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ARTArticleTired of feeling jealous? Here's what to do.You know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce.
When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house.
Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe while you’re struggling to make ends meet.
Ah, jealousy.
The Green Eyed Monster that consumes us, when what we should really be doing is focusing on our own divorce recovery.ARTArticleTired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it!Psssst, wanna know a little divorce secret?
Your daily divorce drama is an illusion.
Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head up high, and to be like Teflon, but during divorce nobody bothers to dig deeper into why you feel like crap, and how you can use that reasoning for getting unstuck.ARTArticleTired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it!Psssst, wanna know a little divorce secret?
Your daily divorce drama is an illusion.
Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head up high, and to be like Teflon, but during divorce nobody bothers to dig deeper into why you feel like crap, and how you can use that reasoning for getting unstuck.ARTArticleTired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it!Psssst, wanna know a little divorce secret?
Your daily divorce drama is an illusion.
Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head up high, and to be like Teflon, but during divorce nobody bothers to dig deeper into why you feel like crap, and how you can use that reasoning for getting unstuck.ARTArticleTired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it!Psssst, wanna know a little divorce secret?
Your daily divorce drama is an illusion.
Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head up high, and to be like Teflon, but during divorce nobody bothers to dig deeper into why you feel like crap, and how you can use that reasoning for getting unstuck.ARTArticleTired of your divorce drama? Here's how to ditch it!Psssst, wanna know a little divorce secret?
Your daily divorce drama is an illusion.
Sure, to you, it can feel all too real, but the fact is we get stuck in the drama mud because we have never been been taugt how to break ourselves away from it. People love to tell you to hold your head up high, and to be like Teflon, but during divorce nobody bothers to dig deeper into why you feel like crap, and how you can use that reasoning for getting unstuck.ARTArticleTop 3 Reasons Why Men Become InsecureWe all have insecurities of some sort but when it takes a toll on our relationships, it becomes burdensome.
You may have finally met the man of your dreams but it seems you cannot put your fingers on.
It turns out he is always defensive or sensitive and has answers or excuses for everything you suggest you both do. He may also lie to you about some things, thinking that if you know, he will let his ego down. This may end up affecting your relationship.
This is a sign that his insecurities are more dominant than you know. Here are top three reasons why men are insecure:rARTArticleTop Reasons Why Single Women Get Hurt EasilyIt's so easy to become gullible with words without paying close attention to the actions in the words uttered. This usually happens when a woman has been alone (without a date) for a while.ARTArticleTried of the divorce insanity? Here's how to escape it!At this point in your divorce journey, you may have already done some research. You may have already talked to a lawyer. You may have already gone on some support forums to see if others have experienced the same crap that you are feeling right now. Some of what others on the forums, or what some in your support group say may make you feel better, and that’s great. But many times, that’s just a one-time feel-good solution that you soon forget the next time some BS comes your way.ARTArticleTrue Love—How Can You Tell?Romance novels, movies, and fairytales glorify love at first sight, which rarely leads to a fulfilling marriage, because it is usually based on fantasy.
Yes, there are exceptions, but Anna’s experience is more common.
In Hebrew, “the word for love — ahavah — includes the Aramaic word hav, which means ‘Give!’ (And the initial letter alef makes it mean, ‘I will give.’) Loving . . . is not so much receiving, as giving of oneself, and making sacrifices for others.” [1]
ANNA'S STORYARTArticleUnleash Your Warrior Goddess With Class and ReslienceSince the early days of civilizatio
Greek, Roman and Mayan Goddesses instinctively understood a "Woman Code". One ofrnempowerment, resilience, inner strength and class.
In today's competitive and stressful society it is all too easy to fall prey to feeling unheard and voiceless, overwhelmed and invisible.
Many seek attention by posting frequently to social media or becoming drama kings and queens in an attempt to validate themselves in unproductive and pejorative ways.ARTArticleWarning! Bad Boys may be dangerous to your emotional health!(Note: Bad Boys is a metaphor for toxic partners. Just flip the pronoun to female depending on your relationship).
Bad Boys are everywhere. The corporate office, the gym, your neighborhood, a charity gala or the backyard bbq. Before they end up in your heart and in your bed, it will be in your best interest to “spot” them early, assess whether they can be tamed or toss them to the wind!
The reason why Bad Boys are dangerous for you is because they often have a counterfeit heart.
The say the right words to swoon you, behave the right way to entice you but their goals arerARTArticleWhat good surprises are there with divorce?Divorce gets a bad rap. While the process of ending a marriage can definitely shake up your life in all aspects—from the financial to the emotional—there are many unexpected good lessons that divorce in later-life have in store for us.
There is a whole new side to you that you never knew existed
Ending a marriage can be traumatizing. For years we defined ourselves as spouses, partners, and always as part of a unit.ARTArticleWhat Is The #1 Real Tool To Stop Procrastinating?I am reading for the second time this wonderful best selling book from Napoleon Hill published in 1937 and entitled: “Think and Grow Rich.” (the book is available at Cheap’Shop, the Act2be.com online store of ONLY self-improvement materials). In the chapter 8 of this original version, Napoleon Hill talks about the mastery of PROCRASTINATION and he said: “Accurate analysis of over 25,000 men and women who had experienced failure disclosed the fact that LACK OF DECISION was near the head of the list of the 30 major causes of FAILURE.ARTArticleWhat Makes You The Biggest Loser?I was watching the NBC show last night called “The biggest Loser” and that’s how I got inspired by this new topic: “What Makes You The Biggest Loser?” What actually fascinated me a lot was not only the high expectations the trainers Jillian Michaels and Bob Harper had for their teams but also how demanding they were with their teams to have results. After only couple of weeks, people already lost 20 lbs, 30 lbs, even 40 lbs. Matter of fact, one has lost more than 11 lbs last week.ARTArticleWhat the Heck is Wrong with You?What the Heck is Wrong with You?ARTArticleWhat's Really Going on When We Fall in Love"Lovers are those for whom no minute is like any other, people between whom nothing habitual takes place, just what is new, unprecedented, unexpected. In such connections there exists an almost unbearable happiness. When we understand our lives correctly, we can slowly grow into such happiness by preparing ourselves for it. When we love, we must not forget that we are beginners, bunglers of life, apprentices in love. We must learn love and that takes calm, patience, and composure."ARTArticleWhat's Wrong with Saying "No Problem?"Saying "thank you" is gracious. These are two words we all like to hear. How do you respond to someone who thanks you? This common replay makes me cringe: "No Problem!"
"No problem." "No worries." We hear these words from sales clerks, food servers, and others after we thank them for doing their job. Also from friends, family members, and acquaintances.
What's wrong with this?
The unconscious does not recognize a negativeARTArticleWhy All the Single Ladies?"So what's the secret for a good marriage? asked my single friend, Ellen.
"Choose wisely and learn what it takes to stay happily married," I blurted out. Yet many of us first need to believe that we can succeed in marriage.ARTArticleWhy Flexible Mate Make Marriage Great"Flexibility is a sign of mental health", psychiatrist Tom Smith used to say when we were colleagues San Francisco’s Alcoholism Evaluation and Treatment Center.
I was single then and in my late twenties. The men I dated were usually flexible. They had to be, because it was usually “my way or the highway” when it came to restaurants, outings, and so on.ARTArticleWhy Your Spouse Should Be Your BFF*“Marriages are forms of super friendship,” says John F. Helliwell, Senior Fellow of the Canadian Institute for Advanced Research
Some marriages begin with love at first sight. Usually, but not always, they fail after the initial buzz wears off. Others begin with a friendship that grows into love. This kind of marriage is more likely to succeed in the long run.[1]ARTArticleWomen and Money--in Dating and MarriageWho isn’t at least a little bit weird about money, anyway? The topic seems filled with ambiguity lately, and a wealth (ahem) of possible answers.
Money is a sensitive topic for most of us--in dating and in marriage.
How Do You View Money? Early in our lives, we gain lasting ideas about money, mostly from our parents or parent figures. Although I was well provided for, I picked up, unconsciously, these unspoken messages:
• Talking about money is not okay.
• Asking for money is certainly not okay.
• It’s fine to accept money when it’s freely offered.ARTArticleWork on My Relationship! Why Bother?If your relationship is good, you shouldn't have to "work" on it, right?
Fairy tales promote the effortless happily-ever-after marriage myth when we are at an impressionable age. Later we view romantic movies and read novels with happily-ever-after endings.
Consequently, it's easy to develop unrealistic, fantasy-based expectations about marriage. Many of us spend more time maintain a car -- checking tire pressure, changing the oil, and getting the recommended inspections, and son on -than we spend on keeping our most important relationship in good working order.ARTArticleYou Parent Your Way, I'll Parent Mine!Recently while at my daughters first baseball game of the season, I was privy to a conversatio9n between two fathers. I had no idea who these fathers were or who their kids were. Just that their boys were on the same team as my daughter. Let me tell you I am not a gossiper, not a Drama Queen, not interested in drama or in anyone else’s drama. God knows I’ve had more than fair share, and swore to myself years ago that I’m not going there!ARTArticle“Independence vs. Dependence: 4 Skills You Must Learn to Have Successful Relationships Now!”In my experience as a Behavior Specialist and Licensed Clinician for over 13 years, the amount of independence or dependence you have in your relationships is often an indication of the level of your psychological and emotional health and a predictor of how successful your relationships will be with others.
It is known that we grow through certain psychological and developmental stages throughout our early childhood into adulthood.ARTArticle“Turn Stress Into Excitement: My 3 Quick Tips to Transform Your Negative Attitude & Energy into a Personal Success Economy-A.T.MEveryone is talking about “bad” times; the radio news, the TV, your friends, my coaching clients. NOT ME!
Why? Because I know that what I focus on I attract.
Now some people say to me, “Dr. Cindy, aren’t you just in denial or avoiding reality?” NO! That’s Not MY REALITY!
There’s a saying- What you believe you attract. I SAY-What you perceive (how you see the world, how you experience your environment, your world around you) you believe…so you attract just that-what you believe and perceive to be true for you!ARTArticle***3 Secret Weapons to Getting Your Husband’s AttentionDo you want your husband to be more romantic? What if you had a secret weapon to get his attention? What if you had 3 secret weapons?
Opposites attract…especially when it comes to romance and passion!
Your husband's masculine and your feminine energy complement each other. When your husband first met you he was attracted to something in you that felt feminine and different to him. It was the opposite of him. He didn't want a masculine energy mate. He wanted a feminine one. He has plenty of masculine energy friends!ARTArticle***3 Secrets to Keeping Your Wife In Love With YouFellas, here are a few facts about women that you might want to know when it comes to keeping your wife in love with you.ARTArticle***3 Ways to be Married with RomanceIt seems to me that marriages aren't working out so good. More than 50% of marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate for second marriages is even higher. This breaks my heart!
And what about the couples who decide to stay married…I wonder just how many of them are really happy together and crazy about each other?ARTArticle***7 Habits of Passionate Married CouplesDo you ever wonder what it would be like to be the married couple in the restaurant that is so into each other that you cannot take your eyes off them?
Passionate married couples have this something that almost holds you in a trance. The way they look and speak and touch each other has an easy and effortless grace and a deep underlying passion. It feels like you can touch it.
Passionate married couples...