to talk about the damage that the fear of being alone causes to those “infected” by it is by bringing up a real-life-anecdote: REBECCA Every evening, instead of going home after a busy day at work, Rebecca meets men on blind dates. What would she do all alone at home anyway? Read a book? Watch television? The emptiness of her apartment terrifies her. Even if she'll try to read a book or watch TV, she won’t be able to concentrate, because her mind is constantly busy with finding a partner. Explanation:
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Self-Observation, Acceptance of What You Notice and Motivation to Change Place You on the Road to a Successful Intimate Relationship
It is safe to assume that no one has ever taught you the importance of SELF-OBSERVATION: how to look inwards, contemplate your thoughts, feelings, reactions and behaviors. Observation will help you pay attention to your reactions and behaviors with your partners and become aware of the ways in which you sabotage your relationships. IN WHICH SITUATIONS CAN YOU OBSERVE YOURSELF?
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How to Survive a Relationship When You and Your Partner Have Different Points of View of How Things “Should Be”
When you cling on to your belief that you are right and your partner is wrong you often find yourself involved in power struggles and conflicts about “who's right”. Unintentionally, you make “being right” your first priority instead of your relationship. You neither listen to your partner nor let his/her opinion penetrate the wall you’ve built around yourself. Sometimes you don’t understand how it is possible that your partner thinks otherwise – doesn’t he/she see reality?
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Afraid to Develop Self-Awareness? Fail in Your Relationships? Combat the Fear and Develop a Successful Relationship
There are many who, in spite of failing in their relationship over and over and again, are afraid to develop self-awareness and understand what makes them fail. This is unfortunate, since it is only when they will develop Self-Awareness and understand how they shoot themselves in the foot in relationships that they will be able to change whatever needs change and become empowered to cultivate a successful intimacy. WHAT IS SELF-AWARENESS?
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Shared Space, Shared Happiness
Shared Space, Shared Happiness While you’re thinking of all the ways you can improve your home, don’t get preoccupied with trends and technology. Make sure it reflects the behavioral, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, sexual, and magical you. Then consider all the ways you and your sweetheart can enjoy every facet of each other in your space. And then, build in reminders.
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Self-Awareness Exemplifies the Essence of Gestalt Therapy: The Fully-Functioning Person and Intimate Relationships
THE FULLY-FUNCTIONING PERSON The Fully-Functioning Person, according to Gestalt Therapy, is one who self-actualizes himself by freeing himself from what prevents him to live life to the fullest. In order to do so it is vital that he develops his Self-Awareness: 1) Gets in touch with his attitudes, feelings, perception of reality, belief-system, needs and fears, expectations and fantasies; 2) Understands the extent to which they exert power over him; 3) Realizes how they drive him to sabotage his reactions and behaviors with his partners; 4) Neutralizes their power; and
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Conversations for a First, Second or Third Date
Many people complain that they “hate to date”. Are you one of them? If so, it’s very likely that you’re afraid of just having to make “good” conversation. You don’t want it to come off as labored but you don’t want the awkward silences or misunderstandings and miscommunications either. If only early date conversations where easy and natural. Well, they can be, if you only know a few simple rules: Rule #1 – First dates are “interviews”
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Are You In Love or In Safe?
If you are in a relationship, are you in love or are you with someone who is safe because you can’t bear the thought of being hurt again?
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Why Love Addicts Are Truely Like Any Other Addict
Using a practical definition, addiction is characterized by the repeated, compulsive seeking or use of a substance, behavior, or activity to reach euphoric states in the brain, despite negative consequences (harmful consequences to the individual's health, mental state or social life). Addiction is often accompanied by physical or psychological dependence, withdrawal syndrome and tolerance. The more one uses the addiction of choice; obsession and preoccupation for that addiction increase. Generally, there are six common indicators of all addictions:
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What Is More Important? Your Attitude or Your Actions?
In an ideal world, we would like to see a positive attitude that promotes a productive action. But, as most parents know, we don't always get both. So what ought to be more important? The action or the attitude? As parents, should we be more conce ed with the child's attitude or, if a child performs the correct action, is that good enough?
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The Relationship Between Fear, Anxiety, And Depression
Ultimately, all our depression and anxiety are born out of some sort of fear or the realization of a fear. Fear, according to the Bible, brings torment. This article explores the various mental, emotional, and spiritual torments that often lead to depression and anxiety. There is a direct correlation between fear and depression. In fact, you will discover that highly depressed people often have fears that are very real to them and very near to their thinking.
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Has your honey got the eye?
I love the feeling of writing this because I know I have been a keen watcher of people who have “the eye” over the years. I was indeed many a time on the receiving end of boyfriends past, who had the eye. I have heard a gazillion times “oh he /she definitely has the eye.” It seemed a common phrase when I was in my 20’s. Let’s start by defining what I mean by “the eye.” Visualise this scene for a moment.
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How to Release Yourself from Your Inner-Prison and Make Conscious Decisions about Your Life and Relationships
Bradley Manning, a 23 year old American soldier is in prison for leaking “SECRET INFORMATION” (250 thousand documents) to WikiLeaks. Some say he is a courageous man and call him a hero; others say he is a traitor.
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Love Addicts: 7 Steps To Feel Good About Yourself
1.Don't make other peoples thoughts, feelings, or actions about YOU. In other words, with healthy emotional boundaries, don't take responsibility (or blame yourself) for what another person may do, say or think? You are not responsible (i.e., your partner or ex partner). As an adult, you are only responsible for your own. You empower yourself through taking ownership of ONLY your own thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and choices.
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Gratitude Grows More of What You Want
Gratitude Grows More of What You Want by Jan Denise Your partner doesn’t always give you what you want. I bet there are even moments when he (or she) seems incapable of it, right? And if you dwell on those moments, you’ll feel like he’s never going to satisfy you.
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Gratitude Brings to Light Abundance and Joy
Gratitude Brings to Light Abundance and Joyr By Jan Denise On that first Thanksgiving Day in 1621, the colonists invited the Indians to join them in giving thanks for the harvest. Being thankful meant having enough to share. It still does.r
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Men and “The Hunt” Explained
I get lots of letters about all sorts of dating, sex and relationship problems every day. It’s interesting that they so often fall into clearly defined categories. One of the most common comes from women that follow various prescribed paths only to find that they prevent or destroy their relationships. The majority of these paths seem to come from what I call “mass-think”. More specifically, these are ideas that; while totally incorrect, continue to be shared as “fact” mostly among women. They are actually, anything BUT fact, but I’m getting ahead of myself.
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How To Start A Very Profitable Funny Pages Newspaper Business
Here is a business that has remarkable profit potential with only a part time effort. Requiring no start up costs, you will find everything you need in this article to start, maintain, and make a success of this business. Read on! THE NUTS AND BOLTS OF A FUNNY PAGES NEWSPAPER BUSINESS You make money by selling ads in a 4 to 8 page funny or comic newspaper that you provide to local businesses such as restaurants, coffee shops, hair salons, and so forth.
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A Conscious Union - The Ultimate Relationship
In the past year I have endlessly blogged and chatted to radio hosts about the intricacies of intimate relationships from communication styles to self observation, with unending awe as I explore the certain mysteries of love and how it affects us all. There are heaps of experts and books out there written by amazing people way more qualified than me about the psychology and technical workings of relationships, but it is my calling to offer you help in this wonderland of life, so it got me wondering, as Grace had named my business Conscious Union, just what is a Conscious Union ?
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Is Love Something to Obtain?
I get an overriding sense these days, upon observation of the many trials and tribulations in 21st Century relationships, that the ultimate goal is about getting love from a partner like it is something to be owned....a possession or a thing; but how that method is working less and less and causing more and more angst and tug o’ war games.
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To Text or Not to Text, That is the Question
Leading nicely on from my last piece about how to "tool up" to communicate properly in your relationship, I find myself compelled to mention the wonderful world of non-verbal communication, in particular, texting. Daily life seems to cocoon us more and more within the world of laptops and virtual relationships with others and as well as the plethora of benefits in terms of connecting us with ever larger circles of people, it can, in intimate relationships, kill some of the essence of good old fashioned face to face dialogue.
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Happily Ever After
Once upon a time, in a land far far away, there lived a princess. A princess so beautiful, her Light shone, mesmerizing the people of the land. They talked only of her purity and kindness and regularly left gifts at the steps to her castle to show their appreciation for her being in their lives. Daily she sat by the river with all her nature friends, dreaming of the day when her handsome prince would come to her. Her knowing was so strong that from afar, every now and then, the handsome prince would look up from what he was doing and sense the love from his princess from across the miles.
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God and Your Relationship - 3 Doesn't Have to be a Crowd
Those first glorious moments of spiritual or religious awakening can be huge. As we begin to open and seek our true ”selves” we start to ask questions such as “who am I?” or “why am I here?”. The first experience that connects you to your inner self is one of the most, or maybe best of your life and it’s only natural you want to share it. You find yourself reviewing jobs, friends, values, beliefs and your relationship tends to come under the spotlight very quickly because often your dear heart is the first to be affected by the chrysalis of the “new me” starting to form.
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Tame the Beast - Insecurity
A battle field for the heart and emotions...insecurity. It plagued my life and the men I dated, so many times in the last 25 years and was the source of great angst too many times, often with disastrous consequences. Insecurity is a feeling that can't always be intellectualised and virtually never rationalised when in motion. The energy generated can be overpowering and when it blows the surface, an emotional eruption can be the result. I have experienced and seen many scenes of pain and conflict as a direct result of reactive behaviour from this emotion.
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Look Before You Fall
Inspired by countless stories of friends and acquaintances jumping into relationships without "assessing" the scene, I have come to the conclusion, that to save us from self induced heartache we must indeed look before we fall in love. If possible. Easy to say when the emotions stirred by seeing that beautiful face across a crowded room, rocket to the surface. But using a touch of logic and a big helping of disce ment could save you quite literally, especially if you are a person who keeps repeating the same patterns in the choice of partner.
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Single and Happy This Christmas
I sat down to write today and have changed the title so many times ! There is just so much to discuss in the fascinating world of love and relationships, but I couldn't let Christmas go by without writing something apt. My word bag is slowly starting to open so who knows where this will end up!
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Expectations to Ruinations
When you wake up in the morning. What do you expect to happen ? I expect my alarm to go off in the morning. I expect daylight to have arrived. I expect that I can move my body and get out of bed. I expect my breakfast Radio 2 programme to be on and I expect the kettle to boil when I switch it on. Sounds simple but we do alot of expecting without realising it. It's generally unconscious conditioning.
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The Ferris Wheel
Dear readers...I have created my ferris wheel analogy in response to years of observations in friends and my own love relationships. This is the scene....you are in a relationship that is beyond the honeymoon period, where the rose coloured spectacles, viewing your once perfect partner, are now off and the proverbial relationship sleeves are rolled up ready for the next stage. Some call it the power struggle, where the real business of getting to know each other kicks in.
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Is it Time to Move on or is it Just Your Stuff?
It struck me recently that there is a distinct difference between knowing when to throw the towel in and call it a day with your dear heart and when it's just your "stuff" surfacing again. But how do you really know ? I don't profess to nailing scientific proof to either side, even though our minds want to cling to something tangible because matters of the heart are somewhat "fluffy" at times, but there seems to be flavours to the way people behave in love conflict.
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Obervation to Preservation
I was inspired today after my hot yoga class, to write about how people really get stuck in to the drama of their emotions. I watched people as they literally fought with their bodies throughout the class, one to deal with the extreme temperatures which were well over 80 degrees and two, to force their bodies into postures that "dear old bod" was not ready for. One guy especially caught my attention. It tickled me pink by the end of the class.
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How To Win Someone’s Heart
Ever tried to penetrate the tough guy facade? Or been turned away by the ‘I don’t need you or anyone else’ face? There is a secret to winning someone’s heart. This article does not guarantee that you will it merely equips you with the best tools to do so. It does not matter if the situation is a boy trying to win the heart of a girl, a parent trying to get through to his rebellious teenager, an employer trying to help a disgruntled employee, or a wife trying to break down emotional barriers in her husband, the answer to accomplishing this is the same: understanding.
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The Difference Between Preaching And Teaching
What, if any, is the difference between preaching and teaching? Some preachers teach and some teachers preach. Is a lecture more preaching or a speech more teaching? I am a pastor with nearly 20 years of preaching experience. I will attempt to explain the difference. As a pastor, the difference is vital. I do teach. There is no doubt about that. But I am first and foremost a preacher of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. The truth is I do public speaking 5-7 times a week. Half of which is preaching and half of which is teaching.
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What Is The Meaning of Life?
Breaking life down to its most basic physical components, the meaning of life is merely survival and reproduction. From a purely evolutionary perspective that is all there is. It leaves us, however, meaningless.
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Kids, Christmas, and Presents in a Tough Economy
The average household will go into some sort of debt in order to keep up with their ideas of providing a good Christmas for their children. In stable economic times, it took most people six months to pay off their Christmas debt and many, around 1 in 4 according to some statistics, will still be paying off their debt by the time the next Christmas rolls around.
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Reflections - Poetry For the Spirit
Reflections of the Spirit. There is much love in the season today, Simple hope that will come your way, In these times of great giving and simple great cheer, May love be near your Let hope be dear. Don’t feel afraid if you do feel alone, For angels from heaven will guide your way home, and if you need loving they will shelter your way with Hope for tomorrow and Love for today. Don’t be afraid to look life in the eyer Never walk backwardr Don’t ever wonder why, For God in his mercy will surely do sendr Loads of Love to help heal your Keep you warmr Keep you shelteredr
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Three Essential Leadership Qualities
Anyone who is in a position of leadership must be able to exhibit the following qualities in this article. From a parent to an employer to a politician, these leadership qualities are essential to being a good leader. LEARN TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY, A leader that cannot communicate his or her passion, plans, goals, or vision will invariably flop. Without the ability to convey your vision, desires, goals, or passion to those who are following your lead, you will lose them either to confusion, a competitor, or through frustration and even bitte ess.
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Three Important Leadership Qualities that Boost Morale
In this article, we will explore three essential leadership qualities that boost morale among followers. Every leader must learn what being a leader means. These qualities are important to every leader. They are important to any follower. They are a must. BE APPROACHABLE Those leaders who are standoffish, distant, and unapproachable quickly find discontent in the ranks of his or her followers. A good leader always has time for his followers. Remember, without them, you would not be a leader.
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Give Him a Clean Slate for Christmas
Give Him a Clean Slate for Christmasr By Jan Denise Trying to decide between a beach getaway and a stocking full of coal for your sweetheart? Why not give him a clean slate, instead? Wipe away the black marks and start fresh, aiming—once again—for perfect love. Only this time, do it with perfect love in clear view. Know what you’re going for, and you have a better shot at it. According to Robert J. Ste berg, a psychologist and psychometrician born in NJ, perfect love is a high level of intimacy, passion, and commitment.
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Why The Niche Newspaper is Thriving
The niche newspaper is one that is specific to a particular market, business, or company. While the daily subscription newspaper is being replaced with news from the internet, a niche newspaper is bringing in clients, customers, and revenue. Read on to find out why! A MORE POWERFUL MESSAGE Compared to a newsletter, a newspaper provides over three times the amount of room to deliver your message at about a third of the cost. This gives a business the opportunity to provide a variety of information that has a greater chance to appeal to a larger reader base.
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What is the most Essential Factor for a Healthy Relationship?
What would be the most important ingredient to any healthy, successful relationship? Would it be love? Trust? Attraction? Or something else? This article explains the one factor, the one ingredient that is required for any relationship to be healthy and successful. Sitting in front of my desk is a couple seeking marriage. As I am a pastor, this is not an uncommon sight. In an effort to get to know their relationship better and whether or not it will work, I always ask, “What is the most important factor in your relationship?” The usual, typical response is, “We love each other.”
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What Determines How People Perceive Your Personality?
Have you ever been misunderstood, taken the wrong way, or categorized and stereotyped incorrectly? Find out why this happens and what you can do to be perceived correctly by those around you. WORDS DEFINE YOUR PERSONALITY Essentially, you define yourself to those around you by the words you use. People do judge you by the words that come out of your mouth. Your ability to communicate—or lack thereof—is what ultimately defines you in the eyes of those around you.
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A Cup Brimful of Traditions
A good marriage is one where traditions and shared meaning are developed over time. These shared traditions bring a specialness and uniqueness to a relationship and help pull the entire family together. Special meanings get attached to meals, holidays, religious activities, celebrations, methods of relaxation, and many others. These lovely rituals often arise from when you first fell in love or when your little ones arrived on the scene. A friend of mine comes from an Italian background, for example, and generally served some sort of pasta at all holiday meals.
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Help with Romance
Sometimes we all need a little help with romance. Even the most romantic person in the world can run out of ideas. The good news is that the most memorable times you will ever have will be the ones that are unscripted and unplanned. That is the funny thing about romance. It really has nothing to do with lavish gifts, expensive dinners, or even exotic getaways. A romantic person may take part in those things, but that is not what makes them romantic.
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Setting “Firm” Foundations !
The first step to getting the things you want out of life is this:Decide what you want. Ben Stein I Find the Season a Great time to evaluate our desires and focus on what we truly desire. It is also a time that we bring in our faith to make our desires manifest. Faith to me is knowing the results will be there even before I see them. To some seeing is believing, To others Believing is seeing. That to me is faith.
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Instilling Good Values In Your Children
It is important to transfer your values to your children. They won't pick up on them unless taught. But for some reason we fear to do so or we don't know how. Read on to discover how you can transfer those good values to your children. “Praise the Lord! I Found One!” These are the words spoken by my 5 year old and a 3 year old as they rummage through a toy box looking for leggos. In a society and generation where God takes a back seat to political correctness and social humanism, it is refreshing to hear children reference God with such eager excitement.
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Familiarity and Novelty: The needs of lasting love
Love’s beginnings are typically hopeful, and yet divorce rates and distressful marriages are up the roof. Therapists offices are full, and couples therapy is increasingly accepted as a normal occurrence in the history of a relationship. A primary cause of this breakdown of love’s dream is that the needs of long term passionate relationships are paradoxical in nature. While love desires closeness, desire is fanned by distance, and a thriving, passionate, long term relationship wants both love and desire in its mix.
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Why Going No Contact With An Ex Will Doom Reconciliation
Going no contact is usually the last desperate attempt to resurrect a broken relationship. When nothing seems to make sense, and nothing we've worked for has achieved the desired results, cutting an ex out completely may seem like the only sane choice. At the point, what do we have to lose? The premise is that if we starve an ex of our presence and affection that they will stop taking us for granted and finally get around to realizing what life without us means.
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85+ Sweet Things to Say to Your Spouse After You Marry
You wanted to marry and build a happy marriage. And you’ve been married for some time now. It was bliss in the early days. But as the marriage has progressed, you’ve become so busy building careers, taking care of the kids, and racking your brains to figure out how you can pay bills. And you are growing apart as a result. You are not as intimate as you used to be. One thing that can help you to feel close to each other again is saying sweet things to each other daily. Here are some sweet things you can communicate to your spouse to help maintain the connection.
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95+ Sweet Things to Say to Your Spouse After You Marry
Do you often compliment your spouse verbally? “Why should I,” you may be wondering. “I cook the meals, clean the car, and contribute my hard-won check to help pay bills. These are great statements of appreciation. Why should I say sweet things to my spouse too?” Appreciating your husband or wife verbally, regularly, will make him or her feel good about you on a regular basis. Your spouse will show good will towards you often. So, your connection as a couple will continue to be strong.r
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Borderline Personality Disorder, Relationships, and Healing
What is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Described as emotional dysregulation, BPD entails a long-term behavior pattern starting at adolescence or young adulthood. BPD is defined by the inability to regulate emotions that manifest in self-image, interpersonally in relationships, cognitively and behaviorally. Individuals with BPD can be deeply affected by relationships. Separation, break-ups, and rejection can lead to self-destructive behaviors, self-harm and suicidal ideation or attempts.
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The spiritual dimensions of "Thought"
From The Series- “ Builders and Not Breakers” You may believe that you are responsible for what you do, but not for what you think. The truth is that you are responsible for what you think, because it is only at this level that you can exercise choice. What you do comes from what you think.rn-A course in Miracles. Some of the greatest truths are found through very simple forms of thought. They are not convoluted or confusing. Simplicity is the key !
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How to Swallow Your Pride In A Relationship
Pride is an attitude that can hurt a relationship. It can make you treat your partner with disrespect. As a result, your love may also act harshly towards you and that can breed strife in the relationship which can, ultimately, weaken the love foundation of the relationship. So, how can you swallow your pride in a relationship so that you can relate better with your partner? 1. Think About Humbling Experiences Oftenr
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How to Become More Patient in a Relationship
You may find that you act impatiently towards your partner or spouse and that may be causing friction in the relationship. What can you do to become more patient in the relationship so that you can relate in a loving manner with your lover? 1. Listen a Lot and Talk a Littler Try to listen a lot and talk just a little, when your love irritates you. Even if your love says something that irritates you and makes you want to blow him up, choose to listen to what your partner is saying to you instead of answering him or her immediately.
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Married Couples' Date Ideas
Having regular dates is good for a marriage. It helps spouses to communicate in a relaxed atmosphere which helps the couple to share fears, worries, and interesting thoughts, to relate to one another better and to exchange ideas about what they can do to improve the relationship. Besides, it makes them find out things they did not know about their spouses and they get to understand each other better. Consequently, their love grows and the cohesion of the family unit is maintained.r
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How to Get a Guy to Ask You Out
You may be attracted to this hunk and you may be dying to go out on a date with him. And you may be wondering, “I want to spend some time with this guy so that I can develop a relationship with him. How can you get a guy to ask you out if you are in such a situation?” Let us look at some of the things you can do to make your dream guy ask you out. 1. Drop Hintsr Subtly drop hints that you would like to date him. There are a variety of ways you can do this:r
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I Think My Boyfriend Has a Drinking Problem
Yaa has been in a relationship with Kofi for three months now. When she met him, he used to drink occasionally. Now, she has realized her boyfriend is drinking more than he used to. “I think my boyfriend has a drinking problem,” she says. “But I love him and I don’t want to leave him. I want to help him overcome this habit. What should I do,” she asks with a carewo expression on her face. If you are a woman and you find yourself in a similar situation, here are a few things you can do to help your boyfriend. 1. Be Patientr
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How to Cope With Neglect in a Marriage
Some people decide to remain in a marriage in which they are neglected for various reasons. If you are one of such people, you can find ways to cope in such a marriage so that you may be able to work on the marriage and make it a better marriage. How can you do that? Let us look at five strategies you can use to cope with neglect in a marriage. 1. Try to Be Gratefulr
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How to Deal With Infidelity in a Marriage
You may find yourself having an affair at this moment and you may have realized that you have made a big mistake by breaking your marriage vows. Deep down in your heart, you want to breakup with your love so that you can make your marriage work again. In this article, I want to show you how to deal with infidelity in a marriage so that you can re-bond with your spouse. So, what should you do? 1. Ask God for Forgivenessr
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How to Cope With an Affair
Your spouse may be having an affair and that may have left you restless and worried. How do you cope with an affair so that it will not harm your health and so that it will not adversely affect your life? 1. Come to Terms With the Situationr Accept the fact that your spouse chose to seek pleasure and fun outside your marriage. Face the reality and avoid pitying yourself so that you can lessen the number of inner conflicts you will have, as well as prevent the situation from causing you sleepless nights. 2. Write Down Your Feelingsr
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How to Make Your Husband Happy
What can you do to make your husband happy so that he will enjoy your marriage? What are some of the ways you can keep him interested in the marriage so that he will not be tempted to look for happiness with another woman? In this article, I share with you a few things you can do to make your husband maintain his love for you. So, what are you supposed to do? 1. Be Romanticr
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How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You
Do you find it hard to get your husband to listen to you? Does he give you the cold shoulder every time you try to share views with him? Then your communication strategy may be wrong. In this article, I want to share with you some strategies that will help you to get through to him. So, how can you solve this problem? 1. Choose An Ideal Environmentr It might be tempting to try to talk to him immediately an idea comes into your head or at a time which may be convenient for you but which may not be convenient for your husband.r
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How to Cope With Anxiety in Marriage
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5 Great Ways to Deal With Anxiety
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Can You Love Too Much?
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How to Get Over Someone Fast
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What Men Look for in Women – A 10 Point Checklist
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First dates can be the beginning of many things; a friendship, relationship, or marriage. When a woman agrees to go on a date with you, she obviously considers you a potential candidate for at least one of the above things. The truth is that dating in today’s society is complicated because women look for varying qualities in men. However, if you are given the opportunity to date a lady for the first time you should make sure to utilize it wisely. First dates are exciting but not all men make it to the second date.
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While there are a lot of tips on how to attract a girl, not all of them will work for you. To effectively attract a lady, it is important that you understand how they think and how they perceive men. Women are different from men and to make matters even harder, they can change their minds faster than the local weather. That said; attracting a girl can either be a hard nut to crack or a walk in the park depending on the approach followed. Being rich or extremely handsome does not mean that you will get the girl of your dreams. Below are important tips to help you attract that girl.
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Intimacy in Relationships - Remembering How You Got There
Are you starting to feel as though the intimacy in your relationship is dissolving right before your very eyes? If so, it doesn't have to be this way. Intimacy and relationships don't have to be mutually exclusive. You can begin to rekindle the intimacy in your relationship by learning a few simple techniques that will lead you back to the love, and intimacy you once had. Interesting things happen as time goes on... For many people marriage, intimacy, and relationships seem really easy when everything first get started.
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The Dance of Intimacy
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RELATIONSHIP CYCLES: THREE EXPLANATIONS
Why is it that when you first fall in love, you think your partner walks on water? You think they are the end-all-and-be-all of the world. Nothing bad could ever happen to you. You are invincible. You are the perfect couple. You think, “If only everyone could have such a great relationship, the world would be a better place!” Then reality sets in. Your partner’s little habits that were so cute in the beginning start to get annoying. You start fighting. You start spending less time together. You roll your eyes behind their back. Why does this happen?
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Is Your Relationship in Trouble?
Good relationships run smoothly and enable you to enjoy your life, work, and activities beyond the relationship. You’re not always worrying or talking about it. Like a smooth-running car, you don’t have to keep repairing it. You may have disagreements and get angry, but you still have goodwill toward one another, talk things over, resolve conflicts, and return to a loving, enjoyable state.
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Overcoming Codependency
Codependency is learned – learned inaccurate information that you’re in some way not enough, that you don’t matter, that your feelings are wrong, or that you don’t deserve respect. These are the false beliefs that most codependents grow up with. They may not have been told these things directly, but have inferred it from behavior and attitudes of family and friends and events. Often these beliefs get handed down for generations.
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How to Conquer Your Stress – Stress Reducer Secrets Revealed
With all the responsibilities we have in the modern world we live in, it’s no wonder most people are seeking a stress reducer or stress reducers. With the increasing roles that men and women have to play, everything from businessman/women, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, dad, mom, etc., it can cause extra stress and pressure to fulfill each role in life. When you look at the way we live our lives in today’s age, it has changed at a very rapid pace than any other time here on Earth.
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Improve Your Marriage Intimacy by Keeping Your Real Goals in Mind
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Stress Reducer Secret- Eliminating Stress without Drugs!
Stress is an emotion that most people try to escape from. But can you really escape from stress, or why would you want to? Is stress really bad for us, or does it serve a purpose? With all the demands in life, like work, family, parenting, relationships, and marriage, of course we will feel some stress. Stress is defined as pressure and tension the body is experiencing, it’s a physical strain on your mental and physical body. Their are some big misconceptions when it comes to stress.
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Cultivating Sexual Energy
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Show Your Gratitude and Improve Your Marriage Intimacy
When couples begin to have problems, their first instinct is often to look at what they're not getting. They recognize that they're not happy and that they don't have the level of marriage intimacy that they want or need. This leads to introspection and wondering what it is that's missing. While this can certainly be a worthwhile endeavor if it means finding core problems and corresponding solutions, but often taking one simple step can help immediately. That step is learning to be grateful for what you have right now.
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Understand the Purpose of Communication and Improve Marriage Intimacy
Communication Is Important Right? Most people realize how important communication is for improving their marriage intimacy. They know they must be open and honest with their partner and that they must be willing to listen to their partners wants and needs. Yet knowing what you should be doing and actually doing it are two different things. One of the problems with achieving effective communication is thinking that simply talking and listening is the same as good communication.
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Rebuilding Broken Relationships: Can You Win Your Ex Back?
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Seasonal Affective Disorder: Unlocking the Mystery
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Is Your Marriage Intimacy Alive And Well?
If you're married, you may have began to notice that your marriage seems a bit comfortable--not at all like when you were dating--in fact you may have even heard yourself thinking something like, I can relax, they're not going anywhere. The problem is with this kind of thinking is that many couples find themselves feeling frustrated and thinking their being taking it for granted. These symptoms ultimately cause a lack of marriage intimacy and when the intimacy in a marriage begins to decline, it becomes a problem.
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Marriage Intimacy – Discover How to Achieve it and Maintain it
Ask anyone who is in a long term relationship, whether married or not, and they will tell you that these intense relationships can be hard to manage! They tell us that "it's hard work" to keep a marriage going well and that it's also about "give and take" and "compromise". Achieving complete marriage intimacy is the goal of most couples, but how do we get there and what do we need to learn?
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Emotion Regulation - How to Keep Control of Emotions in an Emotionally Challenging Situation
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Marriage Intimacy - Take the Simple Approach
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Get Yourself off Shaky Ground – By Shaking It Up – And Improve Your Marriage Intimacy
When couples are on shaky ground, they often think that it's best to lay low and let the storm pass. They think that because they are having trouble, it would be the worst possible time to make changes. “Why shake things up when we're already on shaky ground?” they ask themselves. The truth is that if you've lost your marriage intimacy and closeness, it's time to take action. When you're working on changing your marriage, it's normal to be frightened and nervous. Many people accept the idea that the devil they know is better than the devil they don't know.
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Coping with a Break-Up and Rejection
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These Anxiety Self-Help Techniques That I Use in Overcoming Fears Can Help You Too
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If You Are Serious About Changing Your Life, You Are Definitely Going to Need to do This
In this article, I want to share with you something you are most definitely going to have to do when changing your life, but it is something not many people actually do.
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Are You Ready For Marriage?
Marriage is a serious commitment that one must truly decide if it's the best thing for them. With over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, many people don't want to take that chance and risk being hurt, having their family torn apart (especially if they have kids), or even have a good portion or half of their finances potentially taken away from them. However, marriage can be the best thing for others, a great step up from their serious relationship, and a way to make their relationship "official". But before you decide to get married there are some things to consider....
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Express Line to Happiness in Your Relationship - Communication
The beginning of any relationship is usually the easiest part, but maintaining that relationship-- supporting its health, and happiness is where most of us can use some help. One of the keys to preserving the freshness of a new and vital relationship is by keeping the lines of communication open. Here Are Five Tips That Will Help Keep the Lines Open: 1. Express yourself authentically. Make a promise to yourself to let your partner know your thoughts or feelings. Keeping them bottled up inside you is very destructive to your relationship.
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Relationship Self Help Therapy and the Motivation You Need to Keep It Going
Got Ups and Downs We've never met a relationship that doesn't have its share of ups and downs. Now the problem is that few couples are willing or able to spend the time and/or money it takes to do conventional relationship therapy. This is no reflection on the level of committed to the success of their relationship-only that they might have limits as to what they find an doable considering there are preferences, time constraints, and financial situation. One preference might be to do it on their own (not with a third party such as a therapist).
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Self-Forgiveness and Letting Go of Guilt
Guilt is good. Yes! Guilt actually encourages people to have more empathy for others, to take corrective action, and to improve themselves. Self-forgiveness following guilt is self-essential to esteem, which is key to enjoyment of life and relationships.
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10 Steps to Self-Love and Nurturing
The idea of self-love and self-nurturing baffles most people, especially codependents, who by and large, received inadequate parenting. The word “nurture” comes from the Latin nutritus, meaning to suckle and nourish. It also means to protect and foster growth. For young children, this usually falls to the mother, however, the father’s role is equally important. Both parents need to nurture children.
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Do's and Don't's of Positive Conflict
It’s normal to have conflict in relationships. People are different, and their desires and needs will inevitably clash. Resolving disagreements in a healthy way creates understanding and brings couples closer together. The objective should be the betterment of the relationship. This is positive conflict. Below are 24 suggested rules – 12 Do’s and 12 Don’ts – for actualizing this goal. Arguments are Good!
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Never Stop Dreaming! - An Action Plan for Setting and Reaching Your Goals
The American Dream of financial success, Achieving Excellence in a sport or area of interest, Looking for Key Results in personal goals… we’ve all at one point or another hoped and wished for these. Most of us have also had dreams about developing happy, healthy relationships or increasing self discipline. Who hasn’t had Big dreams? But what happens when the dream is nothing more than a bygone wish?
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How a Unique Way of Looking at Your Personal Relationships can Change Your Life
We so often go through life without recognising the significance of the personal relationships in our lives.
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How to Talk to Women - The Number One Tip on How to Talk to Women
You know how it is, some guys just seem to know how to talk to women. They mysteriously seem to be able to hold a conversation with a woman for hours and have her looking completely captivated the whole time. 'How can he find so many things to talk about?' you wonder, and 'what is his secret?' you are thinking. You know you are an interesting person and have plenty of things you can talk about, you are no Brad Pitt or George Clooney, but you are an okay-looking guy. You dress well and have a good job.
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The Key to Happiness is to be Happy Being Sad
Let's be honest, aren't you just a little skeptical about people who appear happy all the time? Who say they have the secret to happiness because there is only ever good things happening in their lives........because surely this goes against some of the most fundamental laws of the universe doesn't it? Such as: That there are always two sides to everything: black and white, day and night, positive and negative, yin and yang, happy and unhappy ... and then the universal law of rhythm ...
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Staying Positive - Useful Advice on Staying Positive Around Negative People
One of the most challenging things we can face sometimes, is staying positive when people around us are very negative.
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How Would You Like to Discover the Master Key to Changing Your Life
There seems to be so much talk these days on changing your life but is there really a "Magic Pill" to getting everything and anything you want in life? Well, I'd like to share something with you that is perhaps one of the master keys in changing your life, because it is exactly what I have used to create a massive change in my life, both for myself and for my family. The Master Key is: You need is a plan.......a Gameplan I like to call it. You see if you really want to create change and improve your life, its vital to have some idea of what you want, how you
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Discover the Vital Ingredients You Need When Changing Your Life
Many people ask themselves the question 'how do I change my life?' and the truth is there really is no 'magic pill' or 'quick-fix' method to changing your life...and very often to create a change in life can cause major discomfort and disruption because it means stepping out of your comfort zone and changing old habits and beliefs. However, and I can say this from experience, it is all possible!
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Staying Positive - Reassuring Advice on Staying Positive in Difficult Times
Firstly, when it comes to staying positive when you are experiencing challenging times and situations in your life, there are a couple of key considerations to keep in mind which may help give you some perspective on things. 1: What is there to be learnt from your situation? Try to see what lessons your situation can teach you...very often if bad things are happening in your life it is very likely you created it to learn important lessons...so try to see the bigger picture here...even though it may feel painful, if you see everything as opportunity to learn it can have a
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How to Save a Relationship - One NEED at a Time
Here is some relationship advice that offers you the first step toward building, saving or maintaining happy, healthy personal connections. Any relationship is on the way to being saved, if you clue into the “I need” versus the “I am grateful statement behind everyone’s words. Read on to see how. One of the main reasons for relationship break-up is due to poor communication skills. We think because we are forming words and talking that we are getting our meaning across to the other person. But this is hardly the case.
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Are You an Enabler and What You Can Do about It.
Enabling is a term often used in the context of a relationship with an addict. It might be a drug addict (which includes an alcoholic), gambler, or compulsive shopper. Enablers suffer the effects of the addict’s behavior rather than the addict.
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How to Set Personal Boundaries
Love can’t exist without boundaries, even with your children. It’s easy to understand exte al boundaries as your bottom line. Think of rules and principles you live by when you say what you will or won’t do or allow. If you have difficulty saying no, override your needs to please others, or are bothered by someone who is demanding, controlling, criticizing, pushy, abusive, invasive, pleading, or even smothering you with kindness, it’s your responsibility to speak-up. Boundaries also are also internal, discussed below. There are several areas where boundaries apply:r
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Dealing with Resentment in a Relationship? Find out Why!
Have you ever noticed the labels people have placed on you over the years? Have you been branded with comments like, “selfish” or “clean freak” In the resentment of the moment, have you also applied labels to people you know? The Label Me This- Brand You That contest is all about proving who’s right and who’s wrong. How would you like to opt out of this contest and become the real winner in all your relationships? If so, read on and discover some simple first steps! The Label Me This-Brand You That contest is one you have entered and didn’t even know it.
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Are you Tired of Worrying What Wour Date Thinks of You?
In talking to clients I often hear them share that they don’t like dating because they feel awkward. One client mentioned that it feels like being back in High School. Thinking back of High School I remember worrying about what my date is thinking about how I look, what I say, or what I do – and that was exhausting. Today 15 years later I’m glad I’m not in High School anymore and I’m in relationship with a wonderful man. One of the things I love most about the relationship is who I am. I’m being authentic. It wasn’t always like that.
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Is your Date Brussels Sprouts or Chocolate Cake?
The other day I was at my friend’s house while she was trying to feed her two-year, Alexa, a banana. Alexa, looked at the banana for a moment and then said “No”, and went back to her toys. My friend convinced that her daughter should eat a banana tried a few of her tricks. However, no sweet-talking, no promises, not even treats changed Alexa’s “No”. She had made up her mind “No banana” and stuck to it.
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Self-Love the Foundation of Authentic Relationships - 3 Steps to Self-Love
Working with clients I’ve often found them wanting to attract a conscious loving partner or wanting to take their relationship to the next level. After some coaching clients usually can easily formulate what they want in a partner and how they want their relationship to be. However, when I ask clients how they want their relationship with themselves to be I often see them go blank. Regardless if you are currently in relationship or single, the foundation for an authentic loving relationship with a partner is the relationship you have with yourself.
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Ethical Problems - Not When You're Thinking for Yourself
Creating a successful life requires examining your choices and actions. It is the ongoing commitment to personal development and spiritual growth that ensures you will design the happy and healthy life you envision for yourself. Part of this exploration is to consider societal issues and ethical problems that arise on a daily basis. Here’s one you can consider to help you develop a framework for looking at these issues on your own. Our question to ponder for today is: Fear of getting a ticket is the best way to stop people from using their cell phones while driving.
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Do You Feel Trapped in a Relationship?
Do you feel trapped in a relationship you can’t leave? Of course, feeling trapped is a state of mind. No one needs consent to leave a relationship. Millions of people remain in unhappy relationships that range from empty to abusive for many reasons; however, the feeling of suffocation or of having no choices stems from fear that's often unconscious.
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Marjean Holden on Self-Development And Achieving Success
After going through a very challenging relationship, I was looking for a new plug of energy to instill in my life. I found a course where I liked the conversation, I liked the fact that they were working on belief systems and moving through financial blocks and things like that. Just really loved the energy, loved the people, met some wonderful people and when I was there I really noticed there weren't any females on the stage.
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Recovery From Divorce and Personal Finance Planning
The financial advice I would give to divorced women is: education. Find something that can educate you; whether it's creating more income, or managing money or something educational about finance. Doing something, I'm a big believe in do what you love, because when you do what you love, the money just flows. When you're in your passion, when you're in love of what you're doing, then everything just seems to.
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Don't Settle for a No! - Learn the Art of Negotiation
Sayings such as; "it's a dog-eat-dog world" and you better "look out for number one", come from a mindset of lack, limitation and fear. This kind of mindset creates intense competition, where hearing NO is more common than hearing YES. Competition is an encouraged part of our culture. It is considered the best way to get ahead. We’re taught that “winning” is the way to success, while “losing” is a stamp of disgrace.
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How Do I Start Dating After Divorce And When?
Divorced women offer so much to a relationship because they know what it takes to be in a serious, committed relationship. They've had all their experiences, been there and done that, so to speak; and so they're the best partner. We all know divorce is emotionally, physically and financially draining and everyone processes all those things at their own rate. It's not a matter of getting over the divorce as much as it is getting over the marriage and all the things that transpired in that.
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The Power Within
My story is a story about becoming who we really are. It’s about breaking the shackles that bind and limit us. These are not physical shackles, although there are some in this world that have been bound in that way also. These are the shackles that have been formed by the world around us into our minds as we make out way in the world as a little child. This is not a story about blame because blame is also a shackle that holds that very feeling in our psyche, taking up space where other more beautiful thoughts and feelings can reside.
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Chocolate Anyone? How to Create More Intimacy in Your Relationship
Do you wonder what happened to that yummy closeness you used to have with your mate? Is the sweetness of that chocolate-like intimacy missing from your relationship? Read on to discover 7 simple ways you can whip the confectionery delight of intimacy back into any relationship. So what do intimacy and chocolate have in common? Chocolate, the majority of us crave it. We enjoy smelling it, cooking with it, and of course eating it! Most of us would drive a few extra miles out of our way to try the newest chocolate confection.
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Self-Confidence Improves Your Relationships
If you often struggle in your personal and professional relationships, it may be due to lack of self-confidence. Negative self-perception can be a vicious cycle. When you lack self-confidence, you believe that every falling out with a friend or rejection from a love interest is because there is something fundamentally wrong with you. This only reinforces your negative self-perception and causes continued problems in your life. So how do you break the cycle? What is Self-Confidence?
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Let Your Creativity Flourish with Your Inner Magical Child
We all have different facets to our psyche and by the time we become adults we identify with only a few of them, having pushed away those we either think we no longer need or those parts of us we find problematic in some way.
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A Successful Life Starts with You - the Top 10 Questions to Ask
Don't we all want to grow into the fullest and most authentic expression of ourselves? Shakespeare wrote, "To thine own self be true." When it comes to creating a successful life the place to start is with ourselves. Read on and discover a daily practice to help you really get to know yourself! Success in life can mean different things for different people. But one thing that's common to most people's definition is the ability to be true to ourselves no matter what is going on around us.
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Is Low Self-Esteem Raining on Your Parade? - Open Your Self-Confidence Umbrella!
Does the dark cloud of "I'm not good enough" raining on your parade? Is a lack of Self-Confidence preventing you from getting to that "silver lining" of your goals? If so, you're not alone. Many people walk around with their protective umbrellas of caution opened to prevent them from getting drenched by all those raindrops of self-doubt. As the song goes, "Raindrops keep falling on my head." So "Nothing ventured, nothing lost" seems to be their motto. Low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence often prevent people from basking in the sunshine of success.
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NOT Pamela Anderson
Recently, a woman submitted this question to my online advice column, Ask Betsy. I've included my answer in this article. Dear Betsy, This is embarrassing for me to say, but here goes: My husband has a big boob fetish. Since I've always been large-breasted, this was never a problem until we had children. That's when my breasts -- which he used to describe as "ripe peaches," became fluffy little pancakes. At first, we both pretended the change hadn't affected us, but it has.
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Divorce, Emotions and Healing
Feeling that you are the victim of your circumstance in divorce is one of the things that comes up unless you're taking ownership. It's always a two way street, it's like what do you take responsibility for, because it's never just about one person, it's always about the collective, the two, if you're in a partnership or relationship. Look at both sides and even though it's hard to look at both sides, like OK, "what was my part in this?" and just stick to what was my part in this? "How did I create this? And why did I create it?"
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Recovery from Codependency
Codependency is often thought of as a relationship problem and considered by many to be a disease. In the past, it was applied to relationships with alcoholics and drug addicts.
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Six Steps for Increasing Your Self-Confidence
Do any of these self-critical thoughts ever run through your mind in an endless loop; "Why do I do such stupid things?" or "What a jerk I am!" or "What's wrong with me?" If so, how would you like to edit that loop and turn those negative thoughts into a self-confidence building pep talk? of our waking day we spend criticizing ourselves? It's like we're tuned in to the Top 40 of Mental Blues radio station. Have you experienced how really horrible you can end up feeling within moments of tuning in to the self-criticism station?
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The Art of Negotiation - Getting to the Yes
How often have you needed help but were afraid to ask for it because you were afraid of hearing that dreaded word "NO"? Do you think this fear had any influence on you reaching your goals or your level of personal success? What if you believed that there was a "yes" hidden beneath every "no", what could you ask for than?
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Do You Make or Break Your Romantic Relationships?
"Man's greatest motivating force is his desire to please woman" so writes Napoleon Hill in his iconic book, THINK & GROW RICH. According to Hill, men who accumulate large fortunes, gain power and fame do so to satisfy their desire to please women. If this is so, you have to consider: If a guy's great desire is to please you, you have the power to make or break him. Are you making or breaking him in your romantic relationship? It may (or may not) surprise you that men, despite all their toughness on the outside, are very sensitive inside. Men don't want to loose.
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6 Tips for Letting Go
Have you been told, “Just let go of it,” or tell yourself, “I have to let go,” but wonder, how? I’ve asked myself that question. Sometimes you want to let go of a worry or an obsession about someone else. You may try to detach, but can't. Other times when you can’t move forward after a major loss, or when you need to unwind from a busy work schedule. Each case has different challenges, but fundamentally, they all require a shift in attention from the mind into the body and from the past or future into the present.
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Relationship Magic 101
Do you want to believe in magical relationships--the click your heels three times--answer to having healthy, happy and intimate relationships? But does your own life make this desire look impossible? Do you sometimes think, if only I had a partner who was willing to do their fair share. Well look no further. Here's you will find a kind of pixie dust--sprinkle liberally and begin experiencing that magical relationship you've always wanted. Do you pay attention to doing your fair-share in a relationship but when it comes to your partner, you think their share is less than equal?
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How to Deal with Resentment - Take Responsibility for Your Happiness!
Do you sometimes feel like a piece of paper blown every-which-way in the wind, and without much say in the matter? Or do you often find yourself doing what you think you "should do", rather than what you want to do? If so, imagine feeling the true freedom of always choosing what you will do, and when you'll do it! If you want to start responding to life on your own terms--well read on for a glimpse of the quickest way you can experience this freedom--which is by redefining your relationship to responsibility. Do you often do things because you think you "have to"?
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Why Is Responsibility Important? It's Leads True Happiness
Do you sometimes feel like a piece of paper blown every-which-way in the wind, and without much say in the matter? Or do you often find yourself doing what you think you "should do", rather than what you want to do? If so, imagine feeling the true freedom of always choosing what you will do, and when you'll do it! If you want to start responding to life on your own terms--well read on for a glimpse of the quickest way you can experience this freedom--which is by redefining your relationship to responsibility. Do you often do things because you think you "have to"?
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5 Text Messages That Will Help You Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
So you want to lea 5 text messages that you can send your ex boyfriend to get him to regret leaving you… and turn the tables completely. The beauty of texting is that it doesn’t convey a lot of neediness… so if you play your cards right, you won’t look like a jealous or clingy (which is a good thing). Another huge benefit of texting is that it gives you the benefit of time. When he replies, it gives you time to think about an appropriate response. Also, you can easily stall replying and play hard to get.
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Do You Stay or Do You Go?
You've been seeing a man for quite some time. In the beginning, everything was great. You got along well. You thought you were headed for marriage. But now things are different. Life has happened. Once the sex was great. Now he says he's not that into you, but wants to remain friends. (Yet he still holds your hand when you go to the movies.) Or he was healthy and now he's sick.
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How to Feel Grateful When You Don't
Many Americans struggling with health, financial, or emotional problems find it challenging to feel grateful around Thanksgiving. Some people always have a habit of looking at the negative. One reason for this is that our brains our predisposed to solve problems, and we take what makes us comfortable for granted. Religion
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What Every Person Should Know About Handling Difficult Conversations
Do you ever avoid talking about the impact of wars around the world or the economic situation for fear it may turn into a debate, or even a full blown argument? If so, it's time for you to take back the power to have meaningful, enjoyable conversations with your friends. If you're like most people, listening to the news these days can be quite stressful. It's hard not to worry about the impact of wars around the world, and the constant anxiety about the economic situation is bound to fill your mind with images of doom and gloom.
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The How-To of Relationship Confidence
Relationship Confidence! It begins by identifying WHAT you want that's missing from your relationship, and then learning how to craft a clear INTENTION that will support you in getting it. Intentions - What Do They Have To Do With Relationships? You may believe that intentions are mostly used for setting goals for your career or increasing the amount of income you produce in your business. Or you might think "intention setting" is just a "new age" idea that isn't grounded in practical reality.
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The BIGGEST Mistake Women Make with Men (without even realizing it!)
Gina is a great coach. She's smart, beautiful and successful. She's well traveled and well respected. She has great friends. Gina's life is full. Gina loves to make people feel special. She loves sharing ideas and giving advice. When Gina meets a man she likes, she gives him phone calls, little gifts and often her body without asking for anything in return. Gina is a generous woman. Gina thinks by giving more, she'll be more appreciated and loved.
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Our Undying Love for Vampires
When I began writing my first book, Biting Back: A No-Nonsense (No Garlic) Guide to Facing the Personal Vampires in Your Life (Llewellyn, 2010)—and that was well over eight years ago, mind you—I remember I was anxious, even then, that the national fascination with vampires would pass before I could finish my book proposal and mail it out to prospective agents. Obviously, I needn’t have worried: vampires are as least as big today as they were then—and the question that people are starting to ask (and I know, because they’re starting to ask me) is "How come?"
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The Ego as an Addictive "Energy Vampire", in Contrast to How Our Real Being Functions as a Limitlessly Abundant "Energy-Giver"
Although the ego is often the loudest voice speaking within oneself, vociferously arguing for its own viewpoint, and vehemently demanding limitless, immediate, sometimes inappropriate, recklessly impulsive, potentially addictive, gratification of its insatiable desires and cravings, it is not one’s most essential, inherent, intrinsic, trustworthy, true inner voice, not one’s true self, not the source of one’s true happiness, security, maturity, self-understanding, and overall well-being.
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How to Turn Low Self Esteem into Powerful Positive Self Talk
Do you get down on yourself so often that you feel depressed or weighed down by your negative thoughts? Have you lost the self confidence you once had? It may be helpful to know that you’re not alone. Many people have an internal dialogue that fuels negative thoughts and hinders their ...
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Sexualty and Spirituality
The Sexual Revolution, a la "Playboy", now behind us, as well as the Victorian attitudes which it rejected, perhaps we are ready for a new conception of sexuality, one not dividing, but embracing, both body and spirit. With few exceptions, such as the Tantric tradition, for centuries both Eastern and Western religious leaders have warned of the dangers of the flesh, and exhorted abstinence and restraint in the furtherance of spiritual ideals.
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Light My Fire: Transformation Through the Chakras
The creative life force sleeps within each of us like a coiled serpent, waiting to be unleashed to evolve mankind to the next level. Ancient Tantric practices awaken this energy, called kundalini, using the body, breath, sound, and visualizations to speed its journey to God realization. Man has three bodies, the physical body and its consciousness; the astral or subtle body, experienced as feelings and emotions; and the causal body, expressed as intelligence and wisdom. The seven chakras act as energy transformers for the three body/minds, each governing different functions.
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How to Make a Really Difficult Decision
Patients often contact me for therapy in the throes of a difficult decision. They want to know if they should get a new job or change their child's school, move to another city or leave their spouse. When they can’t make a decision, it is usually not for lack of relevant information and advice ...
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Interrupting the Cycle of Chronic Pain
If you suffer from chronic pain, you are not alone. Millions of Americans seek treatment for chronic pain, pain that continues for more than six months. Chronic pain is no longer viewed as a symptom, but as an illness in itself. Things we take for granted, such as eating, sleeping, dressing, walking, laughing, working, socializing, and independence may be lost to a person with chronic pain. Frequently, no physical cause can be established, or the initial injury has long since healed, but the pain persists, and generally worsens over time.
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Growing Through Divorce
Divorce is a process of separation and transformation - a process that long precedes the dissolution decree. It is important to understand its stages, the cognitive, emotional, physical, legal and spiritual, which, if worked through, can substantially lessen the painful aftermath. Although this might be the most desirable order, it is not usually what happens. This is why we see the "Divorce Court" melodrama - couples trying to make the legal separation while they haven't separated emotionally, though they may be physically apart.
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Letting Go of Resentment May Not Be Easy, But it is Simple
Do you treat your friends with love and respect, but when it's their turn, they let you down? Do you end up feeling resentful when your friends just don't give into the friendship as much as you do? Knowing how to deal with this resentment in a positive way--or even better, avoiding it ...
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Want More Love and Respect in Your Relationships? Start by Increasing Your Own Sense of Self Worth
Do you keep getting in relationships where it seems as if you're being taken for granted--where you give, and you give, but get little or nothing in return? Are you beginning to wonder why people keep treating you this way? If so, you are probably also feeling pretty confused, sad, and are ...
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The Art of Self-Love Starts with You!
Have you ever wondered what unconditional love actually means, or what it would take to give yourself or someone else this kind of love? We believe everything in your world is a reflection of YOU. And that's the good news! Why? Because if everything starts with you, then you don't have to ...
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Stop Worrying Your Relationships Away
Do you lack the self-esteem and confidence you need to create healthy and satisfying relationships? Do you sometimes find yourself worrying so much about what other people think of you that motivation or positive thinking is all but out of your reach? Low self-esteem is a common problem that ...
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Commitment Phobia: Cheating Boyfriend or Girlfriend
Wouldn't it be nice if you could tell when someone was going to be a cheating girlfriend or cheating boyfriend BEFORE you get involved with them? Don’t you wish there was something you could do that would help you avoid having a cheating spouse? There is something you can do, and it begins with ...
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Self Esteem Issues? Three Steps That Lead to More Self Confidence
Would you like to build your self-confidence and self-esteem? Are you worried it might not be possible because you've had such a long history of put-downs, failures, and negative self-concept? If so, read on because this article will show you why it's never too late to increase your self esteem ...
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Relationship as a Spiritual Path
What makes us "spiritual" beings? The concept of spirituality is derived from "spiritus," meaning vitality or the breath of life. When we are connected to that force, like an electric charge, our soul awakes; the more we stay connected to that energy, the stronger and more alive is our soul. Our relationships present a constant opportunity to tap into this power. SPIRITUAL PRINCIPALS Consider spiritual ideals, such as faith, truth, surrender, patience and compassion.
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Top 10 Signs of a Cheating Man
Ladies, you know in your heart if your man is cheating on you. You can feel it... Maybe you've suspected for a while that things aren't quite right in your relationship and you're worried that maybe he's stepping out on you, but you just can't put your finger on exactly what's bugging ...
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Find True Happiness - A Values Driven Life
Nobody wants to settle for a life without the things they really want, but what if you’re still unsure of what those things are for you? How do you move forward to create a life that fills you with joy? A deeper look may reveal things you never knew about yourself--and without being clear ...
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Love Yourself and Authentic Happiness Will Follow
Do you ever find it difficult to love yourself because you think you're unlovable, you're a failure, or you're just not worth the time? Does your inner critic put you down when you fail live up to your own expectations? If so, and you're looking for a way to win the inner battle with yourself ...
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Rebuilding Trust After Lying
Has someone close to you broken your trust by lying? Is it difficult to get back on track and reestablish that trust relationship you thought you had? If so, there is hope! It's possible to get back to having a healthy and satisfying relationship with a person who has been lying. Understanding ...
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Relationships Happiness - Say Yes, Only When You Mean Yes
Are honesty and building trust important to you, and yet sometimes--even though you just don't feel like it--when your friends and family ask you to do something or go somewhere, you agree to their request anyway? It's not uncommon or "wrong" to want to do what feels good to you. Even if the ...
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The Right Way and The Wrong Way to Kiss a Woman
I got this email today from a good friend of mine and just had to share... One of the things, unless we're REALLY lucky in life, is that we are never taught exactly 'how to kiss'. Some get it and some don't, but mostly we learn by trial and error. Knowing how to kiss a woman the right way ...
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Some Encouraging Words To Survive Criticism
What a historic time it is! The election that took place yesterday had the biggest turn-out in history. No matter who you voted for, you had a tremendous opportunity to get your voice heard. This has been an interesting and engaging election and I would like to congratulate John McCain for his ...
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Magical Thinking About Finances Can Put A Strain On Your Relationship
At some point or another, almost all of us have used magical thinking to give us the confidence to go on when a relationship hits a rough patch. Most people are able to move through this stage by taking risks to confront their partners. They realize that heated discussions, arguments, even ...
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6 Simple Ways To Let Your Date Know You're Interested
Have you ever been out on a date with someone who you really liked, but you weren't sure exactly how to let them know that you really like them and are interested in them? It can be hard to know how to express yourself around someone whom you don't know very well yet. There are LOTS of ways to ...
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Verbal Warfare! Make Up Or Break Up? (Video)
If you find yourself in a relationship where you find yourself constantly arguing and fighting with your partner, you're not the only one. You're also not alone if you genuinely love this person and want to make the relationship work. Are you doomed to a breakup? Not necessarily... Dear Dan ...
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Chronic Illness Getting You Down? - There Is Help!
Do you worry yourself sick over being sick? Do you wish you felt more peaceful instead? If so, you will be glad to learn that you can break yourself of this worrying habit with a little information and a commitment to practice the steps in this article. Whether you are coping with chronic ...
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Should You Stay Married Just For The Kids? (Video)
Marriage is a choice that thousands of people make every day. For many people, this is one of the best times of their lives. Unfortunately, however, marriage may not always be the best choice or the one that makes you the happiest and even worse, this is usually not realized until much ...
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Is Your Stage Set for Love?
Recently, my friend hired a feng-shui artist to advise her on arranging her home to attract the love of her life. "Where's your man going to put his brief case? With so many pillows on your bed, where's he going to sleep?" the fueg-shui artist asked. My friend had an apartment filled with ...
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Relationship Problems? - Three Steps That Lead You To The Magical Relationship You've Always Wanted
Are you involved in a relationship that isn't as happy as you had hoped for? Do you ever feel confused or frustrated about how to get the love and respect you desire? If so... you probably feel scared about what the future holds if you stay in this unhappy relationship. Read on to discover ...
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Got Personal Goals? How to Reach Them ASAP
If you feel frustrated, conce ed, or challenged when it comes to both setting your goals and achieving results, you are certainly not alone. Especially in our American Dream-driven society, people often feel a pressure to arrive at their goals “ASAP.” While this may seem to be a ...
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How To Create A Recession-Proof Relationship
Are you feeling the effects of the current economy? Is your relationship suffering because of it? Well don't despair....there are things that you can do. 1. Be creative. Think of some low cost (or no cost) ways to put a smile on your partner's face. Go out and watch a movie together or stay ...
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To Pay Or Not to Pay?
To Pay or Not to Pay? It's often a confusing question when dating a new man. What would you do in this situation? You're having dinner with a man you find very attractive. He's sexy, smart, sensitive and fun. He's a gentleman. He treats you well. He makes you laugh. He's entertaining. ...
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Behind The Scenes: The Reality Of A Relationship
"Tell me something bad," my client whined. "I love reading your newsletters and reading about your fabulous life and seeing how happy you are with your husband. But sometimes I really don't want to hear about it! Especially when I'm having so much difficulty. So tell me something that's not ...
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The Truth about Abusive Relationships
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Is Couples Counseling Right for Us?
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A Self Care Tip That Really Works!!
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Your Intimacy Index - How to Improve Your Intimacy
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My Divorce journal - Spiritual Guidance
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Self-esteem can be a confusing term…and I often work with my clients to carefully boil down what it means to them. Self-esteem simply means accepting and appreciating yourself for who you are…faults and all! Individuals with a healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves for who they are, appreciate their own self-worth, and take pride in their abilities and past accomplishments…they also acknowledge that while they’re not perfect and have their faults, those faults don’t play an overwhelmingly prominent role in their lives or their own self-image (how you see yourself).
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Abusive Relationship – How to Deal With It
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Help On Divorce - Are You in Debt and Don't Even Know It?
Americans Are $2.45 Trillion Dollars in Debt! (source: Federal Reserve's G.19 report on consumer credit, released July 2011). The average Canadian family is dealing with $100,000 in debt and owes far more than it earns, according to a new report (source: The Vanier Institute of the Family). Many divorced women think that because they are managing to pay their bills and nobody is knocking on the door to take their stuff away that they are not in debt. Think again!
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The Package-Deal Relationship: Are You Being Embraced By The Family?
Ideally we all want to have a family that will be o.k. with the person that we chose to have as partner. But what if someone in our partner's family has a problem with us? Will you become stressed out, confused, or even annoyed by that person's behavior (for all you prime time comedy show fans...think of the T.V. sitcom "Everybody Loves Raymond"-and the way "Debra" is always treated by "Marie"). If you find yourself in a situation like that, then you may want to try...
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My Divorce journal - The Difference Between Pity and Love
Last week I was looking at whether I feel more alive in a crisis. This week I’m looking at the difference between pity and love. Then – 4/10/2004 “journal question – What is the difference between pity and love?
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Throughout time writers have written about it, musicians sung about it, and folk talk about it … that’s the magical power of LOVE. Whether it’s the broken hearted soul singing the blues, or someone whose just been swept away by that oh so powerful sea of passion. Pretty much everyone agrees love is so very, very - GOOD!
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Do you have excuses that you are using a little too often? Do you notice that “I’m too tired” is a common response of yours? Do you hear the bit of resentment you are hanging on to in your “Why bother” response that you catch launching out of your mouth 3 times a day? I encourage you to dig deep to find the excuses that you use most often.
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Do You Love a Narcissist?
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The Top 3 Fears That Prevent Successful Relationships
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Household Budgeting - How To Have Financial Freedom With These Simple Budgeting Tips (Yes, Simple)
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My Divorce journal - Approval and Affirmations
Last week I was noticing who has expressed conce about my behavior and the recognition of when my life is unmanageable. This week I’m addressing how I’ve sought approval and affirmation from others. Then – 3/27/2004 “journal question – How have I sought approval and affirmations from others?
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My Divorce journal - Saying “Yes” When I Mean “No”
Last week I was addressing how I’ve sought approval and affirmation from others. This week I’m addressing when I say “Yes” but want to say “No”. Then – 4/2/2004 “journal question – Do I say “Yes” when I want to say “No”? What happens to my ability to manage my life when I do this?
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My Divorce journal - Taking Care of Yourself First
Last week I was addressing when I say “Yes” but want to say “No”. This week I’m looking at taking care of others and myself. Then – 4/4/2004 “journal question – Do I take care of others easily, but find it difficult to care for myself?
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How To Win An Ex Girlfriend Back With 5 Steps
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Get Him Back - Through Proven Steps
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My Divorce journal - Responsibility and Shame
Last week I was applying the 3 C’s and getting honest about whether I’m looking for a quick fix to my problems. This week I’m looking at whether I feel responsibility and shame for others. Then – 3/12/2004rn “journal question –In what situations do I feel excessive responsibility for other people?
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Love Letters For Him That Will Work
Love letters are a special part of any relationship. They're considered to be the keenest tool to speak out to your love , to inform him how special he's for you and how much you love and like him.
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I was attending a presentation by Pulitzer Prize winning author, Frank McCourt, discussing the ins and outs of writing a memoir. Frank McCourt won the prestigious award for his heart wrenching description of his impoverished life in Limerick, Ireland titled "Angela’s Ashes".
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My Divorce journal - What Brought You Here?
Last week I was looking at whether I feel responsibility and shame for others. This week I’m sharing what brought me into Al-Anon. Then – 3/14/2004 “journal question – What brought me into Al-Anon? What did I hope to gain at that time? How have my expectations changed?
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My Divorce journal - Conce About My Behavior?
Last week I was sharing what brought me into Al-Anon. This week I’m noticing who has expressed conce about my behavior and the recognition of when my life is unmanageable. Then – 3/20/2004 “journal question – Who has expressed conce about my behavior? My health? My children? Give examples.
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Dating After Divorce - How Do You Know When You're Ready To Date Again?
I am going to share with you my thoughts on getting over divorce and dating after divorce. As my mentor, T. Harv Eker says, "Don't believe anything I say". And why is that? Because I can only speak from my experience. Nothing I am going to say here is right or wrong, true or false. However, I believe my experience can help you. After spending the majority of my adult life either dating or married to this man, and having two children with him, we divorced. The specifics of why are not important.
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What gives me the right to teach you about household budgeting? I've been there and done that and as the saying goes: "I've got the T-shirt". After 18 years of marriage, it was over. Why doesn't matter. Whose fault it was doesn't matter. That was part of my "moving on". It took me a while to get to that conclusion. I went through all the emotions - anger, fear, resentment, acceptance etc.. I lost a lot of confidence in myself...if he didn't want me, who would? I spent a lot of time thinking about what happened, not to blame, but to understand and to learn.
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Food Dehydrator - How To Pick A Good One
There are many different kinds of dehydrators on the current market, which makes finding a really good one a little bit of a challenge. Deciding to speculate in a machine like this is usually a good idea, but it is also a smart idea to analyze which one is best for you. Each unit is a bit different, but the good ones have some general traits you can watch for. Mentioned below are a few of the many options you may find in a great food dehydrator. This should help you pick out the perfect unit for you.
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Who is Really in Control of Your Life? Is It You? Or….?
You might be thinking, what a ridiculous question! “Who else is — or could be — controlling my life if it isn’t me?” The truth is there are many possible answers to this question. Here’s a few: your spouse… your significant other… your parents… your siblings… your good friends… or…. I’m sure you can come up with many more answers tha I did, but here’s the simple yet powerful answer. Your life is controlled by whomever you give your power away to.
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How Do I Get My Ex Back?
If you find yourself wondering, "how do I get my ex back?" you aren't alone. Amazingly, there are ways , which you can win back the love of your life. There is absolutely no reason why you should not be able to re-ignite the lost love with the person you adore, so long as you remain assured and patient.
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How To Get Ex Boyfriend Back Without Pushing Him Back
Every relationship has it ups and downs. Naturally, you would like ensure you have more ups than downs. Every problem has a solution , it's a matter of choosing how hard you are going to work at it. Giving up is always the easy way out. When you truly love someone, you try your best to work at your best and make things happen for its best.
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Simple Proven Steps To Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back
If you are really considering trying to get your ex-girlfriend back, then you still have hope. I have put together 5 straightforward steps to be successful. Breaking up might be harrowing but don't stay stuck in this moment. There's a great lesson to be had no matter whose mess up it was. Every situation has a fix, now it's down to you to potentially put your heart to it and begin to rekindle your damaged relationship back together.
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My Divorce journal - How Do I Respond?
Last week I was getting honest about the subjects of change and control. This week I’m answering about how I respond. Then – 3/6/2004 “journal question –How do I feel when the alcoholic refuses to be and do what I want? How do I respond?
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Positive Ways In Getting My Ex Back
I experienced an emotional breakup with my ex girlfriend. I would have liked to resume the relationship as soon as possible but I had to face the reality that this barely happens. My first instinct after the breakup was to call text and email my past lover. Fortunately , fact sat in and I spotted that these actions alone wouldn't bring the person I love back into my life. I'd like to debate positive steps to getting my ex back while relaying my story to readers. Positive step number one
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Getting My Ex Back By Following A Strategy
If you are searching for steps to getting an ex back then you are going to need to do a few different things. The first thing to do isn't to stalk them, call them a dozen times, or send them many messages. They don't want to be bothered when they are endeavoring to cool down from a fight, or when they are attempting to get over being upset. Instead you're going to give them the space they're asking for, and you are going to go out and live it up.
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My Divorce journal - The 3 C's and a Quick Fix
Last week I was answering about how I respond. This week I’m applying the 3 C’s and getting honest about whether I’m looking for a quick fix to my problems. Then – 3/8/2004 “journal question –How can I let go of other’s problems instead of trying to solve them? The best way is for me to keep reminding myself that I am responsible only for myself. I am not responsible for ‘Carl’s’ problems. I have to keep repeating the 3 C’s – I didn’t Cause it, I can’t Change it, I can’t Cure it. journal question – Am I looking for a quick fix to my problems? Is there one?
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Steps To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back - Secret Ways
Showing kindness is love in action. What that basically means is regardless of how hard the circumstance may seem, always show kindness. You win more with showing kindness then replying with anger. It allows your ex to see that you're trying to be good to them.
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A Man Who Is Broken Hearted Says - I Want My Ex Back
When I experienced a split with the girl I like last year, I was devastated tremendously. All I could think of was "I want my ex back"! I came to realize with time that irrespective of how badly I wanted to rekindle my past relationship, it wasn't going to happen without some drastic changes on my behalf.
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New Ways To Win A Girl Back
Often in life, we make calls that we later regret. The remorseful present becomes nothing except only a wish to turn back time. There are many things that couldn't be turned around or undone, but alongside there are also a number of actions that can be undone - and this explains why the old adage runs 'it's never too late'. Yes! It's rarely too late! So , if you are a guy truly and very in love with a girl that you broke up with, you need not to worry. This short guide has been designed for lovers like you, who wish to win a girl back.
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I Want My Ex Back - Yes You Can Have Her Back
If you are thinking "I want my ex back", you have came to the right place for advice. You aren't alone, in reality you are experiencing the same thing that millions of people have felt and are feeling. Sometimes, we act on our first instincts and I am here to tell you, most of the time, your strongest instinct is wrong in coping with a damaged heart. Why is this you could ask? It is straightforward, we are frequently ruled by our emotions and sometimes, our hearts overrule our logical thinking.
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Great Six Pack Abs Exercises To Achieve Ripped Results
If you would like to rack up six pack abs, you must have bore down various six pack exercises. I do not believe if any of those have been beneficial in giving you the toned and ripped abs that you long for. Ever since the fad for six pack abs has taken around the world, there was an outburst of machines, devices and exercise routines for toning abs. Some of them work fine, while others simply do not. Therefore, it is very tough to determine which would work the best for you. What are the Best Six Pack Abs Exercises?
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My Divorce journal - I Hope It Continues
Last week I had the conversatio I had no intention of having. This week things are pleasant and I hope it continues. Then – 2/25/2004
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A Mother's Final Gift
[We are excerpting one last time from our new book, A Mother’s Final Gift: How One Woman’s Courageous Dying Transformed Her Family]
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Steps To Winning An Ex Back
When you're focused on winning an ex back, there are a couple of things you're going to need to do first. The most important thing is that you have got to make sure that you really want them back in your life. The 2 of you split up seeing as there had been a problem with your relationship, and getting back together would possibly not be the best thing for the 2 of you. The subsequent is to work out if they want you back, because if they do not, you're going to be forced to fight for them.
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When Your Ex Boyriend Needs Space From You
Everybody of us in our lives has experienced a break up. We sure don't think about break-ups when we start a new relationship. We target the positive and happy times when a relationship is fairly new. With time, issues may occur in any relationship. Here are several tips that can help you in case your boyfriend wants some space. You're probably asking yourself, space? What does he mean space? There might be a few reasons why your boyfriend may need space. It doesn't necessarily mean there's something you're doing wrong , it might just be he's having private issues.
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Maria Shriver: Hold Your Head High
It's must be cellular that a woman automatically feels humiliated when her man cheats. Maria has done nothing to be ashamed of. Too often, women feel embarrassed for their husbands' behavior, whether it's domestic violence, emotional abuse, drug or alcohol addiction, gambling, or sex addiction, and although it's fortunate that A old took responsibility for his actions, too often, those husbands shift the blame onto their wives. It's called "blaming the victim."
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My Divorce journal - Step One
Last week things were pleasant and I hoped that they would continue. This week I’m beginning to answer questions with the help of Al-Anon’s 12 Step recovery program. Then – 3/2/2004 “journal question - Do I accept that I cannot control another person’s drinking? Another person’s behavior?
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Follow These Tips To Get Six Pack Abs
From sports persons to movie actors, from vocalists to other celebrities, six pack abs are certainly included in the list of 'signs of beauty and attraction'. A well refined set of six pack abs is probably going to turn many heads on earth! Six pack abs stand for top health, strength and raw force. Brute power - everything one can ever would like to have.
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How To Show Your Ex Girlfriend You Want To Get Back With Her
If you are going thru a break-up it could be one of the hardest situations. Break-ups could be very fragile and sensitive. Be extra wary on handling the way you are going to get back with your ex-girlfriend. Try and come up with different ideas you can do on a daily that can lead you back to your ex- girlfriend. Kick off with a sincere apology letter. Give her 1 or 2 days and then see where it leads. Don't call her right away and do not expect for her to call you immediately either. Below is some information that may help you lead back to her heart.
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Best Tips for Dating Thai women
When dating Thai women there are quite a few cultural differences that you need to be aware of to avoid making not only embarrassing mistakes but sometimes costly and heartbreaking ones as well. So here are a two of my best tips for dating or even having a relationship with a Thai woman. Buying gifts for Thai women
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Tips To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
Losing the one you love doesn't precisely mean you lost. You lose when you quit. To win your ex-boyfriend back when he is moved on could be a challenge but everything is possible when you try. I have been in your same situation and it was not till I challenged myself, that I then I spotted that I won what I once thought I lost. It is like the saying you do not know unless you try, right? 1- The 1st step to getting the one you love back is somehow making him still believe he still wants you. If this doesn't work there are definitely much more strategies you can try from here.
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My Divorce journal - Is It Really a Disease?
Last week I was beginning to answer questions with the help of Al-Anon’s 12 Step recovery program. This week I am answering whether I have accepted that alcoholism is a disease. Then – 3/4/2004 “Al-Anon journal question - Do I accept that alcoholism is a disease? How does that change how I deal with a drinker?
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Is Life Really a Game?
How many times have you heard “Life is a game?” Do YOU believe life is just a game? I do. Does my response surprise you? If so, keep the question hovering in your mind for a bit as I explain. I believe life is a mind game. Winning the mind game of life is all about perspectives and choices. Every issue in life can be viewed from many different perspectives and each perspective presents different choices.
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How To Know Your Ex Wants You Back
Maybe it has been a couple months since you have not seen your ex. Your ex has been calling you lately and giving you signs that she may need you back. Are you asking could it truly be that your ex wants me back? This is going to be a strong indication. Don't plunge into conclusions though. Let things happen as they come and watch where it leads. That does not imply get your hopes high and run with it, but take it slow.
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How To Keep A Woman Happy
Many of us have hard times keeping relations. Here are a couple of tips on how to keep your woman happy. These steps are fairly basic, all you need, is to follow these simple steps and you are off to building robust relationships. 1- You want to begin with making sure you're emotionally stable. Do not start a brand new relationship after you split up. Rebound relationships aren't recommended. Confirm when you start a brand new relationship you are completely emotionally healthy and truly happy with yourself.
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Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back - Learn The 5 Keys
Are you coping with a split? Considering how are you intending to make it work again. We frequently feel like this when we actually love the one we lost, and know you might have done something better. Not always do you have to think it's totally over. Splits could be a good thing as oppressive as that will sound. I have got 5 methods that helped me get my ex-boyfriend back.
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My Divorce journal - Another Option
Last week I had a sneaking suspicion that my journal had been read. This week I am faced with another option. Then – 2/22/2004
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Win An Ex Girlfriend Back - Proven Principle
You are now facing a hard situation and you're trying to figure out how you are going to improve things. Consider it this way, each problem has a solution. Now are you pleased to work hard for it? Sacrifices are going to be made and potentially some changes on your behalf. Don't think you might get back to your ex by still being the same person you were before. Breakups may be troublesome but also may be good.
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Is Your Family Dysfunctional?
Probably, and you’re in the majority. The term “dysfunctional family,” once used only by professionals, has become popular jargon in America where dysfunctional families are the norm due to cultural values, a high divorce rate, and widespread addictions – from prescription drugs to exercising, working, and shopping.
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Win The Ex Back - Follow These Tips
If you're like most people, you have probably preformed desperate actions in attempting to win the ex back. If you have discovered that desperate actions have not worked, you are likely looking for effective strategies in winning back the love of your life. These are effective tips in getting back the individual you love while keeping your self-confidence :
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A Workout Plan Is Needed To Stay Healthy
When you have decided to add a workout plan to your life, the first thing to do is simply get moving. Start walking, biking, swimming or whatever it is that you enjoy so as to get your body going. As you spot the benefits and become inspired, a workout plan is a good next step in your pursuit of overall good fitness and health. Workout plans don't have to be difficult routines at a costly gym. There are more cost effective options such as YMCAs or at home hardware you can use to get the workout you need.
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Lasting Change Starts From Within
If you have finally had enough stress… overwhelm… over-compromise… anger and … disappointment in your life and… you’re ready to do something about it… CONGRATULATIONS! I remember back many years ago when I was a young boy my father would often say, “Talk’s cheap. Don’t be a talker, be a doer!” I’ll never forget those words.
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I Promise I'll Tell Your Story
I was leaving my office Thursday afte oon with my rolling bag filled with work to complete over the weekend. As I walked down the long hallway towards the outer door I notice a nicely dressed woman in front of me. She had on a very pretty blue top and when she reached the door and opened it I thought to myself “I should tell her how much I like her blouse”. As quickly as I had that thought I also thought “She’s not going to care about my compliment. Just go to your car.”
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Love Advice for Relationship Equilibrium
So what is a state of Love equilibrium? Well here my friends we will address the very relevant issues of Love & Relationship equilibrium – pertaining to love advice. Elements of love Relationship Equilibrium: Fun; No two people in any love relationship are ever the same. But one things for sure – without FUN present, as one of the key equilibrium elements a relationship will find itself lacking in the warmth and adventurous spirit, needed for full relationship balance & enjoyment.
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How To Get My Ex Back By Believing
One of the toughest challenges we face today is maintaining a positive perspective, especially after splitting with your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend. Every day we are facing challenges, and circumstances that can either work for us or against us. Now it's up to you what sort of perspective are you going to set for yourself , are you going to permit negative thinking or positive thinking? Positive thinking and allowing yourself to feel confident about your situation will allow you to make smart calls.
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Living Life on Cruise Control
When people live their lives on cruise control – as so many people do – it reminds me of a broken record. (I’m really showing my age here. This example wouldn’t work so well if I said on a CD or mp3.) These days it seems like people wake up in the morning, get dressed, and drive to work taking the same route. When they get there they do mostly the same work day after day. At the end of the day they revisit their to-do-list checking off what got done and transferring the items that didn’t get done to tomorrow’s to-do-list.
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Getting My Ex Back Patiently
The key is to accepting that when you actually love somebody patience is born. Love has importance. The matter of the truth is, are you prepared to stand by the true meaning of love and winning back your ex? Love is a dynamic incentive far beyond people actually realize. It allows us to stand up to the test and overcome any hurdle.
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10 Tips for Handling Strained Relationships During the Holidays
This is the time of year when many people feel stressed and not wanting (needing) to be with family. All your bad feelings come up as you remember how past holidays went. Remember your thoughts just last year? "I'm never going to do that again!" "I can't believe those are my relatives" "Why was I so stupid to think they would change?" Past hurts rage as the memories spin around in your head.
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How To Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back By Doing The Right Things
When a relationship turns sour, it proves bad for all involved. Men do not only need to deal with the issue of breaking up, they must handle their own egos. If you are trying to figure out the proper way to win your ex girlfriend back, you will find it's not impossible but it isn't a simple task either. Never part on bad terms
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Don't Give Up Before the Miracle Happens
My son was diagnosed with ADHD at 4 years old and was eligible for a wonderful kindergarten program for children with special needs. The teacher was amazing and with her help I was able to manage my son’s behavior without having to medicate him. The kindergarten was in a different school than the elementary school he’d be attending for first through sixth grade; the school his older sister had been attending for the past three years.
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An Effective Communication Skill for Better Relationships - Married or Not
I was just talking with a new client of mine who was feeling angry with her husband. The anger came from a conversation that just didn't go the way it should. As I was asking questions to get to the root of the problem there was an "Ah-ha!" moment. The Ah-ha moment came when my client realized the only reason the conversation got out of hand was because she and her husband both assumed they knew what the other was thinking. "Why did you assume?" I asked. "Because I always do. Don't most people?" she replied.
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Life Continues After Divorce - How To Budget Your Money Simply After Divorce
You are now divorced, you have never done a budget before or, did it jointly with your spouse, and now you have to do it yourself. You will probably have less income and you may have to change your lifestyle. This can be scary. According to the latest divorce statistics from DivorceMag.com: • There were 71,269 divorces in Canada in 2005, or a rate of 220.7 per 100,000 population.r
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Breaking Up With Someone You Love - It is just a phase
For most of the lovers out here, even the concept of breaking up with someone you love, may be hard enough to make you feel devastated. It is a human instinct to avoid thinking and imagining things that they rarely wish to see taking place. Nevertheless the reality of life is that we often have to go thru things that we fear the most. If you are reading this article, possibilities are that you have an interest in learning how you can best live without the person you love the most, and with whom you just had a fight
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6 Keys to Assertive Communication
Communication is so important that it can make or break a relationship, is critical to success, and instantly reflects your self-esteem to listeners – for better or for worse. Assertive communication commands respect, projects confidence, and inspires influence. It's respectful, direct, honest, open, non-threatening and non-defensive. It's not demanding, aggressive, or manipulative.
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My Divorce journal - What Are The Statistics?
Last week I was questioning what the right thing is. This week I’m questioning what the statistics are for my children. Then – 2/18/2004
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Get Back Together With An Ex Today
Everyone who is experiencing a breakup with their ex should contemplate if a reunion is what is best for them. Occasionally, folks want to get back together with an ex before realizing that it's potentially not the best action to take. If you are currently considering this option, you should be a hundred p.c sure that it is truly, what you need as well as your ex.
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Getting Back With An Ex - causes a headache?
Infrequently, eventualities happen inside relations that may send both folks conce ed spiraling beyond control. Sometimes, a breakup can occur out of the blue, no matter who is the culprit. After breaking up, you could find that you and your ex are still staying in touch and this is often, when both parties involved play games. You might find yourself staying single in hopes that your ex will want to get back together. You could even find yourself being "led on" to believe such a thing will occur by your ex.
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Getting Back Together With An Ex - It is a challenging time
If you're lying awake at night trying to figure out if you're getting back together with an ex, you are one of millions of people who've felt this way. When we are separated from somebody we adore, this could prove to be a unpleasant time in our lives. Love is rarely simple and it absolutely makes me downcast for anyone who faces this quandary. At about that point, you most likely just require the heartache to go and your ex to come wandering through your door again. It is probably time to stop dreaming while making a reunion with your ex or beau a reality.
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How To Get An Ex Back Honorably
If you are experiencing a hurtful breakup, you are probably wondering how it's possible to get your ex back. This situation can prove dreary and maddening, especially if you were to blame for the breakup. At this point, you have likely tried everything but your work have failed in rekindling the relationship. Why is this you may ask? It is because you've been emotional and you've not been thinking clearly.
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How To Get An Ex Back By Being A Friend
If you want to find out how to get an ex back, this is a query that's steadily asked by heart broken people that are upbeat in re-kindling a relationship. Some of the people believe that remaining mates with somebody after a break is the way to go. On the other hand, a few of the people believe that the more distance you place between one another is the best technique. What might work for your own particular situation highly relies upon what you and your ex wants for the future.
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Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back - Proven Method
Your boyfriend is gone and you are presently feeling alone and defenseless. The relationship did not end on good terms and you're wondering if you'll ever be reunited with the person you love. Your relationship may be over for good but this does not necessarily imply that a spark of interest will never shine from the eyes of your ex-boyfriend anymore. If you are considering how to win your beau back, you have to first start with concentrating on why the relationship climaxed in the first place.
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My Divorce journal - Sneaking Suspicion
Last week I was questioning what the statistics are for my children’s emotional stability. This week I have a sneaking suspicion that my journal has been read. Then – 2/21/2004
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What Does a Life of Fulfillment Mean?
For many years I didn’t understand what it meant to live a life of fulfillment. I’ve come to learn many people have no idea what it means either. When I asked the questio “What does a life of fulfillment mean to you?” the most common response I get is “Living a life of fulfillment means living a life of happiness.” I don’t know about you, but for me I’ve never had a time in my life when I was happy every day, all the time. How about you? Can you image living everyday of your life being happy? Really? People would think you were living in your own world.
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Win An Ex Girlfriend Back - Four Steps Outlined
If you are thinking how to win an ex girlfriend back, you are not alone. Infrequently, it can feel as if everything you have tried has only made things worse. It's not uncommon for any person who needs to rekindle an old flame to feel defenseless and frustrated. The better news to this eventuality is you can get your past love back into your life with the right system.
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How To Make An Ex Want You Back Now
If you're considering how to make an ex need you back, this is something everybody has contemplated. Have you tried telling your past love that you love them or have you tried to prove to them that your present position has changed? You must ask, "What is different now in comparison to when you broke up?" What can you volunteer to a new rekindled relationship with your past love? If you cannot come up with an answer to this question, there is definitely anything wrong.
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Have You Thought About Getting Back With An Ex?
Getting back with an ex can prove to be a joyous experience. Rejoining with someone you, love could be the best feeling in the world nonetheless it is not always the best concept particularly circumstances. Everyone has the need to love and to feel love. Infrequently, this wish can make us blind to the various warning signals that are present. Love is a powerful emotion that can sometimes out rule logical thinking. I don't know of anyone that hasn't experienced this before.
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Ways To Get Back With An Ex
Are you going through a difficult split and wondering how you're going to get your ex back? Well you definitely need to start with a game plan and actually think before you act. We tend to get caught up on our emotions and making unwise decisions based on how we now feel and that's just the wrong way to start. I have put together several steps to help get your ex back instantly.
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5 Proven Steps To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
If you're attempting to find the fastest way to get your ex-girlfriend back, then you definitely believe there's still hope. Giving up could be the easy way out though not always the best path. If you are still in love and accept that you continue to have a chance, then I recommend you follow these five steps and you may win her heart back.
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Tips For Keeping a Long Distance Relationship Alive
One of the most difficult things about keeping a long distance relationship alive is the imagination involved in keeping the romance kindled, and unfortunately for many people, their imagination only extends to text messages and e-mails. Of course both of these are absolutely vital methods in your long distance relationship arsenal, but sometimes you really do need to think a little more creatively.
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Making a Long Distance Relationship Work: Using Your Imagination
Making any relationship work is a challenge but >making a long distance relationship work can be especially difficult. Once the domain of traveling salesmen and military personnel, the advent of the internet has made the world a much smaller place, and relationships have now become global institutions. But while connecting via the World Wide Web and mobile phones has made it easier to communicate over vast distances, it can’t easily replace the physical connection that is lost when you are unable to see each other on a regular basis.
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Do You Know How To Make a Long Distance Relationship Work?
When one partner is forced to move away with their job, neither partner has any real idea how to make a long distance relationship work. Perhaps they begin by declaring undying love and promising to speak every day on the phone, telling each other that distance is no object. But if you’ve ever been in a long distance relationship, you will know it’s not quite that simple.
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You’re Ready for Change – Good for You!
Are you finally at the point in your life when you’re ready for change? Do you really want to change or are you hoping other people and circumstances will change? If you’re hoping people and circumstances will change then you can stop reading this article now and be prepared to see yourself in the future as you are right now. If you are still reading this, you are more than likely ready, so read on. Are you more aware of who you are and what you want in life? Have you made up your mind not to live the rest of your life feeling the way you do now? Great! So now what?
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My Divorce journal - Driving Myself Crazy
Last week I was getting increasingly frustrated with the vicious cycle that had been a part of our marriage for awhile. This week I feel like I’m driving myself crazy with questions, imaginings and intuition. Then - 1/26/2004
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Body Langauge & Dating: How to Send Signals that Support You
Is your body language aligned with the message you want to send? On The Today Show with Kathie Lee and Hoda, body language expert Janine Driver weighed on the silent yet significant signals speed daters were sending each other at a Professionals in the City speed dating event. As you’ve probably experienced in your own life, body language is a key piece in how you relate to others and often influences your decision about whether or not to pursue a potential love interest.
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Insights for Relationship Help
Personality or character traits can be useful tools to the Counsellor or Therapist in assisting people to better understand themselves. There are many different types of trait categories. And it is important to understand these do not tell us that all those grouped together under a general trait category have the same traits as one another or are the same in any other way. As we know for a fact that everyone is unique in their individual make-up. Also as people evolve, grow, learn, & develop, their associated traits do indeed change and develop with them.
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Lower Ab Exercise is needed to get a great six pack abs
Lower ab exercise needs to be part of a good workout. Especially when working out the mid section. I know occasionally it is tough to workout your abs and even have energy to do it when you already worked out for an hour or so in the gymnasium, beefing up muscle and doing cardiovascular.
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Love Letters For Her should be special
Have you got special girl in your life that you wish to show you care? Are you attempting to find paths to put how much you love her on paper? Writing love letters for her can seem as if it is difficult, but after you follow a few tenets, you will see that it's extremely simple and you can totally improve your relationship. So go ahead, get out that paper and a pen and start writing, now is time to build your relationship of loving words and genuine care.
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Three Breaths Can Bring You Freedom
“Our deepest stress is that we are at war with ourselves,” Tara Brach We spend a lot of our days being driven by a vague existential clutch that something is wrong, something needs doing right now. And so we speed up. It’s not in our basic design to remember we can simply pause, breathe, notice the beauty around us. There is risk in relaxing. Our ancestral survivors lived because they were hyper-vigilant. Our DNA tells us that only the tense will survive, and this creates a driven joyless demand on ourselves and others to be perfect, which equals safety.
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Getting The Love You Want is a Science
Everyone wants to be loved. When it comes to getting the love you want, it's very important to make sure you are in tune with yourself. You need to have dreams and aspirations for your life. This way, when you do find a life partner, you can be confident in yourself and make it obvious of what you want in life. You can certainly have the love you want and be content while finding it. When you are true to yourself and respect others, love will find you.
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Accountability: Is it Important?
Accountability is one of the most overlooked and undervalued pieces of the puzzle to achieving personal and business goals. Without accountability many things in your life would not be present. In fact, lack of accountability could be the biggest reason why you don’t currently have what you want in life. When you choose the wrong person to be accountable to it is counter-productive and a waste of precious time and money. Here are some examples of choosing the wrong person to keep you accountable. 1. Someone who is toxic to you. 2. Someone you do not admire or look up to.r
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My Divorce journal - Don’t You Think You’re Being Dramatic?
Last week I felt like I was driving myself crazy with questions, imaginings and intuition. This week I’m being questioned about whether I’m being too dramatic. Then - 2/3/2004
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Making a Long Distance Relationship Work
Making any relationship work is a challenge but making a long distance relationship work can be especially difficult. Once the domain of traveling salesmen and military personnel, the advent of the internet has made the world a much smaller place, and relationships have now become global institutions. But while connecting via the World Wide Web and mobile phones has made it easier to communicate over vast distances, it can’t easily replace the physical connection that is lost when you are unable to see each other on a regular basis.
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How To Keep a Long Distance Relationship Alive
OK so you’re in love and, even though your love might be hundreds (or thousands) of miles away, you’re determined that somehow it will all work out. But unfortunately, when it comes to the crunch, most people have absolutely no idea how to keep a long distance relationship alive. Saying is one thing and doing is quite another. The challenge of coming up with new and imaginative ways to share yourselves with one another when physical contact is not a possibility any time in the near future can be daunting to say the least.
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Saving a Long Distance Relationship
When you or your significant other are forced to move away for whatever reason, the necessity of saving a long distance relationship is the last thing on your mind. However, the chances are that neither of you has any real idea how to make your long distance relationship work.
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My Divorce journal - What’s the Right Thing To Do?
Last week I’m being questioned about whether I’m being too dramatic. This week I’m questioning what the right thing is. Then – 2/15/2004 “Yesterday was Valentine’s Day. I did not get him a Valentine card from me, just from the kids. I looked at some cards, but I just couldn’t do it. It felt too hypocritical. He feels more like a distant friend to me, but I couldn’t buy him a friend card. Either way I figured that whatever expectations he was having of me, he was going to be disappointed.
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To win a girl back - Learn how to do it today!
Ahan, so you have eventually twigged that the girl you broke up with was actually the love of your life? You believe you can't live without her anymore? You suspect that she's the sole person whom you would wish to spend the remainder of your life with? Well, it is not ever too late to undo the error you made in the past. You continue to have a chance to win back your girl, if your feelings are true and sincere.
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Get Back With An Ex Today
If you have found yourself on the losing end of your relationship, you quite likely feel tons of hurt now. Many questions are flying through your head with the answers being long lost. If you notice that you are still in love with your ex, there are some tips and suggestions that will help you in the simplest way to win a girl back. Emailing your ex girlfriend is basically OKr
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What Will It Take to Get What You Want?
Do you know some of the reasons why you might not be getting what you want? I'm not just talking about material things. You may want a better relationship with your spouse, significant other, maybe your kids, your parents, or some of your friends. You may even want to have a better relationship with yourself so you can do some of the things you put on hold for a later date. How about better relationships with the people at your job or possibly to grow your business?
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All Is Well Until You Know Differently
The first time I heard this statement was when I was newly in the post-divorce dating stage. After numerous dates and very short relationships I met someone I connected with. He was charismatic, funny, loved doing anything and everything, loved his children, showed an interest in mine and even talked about us getting married. It seemed like everything was great but……..I just couldn’t put my finger on it.
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My Divorce journal - Vicious Cycle
Last week I was pressured to feel my feelings and come to terms with them. This week I’m getting increasingly frustrated with the vicious cycle that had been a part of our marriage for awhile. Then - 1/24/2004 “I am so tired of being the leader. I would love to be partners in the true sense of the word; where I can say ‘tag you’re it’ and things will be taken care of.
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Get Rid of Toxic People
Let’s pretend someone asked, “Who are you tolerating?” Maybe you’ve been asked that question before; maybe you haven’t. Either way, think about it for a moment. Now, answer this question. What came up for you when you thought about it? This is the type of question that provokes other questions and thoughts. In addition to thinking of the type of people you’re tolerating, you might be thinking about who they are in your life. Then you think about what they do that bothers you and how it affects your life. The questions roll on and on.
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Surviving a Long Distance Relationship: Can You Keep a Long Distance Relationship Alive?
The Internet has definitely made long distance relationships a lot more common, and, for the most part, made them easier to cope with. But just surviving a long distance relationship is not really the goal. Like any relationship, you want it to progress and flourish and, just the same as any relationship, two vital ingredients to making that happen are determination and commitment. Unfortunately being hundreds or thousands of miles apart makes it a little more difficult. Difficult, but not impossible.r
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Six Pack Abs are essential if you want to be fit
The concept of having six pack abs where the abs are trim and fit without an oz. of fat to show is just that, a concept. While there are people who sport six pack abs, both men and women, most of the time they are hyper targeted on the body and its appearance in contrast to overall good health. The best fitness goal for anybody to have is optimal good health. Six pack abs are not a reality for most people past their youths and twenties, both apropos resources and well as body fat and age.
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Why Don’t You Act on What You Say You Want?
I’d like to introduce you to that little voice in your head. While these voices are called different things by different people, I choose to call them “The Saboteur.” The Saboteur is what keeps most people stuck from getting what they want in life. Maybe you have more than one. These little voices are in each and every one of us. You know the voices I’m talking about. Here are a few examples of what you may be hearing from them inside your head right now. “I’m not good enough for….” “I’m not smart enough to…” “I don’t deserve…” “I can’t find anyone who would want me.”
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How Coaching Changed My Life!
I was sitting with a client yesterday and she asked me an interesting question. She asked; "How did going through the life coaching course help you?" She then went on to comment that she had seen a huge change in me and wondered what had happened to bring about that change. It was a question that had to make me think and so I thought I would share my story with you.
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Embracing Change!
Have you ever been asked to change or told something is going to change in your life, in your career or in your relationships? How did that feel? Did you embrace the idea or did you go running out of the room screaming your head off? Change can be difficult, but as sure as the sun is going to rise in the morning, change will come into your life. Many people fight change as they are comfortable with where they are at. They feel "set in their ways"; they don't want to "rock the boat"; they like things "just the way they are".
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A Huge Heart!
When I was a little girl, I had an aunt whom I adored. Actually she was my great-aunt, and I usually got to see her every year or so. Her name was Elsie and she loved me and accepted me unconditionally. I remember that if she ever had to correct me, she always did it gently and with a twinkle in her eye. I actually remember feeling warm in her presence like I was wrapped in a thick down quilt and only she could really see me.
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My Divorce journal - What Are You Doing to Fix This?
Last week I was contemplating an eye opening question previously posed by our marriage counselor, this week I’m defensive about an eye opening question posed by my husband Then – 12/23/2003 “Last night was quite interesting. When ‘Carl’ came home from his AA meeting he was in a bad mood. It appears that some people were talking about their family life and their ‘happily ever after’ stories.
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Advice for Relationship Rescue
In life and indeed love we need to appreciate the full advantage of self-understanding. As the better we know our individual & unique qualities and gifts, the better we may utilize these for a full & happy life, enjoying healthy, rewarding, and stimulating, relationships. Self-knowledge also helps us to better identify and work on any problem areas of ourselves when required. This is always positive, as we grow and develop through-out our lifetime.r
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When is Enough, Enough?
“I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore!” I bet you’ve heard that one. Maybe you’ve even said it yourself. This very well known line from an old movie became so popular because millions of people related to it. They would internalize how mad they were yet rarely express it until they reached a bursting point. People were saying that line out loud for years after the movie stopped playing in theaters. I remember saying it myself. It sure did relieve some stress.
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My Divorce journal - Pressure to Feel
Last week I was confronted with the questio “What are you doing to fix this?” This week I am looking inside to figure out what I had been avoiding for many years. Then - 12/24/2003
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Are You Choosing Intention or Circumstance?
You’ve heard it said that life is all about choices. Do you believe it? If it is true, why do so many people go through life choosing to live the way their feeling now? Why in the world would anyone choose to live life feeling miserable? It is a great question. If more people really thought about this question their life would be so different – different in great ways!
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My Divorce journal - Is Trust Fixable?
Then - 12/10/2003 “Last night when ‘Carl’ got home from his meeting and was in ‘Dan’s’ room saying good night, I thought I smelled liquor on him. I told him and he rolled his eyes and got huffy. It still bothered me so before he could go downstairs I asked him if I could smell his breath. He went ballistic. He yelled ‘This is ridiculous. You’re not smelling my breath over and over!’ I told him to stop yelling and that I had every right to smell him. When he finally relented, the thing that I smelled the most was cigarettes so I couldn’t even tell if he had been drinking.
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COUPLES COUNSELING
It's very important that couples seek therapy early on, while there is still good will between them. Like with any wound, the longer it festers, the more difficult is the healing process. When couples enter therapy to "save" their marriage from divorce, often one spouse has already left emotionally, and there's a lot of resentment and "water under the bridge."
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My Divorce journal - What Would You Miss?
Then - 12/11/2003 “The big topic that came up during our argument was that he feels I don’t even want to be in a relationship. He feels that when he’s recovered I don’t even want to stay around; he thinks I’ve already made up my mind on the subject and that nothing he does to get better is going to change that.
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Multi-Tasking = Mini-Tasking not Major-Tasking
Multitasking is not the secret to success. A scattered, unfocused mindset sabotages the accomplishment of the major-tasking that creates lovely memories and crosses off the jobs that need doing but one time. Myriad studies prove that multitasking not only isn’t efficient in the long run, it causes stress and high blood pressure. It is the opposite of the spiritual experience of mindfulness. But this knowledge hasn’t put an end to the compulsion to confound my hands and mind with co-existing activity.
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Addicted to Ambivalence?
Some days are harder than others. Today seems to be one of those, for me: no energy, not wanting to jump on my planned tasks. One curse of being a therapist is my tendency is to look for reasons. And so I reviewed some of my recent decisions and actions, and non-actions, and found myself looking at the questionnaire I wrote a while back: "Are You Addicted to Ambivalence?" I posted it for your own exploration.
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The Richness of Staying In the Moment
Is it too much to ask you to slow down and stay in the moment? What does that even mean? Have you noticed during the day when things are going right and you’re feeling happy and all of a sudden something happens? You don’t know what happened; you only know that now you’re sad, and possibly angry and disappointed. When this happens the most common response is you go through the rest of the day feeling -- you guessed it! -- sad, angry and disappointed. You stay that way until something good happens and then the cycle repeats.
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My Divorce journal - What's Normal?
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Self-Love: 5 Ways to Put You First
Putting you first is more than a seductive, self-help catch phrase. When I started making my “big picture for life” a priority and backed up my desires through my choices and actions, I started experiencing unbelievable developments. It completely changed my life. This is precisely why I teach all my clients how to do the same in their daily lives. Life moves so fast these days. Learning how to direct yours more efficiently will pay big dividends in satisfaction and greater peace of mind.
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Five Secrets in Finding a Relationship Coach
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I Used To Be Happy -- What Happened?
Becoming Aware! I talk with a lot of people who say they are tired of living the way they’re feeling now. I often ask, “What are you feeling now?” The some common answers I get are: • “I’m not exactly sure what I’m feeling. I just know I’m frustrated and disappointed with the people in my life.” • “I’m very angry because I go out of my way to help my siblings and friends and they don’t appreciate me.” • “I’m feeling more alone married now than when I was single.” Next I ask, “How long have you been feeling like that?”
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What Do You Really Want in Life? Make Up Your Mind
I ask tough questions. “What do you really want in Life?” “What makes you happy?” “If you had it all over to do again, what would you do differently?” These questions sound easy, but for most people it’s a struggle to come up with an answer. There are different reasons why answering these questions doesn’t come easily. For one thing, people rarely take the time to be with the most important person in their life. Yet, we all have the same most important person. The most important person in your life should be YOU!
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My Divorce journal - What's the Focus?
Then - 11/1/2003
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What Did You Say “YES” to for 2011?
Just a few short weeks ago you and millions of others Declared, Promised and made New Year's Resolutions. Are you still on track to achieve what you said you wanted? If you're like most people you made your resolutions without a plan and without knowing how to get them or who to talk with to help you. What makes 2011 different than all the others years in regard to getting what you want? What are you going to do differently? Ok, ok, I know. One of your resolutions might be to have better relationships with the people you say you love and want to be with.
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Learning To Tell Yourself The Truth
The pain was almost too much to handle. I didn’t know how I got here. Was he the same man who wined and dined me, proposed to me, loved me? How could he be hurting me like this? “I have a certain way I want my fiancé to look,” he said. I looked at my outfit. The bright colors I had chosen to wear were out of character for me, but I thought I looked nice. But instead of greeting me with his usual hug and a smile, when I walked out the building he threw a bomb: “What do you have on? Pajamas?”
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The Lost Art of Seduction
If sex sells, how does a sister find Mr. Right? It’s a fact. Sex sells. It is, according to most experts on relationships and marriage, the number one priority for a man. Most women know this, if not intuitively, then from the millions of movies, books, magazines and TV shows that SCREAM it at us on a daily basis. “Sex and the City” is popular for a reason, right?
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Is Marriage Obsolete?
This weekend I had a lot of mixed emotions. I was glad to get some downtime with my family. My husband and I enjoyed spending time together with our 2-year-old daughter. She continues to amaze us with how fast she’s growing! And we enjoyed a nice dinner at a hole-in-the-wall soul food restaurant with my in-laws after church on Sunday. (Why is it those hole-in-the-wall places have THE BEST food?)
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How Do You Know If You're In Love?
One of the most common questions I get asked by my friends, family and readers is, “How do you know . . .” Men and women, single and married ask things like: • How do you know if you’re in love? • How do you know if he’s the one? • How do you know if he’s lying to you? • How do you know if you’re ready for marriage? • How do you know if he’s a good man? • How do you know if you should go on a second date? • How do you know if he’s cheating on you?
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Three Tips to Find out What Men Really Think about Love
Does he like me or is he just being nice? I remember being so frustrated with dating because it seemed that some of the men I liked were sending me mixed signals. One man in particular seemed to have all the qualities I was looking for: good looking, respectful, a Christian with a heart for youth and overseas missions, a hard worker, and did I mention good looking? Some days he’d act like he was into me, while other days it seemed I was invisible to him. I couldn’t put my finger on it. It was all a mystery to me.
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Your GPS for Dating Success
I get asked a lot for dating advice and the questions often begin with “How do I know if. . .” “But he told me . . .” “What does it mean when . . .” In my answers, I like to pass along one of the best pieces of advice anyone’s ever given me about dating: “Don’t Ignore the Signs!”
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How to Date your Husband Part 1: Romance in 10 Minutes or Less
Many married couples complain that they don’t have time to go out on a date. I want to help you put the fire back in your marriage in 10 minutes or less. It's so simple it will work even if you haven’t been on a date in a decade!
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How to Date Your Husband Part 2: Remember When . . .
I couldn’t believe he said yes! After our second coffee date, I’d asked him if he’d like to join my family for Thanksgiving. I didn’t want him to be alone since he was so far away from home. He told me he’d made plans a year before to get together with old friends during Thanksgiving in Atlanta and he had already bought his plane ticket. But, he said, “something” told him to come to my family’s house for Thanksgiving! Yesterday marked five years since I’d invited him over for Thanksgiving. After dinner, he asked me out on our first date! We've been married for four years now!
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How to Date Your Husband Part 3: Ten Date Night Ideas
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What a Car Thief Taught Me About Life and Love
Shock and disbelief flooded my mind as I stared at the now empty parking spot in our apartment complex. Just 30 minutes earlier it was there. Why wasn’t it there now? The thoughts sped through my mind but it seemed like each one paused long enough for me to ponder: “Where is my car? Maybe somebody mistakenly thought it was his and accidentally took it. They’ll be back.” My husband had the same kind of irrational thoughts as he called out to me (with the car keys in his hand) “Where did you go? Where did you go?” Our daughter cried out “I want my car!”
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An Exercise in Forgiveness
I was writing an e-workbook for a teleclass I was going to give on the topic of forgiveness. As I always approach this type of writing project, I wrote down my thoughts about where I’ve been, how I moved forward and where I am now in regards to the topic. Forgiveness is one of those areas that bring up a lot of emotion, justification, awareness, stubbornness, hurt feelings, etc. But as I sat writing down my thoughts the following visual exercise came to mind:
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Breaking-Up: Should You Leave Or Can you get the Change You Want?
Is your relationship or marriage just, well, so-so? Maybe you’re not sure if you still love or ever loved your partner? Maybe he or she has many good traits – is kind, or generous, funny, or the sex is great. She’s gorgeous, or he showers you with kindness – but something is missing. Maybe your parents or friends think that he or she is great – that others would give their eye teeth for such a relationship. There’s more at stake if you have children together, but if not, how do you decide what’s the right thing to do?
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Is Your Heart Committed? Is His?
Women, in particular, are looking for commitment. Hollywood, the media, and dating websites all focus on getting a marriage proposal. The art of seduction pre-dates expert Cleopatra. Dozens of books have been written about getting an unavailable man to say, “I do.” For six years, Carrie Bradshaw of “Sex in the City” tried to get Mr. Big to commit.
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F. E. A. R. (Today’s Letter to Me 5 Years Ago)
Almost every day for the past 6 ½ years I have read the page of the day in one or more of the Alanon Daily books and I would journal my thoughts about that page. Today I read the page of the day about fear and looked back in my prior jou als. What I wrote on the same day 5 years ago was “I did say something about how I feel to someone and they are displeased. My old fears are taking over. I imagine being alone for the rest of my life and I panic. I do or say something in order to put a bandaid over the situation”.
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Can Therapy Help You Change?
Is it possible to truly change? Does therapy help? Many people have turned their lives and fortunes around, while others spend years trying to change with or without therapy, but never seem to progress. What makes the difference? Certainly, there are skilled and unskilled psychotherapists. Therapy can make a huge difference and help you traverse the obstacles to change, but success lies in the individual.
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Who Gets To See You Happy?
Things were at their worst at home. I can remember feeling that I didn’t want my then husband to see me happy for reasons like: he’d take credit for it, he’d think everything was ok, he’d take it as whatever “sign” he wanted to attribute to it. For a long time I didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of seeing me happy. That’s how crazy my life had become because alcoholism pervaded our household. That’s how warped my thinking was; “Don’t let him see you happy. He might get the wrong impression”.
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Emotional Abuse: Beneath Your Radar?
There are three million cases of domestic violence reported each year. Many more go unreported. Emotional abuse precedes violence, but is rarely discussed. Although both men and women may abuse others, an enormous number of women are subjected to emotional abuse. Unfortunately, many don’t even know it. Why is Emotional Abuse Hard to Recognize?
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The Hidden Gift
We’ve become really close, she and I. I’m really happy about that. She’s been opening up to me gradually and I can see her getting more and more comfortable. She tells me about how she recently handled a difficult situation and I am really impressed. I tell her so. She says she thinks she really kept her side of the street clean, handled herself with grace and dignity yet the person she was speaking with reacted so immaturely that she was confused. She felt that she handled herself the right way yet this person’s reaction felt insensitive and unwarranted.
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Healing In Relationships
Even before we enter the world, our brains and hormones are wired for connection. Our first relationship begins in our mother’s womb, where we recognize her voice and respond to her moods through hormones and stress responses. Later, her smell and touch become familiar. Affection and responsive communication are necessary for developing our brains and bodies. Early interactions with our parents shape our self-image and template for love and relationships. Our patterns of relating and reacting, attachment style, are often repeated in adult relationships—romantic and otherwise.
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Growth and Healing in Recovery
Healing is not linear or categorizable but is an obscure odyssey of the soul that meanders, stagnates, and has ups and downs. It warps time, intertwining our past and present, perspectives, relationships, and emotional struggles. For me, writing has been a gratifying and powerful healing tool along my journey. I decided to publish poems I’ve written and lessons I’ve learned in a new book, Unfettered Soul: Poems and Contemplations on Recovery.
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What Is Generational Trauma – Mother Wounds
Generational trauma is a form of trauma passed down to subsequent generations through environmental factors such as psychological transference and attachment behavior according to attachment theory. The psychological impact of a traumatic event, such as historical mistreatment, cultural dislocation, physical or emotional abuse, a natural disaster, or poverty, is passed down from one generation to the next, where individuals who did not directly experience the trauma still exhibit symptoms of it due to the experiences of their ancestors or parents.
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Profile of a Narcissist Attractor
Often a partner of a narcissist is a narcissist attractor, but may not realize it until they’ve attracted more than one narcissist. They may have a narcissist in their family of origin, but not always, and not all children of narcissists end up with one. Not all partners of narcissists were raised in unhappy families. People who grew up loving and trusting their parents are also susceptible because they expect others to be loving and trustworthy. Thus, they are less guarded and naive to narcissistic manipulative tactics.
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Profile of a Narcissist Attractor
Often a partner of a narcissist is a narcissist attractor, but may not realize it until they’ve attracted more than one narcissist. They may have a narcissist in their family of origin, but not always, and not all children of narcissists end up with one. Not all partners of narcissists were raised in unhappy families. People who grew up loving and trusting their parents are also susceptible because they expect others to be loving and trustworthy. Thus, they are less guarded and naive to narcissistic manipulative tactics.
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Natural Trauma Healing – Less is More
The conversation around trauma has become mainstream, as people seek to understand the effects of stress and emotional wounding on the body and mind. Countless books and studies have brought vital insights, exploring how trauma lodges in the nervous system and impacts our sense of safety, connection, and vitality. But amid all this knowledge, it’s easy to miss something essential: We’ve inherited natural trauma healing practices. Trauma affects codependents, including anyone who has lived with abuse, addiction, and high-conflict relationships. It’s often transgenerational.
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Dreams: The Doorway to Your Soul
Dreams are the “Royal Road to the Unconscious,” said Freud. What you don’t know controls you. Your unconscious beliefs, fears, motives, and desires can thwart your goals, your health, and relationships. By understanding and learning to trust the messages in your dreams, you are communicating with your true self, your soul, and God. Carl Jung wrote that he who looks inside awakens. “The dream is a little hidden door in the innermost and most secret recesses of the soul.” Deciphering your dreams’ hidden symbols, guidance, and messages unlocks that doorway.
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Expectations are Premeditated Resentments
I’m sitting at the party. I planned it so perfectly. I would throw a surprise party for my best friend on my birthday. She’ll be so surprised! She walks in the door. She looks surprised. She greets everyone and thanks them for coming. She seems to be happy yet……I know her better than anyone. I don’t feel that she’s as excited as I expected her to be. I don’t sense the appreciation that I had expected. I start to feel upset. I start to feel annoyed. What is this other feeling that’s gnawing at me? I start to feel resentment.
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Are You Stuck in a Woman’s Role?
Women assume many roles throughout their lives – as daughters, sisters, wives, mothers, and grandmothers. Women’s roles have been largely determined by the rules and expectations of culture, religion, and the patriarchy, as well as biology. Have you considered to what extent your roles have defined you, your thoughts and behavior? It may be easier to conform to societal norms and follow the example of your mother and friends, but the price is high if it means sacrificing your beliefs or the expression of other parts of yourself. This can lead to depression.
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Myths about Narcissism
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Signs of lack of empathy and what you can do
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Difference between a Strong Ego, Weak Ego, and Big Ego
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Difference between a Strong Ego, Weak Ego, and Big Ego
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The Stages of Narcissistic Relationships
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The Narcissists' Hidden False Self
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Child Parentification: The Cause, Signs, and Recovery
The term child parentification was coined in 1967 by family systems theorist Salvador Minuchin, who said the phenomenon occurred when parents de facto delegated parenting roles to children.
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Three Secret Behaviors of Narcissists
Narcissists’ entire personality is a defense to help them manage their hidden insecurity and inner turmoil.
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Symptoms of Children of Narcissists and Addicts
Children of narcissists and addicts (all substance abusers) grow up in a stressful, dysfunctional family environment, which in most cases leads to codependency. Due to the symptoms and <a href="https://whatiscodependency.com/why-narcissists-act-th
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How to Identify and Combat Gaslighting
Identifying gaslighting behavior and knowing how to combat gaslighting are essential to maintaining your self-esteem, and mental and emotional health.
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Are You Kind or Are You Codependent?
Do you wonder whether you're a kind, empathetic person or are you codependent? There is a difference between empathy and codependency. There are codependents who are abusers and not caring, and some people who are caring and aren't codependent. So what's the difference?
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Benefits of Letting Go Discoverable in Therapy
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Understanding the Mind of a Distancer
Pursuer-distancer relationships cause a lot of heartache, especially for a pursuer. Learn about the mind of a distancer to understand your own or your partner's behavior so you won't take it personally.
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Are Narcissists Made or Born?
Narcissists can be hard to empathize with, but research on inherited narcissism shows they didn’t choose to be that way; they bear scars from childhood.
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Trauma Recovery: A Blueprint and Strategies
Most codependents experience abandonment trauma in childhood, which can take many forms ranging from overt abuse to covert neglect. Even subtle signs that one of our parents does not listen to our thoughts, feelings, or needs send a message that we’re not valued for who we are as an individual. This abandonment trauma lays the groundwork for shame and codependency, which can be a precursor for troubled, adult relationships where we feel unvalued, not enough, and emotionally abandoned compounding our original trauma.
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The Signs and Effect of Emotional Incest
Emotional incest has been compared to actual incest because it similarly creates long-lasting effects on psychosocial development and into adulthood. Sometimes the targeted child is referred to as a “surrogate spouse,” due to parent-child enmeshment or a codependent parent-child relationship. Non-sexual incest can happen with a same-sex or opposite-sex parent. Invasive parents have difficulty maintaining an intimate relationship with their spouse and appropriate boundaries with their child. Dysfunctional Family Systemsr
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Unraveling Female Narcissism
Female narcissists can be harder to spot; first, because they’re less numerous, and second, because their behavior may be less assertive and public compared to male narcissists. Male narcissists outnumber female narcissists nearly three to one. However, narcissistic personality disorder is on the rise in women, as is narcissism in general.[i] Males are usually encouraged to be more confident, decisive, forceful, pushy, and self-assured. Due to cultural biases, male narcissists are bolder than their female counterparts and more likely to strive for wealth, power, and success in their work.r
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Hidden Truth About Codependent Relationships
There’s a saying, “The ending is in the beginning.” Codependent relationship problems start with their low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, and their idealization of love—that it will solve their deeper problems, including shame, which generates beliefs such as: “If I’m loved, I’m lovable,” and “If I’m needed, I won’t be abandoned and lonely.” Codependents have fantasies of how wonderful their relationship will be, “if only…” their partner would transform (with their help.)
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Depression and Despair
When reality doesn’t match our desires and childhood coping mechanisms fail us, life presents us with painful lessons that may lead to depression. We face painful lessons that can lead to depression. The patterns we developed in response to unmet childhood needs can strain our relationships. If we were overly indulged or our disappointment was unconsoled in childhood, we become easily discouraged or more willful as adults. Both responses hinder our ability to adapt to reality. Stubborn self-will can prevent us from finding workable solutions.
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Dealing with Highly Aggressive People
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DARVO: Abusers’ “Victim-Blaming” Tactic
Abusers are long known for victim-blaming, because they never want to take responsibility. More recently a research psychologist Jennifer Joy Freyd gave this a name: DARVO, which stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.
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CRAFT Addiction Treatment and Codependency
Though powerless over an alcoholic-addict's ultimate behavior, we can influence them to get addiction treatment using CRAFT.
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Keep Your Side of the Street Clean
My 18 year old daughter, Kelly, calls me in a panic. Her ex best friend has text her because she’s heard rumors that she believes Kelly has been spreading about her. She wants to come down from college and confront Kelly. Kelly is upset because she says she hasn’t said a bad word to anyone about this girl and she feels extremely frustrated because she doesn’t know how to prove that she’s done nothing wrong. I listen, as any good mom would do. I allow a little silence after she finishes telling her side of the story, as any good life coach would do.
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Individuation: From Codependent Chameleon to True Self
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Signs of Healthy Boundaries
Healthy boundaries are essential in recovery from codependency. They both build and reflect self-esteem. Learning to have healthy boundaries is an essential aspect of individuating and becoming an individual and autonomous person.
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Relationship Anxiety
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Is My Relationship Toxic?
<img class="alignnone size-us_1366_500 wp-image-28693" src="https://whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/couple-arguing-AdobeStock_84420001-750x500.jpeg" alt="Is My Relationship Toxic?" width="750" height="500" />
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Healing Trauma and Your Inner Child
<img style="float: left; padding: 0 20px 20px 0;" src="https://whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/Child-abuse-soupstock-AdobeStock_132085885-750x500.jpeg" alt="Healing Trauma and Your Inner Child" width="400" height="267" /> We all have an “inner child,” which is an unconscious archetype coined by Carl Jung. It holds our vulnerability, spontaneity, creativity, curiosity, and magical ideas. It also holds fears, anxiety, shame, loneliness, and insecurity experienced growing up and is a vital part in healing trauma.
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Are You Feeding Narcissistic Supply?
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Nine Ways to Heal Family Rifts & Become More Functional
The larger-than-life bond of family shines through sorrows and joys alike. The divine connection that exists within a family is a light that cannot be dimmed, no matter the distance between its members. Family relationships are complex, intense, and powerful, at best. They require not only patience, but an understanding of both their psychological and karmic components.r
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Narcissists' Dirty Little Secret
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The Narcissistic Parent
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What Is a Trauma Bond?
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WHY IT’S HARD TO RECEIVE
Often many people, in particular codependents, find it hard to receive. In fact, codependents are more comfortable giving or even self-sacrificing than receiving. Yet they wonder why they’re in relationships with “selfish” or narcissistic partners.
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6 STRATEGIES WHEN NARCISSISTS WON’T LET GO
<img class="alignleft wp-image-22176" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/lure-pexels-maël-balland-3099227-838x1024.jpg" alt="lure, bait, seduce, bait and switch" width="326" height="396" />Beware of narcissists trying to lure you back with hoovering. Breakups with narcissists don’t always end the relationship. Many won’t let you go, even when it’s they who left the relationship, and even when they’re with a new partner. They won’t accept “no.”
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HOW TO HAVE BOUNDARIES IN THE PANDEMIC
<img class="alignleft wp-image-22285" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/Boundaries-enmeshed.png" alt="Self or Other; enmeshed boundaries" width="370" height="320" />Maintaining boundaries is challenging for most of us. But the pandemic has made it even more difficult. People have been quarantined with a partner, housemate, or family for nearly a year. Normally, we could at least create physical space by going to work, the gym, seeing friends, or even taking side trips.
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ARE EMPATHS CODEPENDENT?
<img class="alignleft wp-image-22890" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/compassion.jpg" alt="holding hands" width="404" height="270" />Empaths are more than empathetic. Like an HSP–highly sensitive person–they’re highly attuned to stimuli and other people’s emotions and energy, usually to a degree considered transpersonal or paranormal. They may be codependent and end up in abusive relationships. Let’s first consider some definitions. An HSP has a rich inner life and deep central nervous system sensitivity to physical, emotional, or social stimuli.
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6 Habits for Better Mental Health
If there’s one thing (among many) that this pandemic has taught us, it’s the need to cultivate a healthy state of mind. Mental health is a branch of wellbeing that deserves more attention; what we feel determines how we feel. We’re encouraged to take off from work if we have a fever or stomachache, so why aren’t we taught to validate our emotions and take our thoughts more seriously? Mental health is tantamount to physical health: we cannot have the latter if we don’t have the former because there exists an unbreakable bond between mind and body. All things begin and end in the mind.
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STEPS OF CODEPENDENCY RECOVERY
The overall goal of codependency recovery is to become a full-functioning individual.
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LEARNED HELPLESSNESS IS NOT A LIFE SENTENCE
<img class="alignleft wp-image-22569" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/hopeless-nik-shuliahin-BuNWp1bL0nc-unsplash-1024x1019.jpg" alt="" width="364" height="363" />We can feel hopeless and helpless when we experience chronic abuse or repeated obstacles. You might feel stuck in poverty or an unhappy relationship. You could or be dealing with your own or someone else’s addiction that feels powerless to change.
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Soul Alignment
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How to Feel Grateful When You Don't
The expectation of feeling grateful at Thanksgiving can be challenging when we’re struggling with loneliness or relationship, work or health problems. It can be even harder to have gratitude around the holidays, when we see other people happily celebrating.
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Healing Psychic Wounds of Codependency
<img class="alignleft wp-image-21353 size-large" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/codependency-wounds-woman-AdobeStock_260532236-1024x682.jpg" alt="sad woman, psychic wounds" width="584" height="389" />Codependency is more than a relationship problem. It wounds our psyche and individual development. Make no mistake. It’s to no fault of our own. The wounds of codependency is adaptive and helped us survive growing up in a dysfunctional family system. But that adjustment cost us our individuality, authenticity, and our future quality of life.
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Tactics Narcissists Use to Gain Self-Esteem and Power
To some degree, most of us desire to improve our social status and self-esteem, but narcissists feel compelled to. A recent study concluded that it’s their constant concern.
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11 Choices to Make in 2021
I hold the belief that while we can’t control all elements of life, we can co-create of our destiny. If 2020 taught us one thing, it was to make peace with what we can’t control, but to make better decisions about the things we can.
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HOW TO TELL IF YOU’RE WILLFUL OR STRONG WILLED
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Changing Codependent Dynamics in Abusive Relationships
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Dating a Narcissist
<img class="alignleft wp-image-16557 size-full" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/dating.jpg" alt="online dating" width="418" height="293" /> You won’t realize you’re dating a narcissist. Narcissists are exceedingly skilled at making you like them. They can be alluring, charming, and exciting to date. In fact, in one study, it took seven meetings for people to see through their likable veneer. In a dating situation, a narcissist has a greater incentive to win you over—sadly, sometimes all the way to the altar.
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4 TYPES OF NARCISSISM SHARE A CORE TRAIT
There are four major types of narcissism. Researchers have been hunting for the core of narcissism that all narcissists share despite varying symptoms and severity. Narcissists use a variety of tactics and defenses to keep you insecure and ensure their status and their needs are met. It’s easy to be confused, but it’s important to understand and spot which type of narcissist you’re dealing with. Recently, two research teams have identified a common trait. The Grandiose Narcissist
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8 Actions to Conquer a Crisis
If 2020 were a novel, it would fall between the genres of suspense and thriller; from the Australian wildfires and impeachment trial to the novel coronavirus and economic crash, this year has brought a bounty of unwelcome surprises. It’s no wonder many of us are feeling anxious about our future. Rest assured that beyond the current crisis lies a bigger message.
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How to Detach and Let Go with Love
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The Startling Reason We Sabotage Love
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SIBLING BULLYING AND ABUSE: A HIDDEN EPIDEMIC
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Therapy for NPD and Narcissists
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What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD
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Relationship as a Spiritual Path
<img class="alignleft wp-image-1720" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/romance.jpg" alt="Romance, Loving couple" width="431" height="330" /> A relationship can be an exciting path to the unknown. It offers an ever-present opportunity to grow—a path to spiritual transformation and mutual discovery and ultimately the divine when partners open to one another.
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COVERT TACTICS MANIPULATORS USE TO CONTROL AND CONFUSE YOU
<img class="alignleft wp-image-13334" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/mask-manipulator-Ashutosh-Sonwani-Pexels.jpg" alt="covert manipulator, mask" width="313" height="355" />Many of us don't recognize manipulators or even realize they're trying to control and confuse us. We may have an uneasy feeling in our gut that doesn't match the manipulator's words or feel trapped into agreeing with a request. Most people react in ways that escalate abuse or play into the hands of the abuser and feel small and guilty, but retreat and allow unacceptable behavior.
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Dating The Wrong Woman Can Teach You The Right Lessons
We’ve all dated a person who wasn’t the right one from us. But, instead of treating that time with regret, we should flip our mindset to a more positive one and be thankful for that time we had to learn about ourselves on a deeper level. We internalize lessons when we are with someone who is wrong for us, and hopefully, the next person you date will be the right one for you. Here are some crucial lessons to take away from a failed relationship.
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Unexpected Trauma after Abuse
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Why You Were Ghosted and What to Do
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WHY YOU CAN LOVE AN ABUSER
Falling in love happens to us—usually before we really know our partner. It happens to us because we’re at the mercy of unconscious forces, commonly referred to as “chemistry.” Don’t judge yourself for loving someone who doesn’t treat you with care and respect, because by the time the relationship turns abusive, you’re attached and want to maintain your connection and love.
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HOW SHAME FEELS AND WHAT MAKES IT TOXIC
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6 Secrets to Emotional Intimacy
The secret to a deep, purpose-driven life is not to perceive but to feel. We can see, touch, smell, taste, and hear the world around us, but not until we feel it do we truly sense the living spark. When we watch a movie, it's not the scenes we glimpse but the emotions they evoke that make us laugh or cry. We must feel all that we do—even become intimate with it—to grasp its full meaning. This holds especially true in relationships; we might be physically attracted to someone, but only when we engage our emotions do we really connect with that person.
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COMBAT NARCISSISTS’ AND ABUSERS’ PRIMARY WEAPON: PROJECTION
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"The 3 Stages of Life"
Joyce and I love watching our two-year-old grandson, Owen, just as much as we love spending time with our first grandson, almost eight-year-old Skye. When they were new babies, their dependence was obvious. Because Owen is younger, I will use him as an example. He would not have survived for long without the nurturing and protection of our daughter, Mira, and her now-husband, Ryan. (They got married here in our home last month!)
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The 10 Elements of a Soulmate
The American writer Richard Bach said, "A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are."
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13 Questions to Know if They're the One for You
Few things are as exciting as the prospect of new love; you light up at the idea of having found a person who cares, who can give you the love you deserve, who’s just right for you. Yet at the same time, you hesitate: But is he the right person? You wonder one thing: Is he the one for me?
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11 Golden Relationship Rules
As a psychologist and relationship counselor for over 25 years, I speak from experience when I say that love is an ocean of infinite depths: people are complex, riddled with flaws and hidden desires, seeking to be accepted and understood. Different partners draw different emotions out of us—some we didn't even know we had—and keeping up a happy relationship can become tedious. Yet human beings also possess an unyielding need to love and be loved. Some people need help releasing this love they hoard within.
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"The Gift of Rejection"
Rejection can hurt. Perhaps a person can be rejected by a friend, partner, boss, sibling, parent, co-worker, someone you work out with at the gym, or even your grown child. Scientists are discovering that the hurt of rejection can be actually recorded within your body.
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"Workaholism: A Growing Problem"
In a couple’s counseling session, Dolores accused her husband, Perry, of workaholism. His immediate response was, “Yes, I’m a workaholic.” Joyce and I were surprised at the actual pride revealed in his voice. He continued, “I’m a creative man, an entrepreneur. I thrive on juggling many projects.”
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How to Leave a Narcissist or Abuser
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Need-Fulfillment is the Key to Happiness
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WHY NARCISSISTS ACT THE WAY THEY DO
<img class="alignleft wp-image-12857" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Narcissist-Madonna1.jpg" alt="" width="386" height="386" />Narcissists can be charming, charismatic, seductive, exciting, and engaging. They can also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, competitive, selfish, obnoxious, cruel, and vindictive. You can fall in love with their charming side and be destroyed by their dark side. It can be baffling, but it all makes sense when you understand what drives them.
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10 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore in a New Relationship
You meet someone who’s simply charming, irresistible. You’re excited about this person and begin dating, spending more and more time together. Everything is going great, except that your new partner slips into certain “bad habits” here and there. You reassure yourself that this is normal. But is it? Seemingly insignificant tendencies can be early indicators of greater issues that will rear their ugly heads in time. Honor your wellbeing by walking away from an unhealthy relationship sooner rather than later if your partner gives off the following red flags:
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Signs of Serious Relationship Problems
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Can a Narcissist Benefit from Psychotherapy?
<img class="alignleft wp-image-12984" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/therapy-Pixabay-tiyowprasetyo.jpg" alt="" width="237" height="307" /> Many people ask whether narcissists can change or benefit from therapy. Because narcissists see the cause of their problems as exte al due to their defenses of denial, distortion, and projection, their ability to look at themselves introspectively is limited. Thus, they don’t often come to individual therapy.
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9 Signs of a Reinca ated Soul
Often we find ourselves willing to give anything for one more meeting with a dear departed one: we long to embrace our late parents, to kiss the partner who left our side too soon, or to hear the pitter patter of a former pet running to greet us at the door. Often our wish comes true when the spirit reinca ates into a new body.
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DISCOVER YOUR TRUE AUTHENTIC SELF
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"The Golden Key to Happiness"
Several days ago we attended the Cultural Awareness Program at Mt. Madonna School where our grandson is in first grade. His grade of ten adorable students reenacted a Buddhist story from Cambodia. In this story a single mother has three grown sons. She is very conce ed that her sons do not help her or anyone else, and care only about money. She confides this conce to her beloved sister and together they come up with a plan. The mother draws her three sons together, shows them a treasure chest, and says, “When I die, you can open this chest.
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Understanding the Mind of a Narcissist
Despite having a seemingly strong personality, narcissists lack a core self. Their self-image and thinking and behavior are other-oriented in order to stabilize and validate their self-esteem and fragile, fragmented self. Poor Narcissus
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Do I have to Lose My Self to Love You? | What Is Codependency?
As codependents we lose ourselves in relationships, unaware that losing our Self is the greatest despair. When the relationship inevitably ends, it's devastating, because we are lost. We lack autonomy because that task wasn’t completed by adulthood.
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"The Gift of Helplessness"
I love being outside and physical activity to balance the counseling, workshops and writing, which I also love. I enjoy walking the dogs with Joyce, mowing the lawn, fixing things, gardening, doing anything to be outside. Some folks like to sit around when they are on vacation. Not me. Multiday river trips are my favorite vacations, as well as backpacking in the wilde ess. Of course I value stillness. Each morning, Joyce and I sit for 10-20 minutes, trying to meditate, sometimes successfully. We know it’s important work, even when our minds seem too active.
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"Finding Your Perfect Partner: 2 Key Ingredients"
Sharing your life with a loving partner is very rewarding and meaningful. Barry and I met at the age of eighteen during our first year of college. Many people our age met someone in college or in their home town during a social event and got married by the time they were twenty-two years old. That was often the norm for the sixties and early seventies. But now that is far from the norm. There are many people of all ages wishing and hoping they could meet their life partner. And hardly anyone gets married now at age twenty-two.
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HOW TO HANDLE NARCISSISTIC ABUSE
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"Separation as a Powerful Relationship Tool"
For too many people, separation is a prelude to divorce. Taking time apart from a loved one is often thought of as the end of the relationship. But after 53 years together, and helping to guide thousands of couples, Joyce and I view separation as a sometimes vital necessity in a relationship that could very well end without separation.
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REALITY ISN’T WHAT YOU THINK! HOW COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS HARM US
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The Art of Living in the Present
After my husband passed, a whirl of past and future danced in my mind. The sad movie of every memory we shared played endlessly: there he was on the night we met, the wildly handsome young man with a heavy mustache. Then we were waltzing on the dance floor of the restaurant he owned, stepping into our new home, toasting across the dinner table, and cradling our baby daughter. My heart was anywhere but in the present, oscillating between painful “what ifs” and still more painful “if onlys.” Doubt weighed down the hours.
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35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life
Words are responsible for everything we hold to be true; We believe the things we believe because someone spoke them to us. But in our day to day lives, we rarely recognize the magnitude of our speech. We tell ourselves both good and bad things every day, often without paying attention to what we’re speaking into existence. Out of habit we might say, “I’m scared,” I’m tired,” “I’m desperate,” “I’m stuck,” or “I’m not good enough.” What we don’t realize is that such phrases eventually become the truth of our lives. Because what we keep thinking, we speak. What we keep speaking, we do.
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"Be a Miracle"
Miracles happen all the time. You probably know someone who has had a miracle happen to them, or maybe a miracle has happened to you. I know a woman whose cancer tumor disappeared ove ight after she and several others stayed up all night praying. The doctors said there was no medical explanation for this. I feel it is a miracle how I met Barry at the very young age of 18, and that we have been able to be deeply in love with each other for 53 years now.
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CAN A NARCISSIST LOVE?
Anyone who’s loved a narcissist wonders, “Does he really love me?” “Does she appreciate me?” They’re torn between their love and their pain, between staying and leaving, but can’t seem to do either. Some swear they’re loved; others are convinced they’re not. It’s confusing, because sometimes they experience the caring person they love, whose company is a pleasure, only to be followed by behavior that makes them feel unimportant or inadequate. Narcissists claim to love their family and partners, but do they? How a narcissist loves
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Your Four Types of Love
Often we’re so blinded by our emotions that we can’t decipher the true purpose of a relationship. Deep attachment can force us to stay in a relationship that was meant to end a long time ago. On the other hand, our stubborn will and uncompromising ego can make us leave a person who might be our soulmate. We ask ourselves, “Why is this person in my life? Is it really meant to be?” In such confusing moments, we must turn inward for the truth.
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6 Steps to Clear Old Love Karma
If you feel stuck in your love life, unresolved karma may be to blame. Old karma is particularly effective at blocking relationships from progressing. Many people misconceive their karma for “what goes around comes around,” but this is such a narrow explanation of an elaborate, ete al principle. The truth is that we all carry karma, both good and bad. Your karma can draw its origins in your past lives, and chances are that you’ve created a bit of new karma through your current experiences, too. Karma can also be shared among people or “passed down” through generations.
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HOW TO IDENTIFY AND DEAL WITH TOXIC PARENTS
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"The 2 Parts of a Successful Relationship"
A successful relationship has two very important components: learning to love yourself first, and then learning to love another person. Too many people ignore the first part, then wonder why it’s so hard to love another. It’s like expecting to water a plant with an empty water pitcher. Or trying to put on your child’s oxygen mask when the airplane cabin pressure drops, but passing out from lack of oxygen before you can get it on.
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"The Joy of Service"
“I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.” --Rabindranath Tagore
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DEPROGRAMMING CODEPENDENT BELIEFS
<img class="alignleft wp-image-10479" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/beliefs.png" alt="Beliefs" width="400" height="265" />Codependency is based on false, dysfunctional beliefs that are learned from our parents and environment. Recovery entails changing those beliefs, the most damaging of which is that we’re not worthy of love and respect – that we’re somehow inadequate, inferior, or just not enough.
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"Can We Ever Be 'Too Much'"
At our recent retreat in Assisi, Italy, besides visiting powerful spiritual places, our group entered into an atmosphere of deep healing. Sometimes Joyce and I have the opportunity not only to lead the retreat, but also to participate in some of the exercises for our own continual healing, which is an ongoing lifetime adventure. One morning, all of us in the group revisited our childhoods to more closely examine those things that still have power over us. We did this in small groups of four persons and, when it was my turn, I revisited some physical violence from my parents.
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DENIAL OF BAD BEHAVIOR – WHAT YOU CAN DO
<img class="wp-image-10934 alignleft" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/11/Denial-CFD.png" alt="Denial" width="481" height="324" />Denial is serious. It’s a refusal to acknowledge truth or reality. It can have benefits, but denial can also be our undoing and have life-threatening consequences. It affects not only individuals. Denial in the form of "group-think" can dangerously take over families and entire groups. Organizations, sub-cultures, religious sects, and political zealots can deny abuse, addiction, racism, genocide, corruption, and criminality.
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LOVE BOMBING AND NARCISSISTIC ATTACHMENT
Getting hit by a love bomb feels glorious! The lavish attention and affection seems to answer our prayers. We’ve found Mr. or Ms. Right—our soul mate; unsuspecting that we’ve been targeted by a narcissist. The bomber abruptly changes colors and loses interest, and our dream comes crashing down.
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BEWARE OF THE DARK TRIAD
<img class="alignleft wp-image-11197" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/Dark-Triad1.png" alt="" width="356" height="322" />Think of the Dark Triad of Narcissism, Psychopathy, and Machiavellianism as the Bermuda Triangle – it’s perilous to get near it! The traits of all three often overlap and create personality profiles that are damaging and toxic, especially when it comes to intimate relationships, where we let our guard down.
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HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST
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"The Joy of a Long Love"
December 21, 2018 is our 50th wedding anniversary. We got married during a snow storm in Buffalo, New York at 7pm in the evening. The church was filled with candlelight and poinsettias. My uncle played the organ, my sister-in-law sang and the minister learned Hebrew prayers for our combined Jewish and Christian ceremony. We spoke our own vows, which at that time was unprecedented. It was the happiest day for me, after four years of loving Barry and having people tell us that a Jewish/Christian marriage just cannot work, we were actually doing it.
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9 Resolutions to Become the Best You in 2019
A funny thing happens right around this time of the year: we suddenly realize that we want to change. We want to lose weight or eat healthier, save money or give up old habits. So we set January first as the official date of change and start to seek improvement, sometimes desperately, and oftentimes in the wrong ways. Because of this, our resolutions usually dissolve quickly after the new year begins. We count on others to perform the labor of change for us: programs to help us lose weight, patches to help us quit smoking, and people to help us feel happier.
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WHY AND HOW NARCISSISTS PLAY GAMES
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"The Power of Showing Up"
“The amount we receive back within our hearts from helping is much more than the time or money that we give.”
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How to Beat Perfectionism
Perfectionism can be a blessing or a curse. It can become a painful, inescapable trap. Its self-sabotaging side effects undermine our goals and creativity and spill over onto our co-workers and loved ones, damaging our relationships. At worse, it can be dehumanizing and compromise our ability to feel love and experience joy. Fortunately, it’s possible to beat perfectionism! Learn about different types of perfectionists, from positive perfectionists to negative, and how relationships are affected... See my interview : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R1Mr0JDnl5k&feature=youtu.be
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THE TRAUMA OF CHILDREN OF ADDICTS AND ALCOHOLICS
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Why Do We Fall In Love With One Person And Not Another?
So you break up, and you want to get over that love, that ex. But is it a harsh one or is it a very necessity. Was it wrung from the start? Are you absolutely sure. Will there be hurt? All this is so, because it’s life. So, with your mind made and with both parties amicably agreed, you want to get over your love. Sounds like nothing, but it’s approaching sensible, with no harm to either of the two.
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"Lightening Up: A Very Different Kind of Spiritual Retreat"
When I think of a spiritual retreat, I imagine a lot of meditation, quiet walks, no computers or media, listening to gentle music, and withdrawing from the busyness of the world. Several weeks ago, Barry left for eight days to raft the Owyhee River in very remote Southeast Oregon. He had wanted to raft this river for a long time, and had just found out that this year the abundance of rain provided enough water for a spontaneous late spring trip. Typically, every year, Barry leaves for a week doing some kind of an adventure by himself.
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"Can Our Light be Totally Eclipsed?"
A few weeks ago, Joyce and I got to experience the total eclipse high in the mountains of Idaho, in the exact center of the “zone of totality.” It was, for us, the experience of a lifetime. In our seventy-one years of living, there have been other major eclipses, but we have never been in their direct paths. And not since the year 1257 has there been a total eclipse that has passed across the whole of what is now the United States.
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NARCISSISTS ARE CODEPENDENT, TOO
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Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
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"My Experiment in Forced Simplicity"
Sometimes we get what we ask for without knowing it. And sometimes we don’t like what we get, even though we asked for it. This is what happened to me a few days ago…
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THE POWER OF SELF-TALK
<img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-6863" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/ladder-to-success-.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="248" /> Are you aware that you talk to yourself all the time? We all do. Our self-talk makes a huge difference in our lives for better or for worse. The question to ask yourself is whether your inner voice is your friend or foe.
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NARCISSUS AND ECHO: THE HEARTBREAK OF RELATIONSHIPS WITH NARCISSISTS
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OBJECTIFYING WOMEN SHAMES EVERYONE
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5 Red Flags and Blind Spots in Dating a Narcissist | What Is Codependency?
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"Being Vulnerable with a Woman"
(An excerpt from the Vissell’s new book, To Really Love a Woman) TO BE VULNERABLE WITH A WOMAN IS TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE SEEN AND KNOWN IN YOUR ENTIRETY, not just your powerful, independent, secure, loving and capable self. Yes, you love a woman by being powerful, by protecting her from all harm, by fathering the little girl inside her, and by gently taking the lead. But without vulnerability your loving is incomplete.
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WHY ROMANCE TURNS TOXIC
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"The Divine Setup: How Our Perceptions can be Painfully Wrong"
Sometimes our perceptions can get us into trouble. What appears so clearly to be our reality may not be real at all. Or it may be partially correct, but not the whole picture. We humans have a tendency to interpret our partial experiences as the whole truth and ignore other people's partial experiences. How brave of us to actually consider that we may be partially right and may have partial information.
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Do's and Don'ts in Confronting Abuse | What Is Codependency?
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"To Really Choose a Man"
(An excerpt from the Vissell’s new book, To Really Love a Man) TO REALLY LOVE A MAN IS TO CHOOSE HIM OVER AND OVER AGAIN. It’s not enough to say marriage vows one time, though that is certainly important. The relationship is deepened if you let him know often that you would choose him all over again if given the choice.
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Getting Triggered and What You Can Do
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"One of My Greatest Vulnerabilities"
What if Joyce dies before me? This is one of my greatest vulnerabilities. Sure, I could die first. Statistically, women live longer than men. But this is not my vulnerability. My dying first brings up other feelings, like abandoning my true love, not being there to help her when she needs me. Of course I know I’ll always be there for her, just without a body. I have full faith that, in the realm of soul, I’ll be even more present for her without the distractions that are here on earth.
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How to Raise Your Self-Esteem - What Is Codependency?
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SOCIOPATH OR NARCISSIST?
<img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-4523" src= "https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/10/manson-280x300.jpg" alt="self-love, self-esteem" width="300" height="238" /> If you’re in an abusive relationship, you may wonder if your partner is a narcissist or sociopath and whether or not the relationship will improve. If so, or if you recently ended such a relationship, it can undermine your self-esteem and ability to trust yourself and others.
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"Unsuspected Heroes among Us
In 1960, I was fourteen years old and my mother was the first civil rights activist that I knew. She did not march the streets. She lived her beliefs. She had Blacks, Muslims, Gays and other minorities over to our house for dinner almost every Sunday. She treated them all with the greatest respect and honor like they were part of her family. She also spoke up loudly if anyone said anything against one of these minorities. She often coached me, “Joyce, remember every person is a child of God. It does not matter what color their skin or their religion.
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CODEPENDENCY ADDICTION: STAGES OF DISEASE AND RECOVERY
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"Feeling ALL Our Feelings"
There are popular feelings: joy, happiness, love and affection, to name a few. And then there are unpopular feelings: anger, sadness, grief, hurt, and fear, among others. Most of us tend to hide the unpopular feelings and, instead, only feel and show the popular ones. If we want integrity and wholeness in our lives, we must embrace all our feelings. Picking and choosing simply won’t work. Believe me, I’ve tried it plenty, and in a bit I’ll tell you what happened to me.
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Secrets and Lies: The Damage of Deception
<img class="alignleft wp-image-5107 size-medium" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/dishonesty-300x259.jpg" alt="Lies, Betrayal, Secrets, Deception, Adultery" width="300" height="259" /> Trust is a fragile. Secrets and lies jeopardize trust and can damage us and our relationships – sometimes irreparably.
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Relationship Killers: Anger and Resentment
<img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-5237" src="https://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/anger-management.jpg" alt="Anger management" width="207" height="166" /> Anger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re really reacting to something in our past event – often from childhood.
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"What would your sign say?"
January 21 will long be remembered as the day of the women’s marches. It is so inspiring that women from each continent participated, even Antarctica. We just watched a women’s march that took place in Israel in which Jewish and Arab women marched together. We could not read their signs but I could only imagine that they all wanted peace. There seems to have been such a feeling of joy within these marches.
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"A Closer Look at Unworthiness"
Do you ever feel unworthy to receive good things in your life? It’s not an easy question to answer. Some of you are in touch with your feelings of not deserving. Some of you are not. I dare say that feelings of unworthiness are present in most of us, although we might not be aware of them. The first step in overcoming these feelings is to become aware of them. This can’t only be a mental process. Feelings of unworthiness need to be recognized and felt, before healing can happen.
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Codependency is based on Fake Facts
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Is Your Relationship Toxic?
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Marriage after Sobriety
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"REALationship: The 7 Primary Ingredients"
Okay, it’s a cute word. But what does it mean to have a real relationship, a relationship with substance? What does it take to have a relationship that not only lasts, but also thrives with loving connection? From growing with my beloved of 52 years, Joyce, and from our work with couples for 42 years, here are our 7 primary ingredients for REALationship. Every one of our couple’s retreats includes these elements. Of course there are many more ingredients but, if you sincerely understand these basic 7, the others will come along quite naturally.
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"When our Children 'Come Out'"
Last week, Barry and I found ourselves at 10pm sitting at a special reserved table at “The Stud,” the 50-year-old first gay bar in San Francisco. First of all, there are a few things you should know about us. We are quiet country people who like to go to bed early. We never drive the ninety minutes to San Francisco unless it is to go to the airport for work travel. For the most part we do not drink alcohol or listen to loud music. Our idea of a good time is rafting a wilde ess river and camping all by ourselves in a beautiful spot along the river with our two golden retriever dogs.
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AUTHENTICITY HEALS: 6 STEPS TO BEING AUTHENTIC
Authenticity is the opposite of shame. It reveals our humanity and allows us to connect with others. Shame creates most all codependency symptoms – including hiding who we are, sacrificing our needs, and saying yes when we rather not – all to be accepted by someone else. It warps our communication and damages our relationships so that we control, patronize, criticize, blame, deny, withdraw, attack, and make empty promises to keep a relationship and reassure ourselves we’re okay even when we don’t believe it. Hiding Who You Are
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Is Your Partner Passive-aggressive?
<img class="size-medium wp-image-5803 alignleft" src="https://cdn.psychologytoday.com/sites/default/files/styles/article-inline-half/public/field_blog_entry_images/2017-06/passive-aggressive.jpg?¨ alt=" width="228" height="300" /> Passive-aggressive people act passive, but are covertly aggressive. They’re basically obstructionist, and try to block whatever it is you want. Their unconscious anger gets transferred onto you, and you become frustrated and furious. Your fury is theirs, while they may calmly ask, “Why are you getting so angry?” and blame you for the anger they’re provoking.
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5 Ways to Build Self-Esteem and Change Your Life
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"The 3 Parts of Relationship Commitment"
What does it mean to be fully committed in a monogamous relationship? The traditional meaning has to do with focusing your romantic energies only upon your partner. You are not committed if you have “one foot outside the door,” meaning you are still available for romantic relationship with another person. I use the term “roman-tic” to include sexual relationships as well. You are committed if you are sure you are with the right person, or feel there is no one else out there who can better fulfil your needs. Most people understand this definition of commitment.
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6 Best Tips for a Great Valentine's Day
Valentine’s Day creates a lot of expectations that are often unrealized. It's fraught with landmines, whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Is your situation described here? Read six tips to having a great holiday.
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The Challenge of Forgiveness
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Recovery from Rejection and Break-Ups
Because our nervous system is wired to need others, rejection is painful. Romantic rejection especially hurts. Feeling lonely and missing connection share the evolutionary purpose of survival and reproduction. Ideally, loneliness should encourage you reach out to others and maintain your relationships.
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Codependency: Effect of Self-Esteem on Relationships
<img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-3078" src="http://www.whatiscodependency.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/couple-Fromm-250x300.png" alt="couple-Fromm" width="250" height="300" /> Research has well-established the link between good self-esteem and relationship satisfaction. Self-esteem not only affects how we think about ourselves, but also how much love we’re able to receive and how we treat others, especially in intimate relationships.
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Narcissistic Relationships
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"Asking our Higher Power for Help in All Situations"
The first three steps of the twelve step program for recovery from addiction have to do with asking for help, knowing that we are powerless without help from a higher power, and trusting that this higher power can restore our lives greater than we could even imagine. I have seen these twelve steps work miracles in the lives of many people. What about people who are not struggling with addiction? I feel the twelve steps, especially the first three, can help all people.
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How to Let Go Of a Toxic Relationship - These Tips Will Reduce Your Pain
When you have recently experienced a breakup, you may feel as if you will never get over the person. Getting over someone is actually not supposed to take very long, however, most people linger in the grieving phase for much longer than they have to. There are things that you should do and should not do in order to know how to let go of a toxic relationship. This article is written to show you how to not get stuck in the place where you think that you will never get over your ex. Then you can begin to enjoy and live your life again. 1. Let It Out
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How to Get Over A Breakup Quickly – The Best 10 Ways
The vast amount of literature on getting over a break up with your loved one and learning to live without that relationship is mostly not useful, either because it's full of nonsense or because it simply doesn't work. If you want to get over a breakup quickly, then follow the 10 steps listed below. Step 1. Kill all hope As long as you think there is hope of going back and somehow renewing the relationship, you will be unable to recover from this one. Therefore, the first step to get over a breakup quickly is to kill all hope of reconstructing the relationship.
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How to Know When You Should Breakup - You Must Know These 6 Signs
Life is strange. Sometimes you fall in love with the most terrible person. Other times, the nicest person on the planet steals your heart, but something just doesn’t seem right. It seems crazy to look for reasons to break up with someone that you’re still in love with. If you love them, wouldn’t you want to be together? Maybe, or maybe not. After all, relationships end for reasons other than cheating and betrayal. Even though the love is clearly present, it may be worthwhile knowing how to know when you should break up.
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***To Really Trust a Woman
To really love a woman is to give her your complete trust. I love the line in Bryan Adams’ song, “… and when you find yourself lying helpless in her arms, you know you really love a woman.” To lay helpless in her arms, you need to give up control and be vulnerable. You need to trust that she will not intentionally hurt you, that she is looking out for your well-being, fully on your side, and watching your back. Even more importantly, you can trust in a higher power expressing through your beloved, an abundance of love and caring that can come through her.
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What is Narcissistic Abuse?
Narcissists don’t really love themselves. Actually, they’re driven by shame. It’s the idealized image of themselves, which they convince themselves they embody, that they admire. But deep down, narcissists feel the gap between the façade they show the world and their shame-based self. They work hard to avoid feeling that shame. This gap is true for other codependents, as well, but a narcissist uses defense mechanisms that are destructive to relationships and cause pain and damage to their loved ones’ self-esteem.
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"To Really Trust a Woman"
rn(Excerpt from the Vissell’s not-yet published book, To Really Love a Woman)
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When to Let Go Of a Relationship - Know These Before It Will Too Late!
Sometimes no matter how hard a couple tries, it is just impossible to keep a relationship together. Today it has become more important to make a relationship work. For one reason or another, it has become so difficult to let go and move on when the time comes. Great partners usually don’t want to hurt the others feelings and think that sticking in there may better in the long run. This is simply not the case. The truth of the matter is that some relationships should be ended for the best interest of both parties. Sure, it is difficult.
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How to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend When You Still Love Her - Amazing 5 Tips
Having trouble forgetting your ex? Do you miss the way that they smiled at you? How they smelled? The way their hands felt in your hands? Do you think you see them on the street when really it’s a stranger? Do you still hear certain songs that reminds you of them? When is a big part of your life, it’s hard to get over them in such a short time.
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Trauma and Codependency
You can make significant strides in overcoming codependency by developing new attitudes, skills, and behavior. But deeper recovery may involve healing trauma, usually that began in childhood. Trauma can be emotional, physical, or environmental, and can range from experiencing a fire to emotional neglect. Childhood events had a greater impact on you then than they would today, because you didn’t have coping skills that an adult would have.
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"Angels on the Road"
Barry: If we only knew how many times we are rescued by divine intervention, we would completely trust this higher power. There would then be nothing to worry about – ever! Joyce and I had yet another powerful reminder of this truth – and divine miracle – last week.
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“Love, Serve, and Remember”
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Sons of Narcissistic Fathers
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BREAKUP RECOVERY
Breakups can be severely painful. Love stimulates such powerful and pleasurable neuro-chemicals that rejection can feel like withdrawal from a drug. It can compel us to engage in obsessive thinking and compulsive behavior, even in animals. Rejection and breakups are especially hard for codependents, who generally already have low self-esteem.
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Codependency, Addiction, and Emptiness
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"The Blessing of Differences"
Our son got married a few days ago to Isaiah, the man of his dreams. Hardly ever in our work with couples have we seen such depth in love, respect and commitment. Whoever feels that only a man and a woman can truly love each other, has not witnessed the kind of deep love that Isaiah and our son, John-Nuri, have had for each other for the past four years. Love truly can take on many forms.
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"The Cosmic Mass: Risking to Follow Inner Promptings"
“Our minds map out a neat, perfect little road for life and we hate to have it changed in any way. Yet that perfect little road may completely by-pass our goal of God-realization.” –Barry and Joyce Vissell, The Shared Heart
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"The Courage to Ask For Help"
I have to admit. I have a hard time asking for help. I have that “false pride” thing about being able to do it myself, that if I have to ask for help, it means I’m helpless. It makes me think about the two year old who proclaims, “I can do it myself!” And now that I’m on the other side of the life spectrum, at age seventy, it means even more to me to be able to still do things by myself. A recent weekend brought all of this into the light.
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STEPS TO BE EMPOWERED AND NOT A VICTIM
In recovery circles, being a “victim” is frowned upon. Decades ago, when I heard people say they were no longer a victim, I had no idea what they meant. Actually, a victim is an individual who has been fooled, hurt, or harmed, due to his or her own emotions or ignorance, an unfortunate event, or the actions of someone who deceived, cheated, injured, or killed him or her.
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10 Habits that Lower Self-Esteem and Cause Depression
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"Don't Cry Because It's Over. Smile Because It Happened."
Those nine words by Ted Geisel (Dr.Seuss), one of our country’s favorite storytellers, contain so much wisdom. They apply to many different aspects of life, but I would like to focus on the area of relationships. Most of us are going to have relationships end at some point in our lives, whether they are marriages, partners, friends, relatives or any other type of relationship. People leave, or die, and it hurts. What to do with the hurt?
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Envy, Jealousy, and Shame
Envy, jealousy, and shame are inextricably intertwined. Envy and jealousy are primal emotions that frequently overlap. They’re commonly first felt in the form of sibling rivalry and oedipal longings. A child innately wants mommy and daddy all to him or herself and feels “excluded” from the marital bond, especially if there have been parenting deficits that have led to shame and emotional abandonment. Typically, young children of heterosexual parents see their same-sex parent as a rival for their opposite parent’s love and feel both envious and jealous of their same-sex parent.
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10 Reasons Why Boundaries Don’t Work
Has setting limits not worked? Despite your efforts, are your boundaries often ignored? It's frustrating, but it's not always the other person’s fault. Here's why and what to do.
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Dealing with a Passive-Aggressive Partner
Passive-aggressive people act passive, but express aggression covertly. They're basically obstructionist, and try to block whatever it is you want. Their unconscious anger gets transferred onto you, and you become frustrated and furious. Your fury is theirs, while they may calmly ask, “Why are you getting so angry?” and blame you for the anger they’re provoking.
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Self-Forgiveness - Is Your Guilt True or False?
We all experience guilt from time to time. But many of us have a hard time letting go of it and find it difficult to forgive ourselves, even though we may readily forgive others. First of all, it's important to recognize whether our guilt is true or false. Just because we feel guilty, that doesn’t mean we are. Feelings aren’t facts. And even if our guilt is “true”–that we’ve morally transgressed, we’re still worthy and capable of forgiveness.
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The Biggest Cause of Anxiety
Anxiety is apprehension of experiencing fear in the future. The danger feared isn’t imminent and may not even be known or realistic. In contrast, fear is an emotional and physical reaction to a present, known threat. Anxiety is typically characterized by obsessive worry and an inability to concentrate that may affect our sleep.
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Narcissism, Trump-isms, and Realism: The Narcissist's Illusion of Grandiosity
Donald Trump has grown an empire of wealth and power, but is it enough? He admits that it isn’t the money that motivates him. (The Art of the Deal, 1987) What drives narcissists are their fears of feeling weak, vulnerable, or inferior. Consequently, for male narcissists in particular, achieving power is their highest value – at any cost. Trump is “certain about what he wants and sets out to get it, no holds barred.” (Trump on Trump)
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Is Your Guilt True or False?
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Dysthymia (Chronic Depression) and Codependency
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How Do You Know If It’s Time To Break Up?
Relationships don’t always go the way we want. Things may start to get rocky despite the few months or years of being in a honeymoon phase. There comes a moment when it’s just time to go between you and your partner. So how do you know if it’s time to break up? There are several good reasons to know when it’s time to pack your bags and get out of your current relationship. Trust Issues Trust is a vital aspect of a healthy relationship. Both partners must share a common bond and entrust each other with their commitments and priorities.
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Signs That Your Ex Has Moved On - Top 5 Signs You Aren't Aware Of
Are you having trouble facing the fact that your ex has probably moved on? Are you still thinking about him or her? Then you may want to read this article and its list of signs that your ex has moved on. Stop wondering and guessing; find out now if they are over you and not willing to get back together. 1. They Are in a New Relationship - This one seems pretty straightforward, but many people have the most trouble with this obvious sign. If your ex is dating multiple people or seems happy with just one new person, then they have moved on.
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How to get Out of Emotionally Abusive Relationships - Don't Miss These Tips
Men who abuse others take care to always appear strong and in control. However, if one looks at them closely, one can see that this is a lie. They are not stronger than others; they are not in control of their lives. Sometimes men become abusive towards those they claim to love because they feel as though they have lost control over their own lives. So they seek to control those around them because this is easier to do than it is to face and fix the problems they face.
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How to Feel Better After a Breakup - People Who Don't Regret Know These Tips
So you broke up. This is always painful, even if you are the one to initiate the breakup. Even if there is a good reason (or many) for you two not to be together anymore, it is never an easy thing to work through the aftermath. There will be stages of grieving the relationship, but there are some things that you can do to make the whole process much easier and quicker. Read on to find out some great tips for the best ways of how to feel better after a breakup. 1. Watch Communication -
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The Dark Side of Loneliness
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PARENTING AFTER DIVORCE
Children intuitively know that there are problems in a marriage, sometimes despite their parents' best efforts to hide them. They may even believe divorce is a welcome relief from their parents' hot or cold war. However, they do not share their parents' need to separate, but on the contrary, need both parents. They in fact go through the same reactions as parents, such as denial, reconciliation fantasies, anxiety, difficulty concentrating, depression, boredom, irritability, intense sorrow, low self-esteem, and feelings of helplessness.
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SEX AS MEDITATION
All the times you’re disinterested in sex or just too tired, consider this: Sex doesn’t have to be about orgasm. Wrote Thoreau, “We need pray for no higher heaven than the pure senses can furnish, a purely sensuous life.” (The Writings of Henry David Thoreau, 1906). Yes, through lovemaking, as in meditation, you can experience spiritual heights, healing, and self-esteem. If you don’t have time to meditate, have sex instead. It’s about sensation, whether you want ecstatic meditation or more pleasurable sex.
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Soul Mates and Unconditional Love
Are you searching for a soul mate or unconditional love? Your quest can set you on an impossible journey to find an ideal partner. The problem is often twofold: No human being, nor any relationship can ever achieve perfection, and often unconditional and conditional love are confused.
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BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM, SELF-RESPONSIBILITY, AND SELF-EFFICACY
Self-responsibility both reflects and generates self-esteem. People with high self-esteem feel that they are in charge of their lives. They have a sense of agency and self-efficacy. They take responsibility for their feelings, actions, and lives. It also means that you take responsibility for the consequences of your choices and behaviors, both positive and negative outcomes, rather than blame yourself or others. It requires a desire to review and learn from your mistakes in order to seek solutions and improvement.r
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How to Get Over a Guy You See Everyday - 5 Strategic Steps You Don't Know
So you loved someone from the bottom of your heart, but he didn’t care about it. Or maybe you just got a devastating breakup. Either situation sucks, doesn’t it? However, do you know that it isn’t end of the world? There is a high possibility that you will find someone better than that guy. Moreover he will appreciate you for what you do for him. So here are the ways to get over a guy you see everyday. Step 1) Stop sleeping with him -
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How to Forget Someone Who Doesn’t Love You – Save Yourself With These 5 Tips
If someone loves you then they do. If they don’t then they don’t. That’s it. However, it is utterly painful to forget someone who doesn’t love you. It’s hard to see that your LOVE is not returning the feelings to you. I was in the same situation. I felt a lot for her but she always returned me trashes. It hurt a lot. And I made the situation worst by pushing her to love be back. And it didn’t work. If someone doesn’t have any feeling for you, it is hard to make them love you at all. Moreover, if that person loves someone else then it is truly hard to make them love you.
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How to Forget Your Ex Girlfriend Who Cheated On You
As a man, one of the hardest things to do is to get over a girl who has cheated on you. Remember that she was the one who cheated on you and dumped you for somebody else. It hurts your ego to a great extent. Some guys call and text their exes in such a way to make them regret about their wrong doings. However, you can’t make your ex girlfriend regret cheating on you. She did so because she was already moving on from the relationship with you. She had already made her mind not to stay with you any longer. Therefore, she cheated on you.
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How to Handle Breakups – 5 Tips You Don’t Know
Everyone knows that dealing with breakups is always hard. There is not so good advice on how to handle breakups on media. Therefore, most people handle breakups in a wrong way and they suffer that much. Anyway, if you are struggling to handle a breakup, follow these tips. You will feel better thereafter. 1) Accepting their opinion is nonsense – Do you feel bad because your ex called you dumb, fool or ugly? It doesn’t make any sense that you believe on someone who doesn’t like you?
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Time to Get Over A Breakup – How Long does It Take?
Just got a breakup? There is no problem when you know how to recover from a breakup quickly. In this article, you will get some of the best tips on breakups. These will help you to get over a broken heart in almost no time. Getting over a breakup won’t take that much long time. So follow these tips. 1) Fix uncertainty about breakup – When a person gets news about death of someone, they usually accept the death in no time. And they soon realize the fact that they can’t have that person back.
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Depression and Women
Last year, a study reported that despite the improvement in women's lives, their happiness relative to men has declined since the '70s, when the reverse was true. This held true across racial and socio-economic lines in several industrialized countries. Women's happiness also declines with age. In contrast, men' happiness has increased and increases with age.
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Self-Esteem: Why It Matters
Most women suffer from lack of self-confidence, even despite greater job and educational opportunities than ever before. Lack of self-esteem starts as early as nine years old for girls and steadily worsens in adolescence, even if they excel in school.
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Women's Self-Esteem For Stress Reduction, Balance, and Autonomy
In working with women for decades, I've found that self-esteem is the common denominator of many women's issues. With better self-esteem, women are more able to find balance, handle stress, and claim their autonomy.
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SELF-CRITICISM - SELF-ESTEEM'S SABOTEUR
Women are notorious at finding fault with themselves. A Dove study last year found that over 40 percent of women are unhappy with their looks, and over two-thirds suffer low confidence about their bodies. Many blamed the airbrushed, ideal models for setting unrealistic, unattainable standards. Our societal attitudes are a major cause.
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CAESAREAN BiRTHS - ARE WOMEN TOLD THE TRUTH?
Caesarian sections in the U.S. hit a record high for the eleventh year in a row - averaging about one-third of births nationally, up from 26 percent in 2002 and 5 percent in 1970. The rate is 36 percent in New York (45 percent at Albany Medical Center) and 39 percent in Florida (50 percent in Miami Dade County).
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Are You Codependent?
Do you wonder if you are Codependent? Do you regularly sacrifice your opinions, needs or wants, and then feel resentful? Do you feel guilty saying no and resentful when you don’t? Are you controlled by, or try to control someone else, whom your thoughts and feelings revolve around, as in the Barry Manilow song, “I’m glad when you’re glad, sad when you’re sad?” Are you afraid of speaking up? Resentment, guilt, control, and fear are the hallmarks of codependency, a term once used only to describe the enabler of an alcoholic is now more generally applied to unhealthy dependency.
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The Stages of Divorce
Divorce ranks just above death in severity of stress and is often combined with other stressors, such as marital discord, serious financial problems, a move, single parenting, multiple losses and litigation, all at once. It's a life cycle crisis that presents a crucial period of increased vulnerability and heightened potential. With consciousness, the process can be edifying. Although not easy, it's extremely rewarding, because, in the long run you feel better and learn from the experience, so you don't have to repeat the same mistakes.
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DIVORCE: A TRANSFORMATION PROCESS
The emotional unbonding that can occur during divorce is the cornerstone for transformation and is my focus. The task of emotional separation involves unbonding romantic and dependent aspects of the relationship, and mou ing. This is the stage where growth and transformation unfold. It includes disengagement of games, role definitions, and family expectations, and understanding why you selected your partner, why you stayed, and the "dance" you do over and over that doesn't work.
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RECOVERY IN THE TWELVE STEPS - A SPIRITUAL TRANSFORMATION
Many mental health professionals do not understand the 12-Step recovery process, unless they have participated in a 12-Step program. Although they may encourage their clients to do so, they may feel perplexed or intimated, or act patronizing. Often, therapists don’t realize that the 12-Steps are not merely an antidote for addiction, but are guidelines for nothing less than a total personality transformation.
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LOSSES OF DIVORCE: LETTING GO and MOVING ON
Even if you wanted the divorce, it entails loss. Aside from the ending of the relationship with your spouse, you may be losing your home, time with your children, in-laws, extended family, and even friends. There are inevitable financial losses, loneliness, a change of lifestyle, imagined losses of what might have been, and of memories of what once was. It may involve a move to a different city, a change of jobs or schools, or a homemaker entering the work force for the first time.
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PARENTING GUIDELINES AFTER DIVORCE
1. Tell your children the truth, with simple explanations. Tell them where the other parent is. 2. Don’t bring up grievances or speaking derogatorily about the other parent to or in front of your children. 3. Don't discuss financial, legal or other disputes with your children. 4. Don’t say things that might discourage your children from spending time with the other parent. 5. Don’t pressure them to take sides. 6. Don’t argue, fight, or make threats in the presence of your children.
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He Loves You But Won't Commit? Try This...
Ever feel frustrated that loving a man andnnbeing together in a relationships ends up beingnna whole lot more "work" than it should be? If so, then you should know that it doesn'tnnhave to be this way. Having a loving and lasting relationshipnnwith a man can be as easy for you as ...
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Fixing It When You've Been Too Emotional
I'd like to share an e-mail I received recently from a nreader of my e-book, "Catch Him & Keep Him." She asked me a question about her relationshipnthat I think many women can relate to. Here it is:nn>>>>Question: Hey Christian, how are you? I purchased a copy of your ebook yesterday! ...
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Finding Out How Interested He Is...And Why
Do you know how to tell if a man is interested in you...and why? In this article you're going to learn how. But first, I want to share something interesting I've noticed over the last several years studying and observing how men and women interact... It's that when lots of women start liking ...
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The Choice Is Yours
"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification" Romans 14:19 Real change begins with you! There’s never been a truer statement. If you want change in your relationships, start with you. You are the only one you have total control over. Many of our ...
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The Choice Is Yours
"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification" Romans 14:19 Real change begins with you! There’s never been a truer statement. If you want change in your relationships, start with you. You are the only one you have total control over. Many of our ...
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The Smart Dating Process
Why do so many smart people date so badly? Because while we all study reading, writing, and arithmetic, there are no classes for dating and relationships. Now a lot of people pay a lot of money and spend a lot of time on the sofa of their psychotherapists when the use of some common sense could ...
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Birthparent Loss and Grief
In the last decade, there has been a growing acceptance that a loss occurs for birth parents when adoption takes place. In the past, the emphasis in the adoption process has largely been on the reception of the child into the adoptive family rather than the reciprocal loss of the baby for the ...
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When To Break Up
Relationships often begin quite simply. There is a meeting. Then Attraction. Perhaps friendship or passion comes next. And then...next thing you know you have found yourself in a full-fledged relationship. Or perhaps you pushed for the dating to mean something. To have a title. And you forced ...
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Anorexia and Bulimia: Signs and Symptoms
Eating Disorders are a Coping Mechanism: Eating disorders develop for a reason. They do not appear out of the blue. The reason may not be apparent initially though as many youth keep their conce s to themselves and don't share their self-doubt, fears and worries. Eating disorders develop as ...
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Can Your Relationships Make You Sick? Part deux
“I can’t help losing my temper, everyone in my family is that way, deal with it!” “You’ve tried everything under the sun, but you’re still fat!” “I hate when you do that, you make me sick!” “I’m just sick and tired of your ...
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Top 7 Super Foods that make you think before you eat for healthier Relations
Scientists all over the world have been searching for some sort of evidence that certain foods – most of which you already know; while some will be new – contain protective properties and can help ward off cancer, diabetes and other diseases. To give you a sound base idea and send ...
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How To Get Past A Devastating Breakup
Ten Things To Do After A Breakup To Get On With Your Life: 1. Know that grieving someone and missing them does not necessarily mean you want them. It means you hurt because you've had a loss. Perhaps that loss is the best thing but it's still a loss. Don't mistake grief for love. It's ...
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Designing Relationships For Trust
People yearn for relationships they can trust. They want to be able to depend on people. They want relationships characterized by ease, clarity and harmonious cooperation. The hallmark of an enlightened partnership is intentional design. Great relationships don't just happen, mediocre ones do. ...
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How To Make Your Own Photo Book
Do you have lots of photos on your computer, uploaded from your digital camera? If you don't know how to sort them out, there is a great solution for you: Photo Book. Today, with using offers from various sites for making a photo book, you can create your photo book, whether is it about wedding, birth occasion of a child, birthday party or any other function.
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3 SECRETS OF THE HAPPY FAMILY HOLIDAY
Pressured to take a family holiday, but dreading the prospect of close proximity? So many times when the family is thrown together the little niggling problems from normal family life seem to loom larger and louder. Guilt can so easily move into the deckchair along with you as you search for an ...
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Way To A Woman's Heart
My personal search for meaningful relationships began with the quest for romance. Romance implied closeness or sharing, as well as intimacy. This closeness as in "true friendship" seemed to have priority over all other values when seeking the right romantic short- or long-term encounters. Humor ...
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Missing An Ex? Get Your Ex Back By Playing It Cool!
Did your ex recently walk out on you? Are you feeling stunned and broken-hearted? If you are you most likely want to try and get your ex back. Unfortunately most of us go about it the wrong way. We totally lose our cool and start doing crazy things. We do things born of desperation and not ...
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Sex is one of the most beautiful gifts God created
Sex is one of the most beautiful gifts God created. It is a holy performance. It brings the husband and wife together as one flesh. (Genesis 2:24.) That union is holy towards God; He willed it so. Sex brings a husband and wife closer to each other physically, mentally and spiritually. The ...
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Sex Without Romance or Romance Without Sex?
Are you happy with your relationship right now? Why? Is it because of the romance? Or because of the sex?I'm sure it's not because of that! Lovers won't be happy with sex alone and won't be satisfied with romance alone. We become happy when we achieve both sex with romance and romance with ...
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Wings of Love
Do you still remember when people find pen friends through sending air mails here and there? In today's trend that way of finding friend or even finding a love has been replaced with a very easy and accessible way. Online dating has covered it already. You can now simply look for friends ...
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Long and Lasting Love at Online Dating
Who would refuse to have a long and lasting love? I'm sure nobody will! It is because everybody wants to create a long and lasting love that they will cherish for the rest of their lives. Most people begins a relationship with somebody in online dating world easily but have a hard time ...
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Online Dating: Answer of Thirsty Heart
Internet has widely spread its spiel in today's heart needs. Your longing thirsty heart will now come to an end. With the help of a simple pc, internet connection and the eage ess to build a good relationship, you can now say goodbye of being single. Reaching the other side of the world is ...
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How to Say No to an Online Partner
Being a relationship counselor who works mostly with international couples and families, I frequently communicate with couples who met online. When two people are separated with huge distance, they have to develop their relationship by using all possible modern means of communication - telephones, chats, forums, networking websites, etc. But they cannot meet and see each other the same way as we do in the real life. What are the distinctive features of online communication versus the real life romantic communication?
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The Law Of Attraction & Relationships
"There is an inner awareness that a soul mate exists. So, then, begins the divine search." ~ Unknown Applying the law of attraction to any area of your life is always an exciting experience. But finding your true love is an especially wonderful adventure filled with joy, hope, passion and love. But before we start manifesting Mr. or Ms.
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Prayer Power
I have had writer’s block for almost two months now. Today, was the final deadline for the article, I was asked to submit to Rivaaj. I was feeling the pressure of the situation until I was asked to do a critical incidence debriefing (a fancy word for helping ...
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I Will Be Patient And Wait
Many of you have come to me with questions about a person that you have been in a relationship with and mysteriously he or she pulled away. Men often pull away from a relationship when they are having personal challenges. Men are socialized to be "performance oriented". If they feel they are ...
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Some of the Most Romantic Dates are Free
Some of the Most Romantic Dates are Free Jetting off to a foreign land with the one you love or eating in a fancy French restaurant while violins serenade you tableside is very romantic. Can you afford this? Even if you can you may be missing out on some of the most romantic dates that can ...
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I Am A Good Catch So Why Am I Still Single?
You have done everything right; you finished at the top of your college class, you are advancing in your dream career at an unprecedented rate. You have purchased a beautiful home and you are active in church and community activities. You regularly exercise and are in excellent physical ...
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Manage Your Love Life Like You Manage Your 401k
If one day you notice that the stocks in your 401k portfolio are slightly falling, what do you do? A wise investor keeps an eye on the stock market. The investor doesn’t pull dump that particular market at the first sign of trouble, however there is trouble and then there is ...
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BarackObama.com Is Web 2.0 At Its Best
Regardless of your political affiliation or belief, model your website after Democratic presidential candidate Barack Obama's website and I bet you'll see a significant increase in visitors to your website which cannot help but lead to an increase in clients and sales. Before I share why ...
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Relationship Problems - Are Domestic and Parental Responsibilities Key Issues for Most Couples?
One of the relationship problems that is probably the most common has to do with domestic and parental responsibilities. These days there tends to be a belief that things have changed a lot and that it is not like it used to be, and that men are more involved in these activities This may be ...
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Sex Relationship Advice-Contrary To Accepted Opinion Sexual Needs Of Men And Women Are Not Different
The area of sex relationship advice is one where there are many aspects to cover. Perhaps a good place to start would be to say it is a good idea, when getting involved in a relationship, not to rush into the sexual side of things. Very often what happens is that men want to get involved ...
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Signs of an Abusive Relationship - Difficult to Describe
There are many signs of an abusive relationship I will be highlighting here. Before I go into the signs of an abusive relationship I want to make a point I think is very important. Often these days we hear that abuse in relationships is just as likely to be perpetrated by women as much as men. ...
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Mentally Abusive Relationships - A Classic Example of Brainwashing Being Used As A Dominating Tactic
Mentally abusive relationships are very common. In fact there would be people in these types of relationships, on either side, who may not even be aware their relationship could be classified this way. This kind of relationship could also be placed in the emotionally abusive relationships ...
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Relationship Compatibility Questions - Crucial Qustions When Considering A Committed Relationship
Relationship compatibility questions are one of the most important questions couples need to ask when they are considering establishing a committed relationship. Before proceeding, let us look at what compatible means. It means being able to exist together without conflict. It means for two ...
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Master Slave Relationship - Is It Going Too Far To Say Many Relationships Are Like This?
So many marriages and relationships fit into the master slave relationship category! Has that got your attention? Perhaps it has, but you are probably thinking, what the heck is this idiot on about, that is an outrageous thing to say. It may seem that way to you, but I’m going to spell ...
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Trust In Relationships - Is This A Requirement For The Success of a Marriage or Relationship?
Trust in relationships could be considered one of the essential requirements for the success of a good marriage or relationship. It is essential for a healthy relationship. Trust is absolutely pivotal in order for a relationship to work. Where there is no trust, it effects the relationship in ...
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Signs Of A Committed Relationship - How To Have A Fuller, Richer And More Satisfying Life.
Signs of a committed relationship are obvious when you are wholeheartedly dedicated to your partnership, and plan to maintain it on an ongoing basis. Your commitment is displayed in unmistakable ways that acts as a model for all those who wish to follow in your footsteps. When one is aware of ...
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Relationship Communication Problems - The Crisis In Male-Female Conversation Crying Out For Attention
Relationship communication problems are very common. There are a number of ways we can look at what these basic relationship problems are all about. One of the first things to say is it seems men are primarily responsible for the issues associated with marital and relationship problems to do ...
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Relationship Communication Problems-The Crisis in Male-Female Conversation Crying Out For Attention
Relationship communication problems are very common relationship problems. There are a number of ways we can look at what these basic relationship problems are all about. One of the first things to say is it seems men are primarily responsible for the issues associated with marital and ...
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Tips For A Good Relationship
In sharing tips for a good relationship with you, my plan is to give you a number of ideas that can make all the difference to improving your experience of life. I am aware of how easy it is for any of us to drift through life and miss out on the opportunity to be having a great experience, and ...
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Tips For A Good Relationship - How To Have A Fuller, Richer And More Satisfying Life.
In sharing tips for a good relationship with you, my plan is to give you a number of ideas that can make all the difference to improving your experience of life. I am aware of how easy it is for any of us to drift through life and miss out on the opportunity to be having a great experience, and ...
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Teen Abusive Relationships - How To Understand And Solve This Huge Problem In Our Communities
Teen abusive relationships is another one of the areas of abusive relationships that is part of the huge issue of relationship problems. There are so many overall aspects of this issue to take into consideration. To get some idea of what I am referring to it may be helpful to touch on some of ...
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Women In Abusive Relationships - The Issue In Plague Proportions That Hardly Ever Gets Mentioned
Women in abusive relationships is a scourge that is a plague throughout the world. Before I proceed I need to comment on the widely held belief that abounds today that abuse in relationships is as likely to be perpetrated by women as it is by men. My comment is - poppycock. In other words, ...
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Controlling Relationship - It Is Imporatnt To Realize This Is An Abusive Relationship
A controlling relationship can have a huge impact on your life. It can limit you in so many ways and you end up feeling stressed, unhappy, and depressed. It is important to emphasize this type of relationship comes into the category of an abusive relationship. This needs to be stated as there ...
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Abusive Relationship Statistics - Not A True Reflection Of The Broadness And Extent Of The Problem
Abusive relationship statistics is an area needing much more attention in order for us to get an accurate picture of the reality of the situation. Whenever statistics are mentioned this is usually referring to the narrow end of the spectrum. It only refers to physical abuse, and only what is ...
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Building A Healthy Relationship - How To Have a Richer, Fuller, More Satisfying Life Experience
Building a healthy relationship is such a worthy goal to have. So many people simply drift through life and the experience of their relationship suffers as a consequence. They can be like two strangers living together, simply going through the motions of daily activity, without any real ...
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The Ups & Downs of Being Single
The single life has its ups and downs and being single could either be the most exciting part of a person’s life, or the loneliest part of life for someone. On one hand, you are free to date who you want and could potentially have fun doing so. Unfortunately, this time for some is not exciting as people feel lonely and yearn for that special love. Some folks are alone by choice while others are single by circumstance. Delve a little deeper into the fun and not so fun side of being single. What is the fun side of being single?
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Working On Your Relationship Alone
As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. It also takes two to make a couple. It takes two to make a relationship and, it follows, two to work on that relationship. But what happens when one person in a relationship doesn’t want to do the work—especially if that work means going to couples counseling? First, it’s important to make sure your mate really doesn’t want to go.
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Why communication skills don’t always work and what does.
Couples come into my office saying they don’t know how to communicate. They often escalate into a full-blown argument or end up shutting down and pulling away from each other. The assumption is that if they could learn to communicate well during arguments, they wouldn’t end up hurting each other or pushing each other away. This is a common assumption shared by relationship experts and magazine articles.
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Couples, How to Stop Verbal Abuse in its Tracks
Frustration and anger can lead to mean-spirited, disrespectful communication. We sometimes reach the breaking point and say hurtful or belittling comments, often while raising our voice. For example, Sarah is watching TV with her husband Erik. A commercial for a fast food company comes on and she picks up the remote and mutes it. “Hey!” Erik yells. “Why the hell did you do that! I was watching it!” “Oh, sorry,” Sarah says, turning the sound back on. “Well, it’s too late now!” he rages. “I missed it. You know that I’ve been wanting a hamburger all day.” Sarah stares at him, shocked.
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7 Tips to Honor Your Boundaries
1. Begin by becoming aware of your boundaries. Take notice of your feelings. They are your inner messengers, your inner guidance system. When a boundary is crossed, there is a definite physiological response. If someone’s comments or actions make you uncomfortable, notice how you react physically. Do you take a sharp breath in? Does your face redden? Does your throat tighten? Do you begin to feel cold and tremble? Note what the person is doing or saying that is giving you this reaction.
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Letting Go of A Relationship
Letting go of a relationship can be a very difficult task especially if you are the heartbroken. You are probably hurt and confused? You probably have a million questions because the person who did this to you has really hurt you, and inside you thought that they were the one and it would last forever. Don't Fret. Below are a couple of ways to help you move on. MOU YOUR RELATIONSHIP
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How to Maintain Love & Happiness in Your Relationship
I want to be happy. Do you want to be happy? I don’t know about you, but whether you are single, in a relationship, or married, wouldn’t you like to be happy? I know it is cliché to say, but one way to be happy is to be happy with YOU first! Yes, psychiatrists and psychologists know exactly what they are talking about when it comes to this and those extra dollars you are paying, is not for nothing…lol.
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How to End a Relationship in the New Age
Breaking up is hard to do. Sometimes! This article is about how to end a relationship in which you are romantically involved. .
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Contemplating An Affair?
Have you been contemplating having an affair? Not getting your needs met with your current partner? Chances are you are feeling ignored, not desired, not listened to, taken for granted, or not important. Perhaps you are craving a combination of these elements? Typically both men and women who contemplate an affair have longed for these cravings, and typically for some time.
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Romancing Your Lover
What happen to those days where you would bat those luscious eyes or lick your lips just to grab his attention? Gentlemen, what about you? When was the last time you wrote that little love note expressing your deepest feelings for her? Perhaps even bought the little gift or flowers to show her you were thinking of her? Romance has died in your relationship and this essay will help you kick it back into gear. Well of course you need to want it; but first you need to actually do something about it!
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Enchance Your Sensuality
SENSUALITY! Do you have an idea of what sensuality entails, or what it means? Everyone has that smirk on their face, contemplating their last sexually fulfilled experience. Wait, that may be partially true. However, are you sensual outside of the sexual realm? Are you confusion now? Yes, sexual should definitely include and even enhance the sensual realm! Though sensual needs to be clearly defined and examined and I will break it down into two parts: 1) emotional and 2) physical
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Sexual Intent
Sexual Intent How's everyone doing? Seriously, how are you really doing? How often to you ignore problems in the bedroom, or in your relationship? Well, typically if there are problems in one area, it affects the other. How many women feel like they are just a "piece of meat" in the bedroom? Wait, some women love to feel this way! LOL For those who do not; what are you doing about it? Ultimately this will kill your desire and sex drive all together.
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Fantasy Land to Reality: Explore Before Living Together!
A prior radio show episode centered on breaking through down fantasies, then jumping at the realities of moving in together. In a nut shell, most people begin wildly in love, constantly desiring one another; life is easy and flowing along. The next step of course is to move in with one another, or plan a wedding. Hell, we’ll do both! I’m going to cover some key ingredients to wake you up before making this decision so you’re chances of a great relationship, are increased. Get your big person pants on!r
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What Your Relationship Is Teaching Your Kids
Look deeply into your relationship. Is it the kind that you would want for your kids when they receive adulthood? This question gets asked of my new clients frequently. They looked puzzled at first then expressions rnof shame and guilt spawn across their faces. As you might imagine, their answer to the question is a somber “No..”
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Getting Back Together With Your Ex
The first step in making it work again with an ex is to remember and understand the reasons behind your break up in the first place. If you decide to make it work again with your ex, the question would then be if you could get past the reason for the initial break up. Once you’ve made up your mind that you want to get back with your ex, you then need to take the necessary steps of understanding, fixing, trusting, forgiving and healing your relationship/marriage. Understand What Happenedr
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Types of Cheating in a Marriage or Relationship
According to Dictionary.com, the definition of cheating is to deceive, defraud and elude. In a marriage or a relationship you verbally agree legally, or not so legally, that you are going to be committed to each other. When a person proceeds to be deceptive about his/her actions against the person they are committed to, it raises a red flag within the marriage or relationship. There are many types of cheating. However, we will discuss three types of cheating in a marriage or relationship.
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CHEATING: How to Deal With Infidelity?
Are you married or in a relationship and suspect your mate of infidelity? Are your suspicions and accusatory behavior tearing your relationship apart? First, let us identify 20 signs of a cheating mate: 1. Your mate no longer wants sex or makes excuses to not have sex with you. 2. You just have a gut feeling that something is not right. But, do not be obsessive about it as you can actually drive them to cheat. 3. They begin to put distance between you or show a lack of interest in the things you used to do together.
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5 Surefire Ways to Get Relationship Help
So you have been in a relationship with your significant other for a while now. Things at first seemed great; the two of you got along and had lots of fun together. But now it seems as though you two have hit a bump in the road and you have to decide what to do next. There are several avenues you could choose to go down when dealing with relationship problems. Which path you choose is entirely up to you and each could give your relationship the help it needs. 1) Going alone
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If Affection is Emotional Nutrition - How Hungry Are You?
On a scale of 1 – 10, how emotionally fulfilled do you feel in your relationships? Like everything else in our lives, the first port of call for our personal wellbeing has to be with ourselves. So, how do we affectionately nurture ourselves? To be emotionally content and happy within ourselves, the first requirement for us to know is that we are absolutely, a good person. We all have regrets for past, not so good decisions; some of us carry guilt for things we wish we had done differently, but it’s time to take stock and do a reality check on who WE really are as a person in th
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Relationship Advice for Men: 10 Things Woman Hate About You
1. Being too domineering. Without a doubt, a woman likes to be with a man who has ability to make her feel safe. But that does not mean every decision is made by the man. Relationships are a series of decisions that don’t happen in a vacuum. Everyone wins when decisions are made based on mutual needs and compromises. Relationships are democracies, not dictatorships. 2. Indecisive. Women hate it when a man waffles. Make decisions whether they are right or wrong. Be confident and show leadership. 3. Lack of romance.
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Why Is It So Difficult For Some Men To Stay Monogamous
When it comes to relationships, one of the more sticky issues, and one for which many people seek relationship advice, is men who have problems staying monogamous. Now to be fair, it is sometimes an issue with the other side of the equation too. But that is another article for another day. Here we will be discussing men and monogamy and ways in which they can go about solving this issue.
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When The Man In Your Life Has Behaviors You Hate, What Should You Do About It?
Why do some relationships last a lifetime and others fail because of problems? You just let the problem go on and it will eventually go away by itself right? WRONG. The answer is that some people realize that a problem exists and rather than hope against hope that it will go away by itself, they get relationship help and advice from trained professionals.
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These Male Behaviors Cause Relationship Problems
How many times have you been irritated by your boyfriend's or husband's behavior and you thought the best way to help the relationship problem situation and make the behavior go away was for you to somehow either ignore it or try to internalize it in such a way that it doesn't bother you anymore. After all, many experts will tell you that the only behavior you can truly change is your behavior. True, but what about the other side of the coin? If only you take ownership of his behavior, how or why should he change if he's not feeling any of the pain that you are?
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The ESTEEM Principle - Steps to Feel Better About Yourself and Your Life.
My ESTEEM Principle is designed so that women are able to look at their lives from a different perspective, shifting paradigms and ultimately creating the life they really want. Building self-esteem is one of the keys to walking through the fear of inadequacy and paves the way to become powerful beyond measure. Here is the break down of the ESTEEM Principle.
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5 Tips to Get Motivated!
What gets you motivated? There is always something that can get you going. One of my favorite ways to get Motivated and that I love to do as we approach the end of the year is to reflect on what I have accomplished during the year. 1. Acknowledge what you have done. Frequently while I am in the midst of a project, situation or just living life everyday I am not able to recognize all the “good stuff” I have done. I have learned over the years that the more I take time to acknowledge what I have done the better I feel about myself and it Motivates me.
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Are You Balanced? Three Questions to Ask Yourself!
The other day I was talking about how Triangles are the strongest geometric shape in the world. Its shape is very simple: a flat base with two sides that come together at the top to meet at a point. They are rigid, able to stand freely, and able to support their own weight.
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The ESTEEM Principle - Steps to Become Powerful Beyond Measure
My ESTEEM Principle is designed so that women are able to look at their lives from a different perspective, shifting paradigms and ultimately creating the life they really want. Building self-esteem is one of the keys to walking through the fear of inadequacy and paves the way to become powerful beyond measure. Here is the break out of the ESTEEM Principle.
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Envision Goals
What are our goals? The dictionary defines goals as - (noun) something that somebody wants to achieve. When setting goals, set what I call SMART goals: • Specific • Measurable • Authentic • Resonate • Thrilling If you start to Envision Goals that are SMART, your life will change. Let me give you an example of a SMART goal, which happens to be my own personal goal. “I will release 15 pounds enabling me to fit more comfortably in my clothes, look better, and feel better by Jan.
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Strengthen Values
Strengthen Values. Synonyms for the word “values” are; principles, standards, morals, ethics, ideals… just to name a few. These are the qualities that DEFINE US AT THE CORE OF OUR BEING. Without these things YOU would not be YOU. It’s useful to know what your values are because they help you make choices about what you commit to in your life as well as what you commit your life to. If you commit your life and energy to something that really violates or even neglects one of your core values, you may start to feel resentful and frustrated.
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The ESTEEM Principle - Steps to Become Powerful Beyond Measure
My ESTEEM Principle is designed so that women are able to look at their lives from a different perspective, shifting paradigms and ultimately creating the life they really want. Building self-esteem is one of the keys to walking through the fear of inadequacy and paves the way to become powerful beyond measure. Here is the break out of the ESTEEM Principle.
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Telltale Signs You Have Relationship Problems
For some people, knowing they are in a bad relationship is as plain as day. One the other hand, some folks choose to live in denial about it, hoping against hope for a better tomorrow. One that – in reality – they know is not going to happen. And then there are yet others, who truly don’t know or aren’t sure if they are in a bad one. This article will focus on the second and third categories and let you know some of the signs that you need to look out for. You’re Spending Less And Less Time Togetherr
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How to Rekindle Your Relationship When the Fireworks Have Fizzled
Remember when your heart simply soared at the sight of your lover? What has happened to those wonderful feelings? Have the fireworks fizzled? The stresses of building careers, raising families, paying bills, meeting commitments leave little time for relationships. Each person in a commited ...
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Morality and Responsibility
Children who are brought up in families who teach virtues and strong moral values become confused when they enter other environments that teach moral relativism. This starts to confuse children on the rules of life. Something that is taught to be right and wrong at home becomes acceptable other ...
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How Do You Express Love?
We all want to feel love; we want to give it and we want to get it. But, what happens if we don’t feel it? In order to have a healthy, loving relationship we need to recognize that our partner may have a different description of love than we do. What does love mean to you? Your partner? How ...We all want to feel love; we want to give it and we want to get it. But, what happens if we don’t feel it?
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Relationship Advice Today, Better Relationship Tomorrow
There are many times when you consult a professional. If you are sick, you see a doctor. If a pipe bursts in your house, you call a plumber. When your car breaks down, you take it to a mechanic. So why would you hesitate to seek professional relationship advice in one of the most important areas of your life- your relationships? Seeking a professional opinion when you have a relationship problem is the best thing you can do for yourself and for your loved one. You wouldn’t ignore a sore throat or a flat tire, so why ignore a broken relationship?
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Why Men Won’t Ask for Directions
Why will he not stop and ask for directions? Because he is a man. The main reason men do not like asking for directions is because they have a strong belief that they can “do it on their own.” If they are lost, they will be able to find their own way out, on their own, without needing help from ...Why will he not stop and ask for directions? Because he is a man.
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The Truth About Relationship Counseling
It's been a long time coming but I think it's finally time that I make a stand about couples counseling. If people are telling couples that their problems will be over when they discover the source of their conflict and eliminate it -- I believe they are wrong. I'm not sure exactly what ...
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Can Involving a 3rd Party Really Help a Deteriorating Relationship?
Everyone experiences ups and downs in relationships. It is normal for there to be rough patches and little problems in every relationship. Most people manage to get through them by talking it through with their partner (or family member, friend, etc.) and coming to a solution. Sometimes the problems sort of solve themselves. However, when a problem becomes chronic, that is a sign that you may need to get relationship help from a 3rd party such as a relationship therapist. The first step to getting relationship helpr
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Need relationship help? You now have options.
Are you struggling in a hurtful relationship and unable to make decisions yourself? Is your girlfriend, boyfriend, or significant other doing things that you just don't understand? Are you having trouble connecting with your teenager? Would you like to get relationship help and seek out the advice of professionals and see what an outside perspective tells you?
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Quick Tips On How To Build Your Trust In Your Relationship
It is very important to show your partner that you are trust-worthy....and here are some quick tips. 1. Follow through with what you say. If you tell your partner that you will be home by 8:00, come home no later than 8:00pm. If you are going to be late, call them and let them know ahead of time. 2. Don't be unrealistic. Avoid saying that you will "Always" have your cell phone on or you will "Never" turn your phone off. This is unrealistic. Sometimes your phone will die or you might forget it or you might not hear it ring.
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Do Women Over-Generalize? Always & Never
Men and women sometimes use the same words but with different meanings. Women have a tendency to over-generalize statements, using words like ALWAYS and NEVER. Women sometimes say to men, “You ALWAYS do this,” or “You NEVER do that.” The use of these words is not meant to be taken literally, ...Men and women sometimes use the same words but with different meanings.
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Jealousy - Who’s Got The Problem?
Starting from when we’re little, we are seeking assurance that we “measure up”. We need to know that we are good enough, acceptable, likeable, clever, attractive so that we can feel worthwhile. If we don’t get these assurances as we grow up, we are sitting ducks for the green-eyed monster to ...
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Affirmations For Quitting Alcohol Abuse
Affirmationsn1. I have the STRENGTH to face and conquer alcohol. I AM STRONG! 2. I am fighting to get my life back. I HAVE COURAGE! 3. I REFUSE TO LIVE A LIE. ALCOHOL IS A LIE. I LIVE ONLY TRUTH! 4. I REFUSE to be dragged down by alcohol ever again. I retain my own power. I WILL NOT BE ABUSED OR ...
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Couple Economics
DON’T LET THE ECONOMY MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP “SUB-PRIME” Rhonda Audia – the “Guru for Two” Your dream house has become a nightmare. Because of great interest rates and an adjustable mortgage, you were able to get everything you’ve always wanted in a ...
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Men Are Like Waffles
Why is it so hard to figure out the opposite sex? Because our brains work differently. Men’s brains are really good at focusing completely on just one thought and women’s brains are really good at thinking many thoughts at the same time. This difference can make it hard to figure out what each ...Why is it so hard to figure out the opposite sex? Because our brains work differently.
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Going To Bed Angry: Another View
Many people have heard of the advice to never go to bed angry. This relationship advice has such a great value. It addresses the idea of how couples may feel if going to bed angry, such as feeling emotionally disconnected and unattached, or fear of having unresolved issues getting in the way. This advice is absolutely a great and valuable tool for staying connected and securely attached to your partner. Think about it…going to bed angry in the relationship can create a terrible feeling; it can keep people up all night, have terrible sleep, or many other painful experiences.
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Irrational Approaches To Relationships In Schools
Public schools do not utilize a system to help students define and evaluate acceptable behavior, so students do not have a way to develop and evaluate good and bad behavior. They are made aware when they break rules. Having rules without outlining positive behavioral expectations only reinforces ...
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The Depender - Neglector
You grew up in a home where very little was expected from you. You were not given responsibilities to help you develop as a child and teenager. Let’s face it, you were a “mamma’s boy” or “daddy’s girl”. Don’t get me wrong, parents that want to spoil their kids have great intentions. If your ...
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The Possessor - Dominator
He brings you candy and flowers and wants to spend all of his time with you. You find him flattering when he becomes upset when you go out with friends and family without him. He wants constant reassuring that your devotion is to him and nobody else. He begins to monitor your phone calls, ...
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The Nurturer - Sabotager
You love your partner very much. You want to please him at all costs. You will go out of your way to create the perfect life for him by reducing or eliminating all of his stress and pressures of life. What can be wrong with helping people and ensuring that peace and harmony exists wherever ...
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Repairing Relationships In Schools
Public schools do not utilize a system to help students define and evaluate acceptable behavior, so students do not have a way to develop and evaluate good and bad behavior. They are made aware when they break rules. Having rules without outlining positive behavioral expectations only reinforces ...
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The Body and Soul Connection
Many adults who have suffered hurts throughout their lives will never hear the words, “I’m sorry”, from those who have hurt them. Those significant persons in your life who have hurt you without atoning for their actions makes this more difficult to overcome. In order to regain a perspective ...Many adults who have suffered hurts throughout their lives will never hear the words, “I’m sorry”, from those who have hurt them. Those significant persons in your life who have hurt you without atoning for their actions makes this more difficult to overcome.
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All Work and No Dating? Find Time to Find a Relationship
You love your new job and you are working 60 hours a week. After work, you head to the gym for an hour of exercise, and then drag yourself home to fix dinner, spend time with the kids and sleep. You spend your weekends doing laundry, grocery shopping, arranging play dates for the kids and maybe ...You love your new job and you are working 60 hours a week. After work, you head to the gym for an hour of exercise, and then drag yourself home to fix dinner, spend time with the kids and sleep.
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Where Did the Romance Go? How to Rekindle “Date Night”
She loved it when he used to send her flowers and take her out dancing. Their dates made her feel special. Somehow though, their dates gradually changed from a night out with dinner and dancing to staying home with take-out food and movie rentals. Soon, they did not even go out for the videos, ...She loved it when he used to send her flowers and take her out dancing. Their dates made her feel special. Somehow though, their dates gradually changed from a night out with dinner and dancing to staying home with take-out food and movie rentals.
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Office Romance: Worth the Risk?
She regularly sees her handsome coworker at the coffee pot. In fact, she has started drinking more coffee just to increase her chances of an encounter. He occasionally sees her in meetings and tries not to stare. They both know there is a spark between them, but they have been trying to act ...She regularly sees her handsome coworker at the coffee pot. In fact, she has started drinking more coffee just to increase her chances of an encounter. He occasionally sees her in meetings and tries not to stare.
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Stop the Defensive Behaviors and Start Communicating
Defensive behavior is one of the leading causes of on-going painful conflicts within a relationship, the type which can lead to long term damage. Defensive behavior sends the message to your partner that their experiences and ideas are wrong, and that you are in the right. However, as you may have seen, in these situations, a well meaning defense can quickly turn into a battle where each side is unwilling to give in. The Communication Battle Attack: History is full of those moments when a true defense was necessary.
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Is He Your Knight in Shining Armor?
Most men want to be the “Knight in Shining Armor.” When the Knight arrives to save the “Damsel in Distress,” he expects that he will have to work hard. To win the affection of the Damsel, the Knight knows he must be brave, work hard and slay the dragon. He is willing to put forth this effort ...Most men want to be the “Knight in Shining Armor.” When the Knight arrives to save the “Damsel in Distress,” he expects that he will have to work hard. To win the affection of the Damsel, the Knight knows he must be brave, work hard and slay the dragon.
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Who is the “Keeper” of your Relationship?
Have you ever wondered why women spend so much time talking about relationships, while men seem to rarely give it a thought? Often, it is the woman that is considered the “keeper or caretakers of the relationship. This happens naturally because women generally measure their own self-worth based ...Have you ever wondered why women spend so much time talking about relationships, while men seem to rarely give it a thought?
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Strengthening your Relationship: Improve Communication
Ask any happy couple what keeps things strong between them, and you’ll more than likely hear that communication is the foundation of a successful relationship. You wouldn’t try to drive a car without filling the gas tank, and you shouldn’t attempt to nurture a relationship not built upon honest, open communication. For example, take a couple that feels very much in love with one another: they spend time together every chance they get, they take classes together in school, they may even work in the same area of employment--sounds ideal, doesn’t it?
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Personal Boundaries, What Are They?
When Robert Frost said, “Good fences make good neighbors,” he was on to something. Our ability to relate to others in a healthy way depends on our awareness of not stepping aggressively into their territory—physical and psychological—and not letting them step into ours. Boundaries are protective limits that prevent abuse and unwanted liberties. They serve well to express who we are and work best when they’re based on respect for ourselves and others. We need both exte al and internal boundaries to function well with the people in our lives without resentment and with integrity.
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Is Your Relationship Progressing?
Everyone’s goal in a relationship is to be in a happy. However, men and women may view their happiness differently. As women become comfortable in a new relationship, they tend to want to move up to the next level as soon as possible. If she is happy at the present level, she believes she will ...Everyone’s goal in a relationship is to be in a happy. However, men and women may view their happiness differently. As women become comfortable in a new relationship, they tend to want to move up to the next level as soon as possible.
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After The Affair: Learning How To Trust Your Partner Again
Rebuilding trust requires the involvement of both participants in the relationship. Initially, the person who shattered the trust will need to work hard to build the trust back. Showing remorse, being consistent, and understanding their partner's pain are all very important in building trust. The unfaithful participant will need to teach their partner that they can be a trustworthy and an emotionally safe person. The partner who was deceived, on the other hand, will also need to do some work to build the trust.
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Make Every Day Valentine's Day
Valentine’s Day should be every day in dating and relationships. Though it is nice that a day is set aside to celebrate love for someone, February 14 should not be the only day. As the song by the late Teena Marie says ‘365 is a year’ and that’s how much you should love your dear.
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Dating and Relationships: The First Impression
One cannot begin dating or form a relationship with someone without first meeting them. First impressions are important. Though everyone may not remember the first time they met someone they remember the first and last impression that person made. So how should men conduct themselves, no matter what the setting, when meeting a woman for the first time? What I mean by no matter what the setting is that most of us don’t meet with dating and relationships in mind. We usually meet because of circumstances like work, school, social functions or just shopping.
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First Date Advice For Women
Women the ball is always in your court when it comes to dating and relationships especially on the first date. You don’t have to date anyone that you don’t want. You don’t have to go anywhere that you don’t want. The more up front you are with the man before going out with him, the easier the first date will be. Some women do not ask men out. They think that by doing this they are being too forward. There is nothing wrong with asking a man out. Just make sure that he knows it is on your terms.
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Advice for Men: Religion, Dating and Realtionships
Religion is a factor in dating and relationships. The degree in which you and your partner practice religion will have an affect on the entire relationship. So will your religious beliefs. It is always nice to have a relationship with God. When you let him be your guide life becomes much easier. It is also nice when you meet a woman who has a relationship with God especially when she has the same beliefs as you. No matter what denomination you are the main thing is not to have religion, but a relationship with God.
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Dating Advice for Women: Religion and Relationships
Though not all women have a relationship with God those who do are much more open to worshiping him than men. In churches everywhere one is more likely to see women moved by the spirit of God more then men. And when it comes to relationships women are more likely to look for a man who has a relationship with God. If you are lucky, you will meet one. Maybe you will meet him at church. Maybe you will meet him on the job. Or maybe you won’t meet him at all.
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Learn to Fight "Smart"
Couples have "dumb" fights when they don't have a clue about what they are really fighting about. Fights about stuff like buying the wrong bagels, bedroom frustration, and clothes strewn on the floor are really about someone feeling neglected, ignored, or misunderstood. When we feel devalued or deserted by our partner, we have an internal alarm that screams, "We got a problem here! Danger! Not good!" Your emotional mind can abruptly shift from "blissed" to "pissed."
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Dating and Relationships: Woman Be Yourself
Women, be the person that you are in dating and relationships. Don’t be like someone you are not. Don’t change for the sake of a man. Just like boys try to emulate men that they think are cool girls do the same with women. I have five sisters so think I have a little experience with this. Growing up they admired singers and actresses just as we admired ball players and musicians.
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Dating and Relationships: Be Yourself Man
Men, be you when it comes to dating and relationships. Don’t change who you are for anyone. It’ll eventually make you and the woman unhappy. Often, people try to emulate those that they are not. We see someone on television or in the movies that seems cool to us and try to incorporate some of their traits. Especially if those traits exhibited make them stand out. That’s why many celebrities are considered role models. They play a role, on and off the screen that others want to emulate.
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Men: Treat Her Like A Lady
Men, we’ve heard this before when it comes to dating and relationships. But the truth is in order to gain a women’s love you’ve got to treat her like a lady. Doing this is not very hard. It simply means being nice to her. You can still be the ‘macho’, manly man and treat her like a lady. I’ve seen the toughest of men open doors for women, help them with their coat, write or text love notes to them or simply say ‘I love you.’ It takes a lot less effort to be nice to someone in dating and relationships than to be mean to them.
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Women: Let Him Be A Man
The one thing that I hear from men when it comes to dating and relationships is that their wives, girlfriends or fiancé’s will not let them be a man. Women won’t let them have time to hang out with friends, go to sporting events or pursue hobbies. They won’t give men time to themselves. The balance between being themselves and doing what’s right by the women is one of man’s biggest obstacles in keeping a relationship strong. This is something that women must know. Men want you to give them the chance to be men.
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Seeking Help For A Dying Relationship
I learned the hard way that when I need advice on relationship matters, my circle of friends is not the place to seek that out. My marriage began to become a bit shaky after the first few years, and instead of asking the advice of a trained professional, I listened to my girlfriends. Doing so almost ruined what was basically a good marriage.
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Movies Can Make Domestic Violence Look Glamorous To Teens
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Alcoholism: Disease Or Spiritual Crisis?
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How Important Is The Teen Peer Group?
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Mental Health Issues Melt Away With Yoga
Anxiety and depression can both take the zest out of your life. If you've been on medication, worked on your nutrition, and tried everything else from mental health diets to pet therapy, you may want to give yoga a try. Yoga has been around for centuries and there are many benefits to doing this activity. Yoga stretches and strengthens the body. It purports to build up your body's “prana” or life force. And yoga also endeavors to get your breathing under control, which can help you with all kinds of mental health issues.
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The best reason for Recharging your Life comes from Oliver Wendell Holmes, one of our eminent Supreme Court Justices. He said “Most people go to their graves with their music still inside them.” When I first read this quote I actually got the shivers because it frightened me. I didn’t want to leave all my music inside. I felt that there were parts of me that I had suppressed, neglected, squelched, things that I still wanted to do but wasn’t doing. This sense of time being limited confronts all of us when we enter the second half of life.
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The Truth Will Set You Free
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Life Stress: 52 Tips for Coping Emotionally in Uncertain Economic Times
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Ladies, Which of the Three Types of Single Are You?
Let me guess, if you had a dime for every time a random guy asked "Why is a pretty girl like you single?" you could buy yourself a lot more than a Happy Meal. (Filet mignon, anyone?) Indeed, there are typically a plethora of explanations women could offer these poor saps who are just trying to make friendly conversation...or well, you know. (Perhaps, "because of guys like you," is a response that enters more than a few minds!)
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Relationship Mistakes - How a Woman Can Ruin Her Most Ideal Relationship
Women make relationship mistakes too; after reading this article, you'll no longer be able to pretend that it's all your soon-to-be-ex boyfriend's fault. Let me guess- you had some great times together-just you and him against the world. He soon became your first thought in the morning and your last before you went to sleep. Hell, your father even liked him. In your wildest dreams, you'd never imagine that your most ideal relationship would have such a short shelf life.
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Ending a Relationship - Help For When You'd Rather Stay
There is no doubt about it, break ups are painful for all parties involved. Whether you plan to rip it off like a band-aid or plant the seed and treat it like a process, ending a relationship is no easy task. Often, the challenges facing the person initiating a break up are grossly underestimated. Friends and family are likely to be more supportive when their loved ones get "dumped," showing less empathy and conce when they cut the ties.
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What's Your Dharma? What's Your Purpose?
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“Karma” is what we do every day - it's really another word for “action.” An action (I drink a cup of coffee), creates a memory (I liked that cup of coffee), which creates a desire (I want another cup of coffee) which creates an action and starts the cycle all over again! To break out of our ...
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People resist intimacy primarily because they are hurt and afraid. To whatever degree you find yourself pulling away from your partner, resisting having one or buffering yourself from really being close with someone is the degree to which you are caught in a cycle of hurt and fear followed by all of the strange ways of being that we use as responses to that hurt and fear.
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Last night I figured I would watch a video so through Netflix I picked an old Japanese movie Oneida. Liking old Japanese movies and not knowing Japanese I just launched into it not knowing what it was about. Turns out it was about two Japanese women killing a lost Samurai to sell their gear to buy rice. The title meant Demon Woman. Watching this movie right before bed really did a job on my sleep.
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Don't Look Down!
The fastest way to end up completely, totally miserable is to feel bad about feeling bad. Everyone feels bad sometimes, sometimes really bad. That’s life. Things happen, everything from stubbing your toe to someone dear to us dying. But if you decide that it is bad that you are feeling bad you are on a slippery slope downwards. Why? Because now you have twice as much bad: you have the bad you originally felt about whatever happened and the bad about feeling bad. Twice as much bad! Which quickly turns into three times as much bad because you feel bad about all that bad!!
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Let’s face it, most people don’t love their jobs. Enjoying your work is critical to being happy because, like most people, you probably spend half or even most of your day working. You may wonder what you can do about it. You may feel resigned about it. And...you may love your job and simply want to know how you could love it even more. Here’s how: 1. Do what you love for work. For some people this may mean taking a radical step and switching careers. For others it doesn’t. But, thinking this radically may be necessary because we spend so much time working.
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In my past relationships I was often so frustrated with my partner she never seemed to want to do things the way I wanted to do them, she always wanted things to go her way - have you ever experienced that? Oh my, the pain, the anguish; in the end I gave up and just did it all her way, well no ...
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This Blog is to commend a guy who, having listened to our free stuff, realised why his 15 year marriage was simply not working and why she wanted to quit! You know when you have an 'AHA' moment, one of those moments when the penny drops, well this was a massive one for this guy and one many many ...
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What’s More Important Your Woman Or Your Work?
Lots of men ask me the question above and it’s a great question for men. It’s said and I agree, men are only able to focus on one thing at a time, often leaving themselves with the classic dilemma thinking it’s all either black or white. What works massively well for me is to plan my work day ...
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A year ago I was standing on a train, waiting for it to leave the station. It was the fast train from London to Watford and it was packed as it was during the rush hour. There were a few minutes to go before it was due to leave and the guard made an announcement. He said that there was a fault ...
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I want you to imagine you live in New York amongst some of the tallest buildings on the planet. One day you are walking along a street and your girlfriend/wife asks you to express your undying love for them. She tells you what she expects you to do to demonstrate that love, explaining it’s all ...
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If The Woman Holds The ‘Power’
We see this, day in and day out, if the woman holds the ‘Power’ in the relationship, no matter how subtly, the relationship is likely to fail.n n Nicki and I both live with passion in our lives and share it in abundance with each other. Our belief is that this is possible for everyone. So if ...
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A True Story - How The Shocking Truth Saved A Marriage
Chris Young finally phoned Nicki Vee as a last ditch attempt to save her 25 year marriage. She wondered whether the 'Ultimate, Intimate Relationship Weekend' at the 'Happy House', that she had heard about, could be the thing that could put it right. Nothing else had worked. She described her ...
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How to Build Trust in Your Relationship
Even though most newlyweds live together, they still need to work on building trust in their marriage. Trust, after all, is the glue that holds couples together – even when they face great challenges. Without trust, couples might be more likely to split in times of crises, fail at getting intimate, and have doubts about each other. Couples who trust each other have security and probably feel closer. Here are some ways newlyweds can build trust: 1. Be truthful.r
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People fall in and out of love every day. For those who are in the midst of it, it does not feel like an every day experience. It feels as if the earth is out of orbit, or the sky is no longer blue. Relationships too often end in bitterness and accusations. We are capable of loving without regret, yet we allow ourselves to wallow in regret and if-only. Here are some tips on how to love without regret. Step 1 I want to define love before we begin these steps. Love is action. The actions of love are kindness, compromise, respect,r
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The Rubber Band Man
The Rubber Band Man \ Is he taking a time out or is this a sign about your future? \ By John Gray, author of Men are from Mars Women are from Venus \ Just days ago your favorite Martian was holding you in his arms telling you how special you are and how much he loves you and now three days have gone ... The
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How are you dealing with your feelings about the war?
In these trying and troubled times, it can be difficult to get the feelings of “impending doom” out of your head. War, terrorism, the bad economy, you read about it in the newspaper, see headlines on the internet, and watch the war coverage on TV. It’s natural with this level of exposure to ...In these trying and
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Get Inspired with 10 Powerful John Gray Quotes
John Gray helps men and women understand, respect and appreciate their differences in both personal and professional relationships. John’s books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages. His groundbreaking book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, was the best-selling book of the 1990s. It laun
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Book Review: Love
This book is about love. What it is and what it isn't. It is about you--and about everybody who has ever reached out to touch the heart of another. Among many other lessons of the heart, Leo Buscaglia reminds us: Love is open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself.
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Book Review - Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child
Are you outwardly successful but inwardly do you feel like a big kid? Do you aspire to be a loving parent but all too often “lose it” in hurtful ways? Do you crave intimacy but sometimes wonder if it’s worth the struggle? Or are you plagued by constant vague feelings of anxiety or depression? \ If any of thi
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What Men Need...no if, ands or buts!
According to the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, men and women have very different primary needs. Men need appreciation, acceptance, and trust. Without these three things in a relationship, there are often countless communication problems. If you want to understand your Martian ...According to the book Me
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Get Inspired with 10 Powerful Dr. Ruth Quotes
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The Best Valentine's Gift to Give Your Loved One and/or Yourself
Flowers, candy, massages and gourmet dinners are all wonderful things to do for your loved one – or for yourself if you are single – on Valentine’s Day. However, the appreciation of those things or the enjoyment of them will only last for a little while. Then the effect and good feelings will fade. What will remain u
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Painful Relationship? Here's Pain Relief
Dear Reader, your almost-to-be ex-partner has treated you badly. You have been neglected, unappreciated, rejected, not communicated with. You may have been cheated on. You have been unsupported. You have been abandoned. You have been reacted to badly over and over again. You have been forced into agreeing to and doing
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Holiday Fun for Singles
Are you dreading the holidays because you are single? For those who are alone, this can be a difficult season -- especially if you know what it is like to be in a relationship during this time of year. This can, however, be your best time of the year if you follow this plan: 1. Participate in Lots of Holiday Gathering
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How to Stop Fighting in Your Relationship
Is fighting a problem in your relationship or marriage? Fighting is a very serious problem for many couples. The good news is that I am about to help you solve it permanently. First you have to understanding that you should not fight at all, with anyone. I don’t mean you should not disagree with others or your signi
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How to Deal with Heartache and Other Difficult Emotions
We experience emotional pain as physical pain, as has been discovered by recent research. This means that when you are experiencing heartache, your heart actually does hurt – well, perhaps not your heart, but something in your body does hurt and badly. You knew this already, because when you feel heartache or anxiety
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Can You Change Your Relationship Partner?
We as a society hold two popular views about relationship partners forcing change on each other. One view is that people do not change, and we should learn to accept one another as we are. But another very deep-rooted, albeit privately held, view is that we can change each other in a relationship. I think this sense
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Easy Resolutions
New Year's Eve is the traditional time to make resolutions for the upcoming year. Most resolutions are about something we really, really want. Even if you are not the type who makes New Year's resolutions, notice that somewhere, quietly, in the back of your mind, you are probably making one anyway. The problem with res
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Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 4
Finally, after all of the hard work you have done completing your past, here is a way to break your relationship pattern. Relationship choices are often based on patterns created in our childhood. These patterns are automatic and subliminal. We believe ours is the way relationships ought to be. There is no problem h
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Breaking Your Relationship Pattern, Part 1
When you were little, you looked up to your parents. You imitated their mannerisms, words, and actions as you learned about life by watching them. This applies to relationships as well - you leaned about relationships by watching them. Not all you learned about relationships came from your parents; your learning has c
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